#aro rant

[7-crows-in-a-trench-coat]

does it bother anyone else when shippers say that there is “no platonic explanation” for something? like i understand when it’s about kissing on the mouth, cuz like 9 times out of 10 that’s a romantic thing, but when characters say “i love you”, one blushes at the other, they buy each other something sweet, stuff like that. like. there literally is tho? i understand that some people use that as fire to fuel a ship (i get it, i’ve done that too for ships i like) but i just *loathe* when people say that there’s no way it can be platonic. i get that most people don’t mean it to be but it just feels really invalidating to aro people, especially those in close friendships and queer platonic relationships. it just enforces the myth that platonic relationships can’t be as passionate or affectionate as romantic ones.

yes that blush can be romantic. yes, they might be holding hands because they are romantically involved. no, that doesn’t mean your favorite romantic ship is canon. no, that doesn’t mean that those two close friends are necessarily lovers.

#this is only kind of about hunter blushing at willow #like i get it #i’m not mad that people are using it as a reason for why they thing huntlow with be canon #but for the love of god PLEASE STOP SAYING THAT BLUSHING IS ROMANTIC BY DEFAULT #aro rant #aromatic #aromantic asexual #not a shitpost #serious post #aroace rant #aroace #queerplatonic #platonic #platonic relationships #not salt #/gen #platonic huntlow #aroace huntlow #aroace hunter #aro hunter #aroace willow

[ziptie-bouquet]

About the word "queerplatonic".

Disclaimer: I know the definition of the term I'm using, and this is a rant about the word itself, not the concept.

Ever since I realized I was aro I had this sort of uncomfortable feeling about the word "queerplatonic" that I pushed to the side because everybody uses it and I truly resonate with the concept it represents.

However, I thought more about it, and yeah, I really dislike that word.

I'm mad that for a concept as non-normative as QPRs, we have a word for it that has "platonic" in it.

I get that some QPRs can simply be highly committed friendships that break typical boundaries but it still upsets me that the name fully obscures all the relationships based on alterous/exteramo feelings (so, mine).

I hate that most definitions you'll find of "platonic" exclude sex and that OUR OWN RESOURCES sometimes say that QPRs don't include sex.

I hate that I don't feel included in my own community sometimes even through terms because I'm not the perfect aro (understand: aroace). I know that I could use much more niche terms to talk about my relationships, but queerplatonic is the one getting visibility even sometimes outside of aro communities.

I want to use a word that people will understand so bad but queerplatonic is so misleading it feels like the usual "We can still love platonically and not in the gross sex way teehee" whenever I hear it.

#aro #aromantic #aromanticism #lgbtqia+ #arospec #aroallo #alloaro #aro rant #queerplatonic #qpr

[transaccordionist]

I wish more media could drop the Sex=Romance and Romance=Sex trope, like it makes me so mad that I can't just have a bit of fun with a character in a game without suddenly being in a monogamous romantic relationship!

"why do you dislike romance so much?"

Maybe because it keeps being

SHOVED

DOWN

MY

THROAT!

#aro rambles #aro #aromanticism #aromantic #aromantism #aro rant #aromantic ramblings #aro rage #aromantic anger

[rueevergreenfae]

I want to say I hate being aro, but that wouldn't be true. I hate what comes with it. I hate the baggage society tied to my back and told me to bear. I hate loving and loving and loving and it never being enough because it's never romantic. It's never the "right" kind of love. It's never the "better" "stronger" type of love. It's not the love that ties two people together until death do they part. It's not the love that says you're mine. It's not the love that makes a family. It's the love that fills in temporarily, the love that's secondary, the love that gets overlooked and undervalued because it doesn't have strings attached.

Romantic relationships say they're forever, until they aren't, that they're exclusive, that they have expectations and guidelines and rules, so many rules. And yet they're valued second to none. They're the goal, the future. Beyond encouraged they're expected. You're expected to find one person, and only one, to confess love to. One person for the rest of your life. And that's it. Sure friends are nice and all, but they're never the end destination, just a little detour.

Except for me, they were never a detour. I just didn't always know that. But now, I say I love you, I'm here for you, forever and always. I say you're mine. I say I hold you so close to my heart. I say I will protect this relationship with my life. Until I have nothing left to protect. Until it fades to neglect. Until they lose interest and you're left holding a frayed rope that you thought was unbreakable.

#rue writes #my writing #rue rants #<- everyone welcome the new tag #writeblr #aromantic #aro rant #I was talking to one of my friends about how they feel like they'll never be loved #and it was just like... #I love you so much but that will never be enough for you #another friend has a partner and she's never said it but I see how she values him over me #and always will #and it's just. it's so disheartening knowing that I'll always play second fiddle #anyways #this was cathartic 10/10 would recommend angry prose it's great

[rapha-reads]

You ever meet those people and you're like "If I had the ability to, I'd fall in actual romantic love with you" but romantic love is not something you have access to so instead you just go "I'm offering you the deepest friendship you and I will ever know, I'm carving a place in my heart and my mind for you and I'll carry you around for as long as my heart holds"?

#rapha rambles #aromantic #aro rant #which i could love you like you deserve/want but all i can do is love you as much as my heart can #love is love is love and we'll be alright my friend

[unionize-aromantically]

I hate how some people just don't understand that someone can hate romance, or be triggered by romance, or be tired of romance.

#romance repulsed #romance repulsed vent #rant #aro vent #aroblogging #aro rant

[dinotoaster]

I need to stop reading alloromantic peoples' rants about their partners. I would panic if I had someone half as clingy in my life holy fucking shit. Why on earth would you depend on one person for your entire self-worth???? And then get upset when they want a tiny bit of privacy and time with other people???????

(yes yes not all alloromantics, this is one specific rant I'm talking about but like it's not the first time I hear it)

#aro rant #I would not do well in a romantic relationship

[charlie-and-mushrooms]

Growing up aromantic

you know, when i was younger i thought movies and books were exaggerating romantic attraction. maybe they were a little bit, but i never felt the buttlerflies, or thought about that someone all the time. i never wanted to kiss people or go on dates. and when i watched movies or shows, i always cringed and looked away when they had that really slow weird scene before the kiss. or i just felt annoyed and told the characters to get on with it and kiss already.

sure, i sometimes felt nervous around people, but it wasnt romantic. i never faked crushes either, i have had three instances where i genuinely thought i had a crush in my entire life, but i either just wanted to be their friend, or it was gender envy. i assumed it was romantic attraction because if movies and books are exaggerating the feelings of it, then this must be what it feels like.

when i finally did date someone, i genuinely thought i liked her at first. but as it went on, i realised that i didnt like holding hands all the time, i didnt like cuddling (altough that might be more related to my anxiety, because i would be worried about shifting and so i would just stay in an uncomfortable position and ignore it) and the biggest thing, was that i felt the exact same way towards them that i did to the rest of my friends. we talked it out, i made sure they knew it was not her fault and it was a healthy relationship and everything, but that i had figured out i was aro. she understood and were still friends, which is great.

i dont know, ive just seen tons of posts about this kind of thing, but never my exact expirence so i thought id share

#aromantic spectrum #aro #aromantic #aromantic pride #growing up aromantic #aromantic story #aro things #aro thoughts #lgbtq community #lgbtq #aspec #aspec pride #aspec experience #aro experience #aromantic experience #aro stuff #aro spec #aro spectrum #aro tag #aro rant #aro post #aro ace #aro vent #aromanticism #aromantic thoughts #aromantic things #lgbtqia #lgbt community #lgbt pride #lgbtqplus

[thearoacemoon]

Is it too much to ask for a fantasy book with no romance? Please!

I just want to have a break sometimes. My romance-averse being is fed off relationships that can be easily written off. Or the ones that simply happen with no warning.

Me: "Oh, they're in love? Where did this come from?"

Author: "From inside my ass!"

#romance-averse #amatonormativity #aro problems #aromantic #Aro rant

[hannaxjo]

the day i stop hating on the phrase “more than friends”, just shoot me, cuz that’s not me

#amatonormativity #just friends #more than friends #go fuck yourselves #relationship hierarchies suck #and they’re not real #aro #aro rant #text post #rant #vent #shitpost #lgbtq shitpost

[nebuloussoul]

It's fairly impressive that not a single day goes by without some allo annoying the fuck out of me.

#ace #asexual #lgbtq+ #lgbtqia+ #aromantic #aro #ace spec #aroace #asexuality #aro spec #ace pride #ace rant #aro rant #allos are so UGH

[ziptie-bouquet]

Aro rambling about the other aros

I feel such a disconnect with the rest of the aro community sometimes because I don't value friendships all that much honestly.

I really dislike how "We can still love platonically" seems to have such a huge importance within the community and also outside of it. It feels like a part of me is cut off whenever allos bring it up because alterous attraction is a big part of how I live my relationships.

I've seen accounts of people being basically controlling whenever their friends didn't pay attention to them because they got into a relationship from this community, and this leaves a sour taste in my mouth too.

I don't want to be defined by friendship. My friends matter, but my attraction to people is less normative than just the simple friends/lovers dichotomy society runs on. I'm really tired of people thinking only those two relationship types are possible, and I wish we wouldn't exclude our loveless and aplatonic community members with this friendship worshipping.

#aro #aromantic #aromanticism #arospec #aro rant #lgbtqia+

[transaccordionist]

As someone who hates romance and Amatonormativity, I feel like when I find media with romance I don't hate/actually respect, or even just make me not wish for it to not be there, to me that mean it's well done romance.

#aromanticism #aro #aro rambles #aromantic ramblings #aro rant #aromantic #aromantism

[klavierpanda]

One thing I will never understand about alloros is their in ability to act civil after a pretty undramatic breakup. Like sure, I get that maybe you're upset about not being in a romantic relationship with this person anymore. But like, you can still be friends and wouldn't you rather the other person is more comfortable too? Like there's a reason they broke up with you so respect it and don't be salty about it? If you like them soooo much then surely losing them as a friend too would such even more? /nbh

#aro #aromantic #aro rant #this is very targeted but also in general #I'm mad at said person for other reasons too but that isn't related to their handling of being dumped #panda's post

[pending-dope-username]

Ugh I wanna wear a wedding ring/band but romantically and be totally in love with my partner romantically. I don't want this queer platonic bullshit. I want romance. I fucking hate being aromantic.

#lgbt #aromantic #aromantism #aroallo #aro rant #im sick of it #fuck aromantism #im done #fuck romance #fuck alloromantics #fuck this shit #i want out #give me alloromantic

[unionize-aromantically]

I was gonna read poetry but everything's just about love, how boring

#if anyone has any recommendations my eyes and ears are open #i can even turn on my screen reader to make that expression work #i wish all poetry was written by me #aro rant #ink.post #1: has to be non-romantic preferably not about people either cause I prefer other types of poetry