#you are loved-valued-and accepted

[softbean]

everything she deserves 🌼

#critical role #critical role fanart #mighty nein #nott the brave #veth brenatto #thinking about how her worst nightmare was to become something she hated #not just someone cowardly who survives by bullying others #but also someone hideous #'not pretty not brave not coordinated not smart...just not' #a curse at the hands of others is injustice no doubt #but how much of her suffering came from within? #a lover's respect and approval wasn't going to mean anything if she couldn't value herself #a life built on the acceptance from others makes for shaky foundations #to lose it all is a blessing in disguise #only when there's no one left by your side who loves you can you learn how to love yourself #the bravest and beautifulest of them all #end love poem.

[liquidstar]

crazy take: aside from actual lesbian romance stories, obviously, nothing passes the bechdel test better than moe "cute girls doing cute things" anime. its always just a group of girls, few to no named male characters, boys and dating are hardly ever brought up beyond the abstract, if at all. like we're focusing on the girls hanging out rn, we dont need to worry abt that shit. mugi just ate mio's strawberry.

#this doesnt mean i think all ''cute girls doing cute things'' anime is feminist btw #thats not my take. the test itself isnt a metric for feminism #im just saying if you take the rules purely at face value. that type of show kills it #but also no the genre isnt for the male gaze! everyone go watch 'a place further than the universe' and develop some emotions #even k on which i joked abt in the post- its actually a bit complicated bc of the way the anime deviates from the manga #but the short of it is the further it gets away from its source and becomes its own thing the more it becomes abt the girls #s2 being all original was the strongest. its a great story about the fleeting nature of youth and lasting friendships actually #ppl dont give it enough credit. yes its slice of life ofc but its really good #also not to mention bocchi. everyone loved bocchi. in that show they literally have a joke where they dont show the dads face #bc no male characters LOL #the acceptation being that one club owner who is meant to be more feminine? manga readers know more abt that tho

[the545]

One Kind of People's outro vs. Stray Dog

#amigo the devil #yours until the war is over #the contrast between becoming the loyal + free person you've always wanted to be #vs. already being that person and trying to convey that information to the person you love... growth <3 #it speaks #musicposting #obsessed with this parallel ngl #especially given that one kind of people is literally about accepting the inevitability of death and how no matter what you do you're #connected to humanity through the fact that we're all doomed #meanwhile stray dog is about acknowledging that you're doing badly but still seeing value in what you're doing #and trying to convey that joy to the people around you

[cyberpunkboytoy]

My DID-having ass is experiencing so much world-envy for the fictional country of Vaugarde I'm going to throw up

#Didn't realize how much I needed a society built around the concepts if change and reinvention but holy shit I do. I need it so bad. #The legally normal concept of being given multiple names to transition between or change to... #the societally accepted and easy ways to craft a new body... #the traditions built around reinvention and throwing away aspects of your old life that you wish to discard #that also acknowledge that reinvention involves the destruction of something else. & the grief from yourself or others that comes with that #literally have never resonated with anything to this level and I am YEARNING #like. my life would literally be so much easier in that society #the fact Vaugarde also highly values queerness of all kinds only helps #going insane over this world-building tbh konda wanna overthrow my government & rebuild my country in its image tbh #I am Decidedly Not Normal about this fake country #no spoilers if you respond to this btw. Not done with the game #In Stars And Time #hi dev I know you have a tumblr so if you see this: I love you #thank you for creating this world and letting me have a peek into it #they say we can't build a better world if we can't imagine what that world would look like and #now i can. I know what my ideal world looks like. #textpost

[vroomvroomwee]

This is your daily reminder to be kind to others. Always be kind to others. Fandoms are a safe space where people can relax and finally be themselves. Don't ruin that.

#hg-aneh #im so sorry #they didnt deserve this #theyre one of the best artists in the gomens fandom and they were bullied out of it #shame on anyone who had a part in that #i hope you apologize and never EVER do something like that again #and the rest of us need to do better #be kind to anyone who needs it #and if anyone is experiencing this type of treatement from any fando. whatsoever #im sorry #block them #expose them #try to reason with them #do whatever you feel is right #or do nothing at all #thats perfectly acceptable as well #you are a valued member of the fandom #whether you're active in it or not #it doesnt matter #what matters is that you love it #and that makes you a part of it #and thats what all of us should be spreading on here #love #good omens #goodomens #aziraphale #crowley #ineffable husbands #good omens 2 #good omens season 2

[sluttylittlewaste]

Maybe this is just a me thing but the MOMENT I realize a person in my life, whether romantic or platonic, doesn't reciprocate my feelings - I drop it. If I say "Hey I really like you" and they go "Oof sorry, I don't feel that way " or they leave or they try to change the subject? I will never bring it up again. Fully never happened.

I feel like a lot of people (specifically with regards to the romance genre in media) have this fantasy of being chased and having someone fight to tear their walls down, or to stick around even when they are constantly being pushed away - and perhaps it's because I have always envisioned myself in these scenarios as the one forced to do the chasing - but it feels... sad? Imbalanced? Pushy and coercive?

I don't want a relationship I had to talk the other person into. I don't want to have to give a grandiose speech about all the reasons loving me is actually worth the effort, or roll out a full marketing presentation to convince my partner that our relationship could be a good thing if they just "gave it a chance".

If a person I care for decides not to be around me? I'm going to trust them to know what's right for them. I'm going to trust a person if they say they don't want me or don't have space for me in their life. The moment you say you don't want me around, I'm gone. Poof.

IDK. There is just something about responding to blatant rejection by trying harder that makes me sort of sad instead of the happy tingly feelings these stories are trying to elicit.

#something something people should be able to take no for an answer #i know sometimes it's about “looking through the insecurety and self-sabotage to see the persons true feelings” or whatever #but I just #you'll never have to reject me twice #I'm not here to read people's minds #or try to change their minds about themselves or me or romance or friendship #respecting people's ability to think for themselves is a core component of love (for me at least) #so im going to take what is said or done at face value #ive had this argument with friends and exes before #“you aren't going to try ro fight for me/it/us?” not if you've made it clear that you want out #i have no desire to trap anyone #also #there's something very concerning about encouraging people to assume they know what their loved ones want #rather than accept what they are told or shown #this was brought on by uncarleys rwrb video #because when Henry jumped into that lake? i fully would have just left it at that #im not flying halfway around the world for someone who clearly doesn't want to talk to me #because if he wanted to talk to me he would #and i honestly don't think id ever be able to truly trust that our relationship wasn't just a result of me harassing him into it #but maybe that's my trust issues #rwrb #prince henry rwrb #prince henry fox mountchristen windsor #red white and royal blue #alex claremont diaz #thoughts #let me die #if i die #romance #love

[mejomonster]

On a serious note, I do feel mysterious case lotusbook has a lot of sincere themes about getting older, realities of responsibility and dreams realized, how it's difficult to succeed and not always the direct path one expects, how there's value in little aspects of life. Almost every li lianhua scene seems to be about that to some degree. The murder cases aren't particularly deep as far as super complicated to figure out or Able to be predicted super well (since they don't always give all the details in the initial setup), but the themes about who was killed and why do connect to li lianhuas situation.

#mysterious lotus casebook #lb #by all this i mean: a lot of the positive things li lianhua AND di feisheng say are fairly good advice tbh #like a fei? hes like you need to be fair in your decisions for your actions to be worthwhile and earned #li lianhua: sometimes being the one taking all responsibility was bad for you and the people you led who felt burdened #by You taking the burden. and stepping back can be a respectable choice. #cooking is more difficult than fighting. keeping yourself alive is Hard and its the hardest thing we do #and its admirable even when youll never be a hero never be able to achieve what those around you might #your peers are worthwhile if they choose diffetently than you (qian wanmian isnt lesser for not choosing to lead a sect and instrad #dissolving it. di feisheng doesnt think li lianhua is no longef worth his time even though hes weaker now. li lianhua is still someonr he #wants to see alive see brlieve in himself see passionate about things. the monks think its never too late to #reconnect to people again. that people who love you will want you and accept you even when you fail. #even fang duobing by knowing li lianhua gets the experience of someone who wants him alive #and fondly smiles and Is proud of him. evrn if hes learning and fails and moody #fond of him in a way his family wasnt that strangers lied about due to his status #in a way that he clung to li xianyi for ALSO seeing value in him when he felt he didnt live up to expectstions of the world #its the Kindness of little moments of acceptance. of being kind to yourself and kind to others (even down to #not wantjng to kill suspects but take them to trial. not wanting scapegoats blamed. which arent usually done in wuxia) #its the fact this show is quite about gentleness and healing (i see the Love and Redemption screen writing ismilarities) #rather than about power struggles. do you know what i mean?

[sysig]

What your fave says about you: Sona/Undertale edition (Patreon)

#Doodles #UT #So many sonas and characters lol #Ended up filling the other side of the zine with something self-indulgent :) #Actually came from the same kernal as a digital-specific idea but these are what I've ended up with in the moment! #Zine doodles end up...silly lol #I draw with pen logic! And mm... I won't say I'm Displeased with them but there are things I'd change for sure #Overall the vibe is there just not completely the execution lol #I'll get it better when I do the digital version >:3c It'll be like how I see it in my head and then I'll have both! Nice #For the moment tho doing an eight-highlight reel of the who's who was fun :) #Obviously starting with myself and my fave <3 This terrible little flower whom I love with my whole heart #I really do love him - I'd go and rewatch my fave scenes with him but the in-built guilt haha #The next was easy! My fave sona gets my second fave character! Papyrus only loses to Flowey by a hair's breadth anyway lol #Anyone in the thread remember that time I compared Charm to Papyrus lol #They both want people to like them so badly! They go about it very differently tho lol #Papyrus would be a good influence on her :) Just be nice to people! Ironically she'd probably agree more with Sans lol #Speaking of! Eli would be the type of person who goes digging around in the backend and Totally claims to like Gaster the most #Y'know because secret values and stuff! Super sneaky like! But actually their fave is Snas lol #You are Basic Eli just accept this lol #Ficus was an easy pick for Napstablook - they would absolutely lay on the floor and think about being garbage with them #That deadened gaze lol #Ulex looks so uninterested in Alphys lol they're just bad at talking - dissimilar from Alphys in that they've got the stoic thing going on #They're not awkward just not good at making friends lol #Hall of Mirrors would absolutely love Undyne lol - being friends with her and cooking together would make HoM So Happy haha #Another obvious one - Othersona already comes with spider imagery! Muffet was the clear choice haha #They are having a cup of spiders and they are enjoying it :/ Lol #And finally Holosona and original calculator-body Mettaton haha - she prefers this version over EX and NEO #She'd probably like NEO - she absolutely plays the Genocide run on purpose - except for how OHKO he is lol #A different sona likes NEO tho... #Anyhow ♪ Might talk more about their different play styles in the digital version :D When I get there anyway lol

[beevean]

I’ll even give you my life Without forgiveness or atonement

"Hector… I’m so glad I met you… I didn’t think that God was at the altar, but He still gave me the chance to meet you… I’m grateful.

Hector… Thank you for being born... for being here…"

"Hector?"

"Rosaly… Thank you…"

Even if everything in the world rejects me

As long as I have this warmth Let me live With you

"What’s the matter? I was exaggerating. Are you crying…?

Your hand is warm…"

#castlevania #prelude to revenge #hectaly #hector castlevania #rosaly castlevania #oh don't mind me #just having feels about the beloveds #again #fucking hell isaac #'i'll even give you my life' i love this line because it proves just how strongly hector gets attached #but also he does that. he attempts to give away his life for rosaly in his quest for revenge #and when he's done he accepts to die #of course he wouldn't give much value to his own life #of course he'd think that he could give it all to the one person who loved him #bro why are you like this (it's the trauma i know)

[pissmoon]

Dating advice for straight people on social media is literally deranged at this point. Its all 'how to get into most soullessly transactional relationship and do a cold calculation to play the dynamic into your advantage'. Does anyone even fall in love anymore?

#and if you dont believe in love why do you want to be in a relationship so bad? being an edgy hermit or whoreing around is less lame than #all the bullshit about how you should only ever accept dates if its michelin star restaurants #as a qurstionably straight woman are straight people ok? #yes its social media bullshit but given how its all over social media id take a guess a lot of ppl take it seriously #'high value man/woman' shut the fuck up moron #also the 'checking phone is normal' stuff. no the fuck its not. ur fucked in the head with cop mentality

[brittlebutch]

finally found a place to read With the Light online and i'm thrilled; if you haven't read this manga i do Legitimately recommend it

#N posts stuff #like don't get it wrong it Is Not a series about being autistic it Is a series about raising an autistic kid #but also don't be put off by that because it's legitimately a series that I feel Loves autistic people with its whole being #it's kind of a teaching manga so it showcases a lot of different opinions/characters/conflicts/etc. but the Framing is very consistent #in that the manga is Extremely of the opinion that autistic people are People who deserve to be Valued and Accepted As They Are #the onus for change is never put on autistic individuals the framing is basically Universal in the 'the World needs to change #to be more accepting' -- it's a very Social Model depiction of autism that ALSO never veers too far into the #'autism isn't even Really a disability' fallacy; it's very much a 'A lot of autistic people will need constant support in a variety of ways #throughout their lives but that isn't the roadblock preventing them from having their own lives; ableism in society is the roadblock' #the first two chapters are the hardest to get through bc they take place before Sachiko has any real understanding of autism and #so she's isolated and stressed out and the ignorance makes it difficult for her to care for Hikaru properly (there's also a lot of #other characters Blaming her for what's going on which goes unchallenged at this point though that changes later); but after she #understands what autism is she's Firmly in Hikaru's corner for the rest of the series - you can skip right to ch 3 without a problem #if you're not interested in reading about that initial conflict #there's still a Lot of conflict ofc but by then the chapters have some of my favorite moments so i don't want to advocate skipping #them; like Hikaru's daycare teacher explaining how Hikaru's difficulty speaking is the same as other kids' troubles with #things like jump-roping/etc.; and then a mother who has An Issue with Hikaru's presence in her daughter's class realizing the #depth of the problematic opinion bc Her mother (who had a stroke) faces similar ableism from her peers #i'm cutting this post off b4 the tags get Too long but if you're curious but still hesitant man. send me an ask and i will Happily #write an insanely long essay about how much i love this series; i have all the books i'm not excited about the online availability #for Me i'm excited bc i've been wanting to rec this manga for like almost a full decade and i can finally give you a link instead of #saying 'well. you can find used copies sometimes' lol

[dumblr]

You don’t have to accept things you are not okay with.

#quotes #emotions #accept the truth #feelings #love #romantic quotes #love quotes #self worth #know your value #know your worth #love quote #self accepectance #you deserve all the happiness #you deserve better #be real #be honest #dumblr

[boy-above]

venti is already an adult i am so tired of some people insisting the 2600(+) year old depressed alcoholic god is a child because he looks feminine. i'm tired of people doing "adult venti" designs as an excuse to make him more masculine. there's female characters that have the same proportions as he does but they dont "look like they're 12" to these people because they're women therefore femininity is acceptable, but a male character having feminine proportions means immediate infantilization for any male character no matter how obvious it is that they're an adult. "adult venti" my ass you just made cisgender venti / adheres to gender roles venti 🙃🙃🙃

#to be clear i know there's Some ppl who also try to insist that some female characters are kids despite being obvious adults but they're not #NEARLY as common as people who do it for male characters because people can't seem to accept a cute male character at face value #the reason this makes me feel so strongly is that i'm an adult who looks 12 and has never once been correctly clocked as adult by strangers #and im also a man. and i have a round face and big eyes like venti and it's just important to me okay #those little 'uwu' anime boys yall love to make fun of resonate with me. they're men who look like me #obviously i'm not cute like them but LMAO you get the point #venti is an adult who frequents bars and has verbatim 'i'm well above drinking age' #anyway thanks for coming to my angry tedtalk #marshal gets harshal

[aro-attorneys]

no but listen what really gets me about wrightworth is the comfort of it. it doesn't even need to be regarded as a romantic ship (there's so many ways to interpret their relationship anyway) in order to understand why they gravitate to the other.

every time i see wrightworth art where they simply exist. simple live together and make coffee in the morning and eat lunch somewhere and all the other mundane everyday things, i can't help but think "finally, they can just be, after everything".

their journey was so long and complicated that them being in the same room, at peace, for more than 5 minutes is so meaningful. they fought for that moment of peace. to simply be in the other's presence.

#i have definitely had someone tell me 'no they're just friends' #bc some people only accepts a good gay pairing when they kiss on screen or something /j #im not here to tell you to ship a ship. that's not a healthy way to engage w media anyway #but saying they're *just* friends is the funniest fucking thing to say #even if they aren't romantically involved their relationship would still be so special #friendship isn't a lesser form of love #okay. let them be friends then. let's strictly follow what canon has established so far #so you're telling me that phoenix fighting for 15 years to see edgeworth again is *just* some friendship? #you're telling me that edgeworth flying for hours and hours to help phoenix in 3-5 is *just* some friendship #the way edgeworth talks about phoenix in aai (both) is *just* simple friendship? #none of that has to have romantic implications. heck i really like them as queerplatonic duo even #but denying (or implying) that what they have is nothing special is so wild to me #*even* at face value this game establishes how special their relationship is #ace attorney #miles edgeworth #phoenix wright

[winepresswrath]

I am haunted by Alecto the Ninth's potential to give me the awkward family dinner of all time. I can see it already out of the corner of my eye. With every glimpse my yearning intensifies, matched only by my fear that it would be too powerful and overwhelm the narrative and thus won't happen.

#if not for awkward family dinner then WHY is John rping family time with Gideon and Ianthe!!! #why the psychosexual dysfunction gang reminding us all that there are no takebacks on love? #why John wishing he was harrow's father and g1deon and Pyrrha feeling some kind of way about Gideon? #why is pash Gideon's cousin? #why is alecto john's ex-wife and harrow's first crush? #and pyrrha's lil bits all at once? #why Magnus making anniversary dinner and harrow's bone soup and Nona's book of family meals? #it has to be for the most excruciating food based family gathering of all time. #yes fine also for character development and some important thematic stuff #and an exploration of what it means to have a family and a place in a community & the contrast between how Gideon has always longed so #intensely for acceptance and a place in the universe where she can feel like her contributions are valuable and valued vs. #Harrow identifying so strongly with the ninth and her duty to it & the way she is its future because it's future was stolen to create her #and how what the ninth offers and demands is so monstrous and they can't escape it #they have to find a way to live with it- live with each other- if they're going to live at all #and how that's reflected in all the families we see #and we see this at its best with Magnus and Abigail and imo Pyrrha loving as best she can #but ianthe and coronabeth #palamedes and cam #oh man the eighth do we see it with the eighth #who are we to one another what do I ask of you what can I give you #see how I exist in the context of you; change that context and I become something new #and John and Alecto! he changes her so much. takes her out of her original place and purpose #makes her into something new. and he does it to himself #by doing it to her. and she changed him first. but still! it's terribly one sided #BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY FOR THE AWKWARD FAMILY DINNER OF ALL TIME

[x-v4mp3y3lin3r-x]

if you're deconstructing your ideas of binary gender and binary sex— you also have to deconstruct your ideas of binary sexuality and romantic attraction, too, fyi

#'are you saying homosexuals don't really exist??!?!!?!' no. please use your brain. #im saying it literally doesn't matter if a lesbian dates someone who YOU perceive as a man. #because the people in that relationship know more than you. #and human experience does not exist in a binary. #you have to accept that sometimes other people will experience life differently than you do #this also goes for gays and bis and pans and aces and aros. #the only people who get to define their experiences are them. #so no I don't really care if a gay man says his true love is a woman and he means it. #i still consider him gay. because he knows himself and his partner better than i know how to perceive them both #and how someone else identifies is none of my business. #that woman may be only part woman. or only perceived as a woman. or only sometimes a woman. or always both woman and man. #there's so many ways to be human. you have to learn to take other queers at face value and not question them #when you question if someone is 'REALLY gay' or 'REALLY trans' or 'REALLY bi'; you're thinking with the mindset of an oppressor #you do not need to gatekeep queerness. queerness is not a limited resource. queer people are not your enemies. #learn to empathize and embrace experiences unlike yours. be a better ally to the people in your own community instead of immediately - #- searching for ways to cast them out. be better. stop thinking like our oppressors. queer people do not need to rationalize ourselves for - #- anyone. they don't owe you an explanation. you cannot take their 'gay card' away.