#no he doesnt have npd or aspd.

[solittles]

thinks about dave k's bad take on hickey n his potential personality disorder. gets upset again .

#he literally says “idk enough abt pds to have a proper take” and then proceeds to have a horrific take #“sorry everyone who studies psychology” #apologising to psych students but not to the ppl with pds listening who u keep harming with your horrible take? great #not that we were ever considered human to begin with (which dave k proves as he keeps talking abt hickey) #anyway my hot and correct take is that hickey has bpd. #no he doesnt have npd or aspd. #everyone is always like evil = npd/aspd #or worse. calls them emotionless & low empathy and psychopaths #psychopathy isnt a diagnosis. having low empathy/few emotions =/= evil or inhuman #also like. dave talks about how hickey would use his hyper vigilance to be a better manipulator #i love how everyone seems to forget that the symptoms ppl with pds have isn't something we choose or can use. it's just the way we are #because of severe childhood trauma..... #but nooo lets not talk about pds being trauma disorders because then u would have to consider us human beings who have hurt #and keeps hurting #he also says that hes not sure hickey can feel real emotions. adjacent to saying he may have a pd. #as if not a lot of suffering from having pds comes from how we can't handle how intense our emotions are in relation to society #so we end up repressing every emotion to survive the day. because if we allow ourselves to feel #we'll end up hurt again #anyway #bpd hickey truther 4ever #elliot screams

[theokusgallery]

i have bad news for anyone who expects mental illness to be family friendly

^ yeah!

#thats a pretty good summary of it. #ask #anon #arsenic #ok ill rant about the au and mentall illness— nick's not diagnosed with anything. doesnt mean he doesnt #- /have/ anything. #mostly im thinking npd and bpd but this dude just. is not self aware at all. nobody ever told him. oops #im also giving him low empathy because i'll give low empathy to any character im obsessed with #(read: im projecting) (same way im making sunny trans. have i ever mentioned sunny's trans in this AU) #anyway. sunny's autistic but ive said that one before #nick is a psychiatrist's wet dream i think. #for the record i dont think people with npd or bpd are evil. im not evil. my friends are not evil #this AU doesnt exist to be good representation! sorry #anyway narcissistic abuse is not a real thing and aspd was made up by psychiatrists who thought that surely people being violent- #- means they're mentally ill. they based the diagnostic criteria off of criminals. the dsm is made up and none of this is real #i could rant about the way PDs are treated for hours. do NOT give me an opportunity to do so #this AU is not good rep but if someone starts calling nick a psychopath or a sociopath i will bite ! #omori #rant

[moonlingering]

light yagami hcs but theres actually a psychoanalysis for some of them

— light has social anxiety. HEAR ME OUT!!!! he wouldnt admit it to anyone (himself included). for him it doesn’t manifest in the way where he apologizes for everything, stutters over his words, etc. instead; he grew up not able to make friends easily because it was always hard to relate when he was already so much more mentally developed than everyone else, and his mom caught on to this, so being the kind mother she is, sachiko tries to make him feel better about it because she thought that it upset him. same w his father. so growing up he was constantly told that he was just more mature than his peers and ir wasnt his fault, which caused him to develop a superiority complex, “i don’t have friends because im better than everyone else, and they bore me.” was probably his thought process, similar to how tomoko (watamote) is w her social anxiety, he blames everyone else for his loneliness rather than thinking there’s something wrong with him. again, similarly to tomoko, he changes the way he is to seem more normal even if he doesnt care to surround himself w people. he overthinks every conversation he has even before he becomes kira and is constantly questioning if he seemed normal enough 😧

— light likes carrot cake. no reason for this one except i rly like carrot cake so he obviously has to be the biggest fan of carrot cake ever

— if the death note didnt exist, and light didnt become kira and neither did anyone else, he would’ve experienced gifted kid burnout for the first time in his life being absolutely bored out of his mind, and he would’ve become severely depressed, borderline suicidal because it seemed like nothing mattered anymore and slowly but surely, he wouldve stopped having the motivation to participate in school, stopped trying to seem normal for the ppl around him, stopped talking to anyone in general, and likely became a recluse or kill himself. i say this bc i think the only reason he never became like that is bc he became kira, giving him a ‘purpose’ in life (passing judgement)

— light has a short temper, due to constantly having to mask around people. he tried to take his moms advice on making a friend in like 4th grade and when he came home, he went straight to his room, locked the door, and screamed into his pillow for a good 30 minutes from pure exhaustion and exasperation. safe to say he stayed polite after that, but never tried to have a genuine conversation with anyone ever again. this fueled his superiority complex probably, enforcing the belief that he was smarter and just generally better than everyone else around him.

— if he ever met beyond, b would absolutely test his patience. im under the belief that if they were acquaintances for a while, light would’ve tried to strangle b at least once. it would not work, and b would find that hilarious, because light doesnt like getting his hands dirty, and the first and only time he tries, he fails miserably. bloodmoon truthers i love you

— he has 97 mental illnesses and is banned from most public spaces /ref (personally i hc him w npd, aspd, avpd, & ocd)

— he got a cat when he moved out of his parents house and would absolutely go batshit (even more so) if anything ever happened to it. like a john wick situation. also the cats name is ai (愛), meaning love in japanese :3

— bloodmoon hc #2 , in the situation where instead of dying, b finds light on the staircase and saves him, fixing him up himself instead of going to a hospital for obvious reasons. also light would give up ownership of the book to b, but would have the book with him at all times to keep his memories. light hates him at first both because b is a murderer and bc he reminds light too much of L. over time they become sort of replacements for each other. light sees L in b, and b sees A in light (physical similarities for both)

— light despises apples. hes always pictured w them bc of ryuk, but thats exactly why he hates them. ryuk would have him buy every apple he sees, or just apple themed things and light would be sooo pissed and yell at ryuk for draining his wallet

— light has a phobia of needles. whenever he has to get a shot or something he’ll keep a tight-lipped smile but would be freaking the fuck out in his mind

ummm thats all for now methinks. yea ^_^ light is literally me so this is all very real trust

#death note #light yagami #light death note #beyond birthday #bloodmoon #ryuk death note #light yagami hcs #canon trust

[centi-pedve]

been scouring the regretevator wiki cause i was curious (terrible wiki btw i am so sorry. one page has a citation that just links to some discord bullshit which people who are not in the server obviously cant see) anyways i am getting a terrible impression of the creator(?) and i would be interested in your thoughts on this business if youd be willing to share :3

oh goodness gracious... well we do have Some thoughts and we dunno if they match your own concerns since, we purposefully don't go out looking for whatever the creator has said but yeah even from a distance it's. Not looking good. (Already mentioned some of these before but for the sake of putting it in one place we'll be redundant)

definitely has his own takes on certain characters, headcanons, and the like. it was silly at first but as time went on and the more effort he put into pushing negativity over certain things the less fun it became. we think, if you want people to dislike a character, you try and make them dislikeable within the context of the story and then let people form those opinions. rather than being weird about the fact that there are still people who do like the character and punishing them by denying them the most basic things or even involving them in the story at all because Doesn't Deserve It. yes this is primarily about unple/asant

related but... too much of a reliance on telling stories with twitter or other unofficial platforms. did we learn nothing from the dumbledore is gay tweet. like a huge amount of information on the wiki that is very important to understanding the characters are just is NOT in the game, like if you played the game fully you'd still need to rely on the wiki to be able to participate in fandom. honestly a large part of that is why we're so biased towards certain characters! unple/asant and infe/cted are the only characters with lore and trivia and such that we've bothered to go on the wiki for and memorize. we've played the game for hours and hours but that doesnt mean much lol. once again, unple/asant especially, it literally DOESN'T TALK or participate in ANY of the active dynamic story because Doesn't Deserve It but there's still things to know about unple/asant and people who like the game just want something!! like dunno the overuse of social media in storytelling just makes it so much more unfun, we don't like how information is released and the fact that we need to rely on external material that... is sometimes taken back because the creator has gone on record Just Saying Shit. favorite example vv

Which is really funny considering it has 1 piece of dialogue on the game. So it can physically speak, and is also not "mewing 24/7" by result of having that dialogue (pretty sure the creator was just encouraged to say that without giving a fuck but, whatever). but the things that happen in game are second to the creator's twitter feed AMIRIGHTFELLAS

3. the,. the ableism. we've heard people tried to bring it up with the creator in the past and they were ignored so we feel comfortable mentioning it lol. bi/ve is a stereotype of someone who suffers from paranoia really, we mean we love her but... lol... and we will say it again pe/st should not canonically have npd or aspd. like omggg the evil character that robs people has two pds negatively stereotyped as belonging to evil people we're sure there was no bias in this decision. maybe we'd be less bothered if people didn't treat it as so serious and pretend to be cluster b allies like "you have to give him some understanding cuz he has aspd and npd 🥺" like no because he's evil, also maybe it wouldn't hurt to care about real people with those pds instead of a caricature. also the half-hearted throwing around of the word "mute" for unple/asant has been pointed out as ableist by a lot of people.

tldr uhhh wuhgghh NOT A PERSONAL ATTACK nobody get us (: nobody talk us...

#asks #good morning! (starts bitching

[argentsunshine]

anon with the add on back :

yeah, now that you explain it does make a bit more sense but it. just hurts because whereas they acknowledged yusuke blantantly lying about madarame stealing his work, they seem to just completely kind of ignore akechi's warnings and that doesnt even make sense to me.. they dont even really acknowledge it, all because they dont know who he's working for until the last minute, and that doesnt make sense to me at all. but ty for taking ur time to ramble: i actually do it myself a lot, and i have so many thoughts abt so many things that i'd like to explore more in depth but can't put in words myself .. i'd just wish theyd atleast acknowledge that akechi is being used the same way everyone else was instead of ignoring it, even if they still cant continue to aid him: it feels like they didnt try (to me), even with ryuji's ... hatred for him, i'd atleast think that ryuji would atleast try to acknowledge it and want to do something but being unable to instead of still being an ass, even if goro is one as well (and i think, speaking of mental illness, as someone with npd and aspd and avpd, goro has both symptoms of npd and aspd: futaba has symptoms of avpd, but thats a topic at a later time.) and i think goro's not truly being himself in 3rd sem when he's blunt and mean, that he's still constantly masking, as people with npd and or aspd do like myself, and he's tired of being nice on tv so he has to pull thin insults when in real life because as much as he masks, it gets annoying, and he (along with myself and many others) likely has low empathy and just thinks of others (especially those of ryuji's caliber, as much as i love ryuji and everyone else) as , well put, idiots, because they dont know as much as he does, and the fact that they know more than him in the metaverse has likely made him crash (his engine room was essentially an npd crash, i think), but them not knowing "basic information" (as my brain puts) likely gives him a narc high, which also leads to thinly veiled insults.. adding onto the npd goro akechi, i think akira is his ep (Equal Person-- people w/ npd hold them to high standards, higher than they hold for themselves, and expects them to challenge eachother-- essentially akechi's rivalry with akira.. in alternative, bpd akira tells me that akechi is his FP, but i can discuss that at a later time)

regardless, and apologizes for this long paragraph, tysm for responding because that does make things a little clearer, and no one's really talked to me about it before, so thank you :D

yeah, i absolutely get where you're coming from - although i think the statement "they're ignoring his warnings because they don't know who he's working for" has the flipside of "by the time those warnings are given, the thieves already know he's the black mask and is presumably being manipulated by someone, so he's not actually warning them about anything they don't already know"

but yeah, the only reason i don't think they should have reached out to him pre-engine room is that i don't know when in the story that would have been an option: their plan to find out who his boss was wouldn't have worked if they'd tipped him off to the fact that they knew he was the black mask, and after 11/20, he thinks Akira's dead, and i doubt he would gave listened to any of the others. i think Ryuji's treatment of him us also kind of a result of Ryuji's general main story characterisation - in game the vibe is very much that ryuji doesn't like him because he's popular and smarmy and talked shit about the thieves on live tv, rather than the fact that he's a murderer, but they don't let ryuji have complex takes on things in the story ever. now im thinking about their relationship in my palace au lmao. if i were to frame it in more. terms. idk. ryuji hates the detective prince. but akechi doesn't respect ryuji so ryuji has no reason to try harder

and on the npd/aspd front - I'm not super familiar with npd but i can absolutely see that (i think akechi has a bunch of obvious Mental Illness Symptoms that are common to a lot of things, which is why i think mentally ill bitches latch onto him no matter what's going on. people saying he has npd have always sounded right to me i think he's autistic also because -- well you heard what i said about unsympathetic symptoms of mental illness last time) but as someone who has some symptom overlap i think youre 100% right on stuff i know about. low empathy bitches rise up.

but yeah, i think a lot of stuff is kind of the result of the writers seeming constantly all over the place with him. i think it's especially bad in the section from 11/20 to the engine room, because while i think in royal there was some vision for who he was supposed to be, everything in vanilla is far more over the place, and in some cases vanilla's contradictory writing of him is made worse by its interactions with royal's akechi content. because 11/20 isn't designed to accommodate for the possibility that this guy could be your actual friend rather than a guy you've spoken to a few times turned tenuous ally turned traitor. i don't think akechi ever would have acted differently in a way that mattered, but the way the thieves talk about him is in line with his flatter villain characterisation in that period in vanilla. he's a terrible irredeemable evil person until just before he dies, and then he's a tragic victim to the point that in the shadow shido fight, they talk as if akechi wasn't responsible for any of his own actions, despite the fact that he was demonstrably doing it of his own free will. and then he dies and you're not supposed to care because he's a Bad Guy so they barely bring him up again in vanilla. all that rings a little strange with the royal stuff

anyway all this has got me thinking about the dynamics between akechi and the non-akira thieves. i should really keep writing my akira's palace fic

[transterrence]

the unordinary wiki is heavy coated in ableism and bullshit; let's talk about why.

im not going to talk about john's page, because im not unpacking that today. also, im sure many already know why it's so shit. instead, let's talk about terrence.

[ill mostly be talking about the ableism and the mischaracterizatiom of him. tw for ableism, specifically against symptoms of aspd and negative portrayal of npd.]

first off, we have this "amazing" description of him. /sar

[IMAGE ID: a screenshot of terrence from unordinary's fandom wiki page. a section has been highlighted in red. it says: "His cunningness, connections and lack of empathy make him one of the most dangerous people in the school." /END ID]

now, the unordinary wiki decides that terrence, this 15 year old boy, is dangerous because he is cunning, knows people, and lacks empathy. which is just.. so absurd.

you know what, the fact that he's cunning is somewhat fair. sure, ill cut them a little slack- give them the benefit of the doubt. he's deceitful and does anything for a means to an end which could make him dangerous if he so pleases.

but "connections" .. he knows people. so what? knowing people doesn't make you necessarily dangerous. remi also knows lots of people, so does isen. they are not inherently dangerous because of this. the whole idea of certain traits making someone dangerous is bullshit. people can be more predisposed to certain things as a result of environment, mindset, etc; but he is not inherently dangerous because he has connections and that he's cunning.

which leads to the final descriptor: "lack of empathy". first off, putting past the blatant ableism [low empathy is a symptom of aspd and often associated with aspd whether aspd is present or not], terrence has never shown to be unempathetic. he appears to hold no guilt for what he's done, but this could one: be a facade, or two: be because he truly believes this is right. terrence hates high tiers and believes that what he does is for the better, that what he's doing is necessary to make a better society. if anything, a better term would be a "lack of sympathy".

also a lack of empathy isn't bad or dangerous. you can't change your level of empathy; empathy is feeling what others feel. people without empathy or low empathy aren't evil or heartless. someone can have low/no empathy and still have sympathy.

terrence is not dangerous because he is cunning, has connections, or has a "lack of empathy"; he can be dangerous because he has hurt others and has shown intent in continuing to do so.

okay, this has mostly been me nitpicking. ready for the real mess?

[IMAGE ID: another screenshot of terrence unordinary's fandom wiki page. another section is highlighted in red. it says: "Terrence’s corrupted mindset has turned him into a disrespectful and sadistic narcissist who seemingly enjoys when his classmates are endangered by Spectre, even his close friends." /END ID.]

there is NO WHERE in unordinary that describes terrence with symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder, or that states him being or even implies him being a narcissist. there is not even a reference for this statement. and even if it was semi-implied, a speculation, or merely a headcanon; this is supposed to be an informative wiki without bias. it is not stated explicitly, therefore it should not be on the wiki. if whoever wrote this thought terrence was a narcissist, then they should've described the symptoms he exibits which may be npd instead of just calling him a "disrespectful and sadistic narcissist".

OH and the fucking heavy coated ableism drives me insane. whether he has npd or not, it doesnt make him "disrespectful" or "sadistic". PLUS, you do not get "turned" into a narcissist because of a "corrupted mindset"; narcissism is a personality disorder that doesnt have a hundred percent known cause. it has factors that can contribute to its development, but a "corrupted mindset" is definitely not fucking one of them.

there is so much more i could say about this, but i think ill leave it at that. disclaimer that i do not have npd or aspd, and i am not infallible and i can be wrong. if anyone has any different opinions or something ive stated here is wrong, then please tell to me about it! i don't want to spread misinfo /gen

thanks for listening to my angry ted talk <3

#beyond pissed but i like writihg abt my litle guy so i guess it evens out #terrence YIPPEE #spex.sells #unordinary #unordinary webtoon #unordinary terrence #terrence unordinary #fandom neg #discourse

[alostlittleriverlotus]

Random thoughts:

People who use "narcissistic abuse" always say it's to help their trauma. But all they do is try to demonize their abusers and possibly "harm narcissists." Look how much is about how to harm or hurt narcissists. Hurting someone to make up for your hurt?

I just notice a lot of people that use narcissistic abuse are looking more for revenge or to make their abusers hurt like them which just feels like the opposite of healing. I get it, I've been there, I've felt that too. It can't be helped, but you gotta realize that's not the way to go.

And this isn't whether or not their abusers have NPD, that literally doesn't matter. It feels like the people that use that tag ultimately just try to hurt their abuser or people that remind them of the abuser (which they assume is NPD and I've seen ASPD thrown under the bus as well) as some way to have control.

And I've been there my dude. I've wanted to feel control and make myself big. But the fact is that diagnosing them isn't going to make up for the abuse. Getting revenge, hurting them, doing things to purposefully upset them isn't going to make up for the abuse. Blaming strangers you see as bad cause they have the same disorder you've diagnosed your abuser with isn't going to help.

I've mentioned before, but ADHD and GAD became triggers for me after my abuse with my ex boyfriend. Because he'd use them as excuses when I called him out and lead to how he manipulated me. So much so that I would use the term ADD and hated being diagnosed with GAD a few months after leaving him. But even in my dislike, I never considered that others were bad cause of those disorders. It's like how his name became a trigger for me. I've seen people that look like him, have his name. And part of me did want to project my feelings onto them, but the reality is they're just some innocent person I see. Just because someone has a disorder, a name, or anything that reminds you of your abuser doesnt make them bad.

Hurting narcissists isn't the way to go about it either. Even if your abuser does have NPD, it doesn't mean you should use that against them. The best thing is to always try to get away. Hurting them won't make the hurt inside you less. I don't know why people who use the term "narcissistic abuse" are always so fixated on that or that people with NPD are all bad. Especially since if their abusers did have NPD, it would be somewhat probable they would get it too.

I just find that people who use "narcissistic abuse" are either the people who want to hurt their abusers to make their pain manageable or young folks/people that are just learning they were abused and fall down this toxic rabbit hole of "narcissist bad and abusive."

I'll give a chance to people willing to learn, but there are those that won't be convinced. And if you can't see the harm in using "narcissistic abuse" and how much it harms the mentally ill and those with NPD then uh, just don't bother being near me. Cause no good ever comes from demonizing a group of thousands of people because of your abuse.

Also they insanely dehumanize people with NPD. Like saying they have no soul, feel no emotions, have dead eyes, are not fully human, etc. Which I've been told too cause of my BPD. But people who use those tags are so quick to feel like everyone is their enemy or trying to deny them something. Which i think just shows more how those people need healing and actual help and not to fall further down the rabbit hole of "narcissists are abusive" because if only becomes an echo chamber of that. Even in the tag itself, it harms the victims/survivors and feels like it doesn't have their best interests at heart. So it's literally no good for anyone and harms pretty much everyone.

So there's some random thoughts and things I've noticed in people who use that term. If you believe narcissistic abuse is real or valid, just go. You can try to learn, but if you're not willing to, you can just leave. Cause this place is safe for those with NPD and ASPD and any fucking demonized disorder. And if you think all of em are bad or evil or abusive, you are not welcome here.

Love to everyone with disorders! Unknown, lesser known, lesser researched, more well-known, demonized, well researched disorders, whatever. Personality disorders, dissociative disorders, mood disorders, whatever. You're all welcome here and loved and valid.

Edit: One last thing. I also see them say that "narcissist is separate from narcissistic personality disorder" but then I also see those accounts that post about "narcissistic abuse" put narcissistic personality disorder in the tags 😐 and even if it's not in the tags, it comes up when searching for the disorder. Y'all. Come on.

#npd #narcissistic abuse #narc abuse #narc abuse isn't real #narcissistic abuse isn't real #demonization of npd #demonization of aspd #demonization of personality disorders #stigma #personality disorders #this one is specifically about npd but I see similar sentiments for aspd a lot too and some for bpd #we all fucking deserve better #narcissistic #narcissist #narcissistic personality disorder #npd positivity #no disorder in abusive #no disorder is bad

[kindestegg]

Am I the only one who actually LIKES that the Collector has no/low empathy? It feels like it's humanizing lack of empathy, which is usually very vilified, especially for people with personality disorders (ASPD, NPD, SZPD, etc.), autistic ppl/pwautism, people on the schizoaffective disorder spectrum, etc. I understand he's said some messed up stuff about Hunter in past episodes and he's overall done pretty messed up stuff, but a lot of people came to the understanding that they have low empathy and they just need help. Like, ofc, I have a more nuanced take, but like my main point is I am glad the Collector has low/no empathy and they're very relatable on many affronts. (Not the "i'm gonna take away everyone's freewill and make calloused jokes about people's hardships" part, but his other stuff.)

you are not!! i specifically think its important to have more characters that call to attention the fact you dont have to have empathy to be able to be compassionate and care for others! another one that comes to mind is flowey/asriel from undertale!!!

i feel like its definitely one nuance that lends itself to the understanding that although low empathy can make it easier for someone to distance themselves from understanding others and sometimes be hurtful, that doesnt mean they cannot learn compassion or dont want to show compassion, which collector, as well as the character i mentioned clearly do!

and either way i think it comes back to a critique of carceral thinking and even forced institutionalization, why should someone be locked up simply because theyre different and have a hard time showing empathy? should we give up on them, assume theyre unable to show compassion, unable to live among society due to their differences? characters with stories such as these i think ask a lot of important questions pertaining to that.

i think, personally, the fact he DOES have a darker side where hes done n said some pretty messed up things, lends itself to that conversation, because it brings up the uncomfortable truth that even if someone, specially a child, when exhibiting lack of empathy, has hurt people psychologically or even physically, they still do not deserve to be tortured for years on end through solitary confinement or similar punishments. that we should think of other ways to deal with these problems, that the root of the issue is always more complicated than someone being "inherently bad".

thank you for the ask it is so nice to share thoughts together!

#Commander's answers

[idontknowwhyibite]

having friends who are also cluster b is so very fun, i have one with aspd and npd and while we relate in some ways (at least, npd and bpd are different ends of the same coin or what have you) theres also such a vast difference in how we handle certain situations or view things, you'd think that this would be a recipe for a disaster in any context, but not really. Having someone in your life who is logical (but not an asshole, keyword: not an asshole ) when you've got bpd can be SO good. His ability to just sit there and watch me have my moments and not judge, or even also not get upset cos im upset, is amazing. And like, he simply doesnt care!! at the time im like he doesnt care >:((( but its also like he doesnt care!!! this wont push em away!!!!

[pageofheartdj]

Yeah the tale is pretty sad and unfair, but you know how myths can be one thing and evve into something else through time and repetition. I think what people may pull from it is that narcissus was so obsessed with himself that he never considered others, but you're right that it's sad and he needed help. Alas people tend not to think that way, whatever is easiest you know? People dont like helping if there isnt a clear benefit to them.

Anyways I think that your point of "people should know better" doesnt apply as much in this situation because a lot people dont actually know about narcissistic personality disorder and even fewer can separate narcissism (the trait) from narcissistic personality disorder.

Using psychopath is an interesting case because the word was applied to the personality disorder during a time where psychology was pretty new, ergo a great way of describing something "wrong". Plus used for movies and stuff to describe murderers.thats why it falls into Antisocial Personality Disorder now instead of being called psychotic. Evolving the name to be more accurate and distancing it from the negative word associated to it helps turn it from a demonized diagnosis to a mental medical condition.

Not to say that I think people should never change, but I think there comes a point where if people associate the word far more with the negatives rather than evolving to meet a new definition, it might be best just to come up with a new word.

It would be a clean slate, separation from negative stereotypes and help make it a mental medical condition and not be something demonized.

Like I get not wanting to change it, it is unfair, but I think that a lot of the unfairness came from how it was named. It wasnt a name thought up out of no where, the condition was given a name that was already viewed poorly. It was given a bad name right from the get go.

That's just how I think of it though. It's a ton harder to change the definition of a word based in mythology (which means it has been around for hundreds or even thousands of years) to something that only a very small section of the english speaking population knows about. Like if someone wasnt studying psychology or wasnt in a certain online hemisphere they may never run into the definition of narcissistic personality disorder.

But yeah hopefully that wasnt confusing. Also I dont wanna sound blamey like it's your fault for the disorder having such a poor and stigmatized name. It sucks and I sympathize and hope people dont trest you badly

It's kind of ironic. A person was hurting himself but was punished for this, instead of being helped or left alone. With the tale at least.

With all the information being so easily available it shouldn't be THAT hard to learn more. Or at least listen to people. Because even in the healthcare the condition is demonized. So I guess we need to change THEM first, then give some good rep in media and easily accessable not demonizing articles. Yeah I guess I can see how it's harder to figure out the truth. But still in our era where people are much more mindful, somehow 'Evil Person' disorder shouldn't sound very... real or fair.

Phsycopath is still used. The change of the disorder didn't make the insult dissappear. Just because it's not an official name anymore doesn't mean people don't use it to still describe people with ASPD. If there is a villian in media, he will be claimed to be psycopath or narcissist, still holding those disorders in mind. Because that's the description of the word.

I am not sure what to think about the word change. It feels too close to 'queer was used as a slur so we must drop it'. Bigots will use a different word for slur, that's their goal. So NPD will be changed, there is a high chance people will just adjust their vocabulary since they openly claim to people with NPD to be inherently abusive. Not just people who have narcissist traits.

Shouldn't it be easier to just... not use this one word?

#npd #narcissistic personality disorder

[weedplantar]

society if people stopped demonizing personality disorders and stopped using the phrase narcissistic abuse and diagnosing other people with serious mental illnesses just because they're bad people.

#if i hear u talking about narcissists in a derogatory way or using the phrase narcissistic abuse that is an immediate block #having a personality disorder doesnt make someone evil and an abuser #and sometimes people can just be self absorbed abusive assholes. that doesn't mean they have npd #by saying these things you are spreading ableism and making it so other people cant get help #and even if ur abuser did have npd just because you have trauma doesnt mean you get to demonize an entire community. #and this is coming from someone who was abused by someone with DIAGNOSED narcissistic personality disorder #what happened to me was because he was a bad person and an abuser. not because he had npd. #in fact people with actual npd have some form of trauma bc that's how personality disorders develop #these people deserve professional help and because of all the stigma its so hard to get. even a lot of therapists wont take narcissists #the only personality disorder i see people talking about and destigmatizing is bpd. which is GREAT because everyone deserves 1/2 #representation. but these same people talk about narssistic abuse and blame the personality disorder for their trauma. you cant pick and 2 #&choose what you stand up for. I'm sorry but if you do this you are ableist. you can still be an ableist even if you do have a disorder 3 #im sorry for ranting but this is PISSING ME OFF because every time i come across material about any personality disorder except for bpd #and this goes for any cluster B disorder that isn't bpd. aspd. hpd. npd. there are no resources for those with it. #i dont even have a personality disorder. i am bipolar which has a fair amount of stigma still but I'm lucky that its not as demonized #but i still have faced a lot of consequences of the stigma and i cant imagine living in a world where everyone thinks your evil like those #with cluster b disorders do #you're* not your #again im sorry for ranting but i cant stand to see it #npd #cluster b #bipolar #mental health matters #tw abuse #tw abuse mention

[npd-headcanons]

ok since i have a new special interest i'll add headcanons to the npd Duckula (Danger Mouse 2015) suggestion!! i fucking love these ducks.

-FIRSTLY Duckula the 17th from the count Duckula spin-off show had npd 100%!!! he was much healthier because Nanny & Igor were there to support each other (sidenote comic!Igor is the aspd dad that Duckula deserved). this lets the 17th Duckula feel comfortable enough to soften, letting himself asking for help- albeit struggling not to be bratty about it. oftentimes he goes out of his way to help people out of his brand of compassion. the negative traits that show most are his impulsivity and self-centeredness taking priority over others. even so, he's against causing harm and hates being pushed to be evil just because he's a vampire.

-but this only made it feel worse for the 18th Duckula. he woke up with no Igor or Nanny, no memory of them, yet he sharply feels that something is missing. he feels Abandoned. when he musters the confidence to go to town, nobody even likes him since they're convinced he'll drink their blood. no Nanny to soothe his worries about being a failed vampire and no Igor to stick to his side despite differing opinions. he feels stuck between 2 options: try to win the people's affection or obsess over their hatred - and he does BOTH! because both negative & positive attention energize him in some way! he leans into his vampiric nature, even his hunger (albeit in a vegetarian way). every npd trait that gave the 17th Duckula problems was intensified in the 18th Duckula.

-his 24/7 show is of course for the validation that he never got from Igor & Nanny, going as far as not sleeping, and he only becomes obsessed with ruling the world because Danger Mouse tells him about DM's international fame. envy is a huge huge factor in how his npd plays out! but envy isnt just a negative trait, it also made him more ambitious. he takes up more hobbies than his predecessor. some of this is connected to his lack of solid self-identity.

-literally what Danger Mouse forces Duckula to admit in ep 45 in DM2015, "I just want to be the most famous person ever. Is that so.. is, is that really... so much to ask? Huh?! To, to be loved and, and, and adored... by every single person that's ever existed-"

-noncanon DM2015, he slowly becomes "friends" with Danger Mouse. Danger Mouse has npd traits, which is why they butted heads in the first place, but the similarities Duckula notices is what leads him to observe DM more closely. he first wants to befriend DM to have a famous friend trickle down fame to him, but eventually finds that having steady company of ANYONE (friend or foe) to listen to his problems and be nice to him is really healthy for him. i dont know if DM would be his true friend since DM doesnt like villains, but DM would encourage him to find healthier outlets instead of villainy.

WOW THIS WAS A LOT sorry im obsessed with npd cartoon ducks :')

Hell yeah! I love these details!

#asks #headcanon blog #npd headcanons #count duckula #i haven't gotten these type of in depth headcanons in a while i've missed them #the shorter post will come out later ! #long post #jic

[violentviolette]

How do u cope with perceived rejection? I'm at the point rn where I don't want to leave the house bc I don't want to interact with anyone anymore.

oof, that sucks. im sorry anon.

honestly for me its a combo of a lot of little things and techniques but also its still hard sometimes. I also don't have any issue when it comes to strangers. I dont care if random people don't like or reject me or think negatively of me I only care if the people I care about and want to like me don't like me. if that makes sense? so sorry if some of this isnt as helpful for those kinds of situations

but okay so my main steps are usually firstly reminding myself that I'm not that important in peoples lives. and I dont mean that in a self depreciating way so just stay with me. most people are self centered in that were all the most important person to ourselves, we live in our own brains and with our own thoughts 24/7 and so were constantly thinking about ourselves and our behavior and our life and all the things going on in it that are important to us. and like thats a good normal thing but that also means that so is everyone else. no one is paying as much attention to me and what im doing as I am, because theyre paying attention to themselves.

so I remind myself of that and remind myself that most people have a lot going on that has nothing to do with me and so their bad mood or their quietness or their weird vibe isnt them hating and rejecting me, it just means theyre upset and theres a millions reasons why that could be that are more important to them than some little thing i did.

next up is that whatever the most mundane and casual explination that exists is, is probably the truth. and even if i truly think it isnt, i act as if it is until someone directly tells me otherwise. is someone not talking to me today or hasnt replied in hours? theyre probably really busy at work or eating or showering or maybe their phone is dead, and it helps me to ask myself “well when are some times ive taken 2 hours to respond and why was that” and if im being actually honest with myself i will find times when i have behaved the same but wasnt mad at someone or rejecting them. so i always force myself to believe the mundane solution, which helps me not act on any of my feelings.

because even if i really cant believe it in the moment, i can act like i do. so say someone hasnt talked to me and i feel like theyre rejecting me, i tell myself its just because theyre busy and not because theyre mad and force myself to act accodingly. i message them a normal amount and i dont mention my feelings or suspicions and then eventually they always talk to me again like normal and then i can be like “see, eveyrthing was fine and we were just being crazy. glad i didnt do anything about it”

only act on direct information, never assumptions. i act like nothing is wrong until someone directly tells me it is, because i dont live in their head and i cant read their thoughts. i dont truly know how they’re thinking and feeling until they tell me. (and for all u other aspd and npd assholes out there NO U DONT. genuinly and honestly. people are always capable of surprising us and even when we think we have them nailed and know exactly what their thinking, even if were right, u cannot just assume someones thoughts and take it as fact. its disordered and unhealthy and u need to stop doing it if u want better relationships with others) and if they haven’t directly told me something is wrong, then they haven’t communicated properly and that is on them. i dont read into vagueposts or status updates or tweets or level of activity or anything. i notice all of it because my brain is crazy but i force myself to ignore everything except the direct words someone says to me.

is their discord status something super upset that i think vaguely relates to me? that means nothing what was the last thing they said to me? oh that they love me and then we had a totally normal interaction. thats whats the truth, and if they were lying and they actually are mad at me, then thats on them for literally communicating the exact opposite of their feelings.

and lastly, if its people who ur close with, u can also ask for reassurance or validation in a way that doesnt accuse them of doing anything wrong. i will often go to my wife and instead of being like “are u mad at me?” or something i’ll say “im feeling really fragile today can u help reassure me that u love me and that im good?” or “I know u love me but can u tell me again i need to hear it extra today” or if its a friend sometimes i’ll say “hey im feeling kind of insecure and anixious today, when u get a chance could u reassure me that we’re still friends?” or literally just coming in the chat like “hello friends i require validation today” and then people will repsond with emojis and “god mood” and i will feel better

these are good ways to ask for support because they dont put any blame or onus on the other person, its about u and ur feelings, and usually if its people who care about u they’ll have no problem doing that. my friends and i tell eachother very often that we love and care about and genuinly like one another because reassurance and validation is Good and it should be a normal part of ur relationships. (no one insert a screenshot of that time ryo said he was feeling paranoid we hated him so i instantly sent him screenshots of my dms about my crush on him i will skin u)

but yea. those are the main things i do and tell myself and sorry this got so long but i dont know how to explain things like this without a million words lol i hope that made sense and that some of it was helpfull for u

#percieved rejection #npd #bpd #cluster b #actually npd #actually borderline #rejection #insecure attachment #insecure relationships #jack.speaks #anon #sorry this took me so long to answer but i wanted to make sure it made sense and i had a lot to say #clearly lol #long post

[ilygsd]

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okay here we go, this is from some shitty mental health site ot whatever. i actually liked the site though. i read about aspd, adhd, autism, ptsd, bpd, npd etc. informative i guess

somewhat true i guess. i dont want anything else than to love him. i dont know why i feel the need or want to but i need and want to (lol) love people. with all my fucking heart. i want to die for someone (wow) but they need to take care of me, and above all APPRECIATE my love. this guy cant even FEEL my love, how the fuck is he going to APPRECIATE it? it’s all empty and the only thing he feels like the... the sexual parts or smth ugh idk. 

he is a social predator. he once said i reminded him of a beautiful but innocent deer and now i cant stop thinking about it. idk, it used to scare me before but tbh now i dont even know if i should be offended or fascinated by how..... fucking smart and talented these people are. he said i was pretty desperate when we first met (still am oops) and little did i know i was. i was desperate wooow he could probably smell my desperation and vulnerability miles away that fucking monster haha. this article sounds a bit dramatic though. im pretty sure he would be amused by reading it, idk. amused and annoyed. i feel like this is his standard state lmao. annoyed, bored and slightly amused. 

the best way to receive love is to give love, yes indeed and he knows that. and loving him is amazing. i dont know how or why, i cant describe it and i refuse to actually admit that i love him.... I REFUSE: i dont even trust the guy, he stands for nothing, always playing the devils advocate fucking white boy, always provoking me but.... maybe its just cus he’s older and im just bored with life. well yeah probably that too. i mean.... if i was content with my life, my relationships and health i wouldnt need him lol. especially not considering how he treats me and hurt my feelings. but wow as i’ve said, i love loving him (or whatever the fuck it is) and theres nothing i’d rather do than loving him. he’s a drug

and yeah thats definitely exactly what it was like. i still cant believe i actually thought we were similar LMAOOOOOOOO and he’s like “yeah people think that we’re similar until i tell them otherwise”. we are NOT similar. okay yes, i have some abusive traits, some manipulative i guess. i guess that’s similar. but other than that.... nope

uh, he says im emo all the time when im with him lol. trueeee. im so comfortable with him my emo just jumps out and i get really depressing wow. i wonder why he stuck with me for so long. i must be so boring. i mean it could be for the sex as i’ve said, but i doubt that. i wonder what the heck he thinks he can use me for. im always paranoid he’ll use me but at the same time i struggle with thoughts that im useless so.... bruh idk lmao

true that i stuck it out during the bad times because the good times are fantastic. true. true. idk, its not that fantastic. he’s pretty normal its not like im over showered with compliments and gifts and love but on the other hand i wouldnt want that either. hmm, idk im so curious how he’s acting with other people. if he’s similar or if he changes and adapts himself

im just svared of that “the honeymoon comes to an end”. what does that mean? will it be worse than this??? i mean is he bored now? what happens when he’s bored? will he just leave or do smth stupid? sometimes i think he’s starting drama bc he’s bored tbh that sounds more like me. he actually tried to “end” the fight by that “u owe me 5 blowjobs now” joke but i chose to continue bc he threatened to murder me and i was offended lol

yeah that may have been stupid. it was a choice of mine. he gave me a chance to move on and i chose not to because i thought i could make him apologize. LMAO NOOOOO. this bitch wont apologize for anything in the worldddddddd. makes me so FUCKING frustrated because i AM NOT going to apologize for trying to demand him to apologize. if anything i will just ignore that this ever happened. and i WOULD have, if it wasnt for the STI fact lol. it’s so awkward honestly i have nothing to say if i were to contact him. i dont know, maybe he got HIV now because of me LOL and why the fuck would i expose myself like that like why would he be with me if he publicly stated he wants to murder me if i transmitted it to him. i dont even know (yes i know, i obviously dont fucking have HIV) and i won’t know until he get tested. and he probably wont tell me so actually i should just block him before he gets tested considering he wants to kill me. ok he said he wouldnt etc etc. and i know he wouldnt but he would probably destroy my life in another way. 

uh idk, i guess i have to get myself tested again and this time HIV AND AIDS INCLUDED. only then i have a reason to text him and its to say that im clean. what a pathetic reason, i will see right through it. he KNOWS i want him. thats why there’s no reason for me to contact him at all because he already knows i’ll always want to be with him sigh

ok so as i’ve said i’ve thought about this a lot. like what the fuck does he want from me? actually he’s ignoring me right now so idk if he still wants anything sigh. but i guess thats why he wanted to meet so fast irl. i get it now though. at first i was like “NO WE NEED TO TALK FOR AT LEAST 6 MONTHS” but now im like ugh lets just get it over with. i really thought he was a typical charmer, a slut, but hes been very firm that he doesnt let anyone touch him and that he’s not always up for a second “date”. i guess its smth with their boredom? 

ok i guess it’s...... charm? and also sometimes threatening and coldness. 

and yeah idk. either he’s ignoring me bc he really lost interest. he’s the one who overreacted though for real... i cant fucking believe he got so pissed over something like that and then just straight out REFUSES to apologize for THREATENING TO MURDER ME. uugh its so annoying it makes me so pissed. he said he’s not the one to block people though. guess he will just let me message him like a fucking pathetic idiot and then leave me on read lol. like he did with my cringe snaps

LMAO YEAH I KNOW TELL ME ABOUT IT. rage.... boy can this sweet angel become angry. he’s always so rational and calm yet he lets himself get triggered over such nonsense. maybe he’s just faking it though to scare me or smth honestly i dont really know, i just know he pissed me off. he’d make a great james fallon, james fallon is a neurobiologist who studies. too bad jo wants doesn’t want to be a scientist or researcher in that matter but actually WORK as a psychologist WITH PATIENTS

fuck i cant help but be attracted to his intelligence though :( wow it makes me feel like such a dumbass typical girly girl and i hate itttttttt. i told him i’d like to see him cry haha. idk. im just curious. im happy he haven’t cried though like used it as a manipulative tool or something. im just rambling idk what the fuck im writing lol

#diary #jo #info #aspd

[argentsunshine]

anon with the add on again here.. i'm just gonna find an emoji and claim it. why not. 🫀. sure.

anyway.. yes. he is so autistic to me as well like what typical teenager (ignoring the fact of his obvious lack of interaction with peers and his rough personality and including the aspect that i do this too) walks up to another teenager with hegel and antithesis and thesis.. what typical teenager (ignoring my hcs of him having bleached skin and the fact that theyre to cover up probably-hallucinations of blood on his hands.. except he doesnt wear them in the summer scene w sae) wears gloves all the time. (his clothes dont count because as um.. i forgot the acc name but prince detectives something said , theyre a direct callback to naoto shirogane to set naoto off essentially, to remind naoto that they live in eachother's shadows.. naoto lives in akechi's shadow of fame, and akechi lives in naoto's shadow of being the 1st detective prince) but he is . so mentally ill and i wish people did dig deeper (this isnt @ you or anyone in particular btw) instead of immediately claiming him as bpd because when you look at it akira fits moreof bpd than akechi does, and akechi fits npd and aspd more than bpd fits him.. but anyway. i love personality disorder & neurodivergent & mentally ill pts sm.. schizophrenic/ppd & avpd futaba lives in my heart and ocd makoto does too

sorry i forgot to post this because i couldn't think of anything intelligent to add (i don't tend to get very deep into hcs of what specific mental illness a character has because in my experience it's just never that clean) but these are all good points -- i don't think his intention in mirroring naoto is so directly confrontational, i think it's either intentional use of naoto's image to bolster his own or maybe some genuine respect for naoto, depending on what you believe

#he also doesn't wear the gloves in summer at all

[violentviolette]

hi! I saw your recent post about Bakugou having ASPD and in it you mention Todoroki and Izuku and so I was wondering if you wouldnt mind sharing what your headcanons for the other characters were, if you have any?

hhhhh oh man anon. i have... So Many. u have unlocked one of my many soap boxes so strap in. sorry to everyone who didnt sign up for anime when they followed this blog but frankly, thats on u.

SO OKAY I have many nuerodivergent headcanons for the BNHA kids (im assuming thats what u mean here when u say headcanons) so to keep this post shorter than my last novel i’ll just list them and give little blurbs and then if u want more elaboration on certain characters just let me know

Katsuki: comorbid aspd/npd with a smattering of issues from childhood abuse. I wouldnt say katsuki necessarily has ptsd from that (altho he 100% has it after the kamino incident) but i do think he has some lasting issues which we see in how he relates to todoroki (the provisional liscence class chapters with the kids specifically i feel like highlights these things really well imo)

Todoroki: cPTSD & autism. I think shoto is a great positive example of a character on the spectrum. a lot of fandom likes to joke about his “obliviousness” and how he takes everything so literally and has such a flat affect, but imo all of those traits make much more sense when viewed from the perspective of someone whose autistic. Todoroki is smart and kind, but he struggles with identifying his own emotions and the emotions of others, he takes things at face value because he’s bad at reading social ques and emotional tone. he has a hard time handling and processing his own feelings and emotions, often becoming extremely overwhelmed by them. but i also think his PTSD factors deeply into how his autism presents itself, making him much more prone to internalizing his feelings and emotions as opposed to say, Izuku. Todoroki isnt allowed to freely experience and express his emotions during childhood and so instead he turns them off, something thats common for autistic people in abusive situations. feelings are so overwhelming that when all ur feeling is bad feelings, its easier to feel nothing. which is why we see him struggle even to allow himself to feel positive or happy feelings in the present

Izuku: I mean Izuku is like the PRIME example of a character with both adhd & autism. he’s hyperactive, highly distractable, needs tons of stimulation, he STIMS, oh man the stimming. Izuku stims so much all the time and i love it. this boy is so squirmy he CANNOT sit still. heros and all might specifically are his obvious hyperfixations, he attaches large amounts of emotion into his personal objects, he’s deeply empathetic and caring, and because he grew up in a kind, loving environment, his emotions arent blunted and internalized like Todorokis and hes highly excitable and gets emotional easily. this also makes him prone to anxiety, as his emotions are always so close to the surface and his high empathy makes him constantly worry about everyone around him.

Toga: bpd, altho i say this with a BIG caveat. because i understand that the stereotype of the “crazy psycho bpd ex-girlfriend” trope exists and is shit garbage, and so i definitely would side with people with bpd if they feel this perpetuates too many negative stereotypes since toga is a villain. but i do think u could make a good case for her having bpd in a realistic and authentic way and not just as a stereotype. im someone who id’s with villains a lot and doesnt see them as like, negative characters who u shouldnt ever identify with or ur a monster respectability politics type shit. i think good villains are ones that feel human and relatable, but i do agree that perpetuating negative stereotypes isnt good representation (lets not talk about magma because i cant have that conversation civilly).

Iida: I think u could make a good argument that Iida has ocd, but he’s not one of my favorite characters so i dont have a whole lot of contextual evidence at the ready, my apologies

Dabi & Shigi: i mean the league in general is team ptsd but these two shitheads are definitely the king and queen of the whole affair. i feel like i dont even need to really explain this one just go read their backstory chapters (in this house the reality is that dabi is touya todoroki and thats just an accepted fact we will not entertain any fake news to the contrary).

and those are pretty much it! I do think theres a smattering of other things among the characters like Shinsou definitely has depression, Kirishima clearly has some anxiety and self worth stuff, Amajiki is riddled with axiety, ect. but yea, for the most part those are my basic thoughts. thanks for giving me the chance to ramble anon

#bakugou katsuki #todoroki shouto #izuku mydoria #toga himiko #bnha headcanons #mha headcanons #bnha izuku #bnha todoroki #bakugou headcanons #bnha #mha #jack.speaks #anon