#Being a man

[skrifores]

Remember?

#OFMD #our flag means death #david jenkins #ed/stede #gentlebeard #being a man #masculinity

[simpleman193]

This has been pressing on my mind, so I hope it can be useful for some of you.

It's so easy to get lost on this wave of hypermasculinity, it can be very compelling, but it is just vanity, appearances and aesthetic. Young men get worried about getting a more chiseled jawline, defined abs, better muscle definition, beards and what not, and while these things might grant you a masculine look, they do not make you a man.

Wide shoulders, big chest muscles, veiny forearms and whatever might make a girl feel safer around you, but don't confuse looking good with being good in combat.

And it's important to point out, there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting this or looking after yourself, but these things shouldn't drive your actions or be you main focus. We need men of value, of valor and strength, men of wisdom and character, not the appearance of a man but the content of vanity and selfishness.

But there's a very strong trend out there which can easily pull young boys to such a path, after all it's trendy and get girls' attention.

This is a lesson I've learned from my father a very long while ago, there will always be someone who is more, more what you might ask, more of whatever trait you use to define yourself, money, height, jawline, deep voice, how far you can spit, it doesn't matter, there's always going to be someone who is more, and if you let these things define you, when you encounter it, you either hate them, of shut yourself down, none of those are good paths.

The world doesn't need any "Giga Chad Bull Hyper Ultra Masculine Plus Advanced" we need good men and women who are willing to learn and grow and look beyond themselves. It might not look like much at first, but being a good man is a worthy goal, and it doesn't have to be what this person or that defines it as good man, you will have your own path and lessons to take.

Learn, grow, help others, look at the world around you, seek the truth, not being right, seek strength not the appearance of it, seek true beauty, not just to feed your own vanity. We need Good Men, not the empty shell of the appearance of masculinity.

Anyway, that's my two cents on the matter, hope this helps and God bless all of you out there.

#simple man #manliness #simple life #traditional gender roles #christian manhood #traditional manhood #chivalry #tradblr #traditional man #gentleman #giga chad #hyper masculinity #being good #gentlemen #high noon #being a man #advice for young men #seek beauty #seek strength #seek purpose #seek truth #men are kings #men are priests #men are builders #my two cents #patriarchy #pro patriarchy #gender roles

[sun-dipped-quill]

being a man

real men really cry

were just scared to show it so

the tears flow inside

#being a man #male #cis male #crying on the inside #scared #were all sad from time to time #im human #human #being human #self love #self care #dont be scared #were all in this together #poet on tumblr #poetry #original poem #poem #spilled ink #spilled words #prose #when in doubt #you are not alone #writingcommunity #writerscommunity #writers on tumblr #male writer #male writers #lds #crying #we all cry

[boizdocry]

Positive thought of the day.

Hi, it's ok to be a man.

You can be proud of it.

You can give love, care and protection.

You have the right to be loved and deserve someone who treats you respectfully and tenderly.

Don't be afraid of your emotions and feelings, express them and speak with your loved ones and friends.

Leave toxic people be.

Your sexuality is ok, don't be ashamed of it.

Don't buy what haters say to you trying to dehumanize or belittle you.

Develop interests, hobby, take care of your body and mental health, even if it means not looking for a partner for a little while.

Speak to others like you and reflect on your masculinity; take care of it.

Remember you can learn to be self-reliant, balanced and full, if you are not already so.

Think of the Sun, the male principle of life, as necessary as the feminine one.

If anyone lets you down for being what you are, leave them be: you don't need them.

#self care #self love #self liberation #masculine #masculinity #being a man #male #mental health #guys #self help

[craycraybluejay]

Sometimes, I get so horribly envious and from it wrathful that I feel like I am possessed by the First Murderer

#biblical references #i dont believe in the bible but some of the lore is fun in terms of fantastical ideas #cain and abel #personal vent #small vent #the first murderer #religious people dont come at me i dont care! #envy #wrath #gender dysphoria #being a man #( pain ) #dare you grow taller or stronger than me i will kill myself immediately so i dont kill you #hate hate hate the idea of someone i am to protect and stand taller than and take care of outgrowing me and not needing my protection anymor #what's a lion without his pride? #just a spineless cat who will melt in a grassland and die #protective #so much of my sense of duty and purpose connects to my ability and responsibility to protect others #the thought that one day that person i need to protect would be bigger than me is emasculating #i am bitter and resentful with envy and loss #i will train myself to perfection so i can forever restrain you when you fly off the handle #so i can bash a guy's head in for talking shit to you #identity #for me i am just an artist and someone who should be strong and someone who is for hymself only #but for other people i am fiercely loyal and protective i am large and loud and a crowd inspirer #who i am #is a man with drive and i cant stand the idea of not being able to protect and provide and just take care of others in my way #and part of me wants to eat the people i love so that i can always protect them and i know thats not fair and not how it works #still committing a biblical sin if things are too much tho ill figure out which one whenever

[higherunlearning]

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#Being a Man #Educating Boys #Emotional Agility #Emotional Intelligence #Emotional Literacy #emotional muscle #Engaging Men #Healthy Manhood #Healthy Masculinities #Healthy Masculinity #healthy relationships #Higher Unlearning #Jeff Perera #Masculinity #Men as Helpers #Mindful Manhood #Raising Young Boys #Rebecca Moore #redefine masculinity #Scott Barry Kaufman #Susan David #Toxic Masculinity

[kochei0]

I turn to Ares.

Thanks to Tyler Miles Lockett who allowed me to draw inspiration from his ARES piece for page 2! Look at his etsy page it's SICK

⚔️ If you want to read some queer retelling of arturian legends have a look at my webtoon

#greek mythology #ares #athena #greek gods #dont get me wrong it aint athena slander but it sure is ares praise #on some level at least #man justly accused of bad things deserves some mid praise more at 11 #thank you romi for helping me with words though i duly noted you insisted on ares not being cautious rather than him not being careful #romi be like “i want him to care” and honestly good you should say it #also EPIC led to this and i just..... i want to draw some animatics man i just need infinite time now #my long lost love for greek myths just will never stop coming and they dont stop coming and they dont stop coming #i want some vulture design in here for ares but not sure about this one #kochei doodles

[taffy-glitch]

it should be illegal to put ads in apps or sites for solitaire or picross or sudoku tbh. playing classic puzzle games uninterrupted needs to be a HUMAN RIGHT

#this is me being silly but #man i hate hate hate when the solitaire app that CAME WITH MY GOD DAMN LAPTOP tries to feed me ads #at least with the sites i got adblocker. but man #jort post

[firephoenix23]

Like I literally have second hand embarrassment for Vox after seeing what Alastor ACTUALLY is like in a rivalry.

Like homie wishes he could be that close to Alastor 😂😂

#can we get an F in the chat for my man Vox 😂 #I can imagine Vox like crying in his little incel tv room being why won’t Alastor say fuck you to me 🥺 #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel spoilers #alastor #lucifer #hazbin vox #staticradio #radiostatic #sorry this isn’t my usual content but I couldn’t help myself #this show is wild

[ink-the-artist]

Love the contrast between the Americans’ “Apollo” and the Soviets’ “Sputnik.” You got the Americans naming their rocket after a Greek god trying to communicate the grandness and importance of this rocket. And you got the Soviets naming their rocket “fellow traveler.” Like a friend you go on an  adventure with together. This rocket is our little friend lol 

#i think its cute #they took the mars rover approach #humanizing the space craft making it cute making us (me) project emotions onto it #the soviets also used imagery of laika in propaganda a lot #which is pretty fucked up imo #but if i grew up in the soviet union that shit wouldve definetly worked on me lmao #the narrative of a heroic little dog going to space and being honored by the whole country #as cruely wrong as it is its very appealing #the soviets knew what they were doing man they didnt reveal how laika really died until like. the 2000s #bc they knew people really cared about that dog #they liked the narrative around her

[astearisms]

catalysts, protectors

#man those episodes #so many things put into perspective #like Simon’s role as a protector and his kindness and empathy and compassion and existence being the catalyst for the rest of ooo to #flourish #and Betty is a protector of Simon #I wonder if the last two episodes will explore more of her character? there’s so much to be explored about her giving so much of herself #to Simon but not thinking about what she wants for herself #do we get to explore her feelings or see her at all? will she have changed or learned to let go #I think there will be some sort of closure for the both of them #but at what cost #I am still crying over that scene with Simon’s memory of Betty and their song #my art #fionna and cake #fionna and cake spoilers #simon petrikov #betty grof #petrigrof #golbetty

[talaricula]

Things I've seen tumblr memeing about James Somerton doing à la "How did no one see how bigoted he was!" as if those things haven't been a significant part of tumblr culture for over a decade :

Presenting untrue and bordering on conspiratorial versions of (queer or otherwise marginalised) history without any sources

Completely disregarding and disrespecting any expertise on socio-cultural topics/humanities and distrusting academics and historians (incl. acting as if no academics or historians could be queer or marginalised)

Downplaying the role misogyny played in the historical oppression of queer women and concluding that queer men must have been more oppressed than queer women

Bi women are, at best, not as queer as "real" queer ppl, and at worst, simply equivalent to straight women

Despite nominal trans inclusivity, transmasculine ppl are functionally women when convenient (combined with the above, bi transmascs are functionally straight women)

Despite nominal trans inclusivity (bis), shamelessly attacking, threatening and actively endangering any trans woman who questions them or smth they find important (often by unfairly presenting her as violent or as a threat)

Having absolutely fucking wild and reductive takes about ace ppl, the oppression they face and their place in the queer community

Stating that marriage equality is an assimilationist fight while completely ignoring its direct roots in the horrifying consequences of the AIDS crisis for partners of ppl who died of AIDS

Praising western media creators from the past for queer coding even under censure and in the same breath condemning current non western media creators for being homophobic bc their representation isn't explicit enough

Blaming China for all existing homophobic censoring in western media

Assuming all queer media would be better told by western creators and by western standards

Only out queer ppl get to tell queer stories

Heavily criticising almost all queer media created by women or ppl they see as such (see above points about trans ppl) or involving/starring a significant amount of women for any perceived or real amount of "problematicness", but fawning over and praising and negating criticism of queer media created by and starring mostly or even functionally exclusively men (even when it could be argued that, you know, not involving/seriously sidelining women is a pretty clear example of misogyny which should probably be considered "problematic")

And I'm probably forgetting stuff or there's stuff I have internalised myself and don't recognise as an issue

Like idk but I feel like the takeaway from Hbomberguy and Toddintheshadow's videos should maybe be "be aware of such patterns in your communities bc they definitely exist" and not "this guy is uniquely awful" and I feel like a lot of the discussion I've seen surrounding this has been severely failing at that. Most ppl who've spent any significant amount of time on tumblr prob either have internalised at least one of those thought patterns, have had to de-internalise them, or have had to be extremely vigilant to not internalise them (which is done by, you know, seeking out other sources, which also seemed like an important takeaway from the videos)

#Also I'm saying this as someone who actually watched quite a few of Somerton's videos #And noticed those patterns and stopped watching bc I recognised them from here #and had already learned to unlearn them after being so exposed to them here #And tbh I think anyone who hasn't had the luck or made the conscious choice to seek out ppl who pushed against those narratives #Would absolutely have fallen for this man's bullshit. Like let's not kid ourselves we see takes like this every day on this hellsite #2014 me would have. For sure. #This is next to the plagiarism issue which as Harris points out is an Internet wide issue and this includes tumblr #James Somerton #hbomberguy #todd in the shadows #This brought to you by a conversation with my wife yesterday #So many ppl on here don't deserve to meme or be this self absolvingly critical of this man #The call is coming from inside the house #The man has a tumblr it would legit not surprise me if some of the things he supposedly made up himself he did actually get from somewhere #And that somewhere was a tumblr post

[allskywalkerswhine]

in fics where luke gets plopped into the prequels i want every jedi within ten metres of him to think hes the weirdest jedi theyve ever seen. he has negative lightsaber form. he doesnt know what a kata is. he handstands when he meditates. his solution to sith is to try and have a chat. hes a political radical who keeps suggesting revolution. you ask him what the jedi code is and he says "kindness and compassion and helping those in need :) ". you ask how he used the force like that and he says some shit about how you are a luminous being limited only by your mind. the councils authority is just a suggestion. he is somehow the new favourite of both qui gon and yoda

#i think he Gets yoda in a way few do bc he knew him as a feral old man in a swamp and not Guy In Charge Of Everything #so he is yodas new best friend #and qui gon hears him talk for five mins and realises his ideal jedi is a real guy that exists #luke doesnt realise how much of a heretic he is okay he is a Luminous Being #luke skywalker #star wars prequels #stat wars original trilogy #sw originals #original trilogy #sw prequel trilogy #sw og trilogy #jedi order #star wars #sw #sw time travel fic #time travel au #the force #yoda #qui gon jinn #i think after a bit plo koon would also be a big fan #lee posts

[disteal]

I hate gay people so much. I haven’t been able to hear an imagine dragons song on the radio or in a shop without my brain just IMMEDIATELY being flooded with ‘Okay im imagining his dragon’. People think i just rly hate imagine dragons with the way my face reacts but i don’t im literally fighting such a personal battle against saying something fruity abt mr dragons out of nowhere because the shit gay people say online is so funny

#vent #drafted in pieces over an hour after hearing radioactive on the aux #dis.txt #y’all are being so ridiculous in the comments #i saw someone say ‘you’d really go for a man with thin ankles? no thanks.’ #there’s like a dozen men who look like this on the front page of seancody #like i KNOW you femcel ass tumblrinas are not this picky

[earlgraytay]

Hey, PSA for younger/newer transmascs:

Tumblr has been showing targeted ads for "FTM binders" off Amazon. They look like this:

Do not buy these.

A binder is a piece of medical equipment. If you use one incorrectly, or use a poorly made one, you can really fuck up your ribs. This article from the Cleveland Clinic talks about how to bind safely.

A $14 binder is guaranteed not to be safe. There's a reason reputable companies charge more- sometimes a lot more. They have to carefully design binders so they don't crush your ribs or make you sick.

You know how everyone says Don't Bind With Duct Tape? Don't bind with Amazon binders.

#ftm #transmasc #trans man #transgender #trans boy #trans info #chest binding #safe binding #being a gender is suffering #being a gender is awesome

[adyophene]

I just wanted to draw a little bit more DnD AU familiar Husk and Sorcerer (or Warlock?) Alastor!

#hazbin hotel #hazbin art #husk #alastor #i saw some people who probably know DnD better than me say Al suits being a warlock better and- man #they were so right how did i miss that