#their advice is usually bad

[lettersandinkstains]

congrats on finishing a wip!! Whats ur secret!!!! lmao

This isn't my first WIP I've finished, so that helped me a bit. (There's a reason I don't talk about my Vampire WIP anymore, it's done, just sitting archived for me to go in and edit it, and do a new draft of it)

Knowing my limits, taking breaks, and shelving when I start to get frustrated. If I find myself dreading the writing process, it's time to take a break and focus on something else.

I also shelved other WIPs to focus on one, otherwise I wouldn't finish anything. Too many projects meant my mind is split onto too many things, and HEMLOCKS was already established with a few interested beta's that weren't on Tumblr or any writing server - just a couple of friends I could trust with the document and liking the synopsis.

I also had Lyric's voice stuck in my head until I wrote her story and re-wrote it until I was mostly satisfied with it. I also did writ a lot of it when I was feeling low or in a bad state of mind, so some of it was just mostly vent works, drawing from my own past or a late partner's past (minus the "parent killed the other parent" part of it all), especially something that Lyric talks about that I and my late partner personally went through at different times.

It was also just reminding myself that there's no rush to finish it, perfection is never going to be achieved so I may as well just do it and write what I want to write and see in a story. It helped me that it is actually an entirely different genre than what I normally write, so I actually had to test myself and see where my limits actually lied.

Also, I didn't talk about it too much on social media so I didn't feel like I had to write a WHAM line every time or feel like I had to create, create, create and make every sentence and line meaningful and deep. It felt pretentious more than normal.

I also stopped complaining. I stopped complaining about the writing process, how I didn't know what to say or what to call it or what to do or how much I hated it, hate that, and jokes of "why can't it write itself" jokes. I stopped insulting it. It didn't feel good, I didn't feel good, it just made me hate what I was doing more, so I just decided to stop complaining about it, and started sharing what I was proud of with a select few friends.

If you speak negatively about your stuff, why should anyone else like it? Why should anyone else read it? "This story sucks and I hate writing it" vs "Some scenes are giving me trouble and I'm getting a little annoyed" are two incredibly different statements, one puts most readers off and the other is relatable. Like on A03, "I suck at summaries" won't net you shit. "This story probably sucks" won't do anything. And you'll also eventually start to believe that - what then? If you hate what you're writing it, why are you writing it?

Was it frustrating sometimes? Did I run into writers block? Yes, so I shelved it and came back to it later when I had some more inspiration. I wrote it in Google Docs entirely and would link my friends to get live responses, I wrote at home and not at work because if I wrote at work, I'd associate it with work.

If I wanted to stop writing it, I did. HEMLOCKS got put aside for awhile for fanfiction because I found not working with my own OCs for awhile genuinely helped me.

I stopped editing as I went. The best advice I ever received was, edit later, write now. Worry about mistakes and perfection later and then accept that perfection isn't possible, and that's okay!

I start writing it when I was awake and stopped when I was tired, I took breaks, I ate when I needed to, drank water when I needed to, etc. None of that, "I won't eat or drink or do anything until I write 5K words today!" Absolutely the fuck not, and I still see shit like that in writing spaces. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY, your brain needs that shit to WORK. A healthy body DOES equal a healthy mind, drinking some water does wonders, so does going for a short walk or focusing on something else. You need to listen to your bodies signals :/

...And I honestly stopped participating in NANO. Camp or Novembers. I honestly didn't like it, didn't like the pressure - it stopped feeling fun after awhile and started to feel like work. And I stopped talking about it altogether, except with a few friends who are close to my heart and may be the only ones to ever read it. Likely if I am asked if someone can read it, I will say no.

Lastly, I stopped posting on here. Like, I absolutely love writeblr, I've met some great people on here but - I found not posting in writing communities helped me a lot. Notes had become a big thing and I was too fixated on it, and then I realized that if it was wrecking my mental health, it's time to leave. I hate sanitizing things or writing for the masses, I like to write what I like and often times, that's WLW and not MLM. And sometimes even not romance and more something like HEMLOCKS. And I found that I was posting more about my WIPs than actually writing them or feeling motivated to write them.

I have plenty more, especially when it comes to HEMLOCKS but that's between me and the two people that know why I was working on it and what was happening like two nights ago that made me finish it.

SO this is Novel Number Two that is finished for me and I feel like I've only been able to talk about it with like three people. I am incredibly proud of myself.

#writing advice #ymmv #don't listen to people who have NY Times Top Writer on their twitter profiles #their advice is usually bad #except neil gaiman #always listen to him

[91939art]

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[fizzfags]

ive really never understood "your character has to have a unique and recognizable silhouette" as character design advice because theyll always give examples of characters from popular tv shows to show that you can recognize them from shadow alone and its like. i recognize them because theyre popular characters. it doesnt matter how unique and clear my characters outline is if nobody knows who they fucking are. a character with a dogshit boring nothingburger silhouette is recognizable if its popular enough

#barking #not saying its BAD advice. just that the way its usually explained doesnt make sense

[violetlunette]

At Ramshackle dorm Yuu: Sigh, I wanna date Silver! Grim: Sleepyhead? Yuu: I prefer Sleeping Beauty, but yes. He’s so man-pretty-- Ghost 1: You mean handsome? Yuu: Yes, but man-pretty’s more fun to say. Anyway, point is I wanna date him. How do I make that happen? Grim: Hrm~! Well, I don’t get why you’re interested, but why don’t you just walk up and ask him—MWAAH! *Gets shoved aside by three eager ghosts!* Ghost 3: No, you can’t do that! Yuu: I can’t? Ghost 1: Of course not! Everyone knows you never tell a person you like them! It’s just insanity! And completely boring. Yuu: But if I can’t tell him I like him and wanna to date, how do I get a said date? Ghost 2: Simple! You gotta play the bad boy. Yuu: Bad boy? Ghost 2: Yeah! You’ve heard the saying nice guys finish last, after all, right? Girls love a bad boy! Yuu: But Silver’s a boy. Ghost 2: Look, it’s one Y chromosome, there’s not that big a difference.

#not as funny as I think but meh #Poor Yuu getting bad advice #This is a lie btw #girls don't like bad boys they like confidence and the black jackets the boy usually wears #Girls date the bad boys to get the jacket #fact of life #lol #twst silver #twst yuu #twisted wonderland #twst grim #grim grinning ghosts #twst ghosts #hitchhiker ghosts #mine

[miodiodavinci]

I made a Vocaloid channel but I'm having trouble getting views. I like making covers for fun but I wish I could get more than a handful of views, especially since I haven't even gotten 5 on my latest ones. I use Vocaloid 6, which may be the problem since not many people talk much about it as much as the older versions

Would you have any advice as to what I can do?

m m m m m , , , , , , i feel like it's hard to say—back in the day when i was doing UTAU work, most of the interaction i got with my work was from my friends from UTAForum. we all sort of just shared our work with each other and supported one another doing our fun little hobby. though the sort of forum culture that spawned that sort of friend circle has kind of disappeared by this point , , , , ,

but honestly, even still—find folks whose work you like and get involved!! share your work on other sites and shout out people you like!! support the folks around you and establish yourself as part of a community

(of course like. don't treat it as a transactional thing. if there's one way to ensure No One interacts with your work it's to. comment on people's things or shout people out and then get passive aggressive expecting a response back. doesn't work like that. you support people because you love them and their work—not because you want something in return.)

but even more than that, honestly just keep doing what you do and the love in your work will come across in heaps and bounds, and someone will be bound to listen. people also tend to get interested the more you put your own spin on something, whether it's creating your own PVs, adding your own harmonies, sharing some of your files, or linking multiple covers together as part of a kind of overarching story. if you make it yours, it'll be yours for good.

like, at the end of the day we can all agree that views are just a number on a screen and are kind of meaningless and no one should base their worth on them, but also yeah it kind of wears you down after a while to keep sharing things you've put a lot of love and effort into with no response.

i'd just like to encourage you not to lose your passion for it—views or not, there's a lot to be gain by pursuing something you love. your VOCALOID endeavors are only just beginning, and who knows where you'll end up ! ! ! ! take the journey as far as it'll take you, and have fun all the while ! ! ! ! ! ! !

also send me your work i want to listen 👁 👁

#mio answers things #anon #is. what i think i mean to say sjdhflkgjhjdfg #forgive me i am bad with advice like this #but i think the long and short of it is I Feel You Deeply Anon #you awakened visceral memories of posting cover after cover onto deviantART and UTAU forum and getting like. 1 view. #and the feeling suuuuucckkkks so bad #but like. very much what kept me going was just. sharing with friends instead #like. if i am being wholly and completely honest?? #even now i usually make my covers with maybe 5 people in mind. 10 max. #i work on my covers and i have fun and i think about like 4 or 5 of my friends i know will go nuts over it when i post it #and really that's what matters to me most skjhdflgjh #NOT THAT I DON'T SUPER APPRECIATE ALL THE LOVE AND SUPPORT I GET FROM EVERYONE . . . . . #but like. when i was working on my wanderlast cover i was literally just sitting there thinking 'ohhhhhhhh myst is going to love this w' #you really do just make for yourself and your friends and you will be so so happy forever #but also again. i feel you on the views w #fight the urge to base your worth on it #but also know that YEAH if you've got people you like and they like your work back #the views will get better and they won't matter so much anymore w

[mejomonster]

On a serious note, I do feel mysterious case lotusbook has a lot of sincere themes about getting older, realities of responsibility and dreams realized, how it's difficult to succeed and not always the direct path one expects, how there's value in little aspects of life. Almost every li lianhua scene seems to be about that to some degree. The murder cases aren't particularly deep as far as super complicated to figure out or Able to be predicted super well (since they don't always give all the details in the initial setup), but the themes about who was killed and why do connect to li lianhuas situation.

#mysterious lotus casebook #lb #by all this i mean: a lot of the positive things li lianhua AND di feisheng say are fairly good advice tbh #like a fei? hes like you need to be fair in your decisions for your actions to be worthwhile and earned #li lianhua: sometimes being the one taking all responsibility was bad for you and the people you led who felt burdened #by You taking the burden. and stepping back can be a respectable choice. #cooking is more difficult than fighting. keeping yourself alive is Hard and its the hardest thing we do #and its admirable even when youll never be a hero never be able to achieve what those around you might #your peers are worthwhile if they choose diffetently than you (qian wanmian isnt lesser for not choosing to lead a sect and instrad #dissolving it. di feisheng doesnt think li lianhua is no longef worth his time even though hes weaker now. li lianhua is still someonr he #wants to see alive see brlieve in himself see passionate about things. the monks think its never too late to #reconnect to people again. that people who love you will want you and accept you even when you fail. #even fang duobing by knowing li lianhua gets the experience of someone who wants him alive #and fondly smiles and Is proud of him. evrn if hes learning and fails and moody #fond of him in a way his family wasnt that strangers lied about due to his status #in a way that he clung to li xianyi for ALSO seeing value in him when he felt he didnt live up to expectstions of the world #its the Kindness of little moments of acceptance. of being kind to yourself and kind to others (even down to #not wantjng to kill suspects but take them to trial. not wanting scapegoats blamed. which arent usually done in wuxia) #its the fact this show is quite about gentleness and healing (i see the Love and Redemption screen writing ismilarities) #rather than about power struggles. do you know what i mean?

[funnierasafictive]

some advice i see a lot regarding how to tell if someone is a fictive or just a character that the person is imagining is to try to imagine them doing something they wouldn't and see if it feels wrong or if they flat out refuse but i was wondering is there any way to tell if you've just imagined them refusing? like, if it's more in character for them to do so is that not simply where your mind would go? how can you tell whether there's a person behind it or whether it's just that your mind itself doesn't want to cooperate??

Honestly, I'm not sure how to answer that. BUT, it does remind me of when our old host met Jaiden (not a fictive) and they read that a way to check if someone is really sentient, you do this specific exercise about balancing a feather on their noise or something. Honestly none of us remember the point of it or how it would have worked, but what happened was, Jaiden was already Real. He split real, Jamie just wasn't sure (thank you denial). Because Jaiden cared about Jamie, he indulged him and did the exercises. But it would go on for DAYS to the point where Jaiden literally told Jamie to just "stop". "I'm real!" and even if Jamie told him to do these exercises, it was annoying him.

So yes, having them do something they'd like is an option. But have you considered annoying them to the point where they snap at you?? SKDFJS

OF COURSE DONT like. put yourselves on bad terms. but its something to think about. A lot of the time when we're in denial, the person we/the current front is in denial about, starts getting annoyed, and then we feel bad about hurting their feelings.

So I'm not your therapist and I can't tell you what's what- but I guess you could also think.. "If I annoyed them, and they react badly to me annoying them, and that feeling of them scolding me makes me feel bad.. why would I ever make that up?"

Also give it some time. Sometimes if a split is new (or you think someone just split) it'll be hard to tell. Denial is a BITCH. If you already are used to having alters or system members in general, The fictive who just split WILL eventually be comfortable enough to be "concrete enough" with you, if they already even know who they are. maybe your brain itself is still figuring things out. We talk about splitting as a community a lot--where spliting is usually depicted as like this FAST thing. but sometimes its slow! which DOESNT help if youre trying to figure out if you have someone or not!

#ask #Anonymous #and then of course tehres like. so many different factors like sure maybe its ocd or something #but anyway yeah #i do not recommend HARASSING people but im NOT a good role model so. nudging them a little might do something #bc like with ANY ALTER (not just fictives) a lot of the advice tends to be 'get a reaction out of them' lol #Talk to them? #im going to stop talking now because i feel like if i do my advice will actually get like really bad and you should NOT just listen to me g #'annoy them!!!' BAHAHA #-SUSIE / blurry susie i gyuess #ANYWAY HOPE IT GOES WELL! #be patient with YOURSELF and be patient with this possible fictive #its valid to live life being like 'idk' and then find out the actual answer a week or two later or more #i mean yk some systems only find out they had a fictive of someone YEARS later /gen yk #not funnier as a fictive #sorry its long lol..... #i also dont usually use commas but i used them here so im a little more comprehensible

[flimsy-roost]

now that I know I'm audhd I'm pretty gentle with myself, like I can just go meh whatever and shrug off most of the weird shit I do, but one thing that still makes me want to sink into the floor every time is when I get so excited to see a visibly queer person in a mundane environment that I forget you're not supposed to stare and bc I'm not super expressive by the time I snap back to reality this poor person has been stonefaced stared down by a random schlub (me) for long enough that they're now worried about getting hatecrimed in the Lowes parking lot. Why Am I Like This

#nd #audhd #autistic #samble rambles #I want to be friends or signal in some way #but what if I'm wrong and I shove my keychains in their face and they get mad #and I zone out while staring #and I come back and discover I was right in assessment but also so so so wrong in execution #advice request should I just sheepishly hold up my rainbow infinity sign keychain when this hapoens or what #idk man staring is bad but actively looking away is the clearest alternative and thats also bad #I'm queer as well but usually dress and present really unassuming

[enkidusbi]

quick somebody say something inspiring that will make me care about finishing my degree again

#earlier this week i had a talk with my project colleagues & thesis supervisor prof. it went....... bad #and i dont know if i still see a point. in any of this #i know i usually cry about irl stuf on my main blog but this is tangential to. everything. #anyways if you have advice on how to stop feeling utterly miserable bc 'i wanted this!!!'. feel free to share. #uh delete later #pls dont reblog

[tswwwit]

do you have any writing tips? my friend says its ok to write whatever scene and build my way towards the end or beginning. (that make sense?) ALSO HOW DO YOU LIKE WRITE THE SPICY PARTS CAUSE I STRUGGLE DEEPLY WITH IT 🥲🥲

You can definitely start with the scene that you're thinking of!

If you go that route - and also want to turn it into a full story, no shame in just wanting the Idea™ in a document, that's always fun - I'd also make a list of the things that need to happen before That Scene. That way you'll have a kind of outline of what you need to write to build up to that Cool Dramatic thingyou've already written.

A few questions to ask yourself while you're making said outline: What Changed? How were things, and what are they now? What are the key points that altered the characters' perspectives or behavior after they've gone through events? What events did they go through? What did those things make them think? What made their viewpoint shift? Is there an object or a phrase that meant one thing previously, but now that the Events have happened, they have a different context in The Big Scene? Setup is important to make a Scene impactful - and there doesn't have to be a ton of Moments! Come up with a couple of 'em and think about how it affects your characters.

After you've filled in the beginning bit, you might find the two parts don't quite jive with each other, which is where Editing comes in. Like if you changed a detail in the setup, maybe tweak a line in the Cool scene to match. Attention to detail is key if you're writing in segments like this.

As for how to write the spicy parts, uh. I'll let you know if I ever figure it out!

#answers #I'm bad at writing AND writing advice #But a good idea is to have like. Two or three Establishing Beats #That you go back and reference later after the Changes have occurred in Plot or in Character #That's theming and foreshadowing babey #I don't know how I do anything without tripping over my own feet #But I'm usually sitting while writing so that explains that

[focsle]

The one unfortunate thing about GTW being inked digitally instead of traditionally is....traditional hatching was really one of the best insomnia solutions I had.

Sometimes I wonder if I should just pencil up an 'in case of insomnia' piece. But the premeditated element of that seems like it'd just trigger insomnia. It was nicer when it was cos I had a behemoth project that I could keep working on but would also put me to sleep.

#my sleep problems aren't as bad as they used to be #but I do still have moments...usually if I'm not asleep by 2am it doesnt matter what I do I won't sleep until morning #and my insomnia is annoying too because it's not like...I'm overthinking or stressed or whatever #I JUST LAY THERE LIKE A CORPSE....HEAD EMPTY....and just don't sleep #all this to say I am really staggering about today and thinking about how I'm gonna last another 6 hours #also do not give me insomnia advice lol...whatever you're gonna say I tried it #lorazepam is what works but that is something I prefer to avoid if at all possible...and I don't have a scrip for it anymore ne way

[soldier-poet-king]

WAILS

#it certainly is a monday..... #worried about [redacted] #brain keeps giving me the softest kindest dreams only to wake up and be like. well. time for work #its dark and cold and rainy #usual family bullshit. careee bullshit. etc #im MAYBE getting sick which cant happen i have tattoo work scheduled for Saturday #bro1 (aged 23) is getting his ears pierced and i was giving him advice #and he straight up was like oh im getting both done because just one ear is gay #He said that. to my face. im. #i need to move out. i need to get a s/o. i need to hold hands and go on cutesy little dates SO BAD #i love romance ok. im tired of pretending i dont #i don't really care abt the sex bits like sure itd be nice #but i dont yearn and pine for it like i do the casual romantic intimacy of it all im. im. #WHY IS IT NOT SOFT AND KIND. LIFE SHOULD BE SOFT AND KIND TO ME OK. I WOULD BE SO GOOD AT ROMANCE-FRIENDSHIP #just like. the gentleness. the kindness. the fun. im. going to be SICK #im also sosososo sleepy and sad. #oh the national on repeat for hours we're really in it now #wish we could invent a way to be lonely and wanting that isnt completely cringe!!! #and guilt inducing bc there's bigger problems and i should be helping and doing and not navel gazing about love #and yet!!!!!!!!!!

[bhaalsdeepbat]

Keep thinking about the .00001% chance my Durge has a kid, and how impossible the circumstances would have to be, but also how both posh and feral a child raised by Durge and Astarion would be 😭

Like this baby is so good at using their baby charms to get everything they want but sometimes it's ridiculous shit like. You have this super spoiled child who is kind of a brat sometimes, but secretly a huge softy and is actually VERY well behaved for their parents & extended family...for the most part.

Sometimes a feral streak will hit them and they'll get the combination Dhampir/Bhaalspawn Zoomies. They're running around yelling about paving a path in corpses, Astarion is moving at top Vamp speed to keep up, Storm Sorc Durge flying over every which way trying to prevent shit from breaking/falling. But this is still just a child so at a certain point they overdo it and Astarion & Durge just fucking find them passed out with some squirrels they drained then slaughtered.

But also imagine the hunger this poor child would experience. Like they're the creation of two people with nearly uncontrollable appetites. The "Pets or food?" Dichotomy to an extreme. Living beings are literally their life source and their offering to the God whispering violence in their ear day in & day out. Cus you know Bhaal would be giving that little Bhaalspawn Special Attention. Cus he's petty af.

Like it would be so tragic, but could be such a good "resisting hunger & urges" story to explore esp with having to live their lives with both bc Dhampir Bhaalspawn baby wouldn't have Withers to take Bhaal's blood from them

#withers saw them giving Arabella REALLY bad advice and was like this child will NOT be staying here with you two idiots #she needs better influences #also this situation is so impossible #i think Mercy would have done shit to ruin their reproductive system before being lobotomized #i know it could be fixed magicallu #but they wanted to make sure everything they could do w the control they did have at the time #to end this cycle bc there is no way theyre giving more to the cult when they've already given the bhaalists #everything mercy is and more #but that isnt enough bhaal also wants their children and children's children #that being said #catch me drawing this dhampir bhaalspawn abomination #prettiest little thing with the sharpest claws and a jaw that opens up like #fuck what was that old vampire movie where their mouths opened up four directions #like their faces peeled open #i think the bhaalspawn shit would fuck up how the vampirism manifested #and make this child so fucked up looking when fully transformed but #when in their usual form theyre the prettiest little thing #the sarevok letter out here singlehandedly supporting my thought that Durge would still have some Durge Things going on #bhaal just took away their inheritance AND his ability to take over their body like a puppet was rescinded #i think Durge would still have Durge Thoughts #but it isnt their blood whispering and fighting to take control. they're #just dealing with intrusive thoughts that dont take over and cause them to black out #but they see that happening to THEIR child???? #like the helplessness knowing they cant do a damn thing #astarion and durge going on a journey to save their baby #neither of them wanted the damn thing but now theyre attached 🙄 #bat writes #never love an anchor

[norcumii]

My first Galactic Legend, and I'm so stinkin' proud.

Did I spend too many crystals on that last leg? Yes. Do I regret it? Not in the least.

#galaxy of heroes #jabba the hutt #feeling pretty good for not even 12 hours to acquire assorted stuff #doubt I'm getting him to relics soon but that's ok #meanwhile Dogmatix's amazing advice means I'm back on my championship table bullshit for the crystals #after a multi year break from that nonsense my bracket ranking is even MORE heinously borked than their usual brokenness #so it's not that I've eaten my last few opponents for breakfast only because they don't even make a light snack #my 7 mill GP account should NOT ever ever ever be in the same bracket as someone under 3 mill (at best) #I'll take the easy crystals but I'll feel kinda bad about it

[desperatepleasures]

also maybe the workday was not so bad like a) one of my coworkers gave me a tarot deck??? 😭😭 and it's so beautiful??? and b) there were two clients who I actually tangibly helped like me myself not the "scheduling an appt" or "waiving a fee" help (tho I did those too) but actually gave helpful advice to...like maybe I am good at my job sometimes

#i have only a few things in my advice arsenal but i am ALWAYS down for 'clean it with a chlorhexidine solution' and 'here's how to use #a feline inhaler chamber' like that's my wheelhouse lol #other top tracks include 'basic bearded dragon or leopard gecko husbandry' and 'tips for discouraging egg laying in parrots' #but the last two didnt come up today. thankfully. those convos usually only happen when something is wrong lol #the things that were wrong in today's topic was just 'skin tag opened up' and 'cat diagnosed with asthma' and those are much preferable to #'why dont my lizard's legs work' or 'my cockatiel just laid 10 eggs' <- Bad Situations

[mischiefmanifold]

confused how I fit into the spectrum of intelligence and ability

I relate much to borderline ID experiences but have always been considered exceptionally smart good with words pattern recognition detail oriented etc etc

feels like I'm smart only in hyperspecific situations like with special interests. bad at math bad at communication bad at movement bad at thinking

know I have dyslexia dyscalculia autism tics but don't really fit with any

and system make it more difficult to determine place (alters different ages mentalities skills)

considered savant before but not really fit that either

#sorry if hard to read understand not doing well now #not trying to copy anyone fake it for the record #feel like going to get hate because don't usually type like this #usually can translate into better words feeling bad now can't do #feel vulnerable don't wanna post cass say do it so we get advice help #autism #dyslexia #dyscalculia #tics #tics and tourettes #mmanifold rambles