Rain on the rooftop, the laughter of babies, string instruments: these are a few of my favorite sounds. I'm aware that not everyone has the same ability with hearing, but if you can use hearing for self care here are some of my ideas. White noise can be relaxing and it can even help some people sleep. If you prefer nature sounds or even the sounds of being in a cafe while staying at home you can find all sorts of options using your phone. Another self care option for hearing would be unwinding by listening to your favorite music or a podcast. What ways do you use sound and hearing for self care? If you enjoyed this post, you might also like the other posts in my #selfcareforthesenses series. Stop reading here, hashtags below. . . . . . . #selfcare #selfcarelove #selfcarefam #mentalwellness #mentalhealthadvocate #favoritesounds #whitenoise #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthisimportant #selfcarepost #stressreduction #stressrelieving #selfcareidea #selfcareideas #selfcareactivities #selfcarematters #selfcarecommunity #selfcarepost #selfcareposts #selfcareadvocate #nothingisordinary #myquietbeauty #seekthepositive #seekthesimplicity #simpleandstill #stillswithstories #theartofslowliving #thelifestyle #thesimpleeveryday (at Skamania County, Washington) https://www.instagram.com/p/CnBTYI_OqbR/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=
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Guilt Be Gone!
Hello, beautiful soul. I hope your day treated you well, and if it was hard, then I hope you can take a few moments here with me now to breathe, to unwind, and to just be.
Something I’ve personally been struggling with lately is just being with myself. It’s taken some introspection and overcoming some frustrating obstacles, but I’ve started to realize that most of my issue with settling down and spending time with myself is that, whenever I try to, I’m overwhelmed with guilt. And even thought I am a mama, I’m not just talking about mom guilt, although that is also a weight I carry daily.
I feel guilty because, though I know in my soul how important self-care time for everyone is, I simultaneously feel that I should be doing so many other different things - mostly domestic tasks. You know, those ones that if you do a little bit every day, they aren’t so bad?
Those are the ones that end up slipping when I start feeling good, and I feel good when I do my ritual without judging myself for taking the time. I feel good when I’m able to create, to connect, to explore, and to love... and so many of the domestic tasks don’t fall into those categories. Sometimes they get neglected, and sometimes it builds up to the point where the guilt shifts to shame and then I can’t believe I thought I was doing well; the house is a mess, so I must be a mess.
I know what you’re going to say - well, duh, Miranda, there are always those annoying things you’ll have to do, it’s part of being an adult. I’m definitely not arguing that. My mom always reminds me that a messy space will increase the symptoms of any mental health issues, such as anxiety and ADHD (I have both), and I know that’s true. But what I think I’m trying to understand is, why do I place so much value on the state of my home, or my material assets, when I’m gauging how “okay” I am? Shit gets messy sometimes, but life gets busy, right? It’s supposed to, isn’t it? Doesn’t that mean you’re successful? Because your life itinerary is full, you should feel full, too, right?
My husband and I have a pretty good routine of teaming up to do a power clean once a week, I’m not living in filth, there’s groceries in the fridge, my daughter grows, plays, and laughs every day - so why is the only thing I can think of when I ask myself, “What did I do today?” always only household tasks that didn’t get completed? Why do I involuntarily base my day’s quality on the jobs I did or didn’t get done?
When my daughter grows older and comes home from school, am I going to care about the specific math lesson she learned that day? Or am I going to want to hear about the friend she helped at recess? Or the funny thing that happened that she can’t even finish telling me the story of because she’s still laughing? Will I measure her successes solely based on how well she’s appearing on paper, to the approval of others? Or will my pride and joy in her thrive when I see her stand up for herself or her peers, when I see her stop to help a caterpillar cross the road, when she says hello to a stranger to brighten their day?
Do I judge other people, other women on their ability to keep a home, to make sure all the errands are done? Absolutely fucking not! I am the first person to tell another woman to be kind to themselves, to do what they can when they can, to value themselves for the multifaceted, incredible human being they are.
So why do I insist on being my own worse critic? Where do I get off thinking that I can talk to myself like that, and then expect myself to perform better? Would I talk to my clients, friends, or family like that and expect them to grow? No.
Maybe that’s the shift I need to start taking, maybe I need to start talking to myself like I’m my own best friend again, and hype myself up as the badass, business-owning, child-rearing, love-giving goddess I am! The more confident I am in taking that self-care time, the less guilt I’ll have throughout the rest of the day, and I have a feeling, the less overwhelming the other tasks will become.
Is anyone else struggling to shake guilt for taking self-care time? Battling their brains to let themselves have a moment alone? Beating themselves up for not doing it all?
You’re not alone! Reblog or comment with something you’re struggling with, and let me and the others in this group hype you back up again!
Let’s build this community strong with love, support, empowerment, and friendship!
We can do hard things, my lovely soul, and we can do it together!
Miranda
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Love yourself unconditionally, a kind of love that doesn’t need validation from anyone. Self-care is the first act of self love ❤️ SHOP RUDEGALBEAUTY.COM #selfcare #selfcarecommunity #skincare #selflove #selfcare https://www.instagram.com/p/CKhJf2FlDVI/?igshid=16skr5qktdo6j
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This is my Sunday. It’s raining here in the Sunshine State, and it’s looking like I’m staying in my pjs all day. I’m gunna try to get my boyfriend to start American Horror Story from the very beginning. I have an itch to rewatch the Series! 😈 I hope everyone enjoys their Sunday! Do something good for you, that makes you happy. I listen to @stevienicks on the regular. It’s my Zen Mantra. I live for her music. It puts me in my best state of mind in any situation. In reality, I just wanna skip to Ahs:Coven so I can watch Stevie sing Seven Wonders 🤩 So with that, I’m getting off social media for a bit to take in the day! It’s good to disconnect from the chaos from time 🖤 . . . . . #witchesofig #paganwitch #witchcraft #witchaesthetic #selfcareroutine #naturalwitch #witch #blackwitch #witchstyle #selfcarethreads #selfcarecommunity #witchesofinstagram #quotesthatinspire #wiccansofinstagram #tompetty #selfcarematters #motivationalsaturday #pagan #thursdaywisdom #inspirationalpost #selfcaresunday #love #thoughtfortheday #witches #fleetwoodmac #stevienicks #americanhorrorstory #ahs #mistyday #coven (at Wellington, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/CAk9QS5nbOE/?igshid=a94fyb1z92q
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