#yes i'm asking tumblr for dating advice

[chocsra]

15! Chuuya flirting headcanons:

A/N: Hello! This is my first post on tumblr so I'm just going to put out I'm not so used to the format on tumblr at all, never posted my writing pieces. I also was originally going to include 22! Chuuya but I got lazy. So please enjoy and tell me if you'd like more of my works!

Characters: Gn! reader x 15! Chuuya

Reader works in the Port Mafia for this headcanon.

15 Chuuya:

I see 15! Chuuya as a serious person who was forced to mature at a young age. So I think he'd be pretty hesitant to flirt with you, because no.1: he has a lot of pride, he's scared of Dazai's teasing, and he's already been betrayed by The Sheep not too long ago, he doesn't want to let his guard down around anyone else.

I'd think he'd see you around the mafia here and there, but he wouldn't think much of it, don't really consider him to be a 'love at first sight' kind of person.

Instead, he'd probably get to know you whether it'll be through a mission or mafia gatherings. Either way he'd catch himself caring and thinking about you more than he should be.

So you two would have to become pretty close friends in order for him to comfortably flirt with you, not saying it won't be awkward though.

I think when he was fifteen he liked the idea of romantic dates such as fancy dinners, but teenagers don't really have the money or motivation to do something as that.

I think his way of flirting is to check up on you a lot, and being a gentleman.

Whenever you guys are out he always opens doors, offers to eat your unfinished food, asks if you're okay, etc.. if you aren't together then he's calling you to see if you've ate and/or you're okay.

You catch him staring all the time. He has that kind of awe and adoration in his eyes whenever he looks at you.

And I'm trying not to go out of character here because Chuuya is known for his brutality, especially when he was fifteen. I think he'd act arrogant and hot-headed at first, like he'd be a dick but then he realises it and becomes a little sweeter, even nicer when you guys are friends.

You are on his mind like 24/7, he will listen to music and be like: "Damn, would they like this? Should I get them an album?"

Also unconsciously follows you around when you're near. Yes, Dazai notices.

Overall, he's not a words kind of guy and would rather show his affection through actions and gestures. I don't think he'd do it on purpose though.

So like, acts of service kind of guy.

"What the hell are you doing out here without an umbrella?"

You turn your head to meet your colleague, Chuuya, who is running up to you with an umbrella in hand, which is usually concealed by the pockets of his leather jacket. It was raining pretty heavily, and you had just finished some business with the mafia; now peacefully walking home in the evening as droplets of rain fell in the tinge of your hair. The cold sensation was quickly covered by his blue umbrella, which, now that you realised it, matched the colour of his eyes. He shot you his juvenile grin, raising an eyebrow at his friend's actions.

"I forgot to bring one."

"Well, you're gonna get sick."

"No shit."

Chuuya scoffs, pulling a snicker from your throat. The comforting yet tension-filled walk pushed an awkward silence between the two of you. "Where do you plan on going?" He asks with curiosity filling his azure eyes. "Groceries. I haven't had any food left for like, 2 days." You chuckle stiffly, but a slight frown appears on Chuuya's face. "You should take more care of yourself." He suggests feigning a sigh, you raise an eyebrow at his advice. "Chill, I'm getting food now." You smile, lightly nudging his shoulder. Chuuya groans at your dismissal half-jokingly, taking a moment to stare at the awakening moon.

"I care about you, ya know? Sucks that you're a suicidal maniac like that bastard." He chuckles, then looks at you with confusion when you don't laugh; instead staring at him with a sweet look of adoration. You don't even have to say anything; you just giggle for him to realise what he's just said.

"Here, I'll go with ya—I could run some errands myself."

"Shut up." He laughs with some conviction, playfully jabbing your arm. Chuuya stares at you in awe under the moonlight, taking in your laughter. He softly smiles to himself, not wanting this moment to end.

#15 chuuya #chuuya nakahara #chuuya x reader #bsd x reader #gn! reader #idiots in love #mutual pining #flirting #bungou stray dogs #bsd chuuya

[daemonhxckergrrl]

Getting Linux-y (for Windows refugees)

a casual users' GUIDE to the basics

Linux ? isn't that for nerds ??

yes. no. we're breaking down stereotypes here !! this post is aimed at casual users who care about freedom + privacy, are sick of the direction Windows is heading, or just curious c:

i'm talking social media, email, web browsing, online shopping, pdfs, document writing, funny meme edits, youtube/netflix/plex, spotify, dvds + cds + mp3s etc.

i'll mention gaming and running specific Windows-only software briefly, but that's outside the casual scope i'm going for d:

Arm thyself ! and decipher !! arcane secrets be upon ye !!

it's key knowledge time !! ^w^

Linux isn't Windows, but it's not completely alien :o

much like Tumblr, one curates their Linux experience. there are flavours of Linux (terminology: distribution/distro) aimed at power users who like to DIY, and there's ones aimed at normal folk that are ready to go. for the sake of this GUIDE i'm recommending Linux Mint:

its interface is similar to Windows,

it's popular as a user-friendly choice

and it has both excellent support and software

(note: i ran Mint for years, and when coming back to Linux i chose it for my gaming pc because it's easy to set up and well-supported)

key information:

Linux doesn't use drive letters :o

your C: drive is / (terminology: root directory)

your personal files (C:\Users\Username) live under /home/username (terminology: home directory)

other drives (internal and USB drives) live under /mnt/drive-label or /media/username/drive-label (terminology: mount point)

Technical Note: all hard drives and SSDs, before they get a mount point, are referred to as /dev/sdX (eg /dev/sda, /dev/sdb etc.) for HDDs and SATA SSDs (partitions are /dev/sda1, /dev/sda2 etc.), and /dev/nvmeXn1 (/dev/nvme0n1, /dev/nvme1n1 etc.) for NVMe drives (partitions are /dev/nvme0n1p1, /dev/nvme0n1p2)

however, Mint manages all this for us and stuff just shows up in your File Manager much like they do in Windows Explorer c:

Software is typically managed similar to the way App Stores work; Mint has Software Manager that lets you install common programs

the only wrinkle here is Mint supports both Mint-specific sources and a thing called Flatpak, which is like a universal App Store for all Linux distros

the Update Manager keeps both your core system and your programs up-to-date. unlike Windows, by default it will only update when you tell it to ! no more rebooting into Windows Update and waiting 10 years ^w^

it's possible to have both Linux and Windows on the same laptop (terminology: dual-booting); you choose which one each time you turn your laptop on

the Linux Mint Forums are a good place to ask questions, seek advice, and maybe even offer your own !!

additional places: Official Community Website, community-maintained subreddit, community-maintained Discord Server, Official Troubleshooting Guide

i think that's the basic info taken care of.

Let's start with the preparation, or PRE-paration

for this GUIDE you'll need:

a USB drive (4GB+)

Linux Mint ISO file

Balena Etcher (to put the ISO file on the USB drive)

i recommend reading through the info on the Mint homepage and following their installation guide for good step-by-step guide w/ screenshots ^^'

we're gonna make a 'Live Image' on our USB drive - this means we can testdrive the system before we install it. try before you buy !! wait, it's free -- uhh.. walk before you run ??

Download the ISO file using the above link. i recommend the Cinnamon Edition, unless you have a very old PC, in which case pick XFCE

Download Balena Etcher

Plug in your USB drive and open Etcher

Follow the onscreen prompts to select the ISO file and your USB drive

Alright, let's fire her up ! ^u^

now we have our USB drive it's time to boot it. because Windows is, well, Windows, you may need to disable Fast Boot in order to access the BIOS/UEFI. :c you may also have to disable Secure Boot in the BIOS/UEFI depending on your computer. this is usually found in the Boot, Security, or Authentication tab.

now we're ready !!

Power on your computer and press F1/F2/F6/F10/F12/DEL to access your BIOS or Boot Menu

Select your USB drive

A screen will come up where you can select Linux Mint (or will say Automatic Boot in X seconds)

You shall be greeted by a desktop that looks something like this

have a look around !! there's a menu in the bottom left that has programs and system settings and logout/reboot/shutdown options. the taskbar at the bottom displays icons of running apps (and pinned ones). the bottom right has your clock and system tray w/ network, audio etc.

this is a great time to get a feel for how everything works ! open some programs !! investigate the System Settings. connect to your WiFi (in the system tray next to the sound and clock).

when you're ready, double-click the "Install Linux Mint" icon on the desktop. the installer will walk you through setting everything up. i recommend following the official installation guide's walkthrough as it explains everything from setting your timezone to installing Mint by itself or alongside Windows, with screenshots showing each step. it also has an important section on installing drivers. the slideshow during installation also does a good job at showcasing the available software.

Welcome Screen

after installing and rebooting, a Welcome Screen pops up that offers a nice interface for picking a system theme/colour, installing drivers, and setting up backups etc.

Let's talk software !! :D

Mint comes with some software pre-installed. these are probably the main ones:

Archive Manager (like 7-Zip or WinRAR)

Celluloid (a video player; VLC is available to install if you prefer)

Drawing (an image editor similar to Paint)

Document Viewer (PDF viewer)

Firefox (Tumblr's favourite web browser)

LibreOffice (like MS Office - it even supports MS Office file format !)

Rhythmbox (like Windows Media Player or iTunes)

Software Manager (like the Microsoft Store/App Store; GET OTHER PROGRAMS HERE !)

System Monitor (like Task Manager)

System Settings (like Control Panel)

Terminal (like Powershell/Command Prompt; outside the scope of this post but good to have)

Text Editor (like Notepad)

Timeshift (like System Restore points, or macOS Time Machine)

Web Apps (similar to an old iOS feature - make Netflix.com into an app etc.)

Update Manager (manages updates)

Available in Software Manager:

Audacity

Discord

DOSbox

Dropbox

OBS

Spotify

Transmission (torrent client)

VLC

and much more ! these are all official apps !

How's that checklist ?

i mentioned some casual tasks at the start of this post. let's work through them !

Social Media, Online Shopping, Youtube/Netflix/Plex and general Web Browsing

Difficulty: easy Windows Similarity: identical Method: open Firefox. browse to your_site.com. note: i recommend the web version of Plex as the app can be buggy

Email

Difficulty: easy (webmail), medium (mail client) Windows Similarity: identical (webmail) or similar (mail client) Method: webmail - open Firefox. browse to your_email_site.com. sign in client - open Software Manager. search for Geary (similar to Mac Mail), Evolution (similar to Outlook), or Thunderbird (same as on Windows). click Install. open Geary/Evolution/Thunderbird, follow the first-time setup.

PDFs

Difficulty: easy Windows Similarity: similar Method: open Document Viewer from the application menu. File -> Open, browse for your PDF. OR, open File Browser, browse for your PDF, double-click to open

Document Writing

Difficulty: easy Windows Similarity: similar Method: open LibreOffice Writer from the application menu. on first launch it may ask if you want a traditional (Office 2003) or Ribbon (Office 2007 onwards) layout. use it as you would MS Word. there's also Calc (Excel), Impress (Powerpoint), Draw (Publisher) and Base (Access)

Funny Meme Edits (aka MS Paint level of image editing)

Difficulty: medium Windows Similarity: similar Method: open Drawing from the application menu. File -> Open for your image. the left toolbar provides options to resize, add text, crop etc. pro tip: remember to click the tick button on the bottom right when you do anything !

Spotify

Difficulty: easy Windows Similarity: identical Method: open Software Manager, search for Spotify, click Install. then open it from the application menu.

DVDs

Difficulty: easy Windows Similarity: similar Method: insert your DVD. Mint may ask what you want to do (choose play/open with Celluloid). if it doesn't, then open Celluloid from the application menu, click the + icon in the top left, click "Open Disc" and choose the DVD you inserted.

CDs and MP3s

Difficulty: easy Windows Similarity: similar Method: CDs - insert your CD. Mint may ask what you want to do (choose play/open with Rhythmbox). if it doesn't, then open Rhythmbox from the application menu. it should automatically see your CD. MP3s - double-click your MP3 file.

Gaming and Windows-only programs

i said i'd briefly mention this (probably good bc the post is getting loonnggggggg), so here we go.

gaming on Linux has come a long way. Steam can be installed from Software Manager and supports a few titles natively, as well as the option to run some Windows-only games using compatibility software called Proton. the website ProtonDB is very handy for looking up compatibility for specific games. i'll drop a proper GUIDE on Linux gaming another time.

Windows-only programs. sometimes you need specific software and it only has a Windows version. it happens. there's similar compatibility software that allows eg Photoshop to run, called WINE (Proton is actually based on this). again, this is outside the casual scope of this post, but i'll drop a GUIDE on this too (as i use the same software to manage both my Windows-only programs and my Windows-only games).

Finale !! FINI !! Fuck me that's a lotta words !!

okay, we got to the end ! you should have Linux Mint installed, you should have your basic programs ready to rock (and know where to get more !!), and know where to get help from official Linux Mint sources as well as community-run ones <3

please drop any questions in the notes, or as an ask. i shall tag those asks #DATA_REQUESTS/GUIDES/LINUX in addition to my usual #DATA_REQUEST tag

i'll also provide the following GUIDEs/REPOs as i have time:

Flatpak (that universal App Store i mentioned earlier)

Gaming (including using Proton + Bottles for Windows games)

Windows software (using WINE + Bottles)

and if there are any specific GUIDEs (eg terminal basics, how to configure xyz in System Settings etc.) or REPOs (eg links to other people's GUIDEs, software recs, screenshot galleries etc.) i'm happy to provide those as and when i have the time !! have fun !!~

#daemon.md #GUIDES #GUIDES/LINUX #linux mint #linux #free software #foss #open source #this post is like 5x the length i expected it to be bc brevity ain't my style #oopsie #i know i should provide more screenshots but i'm tired after writing this #so i'll include some in a reblog ??

[blue-howlite]

Being their significant other, Pandora Hearts and Vanitas no Carte edition

Featuring Vanitas, Gilbert, Xerxes and Oswald.

Type: mostly fluff, a bit of angst though.

Warnings: spoilers for Pandora Hearts of course, men that need some therapy but they don't have it in their time period, mentions of hickeys and biting on Vanitas' part because he is a masochist, Oswald part is pretty sad but that's fine if you love him you love crying. Also writer that is bad at writing.

Yn = Your name

Author note: I wrote this because my best friend is having a rough time recently, so I thought I'd cheer her up with some headcanons that I will show her through screenshots because I can't allow anyone to find my Tumblr, it's bad enough my sister has it. Normal people encourage eachother, I give xReader content.

Vanitas

You're a real masochist to fall for him. But he's one too so...

He has commitment and attachment issues, how did you manage to get in a relationship with him? No seriously, how the fu-

On a second thought I'm not sure I want to know, but you did it and that's what matters.

You read it right. You did it.

Because I refuse to believe he would take the first step into seriously committing to something aside from his goal. But he can't really say no if you're the one bringing it up, you know what you're getting into after all.

What comes next?

Oh right, dating!

He knows the basics on how to act like he cares, the problem comes when he actually cares. He doesn't really know what to do with himself so he tries to go along with the traditional ways, but probably ends up with impostor syndrome because come on it's Vanitas we're talking about.

Please reassure him it's alright and that you are willing to talk about it.

Aside from this initial problems.

He isn't a cuddler. He doesn't really get what the point of cuddling is.

But please hold him when he's sleeping or resting.

He's the "I'm a knife!" person but he is actually the little spoon.

He likes nuzzling his face against your neck. Also he's like a cat, once he is resting on top of you you're obliged to stay still until he gets up.

Also bite him. Give him hickeys on his neck. It's alright if you hurt him, he likes it.

He'll probably bite you back.

Not big on pet names, maybe the classic "darling" here and there, but mostly he prefers to use your name.

Jealous? Him? The man that can't believe someone would love him? Yes dear, he is.

But he isn't possessive. He hates himself so much that even though he gets jealous as fuck he won't act on it. Maybe he'll sulk in a corner or press his face against your chest, kinda unaware he looks a bit possessive. Or is he?

He's a complicated guy and a relationship with him would require one hell of a effort.

Because he is a fucking rat (as in small and looks like he just came out of a sewer and doesn't really know what is going on but is just filled with chaotic energy).

But he is your rat.

And he loves you.

Little bonus: Vanitas is a package deal, if you get with him you also get his """family""" that will do everything in their power to protect you because they either want Vanitas to be happy (Roland and Noè) or they're worried as to what could Vanitas do if something ever happened to you (the Damps, also Roland and Noè).

Gilbert

He took the initiative to confess.

I mean, he tried.

No but I swear he wanted to say it first.

He just got really flustered and started stuttering and not making much sense.

But you got the message.

He doesn't know a thing about dating though. Please stop him from asking advice to Oz or Xerxes because those little shits (affectionately) will do everything they can to make fun of him.

It will be fun though because he will experiment a bit to understand what he likes and what he doesn't.

He likes cuddles (of course he does, such a touch starved mf).

He loves it when you play with his hair. Just laying down, his head on your lap and your hands in his hair. He can and will fall asleep like that.

Likes to hold you at night. Maybe is the fear of abandonment, but he really needs to feel you in some way when falling asleep and waking up. Even just having your hands touching is fine, but holding you is the best.

Really flustered if you give him hickeys. Will hide them out of embarrassment, also because Oz and Xerxes won't stop teasing him about them.

Gets jealous easily, and once you're in a relationship he will get mildly possessive.

When out together he will hold you hand and always stay by your side. If someone flirts with you Gil will give them a death glare and keep an arm around your waist, then ask you if that person is bothering you.

And will call you by pet names. He prefers your name, but when he feels like he should clarify your relationship status with others he'll call you "dear", "darling", maybe even "love". But he will get flustered about it afterwards, please don't tease him about it. Or do it, your choice.

He's just a bit insecure but he really loves you and wants things with you to work out, so he will put a big effort in this too.

Little bonus: with him, you also gain an enemy/friend, which is Vincent. He either adores you because you care for his big brother and love him, or he hates you because you're taking his big brother from him. Probably swings between the two, depending on the situation and his mood. He won't harm you though, he doesn't want to hurt Gilbert's feelings.

Xerxes

Oh dear you're in for a treat.

Yeah no he tells you right away that he likes you. Probably starts by joking around with you until he can't take it anymore and confesses in the most serious way possible for him.

He leads you through it. Does he have a lot of experience? Not really, but he can guess how things work and he learns quickly and so he takes the initiative in most of the fields.

Pet him. Like whenever he does something good just tell him "Well done" and give him head pats. He loves it and will come looking for you whenever he comes back from a mission or he does some paperwork just for the praises. It's not that he is touch starved and insecure (not as much as you might think because of this behaviour at least) but he likes this kind of "games" with you, where he plays the innocent and cute puppy.

Which he is not.

He kisses you a lot, especially when in public, just to make you flustered. Also teases you about everything.

If you have to walk somewhere together he'll just grab your arm or hand and run, dragging you with him. This mf (affectionately).

Gets easily jealous. Like very easily. If he catches you talking to other members of Pandora for too long he'll throw himself at you (like literally he'll jump at you and grab you like a baby koala) and ask if you still love him loud and clear in front of whoever you were talking to. He knows you do btw. He just likes the drama. Bonus if you're too small or weak to hold him up and so you both fall to the ground, he will keep you on top of him though so you don't get hurt.

He loves weird, unusual or very very sweet pet names in public. You see, half of the fun of this relationship with him is he teasing and annoying you. He will call you "Pudding" during a Pandora meeting, just know he will.

But when you two are alone he kinda melts. You know he wants some real quality time together when he starts calling you by your name.

Overall he's a menace. But... he is your menace (yes that is something he said more than once when anyone mentioned your relationship with him).

Oswald

Oh hell what the actual fuck.

I'm sorry.

He is a good guy don't get me wrong, but he is really focused on his work and his role.

He won't initiate a relationship with you unless you're very insisting. He knows that once he becomes "Glen" he might change and is afraid of hurting your feelings.

But let's be honest Lacie would totally be your wingman, she loves her brother and wants someone who loves him to look after him once she's sent to the Abyss.

So your relationship starts, and let me tell you this is an angsty one.

Because he cherishes every moment he has with you as himself.

He is very intense in every part of your relationship and every moment spent with him becomes a precious memory to the both of you.

He might not be very cuddly, but if you run your fingers through his hair... that might become one of his favourite things.

You can do it randomly during the day he's not shy.

Also he doesn't get jealous, ever. If you're willing to stay with him even though he is supposed to become the next Glen he figured that other people have zero chances with you.

Possessive? Not really either. The most possessive thing he might do is kissing you on the cheek when he greets you in front of others, and even then it's more about showing his love to you rather than showing others that you're his.

Not really a fan of pet names honestly. He likes your name. He might occasionally call you "love", but that's pretty much it. It's understandable for him to prefer people's actual names though :')

After becoming Glen and Lacie's death he will become more distant. Just know that. Everyone copes with pain on different ways, that's how he copes with his. But if you keep staying by his side he'll just warm up to you again, and this time he won't leave your side. Not intentionally that is.

Yes this relationship is the type that will leave you in tears but in the end it was worth it all and you both know it.

#Vanitas #Vanitas no carte #Vanitas x reader #Gilbert Nightray #Gilbert Nightray x reader #Xerxes Break #Xerxes Break x reader #Oswald Baskerville #Oswald Baskerville x reader #Pandora Hearts #Pandora Hearts x reader #Headcanons #I tried #Also none of this men is completely mentally stable and we're here for it

[clusterbuck]

I was wondering if you or your mutuals have any advice on how to improve my level of media literacy? I don't even know if that's the right term for what I mean. I seem to consume TV shows or books or films at a very surface level compared to others. I just accept all the dialogues and events at face-value, and don't realise the subtext or patterns unless they are really obvious. I then go on social media and read other people's interpretations and think "oh I see yeah that makes sense". But I wish I could do this type of analysis myself. Is there some course or something I can take? I've been steadily increasing the amount of literature/media I consume of the past couple of years but I haven't noticed any improvement in the way I'm engaging with them, so it doesn't seem like "it'll come with time and practice", I feel I need to take some active steps to learn...

hi! i will freely admit to consulting with @hattalove on this one bc she has two literature degrees and i feel like i mostly learned by being forced to write seven thousand compare & contrast essays in high school

but here are some things we came up with:

there's a lot of good videos on literary analysis on youtube, if you're interested in specifically the theory part

kris also recommended a book called how to read literature like a professor by thomas foster, which i will also be checking out bc it looks very interesting and once again i mostly osmosed through all the comparing and contrasting

theory will help you identify and name things you might already have noticed, but not been able to conceptualise

e.g. with this particular episode, knowing about the concept of an unreliable narrator makes it easier to read buck as one

similarly with the eddie/pepa talk in the previous one & dramatic irony

and once you have the concepts, you can start looking for them in the things you read. start with something you've read many times, something you love, and try to think about how it works.

start asking why: why did this character do this? why did the author tell me this detail?

what is the function? is it moving the plot along? developing a character? developing a theme? is it foreshadowing?

why did 6x13 show us buck together with eddie and chris so much? so that in 6x14 we'd know that something is up when eddie and pepa talk about eddie being alone.

why did eddie say that dating victims never works out when buck brings up natalia at marie's grave? to signal that natalia is only a detour on buck's journey, not the destination.

and yes, we've all seen the tumblr post about how sometimes the curtains are blue just because they author likes the colour blue. and sometimes they are! but sometimes the fact that they're blue might mean something

lit analysis (& by extension tv/film analysis) is essentially about drawing connections between things and (importantly!) backing up those connections with things from the text

and most of the time, there's no one right answer. most of the time, things can be read in several ways. so even if someone has one interpretation, if you can show receipts (so to speak) you can have a different interpretation, and neither of you is more or less correct.

speaking of interpretation -- this is only my view (with input from kris), and if anyone else has other tips or tricks please chime in!

#ask emma #911 spoilers

[btsgotjams27]

All Grown Up ~ JJK | 16

✨ title: all grown up | series (completed) ✨ pairing: jungkook x f!reader | ✨ rating: R/18+ ~ minors dni ✨ genre/au: romance, fluff, angst, friends-to-lovers, humor, banter, smut, age gap, best friends little brother ✨ author's notes: I won't be updating this series on Tumblr. Please continue this series on AO3 or Wattpad. Links below. This fic is inspired by the k-drama, Something in the Rain. ✨ author's notes 2: okay, so i do plan on editing the rest of this series! i just don't know when it'll be done.

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✨ chapter sixteen ~ you deserve everything and more | wc: 1.4k

The rehearsal dinner was a success. You were relieved that that part was over, but the wedding was only in the next few weeks. Then the real festivities would really begin. This was only a tiny piece of the bigger puzzle.

You began to clear out the décor sitting on the table and put them back in their boxes as someone approached you from behind.

"Hey," a voice chimed in.

You gazed up at the tall, handsome man with a soft smile. "Hey, Jin." He really did look dashing in a suit and tie.

Jin crossed his arms, leaning against the table. "I loved your speech, but I'm slightly offended that I didn't get asked to do one."

Along with Yuna and Namjoon's parents, you were the only one to give a speech. You laughed at his remark. He was a jokester, wasn't he? Imagine if you'd gone out on that date with Jin instead of going home with Jungkook.

"I'm sure they wanted to save your speech for the wedding reception. I think it'd make more of an impact," you chuckled, shaking your head.

"Ah–you're probably right. That's better for me so I can charm more people," he grinned, sending a wink. He uncrossed his arms, holding his weight on the table.

You stopped to look at him. "Are you always like this?"

Jin nodded. "Yes."

You continued cleaning, and Jin helped by picking up some things.

"So...how are things with you and Jungkook?" The handsome man was intrigued by your relationship with his young friend. He'd only known Jungkook for a short period, but he grew to care for him like his brother. Jin could tell Jungkook was utterly head over heels for you. The constant pouting and groaning at work was a good indicator of his broken heart.

"Oh--um, I don't know. I haven't spoken to him for a few weeks now." You weren't lying, minus the short conversation from earlier tonight. You had kept your distance for fear of your feelings growing deeper if Jungkook became more persistent.

"I see. You should talk to him. I'd hate to see you guys not have a chance to try and work things out."

You didn't know Jin well, but you were surprised by his sudden advice. You wondered if Jungkook persuaded him to say something to you. 

"That's sweet of you, but I don't know if things will work out between us." You'd thought long and hard about the two of you. The nine-year age gap, especially with an older woman pursuing a younger man, wasn't unheard of, but it certainly wasn't common. Your mind swirled at the thought of judgmental stares and whispers. You didn't think you could handle it.

He came over and handed you a handful of clothed napkins that he was collecting. "He's not a man of many words, but he loves his job and food and you more."

After most family and friends left, you hoped Jungkook was still around. You were searching for him and bumped into Yuna.

"Hey. Are you leaving?"

"Yeah, I'm heading back with Joon."

"Okay. Have a good night," you said as you were ready to return in the other direction to find Jungkook.

The two of you had little interaction since dinner tonight. She and Namjoon were busy mingling with the crowd while you were running around like a chicken with your head cut off to ensure everything would go smoothly.

"Y/n--wait."

You stopped in your tracks, turning back around. "Yeah? What's up?"

Yuna tucked a stray hair behind her ear. Nervously, she said, "I, um, just wanted to say thank you for tonight and thank you for the speech. I know it was last minute, and I put you on the spot."

"Oh--it's fine. It was easy to whip something up about you and Namjoon. I just spoke from the heart." You loved watching your best friend fall in love. She and Namjoon were perfect together - cheesy to say, but they really did complete each other.

"...um, have you and Jungkookie decided what you guys are?"

After Namjoon knocked some sense into her, Yuna felt terrible about how she handled everything with you and Jungkook. She was too hasty and rash. She wasn’t thinking about you and everything you were going through. She was only thinking of her baby brother. So, she hoped that the two of you would work things out.

"It's been a while since I've spoken to him, but I told him I couldn't be with him because I respect our friendship and love you too much."

Yuna inched closer and took your hands in hers. "Y/n, I love you, but I can see how much this is hurting the two of you, and I can't bear seeing you guys like this. I'm sorry I overreacted and was a bitch about everything but you two deserve to see if this is worth fighting for.”

"That's what I'm scared of, Yuna. What if it doesn't work out? What if all of this was for nothing? What if I'm not everything he thought I was? What if I break his heart again?"

Your mind would always wander off to the worst possible scenarios. You had already broken Jungkook’s heart, and if the two of you tried to date and it didn’t work out? Then you’d lose both Yuna and Jungkook.

"Y/n, stop talking yourself out of it. You won't know unless you try."

"I love you. You're my best friend. I never wanted to come between you and Jungkook. I'm sorry I put you in a difficult position. I should have talked to you about it first. I was scared because I didn't know how you'd feel about us. And honestly, I'm still scared. I don't want to disappoint you or him."

"You could never disappoint me."

You looked over her shoulder as he approached you. "Jungkook…"

"I'll leave you guys. Bye." She pulled you in for a hug and whispered, "Go get 'em, tiger."

You smiled as you pulled back. Jungkook stood there with his eyes twinkling in the moonlight, his hair swooped perfectly to the side of his face, and a grin slowly spreading from ear to ear.

"Hi,” you uttered with a sheepish smile.

"Hi."

"Don't be so sure that I can't disappoint you. I think I've done that plenty recently.” You weren’t sure how many chances you’d get before you struck out.

He shook his head no and took a step closer to you. "Mm, I think you just needed some time away from us to figure out some things. Do I wish you would have kept me in the loop? Yes, but I understand."

"I don't deserve someone like you."

His hands reached to caress your cheeks, and you leaned into them. It had been so long since you'd felt his touch. You closed your eyes, savoring this sweet moment.

"Y/n, you deserve everything and more."

You softly chuckled and smiled. "You're too good to me."

Jungkook grinned. "I know."

"Never mind. I'll take it back."

"No takebacks!"

"I'm leaving then."

"That's too bad because I'm never letting you go. You're stuck with me forever."

"Forever, huh?"

He smiled and nodded. "That's if you want to."

"I guess if I'm stuck with you forever, then I should have some fun."

His eyes perked up when he heard you. "What kind of fun? Like fun, fun ?" he smirked.

"Oh god, Kook, that's the first thing you think about?"

"That's all I've been thinking about. Do you know how goddamn sexy you are?"

You rolled your eyes.

"What? And you haven't?"

"Um, I may have thought about it on occasion." You may have rubbed one out every night since he’s last touched you. He was too goddamn sexy not to think about his hands roaming all over you.

" Ohh --I see. So, should we do something about it?"

You were trying to push him away playfully, but he pulled you in closer, smiling as he locked his lips with yours. At this moment, you didn't care who was still around or who could see the two of you. You were with the one you wanted, the one you needed - encapsulated and enchanted with each other's presence. You never wanted to let go of him. Who would have thought you and your best friend's little brother?

✨ previous chapter ~ it'll never be the same

✨ next ~ epilogue

#jungkook fanfic #jungkook fic #bts fanfic #bts fic #jungkook #jeon jungkook #bts #jungkook x noona #jungkook x y/n #jungkook x you #jungkook x reader #jungkook romance #jungkook smut #bts x you #bts x reader #bts x y/n #fic: all grown up

[fans4wga]

Hi, I'm interested in organizing my fandom. Can you throw me some templates?

Absolutely yes! Some things have changed in recent weeks, so the top advice we can give you is to be flexible and adapt as you can. The needs of the picketers might change, so keep an eye on the news and the official WGA and SAG-AFTRA channels. Twitter is a good place to follow the union members on strike.

Also, don't feel the need to rush: there is plenty of time to build up a good foundation by talking to people in your fandom and testing the waters to see what people are prepared to do. Some fandoms just have more financial capability than others for whatever demographic reasons, or have more pro-union sentiment in the community. While you can't push anyone to do anything they're unwilling to do, you can find out what's possible and encourage interested people to get involved.

The next best advice we can give you is that this will require logistical skills; therefore, if possible, collect a small moderator team of trusted, responsible fandom friends with organization skills so it's not just you going at it alone. 3 people is probably adequate to start with, more if your organization expands.

I do recommend fandom organizers be at least somewhat active on both Twitter and Tumblr. That way, you can size up the big fandom accounts and figure out the best way to get the word out to your fandom on both sites. (If you have a mod team, you could even just have one person be your official Twitter liaison.)

Here are 3 methods to organize your fandom, and this applies to any fandom, so feel free to share this to whatever fandom group you want to get organized. Pick whichever method seems most feasible for your fandom, and go for it!

Method 1: Mod team assigns volunteers to shifts

Pros: very grassroots and non-hierarchical, can lead to the most consistent fandom support across time

Con: hardest to wrangle, and potentially more difficult for the shift-by-shift volunteers especially if individuals are difficult to reach online

Examples: The Star Trek Snack Squad, the OFMD Snackery

Claire Willett @/clairewillett on Twitter started the Star Trek Snack Squad back in the early days of the strike to get Star Trek fans organized. That's still a solid template to use, but will definitely require modifications. Link here (please make a copy to your own Google account/a throwaway if you'll be making it public and want to protect your identity)

How it works:

-You, the moderator, pick a specific picket location (all locations listed here) to target for delivery. (Since Stranger Things is a Netflix show, targeting Netflix makes sense; however, Netflix is already a very popular target location so maybe the other locations could use some love? I'll leave that to your discretion!)

-Moderators put out a call for volunteers. Make graphics, create a hashtag or catchy name, and get it boosted across the fandom as much as possible. Volunteers will then sign up (via an ask or a Google form, up to you—just make sure you keep track of who's volunteered and their Tumblr or Twitter username that must be open to DMs so people can talk to other people in their group.)

-Moderators organize 3-5 volunteers to a shift (morning or afternoon) on a specific date. It is then up to these volunteers to get talking and for one member to place a DoorDash/UberEats snacks/drinks order for delivery to the picket lines by pooling whatever money they can via Venmo or Paypal (the only international option). From $5 to $50, anything helps: it could be a case of Lacroix, it could be a whole meal for picketers. More instructions and ideas in the template.

-The template can be updated with new shifts until you run out of volunteers.

-If this method is a little overwhelming, fear not, there are other options!

Method 2: Single fundraiser on GoFundMe or PayPal Pools

Pros: Single place for money to go, very easy to set up and organize

Cons: Runs out of steam the fastest as a large monetary goal can seem daunting; money all goes to one place so there has to be a lot of transparency from the fundraiser.

Examples: Julie and the Phantoms hot dogs fundraiser, Lord of the Rings second breakfast (from SAG-AFTRA member Chelsea Schwartz's Ko-Fi); Our Flag Means Strike Paypal pool.

This is your basic fundraiser, which means the mods will have to decide how exactly the money will be used and how to have as much transparency as possible. Sometimes you're fundraising for a specific goal (taco truck at Amazon Studios, for instance). Sometimes you're pooling money to give to the Entertainment Community Fund. If you're looking for food truck options and don't know where to start, you can always reach out to people who have done the OFMD pooling here! From what I've seen, a food truck will generally cost around $3000 for a day, so plan accordingly.

[One possible fundraiser I haven't seen but would love to see is fandoms giving support to the Green Envelope Grocery Fund, which gives out $100 to people affected by the strikes specifically for groceries! So that's definitely an option as well.]

Method 3: Fandom auction for donations

If you're in a fandom that has any big-name writers/artists willing to chip in, you could organize an auction for commissions, with the proceeds going to the Entertainment Community Fund, the Green Envelope Grocery Fund or another WGA/SAG-AFTRA-related fund. As with the above, you'd need to be transparent as to where the money is going.

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A final note: Organizing any kind of action from scratch is hard, but thankfully people have walked this road before. You can always contact us, or the people at any of the above linked groups, with questions or advice.

It may also be helpful to remember that lots of people have done this before successfully. During the 2007-08 writers strike, the Battlestar Galactica and Whedonverse fandoms were instrumental in showing fan support for the WGA strike. (More on that here!)

Best of luck and feel free to shoot us any more organizing questions! Solidarity always.

#sag-aftra strike #fans4wga #wga strike #writers strike

[hearts4robs]

Ahh thank you! I love match-ups! Can I ask for a Marauders Era male match pls

General info: Female. 24. Asexual. Irish. Brunette.Blue eyes.152cm. No piercings. No tattoos (although I'm half reluctantly saving for a big one to cover my thigh because I'd rather see some cool artwork than the stupid scars that I made 🙃)

Fav tropes: Angst. Bffs to lovers. Idiots in love. Secretly pining. Hurt/comfort. Misunderstandings.

Ideal type: A fictional man lol

Personality: INFJ. Reserved. Reclusive to an extent and I'm not sure if that's just my nature or if it's cuz of the former years of mental illness just socially stunted me 🙃 or smth. Optimist by choice (negativity comes natural to me so I always make myself look to the bright side of situations and people). Turn the other cheek is my motto in fact I am rather a pushover and find it very hard to say no to people. Will take the path of least resistance and do my best to keep the peace. Often become the mediator of family/friend disagreements. I love fall/winter, November is my fav month and I'm legit sad that it won't be back again for a whole year :( Hobbies include listening to music (love all music but the blues hit the best), embroidery, attempting to make my own clothes but its difficult, evening walks alone, reading (mostly Agatha Christie, Donna Tartt and H.G Wells, I love gothic fiction), watching TV, reading fics on Tumblr, shopping. I'm a tea drinker because caffeine doesn't mix well with me it amps up the heebie jeebies, plus spearmint tea is quite soothing

Ideal date: a casual comfortable tea date. Or getting take out drinks from a cafe and visiting the flea market or vintage stores and just wandering about. If its not a first date then movie or boardgame night. Or a like a book club date where just the two of you swap copies of your fav books all highlighted and annotated and talk about it. The best date ever would be a day trip on the British Pullman, authentic 1920s train carriage, everyone formally dressed in vintage attire, multiple course meal while journeying through the English countryside in a private carriage, then visiting the Canterbury Christmas Carols or old castle ruins or Oxford, bonus points if the trip is in November

𝐑𝐞𝐦𝐮𝐬 𝐋𝐮𝐩𝐢𝐧: 𝐅𝐮𝐜𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐀𝐦𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐧𝐬

“Babe,” you say, unwrapping the crackling paper around the cinnamon roll in your hand. “Did you know that the Americans heat up their tea water in their microwave?”

Remus’ eyes flicker to your face, then back to the mugs in front of him while he stirred the tea spoon around.

“You’re kidding?” Remus mutters, eyebrows knitted together as he taps the spoon on the edge of the mug, making sure it doesn’t drip on the carpet as he put it down on a napkin.

“I’m not kidding, I saw it once.” You insist before taking a bite of the cinnamon roll. “I swear!” You continue, mouth now full of tasty, spongy cinnamon roll.

“Fucking American’s.” Remus mutters in disapproval, fighting a smile as he sips his tea, leaning back against the foot of his bed.

You snort out a chuckle as you grab the mug Remus had prepared for you, washing down the tasty dessert with tea. “Ye don’t say.”

Headcanons:

Remus has a small embroidery kit in his bag, just in case you get bored or need a distraction from anything.

On the first date, Remus took you with him to a book shop in mid November. You shared a scarf, a thermal mug filled with tea and browsed books for hours. Now it’s a monthly thing. (Happens at least twice in November, just because he knows about you and November).

Remus asked James for relationship advice at first and it set back the relationship by a fucking month because Remus didn’t know how to execute whatever James wanted him to do.

Remus gets really dry lips in the winter, and when you insisted on buying him vaseline, he felt so offended he got all sassy about it.

I promise i don’t hate Americans, I just don’t get why you guys don’t just use a kettle?😭🙏

#★ robins events ★ #★ robins match up event! ★ #remus lupin #remus lupin x reader #marauders x reader

[antiendovents]

This is more asking for advice than a vent but it's a bit of a vent too. It's really long and I'm so sorry but there's important context and we are also physically incapable of not being long winded. No TW i can think of beyond vague mentions of trauma

TL;DR: A friend claims to be an endogenic system and came out to our friend group first, leaving me to clean up the misinformation mess while navigating the minefield that is them being the more liked friend, while avoiding sounding like a fake claiming asshole. Help

About a year ago we decided to come out to our close friend circle. When we came out to one of our friends, they came out to us back. As endogenic. We were really excited for those few seconds before they revealed they were endogenic, and we didn't say anything then because we genuinely had no idea what to say. The fawning kicked in and for several months we were really trying to be accepting of them being endogenic, but we really can't. After further conversations "one" on "one" with them we've discovered they have a deep level of misinformation that I am not sure how to deal with. I can't just cut them off because we're in a group chat together with several of our other friends who I am almost certain like them more than us.

I can almost guarantee that they have infested the rest of the group with misinformation about a disorder I spent half a year having regular breakdowns about having and what that means for us and our childhood. Realizing what we went through was traumatic, that our mother was genuinely insidiously abusive instead of just kind of mean and crazy, was genuinely one of, if not the hardest, thing we've been through to date. Realizing the memory issues were more than just ADHD and silly brainTM, that the gender fluid stuff was alters, all of it was excruciating. But we made it through the other side. We cut contact with our abusive mother, we have an extremely loving and patient and kind partner that held us while we cried about syscovery and hold us now when we have breakdowns about various other things. We had already done a lot of research on DID before even considered the possibility we could have it for a project in high school, and later when we started really needing to figure out wtf was wrong it was that basis of research that lead us to do further research on it to discover that yes, we have this, and yes, that means we were deeply betrayed by the people who we're supposed to protect us and keep us safe and loved.

This friend who came out has referred to alters as being "dead" or "killed", and they split pretty much the entire cast of Hazbin Hotel immediately after watching it, as well as a different media that I'm not going to say cause it's mildly niche and while I know they don't follow this blog I don't want to risk it. I don't want to fake claim them over this, as many CDD systems have very low split tolerances, are fictive heavy, etc., but on top of them identifying as endogenic and clearly not having done any research beyond TikTok and Tumblr, I just don't know. They have however, mentioned things like amnesia and trauma holders, which indicates to me they are in fact traumatized, likely even more than we are due to the low split tolerance (if they truly are a system), and a traumagenic system, but the endogenic community sunk their grimy predatory claws in and made it impossible for them to come to terms with it.

We really desperately want to correct the misinformation I know has been spread among the group, but more than that I need the friend to accept that endogenic plurality doesn't exist, and that if they are a system, it's traumagenic. I do however, know how difficult it was for us to come to terms with our own trauma, and do t really want to subject another person to that. If we had discovered endogenic plurality before coming to terms with our disorder we likely would have buried our heads in the sand as well, which would have inevitably made it so much worse when we did inevitably have to face our trauma.

I am not super worried about destabilizing them as they have stated they're in therapy with a therapist that recognizes their plurality (though a therapist that accepts endogenic systems as real is just as bad to me as a therapist who doesnt see DID as real at all imo), though that is still a concern. We aren't super close with this friend ourselves, but several people in the group are. I'm mainly worried about losing them or them thinking I'm "fake claiming" them when I got to correct the misinformation.

Anyway, the point of this ask that has taken away too long to get to, is how does one go about both informing a friend (gently and kindly they are genuinely a nice person) that they have trauma, that their system was formed by trauma, and that you really can't be a system without it? How does one go about informing the rest of their friends about the reality of this disorder when you fumbled the first coming out and didn't really make it explicit enough you have DID and not just blorbos in your head cause it's fun? What the hell do I do how do I fix this? This has genuinely been causing a lot of stress and I can't say anything on our blog because they asked for our Tumblr and we gave it when we shouldn't have and now we can't talk about this on there.

Any help or advice would be amazing, whether that's for informing the friend, or the group as a whole. Thank you so much in advance, and thank you for having this space as well. -🦝🧥

i think maybe you should start a conversation with them, try to explain to them first that DID/OSDD is a trauma disorder (if necessary you could try link a few sources or maybe even recommend they look into the sources themselves about it) and once you explain to them you can hopefully explain to the group together that your friend was misinformed and maybe link them some sources too. if you're struggling to find sources here are a few : 01 , 02 , 03 , 04 . they might not be the best but i hope they help and i hope everything goes well. it's not easy to tell a friend they're wrong about something, but sometimes its important to do so, both for you and for them.

#im sorry this took so long anon #i wasn't sure what to say and i'm still not sure if this is a good response #but i wish you luck #anti endo #did #did system #endos dni #plural #alters #actually did #endos fuck off #system #did osdd

[paula-of-christ]

Why You Should Take Dating Advice Unseriously

I decided to go look and see what a former tumblr user is up to, who was rather infamous so I will not be saying who, and I'm astounded at the relationship advice they were giving out. Someone who has presumably not dated for over a decade, because they are married and have children older than that, giving advice to women that amounts to "radfem" hatred of men. As Catholics we ought to love all of our brothers in Christ, even if they can only afford "cheap" first dates, like coffee or drinks. I'm not sure the poster has been out to have drinks lately, but alcoholic drinks (and the food that generally goes with them) are not cheap. And is a good, casual place to go to so long as you 1) do not drink more than what is appropriate and 2) are in a well populated area. For safety reasons this should be adhered to on the first 5 or 6 dates. But even then, a coffee date which can turn into a walk in the park, is a great first date. Why should a man have to spend an exuberant amount of money on a first date, for someone he may not like, or for someone who may not like him?

The post was just so degrading to men as well as women. Saying women who pay for dating sites were just desperate and asking to be taken advantage of monetarily by men. And that men who cannot afford a subscription to a dating service that allows him to message someone back or allow the other person to see their message right away, are just too poor to date.

It boggles my mind because this is not how dating websites work. By and large, to be able to send and receive messages without waiting to open them, BOTH people must have a subscription. That's just how it works.

And even if for some reason only one person needs a subscription to view the message, you still won't be able to message them back. You might be able to send an emoji or react to their message, but actually having a conversation is impossible. So, how are you meant to meet this person? You don't put contact information into your biography or your profile. And if a man provides his contact information, this poster says that you should not be the first to message as a woman. So you are completely left to look at men whom you have no idea how to contact, and that you may not even be interested in. Since the advice in showing men how you are interested, is simply going to their profile, since dating sites will tell them that you looked at their profile. However, when I was on the market, I could not tell you how many men I wasn't interested in after seeing their profile, because of not having similar hobbies, or they didn't fully agree with Catholic Teaching, or because a different photo made me realize I wasn't attracted to someone. Many men, with the idea that I looked at their profile so I must be interested, messaged me, but I wasn't interested in them, so it was a waste for them to do so. This means it can take many months or even years for someone to find a person to even go on one date with, let alone to marry.

My point being, having a shallow view of men - that is, that they are not worth the time of day if they won't spend hundreds of dollars on a dating site every year, and in fact are stingy or cheap for not doing so - as well as a shallow view of women - that being sure of yourself and what you want and being direct about it - is not what we are meant to do. Yes, a man ought to pursue a woman, and continue doing so even after they have entered a relationship or marriage. But, a woman ought to equally pursue and show her significant other that she is interested in him. It will look different, but it is not wrong to have a crush on someone, and wish to further your relationship with them.

If you have the money and you feel it is worth the money, by all means, pay for that subscription. When I was dating it was not worth it, especially since I found my husband in person, and he is a man who does not use social media. But, there are plenty of good, solid men out there, that will respect you, earn a good living, and will not waste money paying an astronomical amount of money for dating sites, when they do not have a good track record.

#catholic #catholicism #christian #christianity #traditional catholic #traditional catholicism #tradcat #tradcatholic #dating advice #lifeadvice #tradcatholicism #traditionalcatholic #traditionalcatholicism #queue me up (queue me up inside) can't queue up (queue me up inside) queue meeeee

[gotham-ruaidh]

" I can count, William went on, through his teeth. You lay with her just before her wedding. Or was it just after?"

That went home; Fraser's head jersey up and there was a flash of dark-blue anger.

" I wouldna deceive another man in his marriage. Believe that of me, at least."

Oddly enough, he did. And in spite of the anger he still struggled to keep in check, he began to think he perhaps understood how it might have been.

Page 771, HC, Written in my Own Heart's Blood, Chapter 136.

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Dear Gotham: I am writing about this line--"he began to think he perhaps understood how it might have been."

To me, this leads me to consider William was guessing or he really DID know intuitively-- putting multiple bits of information together. For example-his conception date, what Jamie said and what he did not, his body language---that Jamie could have been coerced to sleep with his mother.

Many people on Tumblr and other forums are bored by William in the book. I see him wrestling and struggling with his identity and integretion and berift of anyone to talk with. I see him actively struggling with the discovery of his first father; attempting to discover what this means for him; the betrayal by this second father, and completing rethinking his priorities. There is good material there- lots of references to memories of Mac, for example.

What do you think?

Dear anon,

Well, we know that William is very intelligent. As an only child, and now as a military officer, he is undoubtedly very good at observing and drawing information from the world around him. Reading between the lines. Drawing his own conclusions.

So yes, I'm sure he was trying to piece together the story in this conversation with Jamie. And based on the very specific words that Jamie uses - William picks up on what Jamie does and doesn't say.

And I agree 100% that William struggles with his identity. He's many things - an earl, an officer, the son of Lord John Grey - but when he learns his true parentage, it's all blown apart (very much the way it was with his half-sister, too). And because he's an only child - and because he's an earl, and an officer - he doesn't have anyone to turn to, to seek honest advice. To be vulnerable with.

I think Jamie wants to - yearns to - be that person for his son. Much in the way that he is - fought to be - for his daughter. And it pains him that the truth brings grief to his son.

I sincerely hope that their relationship continues to blossom. Book 10 is set up to do precisely that.

Dearest anon - this is one of the most thoughtful and insightful asks I've ever received. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me - with us!!

#outlander #william ransom #written in my own heart's blood #jamie fraser

[ravenbloodshot]

Hi ravenbloodshot! Nice to meet you :) I just came across your page because I typed Lee Soo Hyuk into tumblr. I recently got into him because I've seen his drama, you can imagine I was incredibly drawn to him! It was nice coming across this reading you did: https://www.tumblr.com/ravenbloodshot/709342946115354624/lee-soo-hyuk-love-languagehow-he-acts-in-a but also pretty scary!!

I feel a bit sick to my stomach tbh 😞 I think I was attracted to him because I accidentally trauma bonded? He sounds like my ex completely. It's actually really scary 😟 My ex is a narc and this is verbatim what he's like. Lately I've been trying to work on myself and do a bunch of shadow work, so I've been seeing where I'm going wrong and all of the unhealthy patterns that I'm trying to undo but I get so upset because I tend to be drawn to similar men? My dad is also a full blown narcissist and for my own sanity and self-love, I've completely cut him off but my heart sank a little here not gonna lie, I can't believe it translated onto celebrities as well, that's how serious this shit is?

I was magnetically drawn to this guy and I didn't know why, I've also come across another reading on him where a reader says he's a cold partner and will leave you unhappy and unfulfilled. I feel as if I can't pick out anymore what men are normal and which aren't, it's almost like I lack discernment and I hate it because I never used to be like this until I met my cunt of an ex. It's completely put me off dating until I get healthy because I cannot go through what I went through and I want to learn how to un-condition myself from these types of toxic people and men and with my toxic empathy and conditioned self thinking I can change them and seeing hope in them, hell nah. I do not want to see me like this anymore.

It's so crazy because idek this actors real personality and I've been able to be so drawn to him while he was playing another character? Imagine the narcissism peeking through at moments like that too and I absolutely don't have any concept of him during his "real" interviews either, I feel cold and he confuzzles the shit outta me? INSANE! I couldn't understand why it felt so intense and thank god that I analyse everything with my Virgo ass (yes including my emotions) it didn't make sense why I felt so fucking strongly but well here I find myself trauma bonding and being drawn to yet another ass!

I'm trying my best and I know I'll get there! I'm actually afraid to look at him now and I feel repulsed because I was so infatuated with him, I wanna run and hide, he scares the shit outta me 🥺 May I ask you a question? I don't know how you feel about this but just this one? Are my gut instincts right on me feeling he's a narc? I'm trying to calculate which patterns I'm drawn to in men and pick up on and "find appealing", so I don't have to go through this all the time and stop in my tracks before it becomes too late!

It may be different than other request, I'm not sure but I was pulled to this reading for this very reason! At this point I'm just trying to brainwash myself into liking healthy "patterns" the way I do "negative" and "unavailable" ones. If you have any tough advice or life lessons to share from personal experience perhaps that would be awesome too, I'm trying to connect to see how I can overcome these things! Thanks 🙃

I'm sorry to hear about your struggle with discernment in men/ppl, I hope you can learn to see through the mask of others (it takes time and patience but it's possible).

But.....I think you are wrong about Lee soo hyuk being a narcissist (it's a personality disorder that I'm not too keen on ppl throwing around so freely), he can be cocky, materialistic and controlling but hes no narcissist. I actually sense an underlying insecurity and lack of a personality in him, surprisingly. The man is so damn mutable that if he doenst know who he is now, he will soon not know. Also, his energy is very nervous/unsure especially in relationships, hes definitely out of his element when it comes to love. And that's what creates a bad individual to date, that unsurity of his, that I dont know what the hell I'm even doing here energy, leads to all of his insecure and weirdo behaviors in a relationship. And its something he needs to work out (or he could choose to remain a bachelor forever 🤷‍♀️). And those personal issues of yours will need to be worked out as well before attempting to return to the dating scene or you may continue the cycle of bad relationships etc....

[alexjcrowley]

Tag yourself "Ancient Rome main characters but it's just very violent personal attacks" - Augustus's principate edition:

Gaius Julius Caesar "Augustus"

if you're honestly thinking to tag yourself as him what the fuck is your problem, your self-esteem is sky rocketing, you shouldn't be on Tumblr, you should be on Tik Tok

you take the lead in group projects and do 90% of the work because you think you're the only one who can it right

everybody better treat you like royalty otherwise bold of them to presume you'd let bitches talk mad shit about you

frail health though, stay safe baby

favourite quote "I was born for politics. I have great hair, and I love lying"

calm down I'm sure you'll get that college admission letter, no need to be dramatic and start threatening you'll ki** yourself if you don't get in

Marcus Antonius

burnout gifted kid

like honestly you had your whole life planned and then oopsie everything comes crashing down

aw, you want daddy's approval? Don't we all?

you're like an only child, or the eldest child. Then some bitches came along and you were forced to share.

If that's not a mummy sorry mummy sorry mummy sorry you ain't hitting that (or daddy ;))

you love giving pep talk, reminds you of the time people used to look up to you

Gaius Cilnius Maecenas

light academia, dark academia, chaotic academia, the point is: academia

your friends are the most interesting thing about you

you surrounded yourself with artists and creative types, such a shame you aren't one of them

you're that person who'd shout "THAT'S MY BEST FRIEND" when your friend does something incredibile, but nobody will ever do that for you

so how's life standing on the sidelines?

at least you're not bitter about it (or you're very good at hiding it, let's be honest)

supportive bestie

wasn't kidding about great taste in friends, your friendships are very elite and everybody wished they were in your inner circle, make 'em wish, darlin

Publius Vergilius Maro (Vergil)

COUNTRY ROOOOOOOOADS, TAKE ME HOOOOOOOOOME

cottagecore

as a society WE NEED to retreat to the country and go back to peak of human civilization: farming

you're cooler in theory than in practice

massive introvert

you just want a cottage and some books and maybe some plants and a pet and free time, is that too much to ask?

Yes, because that shit's a fever dream, you wouldn't last a day in a real farm, get your head out of your ass

Quintus Horatius Flaccus (Horace)

you think you're funny. You're the only one to think that.

self deprecative humour for the win

your superpower is infodumping. Sure, everybody does it once in a while- but they way you do it. Wow.

you're a tiny gay, a petite homosexual, if you will

wittiness is one of the many qualities you believe to possess

how are you handling those five mental breakdowns a day?

Guess what, clean air, drinking water and reading outside won't cure your identity crisis

Publius Ovidius Naso (Ovid)

you listen to doja cat unironically. And no, I don't mean "I like her beat", I mean you listen to the lyrics of doja cat unironically.

you're a slut, but, if you're reading this, it mean you're on Tumblr, so probably you're more of a theoritical slut

gossip girl xoxo

when people come to ask you for dating advice you feel like an old french prostitute recalling the glorious days of your youth

you think you're incredibly more interesting than you actually are

like, face it, if you were that great people wouldn't leave you on read

God it's like two weeks in the country at you grandparents's house there's no need to start complaining to all your friends you're in "exile", the wi-fi isn't even that bad, you're just a drama queen

you once dreamed of living in London or New York or Paris, don't lie to me

I hope people are actually know what I'm referencing in this or some things might sound very weird or mean out of nowhere (they're instead mean for a reason)

#I don't think i know how this is supposed to work #I am writing personal attacks but they're all attacking me #maecenas may be a bit sad but that's because I've always felt like him #you surround yourself with beautiful creative people and then you realize that's the closest you'll ever be to art #I am cursed by loving art and being incapable of creating any #ovid #vergil #horace #augustus #mark anthony #rome #latin literature #literature #latin poetry #poetry #tag yourself #ancient rome #light academia #classics #dark academia #chaotic academia #btw I'm maecenas and mark anthony pretty obvious I know #Also I'm in love with Vergil did it show?

[honeyymistt]

hi

I’ve tried sending this a few times but tumblr keeps crashing so if you receive this like five times I’m so sorry lol

okay so I’m not sure if you remember me but a while ago I messaged you about this person I matched with on a dating app and went out to dinner with. Since then we have gone out to dinner one more time but then she kept cancelling our plans so I pretty much gave up. we have seen each other around and said hi but haven’t texted or talked much since. I guess at this point I’m stuck wondering what I’ve done wrong.

it also leaves me back at dating app square one. I don’t have a large friend group which is why I went to dating apps in the first place but I’m not an extremely social person which I guess doesn’t make me great at first impressions so it’s very hard for me. also the dependence on what a person looks like over what their soul is makes the discernment and swiping process more difficult. this person I was talking to was the only person I really met via dating apps in about a year and a half of using them.

I guess what I’m trying to say is, where do you think I should go from here? I know you answered a question recently about dating so I apologize if this is slightly repetitive, but my friends here at school aren’t much help and I only really have a few friends from high school who I’d go to for advice such as this. It’s really weighing on my self esteem and self worth at this point and I’m trying not to let it affect me, but when people don’t see got as lovable it really seeps into your bones.

thanks for making it this far. I look forward to your wise words.

hi, yes i do remember you!!! ❣️i'm sorry to hear about you and this person. it's a very frustrating feeling to want to know what went wrong but not really being in contact anymore so asking them feels awkward.

i'm not saying this to make you feel better, this is completely my opinion: i don't think you did anything wrong. i think sometimes people just don't click. i know that the easiest thing to do is blame ourselves and convince ourselves that we did something "wrong" because then believe that we can fix it and work things out. but i'd argue that you did everything right, it just wasn't the right person and (this might sound way too gen z) the vibes just weren't it.

i guess what i would ask you is: are you in a rush to be in a relationship? is being in a relationship one of your top priorities? you mentioned that you're back at square one for dating apps. if a relationship is really what you're looking for atm, then i think the only advice i can give you is just stay optimistic, be yourself when texting and eventually you'll find someone who will vibe with you.

the other thing is, maybe dating apps aren't the right thing for you. i have tons of friends who have ended up deleting it because it's just not the right place for them to meet someone. the harsh reality of tinder, hinge & bumble is that a lot of people just want something casual - hookups, fwb, someone to talk to when their lonely, etc. i know you said that you're not super social but part of meeting someone, connecting and beginning to date requires putting yourself out there. maybe go out to a club with your friends and challenge yourself to talk to someone you find attractive. join a club if you're in university. sign up for a community centre class lol. go to a coffee shop regularly and strike up a conversation with someone who is always there at the same time as you. ask your friends if you could meet some of their friends.

i know it's hard but please don't let this hit your self confidence. anyone who has you in their life is a lucky one 💌

#chat with honeyymistt

[theswarmanthology]

Michelle W, 24, Oregon

"it’s overall been a good experience, this is my first time back after several years though because for a while things just got overwhelming for me and i took a social media break. i made several really good friends when i first started getting involved in the online fandoms for mcr that i’m still friends with to this day actually!"

Fast Facts: How long have you been a fan?: 9+ years Did you get to see MCR live before this tour?: No, this tour was my first time seeing MCR How many shows on this tour did you attend in total?: 1 Favorite album: Three Cheers For Sweet Revenge Show experience out of 10: 10 Did you cry at your show?: I'm still crying right now

Which date of the tour did you attend? 10/02/22, Moda Center, Portland, Oregon

When did you get your tickets for your show? Was it a struggle, or were they easy to grab? i got tickets right when they went on sale, my husband had to wait a little for ticketmaster to load and such but it wasn’t a hassle at all!

Did you attend with anyone else? my husband!

What did you wear? it was kind of a catholic school uniform vibe!

Where were your seats? nosebleeds, on ray’s side!

What was your favorite song(s) from the setlist they played at your show? it’s not a fashion statement, it’s a deathwish

What song were you most hoping to hear? Did you get to hear it? cemetery drive and kill all your friends, i didn’t get to hear either :(

What was your favorite moment from the show? before they played the world is ugly, gerard made a little speech about being a butterfly in this ugly world

What was the most unexpected moment from the show? there wasn’t anything really too unexpected at our show? i guess maybe seeing gerard come out in regular jeans and a t shirt was unexpected after seeing all the other costumes he wore on tour!

Did you snag any merch? What pieces? oh my god so much merch, thank you for the venom canvas bag, mystery t (i got the mikey one!), tour date long sleeve and short sleeve shirts, swarm dad hat, swarm flag, swarm poster, reusable water bottle and i think that was it!

Many fans describe seeing MCR live as feeling like coming home. Did you experience anything like that at your show? i did yes! it felt just as comforting as walking through my front door to be in that stadium watching my favorite band before and being among thousands of other people who love them just as much as i do!

If you could change one thing about your show experience, what would it be? my seats! we had the money to get pit tickets but felt like we shouldn’t blow a huge chuck of our savings so we opted for cheaper, and i gotta say i do kinda regret it!

Has your perspective or opinion about the band changed since seeing them on this tour? If so, in what way? i wouldn’t say it’s changed, but i’d say my love for them certainly got stronger and i feel like there’s even more of an unbreakable bond connecting me to this band

What advice would you give to people seeing My Chemical Romance in the future? fuck that savings, buy the pit tickets!!!

Anything we didn't ask that you feel obliged to share or talk about? i could talk about the show at lengths, how much it meant to me to hear them live, to see them with my own two eyes, to know that this group of men that saved my life is REAL, that they’re not just existing in my phone speakers. they’re there, they care so much about the fans, and god i just love them so fucking much.

Thanks, Michelle! She can be found on Tumblr at @ropeandrailings.

#story #10/02/22 #mcrportland

[raimagnolia]

Mastpost for Direct Action: Resources To Recieve Aid Or Host (explaining why both formal and informal organizations exist)

Someone made a post about this before, but adding on to this https://www.tumblr.com/blog/view/0kcalsugarbabe/688499006016520192

1. Stay up-to-date

Trigger laws are already being fought off and delayed by state judges, which is still allowing women to get abortions, some as late as 15-weeks.

Ex. https://href.li/?https://www.axios.com/2022/06/27/abortion-louisiana-trigger-law-lawsuit-roe

As I've said before, helping someone g_ c_mping is a viable option especially in states with protective laws put in place for these specific reasons.

Ex. https://www.mprnews.org/amp/story/2022/06/25/walz-issues-executive-order-on-reproductive-health-following-supreme-court-ruling

Edit: This is especially relevant if you're a minor. I'm so sorry for y'all, but it's a whole other ball of wax when it comes to getting an abortion while having a minor status, since often it'll be required of you to produce a signature of your parent/guardian or get a waiver.

2. Check their social media. This is a part of the vetting process that even networks use like WRRAP, and should go both ways (both by host and people looking for one)

3. Any research into these areas should be done with VPN (a lot of people use Express or 12) and a browser like duckduckgo.

4. Ask Abortion Funds for Financial Help if Required. As people have outlined before, SOME abortion funds can help you get to the clinic by giving you a ride or paying for a bus ticket and hotel depending on your situation: https://abortionfunds.org/

But If You Can't For Any Reason And Need A Ride remember to follow the earlier instructions to keep both yourself and a volunteer safe.

5) To people who wish to host women, yes, there are posts already about formal and informal groups ( I share them below). It's preferable for you to live near an airport/abortion clinic. You can offer home-stays or help women book hotel rooms depending on your states COVID policies for fresh arrivals (but remember there would be a risk in helping to assist in these bookings; that's why the abortion fund provides services of taking the legal risk).

Reasons volunteers offer home-stays by the way...is because depending on the abortion clinic procedure, hotel stays can run up to hundreds of dollars. I looked around my area, for example, and a proper hotel (not bug-infested motel, bc these women have got enough problems to deal with as is) and it's the same deal.

The woman who began the "camping" euphemism is herself someone who had to travel across statelines for an abortion; decades older and more knowledgeable than most of us on this website, and yes, has now a team of volunteers that are offering the services to help women get their abortions (Not posting the name directly here obviously for safety reasons) It always starts somewhere. Something small that grows larger with time. Direct action that spreads into a coordinated movement.

That is why on Tumblr you might hear of informal groups like one of my friends is a part of like "The Aunties" that will help you out: "A modern-day adaptation of underground abortion networks that helped people access care when the procedure was illegal, the Auntie Network stands alongside formal organizations like the Brigid Alliance and the National Network of Abortion Funds that coordinate travel and remove financial barriers to getting abortions." ​

The Brigid Alliance supports individuals who are seeking an abortion and are currently 15 weeks pregnant or more, and they're able to cover your costs and transportations if you set up appointments at their clinics: https://brigidalliance.org/need-support/ (currently in five states)

The Abortion Fund Network offers over 50 practical support organizations across the country: https://apiaryps.org/pso-list (Covers 41 states)

These limitations are also why the informal groups exist-- it's in efforts of covering all bases. ​(NOT of fighting each other for Christ's sake)

Advice from people already on the ground who have decades of experience in this: https://www.kunc.org/2022-06-29/some-californians-are-prepping-to-host-visitors-who-seek-abortion-access

https://www.washingtonpost.com/technology/2022/05/04/reddit-auntie-network-abortion/ ​

Volunteer form for reproductive health organizations: https://wrrap.org/get-involved/volunteer/volunteer-form/

Find an abortion fund and offer a hand in volunteering: https://abortionfunds.org/funds/ ​

Edit: Find assistance as a minor (there are more complicated legalities in place for needing reproductive health care as a minor) and someone went into it more on their post here: https://www.tumblr.com/blog/view/bitchesgetriches/688620891405418496?source=share

And just an additional tag on, protests in your area: https://map.wewontgoback.com/

#Reproductive rights #pro choice #Abortion rights #Resources #the supreme court #Direct Action

[canongf-archive]

Hi liv!! Sorry if this is kind of venty but since you're kinda like the older sister of self ship tumblr I just wanted to ask for advice on something if that's ok ;-;

I was wondering how you reassure yourself that your f/os love you? A lot of the content I see on here for one of my f/os revolves around some negative things that are upsetting at best and triggering at worst for me and I'm having a hard time telling myself that he loves me :( even tho he's literally said it himself!! he's from a dating sim so he's Said I love you himself and yet it's still hard feeling like he does at times :( this all aside tho I hope you're having a great day or night!!

it is absolutely okay!!! it is more than okay!!! 💗

first!!! can i just say!!! 'older sister of self ship tumblr' is the sweetest thing you could have referred to me as. what a precious way to be seen. my heart is so full. it is an honor and i do not take it lightly!!! 

and second!!! anon, i am so sorry you’re having a hard time.  you’re not alone in this!!! believing that you are loved and believing that you are worthy of that love is a journey that we are all on, in one way or another!!! me included!!! but that doesn’t necessarily make it any easier to deal with, and for that i’m sorry!!!

i wish i could give you an answer that would solve this problem in a heartbeat!!! i wish there was some real simple and quick way of getting to the point where we can accept and internalize love, but the truth is!!! it is ongoing!!! it is something we have to practice over and over again!!! 

i think a good place to start would be!!! blocking and blacklisting all those negative things about your f/o that upset you!!! you don’t have to try to tough it out or endure it!!! you don’t deserve that!!! block blogs that post stuff that bothers you. blacklist tags that trigger you. the possibility of missing some good content of your f/o is so much better than having to deal with all the content of your f/o that devastates you. i pinky swear.

and then!!! keep letting him tell you that he loves you. keep telling yourself that he loves you. even if it feels hollow. even if you don’t believe it. keep saying it. keep listening to it. repeat it to yourself in the mirror. write it down. make a list of all the things about you that deserve to be loved!!! your eyes, your smile, your laugh, your kindness, your sense of style, your soft tummy, all of it!!! even things you don’t like about yourself yet. write them down too. you might feel silly and you might feel like it’s a waste of time, but it’s not. we spend so much time picking ourselves apart, sometimes we don’t even realize we’re doing it, so we gotta counteract it!!! we gotta switch some wires in our brain!!! 

and eventually, it will click. it might not be today or tomorrow, but one of these days, you will hear him say that he loves you and you will smile and you will say “yes you do! and i love you back!” and it will be worth it. it’s a process!!! it’s work!!! it’s not linear, sometimes we have good days and sometimes we have bad days, no matter where we are in our journey. but that’s okay. as long as we’re trying!!!

good luck, my sweet anon!!! remember that you are doing the best you can and you’re not alone in this!!! i am with you!!! just keep trying to move forward. just keep looking after yourself. things will get better. and until they do, your f/o loves you the whole way, even if you don’t quite believe it yet. 💗

#THIS GOT LONG but i can't help it i just wanna pull you into a hug #i hope things start looking up for u soon <3 #advice.ask #anon #long post