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mooncurses · 5 months

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hey friendly reminder that any cluster b personality disorder does NOT make you an abuser, because to abuse people is a malevolent and conscious choice that anyone can make regardless of how sane they are. also friendly reminder that this doesn't mean that you can't still grossly mistreat others due to ur disorder, just like an autistic person can mistreat people during a meltdown or if they get too caught up in something to pay attention to how their behaviour reflects on others. acting like an asshole is a universal experience, and what differentiates the good guys from the bad guys is just the willingness to take responsibility for the things that you said and did and to apologize without making excuses.

#borderline abuse #narcissistic abuse #anti narcissistic abuse #anti borderline abuse #cluster b #psychological abuse #verbal abuse #npd #bpd #hpd #aspd

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impunkster-syndrome · 10 months

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What most people don't get is that "narcissistic/borderline/etc abuse" mindsets thrive on ableism and making sure people stay traumatized and hypervigilant. It is inherently anti-recovery by design so it can stay alive.

It thrives on making you scared. Similar to racism, sexism, transphobia, antisemitism, xenophobia, etc. Once this is identified, it's harder to exert control over people.

When you're scared, you're reactive. Everything different looks like it will hurt you. Like how toddlers are often scared of things that most people are not because of how unfamiliar things are. I'm not saying that to call any narc abuse truther a child, I'm saying that when you're traumatized everything around you becomes unfamiliar and threatening.

A lot of these groups are like TERFs. Everything is very black and white. There is no welcoming of any challenge to their views. The longer they stay together isolated from others, the more radicalized they become. The "raised by narcissists" and "raised by borderlines" communities are bigotry factories that go against recovery by telling victims that there are people out to hurt them and that they will be hurt again, so they have to hurt others before they can be hurt.

There's probably a bunch of overlap between that and pseudoscience like body language analysis.

It's all fearmongering.

And yes, I am putting this in their tags because I hope people realize that fear encouraged by groups is not going to help you recover. The world is complex and scary, and yes sometimes horrible things happen due to the actions and choices of others. That doesn't mean that everyone is trying to hurt you or that people are inherently evil or abusive due to factors outside of their control.

#personality disorder #narcissistic abuse #borderline abuse #personality disorder safe #pd safe

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palefox-7 · 6 months

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okay so i just finished watching the 12 dancing princesses since i havent watched it since i was a little kid

and their father is borderline abusive

like wtf you would trust that ugly ass duchess over your own kids

#barbie #old barbie movies #tw child abuse #borderline abuse #the 12 dancing princesses #srsly tho #also the animation for that time #*chef's fucking kiss*

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hatred-rage-and-repression · 6 months

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Every time i breathe a YT person d1es <333

#yt people🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢#disgusting #yt privilege #white privilege #white people #anti west #anti usa #anti eu #pro extinction #narcissistic abuse #borderline abuse

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borderlinejackiee · 5 months

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#actually bpd #bpd feels #bpd problems #bpd #bpd vent #bpd fp #bpd mood #bpd shit #bpd stuff #bpd tag #bpd thoughts #borderline personality disorder #tw abuse #tw drugs #tw disordered eating #trauma #trauma vent

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sin-esthezia · 7 months

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the thing that gets me the most about ableism against pd’s is that ppl will be like “these disorders make you an ASSHOLE!!!!” and then turn around and pretend that other disorders can’t and don’t make you act shitty.

depression and anxiety can make you irritable and snappy. they can cause you to refuse to listen to people and to be distant and withdrawn. they can cause you to seem angry, bitchy, rude, uncaring, etc.

ptsd causes an array of difficulties in forming meaningful relationships. it pretty much shakes up your entire worldview and sense of self a lot of the time. ptsd can cause you to get angry often. it can cause you to yell and scream. it can cause you to withdraw from others, run away, or cut them out. it can cause general changes in demeanor and more cynical worldviews. it can make you seem grouchy, negative, explosive, impolite, difficult, needy, controlling, etc.

and yet when people with personality disorders have symptoms of that nature, suddenly we are irredeemable monsters. when it’s npd, bpd, hpd, or aspd instead of ptsd or depression and anxiety, people suddenly and magically lose the ability to be understanding.

mental illness is an explanation, not an excuse. i firmly believe that. hurting others is never justified simply because you have any disorder.

but if you can be patient with people who have depression, anxiety, ptsd, ocd, or any other more well understood mental illness, you can be patient with us.

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its-simply-just-krys · 1 year

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“Mouthful of Forevers”, Clementine von Radics

#not mine #dark poetry #dark literature #vent poetry #poetry #tw trauma #trauma vent #emotional abuse #tw abuse #childhood trauma #daddy issues #borderline personality disorder #bpd blog #bpd vent #actually borderline #quiet borderline #deep quotes #dark academia poetry #classic literature

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cccat-in-a-meat-sack · 5 months

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me, with both:...

#borderline personality disorder #bpd splitting #actually bpd #bpd thoughts #bpd problems #bpd #bpd vent #actually borderline #borderline pd #ptsd #complex ptsd #actually ptsd #ptsd recovery #tw ptsd #tw abuse #tw abuse mention #calico hisses

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autopsyfreak · 13 days

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tired of people on tiktok acting like BPD and HPD are the ‘good cluster b disorders’ or the ‘victim cluster b’s’ meanwhile NPD and ASPD are the ‘evil mean abusive cluster b’s’

stfu.

we’re in the same cluster for a reason, you can’t support some whilst demonising the others.

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a-sip-of-milo · 7 months

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Abuse isn't only physical. Sometimes it is...

Shouting at them until they cry/retaliate.

Humiliating them in front of friends and family.

Refusing to let them see friends and family.

Isolating them from what's outside.

Refusing to let them have control over their own finances / keeping it all for yourself.

Belittling their looks, their personality, their thoughts, etc.

Bullying them in any way.

Purposely pushing boundaries.

Threatening them, either physically, verbally or emotionally.

Controlling what and when they eat.

Locking them in rooms so they can't escape.

Refusing to let them use the toilet/eat/sleep/etc. after or before a certain time.

Gaslighting them into questioning their own reality.

Lying to or manipulating the people around them so they look like the abuser.

Purposely breaking their belongings, especially in front of them.

Ignoring safewords/"stop"/anything that indicates they're not okay with what's happening (in general, not just in the bedroom)

Giving them zero privacy. That means going through their diaries, tracking them, attending their therapy/doctors appointments when they don't want you to.

Setting them up to fail for the sole purpose of getting to punish them.

Obvious favoritism of one child over another/the others.

All of these are things that I have personally been through. They contributed heavily to my eating disorder, my BPD, my anxiety and my depression.

#cluster b safe #cluster b #bpd #borderline #borderline personality disorder #actually bpd #actually borderline #npd safe #aspd safe #hpd safe #tw.abuse #bpd safe #emotional abuse #childhood trauma #ptsd #actually ptsd #ptsd recovery

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disqualified-human-1103 · 1 year

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I’m sick of going to bed and knowing things won’t be better tomorrow

#bpd vent #actually bpd #actually borderline #bpd feels #actually traumatized #bpd shit #bpd stuff #depressing post #personal vent #trauma survivor #bpd favorite person #tw abuse #bpd fp

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draculian-accomplishments · 6 months

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Reminder for people with Personality Disorders:

You can be in therapy for years to be able to cope.

You can mask the difficulties you have.

You can cope well with your disorders.

You can function in daily life.

But the day you have a bad day, the day you're so overwhelmed that the mask slips and you simply say one thing, the neurotypicals will use it against you and use it to abuse you.

Abuse is a choice. Abusers make the choice to abuse someone. Not every abuser has a personality disorder. There are plenty of abusers that are Neurotypical. Plenty of neurotypicals will abuse those with PDs due to the stigma and misinformation around them.

Quit using terms like "Narcissistic/Histrionic/Borderline/Anti-Social Abuse"

Quit using "Narcissist" and "Anti-Social" as insults.

Quit justifying abuse towards people with PDs.

Quit armchair diagnosing abusers and assholes with Personality Disorders when you don't know the lived experience of people with them.

Stop fucking appealing to Neurotypicals.