#inappropriate behavior

[coffeedrgn87]

I don’t often outright shame a comment but I will do this time. What the actual fuck is the point of telling me that you’re not enjoying chapters with spicy scenes in it and that you will click out of the story if yet more chapters contain spicy scenes?

What’s the purpose of writing this? What exactly do you expect me to do? Change the entire story just for you? Apologise for writing a story that heavily focuses on intimacy as two people discover their kinks and enjoy a healthy sex life? Beg you to stick with the story?

This is the epitome of a flame. It’s not constructive, it’s just rude. If you’re not enjoying the story the way it’s been written, hit the back button, close your browser tab, just leave. What are you hoping to achieve by sharing these thoughts with me?

Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate a good discussion and I will almost always accept constructive feedback (providing I’m asked first, because remember I have a life too and you don’t know what I’m going through at any given time of my life) but there is literally nothing positive about this comment. All it says is “sure, I like spicy scenes but if you ask me there are too many so if that continues I’m just going to leave”.

Honestly, it comes across as a threat, nothing more, nothing else. Again, what am I expected to do here? What’s the intended purpose? I’ve no reason to beg for readership nor will I seek out flattery. I don’t know any author who would.

Don’t like, don’t read. That simple. You read the tags, you saw that my story was kink heavy and yet you chose to read it. I didn’t make you, I didn’t beg you, I didn’t ask you. Perhaps a friend recommended my story or someone in a group did and you decided to follow through on that person’s recommendation and check my work out. Still does not explain why you see it fit to subject me to a statement that is hurtful.

#inappropriate behavior #comments #being a writer #not okay #my two cents #notes on writing #i have a lot of thoughts #I have a lot more to say but I’m just going to shut up now

[artinclined-jointheartside]

Harassment PSA

General advisory to be on the lookout for a user by the name "Winxbloomaisha."

They also go by Ecrin Su Coban and ElationWishes. Their current twitter handle is @SuCoban14.

This applies mainly to creators who produce Raeda content as this seems to be this user's primary focus.

Their harassment of me started first on Twitter mid-July this year (2022) under the account name Winxbloomaisha. They were very responsive to my Raeda art and started with simple, benign comments but very quickly devolved into insisting I draw very specific and detailed NSFW scenes. I politely asked them to keep from describing these scenes on my Twitter posts as I will only post full NSFW art on my patreon and did not wish to have such detailed on my posts without my consent. They continued to comment with their requested scenes, still describing them in detail, and then became agitated when I did not post pictures of what they had requested. A friend of mine jumped in at this point, reprimanding them for their behavior, after which they deleted several comments. After informing them that I would block them if they continued, they did back off for a while, but then started up again a short time later. I followed through with the block and deleted their remaining comments off my posts. I have a few screenshots saved from that encounter.

After I blocked them however, they followed me again under the name Ecrin Su Coban (after deleting the original account). I realized this was them because this person spoke in a similar manner to the previous account and also followed at least one Turkish Twitter account. The reason following a Turkish account matters is because the user Winxbloomaisha at one point forgot to run their text through a translator and posted a few comments on my posts in Turkish. They have since said nothing explicit from this account – on Twitter.

They messaged me on Instagram under the name Ecrin Su Coban earlier this month (November) on the same day they commented on my Ao3 fic under Winxbloomaisha. Saying simply they had a question, I responded and they immediately asked I draw Raeda art for them, which I've made fairly clear at this point I won't do. What followed was a comment string where they repeatedly tried to get me to interact with them, at which point my friend again stepped in to reprimand them for their behavior. I have since frozen the threads and turned on comment moderation for the fic, as it appears they enjoy having their comments visible to the public.

Below are the screenshots from the first encounter on Twitter and you can view the Ao3 comment threads I've left up at the bottom of this chapter. (Note: The heart on one comment was an accident, done before fully reading the comment because I tend to automatically heart comments people make to me.)

The reason I have made this post is they have now targeted another creator (screenshot below), specifically with the request to write Raeda fiction. Through asking around we've determined there is at least one other person who has had an encounter with this user as well.

It appears this user intends to continue their behavior, so please be aware of these names in your comment sections.

(Sidenote: Ecrin Su Coban is the name of a popular child actress in Turkey, however through investigation of her socials it is quite clear this girl is not the user of these accounts.)

#TOH #the owl house #owl house #raeda #raine whispers #eda clawthorne #psa #harassment #inappropriate behavior #fanart #fanfic #AO3 fanfic #ao3 #twitter #please stand by

[punk-chicken-radio]

WHAT THE ABSOLUTE EFFIN EFF!…..

…..yeah…..I am know to go ballistic and shout really really loudly from time to time…..usually at uncooperative inanimate objects…..I’d like to reassure you though, that I am generally super chill and quiet, but with a parental guidance sticker for occasional bad language and explosive yelling at stuff…..so don’t mess with my buttons…..

…..I know it’s not a good thing, and I’m getting better at managing it, I mean, I didn’t even yell when I fell and split my ear last week…..although I must confess I did mutter F#*@% C@#> B€*#/% under my breath…..and I didn’t even punch the wall…..

…..I asked @loveaxiomatic if she had any tips on keeping super chill and relaxing…..she said to get in the garden, get some fresh air…..and use the gift of flowers to address any problems…..

…..remind me not to sniff any bouquets she sends…..

…..you know what’s coming up next?…..songs about violent and/or inappropriate behaviour…..in it’s various forms…..

Calming Kisses 😘

love(a chance to wear a skirt)axiomatic

The Old(again)Smelly

#inappropriate behavior #pcr

[randomprosho]

really curious how yall feel about someone qrt "*yaoi pairing's* baby" on someone's post about their actual child. Cuz I think that's weird... I didn't really want to specify the pairing so I hope yall understand what I mean. like, I think that's pretty inappropriate to say about someone's real child...

#proship #inappropriate behavior

[snarky-badger]

Okay, Men/Males/AMAB of Tumblr - here's what NOT to do.

Do not approach a female human being (AFAB or otherwise) - who is with their family (actually just don't do this in general) - sit next to her table while trying to give her compliments she doesn't want, ask to share her serving of soup, tell her 'oh I always wanted a bigger woman as a wife, they're sterner', when she declines, and then proceed to STARE AT HER FOR THE ENTIRE TIME you're there, and then, when you leave, tell her she's pretty and then RUB YOUR FUCKING MEAL RECEIPT AGAINST HER CHEEK with a creepy smile.

God I need several showers and some bleach.

THIS. This is why women/females/AFAB don't feel safe with men/males/AMAB! Because lots of you pull shit like this - WHILE OTHERS JUST WATCH AND DO NOTHING! (like my goddamn father).

I got to have a panic attack in a restaurant bathroom this afternoon. I did not enjoy it.

DON'T DO THIS. DO. NOT. DO. THIS.

It is not 'cute', it is not 'suave', it is not a fucking COMPLIMENT!

It's fucking CREEPY and GROSS!

And if you see another man/male doing this to someone FUCKING STOP THEM!!

#men #harrassment #tw: harrasment #creepy men #men being gross #men being men #amab being creepy #creepy behavior #panic attacks #what not to do to another person #seriously what the fuck #tw: panic attack #inappropriate touching #inappropriate behavior #usually i'm ugly enough that this shit doesn't happen #but NOT TODAY #jfc #AND THE GUY WAS OLD ENOUGH TO BE MY FATHER!! #*retching noises* #why can I be super protective of other people but not be able to protect myself?! #I just fucking sat there #wishing that my parents might intervene or something #but NOPE! #no support for me! #'oh he's just infatuated with you' - shut the fuck up mom

[sincericida]

do you know if andrew garfield has had any crazy / inappropriate fan interactions ? i know pedro pascal has some weird fans lol, and it made me curious about andrew

Physical interactions, not that I can remember. But, Andrew has told a few interviews about people trying to follow him for your home. That’s so weird, stalker stuff. I would be very scared if it was to me. (and yes, Pedro has some fans with deplorable behavior, he does not deserve this)

#ask box #andrew garfield #andrew garfield with fans #pedro pascal #inappropriate behavior #ask anon #ask response

[kurukuhatsune]

Why am I being treated like this ridiculous unknown follower person who doesn't listen or understanding me clearly? 🤦‍♀️

I'm getting real sick and tired telling this unknown person to leave me alone or give him/her a warning over and over non stop!

Just to make this clear to everyone that I'm a ace/straight adult woman who a professional artist that does sketch drawing and not lying to repeating this person again and again. So I recently didn't get new unknown person follower last month after I thought it finally stop since I uploaded new post, but I was wrong this is what I got the day before yesterday and now.. 😡🤦‍♀️they never learn how to respect people just to play them off and to those who are a normal decent followers that loves my artwork thank you so much, I'm really grateful that you enjoy it.

#tumblrlife #stop bullying #cyber harassment #inappropriate behavior #follow #i had enough #i need heeeeelp #i need support #stalk me #stop stalking me

[zuol]

Update

On my neighbor. I've mentioned him on this blog many times, and I thought that it is appropriate to share the end of my interactions with him.

He's someone who is white. Engineer. Has his own family.

He's said and done weird things, and he's also been someone who's offered personal opinions that were helpful to me.

I randomly ran into him the other day and we went for a walk together and watched the sunset. It was hard for me to focus on watching the sunset because he talked so much. Nothing new. I remember once, I told him to be quiet.

I remember he had gripped my arm, reenacting a scenario he had with his wife and I was so caught off guard. This happened while I was watching the sunset and I froze. My whole body froze and I had to calm myself down because I was so shocked that he did that. I told him I was uncomfortable when he touched me like that but I was trembling. I was not calm. He didn't apologize. He said that he was trying to show me what his wife did. It was weird. It was stupid.

Walking down, he was still talking (ugh) and I was really trying to calm myself down. He stopped to ask me a question, and I told him verbatim that I was still calming myself down.

That interaction stayed with me, and I was so shocked that it even happened.

I saw him a few days later in the evening and he walked passed me, not acknowledging me or saying anything. I stared at him the entire time, and I was in shock to see how pathetic he was to say absolutely nothing to me.

I felt a lot of anger in me after that evening. I decided to text him sharing my disappointment and discomfort, and told him to be conscious of how his actions affect others.

I didn't receive a response back (no surprise), and concluded how cowardly this person is. And when I reflect on all of my interactions with him, it made sense that was the end of everything. This person is so strange, and I find no reason to ever want to interact with him again.

I saw him again today while I was chatting with my friend, and by the time she asked me how I was, I told her that my loser neighbor passed by.

It's ridiculous how he had the audacity to act inappropriately, and didn't think twice about what he did. A lot of generic things came up for me like how there are men who think that they own women's bodies or how so many women are harassed on a daily basis.

I feel sorry for his wife and two daughters.

#harassment #consent #inappropriate behavior #did not proofread

[vizthedatum]

You know what pisses me off about the ex-friend who introduced me to my current partner?

The fucking fake empathy that masks their selfishness of being entitled to my time and energy without building trust or getting to know me.

And what’s more, I’m still upset at my other ex-friend who I dated last fall/winter for several reasons already discussed: the worst part about them is if they truly don’t understand how they’re a selfish two-faced people pleaser, then they’re ignorantly going around being stuck in dissociation and causing emotional damage. They’re not practicing ENM, and I’m worried about their partner (something I’ve talked about in therapy). I’m incredibly certain they also exhibit fake empathy and have probably made “excuses” for my behavior (like how I might be a sex addict, or how I’m not fun to be around because of my trauma) while they do fucked up shit like be social media friends with my ex-spouse well after me filing the PFA while dating me, putting me in considerable risk. And then justifying that they did it so my ex wouldn’t be alarmed they were losing friends. Meanwhile trying to get me to teach them how to fuck my AFAB body that they didn’t get sexually aroused by. Meanwhile straight up not practicing any form of emotionally responsible conversation with our weirdass poly situationship while ignoring how disrespected they felt by that person. And like not telling me that they found my info dumping overwhelming despite knowing I’m autistic and I need clear communication (which is worse when you realize that they’re also auDHD with trauma like me… and they’ve definitely encouraged paragraph texting explicitly with not just me but on dating apps, as something they like doing). They focus on keeping up appearances while one of their closest friends is literally losing their mind due to horrible cyber and in real life stalking - and barely any progress has been made on that front. It’s ok to focus on one’s self but I don’t want people in my life who don’t have the emotional intelligence or empathy to actually look out for friends, lovers, and partners.

Fuck it all.

I made the decision this week that I’m just going to really do this life by myself, with the help of my trusted partners and friends. I may never have a nesting partner or coparent, but I have me.

Let people think I’m crazy. Let them make fun of me or belittle me with their limited perceptions of the world. Let my ex-spouse be an ableist transphobic monster who threw away the person who would have been there for them no matter what (except abuse, I guess).

Fuck toxicity. I’m working on mine. Don’t gaslight me and not work on yours.

#healing #trauma #neurodivergence #love #queer #self love #harm #heartbreak #prose #anger #dissociation #inappropriate behavior #harmful behavior #polyamory #social relations

[pointman74250]

“I’m sorry for enjoying my life. I apologize.”

—— Joseph Lewis Szabo III (Apologizing for Whatever The Fuck I Laughed At, At Any Fucking Given Moment, At Any Fucking Given Time.)

#laughingstock #quote #self quote #qoute #quoteoftheday #self qoute #philosophy #quoteofthenight #funny #quoteofthemorning #humor #i apologize #apology #sorry #insincere #ironic #inappropriate behavior #fuck you #lol #funny humor #funny quotes #funny quote #victimhood #dark humor #humorous #enjoying the moment #enjoying life #sincere apology #sorry guys #i’m sorry

[rememberroxy]

What’s going on with all these half-naked females “following” me? I’m not into that, and I don’t appreciate it. Write something I want to read, read someone’s writing, or make some art or something. I’m a female heterosexual in a monogamous marriage. Might seem bizarre and boring, but that’s okay with me. I have lots of life experience, and a great imagination, and I write cool poems and stories here and on Medium. If that’s not your bag, don’t “follow” me.

#harrassment #what is happening #what the hell #writing #don’t follow me #inappropriate behavior #people being weird

[artinclined-jointheartside]

I noticed that in the Twitter screenshots (from your harassment PSA) the user’s requests were copying an already existing fic, “Reflection”, almost the exact text

Ah. Isn't that just fine and dandy. Lovely.

#ask #ask response #TOH #owl house #the owl house #harassment #inappropriate behavior #harassment PSA post #This feels a certain kind of blegh #raeda #fanfic #fanart #ao3 fanfic #please stand by

[qupritsuvwix]

#us army #daycare #carlisle barracks #horseshit #inappropriate behavior

[alyceinwonderland777]

For all the creepy motherfuckers who insist that Lolis aren't pedophilia.

If you find this type of character sexually attractive you are a paedophile / have paedophilic tendencies, even if the character in question is of legal age.

Cry mad about it 💋

The article:

#Anime #anime community #peadophilia #Lolita #inappropriate behavior #predatory behavior #disgusting

[soapdispensersalesman]

TW: Grooming, violence

Surprised this video doesn't have more views, although he's not convicted of anything his interest in young (and underage) girls does seem a bit questionable to say the least. This has been going on for nearly a decade and a half and I mostly just see memes about it.

#Drake #Drizzy #video essay #Internet oddities #tw grooming #cw grooming #inappropriate behavior #millie bobby brown #hailey bieber #violence #tw violence #cw violence #security guard #Surviving Drake #ovo #ovosound #chris brown #Youtube

[inocentwonder]

Umm 😳🫣

#wait a minute #hold up #inappropriate behavior #there are children present #I might be into this #i might be insane #obey me nightbringer #obey me luficer