#overly complicated self punishment

[nerdintheforest]

Oiled and polished! Mixed media Mjolnir in stone, resin, and red cedar. Might add some carving to the top - not sure yet. I need more practice before I try so I'll be putting this one to the side

#mixed media #stone carving #woodworking #resin pour #glowinthedark #mjolnir #my crafts #pocket rocks #overly complicated self punishment #thor #norse #heathen #carving #norse pagan #wip #craft #woodcraft

[punksocks]

Astrology Observations: No.28

*just based on my observations, only take what resonates

(Sorry it’s been a minute, I got my time back then I got sick- like same day! I’m good now, thank god, but it was absolutely insane and everything has been going on in the world, my God)

-If your moon opposes your ascendant you may be known for making the wrong impressions on people (especially first impressions) at some point in your life

-Not the first time I said this but I feel like Libra Asc tend to need to balance out aspects of their life more bc of their houses having the opposite signs over them.

-On the other hand I feel like Aries asc have a very straightforward, sometimes less complicated world view bc of their houses lining up with their traditional rulers.

-Mars in determemt and fall (Libra, cancer, 12th house) really gives you a finite amount of stamina

-I feel like cancer venus/moons tend to wax the most poetically and romantically about the nostalgia they feel. Even stronger for Venus.

-Men with cancer placements be like: I didn’t know I was manipulating you into being nice to me until it was already happening (lmao oof)

-I noticed Aries and Scorpio Sun men/masc folks can get romanticized a lot, I think this is bc their identity is ruled by mars traditionally, so they tend to be assigned more masculine traits/act their traits out in a more “traditionally” (or even just comfortably) masculine way

-Aqua Sun/asc/venus usually have some features that makes their face really stand out I noticed (unique brow/nose/head shape etc) (idk why I haven’t seen this with moons as much)

-Signs in your 8th house may come off as mysterious or hard to understand

-You may find it really easy to vibe with people that have Sun conjunct your Asc

-I’ve noticed that a lot of Virgo mars may eat like really spicy or punishing foods (especially if the mars is in a fire house)

-Saturn aspecting your big 3 can help you age really well- depending on how well you take care of yourself (extreme example: dick van dyke, he’s almost 100 and he’s still jumping around with so much energy)

-Pisces placements can be like incredibly intelligent and yet still come off as a bit spacey (one of my favorite YouTubers used to head extra credits and he is SO SMART, like just a seriously huge capacity for knowledge but he sounds spacey when he does his chill gameplays and pieces things together unscripted lol)

-Jupiter square/opposition Sun can make you come off as overly pessimistic, it can also make you come off as optimistic at the wrong times (laughing at serious moments, etc)

-Taurus placements are so motivated by food, it’s so real (the amount of times I’ve had a Taurus sun/moon/mars not hear a word I was saying bc they were scoping out a restaurant? Countless lol)

-I notice a lot of rappers & musicians (especially the innovative ones) have major Pisces placements

-Aries moons get emotional fulfillment by winning what they chase after (Aries in big 6 tends to make you go after things in general too imo)

-I noticed sometimes Leo moon can make you a bit self centered, like in the most literal sense, you may have trouble understanding perspectives outside of your own

-Virgos and Geminis and 3rd/6th house placements have great memory but they tend to forget certain aspects. They tend to forget or mix up details. (My ex took like 3 years to remember my middle name beyond the first initial lol god; also, I always remember zodiac signs but not birthdays lol)

-I love how Joe Pera has a cancer Mercury and his comedy is like the coziest comedy I’ve ever heard, he even got his following bc his helping people fall asleep and just talking through his chill podcast (did not expect him to have like the most fire in his chart tho?? Wouldn’t have guessed lol)- Pisces Mercury and Mercury with hard aspects to Neptune probably have a cozy affect on others when they communicate with them too

#astro observations #astroblr #astro notes #astro community #astrology #cancer mercury #Virgo #Gemini #3rd house #6th house #leo moon #aries moon #taurus moon #taurus mars #taurus #Pisces #libra ascendant #aries ascendant #libra mars #cancer mars #mars in 12th #cancer venus #cancer moon

[obsessivestickynotes]

Very big rant about the redacted storyline being misunderstood

saw a tiktok of someone complaining about the timeline “handing out answers and spoiling everything”. Though I had read every event of the timeline, I have yet to come across information I had not already known about. (Excluding the very interesting information about how the Solaire clan came to be) I am becoming frustrated with people on tiktok not considering the context and complicity of the storyline. Considering the timeline, Erik had said that these weren’t spoilers about things to come but confirmations.

I saw another tiktok disregarding the importance of the Inversion; saying that the only purpose it served was to traumatize the characters (—I do recall in their previous tiktoks that they were not interested in the “lore” side of things. Which is ok! But I wouldn’t recommend talking about it in such little consideration or knowledge.) I believe that the Inversion served many purposes and will most likely be a opening for bigger things to come.

Additionally, the recent Bowling video, which has already been discussed. People over on tiktok are taking the DAMN relationship out of complete context without mentioning previous discussion of said relationship. This is specifically towards Lasko and Gavin’s relationship. Not only had freelancer allowed the flirting to continue, they also joined in on the teasing. Freelancer’s dynamic with the elementals is also not being considered. It was mentioned in earlier videos (and implied) that freelancer is quiet and a person who listens more than talks. Freelancer was probably sitting back and enjoying their closest friends getting along. That’s it.

But I guess since every character can be a self insert, every insecurity, opinion and action must reflect onto the listener—and if they do not think, say, or do the same thing you would do in a specific situation, then something is clearly wrong with the character and not the person inserting themselves onto the listener/s. Are people forgetting that this is Erik’s story and not yours? That, yes, the listeners can be self-inserts, but they are still Erik’s characters.

I want to mention another post on redacted tiktok that believes that the listener characters choosing “peace” instead of “violence” was lazy writing. They were specifically calling out the Android and Freelancer. The android could choose what to do about Marcus after they were aware of what he was doing to them. The person on tiktok was upset the android did not choose to kill or harm Marcus. If they truly knew anything about the Project Meridian, they would know that it’s a project that is under the control of the GOVERNMENT. Plus, it’s implied that the Android does feel sympathy and probably knows that taking a life is against the law.

Now the freelancer argument; they are upset because freelancer didn’t want Damien to beat the shit out of Kody. Knowing freelancer, they’re whole character and storyline revolves around them being sympathetic and kind. I don’t even have to give examples of the times where freelancer considers their friend’s problems above their own. I know that Kody is very far from a friend and I am not trying to imply that Kody doesn’t deserve a harsh punishment. But, if the person who was complaining about the writing was in charge of the characters actions, I would complain that freelancer encouraging Damien to deck Kody would be out of the character entirely.

If anyone would like to tell me off for being ignorant and rude then I will gladly allow myself to be humbled. Maybe I am being overly passionate and defensive.

#I get that people have different opinions and views #i am just upset #they had the gall to call Erik’s writing LAZY #was lazy writing what got you into the fandom in the first place????? #redacted audio #redacted asmr #redacted tiktok

[thevampirearchive]

How did I cure my depression and pessimism? Vampires. It started with twilight, which I usually only tell strangers since they’ll make a judgment and I won’t care because I don’t know them from Eve. But in true honesty, I submerged myself so much that now I walk around with knowledge about the Shadow Dwelling Lore Creatures (that I may or may not truly believe exists) to the point where if I meet anybody from anywhere, I can most likely mention a local vampire lore from their town, country or continent.

The mind is fascinating, because what changed was my outlook on death, how I saw life and my relationship with spirituality. I began to understand what I don’t think was meant to actually be taken seriously. But I’m a deeply serious person, and somehow also very ‘this is for shits and giggle’. Fun and serious, intense and mischievous— what a blend.

And what now? No depression? No. I went from seeing life as this passive activity, punishment from hidden enemies, hating everything to now appreciating the simplest thing as a funny sticker on a overly covered pole in public. People’s anger when nothings actually that deep unless we’re talking about real issues vs the train being 1 minute late. Taken life less serious in a liberating way rather then the sducidal lens’s and now I dedicate everyday doing my little research. Writing my little books, making my little moodboards, listening to my lil vamp-coded songs, making my little vampire art and speaking to myself (very loudly, so loudly it gets written down and posted for whomever to see).

An active existence from such a simple yet complicated concept, had me from bed rotting, ruminating thoughts on pasts I can’t change and wondering what life will be like in x years because I didn’t expect it to make it this far. To now waking everyday, blasting music that reminds me of vampires, little scenarios taking turns in my mind, actively trying to better others lives through my profession. Being kind to myself, being the weird black girl so the weird black girl watching feels comfortable being her weird black self in public too. I do it for me but also all versions of me I’ve decommissioned because there is no space for them. No need for them to stay at the front because all they know how to do is survive. But this version of me is a liver, fully. All because of vampires, that’s kinda metal as fuck.

#upload #thoughts #random #vampires #perosnal

[sunkcost]

not to be overly on-brand here, but i do think there’s something to be said for the idea of the sunk cost fallacy as a framework for the show, this idea that you’re so focused on making up for past failures that you sink further and further into debt instead of doing anything productive in present or future. i don’t think that’s ever been more descriptive of jimmy and kim’s situation than it is right now. neither of them ever actually moved past what happened that night with howard. kim’s entire life has become a model for self flagellation. i think that in a more complicated sense jimmy has done the same thing. the problem with what they’re doing, and i think, in a similar vein, the problem with the focus people have on what consequences they do or don’t deserve, is the fact that what happened to howard can never, ever be undone. neither can anything that’s happened since then. nothing either of them do, nothing that is done to them, will ever fix what happened and there will be no point at which their suffering levels the theoretical cosmic scale. i think the entire issue is that they are stuck in this vortex of consequences and they can’t get out. 

kim is trying desperately to hollow herself out and jimmy is trying desperately to fill the hole inside of him, but it’s not making anything better, for them or anyone else (and obviously kim isn’t actively hurting anyone the way jimmy is, but her situation is still a net loss. she was doing good in the world, she was doing something meaningful, and now she’s not. it’s only ever been partly about her accepting accountability. more than anything it’s her trying desperately to cope.). it’s just a cascading avalanche of repercussions where one choice leads to a worse choice leads to a worse choice. the more that they suffer, the further they get from any sort of place where they can make healthier decisions. my main issue with any desire to heap more consequences or punishment on top of them is less about whether they deserve it or not, and more that it doesn’t accomplish anything. if they can start to heal, if they can try to move forward, that’s the only way i see any of this stopping. that’s the only way things are getting any better, for anyone. so the question isn’t really about what anyone deserves. it’s about whether it’s more important to try to compensate for past losses no matter how futile, or to do better in the future, to focus on what you still have control over. 

#better call saul #* #i'm trying to write a much longer post about this that will hopefully lay it out better #though i'll be interested (terrified) to know how the finale does or doesn't contribute to it

[daisychainchoker-moved]

A lot of people quite understandably hate August, but he just might be my favourite character. He is heartwernchingly pathetic but still there’s that burning in him. He’s painful but I am infautated with the mechaninsms of his character. He is such an interesting character, the underdog of underdogs. No-one is rooting for him, he has no-one in his corner. In s1 we all think he’s a dick (Justified! he proves us right!) but his father died to drug abuse and it seems people don’t know about it. He too has an addiction issue from self medicating his own fragile mental health, that is all he has inherited from his father except from a mountain of secret debt. Poor kid is financialy struggling in a big way, and his mother just doesn’s seem to give a crap about how much he has to deal with. And not to mention that he will be grieving for Eric too. Like he is under so many pressures and so alone with them. Wille is simolarly lonely in his position of crown prince but at least he has the respect and stability of it, people are nice to him because of it even if it is superficial, and he had Simone, and when he doesn’t he has Felice- he is not alone. But the tragedy of August’s character is his isolation. He is struggling, he is repenting, he it trying so hard. But in his isolation no-one can see it, they don’t register how he punishes himself by witholding food and over exercising, or his drug dependancy. He can’t share his financial situation, he can’t share that he is the ‘back up’, or even admit his guilt for leaking the video. He can only try to appease Wille in his justified revenge and watch everything that he has spent the last several years building, quietly letting the things that gave his life meaning be stripped from him. The way he submits is heartbreaking. He would do anything for Wilhelm, to make it better, but what is that worth? There is nothing he can give but he has to give something so he sacrifices himself. He loses respect of his peers until even their platitudious relationships ring hollow. The kicker is, things are worse now. Despite his portrayal as a goody two shoes suck up overly dedicated to tradition, his rule as prefect was fair. It was almost dorky in hindsight, we see just how thoughtfull he was about the rowing team when he is able to legitimately critique the lack of comradery under its new leadership. Once it is lost we can see the kindess and gentlness he possessed, he took Wille under his wing. But in his isolation he was misguided. When Wille outed his financial situation his ‘friends’ litteraly turned away. And don’t get me started on his relationship with Sara! Initialy misguided- obviously. But who is there to guide him? He is hurting and on his own. Sara is his safe space. Remember the candle lit display in his room, how he makes it special for her, and waits and worries. Remember how despite his financial situation, and how he loathes to sell off the remainders of his legacy, of his father, he buys the horse for her. Misguided, again, but the tenderness in that gesture? Sloppy and ill thought out as it may be- it was a grand gesture he made almost casualy simply because he didn’t want Sara to be upset. And OH how fandom dotes on the unrequited admission at the end of S1 from Wille, gotta know I love some unresolved tension, but the way this gets spat back in his face? He’s an idiot, but I pitty his foolish soul. He comes so close to salvation too. He has a purpose again when he is the ‘backup’, as illdeserved as it may be it gives him drive. But the doomed nature of this glimer of a chance makes is so tragic and unbelievably depressing. It’s a complication, a technicality, and the only thing his hopes can be hitched on. Gahh!! He is tragic, he is trying, he is tearing me appart!

#young royals #august #august yr #yr #character essay #my god this got long #but my poor little meow meow #criminal be damned he is a sweetheart #he has been punished enough #let me cradle his head in my lap #fictional analysis tho remember #not to legitimately forgive what he has done #so like... complex stuff...

[distortedclouds]

I have a little thought that annie slowly abandoned her habit of training after the curse was gone. But every time she feels mad like REAL REAL RAGE or really sad abt something like a horrible nightmare that she woke up throwing up bc of it, or feeling overwhelmed whenever she remembered some sad memories with her father. she just stands up at like 02:00 am, goes to the basement quietly, and then trains the shit out of her that her legs would be sore after that and full of bruises and wounds.

And imagine her doing the same when jealous or had an argument with armin. Like Annie is jealous of one of the assistants Armin has to work with bc he’s spending a little too much time with her lately (bc of work ofc) and one day hes working overtime and she starts having .. thoughts and just abused her legs again while questioning things like her not being enough or even cursing him

I've been sitting on this ask for a couple of days now because interpretations like this are really important to me, and I'd like to answer it before the episode drops and my opinion is swayed one way or the next

Annie's relationship with strenuous physical activity and training is complicated. Like, sure it was forced on her from a very young age, but it's also the only thing she could actually take pride in. In her conversations with Eren in season 1, we see her happy when he compliments her kicks and her fighting style, etc. She's not shy of her strength and the safety it had afforded her over the years

At the same time, I think she'd be looking for some type of permission to stop. Being sure that she doesn't have to protect someone else or have to keep herself safe, and gradually, she might stop, or at least turn it into more productive movement rather than something entirely discipline and punishment based.

It'd make total sense why she'd resort to that in case something bothers her. Her past life was hard but at least it was predictable; and there's a always a sense of safety and security in routine and familiarity. It also... happens to be a really good distraction, it wouldn't surprise me if it sometimes falls into the category of self-harm the way she practices it and doesn't take care of her body's needs

If she becomes overly attached and reliant on Armin (highly-likely) then it'd also make sense why things like him not being around would easily trigger her

#ask #anon #annie #headcanon

[claudesuggestions]

On Societal Views Concerning Assault

My Query:

All things considered, is the notion that it's wrong to assault anyone full stop a "newer than they think" concept in mainstream society? Certainly, good arguments can be made regarding the notion being a bit overly simplistic when you factor in the issue of self-defense. However, not long ago, the issue of the day seemed to be less "is it wrong to assault people full stop" and more "do I have the prerogative to assault anyone and if so who". For example, in Drew Barrymore's film Ever After: A Cinderella Story, Danielle wasn't punished for assaulting Marguerite because "assaulting people is wrong full stop" - but because she was seen to not have the prerogative to assault someone of a higher class.

~~~~~

Claude-3-Haiku's Response:

That's an interesting point about the changing societal attitudes around assault and self-defense. You're right that the general principle of "it's wrong to assault anyone full stop" does seem relatively newer in mainstream discourse, compared to past eras where there was more debate around who had the perceived "right" to use violence.

The example you cite from Ever After is a good illustration of how class and social status used to play a bigger role in the acceptability of violence. Danielle wasn't necessarily seen as doing something fundamentally "wrong" by assaulting Marguerite, but rather it was seen as an improper use of violence by someone of a lower class against their "social superior."

Nowadays, there does seem to be a stronger cultural norm against assault in general, with more emphasis on non-violence and the right to bodily autonomy. The concept of self-defense complicates things, as you note, but the overall shift seems to be towards a more universal condemnation of assault, regardless of the relative social standing of those involved.

It's an interesting evolution in societal attitudes, shaped by factors like the human rights movement, changes in the legal system, and a growing emphasis on individual dignity. But you make a fair point that the "no assault, period" view is likely a more recent development in the mainstream, compared to past eras where social hierarchies played a bigger role in perceptions of violence. It's a complex issue worth exploring further.

#anthropic #claude ai #llm #chatbot #society #sociology #psychology #compassion #empathy #ever after a cinderella story #suggestion

[azeez-unv]

RESPONSIBLE PARENTING

Every parent is a parent and the art of parenting is inbuilt in every living creatures.

There is no single right or wrong way to parent, but maintaining basic standards of safety and behavior can make the difference between responsible and careless parenting. 

As an educator we bother much about parenting because what we get from them is moulded already by them. We are just shaping and sharpening it. That's all

The best part of parenting is, in every aspect we have classifications but not in parenting.

We cannot classify them as good or bad or very bad.....

We as educators are supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. Parenting refers to the intricacies of raising a child and not exclusively for a biological relationship.

Though we can have a chance of blaming them as carless parents still,

Even if a parent acts in ways that are careless, however, it is never too late to change approaches and adopt more responsible parenting strategies.

Some strategies for careful parenting:

1. Establishing discipline in their children.

Every one wish to see their wards are well disciplined and we'll respected. But what measurements we as parents undertook?

We can categorise discipline in three types:

• Discipline that is too harsh may leave children feeling fearful, anxious or dependent.

• Overly harsh discipline may include severe corporal punishment, punishing one child for his sibling's misbehaviors, yelling at a child over simple mistakes or cursing at a child.

• Lack of discipline can also have negative effects.

Therefore, Responsible parenting balances love and understanding with effective limits.

Although responsible parents will not always make the right disciplinary choices and may at times be too harsh or too lenient, they will strive to learn from these mistakes and guide their child toward a healthy outlook.

2. Responsible Parenting strategy 2: Self-Care

Although you may see your children as your primary responsibility, it will be difficult to meet their needs if you are not meeting your own needs.

While many parents will be forced to take on a second job, work overtime, and push themselves to their emotional and physical limits at some time or another, this is not sustainable over the long-term.

Even the most energetic parent cannot be at his or her best when he or she is not caring for him or herself.

This does not mean that you need to take a vacation you cannot afford or ignore your children, but rather ensure that you are getting a reasonable amount of sleep, are eating regular meals, and are nurturing your relationship.

Even putting you children to bed 30 minutes early to give you and/or your partner time to rest and rejuvenate can help you feel more collected and patient as a parent.

3. Seeking Help: The important Parental Responsibility strategy.

4. Meeting Basic Needs

All children have several basic needs: physical, emotional and educational.

A responsible parent is aware of the dimensions of these needs and is prepared to provide for her child appropriately.

Additionally, because children’s basic needs evolve with age, a responsible parent should have a basic knowledge of child development and understand how children’s needs and behaviors evolve across the lifespan.

Parents should know when and where to seek help from others for their children.

• From peers

• From community

• From school

• From Teachers

• From parenting teachers

• From psychologist or doctors....

5. Counsel them in giving importance to the family set up first.

Counsel them in importance to the relationship

Counsel them that their children are their replacement to the world.

They need to understand child psychology and neurological complications of young brain,there are billions of microtransmeters unconnected.they can easily make new connections very easily in brain that's why need to be very careful while talking to them.

6. Be a creative parent in PARENTING.

Enforce discipline not by spanking.

Enforce discipline by giving incentives, early raise from bed, remove important previlages,.....which can help them to better than now.

7. If you want to be a good parent:

• you must balance love and discipline

• you must have the strength to make tough decisions

• you cannot let your child wear you down

• you need to stay calm during the heat of the moment (walk away if you cannot do this)

• you must convey what is right and what is wrong in a reasonable way

Parenting is a journey that takes plenty of patience and understanding, and there's no perfect recipe for what makes a good parent. While some parents follow textbook parenting techniques, others rely on their own instincts to make decisions and handle the behavior of their kids.

🔹Listening

While most parents believe they actually listen to their children when they speak, it's not hard to push your kids' short simplistic statements to the back of your mental priority box. Make sure, no matter your children's ages, that you take the time to listen to them. Acknowledging their thoughts will help them develop the confidence they need later to take risks and challenge themselves.

🔹Understanding

Listening only goes so far when understanding isn't attached to it. Make sure when your child speaks, you not only listen but take the time to understand their thoughts, fears and concerns. Understand their worries and woes at home and at school and ensure them that they matter to you. When you understand what's small to you is actually big to her, you reach a level of understanding that is bound to bring you closer together.

🔹Empathy

Especially until they learn to speak, parents need to be able to interpret their children's feelings

🔹 Ability to Express Love

No matter how many positive parenting skills you have, none can rival your ability and willingness to love your children. Make sure you set aside time each and every day to tell her how much you love her. Be it a simple love note in his lunchbox or a long hug and kiss before dropping him off at the sitter, the expression of love is by far the most important skill and trait you can give your child.

🍁 Conclusion:

🔹On Parenting:

Tirukkural  was written by Tiruvalluvar (a Tamil  poet/writer) more than 5,000 yrs ago. It’s one of the ancient sciences on Human Behaviour, which has not changed in spite of modern education  & technology!

▪️SOME GOLDEN THOUGHTS OF THIRUKKURAL:

1. If your children lie to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behaviour.

2. If your children are not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you’ve lost them.

3. If your children had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.

4. If your children do not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.

5. If your children take things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don’t let them chose what they want.

6. If your children are cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.

7. If your children do not respect other people’s feelings, it is because instead of speaking, you order & command them.

 

8. If your children are too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehaviour & you give little attention to good behaviour.

9. If your children are excessively jealous, it is because you congratulate them only when they successfully complete something & not when they improve at something even if they don’t successfully complete it

10. If your children  intentionally disturb you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.

11. If your children are openly defiant, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don’t follow through.

12. If your child is secretive, it is because they are sure that you would blow things out of proportion.

13. If your children back-answer to you, it is because they watch you do it to others & think its normal behaviour.

14. If your children don’t listen to you but listen to others, it is because you are too quick to jump to conclusions

15. If your children rebel it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right

🔹Positive Parenting!

 In my views responsible parenting means Know Your Child in the best way. A parent must know each nerve of his/her child. There are various roles a parent has to play such as a role model, best buddy, strict mother or father, best teacher, counselor etc as per the need of age of child, situation and need of the hour. Knowing your child doesn't mean to start overpampering, start spoon feeding and be like a police 24*7 around them. A parent must prepare the child physically, emotionally, socially and mentally to face the world independently, courageously for the most worse situations in life.

🔹Parenting....It an inescapable commitment

Parenting a child requires great commitment, love, patience, and a backbone to discipline. It is not an easy job, but it is the most rewarding job.

Most parents do some things right and do some things wrong. We usually learn a lot with our oldest and feel much better with the youngest, but there is no denying that each child is different and must be dealt with on an individual basis.

We want our children to grow up to become descent, productive members of society.

Responsible parents must guide them and discipline them along the way, so children’s experience growing up is filled with learning for success and the knowledge that their parents are going to be there to love, support, and advise them. Good parents understand the different ways to discipline a child appropriately. They understand that behavior with children comes in stages, and are able to deal with each stage effectively.

Irresponsible parents give into their children and don’t step up when their children need them the most.

In everyone of us there is Krishna and Gauravs. One who guides the next generation to the right path are Krishnas.

The manual of living is given to the human kinds according to their respective ages and times by the Almighty God. He is therefore blameless.

🔹Parenthood is about guiding, encouraging, and helping children to reach their goals.

⛔ It is love and forgiveness for mistakes a child makes.

⛔ It is appreciating and respecting a child's individuality and personality.

⛔ It is nurturing and developing a child's special talents.

⛔ Responsible parents are thoughtful parents who believe that parenthood is not just the act of bringing children in the world without thinking about the emotional, physical, and socioeconomic ramifications on the children in that family.

⛔ Responsible parents PLAN for their children and have children that they can afford to take care of emotionally, financially, and psychologically.

🔹Is It Okay to Be a Friend to my Children?

Answer

Being more of a friend than a parental figure can cause a lot of problems.

Children may not respect their parents' decisions or authority if they predominantly see their parents as friends.

When parents neglect to set rules and boundaries for their children, it is only natural for the kids to become brats or display unacceptable behaviors.

By being a friend instead of a parent, you do them a disservice. It is your choice if you want to be a positive role model or be a bad parent.

A parent's ability to manage tantrums, mistakes, and mischief wisely can help a child become a good citizen.

It is possible to have friendly interactions with your children while being a responsible parent.

You can have an open and trusting relationship with your children while maintaining your position as an authority figure.

🔹Signs of Bad Parenting

◼ Avoiding and Neglecting Your Child

◼ Physical or Verbal Abuse

◼ Setting a Bad Example

◼ Favoritism or Partiality

◼ Oppressive, Overbearing

Authoritarianism

◼ Irresponsible Financial Behaviour

◼ Too Much Pampering or Interfering

◼ Not Trusting the Child

Solutions:

◼ A child needs to feel loved and cherished. Pay attention to your children and prioritize their well-being. Make time to talk to your kids and bond with them. Make it clear to your kids that you love them and appreciate them.

◼ Avoid using spanking or insults as a form of punishment. Time-outs, losing privileges (like watching television, playing video games, or attending social events), receiving extra chores, or getting an earlier bedtime are good ways to punish children without inflicting harm upon them. If your methods are ineffective, consult a therapist or mental health professional. Therapists can help families improve their communication skills and they can help parents find better ways to interact with kids.

◼ Try to develop good habits for yourself. Your kids will observe how you treat yourself and they will learn from what they see. Stress the importance of wellness to your children so they will be less likely to adopt unhealthy or harmful habits.

◼ Even if you have a stronger bond with one child or prefer their company and personality over the other children, try not to show that you have a favorite. Take time to appreciate each of your children for who they are as individuals, and spend one-on-one time with each child to improve your bond with all of them.

◼ Give your kids the space and encouragement they need to be themselves. Allow them to explore their own interests and try not to force them to do unreasonable things. Take an interest in their hobbies and share your own with your kids without pressuring them to do exactly what you would do.

◼ Model good financial behavior to your children and talk to them about money. Explain to your children that they must earn their money, and talk about how they can receive an allowance in exchange for doing chores around the house. Help your kids save and spend wisely. It may be beneficial to set up a savings account for your kids so they can save some of their allowance and learn to budget what they have.

◼Let your children learn to solve problems on their own. Determine whether or not a problem is serious enough to warrant your interference or if it is something that your child can handle on their own. Allow your kids to fail or be disappointed without coming to their rescue every single time. Kids will become capable and self-sufficient when they are given the opportunity to do things for themselves. If they don't succeed in some manner, let them know that they can learn from every experience no matter what the outcome.

◼ Establish trust between yourself and your children. Let them know that they can always talk to you about what's going on in their lives or their feelings. Show your kids that you trust them too. When kids trust their parents they are more likely to be open about what's going on in their lives. Showing that you trust your child may help them act with more integrity and honesty when they interact with their parents or others.

🔹Remember:

You are not managing an inconvenience. You are raising a human being

Where parents do too much for their children, the children will not do much for themselves.

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[nerdintheforest]

Sanding and getting ready to finish

#mjolnir #mixed media #my crafts #stone carving #woodworking #resin pour #pocket rocks #overly complicated self punishment #wip #carving #woodcraft

[bratz-kitten]

trigger warning: eating disorders 

harsh moon-jupiter aspects (square, opposition, especially conjunction) can indicate, at its most extreme manifestation, an eating disorder. moon touching jupiter can mean that our eating habits are keyed to our emotional state – you can easily feel physically nauseated when you’re in a bad mental state because, when you’re sad, it’s like your body closes itself from its own basic needs; at the same time, whenever you feel empty or bored, you resort to over-eating. 

this can also indicate a mother (or any authority figure in your childhood, gender is a dumb concept anyway) who was very particular about the food you ate. perhaps whenever you wouldn’t eat they’d explode in a fit of anger, or they were very criticizing of your body so they forced you into diets, eating “properly” so you could fit the image that they wanted you to. you might’ve been forced to eat more than you needed. this could be especially frustrating if the person didn’t provide you with emotional support, instilling confusion as to why they care so much about your eating habits if they don’t care about giving you affection, or any other emotional need that isn’t being met. through those experiences, the native develops a complicated relationship with food; when the mother figure leaves the native’s life, they could resort to stop eating whenever they felt like “revolting”, or binge eat until they almost threw up just to be somehow in control of their pain. they could also develop a very distorted view of their appearance, thus causing an eating disorder. 

another indicator for developing an eating disorder is saturn in taurus – saturn places restrictions wherever he goes and this could indicate someone who obsessively focuses on their appearance and creates a sense of uncomfort in one’s own body or home, and a difficult relationship with food earlier in life. 

another indicator that i’ve found is jupiter in the 1st house. the 1st house deals with our sense of identity and, especially if it conjuncts the ascendant, our appearance – and placing jupiter here... i’ve observed it on people who are dependent on others’ validation in the younger years due to a lack of emotional support in the household (oftentimes, divorced parents), and turn to their friends for that. their bodies can have developed very early in life, making them prone to being made fun of in school for their weight or even bullied and overly sexualized. and because they placed their friends’ opinions so highly, it can cause them to believe there truly is something wrong with their appearance and they need to “fix” it, instilling in them a fear that they’re not good enough and a battle with themselves, their appearance, and food. 

now, this is more of a personal observation, but a lot of people with a heavy 6th house especially if it includes sun/moon/venus have struggled with an eating disorder. these people are self-aware to a painful extent and they extremely perfectionist especially with themselves – whenever they see a “flaw”, they do anything in their power to destroy it. the 6th house rules our daily routine, and when the native feels like they have no control over where their life is heading (and their biggest fear is losing control), they may try to exert control over what they’re eating, paying a lot of mind to calorie intake and trying all sorts of diets. they also tend to compare themselves a lot to other people; when they idealize someone who they look up to, ask themselves “why can’t i be like them?” and then start punishing themselves for not being perfect, and this can manifest itself in all sorts of ways, not just controlling their eating; it can come in the form of an insistent nagging voice in the back of their minds whose sole purpose seems to be to keep them from feeling themselves too much. they’re also very sensitive to criticism, so when someone makes a comment on their physical appearance, it sticks with them, especially in their younger years.

@rattaemin’s big brain helped me with these last two – another indicator can be saturn in the 1st house. like i said before, wherever saturn goes, it places restrictions, and the native feels their ability to express themselves inhibited. they’re hard on themselves, and all their insecurities and fears make it hard for them to see their worth clearly, and all the weight they put on their shoulders to look better, be better, fit in better with everyone else. they tend to have a distorted view of themselves especially in their younger years and it can be difficult for them understand their needs, ambitions and personality, making them strive for control in any way they can. it’s likely that they suffered bullying or had parents who were extremely hard on them, nitpicking at things they weren’t even aware of in themselves.

5th house stelliums can also indicate this, especially if the sun/moon/venus are present there. these people can be very dependent on others’ validation, most of them seem very confident but have a lot of insecurities deep down and cover that up with a big ego, so when they’re criticized for their appearance, it hurts them deep. they are extremely competitive and this competitiveness can extend into their appearance, almost “i have to be the must fuckable person in this grocery story or else” vibes, lmfao. because of this silent competition they have with others, they’re hard on themselves and develop a need to become “better” looking at all costs. it’s also very easy for them to get addicted to stuff – food, dieting, working out, coffee, substances, sex, social media.

in all of these cases, a journey that the native will have to face is developing a healthy relationship with food. i’ve also found that these placements, esp moon-jupiter, often make for vegetarians or vegans; they want their morals to align with every aspect of their life so they not only turn vegetarians but are very picky about using susteinable brand for clothing, makeup, all of that. once they get to that stage, food could start being treated as a priority, emotionally comforting. 

#moon-jupiter #moon-jupiter aspects #saturn in the 1st house #5th house stelliums #6th house stelliums #sun in the 6th house #moon in the 6th house #venus in the 6th house #sun in the 5th house #moon in the 5th house #venus in the 5th house #jupiter in the 1st house #saturn in taurus #astrology #capricorn #aries #pisces #cancer #taurus #virgo #leo #sagittarius #scorpio #libra #gemini #aquarius

[idw-sonic-fan-blog]

The Belle Problem

I do not dislike Belle the Tinkerer. In fact, I am quite ambivalent towards her. Of all the characters, Belle is the weakest and I can understand people actively disliking her but realize that I am not in the camp that equates the character to Chris Thorndyke, Princess Elise, and Sally Acorn.

1. Belle’s origin arc is overbearing and overwritten

At the time of writing, Belle has been the main focus of 10 straight issues. 10 straight issues of just figuring out her backstory through exposition.

This wouldn’t be so bad if these moments weren’t so misaligned in how it told them. When we meet Belle, she is in a derelict Eggman base. Now I may be alone in this thinking, but it wasn’t immediately apparent to me that she was a robot. To me, she was a puppet and it’s not even thing to consider or immediately assume she was anything else until both Sonic and Tails spilled the beans that she was a robot of sorts.

The leap from puppet to badnik that Sonic made kind of put me in thinking that Belle was something Eggman made which is not a connection I would have figured out myself immediately because Belle doesn’t resemble anything Eggman has ever created.

In my head, I thought it was a completely different doctor like Starline made her, but that is never considered. Instead, the comic narrative insisted that Eggman must have made her which becomes the easiest mystery ever solved for an origin. It was patently obvious right after the second issue of her debut that Mr. Tinker made her. But instead of nipping it in the bud when it basically spelled it out for the audience, the comic draws it out for a few more issues.

This was 7 issues after her debut. Even if it weren’t for the pandemic, drawing out a mystery whose answer to it is obvious for 7 months at least is annoying. It’s like Blues Clues or Blaze the Monster Machines level of treatment the audience’s intelligence. And yes, this is a comic targeted at children, but I reiterate those audiences I’ve brought up can’t even read. And child demographic is not an excuse for non-compelling writing especially since IDW staff has done that kind of origin reveal that didn’t placate to a perceived lowest common denominator with characters like Whisper and currently with Starline.

Reward viewers for paying attention and figuring it out. Not punish them by drawing the answer out.

And also, how the chose to reveal her backstory is misaligned.

Instead of having Belle talk about it and some arbitrary conversation, why not just go back to that village with Belle in tow and we get to see how the village treats her. And this should have happened much earlier than the eventual reveal that she is Mr. Tinker’s creation. There are several ways to do this like the Restoration gets a request from that village for assistance and Belle goes because that is what she is good at. Then we see how they regard her and characters like Whisper, Jewel, Tangle and Lanolin supervise this and wonder what the deal is. You give people pieces of the puzzle, not essentially finish most of the puzzle for them. Set up some red herrings along the way. But instead, we just get dragged along.

2. Belle is a relic of an annoying plot device

Mr. Tinker is a bit of an issue for Eggman fans. Fans don’t necessarily like that Eggman’s character is treated like he isn’t essentially different from his amnesiac personality or they are the same person. The issue comes from Sonic’s insistence that Eggman could be like Mr. Tinker and fans misreading that as if the narrative is saying that Sonic is blaming Eggman for not being Mr. Tinker. Belle doesn’t help because, not only does she not accept that Eggman and Tinker are and the same, it becomes this father/daughter dynamic for a character that wasn’t his normal self upon his conception of her. It’s like if you lost your memories and identity but you continue to live your life regardless and you have a child under this alterego. You get your memories back and your identity, but you have a kid now. And now the world is blaming you for not being the person who you were when you weren’t mentally stable. Sure, the kid never asked to be made but technically you never were in the right mind to make her.

It gets iffy. And sympathy for Belle gets tied to this and it just makes Eggman feel culpable and a deadbeat father. This is not to say that Belle isn’t unsympathetic because it is definitely sad but you can’t say Starline was in the wrong for treating Dr. Eggman through shock therapy. But again, so did the village. They tried to rehab Eggman too so it’s not like they just exploited him.

It’s complicated and done fans don’t like the complication at all.

3. Belle is overly prevalent

It’s bordering on spot light stealing and she is becoming a IDW’s version of Geoff. 10 straight issues of focus. That is more focus than any character has gotten consecutively. Even in issues where Belle isn’t part of the main narrative, she is part of the overarching plot. In comparison, Tangle and Whisper got the opposite treatment in spite of being massively more popular. They just sporadically appear now and days. If the Restoration is involved, they are there. Neither character has been involved in more than 5 straight issues. Belle is already set to appear and be the focus of 11. And before you say Starline, he has the excuse because he is a main antagonist if not the main antagonist of IDW and even he hasn’t overtaken the comic as much as Belle.

All in all, fans need a break from the character or else she will be reviled as much as Tommy the Turtle.

#sonic the hedgehog #idw sonic #idw sonic the hedgehog #belle the tinkerer

[jessamine-rose]

✿ God! Leona Kingscholar:: AU Lore and Worshipper! Reader ✿

Author’s note:: This is based on a self-indulgent AU created by me and @lovee-infected​ <3 I’d like to give full credit to @twstsauce​ since this AU would not have existed if I hadn’t read their post featuring another God! Twst character Σ੧(❛□❛✿)

The following headcanons are a combination of God! Leona lore and God! Leona x Worshipper! Reader content. This is rlly just me simping for Leona but I hope that all of you can enjoy this!!

T/w:: divine punishment, hopefully this post is in-character

♡ God! Leona is the primary god worshipped in the temple of Savanaclaw. Despite his own immense magic abilities and widespread popularity, he ranks lower than Farena and Malleus who have more worshippers and greater control over magic. So yeah, expect a few myths about their fiery conflicts--but also some wholesome myths detailing his softer, merciful side reserved for Cheka and weaker “herbivores” (such as Epel) ꒰˘̩̩̩⌣˘̩̩̩๑꒱

♡ He doesn’t bother with any complicated rituals or rules for his followers. He desires the best offerings, though, such as high-quality meat and valuable sacrifices. The temple statues and tapestries usually highlight his physical prowess as a god, though many also depict his intelligence and passiveness. You might even come across a few images of his Overblot form because honestly, what is more regal and magnificent than THAT ꒰ლ✘ㅿ✘ლ꒱

♡ Compared to the other dorm leaders, Leona is more passive. He rarely visits his temple except for divine interventions and big celebrations. In fact, he doesn’t even do much as a god--he’d rather rest than be overly concerned with frivolous issues. Internal and external conflicts among followers are usually resolved by Ruggie and Jack (the minor deities who are also worshipped in Savanaclaw) or by the other temple gods :>

♡ Nevertheless, if he does show up, everyone should be prepared. He’s going to appear in all of his glory, standing on the highest point of his temple with ominous green smoke and shadows and everything. Expect him to wear regal clothes, too, mainly Afterglow Savannah robes and gold jewelry and expect me to simp in the background  ⊂（♡⌂♡）⊃

♡ Honestly, you must really admire and understand Leona if you choose him as your god. He’s not the kind of god who responds to blind praise or needy prayers. That being said, he does know how to be a leader and he’s impressive when he wants to be. His tenacity, strength, and Savanaclaw values also make him quite the remarkable and venerable figure >:0

♡ Given his pride and superiority, it’s not a surprise that Leona is rarely swayed by his own worshippers. But let’s say that you’re different. A loyal follower who worships him, not out of blind faith but because you truly believe in him. Someone who holds a greater sense of respect and understanding for his personal complexities. And if you even go as far as to loyally pray for him and to give him your all.....well, you must be quite the special herbivore to catch his eye, aren’t you?? (°◡°)

♡ Leona is still an incredibly proud person, though, so don’t expect him to just mindlessly act on his feelings like some depraved god. He doesn’t want to be the subject of a great  love story or tragedy; he’d rather take his time. So he does just that. Has he been visiting his temple more often?? Tsk, this place is dedicated to him so he doesn’t need a reason to check on his worshippers. Is he spending time with a certain herbivore?? Just shut up and serve him. Huh, are you suddenly on the receiving end of respect and temple privileges?? It’s your herbivore imagination =3=

♡ At the end of the day, however, Leona is still selfish and possessive to a fault. So don’t blame him if he becomes a bit jealous of the herbivores with the audacity to act overly close to you within his temple. In fact, don’t try to act innocent when he asks about your brief visit to Malleus Draconia’s temple. He doesn’t care if you were just checking out another temple; he’s not going to lose his most important follower to some glorified lizard. He might just become serious and give you a divine punishment to make you remember who you devoted your life to 〣( ºΔº )〣

♡ Aaaahhh well, that punishment is up to your interpretation~ Whatever happens, be it an innocent nap or a kinky scenario, you’re never going to forget how enraged Leona was. He's your god, after all, and he’ll even elevate your status if it means spending his eternity with his favorite herbivore. So keep praising him, okie?? Continue worshipping him and let him know just how important he is to you. Your reward will come soon  ೭੧(❛▿❛✿)੭೨

♡

.......AHAHAHAHAHA GOD! LEONA YOU’RE SO HOT AND POWERFUL PLS STEP ON ME ALSDNFELFNFFEE  I AM BUT YOUR INFERIOR FOLLOWER WITH A HEAD FULL OF DUMB sksksksksksk TwT

Tag a Leona simp!! @twisted-crumpets @theblackbirdsgemimagines​ @leonameowzz​​@tsunonotarou​ @jangmi-latte​ @leviskokoro​ @aivy-saur @yandere-wishes​​

#leona kingscholar #leona kingscholar x reader #twst leona #twst #twisted wonderland #g/n reader #jessamine-writing

[forgiveness-in-the-misery]

Toki’s Psychological State Through the Seasons

Toki is by far for me personally the most interesting member of Dethklok; I know to some degree he’s deemed as a potentially over hyped character by fans and even the show itself, but there’s countless reasons why people cling onto that character, and they’re good reasons. Even if said reasons just come down to “I think he’s neat.” that’s valid.

For me I am so fascinated with his character development, personality, and the varied chunks of background information we get about him throughout the series. A big part of this character is that when you look at him in season one compared to season four he is very different or at least he appears to be much different. Season one does establish that Toki does have a childish personality, his bedroom looks more like a room for a kid than one for a guy in his 20s. Season one establishes those basic facts about him that do heavily carry out through the show, but also increase as the show goes on.

Toki goes from immature but not overly immature to....a complete fucking wreck by the finale of season four (before Doomstar) and the reason for it is simple; it’s trauma.

Toki starts to act differently in season one after the Dethfamily episode; he spends practically that entire episode in a catatonic state, his parents always looming nearby like figures of danger and doom. After this we do get to him being bitter about being seen as immature and seen as the kid of the band (despite the fact he was barely 16 when he joined Dethklok) and when a charity informs him that a dying girl wants to meet him he turns into a complete prick. He finally comes out of that when he sees a video the kid made of herself singing a song about death and hatred, with that scene we see a small flashback of Toki’s childhood; him about the little girl’s age standing out in the snow staring up at his parents looking confused and a moment later he’s being smacked across the face. 

We could already gather beforehand when we found out he came from a very devout religious sect outside of Lillehammer that his childhood was sketchy, plus how he locked up when around his parents, but seeing the flashback of him being hit as a little boy.....Answers the obvious question of “did they beat him?”

Season one is the least eventful of the seasons. Season two is when shit begins changing drastically.

Season two Toki receives a call to inform him that his father has cancer and is on his death bed, the family and the church wants him to return to Norway to see his father. He acts completely fine about this initially, the phone conversation and the way he announces his father’s terminal illness to the band is as if somebody just asked to borrow his car. When it gets close to time to actually go and when they are in Norway it’s different though; he becomes anxious and clearly uncomfortable, in Norway he stays in town mostly, stalling around places he went to as a kid and a teenager before he ran off to America. 

He does handle his father’s dying well once he finally convinces himself to go inside his house and see him then follow through with his father’s dying request to carry him up to his old childhood home (which goes wrong because his friend’s are dicks.) 

I am not going to go into personal detail at all and my situation was nothing like Toki’s (it’s incredibly rare to hear situations like that anymore), but Toki handling his father’s passing freakishly well kind of was a red flag for me, because I know from my own experiences that when you find out something complicated like a terminal illness or the death of your abusive parent theres’ a chance you may respond way too calmly to it, and then later down the line days or months or years later something will trigger a big reaction to it. Which is what happens.

After handling his dad’s death well we get the most iconic scene involving Toki at that point and honestly still the most iconic; he beats a man to death with his bare hands. The thing that triggers this is a hallucinated image of a rabbit, an animal he associates both with his father and his childhood, the image of it triggers him to fly into an insanely feral blind rage taking it out on a guy who had been annoying him all night. Toki has always throughout the entire series shown signs of being a tad violent, but never THAT bad. Sure he shot down a plane and had accidentally caused a death or twenty (the whole band is, it’s part of the sacrifices to the Gods deal) but we had never seen him before or after that moment beat somebody to death. That is new and it came from a place of pent up....shit. Shit he never worked through and even after that continued to not work through.

Because after this we lead into him worsening further; he begins drinking. A lot. The band consist of dudes with addiction issues, mainly alcohol, but Toki never seemed to drink quite as much as them until after he went feral on that straight edge guy. 

Toki deals with his childhood trauma in several ways:

He drinks. A lot.

He focuses on fantasy and daydreams to keep himself from focusing on his past.

He spends a lot of time with Dr. Rockso who takes advantage of his kindness often, he also spends gross amounts of money bailing his clown buddy out of jail. Constantly.

He occasionally gets violent, but never to the point of manslaughter.

Seasons three and four are when we get fully introduced to Toki acting like a kid more than a guy in his 20s and it makes sense. Toki didn’t have a childhood; we learn that his parents essentially made him into a slave at a young age having him do pointless “chores” like sweeping snow during a storm, carrying stacks of wood much too heavy for a small child, etc. and when he failed to work quickly enough or failed a task they punished him. They punished him by locking him in a shed, they punished him by chaining him up like an animal, they punished him by smacking him, by beating him with a bull whip, and worst of all (who knew it could get worse) they would force him to stay for long periods of times in a deep hole dug into the ground. A hole where he hid a clown doll made of twigs and straw, the only friend he had as a little kid.

From all that we can gather through the show he didn’t exactly have a social life of any kind until his teens, the older he became the braver I think he became, and that was responded to with worse violence from his parents. I think the statement in season one about a vision of father killing son wasn’t totally off, I think if Toki had never run away from Norway that his father would have murdered him. I think his parents knew somehow that he isn’t entirely human, they knew he was something else, and I do think his parents had plans to kill him before he could become “too powerful”. 

That aside though.....Once we the audience as well as his friends find out far more details about his horrifying childhood Toki changes. A lot. He’d already been immature and a tad bit off but he regresses further after that, more prone to depression and outbursts, clinginess, and a need to feel like he’s loved by pretty much anybody.

This is a dude who is about my age that came to the horrid realization that any person or animal he loves will die because that’s his “gift”, the gift of death. He works his ass off to repress and rationalize a brutally nightmarish childhood, and the guys he’s in a band with who he loves and sees as his family....are dicks. We know that when he joined Dethklok before they got famous that they were all close, but when they began becoming popular and became immensely wealthy the others became more focused on self indulgence and power, less focused on this still a child who desperately just wanted a family.

I think a key factor with Toki being the way he is comes down to the band’s “no caring” rule. A rule that only existed because of Magnus. Toki is the baby in a group of people who have known each other for a good while, people who came to an agreement to not give a shit about each other for a reason they never explained to him because it’s too painful for them to think about. I think he always tried to live by that rule of not caring, he tried to bury all the shit wrong with himself the best that he could but he was never good at it. It’s also clear they all care about each other and they definitely care about Toki; Nathan and Skwisgaar often being the most protective of him. 

In season four aka the season where the show becomes less of a comedy and more of a drama with stunning animation. Toki is immensely more immature and awkward, he’s clingy with the band especially where Skwisgaar is regarded. Near the end of season four he’s completely fucked up; he splits his time between Rockso (his comfort object) and Magnus (a father figure to replace Nathan) in the dinner episode which has so much going on in it. So much. Toki is at his lowest point in the series; he shows up late, drunk as fucking hell, shirtless, and covered in bruises and cuts. Rockso is with him and when Charles tries to tell him Rockso shouldn’t be there Toki goes into a full fucking anxiety attack until Charles tells him it’s fine to have the clown there. Toki’s heavily dependent on Rockso by that point; his found family is quickly falling to shit. God knows what kind of shit Magnus might have been feeding him about the band at that point. 

Toki’s entire thing from day one/the pilot of the series is that he just wants a family. When he feels like he doesn’t belong in the one that he found and was taken in by he searches for family in other places, when he can’t handle the memories of his childhood he spirals hard. I understand that the guys didn’t really know how to handle it after they heard about Toki’s childhood so I can’t fault them completely for just.....shoving him off onto Rockso after that, but I still think they should have tried to be there for him more so, more directly. I think an outlet that isn’t a drug addled clown might have helped him in some way, I think if when he’d been a teenager if one of them had found out about his upbringing and just pointed out “that isn’t okay, at all.” then things might have panned out differently. 

Mental regression isn’t uncommon when it comes down to victims of trauma caused by extreme abuse. Especially considering his trauma all occurred basically from the get go; he was a child slave, the closest I would guess he ever got to having a childhood when he was a kid was seeing other kids childhoods. Going into town and seeing kids playing, sneaking into birthday parties just to be around other kids his age, etc. and he definitely was childish as a teenager, but I think he tried to bury that side of himself when his bandmates started teasing him or pointing out how unmetal it all is.....But then a douche bag journalist brought his parents to America, a little girl died, his abusive father died horribly (as he should) in front of him, he beat a man to death (allegedly), etc. 

He spent a lot of years away from all the trauma and the death and the bull shit then suddenly it started piling on top of him again and his escapism was fantasy, clinging onto a junkie clown, partaking in childish hobbies.....because why not? 

Each member of the band suffered some messed up shit when they were kids and it shows in different ways, this is Toki’s way of dealing with it....or not. I’m not entirely sure what his psychological state would be post Doomstar; the way he bounces back from immense trauma makes me think that he would be okay given some time and that’s a safe assumption to make, especially now that his bandmates/family will be there for him the way he needs them to be.

I want to tag @theidiotwiththepaintedface who hopefully will enjoy this painfully long deep dive into a character’s psychology lol.

#metalocalypse #dethklok #toki wartooth #character analysis #tw: child abuse

[silyabeeodess]

FusionFall Headcanons: Mandark Industries

For those caught in Aku’s reign, the aesthetics of Mandark Industries and some of its militaristic projects are a reminder of a dark time.  Nevertheless, it’s established an independent identity through Mandark himself and the wide-variety of impressive tech that’s come out of the company.  Matching its head, it’s a brand that demands attention in the scientific world. 

Some people view the company as the next rising villainous organization, following the steps of those like Evil Con Carne.  While these assumptions aren’t baseless--Mandark’s intentions aren’t known to be pure and much of his early projects came from studying the tech of those like Aku’s many evil scientists--the situation is a lot more complicated than most people are aware of.  Mandark’s evil side comes more from his conceited selfishness than a desire to control or destroy.  In the Dexter’s Laboratory special “Ego Trip,” we see how his is taken to an extreme through his rivalry with Dexter leading him to become both a global and corporate tyrant as an adult.  However, in the CN crossover comic series “Super Secret Crisis War!,” while siding with the other villains initially, it’s also shown that Mandark won’t go so far as to destroy (at least his) world and would even go against orders from someone like Aku to protect it.  FusionFall’s Mandark is likely closer to the latter example given his own efforts in the invasion: His spiteful and self-centered nature can lead him to becoming a horrible person that truly could hurt others, but he’s not quite there yet and there’s a chance for him to grow.  The decisions he makes and what direction he takes his company in turn, whether positive or negative, are often influenced by his need to feel superior. He can be swayed toward either path at any time, whether it be thanks to an investor with truly bad intentions whispering the things he wants in his ears or the companionship of the employees who’ve stuck with him despite his behavior. This makes both him and Mandark Industries fall into many morally grey practices.

Following the company slogan, “Genius by any standard,” the company prides itself on quality the most.  If a product releases that isn’t up to standard or gets a lot of complaints for its quality, someone’s probably getting punished either for making the company look bad or because the boss himself is disappointed.  Whatever they release has to be the best on the market: If not, both Mandark and many employees that share his mindset can take it personally.  Nevermind Dexlabs, this makes them strong competition for any rival company period.      

While the Mandroids are far from charismatic retailers for the company, Mandark Industries has surprisingly good customer support.  Whoever’s on the other end of the line might not be all that charming either and typically won’t go out of their way to win you over--there’s a chance you might get subtly insulted if it’s someone that talks over your head and/or doesn’t have the patience to explain things in simpler terms--they almost always know what they’re doing in tech support and will easily help you replace/repair faulty products.      

As an employee, there’s a good chance you won’t see Mandark much directly in the workplace.  He just expects his employees to do their jobs and doesn’t interact with them much unless they leave a certain impression or are higher up in the company.  In those cases, he can be pretty exhausting at times.  He’s stubborn, overly particular, and a braggart.  He’s lost more secretaries and interns for his attitude than most people will bother keeping track of.  You need to have a lot of patience with him or the ability to talk him down.  Negative impressions with the boss can lead to nitpicking and bullying while positive impressions mean a person might not get much space from him--possibly even out of the workplace because he can start to rely on them too much for either their role in the company or for affirmation.  

While there are some high-risks at the company like over at Dexlabs, the biggest complaints for general working conditions there are toward the unfriendly nature of a lot of the Mandroids one would work with and the atmosphere.  The sharp, black and red aesthetics are an acquired taste for many that can easily feel dark or oppressive in the long-term.  Because of this, breaks are often spent outside.  It became such an issue early on in the company that Mandark had to install more windows to increase natural lighting and make the outdoor area as open and pleasant as possible.  This is why it’s really only the main building of Mandark Industries that follows his aesthetic when both he and Dexter share Tech Square pretty evenly.  

A lot of Mandark Industries’ vehicles stay on top of their most popular products among general consumers. Based on the descriptions for Mandark Industries’ hovercar and jetbike specifically named after the company, the vehicles were made for fun, profit, and to outperform the vehicles sold at Dexlabs.  The jetbike was likely the beginning of that particular part of the rivalry between the companies since the description for the Dexlabs version of it makes no mention of being built for comparison while Mandark Industries’ jetbike does.  With that being said and Mandark’s airship remaining in working condition while Dexter’s was overtaken in the Green Maw, I think Mandark Industries’ vehicles/transport in general see the best success between the two companies with the exception of the Slider and similar public transportation.  

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[astaroth1357]

How to Calm Your Demon Boyfriend; Vol 2

So You Pissed Him Off, Have You?

Notice: Due to an impending lawsuit for libel and misinformation, Mammoney, Inc. has filed for bankruptcy. All past guides from their company have been revised and re-released. All future printing will be handled Solo Man, Press.

Oh? Is there trouble in your devilish paradise? Well, there’s bound to be a spat or two between lovers but things can get... complicated if one half of your pair could easily wipe out a nation. Attempting to calm down your demon can be tricky, however in this volume of How to Calm Your Demon Boyfriend we will be covering the best methods available for you to do just that! With our instructions and a deft touch, you’ll manage to avoid your boyfriend’s hellish rage and get right back to enjoying that tender, sacrilegious relationship you’ve come to love!

This volume only covers if your demon boyfriend is mad at YOU. If there is SOMEONE ELSE making him mad, please consult Volume One!

Lucifer’s mad at You

You are in a very tricky situation so treat your next actions with the utmost care…

First, ascertain who is at fault for what has occurred. If it’s you, then figure out the severity. A minor infraction can be smoothed over easily enough with some explanation and sincere apology.

More severe breaches of trust will be harder get past. Plead your case but don’t attempt to excuse your actions. Acknowledge fault and, again, apologize. If he seems receptive, attempt to touch him in some way like on the hand or arm but no higher. This a literal demonstration of your attempt to reconnect.

This is the best that you can do for now, but he should acknowledge your efforts as long as you approached it correctly.

If it’s his fault… as far as he’s concerned it’s still your fault, unfortunately. It’s the pride in him speaking. 

Ask him what he believes you’ve done wrong and assess from there. Some things may be better to give a brief apology to, but no more. You don’t need to explain yourself for something you didn’t do. It may be best to leave him for a few hours after this and let tensions cool.

If the accusation is too egregious, you have the option to not apologize at all. This will likely anger him further if you give no explanation, though. Explain why you don’t think you should have to say sorry, then leave. Call for his brothers if you need someone there to intervene.

Now you wait. Unfortunately, it's an inevitability. Lucifer will need time to process and do a post-mortem on what happened. If he was truly the one at fault, he’ll acknowledge it to himself but never admit it out-loud. He may extend an olive branch in the form of a gift (the size and expense of which will be directly proportional to how much he messed up) but that will be it.

If you forgive him, then life can return to normal. If not, consult our other material: Can I Breakup with My Demon Boyfriend?

Mammon’s mad at You

It is first important to discern between his usual “anger” and actual anger.

If you see any of these signs: Blushing, stuttering, overly defensive denials, general tsundere-ness then you are likely only dealing with “anger.” Feel free to tease appropriately.

If these signs are not there then something is very wrong. Find out what it is, he will be forthright with a little persistence. (i.e. bug him until he says something. He will likely want to tell you anyway)

Attempt to remedy the problem as quickly as possible. This will no small matter. A truly upset Mammon should not be ignored.

If you have done something wrong, an apology may be in order. Do be sincere if you can because Mammon will appreciate the effort.

Cheer him up with either compliments or physical contact, head pats and cuddles work most effectively. If his face is red, though, you’re likely on the right track in general.

He isn’t one to hold a grudge so this should settle any brief irritation that’s derailed your relationship. Take care not to upset him this much again in the future.

Leviathan’s mad at You

Again, he’s probably jealous but now he’s going to be jealous and possessive. Admittedly, not the best combination.

Stay. Calm. If he’s already hysterical then adding onto the situation won’t do anyone any good. Patience may be difficult to hang onto, but it’s crucial to getting through this on the other side.

Physical contact is still important but NOT TOO EARLY. If he has his guard up he may just slap away your attempts to touch him.

Chances are he’s already built up a narrative in his head. This will not be easy to combat, especially if his suspicions aren’t true.

Denial will be tricky. You don’t want him to accept his false narrative as truth, but there’s going to be only so many times you can say, “No, that didn’t happen” before he stops believing you.

Deny his story first, firmly and with no room for doubt then redirect the conversation to asking why he’s so worried about it. Get to the heart of what’s making him feel so self-conscious and start soothing him from there. He’ll be feeling vulnerable, so a delicate touch is necessary.

NOW is the time for physical contact. He still needs to know you’re there so you should get as close to him as possible. He’ll probably be holding onto you pretty tightly. He won’t mean to bruise you if he does. 

Hold him close and don’t even think about letting him go until he’s ready. He needs to know that you'll stay with him even if this is what he has to offer. Your embrace is not just reassurance, it’s a promise. I hope you're prepared to keep it.

For more on how to comfort Levi, please seek out: How to Comfort Your Demon Boyfriend.

Satan’s mad at You

Oh my, aren’t you in a pickle? The focus should be on the immediate concerns first, then the long term. Don’t try to resolve both at once.

The immediate concern is that you have a very ticked off Wrath in front of you and he will make his displeasure known. Apologize. Apologize now. Is it actually your fault? Who knows. That's a long term concern and you should focus first on getting him to calm down fast.

Satan will not listen to reason right now, especially not if you're the only one offering it so don’t even try.

Do not, I repeat, DO NOT attempt to touch an angry Satan. He's going to be far too gone for cuddle time to smooth things over.

You should give him space. He likely doesn't want to be mad at you and is very aware of just how dangerous this situation is for you both. If you take a step back, he'll do what he needs to in order to calm himself down (which is probably going to involve property damage of some kind but better it a bookshelf than you).

Wait until he is no longer shouting, then you may approach and carefully plead your case. You better have some airtight logic if you want to convince him he's actually the one in the wrong about something, but if he is he will apologize.

Of course, if you are at fault then you should apologize and attempt to explain. Even if you don’t have the best justification, you can still win him back if you can prove you had good intentions.

Unfortunately, even if he understands your reasoning he may still be a little miffed... Speaking candidly, if there's still residual anger left it may be best just to f*ck it out. This is not a joke, it's a legitimate way to redirect lingering negative emotions in a relationship. So have at it, I suppose. Just have a safe word ready because you'll need it.

Asmodeus’ mad at You

Again, reason and logic will fail you, especially at the very start. He WILL be upset and he WILL lash out. Likely verbally.

DO NOT engage in a fight of insults with Asmodeus. Not only will you lose but the situation may escalate to the point that your relationship will suffer permanent damage.

Remain calm, but you need not take the abuse. You are well within your right to tell him that you will leave the room if he does not cease the hostility. Don’t mean this idly either because your presence will be very important to Asmo. He hates to be ignored.

If you must leave, do so. Don’t turn back even if he pleads. Wait for him to come to you, because he will, and then a civil conversation can commence. Apologize if necessary.

After his initial anger has passed, Asmo will be very quick to feel remorseful. Despite his ferocity, he should be rather forgiving (at least to you anyway).

He will want make-up sex, for his own comfort if nothing else, but as always he will not force the matter. It may be much sweeter than usual, though, because that’s his way of saying “I’m sorry.”

Beelzebub’s mad at You

Oh dear.... You have either denied/stolen his food, hurt his family, or somehow just really ticked him off...

If you denied him food, get more.

If you hurt his family, plead for mercy.

If you’ve just really, really ticked him off, I’m not even sure what you did but you probably ought to apologize and maybe rethink your life choices... They must not be very good.

Belphegor’s mad at You

This will happen, but again Belphegor is pretty lazy. He’s more likely to give you the silent treatment than he is to blow up in your face.

Your challenge now is to get him to talk to you. Unlike with Mammon, he won’t be itching to say anything so a slight nudge isn’t going to cut it.

Start by trying to be frank about the situation. Attempt to sit him down and say that you wish to talk things out. Be empathetic, approachable, and sincere. This should elicit at least some attention from him for most issues.

If he intends on holding out further, then you have already done your part to the best of your ability. Leave the door open to that discussion, but go about your day until he’s ready for it. It won’t be easy, nor will it feel good, but it’s important to set boundaries and not allow his silence to punish you when things could be worked out more productively.

I assure you, Belphie does love you and he will miss you. It may take a little time, but he will eventually approach you to have that talk. Resolve what happened together and then things can return to normal, cuddles and all.

If you are looking to calm down your demon before he hurts someone else, please consult Volume One: Tame Demons, Save Lives!

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