#I hate being lgbt

[goofymapache]

Can I call anime Gideon my beautiful gorgeous ugly horrendous porcelain unseasoned chicken pretty princess cutie pie babygirl malewife girlfriend or will I get sent to hell

#scott pilgrim takes off #scott pilgrim #scott pilgram vs the world #Gideon graves #gordon goose #Sorry #my demons #trust me I wish I wasn’t like this either but the way he said BYEE ILL MISS YOU :33 awakened something in me #and made me realize something #I hate being lgbt

[inkskinned]

it is totally okay to be hurt and tired and fed up with the american schooling system but i need you to understand that we need to be better about loudly and routinely defending public education.

yes, many teachers suck, many schools utterly suck. i also got bullied and was absolutely not given the right support for my needs. i am not defending public education because it was kind to me. i am defending it because it needs to exist.

right-wing republicans do not want an educated population. they want kids to be homeschooled or in private school. there is a huge religious undertone to this.

the most common argument is that despite high costs, the "result" is not "good" enough. they point to failing schools as proof that public education is just never going to work out. there will be arguments made here that you actually agree with: that teachers can be bullies, that we taught online for 2 years and still charged the same amount of tuition, that we have no recourse for students to actually have agency or a voice, and that schools are now unsafe for kids due to risk of illness and gun violence.

these are all placing the blame in a fraudulent way, one intended to get your parents to homeschool you. the less kids in a school, the less federally-awarded funding for that school, the less any school succeeds. they will not mention the fact it is their legislation that takes away important funding opportunities, that teachers are living at or below the poverty line, that buildings are not kept up to code, that administration is overpaid and forces specific curriculums, that corporations like (my personal enemy) Pearson Education control certain classroom goals because teachers can't afford other options. they pretend to be ignorant of the gun violence and say "oh just get a gun" - but these are the same people who will be sending their child to a private school with a bulletproof backpack. they don't care if your kid dies, though. they "don't believe" in covid, but they did get their kid vaccinated, because of course they did.

it is a closed loop. conservative parents hear the fearmongering and remove children from the system. frequently these parents are also deeply religious. the kids are raised without access to other media & learn to parrot their parents. you have now created a new generation of conservatives. additionally, one of the parents/caregivers must stay home and homeschool the children, usually for free. i will give you 1 guess which parent tends to stay home to homeschool the children. these parents are encouraged to have many, many children. those children are most likely not getting access to safe sex ed.

we might laugh at fox news suggesting teachers are forcing children to use kitty litter but: first of all, there is kitty litter in the classroom. it's part of an emergency kit in case children are locked in due to a shooter. so that's fucking dystopian, and the fact they've completely reimagined the scenario to somehow make the teachers look bad when it's instead a fucking huge symbol of our failure as a country to protect our children.... it feels a little intentional.

secondly: don't just dismiss the situation. because, yeah, obviously, no teacher is encouraging kids to be a catboy. but the actual undertone that fox news is trying to sew is an outright distrust of teachers and of public education. they rely on the dehumanization of trans people as a common touchstone to hide the fact they're pushing two agendas at once. (which is ironic. because the thing they accuse teachers of. is pushing. an agenda.)

whenever someone tells you they want you to read less, you should be suspicious of that. when someone tries to separate you and your education, you should be suspicious of that. i don't even like incel rhetoric nor would i want my kids exposed to it - but i would not take away my child's (age-appropriate) access to the internet. i would just provide more educational materials, not less. the difference here is that i believe we can resolve ignorance with knowledge; whereas conservatives believe that ignorance is bliss.

they misappropriate funding and demonize teachers. they pull the same trick each time - the same thing we are seeing with anti-trans rhetoric. they do not want you to have access to safe sex ed, so they act horrified, claim sex ed teaches you how to thrust deep, claim that we have no idea what "age-appropriate" means. since the mid-nineties, the united states has spent at least 2 billion dollars on abstinence-only education, even though to quote the above link: "a preponderance of studies has found no effect of abstinence education at reducing adolescent pregnancy". conservatives want you to think less of any person struggling with addiction so they can continue their racist "war on drugs", so they spend up to $750 million dollars a year on the DARE program which has absolutely no effect. acting like teachers "must" be "grooming" children is just the same thing - so they can demand that funding either goes to their causes or the funding doesn't "exist" ("i'm not paying for our kids to learn that thing!")

and they want you to feel uncaring about this. they are aware that you will hate some parts of your school experience. pretty much everyone does. they want to lean into the parts that you hate so that you don't put up a fight about it when they take it away for not being "good enough."

i know i maybe sound like a conspiracy theorist. but truly. truly. it is beneficial for conservatives to reduce your faith in the american public schooling system.

one of the explicitly stated campaign promises of the conservative party: to axe the Department of Education in 2024.

i know we are all tired and burnt out and there is so much else wrong with their entire platform. but maybe just - pay attention to this one.

#i can't believe i have to say this #the conservative party is legit like ''is it anything good? okay we hate it.'' #''lets kill lgbt people and ummmmm school children shouldnt be able to read they should be at home watching jordan peterson :)" #the fact that it's like all related is. wild. #like it's wild bc if u start being like. actually making it impossible to afford housing is part of how they keep the nuclear family..... #it's just like lines connecting to lines. EXCEPT ITS OBVIOUS? #what's wild to me about most conspiracy theorists is that they're like . ohhhh the govt is hiding shit!!!!!!! they don't want u to know!!! #and im like. this old man literally got up on stage and said he hates public education and will let our kids die before taking away ak-47s #and ppl are like: lol thats just bob's sense of humor he didn't mean it literally uwu

[gay-fae]

hey shout out of recognition and validation to all the queer people who didn’t exhibit many queer behaviors or have queer many experiences when they were young!! shout out to trans women and trans men who didn’t feel bad about or uncomfortable with their AGAB when they were younger and didn’t gravitate toward the “opposite side of things”. shout out to nonbinary and genderfluid ppl who felt content with their AGAB all of their childhood or even teen and adults years. shout out to lesbians who didn’t have any crushes on girls growing up and liked traditionally feminine things and shout out to gay men who didn’t have any crushes on boys growing up and liked traditionally masculine things. shout out to bi and pan and omni people who only had hetero attractions growing up. shout out to aros and aces who thought they experienced crushes or attraction or whatever while growing up and didn’t feel excluded by being surrounded by allo people. shout out to literally any queer people who didn’t “show the signs” growing up because that can make you feel invalidated or worried that you’re faking it and you shouldn’t feel worried about that! When we say that everyone’s journey and experience is different, that includes you!! Happy pride month <3

#pride #pride month #happy pride month #lgbtq #lgbt #gay #lesbian #bisexual #pansexual #transgender #nonbinary #genderfluid #asexual #aromantic #aroace #queer #fable’s stuff #i personally exhibited many signs of being aroace but genderfluid? NOPE #when I realized I was genderfluid I worried PROFUSELY that I was faking it for attention or something #because growing up I HATED being referred to as anything REMOTELY masculine and never wanted to “play the dad’’ when playing games & stuff #i was very comfortable w being a cis girl and being feminine and had no desire to be masculine!! #but now I DO experience the desire to be masc and androgynous as my gender shifts and that doesn’t mean im faking it #sometimes our brains can just switch up on us bc they’re developing #or sometiems our childhood influences can affect our development and make things manifest differently #whatever it may be #it’s okay and there is nothing wrong with you

[uncanny-tranny]

Your fears that you don't have a body that will transition "well" are, sure, understandable, but there isn't truly such thing as a body that's unworthy of transition. Perhaps your changing body won't suit everybody's taste, but would you rather live for yourself or for the whims of random people who don't care about your happiness as long as they're attracted to what they see?

Transition is for anybody who wants it. It's okay to be fearful. It's okay to be uncertain. But it isn't the end of the world. You are in control, and if you choose to transition to any capacity, it should be at your behest. You and your body are worthy of transition. I hope you are able to seize transition and do what you truly want for yourself.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #have been seeing a small resurgence in some trans spaces that there is such thing as an 'untransitional' body #there are people out there who cannot transition for medical/financial/social reasons but that isn't what people often mean #kill the person in your head that says you need to adhere to cishet standards. it's okay to be trans and *look* it if you want #transition because it makes you feel happy or fulfilled. transition because it is something *you* want #while yes it's complex because appearing trans can be dangerous i ultimately want people to have the freedom to make decisions solely... #...on what *they* want y'know? #i have seen this idea that some people just aren't 'able' to transition because they won't 'appear cis' for years now and it's heartbreaking #like i used the whole 'i don't look cis' against myself because it's impossible for me *to be* cis... #...i will never be non-trans. i will never not be a transsexual and i used to hate that about myself... #...because i was taught that being trans is bad. i was taught that looking trans is a curse that nobody should EVER inflict upon themselves #and that the goal was to essentially distance yourself as far away from transness as you can #and it's okay for people to not want to 'look' visibly trans. it's neutral. what was harmful was the idea that TRANS was bad #there's a huge difference between 'i don't want to be visibly trans' and 'i think being trans and looking it is bad'

[papertowness]

wilson you are so strange baby

#said with so much affection you would not believe it #he’s genuinely the funniest motherfucker on the show #i hate that this tactic would probably work on me . specifically only if it was him though . #something about floppy haired nerds with the more gorgeous eyes you’ve ever seen alters me #this ENTIRE interaction had no right being fucking hilarious #house #house md #james wilson #gregory house #greg house #hilson #medical malpractice #lgbtq #lgbt

[leverage-ot3]

say what you want, sambucky and hardisoneliot are the same ship in different fonts:

insufferable coworker

serving looks on the job

camaraderie

it’s been a long hard day

bro power

hugs, of course

totally not in love

and their chaotic (iconic) first meetings

so if you sambucky fans want a smart witty tech guy in love with a smart grumpy punchy guy, I highly recommend leverage! five seasons plus the reboot that is running that has two seasons so far

#look it’s all about hating your coworker to being willing to die for them and in love with them pipeline #enemies to loathed coworkers to friends to found family to lovers pipeline #parker is there too for the ot3 of course but for the purpose of this post ykyk #I’m not explaining the last photo watch the show for yourself #whatever you think it is it’s five times funnier #sometimes I think about how that eliot smiling at hardison pic was from season ONE and I combust. seASON ONE YALL #O N E #sambucky #hardison x eliot #leverage ot3 #parker x hardison x eliot #marvel #tfatws #the falcon and the winter soldier #bucky barnes #sam wilson #alec hardison #eliot spencer #mlm #lgbt #mine #sometimes I like to imagine they’re in the same universe #i love those fics #I’m not into marvel too much anymore but I love the fics where eliot and sam are exes or that eliot is related to bucky #popular posts #1k

[levelofyoureye]

despite making a destiel meme on here that got incredibly popular, i have never seen a single full episode of supernatural. however, my best friend @res-spectans is a huge fan of the show, so she’s shown me the 15x18 scene™️ before (which is why i was able to make the meme LMAO). a couple of nights ago i was sleeping over and late into the night we were very delirious and decided to watch a compilation of deancas highlights on youtube. and holy fuck…

supernatural fans HOW DID YOU DO THIS FOR 11 SEASONS STRAIGHT. all it took was that one 20-minute compilation of their best moments and i was IMMEDIATELY convinced that they were in love. actually i didn’t even need the 20 minutes. even the very first clip from that video was actually some sick fuckery. the absolute journey i was taken on in those 20 minutes of homophobic queerness was just… wow. if i had adequate words to describe the buffoonery that must’ve been going through the creators of this show’s minds then i think i’d be on a hit list. HOW WERE THOSE TWO NOT TOGETHER??? ur telling me there was literally an episode with a wholeass plotline about dean refusing to let cas die a virgin? the show deadass acted like they didn’t explore each other’s bodies even ONCE?? and THERE WAS A WHOLE EPISODE WITH DESTIEL IN A FUCKING MUSICAL?!?!? like they FULLY ACKNOWLEDGED THE QUEERBAITING THEY WERE DOING AND STILL ACTIVELY CONTINUED TO DO IT?? i’m sorry but there is quite literally no way. not to even mention all of the romance tropes they fulfill. cas breaking out of the brainwashing (i’ve also been informed that dean was originally going to say “i love you” there like HUH)?! THE MIXTAPE? neither of them ever denying anyone who called the other one their boyfriend?? “dean and i share a more profound bond” WHAT. dean calling cas devastatingly handsome? maybe it was because i was sleep deprived but by the time we were done with the compilation my ribs were aching from how much i was CACKLING. i was just in absolute disbelief at the absurdity of it all. like,,, people dared to call this subtext? this was the gayest shit i have EVER SEEN. if you are actually a fan of this show then i am so fucking sorry. i cannot believe you all just sat through that for 11 seasons and then had it confirmed in the end by castiel being sent to SUPERHELL. you gays deserved so much better and SO DID DESTIEL.

#shoutout to that one guy sam who had to deal with their gay bullshit for years fr #i would’ve hated being him #someone tell me not to actually watch the show before i do it and become a destiel in the year of 2023 #spn #supernatural #destiel #deancas #dean winchester #castiel #misha collins #jensen ackles #queer #lgbt

[gayvampyr]

“queer spaces should be inclusive of people who don’t enjoy sex and who have “strange”, negative or repulsed relationships with sex” and “sex is an important aspect of lgbt community, history, and activism and queer people should be allowed and able to talk freely about sex without stigma or shame” are ideas that can and should coexist.

#‘queer people were banned from and shamed for having sex and that’s where a lot of our activism stemmed from’ and #‘not liking or having sex is considered abnormal and a mental illness and also needs to be destigmatized’ are concepts that not only can but #often do coalign #it’s esp important to consider that a lot of lgbt ppl who have a tricky and strained relationship with sex are like that because of trauma #which is very common for queer folks #it’s really not an ace-only thing #like i am sex repulsed but it’s very hard to discern if it’s because i’m asexual or if it’s the trauma. either way i deserve to have those #feelings and be included in lgbt spaces and discussions about sex and treated as just another queer person with a different experience #instead of being alienated because my feelings about sex don’t directly line up with yours #im so sick of people in this community trying to pit us against each other. as an ace lesbian that shit is so toxic and harmful #my relationship with sex is fluid. im sex-positive always‚ but i often find myself sex repulsed. im otherwise neutral about it but im sick #of people acting like it’s either you enjoy sex and have it frequently or you hate it and you shame everyone who has it like youre a puritan #and it’s often aphobes who bought into that ‘aces are puritanical celibate straights who want ppl who have gay sex to die or think they’re #‘dirty’ or some shit. and it was literally 90% crypto-aphobes pretending to be aces to get people to adopt that into their belief system #the same way crypto-t/rfs pretend to be trans women who want to prey on the ‘innocent women’ #and y’all will use those posts/screenshots as ‘evidence’ that whatever scapegoat you’ve selected is actually inherently bad/homophobic/ #misogynistic/etc and not even #acknowledge the giant hole in your logic cuz you’re too busy trying to find a scapegoat #it’s the same tactics and y’all fall for it every time #text post #like. lesbians are CONSTANTLY getting hounded and told that we’re broken or mentally i’ll for not showing interest in (having sex with) men #for the same reason asexuality is considered bad or wrong or weird #not showing interest in heterosexual relationships or sex is why this is so important #anyone that falls outside the scope of heterosexuality is part of this community whether you like it or not

[theinsomniacindian]

Sometimes I wish that people would learn the difference between sex-repulsion and sex-negativity

#sex-negativity (hating sex as a concept and shaming others for liking it) #sex-repulsion (being disgusted by the idea of having sex yourself) #i'm tired of seeing sex-repulsed 'positivity' posts where they confuse these concepts #newsflash buddy; you can be sex-repulsed AND sex-positive. #i do agree that shaming others for liking sex is bad but at least inform the right people #but there are barely any sex-repulsion positivity posts that don't go 'it's okay to be sex-repulsed as long as you aren't sex-negative!' #every time i go to the sex-repulsed tags whenever i need positivity for my internalised aphobia these are the types of posts i see #lgbtq+ #lgbt #asexuality #asexual #asexual pride #ace pride #ace #sex repulsed #sex repulsed pride #sex repulsed positivity #sex repulsed asexual #the insomniac archives

[redheadbigshoes]

I’m not showing op’s username because they’re a radfem so I’m simply stealing their tweet

#stephanie talks #not lgbt related #men being men #i hate the fact op is a radfem #but unfortunately they’re right when it comes to this #screenshots

[hawkeyeslaughter]

i am sick and yet i don’t have a goofy black - haired doctor sitting on the edge of my bed and checking my temperature by feeling my forehead and telling jokes while also sternly ( jokingly ) telling me not to laugh

#i hate being sick #save me hawkeye . hawkeye save me #mash #m*a*s*h #mashposting #mash 4077 #mashblr #hawkeye pierce #hawkeye #lgbt #lgbtq

[empress-hancock]

Trans activism relies so heavily on the idea that women are just as bad as men and that misogyny is not real because transwomen need that to be true in order to not he perceived as a threat. If women are just as bad then transwomen (males) are no worse than women (females)! But the truth is that women are not just as violent and transwomen retain male patterns of violence even after transition. This is a reality that they are desperately trying to cover up in order to remain in control. They convince a bunch of teens that actually they’re more likely to be victims of violence (not only are they less likely to be murdered but they are less likely, as individuals, to be victims of hate crimes than entire lgbt organizations are) than perpetrate it and then make those teens too afraid to even question it, lest they become a bigot, and they have the security they need to remain an authority (and eliminate any acknowledgement of the privilege they have on account of being white and heterosexual and male, which most of them are right now)

#the thing about trans people being less likely to be victims of hate crimes can be found in yearly fbi hate crime stats btw #homosexuals. trans people. and lgbt orgs are all separate categories in there abd the orgs have more cases of attacks against them than #individual trans people. it doesn’t give the specifics but I believe it’s stuff like vandalism and damage to physical meeting spaces for #the orgs. i also wonder if it counts threats called in or smth but im not sure

[stevieharringtonwifeguy]

where's the crack au where stevies on real housewives as the wife of famous retired metal star eddie munson like. she'd fuck them up. going for that sweet down to earth insanely rich person persona but any time any of the other housewives tries to start shit with her she Shuts It Down

#tryna think about what her like. Intro Dumb Saying is i wanna incorporate her coming for a bitchs kneecaps with a baseball bat #steddie #transfem steve harrington #steve harrington #eddie munson #stevie harrington #stranger things #also she'd be doing a lot of charity work for like abused kids and lgbt rights especially trans rights #the housewives are like oh my husband hates when i buy things you relate right stevie #she's like man if i don't buy enough shit eddie gets pouty bc he thinks he's not being a good provider #she's one of the ones who's like my sex life is going GREAT thank you for asking #oh you didn't ask? im gonna tell you anyway we just bought a new sex swing way better lumbar support than the last one

[alexanderpearce]

stripped, depeche mode / wilde (1997) / a very english scandal (2018) / judge john deed 3x03 "conspiracy"

#little interest right now in movies&ce about trials where the defendant being gay is very relevent. its like the most squirm inducing uncomf #uncomfortable cinema ever i love it and i hate it #the song isnt about this at all apart from that one lyric but it kept getting stuck in my head while i was watching these #shut up ulrike #my webweaves #wilde 1997 #oscar wilde #a very english scandal 2018 #peter capaldi #hugh grant #lgbt #popular

[uncanny-tranny]

So often, twink death is framed as a bad thing. However, the "twink death" for trans men* is frankly one of the most healing things you will bear witness to (pun intended).

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #nonbinary #honestly i hated being called a twink pre-t because so many people treated me like... lesser for it? #like... 'i think you are effeminate (and less of a man)... but i /guess/ you're still a man🙄! hope that helps' is how it sounded to me #and so often it seems like 'twink death' is just... fear of aging in a world that hates the realoties of the human body #i have compassion for the fear of aging however it will pretty much always be harmful to the person experiencing it... #...in that they too will age. no matter what you do to prevent aging it will still happen... #...i don't think fear is the fault of the individual - it's a systemic issue. however i think it's needless suffering... #...you certainly do not have to /like/ aging and it can truly suck at times. i just want people to think about why they fear it y'know? #anyway that's what i think motivates this apprehensive attitude about people and how they change and whatnot #though my twink death isn't me becoming a bear (in the future who knows but for now not so much)

[papertowness]

i can’t stop thinking about how wilson’s need to be needed and house’s need to be needed are such twisted mirror parts of each other and house points it out in wilson as a flaw constantly because he sees it himself too , but not in the same way .

because wilson sees his need to be needed as something pure , as something he does because he wants to help , and in a sense this is true . they need me to help them and this makes it the right thing because i will help them . the need to be needed cant be a bad thing because i use it for good . at least in his eyes and a lot of times it’s mirrored that way in the eyes of the audience .

house needs to be needed so he knows he’s not obsolete . he needs people to ask for his help , he needs people to come crawling to him and telling him he was right . it’s an ego boost for him , it’s a fix — i need people to need me to be reassured . and he reconciles with this — he doesn’t think it makes him a good person in the same way wilson does . he doesn’t see it as anything good .

which makes their role - reversals when it comes to this part of them so interesting and why house vs . god is SUCH a good episode because wilson temporarily is in house’s shoes — he’s doing something not because it’s right but because it aligns more with house ‘ need to be needed ‘ . there is nothing good and nothing that he can do to help the patient he goes out with but he does it anyway because he likes the feeling that someone needs him . and house is in the opposite situation , in wilson’s shoes if you will . i need to help you , i need to help her , i need you to see that this is wrong . house sees this — i think it’s why he brings up this subject so heavily in this episode and i also think it’s why he brings it up again in ‘ son of coma guy ‘ .

because as aforementioned house doesn’t see it as a virtue or a good thing . i think that’s why he sees it as such a glaring flaw in wilson , because he sees it in himself . in his eyes , it doesn’t matter how wilson frames it , because he does the same thing — which probably makes wilson more like him than he’s comfortable with .

anyways when the narrative gives two characters the exact same qualities in opposite directions and draws parallels between it it makes me go absolutely crazybatshitinsane

#im so insufferable over this . genuinely why did they do this #lmfao i can imagine the writers reading this post and being like it was really never that deep but ok #i can’t believe i’m analyzing an early 2000s medical drama like this . genuinely fucking embarrassing #anyways #house #house md #houseposting #james wilson #gregory house #greg house #medical malpractice #hate crimes md #hilson #lgbtq #lgbt