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awitchatdinner · 4 months

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Poverty Reflections

In the chronicles of my life, three years have flown, Since I dwelt in poverty, in a realm so lone. A job, not the best, yet sustenance it bore, On my table, it laid provisions galore.

A wage that failed to mirror my true merit, But the toil was light, so why fret and inherit Worry or anger, rejection's bitter kiss, For I, in destitution, could not dismiss.

Honest admission, I was dirt poor, With pockets bare, life's burdens to endure. Recall the first month, three years in the past, No shoes adorned my feet, a barefoot cast.

Tattered soles, akin to walking free, In shoes so worn, no grace could they decree. Two trousers, a pair, washed once a week, A pungent scent, my wardrobe's mystique.

A colleague intervened, air freshener in hand, To combat the odor that my garments command. Embarrassment gripped as the smelly girl I became, Not by choice, poverty the culprit to blame.

A new job emerged, but rags clung tight, Yet not due to destitution, a different fight. Choice led me to save, not for lavish attire, But to safeguard against a future's dire mire.

In the present, uncertainty clouds the sky, As the company's winds of change draw nigh. A restructuring storm, automation's embrace, Artificial intelligence, altering the workplace.

My boss declared, to my team lead's dismay, Automation would seize our work array. Dust off your CVs, the lead proclaimed, A retrenchment looms, the future unnamed.

Do I feel remorse? Nay, it eludes my soul, No attachment binds me to this job's toll. A stepping stone in times of need, A chapter closed, yet gratitude I concede.

In the echo of change, a tale is spun, Of trials faced, and battles won. A job's transient solace, a fleeting stay, Yet lessons learned, I carry away.

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vaibhavbindusarsstuff · 1 year

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ziarising · 1 year

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natty373 · 1 year

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awakenedlife · 1 year

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What is Emotional Projection and How Can We Identify It?

Emotional projection, or finger pointing as I like to call it playfully is a destructive and harmful form of emotional abuse also known as Gaslighting.

During my childhood I was often on the receiving end of statements such as "you make me feel like shit". Being young and still making sense of the world meant I had no clue that I was "meant to" be responsible for how others felt.

This continued to come up for me for many years and I will admit that I too was sucked into believing that others were the cause of my uncomfortable feelings so I blamed them for how I felt.

Looking back on these experiences and my behavior, I came to learn that all behavior is learned behavior. We are like sponges when we are young and we mirror the behavior of our parents and role models unknowingly. Even if that behavior is harmful to others.

It is very easy to be sucked into a belief system that limits us from living a truly magnificent life that we absolutely love. Often we pick up these beliefs without even thinking twice about them and we innocently carry them with us believing that they are irrefutable truth.

We end up treating others the same way we have been treated in the past by the people that were meant to be protecting us and keeping us safe while we learn and develop into a healthy, happy human being. People that treat others in hurtful ways have themselves been treated the same way and are hurting within.

When we cross paths with people that believe that others are responsible for how they feel, and we don't buy into that bullshit anymore, conflict more often than not ensues. This can lead to the person fanning the flames of the conflict, spouting their disapproval of you not taking responsibility for their emotions, hurtling further assaults towards others in order to guilt trip people into blaming you for making them angry and upset.

The Narcissist will rally the troops in hope that others will support their way of thinking that this person is responsible for how they feel. In an effort to drag you down so you remain beneath them and they remain on their pedestal.

This type of behavior is known as Gaslighting but that is not why we are here. I want to share some helpful insights of how to identify projection and how that can be harmful if you do not understand where your experience of life is coming from.

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"Mirror, mirror on the wall"

People grow by being self-reflective and making adjustments to their thinking, feeling and behavior patterns. For the few that are open-minded, self-reflection can be psychologically relieving by expressing strong emotions. For others that believe they are perfect, self-reflection will not result in improvement.

After all, they are perfect and do not need to change which results in their defenses going up and they start projecting their inner shit at us. Literally spraying us with their perceptions of themselves believing that we the ones causing their discomfort.

Psychological projection is the process of misinterpreting what is "inside" as coming from "outside" and is the result of what happens when we are stuck in a superstitious outside-in way of thinking.

Projection is a primitive defense mechanism because we distort and ignore reality for us to function and preserve our ego. It is reactive, without forethought, and defensive behavior children use when they take their unwanted traits or their uncomfortable emotions they don't want to deal with, then attribute it to somebody else.

In its malignant forms, the ego defends itself against disowned and highly negative parts of the self by denying their existence in themselves and attributing them to others, breeding misunderstanding and causing untold interpersonal damage.

Bullies project their own feelings of vulnerability onto their targets, and a person who is hurting will project feelings of anger and resentment onto other people. Projection incorporates blame shifting and can manifest as shame dumping. I am sure many people have been a part of the blame and shame game before in the school yard.

While in projection mode the projector fires their thoughts, motivations, desires, and feelings that cannot be accepted as their own, and deals with these by blaming the outside world and attributing them to other people. What the ego refuses to accept is spat in the faces of others.

What are the consequences of emotional shit spreading?

In my experience, people have heightened emotional reactions, such as annoyance, anger, or frustration, from projecting their feelings at others that they are denying in themselves. This is emotional projection and is considered a form of psychological abuse from feeling bad about aspects of themselves they are not willing to accept. The consequence, however, is that it also prevents them from really engaging with other people, being honest about the situation, and expressing themselves authentically.

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Narcissistic people often resort to projection to protect their self-image. They often blame the people around them for things that have gone wrong, rather than taking responsibility themselves. As the narcissist projects more shame and criticism onto another person, that individual’s self-doubt often grows, leading to a self-reinforcing cycle.

Setting clear healthy boundaries can help you respond to projection. Responding with clear statements such as “I disagree” or “I don’t see it that way” can deflect the projection and may prompt the person to reflect or take responsibility. It can also prevent you from internalizing unfair criticism or blame. But if the person continues to project, and seems unable to move forward, it may be necessary to remove yourself from the conversation.

If however you want to really challenge a shit projecting egocentric maniac you can always bring it to their awareness that their perceptions of others is a reflection of themselves. Just be prepared for another tantrum of some sort to follow.

What are the 7 signs of Projection?

7 Signs of Projection

1. Blaming you

People who project their emotions on others are quick to blame others, too. They are afraid that you will notice their imperfections. So, when something happens, they quickly blame you to cover the fact that they are the one to blame after all.

This quick finger-pointing is an easy way to spot projection, as no one blames others as quickly as the guilty party. You could say that projection is a cover-up for guilt.

2. Victim mentality

A person who is projecting emotions has a perpetual victim mentality. They have a fundamental misunderstanding of where their experience of life is coming from and constantly talk about how someone, or something has wronged them in some way.

When blaming fails to work, they will hold on to any fabricated situation that helps strengthen their victimized outlook of reality. Don’t be surprised if they talk about something negative you’ve done a decade before. The worst part is that you probably aren’t even guilty of their accusations.

3. Over-reacting

Have you watched anyone in your family overreact to a situation, and it totally caught you off guard? Well, I have, and it’s quite disturbing.

Overreactions are usually projections of a dark emotion hidden within a manipulative person’s consciousness. When confronted, the projector will speak loudly, make exaggerated expressions, and ask why you are attacking them.

Notice that you’re usually speaking in a normal tone while they are screaming. This is because they are projecting their deep and guilty emotions onto you, attempting to make you look like the bad guy for confronting them.

4. Nonsensical behavior

Those who push their emotions onto you live in a fantasy world I like to call La La Land. No amount of reasoning will make them see the truth, or rather, make them admit to what’s true. They either cannot see what they are doing, or they are aware and will never accept it as their truth.

People who are prone to project will exhibit behavior that doesn’t make sense. No matter how ridiculous their words are, they are going to stick to their story until the end.

5. Gaslighting behavior

If you don’t get away from someone who is projecting emotions onto you, then you will start believing what they say.

Gaslighting is basically an attempt to convince you of something that is not true, including misconceptions about your basic character. And yes, over time, you may believe their bullshit stories.

Your mental health could even be affected by this process, so it’s important to retain your understanding of yourself no matter what’s being said. And know that this process is happening due to projection.

6. Repetitive accusations

When someone repeats accusations about you or someone you love, this doesn’t make it true. Those who project their emotions onto you will often use this manipulation as a weapon. They will repeat negative things in hopes that this makes it more believable and makes you more gullible in the end.

Always keep in mind that the truth doesn’t need to be repeated over and over.

7. Your mental health is worse already

Unfortunately, your mental health may already be affected when someone’s been projecting emotions onto you. If you’ve spent years of your life believing lies and being emotionally attacked, your self-worth has suffered.

This means you may be dealing with both anxiety and depression. If you’ve already noticed a severe decline in your mental health, consider whom you’re spending time with. It’s possible that someone is projecting negativity onto you.

When we understand that it is our very own thinking that creates our feelings towards, or thoughts of others then we begin to shift into a higher level of understanding about how life actually works.

We can take full accountability, responsibility and ownership of our own shit rather than thinking that its ok to fire it at those around us. Whether that be at home, at work or even in traffic.

Not projecting your inner baggage at others protects them from being emotional abused while teaching us to accept our own short-comings and self-reflecting.

Protection vs Projection

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radicalrakesh · 1 year

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Grateful for small things, big things and everything in between. Happy Weekend @radicalrakesh #grateful #life #lessonsoflife #enjoylife #quotes #quotations #morningquotes (at New Delhi) https://www.instagram.com/p/CkRxJYBherG/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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rudratattwam · 2 years

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jolandabeuvingjustbelieve · 2 years

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When I’m walking down the streets with my hykies on 😍 #lessonsoflife #texel #quote #life #live #laugh #health #move #hyke #fitness #essentrics #mindfullness (bij Texel) https://www.instagram.com/p/ChAn_Y3rsrO/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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parul206 · 7 months

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...and one day you will stop wishing for someone to love you...

Coz you will realize your love for yourself is enough in this world...

#heartfelt #deep #lessonsoflife #lessonslearned #musings #emotions

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diaries-of-d · 2 years

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What are the lessons people most often learn too late in life?

It seems that life has a way of teaching us things, whether we choose to learn them or not. While some lessons are straightforward and quick to grasp, others seem to take an eternity. There are other life lessons people learn too late in life.

All people have made choices they wish they could take back. If only we could change things in the past. The saying "hindsight is always 20/20" is true. We all wish we had known some things earlier in life. Whether it's being more mindful of our health or learning that you can’t control everything, these are the skills people most typically learn too late in life.

Here are 16 important life lessons that people often learn too late.

Life is valuable and flimsy.

Many folks have to learn this lesson the hard way. When we are young, we frequently take life for granted and believe that we are unstoppable. In our minds, we have an endless amount of time to accomplish our goals.

But in actuality, life is a delicate and precarious thing. It could be taken away from us suddenly and without warning. And for that reason, it's critical to treasure each moment and leads a complete life.

The most essential thing is love.

It's simple to overlook what's truly essential in the daily flurry of life. We become preoccupied with our jobs, our ability to earn money, and our material belongings. But at the end of the day, love is what matters most.

Love is what will bring us fulfilment and happiness. Love is what will get us through difficult times. And regardless of how much money we have in the bank, love is what will make us wealthy.

Quit trying to please everyone; you can't.

That you can't please everyone is among the toughest lessons people learn too late in life. Nobody will ever be completely satisfied, no matter what you do.

Therefore, put your attention on the individuals who are important to you rather than wasting your time trying to satisfy everyone. are those that value you for who you are.

Avoid comparing yourself with others.

Making oneself feel inferior to others can only lead to trouble. There will always be someone who is better than you and someone who is worse than you in a particular skill.

Therefore, concentrate on your own journey rather than comparing yourself to others. Embrace your own accomplishments and take lessons from your own mistakes.

Material items are not necessary for happiness.

One of the most widespread fallacies is the idea that having material things makes you happy. But in reality, you don't.

Some of the world's happiest individuals are those with the fewest possessions. So pursue experiences rather than material things. Go for the things that will make you happy.

At the end of the day, it’s not things that make us happy – it’s our relationships, experiences, and memories.

Let go since you can't control everything.

Realizing that you can't control everything is among the hardest lessons people learn too late in life. Some things are beyond your control despite your best efforts.

So instead of worrying about things you have no control over, concentrate on the ones you can. Release the rest and trust that everything will turn out for the best in the end.

Take good care of your health.

Until they begin to suffer health issues, people frequently don't begin to take their health seriously. It's frequently too late at that point to make meaningful adjustments. Even if you feel great, it's crucial to maintain a balanced diet, get regular exercise, and schedule frequent doctor visits.

Stop obsessing about the past since you can't alter it.

The past has passed. No matter how badly you want to, you cannot alter it.

So keep your attention on the present rather than on the past. Don't allow the past to hold you back; instead, make the most of the present moment.

Don't be scared to fail since it's a part of life.

Failure is a part of life, and that is one of life's most significant lessons. You won't be successful in all your attempt. It's okay that way.

So embrace failure rather than being terrified of it. Learn from your mistakes and draw strength from them.

Those that important to you will always be by your side

The important people in your life will always be there for you, no matter what happens. They are the ones that will support you during difficult times and rejoice with you when you achieve achievement.

Keep working toward your goals.

Many individuals put off pursuing their dreams until they are retired. However, at that time, they might not have the strength or means to turn their ambitions become reality. Even if you just work on them in little amounts, it's preferable to get started today.

Resentment is a waste of time in life.

For your own mental and emotional health, forgiveness is crucial. You will only suffer long-term harm if you hold onto your wrath and hatred.

You don't need to know everything.

It's acceptable to be unsure of your career goals. You'll understand it eventually. Don't worry about the endpoint; just enjoy the ride.

Happiness comes from the inside.

You cannot count on other people to make you happy. Happiness originates within, and it begins with your own ideas and attitude.

The course of life is uncertain.

Be flexible and prepared for the unexpected. Life will always throw you curveballs, but what matters is how you respond to them.

choosing happiness is always an option. You may decide whether to concentrate on the good or the bad. You have the option of being thankful or angry. Your decision is yours.

Don't worry about little matters.

The minor irritations we experience daily are really not that significant in the big scheme of things. We just become more stressed out and lose our sense of delight when we worry about them.

Wrapping up

These are just a few of the important lessons people learn too late in life and should try to learn earlier in life. While it’s never too late to learn, some things are better learned sooner rather than later.

Which of these lessons have you learned the hard way? Share your experiences in the comments below.

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