#letter to my daughter

[twicedailyquotes]

I came to understand that I can never forget where I came from. My soul should always look back and wonder at the mountains I had climbed and the rivers I had forged and the challenges which still await down the road. I am strengthened by that knowledge.

Maya Angelou

Letter to My Daughter

#quote #quotes #maya angelou #letter to my daughter #book quote

[whatgurlreads]

I wrote some stuff a while ago. I think it's time to put it out there.

This is a letter to my future daughter to talk about certain things that I wish someone told me in my childhood.

DEAR DAUGHTER,

I pause sometimes, when I’m talking to someone. Because I suddenly forget where to keep my hand.. Or where to look at.. And I wonder, “Do I look normal? Or do I fit the expectations that people have set for me? Am I going to fade into oblivion as a fat, unaccomplished nothing.” I wonder…

But as I have grown older, I have come across this question many many times. What is normal? And what does a normal body look like? Does it have no scars? Or no stretch marks? How does a normal person behave? Are they accomplished? Or calm? Do they spend enough time taking care of themselves?

And over the years, I have come to learn about these things that I wish to share with you...

Dear daughter, the word normal has been used to push people into boxes, saying that Normal is the most common behaviour accepted by society. But is it? Do most women not have stretch marks? Or do most women not face body issues? Are most men not forced into showing their masculinity?

The answer is “NO, There is no normal!" And why should there be?

Each human is liked by another human because of their uniqueness. Not being normal is what makes you unique, is what makes you “YOU”. It’s  normal to have stretch marks. These marks develop when your skin stretches or thins quickly. It’s normal for women to have body hair. You don’t ever have to worry about getting rid of them to fit the expectations of society. It is very normal for women to not have a flat belly. Because that is literally where your organs are, it can’t be flat! It is normal to have scars! They’re proof that you have taken risks in life. In reality, a thin woman is just as healthy as a thick woman. Your body size doesn’t define how healthy you are. And it never will.

Now, you would wonder, if that is the case, then why is this standard made and accepted by society? It’s because society likes putting people into boxes. That guy is an engineer and that girl is a painter. Why can’t a person be both? Or that guy is shy and that girl is outgoing. Again, why can’t a person be both? They can! Society does this so that they can easily identify you. That you have qualities 1a, 2b and 3c. But don’t ever be frightened by it honey!

You can be whatever you like! You don’t ever have to fit these boxes! Just do whatever your heart says! Be shy at home and outgoing outside. Or be carefree at home and careful outside. You don’t ever have to worry about people that can’t understand you. Because you will find people that can understand and love you! And those are the ones that you should keep forever.

Dear daughter, growing up I also wondered if I have a normal body. And I also realised that there is no NORMAL BODY. There is a perfect body that has been made by the fashion industry that less than 5 percent of the population has. And then, there is an imperfect body. And that is what more than 95 percent of the population has. An imperfect body can mean various things to various people and organisations. It can mean you’re short, thick, lean, tall, have body hair, or don’t, have stretch marks or a small chest, or a very large one. And many industries profit from this image of “THE PERFECT BODY”, which they claim as “THE NORMAL BODY”. And so, women and men both spend loads of money to look normal. They groom, wax, get surgeries, shop, gym, diet, all in hopes of meeting the standard.

But, the world is changing now. People are slowly and gradually learning to accept themselves, looking at their bodies as perfect. There are plus size models coming up and the industry is giving them the platform they deserve. There are women that are speaking up, speaking about their lives and their bodies and how every single person thinks that they have a right to comment on them. And it’s making people uncomfortable because they don’t see what’s wrong in what they’ve been doing. But they SHOULD be uncomfortable because it IS wrong. Because no one knows about a person’s lifestyle or their health just by stealing a glance at their body. And they shouldn’t give their opinions on it because they are just doing what the industries do, but disguised as someone who cares. The only person’s opinion that matters is yours! (And your doctor’s of course) 

And hence, dear daughter, I want you to always love yourself no matter what. Don’t let anyone comment on your body without your wish. And don’t ever let anyone make you feel less pretty. Because you are, pretty! And how you look doesn’t define that. And even if you don’t feel so, you will feel that sometime later in the future. Because your body does so much for you. It keeps you functioning and it keeps you happy. And you must always be grateful for that. It’s not your body’s purpose to make you beautiful, it’s your soul’s. And you make your soul beautiful by working on yourself!

Dear daughter, it has taken me years to accept myself. My body and my soul. And I have taken this journey alone. All I wish for you is that you know that it’s going to be alright in the end. And that people don’t determine your worth. You do. 

PS: I LOVE YOU

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[thedoorsofmyheart]

LETTER TO MY DAUGHTER

Dear Daughter,

This letter has taken an extraordinary time getting itself together. I have all along known that I wanted to tell you directly of some lessons I have learned and under what conditions I have learned them.

My life has been long, and believing that life loves the liver of it, I have dared to try many things, sometimes trembling, but daring, still. I have only included here events and lessons which I have found useful. I have not told how I have used the solutions, knowing that you are intelligent and creative and resourceful and you will use them as you see fit.

You will find in this book accounts of growing up, unexpected emergencies, a few poems, some light stories to make you laugh and some to make you meditate.

There have been people in my life who meant me well, taught me valuable lessons, and others who have meant me ill and, have given me ample notification that my world is not meant to be all peaches and cream.

I have made many mistakes and no doubt will make more before I die. When I have seen pain, when I have found that my ineptness has caused displeasure, I have learned to accept my responsibility and to forgive myself first, then to apologize to anyone injured by my misreckoning. Since I cannot un-live history, and repentance is all I can offer God, I have hopes that my sincere apologies were accepted.

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud. Do not complain. Make every effort to change things you do not like. If you cannot make a change, change the way you have been thinking. You might find a new solution.

Never whine. Whining lets a brute know that a victim is in the neighborhood.

Be certain that you do not die without having done something wonderful for humanity.

I gave birth to one child, a son, but I have thousands of daughters. You are Black and White, Jewish and Muslim, Asian, Spanish-speaking, Native American and Aleut. You are fat and thin and pretty and plain, gay and straight, educated and unlettered, and I am speaking to you all. Here is my offering to you.

Chapter One:

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[smallfeministfriend]

I trust you with my head

My heart (though I’m still afraid)

And my body

I trust you not to hurt me like I have been in the past

Things I’ve never mentioned still haunt me

Maybe I grew up too fast

All in one night

I don’t regret what I did

Maybe I just regret him

That’s just the way the night went

I have no reason the be angry

Trust is something you’re given but my darling

It’s only given once

Staircase to the other side

Hello my name is somewhere

Someday, some way

I pray she learns from my mistakes

I was never perfect and with any luck she won’t be either

I might not see heaven

But maybe you’ll be one step closer

trust me, I lived

#forgiveness #regret #spilled thoughts #poetry #writing #love #spilled writing #trauma #memories #letter to my daughter

[gastricotv]

Bat For Lashes | Letter To My Daughter

#bat for lashes #letter to my daughter #the dream of delphy #new music #musica nueva #music #music video #musica #video musical #videos #Youtube

[noiselessmusic]

Bat For Lashes- "Letter To My Daughter" (vídeo)

Mais uma canção do próximo álbum de Bat For Lashes, The Dream of Delphi, foi revelado. O single “Letter To My Daughter” teve inspiração nas cartas de Maya Angelou para sua filha (que também inspirou Song For Our Daughter, de Laura Marling), e veio com um clipe que tem a mesma caracterização de “The Dream of Delphi”, além de ser dirigido porFreddie Leyden. No curto clipe, Natasha Khan aparace…

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#2024 #bat for lashes #clipe #deveria ser mainstream #indie #letter to my daughter #quality indie #the dream of Delphi #video #Youtube

[cottagebff]

“Letter to my Daughter”, Maya Angelou

#maya angelou #letter to my daughter #book quotes #gratitude #healing #positivity #books #literature #manifesting

[womanoncesaid]

Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud. ― Maya Angelou, Letter to My Daughter

#quotes #women quotes #book quotes #maya angelou #letter to my daughter

[linhpvp88]

So many things too little time - P2

Thư gửi Na 11 tuổi

Thế là đã lên cấp 2 rồi, mẹ nhớ hồi cấp 2 mẹ vẫn vô tư lí lắc lắm, mà giờ trẻ con hình như biết nhiều hơn. Mẹ mong con khoẻ, ăn ngủ tốt, nên biết ăn ngủ thế nào để giữ cơ thể khoẻ mạn. ĂN THẬT CHẬM, ăn thật chậm, thật thật chậm là bí quyết mẹ ngẫm ra để vừa thưởng thức được cái ngon của đồ ăn, vừa giữ được sức khoẻ. Nhất định ko ăn những thứ không tốt, bớt đi một miếng tốt hơn là thêm một miếng.

Rồi thời gian này sẽ là lúc con thay đổi cơ thể nhiều nhất, đến tháng, thay đổi hocmon trong cơ thể. Vì thế cần học được cách bảo vệ bản thân, đề phòng các trường hợp ngoài ý muốn. Con hãy nhớ, mọi chuyện ko vui, ko vừa ý cũng chỉ nhất thời, sẽ qua đi mau. Nếu gặp chuyện gì xấu hổ, ngại ngùng, cứ mạnh mẽ chấp nhận vì chuyện gì rồi cũng qua. 5, 10 năm sau nhìn lại chỉ là kí ức, có khi còn khiến mình bật cười thôi. Và cũng vì thay đổi cơ thể vật lý từ bên trong, nên hãy tập luyện thể thao, nhất là khi bắt đầu có kinh, là lúc tốt nhất để bắt đầu tập aerobic thì dáng sẽ siêu đẹp con ạ. Đánh răng chậm, luyện mắt nhìn xa hàng ngày nữa.

Ăn uống giữ sức khoẻ là một chuyện. Hãy giữ vững niềm yêu thích với đam mê của con nhé, vẽ vời mỹ thuật có lẽ sẽ đưa con đến những nơi tuyệt vời nhất, cả thực tế lẫn trí tưởng tượng. Có niềm đam mê thì quí giá đến nhường nào. Đó là điều mẹ luôn ngưỡng mộ ở con.

Nếu muốn xinh đẹp, hãy cứ xinh đẹp, tô chút son nếu muốn. Nhưng vẻ đẹp tự nhiên của riêng mình luôn là đẹp nhất. Con gái mẹ xinh đẹp nhất. Con hãy luôn luôn giữ vẻ đẹp tự nhiên, sáng trong, đơn giản nhé. Không cần so sánh với bất kì ai cả. Con gái mẹ xinh đẹp nhất trên đời.

Đọc những cuốn sách đơn giản nhẹ nhàng, sách luôn là một trong những người bạn tôta nhất, luôn có những câu trả lời cho con... chỉ cần con muốn đi tìm. Nên hãy đi nhà sách hàng tuần hàng tháng nhé.

Mẹ có những người bạn tốt từ cấp 1, cấp 2, cấp 3. Nên hãy thân với các bạn của con, chia sẻ với nhau. Có lẽ các con sẽ chia xa sau cấp 3 hoặc vẫn chơi với nhau. Một người bạn tốt cũng quý giá như báu vật đó.

Có lẽ bà sẽ bắt con thế này bắt con thế kia, bà hơi cực đoan trong mọi thứ và luôn muốn bắt mọi thứ theo ý mình, vì bà nuôi con cho con tiền nên nhiều lúc sẽ bắt con theo ý bà. Nhưng con vẫn là con, đừng để sự gấp rút giục giã của bà làm ảnh hưởng đến sự thong dong của con, đừng cuống lên khi bị giục giã,...

Mong con gái luôn được bình yên.

#letter to my daughter #lettertomyna #somanythingstoolittletimebylinhlinh

[omg-popoy-things]

Apple Orange

What comes to your mind when you hear "Apple Orange "? Probably you are saying these are fruits, and yeah you are right. But for me, this Apple, Orange says a lot. A lot of feelings and memories are associated with this. Hearing Apple, Orange makes me sad, it reminds me of my shortcomings as a person. In retrospect, I made some decisions that leads to that shortcoming. Nevertheless, I've been blessed Someone is there to fill up the void that I created. Hearing Apple, Orange gives a deep joy down in my heart. Joy is an understatement for what I feel when I hear these words. Apple, orange brings forth the best in me. It is the push I need in my stuck-up rock, it's like an oasis in my desert. To put it simply, hearing those words is a motivation that I need to be the best in life especially be the best father that I could be. Yes, you read it right, be the best father that I could be for my loving daughter. Apple Orange is what my daughter always answers when I ask her what she wants when I'm going to work. This is also what she answered when being asked " where's your papa?" — Papa buy Apple Orange. Isn't it sweet? The innocence of a child not knowing, when will his father come home again from work, all she knows is that her papa buys apples and oranges. Thank you for coming into our lives Ellie. Mama and Papa will always be here and love you. 

#letter to my daughter #daughter #father's love

[littlelightfish]

We alredy know what's Chilchuck's worst nightmare. What if I told you that it was canon?

His daughters have alredy been eaten. His wife was eaten too. His family are all dead. His worst nightmare has come truth. And he for sure feels like it's partially his fault, because it's the Winged Lion doing, yes, but who helped Laios get here? Chilchuck. And who's daughters and wife are now dead because of it? Chilchuck's. The suggestion of recreating them tells us that they've alredy been eaten. The way he says it makes it feel like it's too late. They're dead. Because of him. Of his actions. Of his job. The irony of it all is actually quite cruel. He makes a union so he can prevent bad things to happen to his race, to his family, and then, and he works at the union. And now, because of his job, he got them all killed.

He doesn't even know how his daughters are until way later, I don't even know if in the manga they send letters to him during the feast, because I know they don't go to said feast. So Chilchuck doesn't know if his girls are alright until, again, way later. We know they don't die because, well, there's this comic of them going to meet Laios, the new king. But if not for that, who could tell us they didn't die on the monster appearances? I can imagine that after the feast Chil went stright to check on them. Because he loves his daughters, and he cares for his wife. He sucks at communicating it, yes, but he does.

He doesn't want to risk his family's safety. But he, unknowingly, unwillingly, indirectly, did. He got them eaten by those demons because he helped his friends achieve his goal. Because he cared about Falin and wanted her to be human again. Because he cared about Laios and didn'twanted to see him loose his sister. Because he cared about Marcille, Senshi and Itsuzumi. He cares so much about everyone and wants to help everyone (in his own way), that he doesn't think that the result would, inevitably so, be the worst outcome for him. The one in wich work and private life get mixed together. His job as a member of Laios's party ended dragging his family in, despite his best efforts. His job ended up, not only endangering the whole word with demons, but his family. His four precious girls. It ended up almost killing them (probably it killed them for some time because getting eaten by those demons works wierd).

Worst part? He didn't have the time to be mourn over what he 100% sure thought was the complete loss of his family. He was in a hurry to survive himself, so he pushed those sad feelings and tried his best to help who he had left. Later on he finds out that the demons spitted out people. And he seems shocked with some kind of surprised relief.

He looks how everyone that got eaten was alive. And he can't quite either believe it nor understand it. He is really confused. So they didn't die? Are my daughters ok? Is my wife ok? Did everybody survived? Are they alive? He dares to hope that they're all ok and pulls into a box his feelings again, saving it up for when he has the time to be overwhelmed about this all. He has a feast, trying not to worry, but worried sick. Then he goes home and checks on them.

Give this poor man a break and a beer...

#do not. #make him miserable #make him suffer #because #he is a father and a husband and is worried sick about his family well-being all the time #they are why he acts like he does #why he tries to keep family and work in separate rooms #but he fails so catastrophically its almost comical #like #luckily they were alright #but its a miracle his hair doesn't turn white right away #maybe he writed a letter to his daughters during the prepararions for the feast #that would explain why he doesn't have a single white hair after this #but we'll say he disnt for the sake of angst #dungeon meshi #chilchuck #chilchuck tims #chilchuck angst #dunmeshi #dunmeshi angst #dungeon meshi angst #dungeon meshi spoilers #delicious in dungeon #if you want to write something about this #dm me the fic #i NEED TO SEE THE ANGST #@ me if you don't want to dm me but i might not see it because it would get lost in my notifs :( #my shit

[twicedailyquotes]

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.

Maya Angelou

Letter to My Daughter

#quote #quotes #maya angelou #letter to my daughter #book quote

[llovelymoonn]

Heyyyy hope you're doing wonderful, can I ask you for a web weaving about a daughter growing up to be more like her father?! I'm curious to see what you going to feed me, have a beautiful day.

joan didion blue nights (via @metamorphesque) \\ ari banias anybody: poems: "who you're about to be" \\ frederic belaubre chimeras 19-5 \\ -- \\ starry eyes (2014) dir. kevin kölsch & dennis widmyer \\ valérie bah the rage letters (tr. kama la mackerel) \\ @gorgynei

kofi

#this is my worst nightmare #so #on family #on fathers #on daughters #asks #rockunderthewater #mine #my webweaving #webweaving #web weaving #webweave #joan didion #blue nights #ari banias #anybody: poems #who you're about to be #frederic belaubre #valerie bah #the rage letters #kama la mackerel #valérie bah #gorgynei #starry eyes #kevin kolsch #kevin koelsch #dennis widmyer #kevin kölsch

[lesmisscraper]

The life of the beggar who gives alms and his daughter. Volume 2, Book 4, Chapter 5.

Clips from <Il cuore di Cosette>.

#Les miserables #les mis #My Post #Jean Valjean #Cosette #The Lark #Little Mlle. Lanoire #Father and daughter #Owl and Wren #Gorbeau House #Healing Time for Both of Them #It's good to see Cosette getting Bright and Valjean caring her. #But isn't it too noticeable to others? #The Brick #Il cuore di Cosette #Les Mis Letters

[diabolicalrat]

“And I was stifled in your presence; and I thought you are an excellent talker, as far as your own things are concerned, I got a faltering, stuttering style of speech; and even that was too much for you, and I became silent; first perhaps out of defiance, but then because I could neither think near you, nor speak.”

-Franz Kafka, “Letter to my Father”

#this man needs to stop talking and get out of my head #franz kafka #letters to my father #Franz Kafka letters to his father #daddy issues #father issues #oldest daughter #classic literature #literary quotes #literature

[wildflowercryptid]

the daughter of the king, xerneas's beloved child... she loved all pokémon, but floettes were undoubtedly her favorite...

#for anyone wondering how serena's related to az in mjverse : here's your answer :) #her name is ancolie and she's very important to the kalosan war myth in my xy rewrite #a major thing i want to touch on in the rewrite is how ppl handle the grief of losing a loved one (especially between parents & children) > #and ancolie is meant to help facilitate that #along with creating more parallels between serena and az #additional hc : az isn't the king's true name it comprises of the first letters on his and his daughter's names #he doesn't go by his true name bc he thinks it's best lost to time after all the terrible things he did #OKAY ENOUGH RAMBLING ENJOY #pokemon #pokemon xy #pkmn xy #pokemon oc #oc : princess ancolie #🎨 : mj draws