#I’m asexual by the way

[marvelousartcatastrophe]

I really liked TGCF (obviously… obsessing over Qi Rong still) and I want to try MDZS but I’m put off by sex scenes. Like I want to read it because I know it’s probably really good but I don’t want the smut to ruin it for me.

#art catastrophe #I’m asexual by the way #sex scenes are just not it #kinda gross tbh #I knew the donghua was pretty censored so I have watched a few episodes of that and I sorta like it #I’m currently reading a ballad of songbirds and snakes so I actually can’t jump into it rn anyway #I have a rule of only reading one thing at a time and I’ve been so busy I keep forgetting to read it #an iron widow and fourth wing are also on my reading list #so it’s not like I have nothing to read I just see the Mxtx fandom appears to like mdzs more than TGCF and I wanna see that for myself #svsss idek if I’m contemplating on cause nothing has drawn me to it #svsss #mdzs #tgcf #mo dao zu shi #tian guan ci fu #scum villian self saving system #mxtx #mo xiang tong xiu

[soaked-doors]

till the sun goes up

#doing another daily luzo playlist challenge bc I’m on my spring break lol #or id like to call it #sex songs about sex in an asexual way #sorry yeah I know I look crazy #luzo #zolu #one piece #roronoa zoro #monkey d. luffy #my art #zoro #luffy

[dragengyrr]

OUT NOW only on Voxtek+ Premium: "The Rizz Demon strikes again!"

(…or "the moments from 666: Live On Air! by @prince-liest that had no reason being this funny.")

⚠️ Horny demons ahead (kinda) ⚠️

Anyway, excuse me if I mixed up the scenes where Alastor’s supposed to be more/less dressed, I can’t keep up with his undressing policy in the series, but I think it’s always funnier when he’s all buttoned up.

Edit: more Alastor in the dress! Yay!

#hazbin hotel #hazbin alastor #alastor #hazbin vox #vox #radiostatic #onewaybroadcast #princeliest #aroace alastor #one sided radiostatic #fanfic art #aromantic alastor #asexual alastor #I almost didn’t include the last panels because of how long it took to figure out Alastor’s new hair #but he’s gorgeous your honor #there’s no way back now I’m hooked #poor vox #vox’s insides are human flesh mixed with my cable management skills

[cholvoq]

“Softly you stir, Gently you moan

Lust in the air, Wake as I groan

In the dead of night, Love bites”

Literally the most vampire Steddie-coded song ever—

#steddie #steddie fanart #vampire eddie fanart #steve harrington #eddie munson #kas eddie munson #steve x eddie #stranger things #song is Love Bites - Judas Priest #I’m literally asexual #how did i draw this #I spent way too much time on details

[gayvampyr]

“queer spaces should be inclusive of people who don’t enjoy sex and who have “strange”, negative or repulsed relationships with sex” and “sex is an important aspect of lgbt community, history, and activism and queer people should be allowed and able to talk freely about sex without stigma or shame” are ideas that can and should coexist.

#‘queer people were banned from and shamed for having sex and that’s where a lot of our activism stemmed from’ and #‘not liking or having sex is considered abnormal and a mental illness and also needs to be destigmatized’ are concepts that not only can but #often do coalign #it’s esp important to consider that a lot of lgbt ppl who have a tricky and strained relationship with sex are like that because of trauma #which is very common for queer folks #it’s really not an ace-only thing #like i am sex repulsed but it’s very hard to discern if it’s because i’m asexual or if it’s the trauma. either way i deserve to have those #feelings and be included in lgbt spaces and discussions about sex and treated as just another queer person with a different experience #instead of being alienated because my feelings about sex don’t directly line up with yours #im so sick of people in this community trying to pit us against each other. as an ace lesbian that shit is so toxic and harmful #my relationship with sex is fluid. im sex-positive always‚ but i often find myself sex repulsed. im otherwise neutral about it but im sick #of people acting like it’s either you enjoy sex and have it frequently or you hate it and you shame everyone who has it like youre a puritan #like. lesbians are CONSTANTLY getting hounded and told that we’re broken or mentally i’ll for not showing interest in (having sex with) men #for the same reason asexuality is considered bad or wrong or weird

[immortalarizona]

listen. I have never watched Riverdale and never will. but that doesn’t mean I’m not sO FUCKING PISSED at the polycule ending.

I’m not mad about the polyamory (I would like to stress this point for anyone who wants to come after me for this post), I’m mad that Jughead Jones, one of, like, the two aroace characters in media people have actually maybe heard of (the other being Yelena Belova) is part of this romantic, sexual relationship.

he’s ace!!!

he’s aro!!!

and it fucking stings that the writers thought it was okay to erase that aroace rep when there’s next to none for us to begin with.

fuck your amatonormativity and fuck your queer erasure. we aspecs deserve better.

#“bUt aRi aTtrAcTioN iSn’T aCtiOn!!1! hE cOuLd sTiLL bE aRoAcE iN riVeRdaLe!1!11” #yeah I’m aware of that but I HIGHLY DOUBT THAT WAS WHAT THE WRITERS WERE GOING FOR #and do you fucking think your average allo is gonna read it that way even if it was??? #also tbh I Do Not trust allo writers to tell that kind of story without perpetuatinflg erasure #can’t have shit in detroit I guess #tw aphobia #asexual #aromantic #aroace #riverdale #riverdale finale #aroace jughead #anti riverdale #fuck amatonormativity

[idkwhatsgoingonargh]

I recently met up with my closest friends after a long time. We had some drinks and just talked. Naturally the conversation at some point ended up in guys. I’m aroace and was kind of dreading this as I also get always asked if I’ve found anyone, and always have to once again explain that I’m not interested.

But when I went “I’m not interested in that” my friend said “But it doesn’t have to be like that right? Just have you met anyone cool or interesting”

I swear to god my brain short circuited. Like she knows about queer platonic relationships?! I never explained that part to them… what?

Anyway she clearly learned about my identity from somewhere and I felt so appreciated in that moment and definitely didn’t show it to her like I should’ve, as I just said “yeah, no one like that either” and the convo moved on.

#that ended up way longer than I thought #another realisation in that moment was how boring the guy/relasionsship talk in my friend group is #there is three of us and I’m aroace and my friend is in a stable relationship #asexual #asexuality #aromantic #aroace #aroace spec #aro #aromanitc

[might-as-well-happen]

Isaac’s storyline in Heartstopper season 2 is so important to me. We’re going to have all these teens seeing themself on screen, seeing the struggles of “what even is attraction anyway and how does it feel?” Seeing the moment when you’re coming across the terms Aromantic and Asexual and finding a part of you that you never understood or wanted to understand come to light. And it feels so much better than you’d have ever imagined. Having to tell a good friend that you’re not interested, and having to hear a platitude that doesn’t actually comfort you. “You’ll find someone, you’ll feel it eventually”, knowing that it probably will not apply to you, but if it does what does that make you? A liar, a late bloomer, indecisive? (Don’t worry it doesn’t - labels can change and feelings can too, identifying with one label at one point and a different label at another is totally fine!).

Finally realizing that you’re ace/aro, and being so so so happy about it. Knowing you’re not alone or weird or wrong, but you’re just you and that’s perfect.

Teens will be able to see that, and see themselves in Isaac’s storyline! It’s so awesome that we have that, and done in such an amazing way too, it makes me so happy.

#like I learned about the term asexual when I was 13? but I couldn’t accept that I am ace (and aro took even longer) until I was 16? 17? #and only then I came out to one friend - just to have told someone to not be alone with this secret #cause I felt wrong or weird for being aro ace #but I’m not #I’m perfect as I am #me being aro ace makes me perfect #I wouldn’t want to be any other way #Heartstopper #heartstopper s2 #heartstopper spoilers #heartstopper isaac #aromantic #asexual #aroace

[a-confused-teen-venting]

ill admit folks…

i think the reason i havent identify as asexual yet is cause of my hypersexuality.

#cue the whomp whomp trumpet sound #the audience gasped in fear #like it makes sense in a way #I barely had attraction to people so I’m close to being aroace #but i see it as unfair to use asexual because I’m hypersexual #idk need help #hypersexual #aromantic #aro #aromantism #aroace #asexual #aromanticism #aspec #a spectrum #ace

[thief-of-eggs]

Jason: *fixes squeaky door*

Tim: Awesome, thanks man!

Jason: No problem. You know what they say- ‘Ace is the place with the helpful hardware folk’

Tim: …I literally have no clue what you’re getting at

Jason: *disappears, but in asexual*

#i’m sorry guys this was way funnier in my head #jason 100% counts this as him coming out #asexual jason todd #jason todd #tim drake #incorrect batkids #incorrect batfamily quotes #funny bats #asexual character #chaotic batfamily #batman #batman headcanon #dc headcanon #batbros #incorrect batbros #incorrect batman quotes #bat brothers #batfam #batjokes #dc comics #dc batman #batfamily #ace jason todd

[sunderingstars]

as an aroace person, i cannot tell you how immeasurably wonderful it feels to see canon ace alastor in the show. yes, i know it’s a one-off sentence of dialogue, but that’s so much more than other ace characters get. after waiting so many years and not wanting to get my hopes up because i’ve been let down before, i love this feeling of just like, yeah. we made it.

it’s not a lot right now but it doesn’t need to be. it’s there. in dialogue, on the screen. there’s so many places it could go in later seasons, and for now i’m just happy. i’m happy that this character i love so much is just like me. idk. representation matters

#⌞ ༄ cosmic.wind: other ⌝ #not to push my luck in the hope department #but the way he acted surprised at rosie’s comment could be a setup for a discovery arc later on #idk i’m just riding the high rn #hazbin hotel #alastor #hazbin spoilers #hazbin alastor #alastor hazbin hotel #asexual #ace #alastor the radio demon

[bjurnberg]

Guess which oblivious asexual virgin just accidentally bought her first vibrator?

This guy. *points both thumbs at my beet red face*

I got my tax return and wanted to buy a couple things for personal comfort before all the money goes into car repairs. Specifically I’ve wanted one of those hang-over-your-chair back massage things for my computer chair, and figured I could also find a cheap handheld massage gun to get rid of those stress knots that live rent free in my shoulder blades when I’m away from my desk.

So what do I do? I do an internet search for “handheld massage gun” and read through a dozen products and reviews. And APPARENTLY my mind is so far removed from sexual thoughts that nothing pinged on the mental radar that this was anything besides a massage gun to relieve muscle stress. (There were several very obvious vibrators and dildos that popped up in the search that I ignored and filtered out of the search, but the one I bought was this)

Product title: Handheld massager.

Product description: “Rechargeable personal hand held deep tissue vibrating massager for muscles, back, foot, neck. Cordless electric percussion body massage gift for women.”

IT SAYS NOTHING ABOUT THIS BEING A SEX TOY. IT SAYS BACK FOOT AND NECK. NOTHING ABOUT GENITALS AND ORGASMS. I truly thought the “for women” was because the handle was pink. Figured I’d be paying the pink tax because it’s a cute color and I like cute things.

But soon as I open the brown box it got mailed in, I see this on the actual product packaging:

And the truth hits me like a cement truck.

What the fuck. I don’t wanna fuck. Why did they send me this fuck machine? Well fuck me I guess (but don’t really) because I must have been shipped the wrong thing and now have to return this and file a complaint to get the thing I wanted.

But no. The product number is the same. This is what I paid for.

Do allosexual people use their vibrators as massage guns for other parts of their body? I’ve never heard of that. But I also don’t follow conversations about sex toys. Because I don’t care and it kinda squicks me. Why wouldn’t the product description be clear about what this is? Why trick this poor asexual by claiming it’s a handheld back massager? (I mean, I guess technically it can be used on any part of the body I wish, but why? Why? Why market it this way?)

I have “Ace Until Proven Guilty” in my bio as a joke because too many people equate asexuality with innocence and infantilize us regardless of whether we’re sex-positive, -negative, or -neutral. I’m all for people using any sex toy they want but it’s not my thing so WHY WOULDN’T THEY STATE WHAT IT IS IN THE SALES PITCH instead of misleading me, a person who hasn’t seen a large variety of vibrators and wouldn’t recognize one on sight?

Guess I’ve been Proven Ace once again.

(It’s okay to laugh at me. This is kinda funny. If annoying.)

#honestly all my embarrassment and anger are already gone #and I’m just sitting here rolling my eyes #why? #just why? #I don’t understand why they would market it this way #acespec #ace #asexual #sex repulsed #you do you if you want #but I don’t wanna do me #I just want a massage #and not in my vagina thanks #bjurnberg

[givemebishies]

I was just reminiscing abt the time I told my mom that I’m acespec and I accidentally also told her that she’s apparently acespec too

#I remember explaining to her like #yeah I’m ace apparently cuz allo people think x way and I think y way #and she was like #wait hold on I thought everyone felt y way? #and i was like #apparently not??? #and she was like huuuhhh???? #chatterbun #also I got diagnosed w adhd and the more I learn abt my symptoms I realize that they’re ALSO her symptoms too lololol #I love me mom :> #ace #asexual #asexuality #ace memes

[dragons-and-cake123]

My reaction to Tori being ace in the new Heartstopper update:

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

#asexual #heartstopper #tori spring #ace #lgbtqia #lgbtq #heartstopper v5 #heartstopper update #the way I SCREAMED when she said she was asexual #also her fears abt michael not accepting her are very relatable #I’m just so happy and excited to see more of her #and so grateful to Alice for this representation

[waterberry-strawmelon]

just gonna go ahead and say this in advance—

if Riz does indeed come out in junior year, and he says, “I’m ace” or “I’m asexual” when referring specifically to his lack of romantic attraction, aromantic people are allowed to be upset about it.

#because yes of course some people irl say ace to mean both bc that’s how they personally identify #but in fictional media the distinction is necessary. especially with how few canonically aromantic characters even exist in ANY mainstream/ #popular media. #I assure you I’m not invalidating anyone who is ace and they mean that to include lack of romantic attraction. #But to look at this from a MEDIA PERSPECTIVE its irresponsible to do this w/out clarification that they also know the word aromantic exists #because otherwise that’s just a conflation of asexual and aromantic without any nuance #and an erasure of aromantic people who are not asexual. #Plus—name a single fucking time a character in mainstream/popular media has said the word aromantic. #Because I can name several instances where they say asexual. But I can’t think of ONE where they say aro or aromantic. #(Maybe that Isaac kid does in season 2 of Heartstopper? But I haven’t seen it so I’m not 100% sure.) #anyways. #the way this fucking fandom—and ANY fandom with a canon aro character—discusses the aromantic spectrum #is blatantly just to remove their own personal guilt for shipping that character with other characters and erasing their orientation. #because yes aromanticism IS a spectrum!! But when people talk about fabriz and say ‘he can still be ace!’ (Which is aro erasure) or #‘he can still be aro!’ They never SHOW riz still being aro or having any kind of complex relationship with romance. #I’m angry and I’m allowed to be. #I get that a ship you liked may be hard to let go of or something #But I’d be much less mad if all the fabriz fans said ‘yeah I know Riz is aro in canon and he and Fabian would never get together. #I just like to imagine it sometimes in fiction/fanon!’ Then that would be a WHOLE different conversation #Because then they’d at least be acknowledging that riz doesn’t feel romance in canon. That fabriz is something that actively #Goes against the canon characterization of one of those characters—and that’s fine. Just fucking ACKNOWLEDGE IT. #But most of these people either WANT fabriz to be canon/believe it WILL BE canon #OR I guess feel uncomfortable confronting the fact that they ARE erasing riz’s aromanticism so they don’t even acknowledge it at all. #fhjy #fantasy high #d20 #dimension 20 #riz gukgak #aromantic riz gukgak #fhsy

[oroniusn]

Literally half of my playlist is old romance songs not because I enjoy romance but because I can’t for the life of me find old jazz that ISN’T romantic, send help I need suggestions

#aroace #aromantic spectrum #aromance #aromantic #aromanticism #aro pride #arospec #aro #aromantism #aromantic asexual #jazz #jazz music #I’ll also accept blues #Just give me old (i’m talking 20’s-30’s MAYBE 40’s) music that isn’t about love please #Even better if it’s about religion but not in like a “praise Jesus” way #I’m talking “the devil is literally after me” vibes