#I love my Dip family~

[welcometogrouchland]

I feel like for the first few years of guardianship Darius and Hunter really struggle to figure out how to refer to each other.

Like it's easier for Hunter, he pretty quickly settles on "guardian" for explaining their relationship to other people and just referring to Darius by name when talking to the man himself. Overtime the phrasing gradually warms, becoming "foster parent" and eventually, once Hunter's already an adult old enough to move out, "Dad".

(Sidenote: he doesn't move out til he's in his mid to late twenties, bc he's under no obligation too, Darius low-key doesn't want him too, and the two of them want to make up for lost time in a sense, since Hunter only had 2 years of legal dependency on Darius before aging out of the system. Darius adopts Hunter retroactively as an adult)

Darius on the other hand has a real conundrum on his hands for those first few years. He has a lot of options! But "ward" is too formal and makes it sound like Darius picked him up off the street like after his parents were murdered, "apprentice/student" isn't really accurate considering the focus of Darius and Hunter's relationship has less to do with Hunter learning magic and more to do with Hunter being housed and fed. "Kid" and "foster son" are there...but...

Look, Darius isn't going to refer to Hunter more familiarly than Hunter refers to him! He's not gonna make it WEIRD. He's not a dad, because Hunter doesn't want/need him to be (and also parenthood is scary <3). Darius doesn't know the first thing about being a dad, despite how his friend group teases him.

Eda and Eberwolf are the two who are worst about it. They torture him with how 'fatherly' he's allegedly being (allegations Darius will DENY til his GRAVE!!!) And Eda specifically compares his journey to hers, saying it always starts off with you referring to them as your apprentice (again, Darius doesn't plan on doing that), as your roommate (...kinda weird in Darius' opinion? But okay Eda), or even your pet (????HELLO???). But eventually, they always become your dumb kid when you least expect it.

She's had a couple cups of appleblood by this point, but Darius knows on some level she's right and he's steadfastly ignoring that fact, even as Eber continues to refer to Hunter as his "cub" (kinda cute but Darius doesn't know how Hunter would feel being compared to an animal). The only people who are even remotely reasonable about all this (besides Lilith who's a bit disinterested in kid talk) is Raine and Alador, who both sort of neutrally, a bit awkwardly refer to Hunter as Darius' Boy.

Darius referring to Hunter as "my boy" is funnily enough what sticks the longest before it evolves to son boy. Hunter's crushing it at a derby match? Darius is whooping and cheering, yelling "THAT'S MY BOY!!!" At the other parents in the stands. Hunter is doing something dangerous or inadvisable where others can see him? "Darius, your boy-" "AHH! MY BOY". Hunter, a year into his stay with Darius finally comes clean about everything to do with him being a grimwalker, and is afraid that he's going to go back to seeing him as just an inferior replacement for Darius' beloved mentor? Darius (who has just had to process some of the most bonkers, emotionally heavy information in his life) gently, hesitantly puts a hand on his shoulder (the 'good' one Hunter doesn't mind people touching), and says that Hunter's much more than that. He's Darius' Boy and he's not going to kick him out or get angry or love him any less for things out of his control. It's good. They're good.

Like I said, it evolves over time and 'boy' becomes somewhat obsolete as the two get caught up in the joy of finally feeling able to explicitly refer to each other as family. But unlike "guardian" or "ward" the word never gets fully retired. Even when Hunter is 30 and is arguing that he's more of a man than a boy now, he is still getting referred to by Darius as "his boy", the way some parents never really stop calling their adult kids baby or kiddo (Camila and Eda respectively btw).

Hunter makes one of those corny matching shirt sets at some point for a father's Day gift when he's 17/18, where the two shirts say "if lost, return Boy to me" (Darius) and "I'm Boy" (Hunter). Hunter mostly did it so he could own a funny shirt that says "I'm boy". Darius openly weeps upon seeing them. Like Oh my Titan he's boy. He's my boy. Oh wow

#ramblings of a lunatic #the owl house #toh #hunter toh #darius deamonne #dadrius #made this instead of finishing my dadrius week day 1 comic. it's okay i have time #i think this post dips it's toes into being one of those 'part writing drabble/part textpost analysis' posts #which I'm okay w/ tbh i love those #i just hope it reads well #the important thing about dadrius + eberwolf to me is that it's just as unlikely a trio as King Eda and Luz are #just as weird and has just as gradual and retrospectively funny a journey as them #i also specified foster parent instead of adoptive parent just bc i read it in a fic once where Hunter was placed in isles foster care- #-post canon and he had a social worker who was a gargoyle named Chantelle. it was delightful #this is my homage to that. the fic was 'the titan laughs in flowers' i think (thank you user yardsards for the rec) #alador still gets the instinct to refer to Hunter as the golden guard and amity gets on his case about it #so referring to Hunter as darius' boy grew out of that and spread to raine who finds it kind of adorable #darius refers to hunter as his foster son for the first time when his (darius' i mean) family comes to visit #not as like a statement of anything they don't deny Hunter as a deamonne. they love him like they love a scraggly cat #but just like. it felt right for Darius in the moment and Hunter got emotional about it #anyway happy early dadrius week I'm rotating them in my mind I'm biting down on them like a chew toy etc etc

[irregularbillcipher]

do love how many of us bill cipher flatland truthers heard "when bill destroyed his home dimension, he killed everyone he'd ever known" and all simultaneously decided "well except kryptos. he knew kryptos. he kept kryptos :)"

#the circles trying to arrest bill for Dimension Crimes or w/e: can you explain your relationship to bill cipher #kryptos: i am bill's right hand arm. man. i'm bill cipher everything. his best friend. his confidant. his silly rabbit #the circles: his what #kryptos: his silly rabbit #the circles: ... his silly rabbit #kryptos: yes :) #the circles: is that what he calls you? #kryptos: no <3 #i see so many interpretations of their dynamic but i think it's funny how it always basically boils down to well of COURSE he kept kryptos #even the people who are like 'he finds kryptos annoying as shit and rags on him whenever he can and hates him' are like #'but yeah no obviously he kept kryptos around!' #also while i have my own thoughts on their dynamic to the point it is the main point of my fic and kryptos is now the secondary lead #i do love that however you interpret him (friend acquaintance partner court appointed attorney family member WHATEVER) we're all just like #'he was there too :)' #i also think it's funny that someone felt so strongly about their own kryptos idea that they went hogwild on the wiki unsourced and was #just like 'ummmm they're related now! it was confirmed. source-- my divine knowledge :)' and then caused everyone to go HUH #until it was taken down #bill and kryptos are very much NOT related in my hcs like very very very much not #but i gotta hand it to you. as much as i disagree with the take #it takes guts to go on the fandom wiki with your random hc and go 'this is real trust me :)' and then dip

[2dieavirgin]

alegría alegría

#headcanon brain goes brrrr #everytime wine is spilled at the table Daniel dips his fingers on it and draws a cross on everyone's forehead #sam and anthony are usually the priority even tho they always end up wiping it off when he's not looking #spilled wine means abundance and good luck etc etc #not sure if this is something most families do but mine does! and i love to self project #my art #cobra kai #daniel larusso #sam larusso #fanart

[knightinink]

@piplicious​ your sketching made me make sketches w/ music tysm

#I cannot be stopped #joe & biddy are introducing their kids to more family! #pip kept in touch with them over letters & have been telling them all about damien & they love him #pip pirrip #damien thorn #sp dip #joe gargery #biddy gargery #south park #great expectations #my art

[mattodore]

the echthroi protagonists on the set of barbie

#river dipping #theodore doe #matthias evanoff #echthroi #oc extras #i didn't feel like doing any of my other ocs bc there just aren't enough colors for the full lot (but still missing three lmao) but okay so #imani: this barbie is living in a plastic house #romeo: this ken is collecting roses #sehyuk: this ken is carving his name in flesh #dutchie: this ken is circling the drain #alessandria: this doll is tending to too many wounds #delphi: this barbie is stomaching bone #dionte: this ken is digging claws into dirt #nicholas: this ken is fading in and out of the light #............................... romeo fr the only oc in here having a good time i'm gkjfdhnfjghndfkjghn #!! cw for vague mentions of abuse and drugs and like... a lot trauma in these tags past this point bc i'm talking abt my ocs !! #we got fuckin uhhhhhh neglected child aching for affection grows up craving any kind of touch even a welt abusing substances and himself #vs. barely there boy nearly human enough for love but missing the mark and growing up detached wild too apart from anything to feel alive #vs. eldest daughter discarded for only son unable to break free from kinship and find herself and a life apart from the plastic #vs. murderer drug dealer crime lord born to a cold family then sent away and abandoned out of shame #vs. recovering catholic suffering guilt and violent urges toeing the line of morality and seeking acceptance #vs. werewolf never meant to lead suddenly having their entire family ripped from them and struggling with power and isolation and grief #vs. woman who spent her whole life being used and hurt and silenced growing claws and teeth to strike back and maim and feast #vs. lost boy in a foreign land mourning the loss of his mother has humanity ripped from him and is forever altered from failed shifting #vs. protective volatile arsonist orphan older brother figure whose entire story arc is [redacted] #vs..................... romeo the hopeless romantic like it's kjdnhkjfnghk #maybe it's just bc romeo is a new oc and i haven't had the time to really sink into him but i kinda like that about him #dutchie was originally supposed to be the untouched by history oc but then i made him catholic and well. that turned around pretty quickly #i fully blame his pinterest board for that like you add one cross image in a board and suddenly every pin you get recommended after is like #hey what if you fucked this guy up a bit? and who was i to argue with that? ...................also i just reached tag limit LMAOOOOOOOO

[caffeinated-bibliophile]

I'm reading and listening to The Underworld: Journeys to the Depths of the Ocean by Susan Casey and I keep basically coming up for air (i.e. scrolling the dash for a few minutes) after about each chapter so I can process and vibrate with excitement etc.

The abyss fascinates me and terrifies me and I've been anxiously awaiting my turn to read this for months (I placed holds last year shortly after the book was released).

This is going to lead me down more rabbit holes, probably alternating between geology, biology, oceanography, plate tectonics, and volcanology (all of which are things I've previously spent a lot of time learning about, but my interest has been rekindled recently, hence reading The Underworld).

Gotta say, though, there have been some... awkward... moments. This book came out less than 6 weeks after the oceangate incident, and there are so many lines that have made me wince (like how there hadn't been a manned-submersible death since the 1970s...)

#the arctic and space and the deep sea my beloveds #literally feel like I'm vibrating when i think about them #and i have to restrain myself each time i dip into reading etc about them because i will get obsessive again and it will take over my life #reading this unlocked the memory of how young-me truly wanted to be a volcanologist... until i saw Volcano & was traumatized lmao #all my science dreams were crushed by family telling me it was for boys or i wasn't observant enough or i was too airheaded etc #(i was a straight A student in the gifted program but undiagnosed adhd) #anyway. now i feel almost like I'm not allowed to engage with anything like this because I'm too stupid and what's the point in learning #but it's something i genuinely love so I'm trying to ease back into learning for fun #even though i know I'll never be able to use any of this (except maybe in stories idk) #that got out of hand but whatever i needed to vent i guess #now I'm going back to reading about the tonga trench 🍿

[im-dirtydan]

Drunk af time to go depression swimming

#its reg swimming except u have depression #and its at night #i wanna skinny dip but this my familys house so i cant really like that #side note #i like this dude and i h8 myself for it #cause like... #when will i learn #neva #help #lol see like i have realized ive been cursed #but i like to pretend i havent #cause literally all ive ever wanted #is to be in love w someone who loves me back

[solreefs]

they were so real for that (the sound effect of Morticia’s back cracking every time Gomez dips her)

#solreefspeak #the addams family #[harpsichord music] “querida!” [unholy cracking sound] [kisses] #if anyone dipped me my back would do that on its own you wouldn’t need to add a sound effect lol #anyway i love this show

[antiqua-lugar]

I think we as a fandom focus too much on "Anders makes the Chantry go boom" and "Fenris understandably breaks up with you out of trauma" and not enough on "Merrill has depression", "Sebastian decides in Act 3 out of nowhere that you should get married and somehow Hawke agrees with his" and "Isabela fucked off for three years and Hawke had zero proof she would ever come back"

#like Isabela legit broke my heart like hawke didn't even know if she was ever gonna come back #she's just like I love you and then she dips #talk about giving trust/abandonment issues to someone whose all family died in like three years #da2 #dragon age

[dirtytransmasc]

I know in my bones that Jon would have been a mama's boy, the biggest mama's boy actually, had Cat accepted him as her own. I just feel it deep within my soul, that boy would be attached to her at the hip, always holding her hand or leaning into her or latching onto her like a little leech (affectionate), and god forbid someone try and mess with her, oh lordy you better run. and honestly the other way around too, don't mess with Mama Cat or her kids.

had Catelyn accepted him as her son, the bond would be far too powerful, that's why they had to be put at such odds, it was for the world's sake, I just know it.

#I feel like this is already vaguely canon #cause like #she didn't mean too. she didn't mother him. but he turned out jsut like her. #like Cat. babes. thats your son right there #there's been points in Jon's character where I see more Cat then I see Ned #(mind you. I have just started dipping my toes into the books so this is mostly based off of the show) #anyway #I just think their potential bond would be SO interesting #especially cause Jon will always be Jon. he's loyal. he's fiercely protective. he's strong for those he loves. he's a fighter for his family #and then just add the “nothing gets between a mama's boy and his mama” thing #and I just know all could have been well #he would have never left Cat's (and Robb's) side (for a multitude of reasons. cause if she'd accepted him he'd most likely never gone to- #the wall or at least waited a bit longer since their wouldn't be the pressure to do so) and no one would have touched a hair on her head #and also just like. imagine little Jon and his mama. cuteness overload #I think he would have liked for her to play with his hair when he was little and hust never grew out of it #ahhhh #I just want them to be happy #I'm deluding myself into believing they were a happy little family and they lived a happy little life and all was well #cause I can't take it anymore #my heart hurts for them #this is my agenda #jon snow #catelyn stark #got #asoiaf #game of thrones #a song of ice and fire

[watermelinoe]

Drop the veggie dip recepie

(it's in usamerican units sorry, T is tablespoon and t is teaspoon)

1 pint mayonnaise

3T soy sauce

4T dried chives (~3T green onion also works)

1t dried ground ginger

#answered #resippy #it's simple but my mom always made it around the holidays and i loved it as a kid and make it now #it makes quite a bit so you could always cut it in half #that'd be one cup mayo 1.5T soy sauce 2T dried chives 1/2t ginger #recently my paternal aunt gave me all the old family recipes including my great grandma's fruit/ambrosia salad recipe!! #but the veggie dip is something my mom got from someone she knew iirc

[opens-up-4-nobody]

...

#christ. so i was selected as the top candidate for the program i interviewed with on Friday #and im very annoyed and very pleased and also annoyed that im pleased #im pleased bc it means that they were impressed with what ive done to this point and they think i communicate well. which is cool #and the project is very very cool and id love to work on it #am annoyed bc this does put pressure on me to accept bc they can only put one student forward so if i dip out then thats it for them #which i find extremely stressful. and everything is just so much more complicated if i go to the uk for a phd #and i dont get the luxury of faffing about and taking a bunch of classes like i could in the us. ugh but it would b so cool to go back to #the uk and i wouldn't have to fucking drive. ugh. this project. #ugh its like my boss said #sometimes the project is more worth it than the school. id have crazy cool opportunities to learn things on this project #but at the cost of taking a lot of classes in the us. but every project is what u make of it #but im so fucking dyslexic thst its hard to learn outside a classroom bc i cant concentrate and i dont have a person talking me thru the #info. so idk idk. hopefully when i visit the other school ill kno how i feel #god but i loved living in the uk. and i could travel so much more freely there bc the trains and all that. im so fucking restricted bc im #so terrified of driving. i dont have good reaction speed and i space out too much and i get intrusive thoughts #sigh... but id be a whole 24hrs of travel away from my family instead of the 10hrs thst i am now #so id probably only get to see them once a year maybe? in contrast to 2 or 3 times #and im just worried something terrible will happen and then ill be like fuck i wasted all my time making myself miserable so far away #idk. im so tired. we had like a mile abd a half hike out to a site one way and we left at 7.30 got back at like 4 #it was a long fucking day. and im tried. and i have no filter. and when i talk too much it really annoys me #also! i got confirmation that i fucking suck at recording data. wow im so shocked. its basically designed for me to be terrible at #but its still slightly embarrassing. like srry i fucked up ur data. i cant write words correctly #literally i kept writing my Ls upside down today. why? idk that not how i see them. my brain just cant make Language right lol #whatever. my parents r calling tomorrow and i can info dump at them abt my dyslexia knowledge and my academic knowledge of biblical history #bc instead of listening to anything useful to my job. i choose to listen to lectures on neurology and theology. bc fucking idk #its interesting im relearning my bible lore from a non religious perspective. theology is fucking fascinating. ugh anyway #i shoulf sleep im so fucking tried #unrelated

[gandreida]

hheeeuuurrgghppbbtttt

#my dad messaged me today sayin’ he hopes to see me soon and it honestly ruined my day luke #like please leave me alone :////// #then some general normal Every Day BS happened at work and I just had to dip I almost walked off the job no word to my sups #Just makes me think of my mom which #i feel more justified after it I guess ‘cause she’s the one who allegedly approves the messages her husband sent me when we had our fight #tbh life is better w/o her messaging me daily like I spent basically all of 2023 #wanting to cut her off and she gave me even the lightest reason to do it so i did and it’s been nice #the pointless guilt I felt for not wanting to see my family has turned into general resentment and annoyance #i don’t even miss her or him like I straight up just don’t want to see my blood relatives they’re not family to me they’re just people #i happen to share genes with like if you really wanted to build a relationship with the person #you forced into this stupid world then maybe you shouldn’t have been such insufferable assholes for the first 18 years #i spent most of my conversations with them over the phone last year basically just saying life sucks and that i want to kill myself #I need them to feel bad for conceiving me i need them to regret it #my cousin Aaron has the right idea tbh like last I heard he wasn’t talking to my uncle or anyone w/ blood relations really #following in his footsteps. I legit just got so full of rage and frustration when my dad messaged me it’s been like 3 weeks since we spoke #it was so obvious that I didn’t like my mom growing up everyone knew it and berated me for it like how am i supposed to accept that? #How am I supposed to take the hate and anger she exhibit and put out there in that unhappy home #and turn the hate and anger her and her family felt towards me for not loving her #and turn that into love? How am I supposed to turn unending anger and hatred and bitterness and just be like ‘yeah i love you’ #I love my parents in the sense that I am familiar w/ them and they have had a constant presence in my life up this point and when I was like #8y/o I had some pretty good times w/ my dad that were DIRECTLY related to my mom being out of the house #my mom was just so abusive to that man for 20+ years #and he took the love I had for him and made me hate him by just shoving jesus down my throat #We used to have CONVERSATIONS he & I but then he got his head stuck so far up his ass that he couldn’t see #how he was just ruining everything. Me: Hey so this thing thats goin on? #him: haha yeah that thing thats been goin on!! You know what tho #[starts pitching JC to me again] #that was all I could get from him from 12-18/19 #he killed whatever relationship we had together and now it’s a decade later and I have no interest in talking to him #I don’t care to try and rebuild. I don’t want to rebuild anything with him I don’t want him to want that either

[headaching]

autism hungry feed it methodically deconstructed food

#y’all wanna know how i eat miniature reese’s #i peel the paper off in a way that takes a little bit of chocolate off‚ then i use that to break open the reese’s from the bottom #then i eat the little peanut butter part‚ then the top chocolate #that’s why ive always loved oreos. a food meant to be pulled apart #it’s also why the pull apart twizzlers are the only good ones #actually now that im thinking about it this was a huge thing for me as a kid #i wouldn’t eat a taco but i would eat the meat and cheese and tortilla all separate #i wouldn’t eat a hot dog like normal but i would eat the hot dog and bun separately #i would even eat fun dip powder and the sugar stick separately #truly incredible that my family never even considered i could be neurodivergent. they just made fun of me until i stopped 😭

[forbiddennhoney]

i might actually cry from how tired i am

#personal #i love my family and also the way they do not understand how my chronic fatigue literally drains me #and how when they keep trying to hang out on a weekly basis for weeks/months on end that pushes me away #cause i dont get to rest during the week like they do! #like yes we're all struggling under capitalism and also like babes!! i am poorer!!! #i literally spend 12 hours a day alone on work and work related things (ie: transiting to/from work #and prepping for the day/closing oht my day/etc) #and i dont WANT to spend this much time doing this but i cant drive and rely on transit so like #i literally cannot think past that sentence rn #im so exhausted my head feels thick like im gonna pass out any second #and i have to be at work for at least 30 more min before i can dip w/o too many issues #i have chills from being tired #i cant stop yawning #and i guarantee when i get home i wont be able to sleep bc my apartment sucks and doesnt have AC and its hot #also i have so many chores to do

[vizthedatum]

I’m a fucking ocean, and if you want to do things with me, then learn how to swim.

#I have said this to about three people this year #but really - the only person who needs to hear it is me #healing #trauma #love #neurodivergence #queer #self love #prose #life #poetry #I need to learn how to swim metaphorically #and I will not save someone if they drown in me #I will not be with someone who cannot bother to even dip their toes in #either you swim or be gone #standards #sometimes standards are heartbreaking but only because you’re healing your attachment wounds #this is for friends family lovers partners #relational love #talking about my needs