#let them be aro

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

I write fanfiction and I've realised how I write this one character is very aro coded, (hmm, wonder why that is) so I kinda want to write him as aro

Only, with all the aspec shipping discourse, I don't know if I can cz he's in a relationship.

I'm not doing it to invalidate his identity, but with all the aspec shipping discourse I don't know if it'll be seen like that.

fuck it

*hits the character with an aro beam*

you're welcome

#your fanfiction #do what you want #if you want them to be aro in this fanfic #let them be aro

[deadliestpieceontheboard]

I don't think younger/newer users fully grasp the shit show that ace discourse was around 2014-17

It was so hostile that, to this day, discussions that begin to derail just enough can make me physically nauseous, some specific mockery trigger crying sessions years later. We lost most accounts with any sort of ace positivity. There was no information, no support, and all this damage was done predominantly by other queer people.

All this to say that you, however you identify yourself, should be engaging with aphobic comments the same way you do any hate. We don't sugarcoat or try to be comprehensive with people who are blatantly racist, homophobic or terfs, so why give it a pass just because it's coming from a queer person? I see how this tolerance goes and it's done enough damage as it is.

#might delete later #just felt frustrated about how even ourselves interact with hate #i'm all in for helping explain things #but people are way too comfortable qith being ignorant and we let them #ace discourse #aroace #asexuality #ace positivity #aro positivity #aromantism #aromantic

[redysetdare]

It's always "aspec ppl can enter relationships and have sex! They can feel love!!" And never "not feeling love is fine actually"

#text #its always 'lets fit them into amatonormativity to make them normal' instead of normalizing aspec experiences #aro #ace #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aspec

[animit-y]

Alastor is not only Aroace, he’s on the part of the spectrum that is sex Repulsed.

Erasing his sexuality with the excuse that “some aro & ace people are okay with romance/sex” doesn’t even work when applied to Alastor.

#hazbin hotel #aroace alastor #hazbin alastor #aro #Ace #aroace #aromantic #asexual #sex repulsed #fighting with Aroace people over this is so stupid #just shut up and let us have actual rep #you don’t need to ship Alastor with everyone under the fucking Sun #There’s so many NOT AROACE characters in the show #GO SHIP THEM #LEAVE ALASTOR ALOME JFC

[dreamsy990]

some of the less nice thoughts about being aroace

extras below the cut

sketch

closeups on my favorite panels

bonus: adios

#doodles #kingdom hearts #roxas #axel #olette #aromantic #asexual #aroace #do i tag pence. hes in the background of one panel #ehhhh sorry pence no tag for you #also not tagging soriku and namixi #i mean by the logic of 'theyre in one panel so i wont tag them' i also shouldnt tag axel but. he has dialogue so #anyways i have a very irrational love of olette whenever i need a random side character in a kh comic? olette #i think she uses webmd. anyways im done talking about olette #so let me clarify about this comic #im aroace. this is all just things ive thought before #im not saying in any way these thoughts are real. theyre just thoughts #thats why it ends with 'but there isnt. its just me.' there IS nothing wrong with being aroace. even if it feels like it sometimes #im not trying to send a message im just trying to express a feeling ive had for a while #anyways. the aroace community is super positive and i like that. but not everything i feel about it is that positive #sometimes it feels like im missing something yknow #this comic seems like its about roxas. but its about me. congrats youve been fooled #drafted something similar to this for aro week but didnt finish it in time so this is spiritually part of asaw 2024 #btw sorry im not posting as many drawings lately #schools kinda stressful im pretty tired and busy most the time #i am throwing this drawing to you like a slab of meat to a pack of hungry dogs. take this meager ration in these trying times #alright i think thats it bye now

[infiniteorangethethird]

being loveless does suck sometimes but less bc of some "ohnooo I'll never be able to loooove what will I ever doooo" bs but because how the hell do you tell the ppl around you that you view all relationships as business transactions where the currency is care and support and the reward is trust? How do you tell someone "hey so I could not care less about you as a person but also I enjoy every second we spend together and I'd fight the universe for you if you asked and if you ever disappeared I probably wouldn't miss you but I'd still cry for all the things we never got to experience together" without being the asshole?

#loveless #loveless apl #loveless aplatonic #aplatonic #aplspec #loveless aro #loveless aromantic #so many times i find myself believing im a shitty person #for not being emotionally invested in others #i find it genuinely hard to truly care for other ppl #but it's like i do wanna help and support you!! i do wanna be there for you #and do stupid shit with you!! #id do anything a good friendship requires from me!! #and yet it never feels enough bc the needed emotions aren't behind the acts #not enough that i do it bc i wanna. not enough if it's not out of love #and like how could i blame them for it? how else would they react to #'hey i literally don't care about you. let's hang out anyway'? #(bestie if ur reading this. im sorry...?) #queer stuff

[just-trying-my-best-everyday]

Are you normal about aspec people or will you try to find ways to fit them into amatonormative standards regardless?

#“I'm ace” “but you can still get married” die #“I'm aro” “but you can still have sex right” i am in your walls #this goes specially hard for romance/sex repulsed peeps #respect means LET THEM TELL YOU THEIR STANDING ON SEX/ROMANCE #not trying to find ways where their refusal to conform won't upset you #aromantic #asexual #aspec #acespec #arospec #lgbt

[rottmnt-residuum]

Any other LGBTQ+ Headcannons that are canon is the comic??;)

*patiently awaits Cupioromantic Donnie*

hmm... had to think about this for a while and talk about it with co-author, but here's what we got. we mostly base this stuff on how plausible it is in show/if there's evidence for it. with a dash of personal experience. This only applies to residuum, btw. I have different personal headcanons for these characters outside the comic.

april: lesbian. this is mostly based off of the fact that most aprils get with their caseys & the comment she said to dale. which could be taken as disinterest in dale specifically, but she seemed more concerned with impressing that popular girl earlier and that reads as more... saphic, i suppose. or at the very least homoromantic.

raph: raph is just raph. we look at him and basically just *tv static*. go crazy. all we got is jokes or stuff that has too little evidence to support. so, yeah, he's whatever you want him to be i guess?

leo: trans. already said my reason in the other post. also, gay. if gay were a power source he could power the entirety of the united states for five months straight without a single power outage. failing power grid notwithstanding (< thats the actual word. its supposed to be mushed together like that. wack.).

donnie: as much as i'd like him to be ace/aro spectrum rep, he just doesn't have the evidence in show for us to apply it to him in this comic. it's funny, for being hc as ace so often he sure is the most outwardly romantic/sexual turtle in the show lmao. one! cherry: "you're so cute, but you're so mean! why do i always go for your type?" two! astrogirl?? (whatever her name is) he is very very romantic with her. he has a type y'all. also just look at those two, he's a leg man lmao (bootyyshaker9000 anyone? ha!) anyway. and with the bromance/instant chemistry he had with that one guy in the purple dragons... Pan. or possibly Omni as he does seem to favor... cute brutal femme... Yeah. Omnisexual.

(you have no idea how fucking bad i want this boy to be ace spectrum. hes got the colors y'all!! The Colors!!!!! but alas... i am bound by my canon plausibility creed for this comic)

mikey: ace. possibly ace/aro. he shows interest in literally no-one. we're aware that the common hc is pan but... we know a pan 13 year old, and let me tell you ahahahaha, kids going through puberty are very uncomfortable to be around sometimes, especially around their partners. or crushes. and mikey... well, that boy is ace behavior personified lmao. aces in the back you get what we mean right?? right??? anyway commiting to aroace

#residual asks #rottmnt #i really get a kick out of he/him butch lesbian raph and ghostbear-sexual raph #but i'd never use those seriously. or at least in this comic #co-author says what they get if they really had to choose for raph is ace homoromantic #but otherwise... #he's just raph #like we can't apply any identity to him. and we really mean ANY identity. not even straight or umbrella terms like queer #its a very odd feeling #i also really like trans april but we don't have enough evidence for it #in fact there's actually counter evidence- but don't let that stop your dreams y'all. it just stops ours :P #sorry for stepping on your donnie dreams anon #but honestly i think that label applies more to 2012 donnie imo #i really do personally prefer ace/aro donnie. but i'd make everyone ace if i were able lmao #co-author would also do the same thing ahaah #i just don't like depicting romantic relationships. or attraction ahahaah #with mikey... we get why people hc him as pan... but like its a fandomism stereotype #that literally every fandom applies to optimistic friendly characters. and honestly i really don't like the fandomism stereotypes #i just find them... unenjoyable i guess #cuz like y'alll... your sexuality isn't inherently determined by your personality or vise versa #cuz like i know for sure that in fandom spaces- if i were a character- i'd be stereotyped as pan or a hypersexual cis het #to which i am neither. at all. #and co-author would be stereotyped as the demure femme book lesbian #which they are VERY much not #and i know this because i've been fandomified by people in my life more than once #it is a very uncomfortable experience y'all #whoops rant in the tags #residuum #rottmnt residuum #residuum wb

[3amsnek]

more aro week dragon! he’s very enthusiastic about his job <3 (flags: aromantic, demiromantic, cupioromantic, aroace, greyromantic)

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reblogs >> likes! please don’t like if you don’t rb

#aro week #aromaticism #aromantic week #aro pride #aro #aromantic #aromantic spectrum #arospec #demiromantic #cupioromantic #greyromantic #aroace #pride art #my art? #i don’t usually draw the cozy guys more than the once but this one Demanded it #if you want a version w a different arospec flag shoot me an ask or a dm and I’ll make it these r just what I came up w & then insta q box #yes I did get the demiro colors mixed up Again and yes it is My Own Flag I don’t. idk why it will not stick in my brain right #these all Should be right I checked three times but. again let me know if there’s another (arospec) or if I got something mixed up #also all of my cozy pride beans use any and all pronouns whatever you want them to have im just usin he for this one this time #i cannot put a link into this for some reason? i just wanted to hook it to their other art I’ll try again right after I post #anyways. i had a wood glue epiphany today and my brain is in Wonky Town so sorry for and weird ramblings but HAPPY STILL ARO WEEK #hopefully I’ll be able to get my last thing done to post Friday or Saturday :3 hopin hoping

[aroace-menace]

Every fictional character to ever exist is aspec. You can’t tell me I’m wrong because there is literally no proof. There are characters who have said they are aspec, but I can’t think of a single one who has said they aren’t. Even if they said “I am heterosexual and heteroromantic” (which would be very unusual), they could be grey-heterosexual or something. Every “canon relationship” is a qpr. They are just friends. I will die on this hill.

#you know I’m right #aspecs rise #let’s claim what is rightfully ours #I mean why stop at the purple and green ones #we can take them all #ace #aro #asexual #aromantic #asexuality #aromanticism #aroace #queer #lgbtqia #aspec #arospec #acespec #headcanon #the menace is yapping

[ace-but-not-a-pilot]

#asexual #ace #Please stop judging people and just let them have their sexuality in peace <333 #aromantic #aro

[uncanny-tranny]

The funniest thing is that the stereotype that trans people will become less aromantic/asexual once they transition is false for me. I became even more aroace.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #ace #asexual #aro #aromantic #aroace #never let them know your next move #i am the most content i have ever been and that has allowed me to let go of my expectations #i allowed myself the happiness of letting go of amatonormativity #no clue if i have posted this sentiment #but transitioning saved me from living a life which feels like a lie #it hasn't JUST freed me of dysphoria/affirm me. it also changed my mindset. it has made me kinder. it has made me gentler. i know myself #if i were religious i would absolutely say it is holy because this feels sacred #the becoming of the self is such a human yet divine thing

[frogsare-friends]

shoutout to all my aros and arospecs not celebrating valentine's day!! and shoutout to all my aros and arospecs celebrating valentine's day!! and shoutout to all the aspecs that aren't celebrating valentine's day!! and all the aspecs that are!!

#ik it's a day early #but sue me (good luck i'm broke) #but remember that there's absolutely nothing wrong with not celebrating mainstream holidays centered around romanticism #but if other people choose to (whether it be with friends or romantic partners/interests) let them have a good time #at the end of the day what's most important is uplifting and being kind to others aspecs #(especially aroallos not bc they're more important but bc ik tomorrow is hard when everyone tells you you're shallow/a bad person) #i personally will be giving out gifts to my friends and eating more fun dip than anyone should #<33 #aro #aroallo #alloaro #alloace #aceallo #arospec #acespec #ace #aromantic #asexual #aspec #aplatonic #aplspec

[chrissycunninghamkin]

platonic stobin but they live together, they do everything together, they get married and live together and have kids together. everyone thinks they’re romantically involved but they don’t do romantic stuff, all of their kids r adopted and they go on dates but don’t kiss or do couple things like that. steve’s bi and robin’s a lesbian but they’re happy w just each other. maybe they have romantic relationships maybe they don’t but what matters is that they have each other and that’s enough. it’s unconventional and some people don’t get it but they do and that’s fine

#platonic stobin #platonic with a capital p #codependent stobin #my older brother has a platonic fiancé so i promise it’s a thing #maybe this makes them kinda on the aro spectrum idk #they’re just in a qpr #qpr stobin #qpr ship #let me know if y’all would read a fic ab it

[antihibikase-archive]

It is incredibly isolating to navigate through fandom as an aromantic person. Aro experiences are so varied, and there is no definite aro experience that encapsulates the alienation that fandom spaces cause for certain people.

Fandom is mostly built and structured on shipping. And if not, the blorbofication of characters, which tends to go down the shipping pipeline; where does that leave the romance repulsed aro person who genuinely does not want to see any form of shipping? Platonic dynamics, right?

Yeah, sure. But by platonic dynamics, it's only "best friends" or "family" right? Where does that leave the aro folks with undefined labels? No, qprs aren't a get-out-of-jail card.

And qprs- they have no rules or standards set upon them by society, not even having a clear definition for what it is, because not all qprs are the same. Yet, for some reason, it ended up becoming the "nonbinary" option to a lot of people- not romantic or "regular" platonic? Qpr it is, right?

But where does that leave the aro folk who don't want a qpr? Who don't wish to see characters depicted in pairs or trios or so forth- who embrace the lack of a partner?

And these concepts presented; when aro folk talk about them, do you care? And if you do, do you understand? Do you try to?

If you aren't aro, but wish to be supportive, are you a genuine ally? Do you raise the concerns of aro folk you share the space with?

Or do you take a look at these concepts- and decide you understand them "well" enough? Do you decide to speak for aro folks instead?

Do you depict relationships outside of romance because you believe in the importance of platonic relationships? Will you accept the fact that not all platonic interactions will be familial or "best friends"?

Can you accept depictions of qprs outside of "more than friends, less than lovers"? Are you willing to accept it is not just "best friends" or "romance lite"? Will you accept that nothing is inherently romantic- and characters in a qpr may fall under your standards of lovers?

Can you resist the urge to put every character in a pair or trio or group? Are you comfortable with the notion of characters finding more joy in being by themselves, outside of all those lenses you see them in?

It's good if you can.

And if you can't, at the very least, do you understand why some aro folk in your space are upset? Embittered by your favorite ships? Starving for representation?

Did you depict these characters with these concepts with the knowledge that aromanticism is fluid?

#antihibikase.txt #Long Post #((I'm sorry. I have been thinking about this for weeks and I am unhappy.)) #((Honestly? I have been feeling more and more isolated in fandom recently.)) #((It hurts. I know non aro folks are trying.)) #((And its hard to describe. It's alienating.)) #((And the typical fandom response is more representation- which is well-meaning.)) #((But. Specifically to non aro folk. When you depict these aro concepts are you normal about them.)) #((Do you do so respectfully.)) #((Reminder that qprs are not restricted to aro folks btw.)) #((I'm so so tired. It's easy to say you care but then completely miss the mark.)) #((And just in case- this is NOT alluding to anyone. Please allow me to let my rage be my own.)) #((Or to share this with those who understand.)) #((And if you as a non aro person feel attacked by this- sorry.)) #((I did my best to word this as firmly as possible without sounding angry because I am aware that-)) #((-many will read this in bad faith.)) #((Okay to reblog btw.)) #((This isn't one of my usual rambles despite it being under my txt tag.))

[steampoweredlovemachine]

shoutout to romance repulsed selfshippers...... coolest people imaginable.... can we get some appreciation for romance repulsed selfshippers tonight.............

[proship dni]

#selfship positivity #i am eepy but full of love i love you fellow romance repulsed aros who selfship ok #you are gods strongest soldiers and i love you #im gonna make a comprehensible post sometime but for now please know that youre super epic ok #PLEASE reblog this romance repulsed aros have it so hard in this community #i want to make their time here a little easier and let them know they're not alone :[