#gifted child burnout

[sarayu-sunrays]

being the gifted elder daughter be like: *is strong* *works hard* *overworks* *burns out before uni* *wants to move out* *hates mother* *loves mother* *hates father* *loves father* *unfair expectations* *breaks down* *I can make them think I'm fine* *someone help* *has three panic attacks but gets an A*

#gifted child burnout #i hate that thats a tag #eldest daughter #desi eldest daughter

[acewithobsessions]

Does anyone else feel like gifted children actually struggle more with not getting positive feedback? Like, if you get 100s on everything in school, then it becomes an expectation, and then you can never exceed anyone's expectations, so positive feedback is actually really hard to get, or at least feel is genuine.

#gifted child #gifted child burnout

[theidlespoon]

a big thing about me is that if there is even a MINOR obstacle between me and a task i need to do i will simply. not do the task.

#text post #textpost #shitpost #tumblr #humour #relatable #lmao #funny #random thought #humor #procrastination #academic validation #gifted child burnout #academic burnout #neurodivergent

[chicorytree]

Re-learning art

I was always told I was really good at art when I was younger. And I really liked it and had fun doing it, but I was self taught and learned when I was a kid. Now, I'm almost an adult and I realize I know next to nothing about actually drawing. I would like to make a comic or webtoon for a story of mine, but I can hardly even draw a face anymore. I know I have to relearn art, but I don't know where to start. Any advice is very much appreciated

#art help #gifted child burnout #sketching #help me #i am going insane

[brightlotusmoon]

Hello. This is the book I read at age eleven because I thought the hardcover was pretty.

I hope you understand why my parents' artist friends found me fascinating while most of my peers found me Odd and Strange.

#favorite books #gifted child burnout #twice exceptional

[snowdropnature]

the only thing I ever wanted was to escape your disappointment. the only thing I ever craved was your approval

#eldest daughter #gifted child burnout

[decider-of-fate]

I was never a gifted child per se

But I was academically better than anyone in my family so they saw me as gifted.

My mother still thought I needed to study to get good grades but it wasn't true. Most of the time I studied I didn't really and I still got good grades.

But I never learned how to study and now I'm in college and everything is depending on one exam. My anxiety gets the best of me, turning my stomach, turning my head. It's like my life depends on it because if I fail this is over. I have to change the subject to something different just so I can continue studying my major.

And there's something so scary about it, not only that I feel stupid because I tried to study and study but it wasn't enough.

My mind tells me I fail, my dreams tell me I fail but I still cling to the last bit of hope I have left because this was my dream. And I was too stupid, too lazy, too...

I wasn't a gifted child per se. But I still burned out. Laying numbly on the bed, staring at the ceiling and wondering- where did I go wrong?

#thoughts #feelings #gifted child burnout #anxiety #hope #failure

[faithfromanewperspective]

I can’t be the only one who can’t stand the recent trend taking of to call burnout ‘exploitation’. Like it’s good in theory and all but when it comes down to it, there’s always going to be some of us who simply can’t cope with what’s seen as a societally ‘reasonable’ level of demands. Like I’m still sifting through things hanging over me going back a decade or more to when I was a literal child. I guess you could blame the years-long intense burnout I’m experiencing on my educational institutions who thought I was gifted and had me perform at high levels in multiple things while keeping up with as many things as everyone else. On society who decided this is the way we treat kids, to set them up for the grind as adults (even though it mostly does the opposite). On my family who didn’t know what the kind of energy I had to ration out was or what my triggers and drains were. But the truth is in so many ways I was sheltered from exploitation and my parents made sure of it. The truth is I didn’t have to work through high school or do any extracurriculars and I was actually encouraged to drop some.

Even now, half of the demands that hold over me still come from my own ideas, because since I was young I had too many and couldn’t keep them in my head: I had to do them. The truth is I never showed signs of needing a break until long past when lasting damage was done, and I was dumb and passionate as teens and young adults are supposed to be, and had anyone tried to warn me to slow down, I would feel like they were taking my autonomy away and work even harder. This is what happened, I’m not exaggerating. Yes I was working to earn connection that I shouldn’t’ve gone without, but you can’t police connection and ensure everyone gives it: many people simply don’t know how to give it. It’s a paradigm shift: when we prioritise connection exploitation is ridiculous as a concept. We see everyone as human. We empathise and those of us who have love to give aren’t banished to only ever express it in fandoms, but are a beacon of social capital to society as we’re mentored and our capacity is built to share it. It’s the same way (and this is an oversimplification, I am aware of that, it’s only an example and not the point of the post) indigenous societies have thrived on the land for millennia caring for it through connection. We thrive when we care for our workers the same way: souls we steward and share in the good works of. Elsewise you end up with rules and standards and for those of us who can’t live up to them, too bad, everyone else did everything right so we end up believing that the ones who are doing it wrong are us.

#neurodivergent representation #neurodivergent liberation #ydgtp #<-catch the reference #burnout #adhd burnout #gifted child burnout #ministry burnout #workplace sustainability #silver vents from work #except I’m not at work #but seriously I’m sick of how ableist this trend is #personal mental health tag

[karolinda007-blog]

Maybe, just maybe, I am not that good at what I love. What I've always been praised of, maybe this is the best that I can do. Maybe this is all I can do, the further i can go. And this scares me so much, because it's just not enough.

#imposter syndrome #gifted child burnout #oldest sibling

[segue-into-romanticism]

sorry to inform you but your child feels superiority complex by doing a course they don't even wanna do

#academics #science #literature #gifted child burnout #college #engineering #mathematics #students #uni

[solaris-seraphim]

I used to hate being a gifted child. But now I’ll never be one again and I miss it

#gifted #gifted child #gifted child burnout

[sarayu-sunrays]

What am I but my ability to be useful?

- Eldest daughters everywhere

#eldest daughter #gifted child burnout #gifted child #eldest child #desi people #desi kid #desi daughter #desi eldest daughter

[radicalshelbs]

Gifted Kids to Burnt Out Adults, where y’all at 🫡

#poetry #healing #laconic #personal vent #writing #burnout #haven’t I given enough #writerscommunity #poems and poetry #gifted child burnout

[theidlespoon]

i love my father, but i don't like him.

#text post #textpost #shitpost #tumblr #relatable #daddy issues #father #parents #trauma #gifted child burnout #gifted child burnout syndrome #dark academia #franz kafka #kafkaesque

[hatshepsuthypatia]

There's a lot going on

There's a lot going on

As the clock ticks on

Tick-tock tick-tock tick-tock tick,

I fell myself falling behind

My feet tangled in molasses

That feel like complacence

And procrastination,

Or dulling of a spark

That gave me a headway

When I was young.

My peers are running in the front

My brother achieved 4 milestones

My best friend did more

That cousin who hated me

Waves in my direction as she crosses me

My feet are sluggish, struggle to keep pace

Matching the gradual weakening of my smile

You are too late! Said the school competitor

I thought you'd be the first to reach

the finish line, crush from college chimed

But Alas we see you left behind

Running slowly in with an energy

That got expended mostly in the childhood

And now when burnout takes centre stage,

I aim to reach the zenith

There's too much going on

And not enough energy in me

But I guess pushing is the way to go

Be it Hare's speed or Turtle's pace

Somehow finishing this rat race.

#poetry #rat race #competition #poem #my poem #musings #burnout #gifted child #gifted child burnout

[condescending-jerk]

ok let’s talk about gifted child burnout – the infamous bubble burst that tends to happen to “smart kids” in their late teens/early twenties.

my partner and i were talking about this and we realized that we both found the concept totally unrelatable because we’ve just not experienced it. and we agreed that there are two main routes that “smart kids” can go down when they get to the age where the bubble burst usually happens –

a) hit their ceiling and/or realize that there are so many other people smarter than them, refuse to accept it (or just can’t) and go insane, eventually get over it and become a “normal adult” full of regrets for their lost potential

b) realize their limitations and develop a stable enough sense of self to tap into the attributes that made them “smart kids” rather than rely on external validation and perceived success, become smart adults who lead a somewhat normal life but still feel fulfilled

but then there’s also

c) people who have yet to experience the bubble burst because they’re aware it might happen and go out of their way to protect the bubble for as long as possible by only doing things and putting themselves in environments that will still give them the validation they thrive on

and like i definitely thought i was b) but by the end of the conversation i’m now considering the possibility that i might actually be c) ???

#personal #gifted child burnout #just a random thought #and also disclaimer - even if you think you’re a) now you can definitely become b)