#loveless aplatonic

[infiniteorangethethird]

sure "romantic" isn't the only type of love but also "love" isn't the only type of positive feeling. So maybe stop insisting everyone needs love to be happy and accept that loveless ppl exist? Pretty please?

#man february arrived and im on a roll with these posts #thought to myself 'tumblr could use more loveless-posting' #decided if no one's gonna do it im just gonna do it myself #also this isn't directed at anyone specific im just being salty at random #loveless #loveless aromantic #loveless aro #aromantic #aro #arospec #loveless apl #loveless aplatonic #aplatonic #aplspec #lgbtq #queer stuff

[saffigon]

Love is not required to be human. Love is not a requirement. Love is not inherent to relationships or orientation. Love is not the epitome of all human interaction. Love does not determine your worth.

Love is neutral. Love is not universal. Love can be rejected. You don't have to have love if you don't want to.

#aromantic #aro #arospec #aplatonic #apl #aplspec #aspec #loveless #loveless aromantic #loveless aro #loveless aplatonic #loveless apl

[lovelessrage]

Being loveless isn't bad. Lovelessness isn't something you should dread or shame. A lot of you still act like the mere idea of being loveless amounts to an accusation, like you're being sentenced to something horrific or being charged with a crime. I don't know how to convey how much it hurts seeing almost daily people reacting to a label I hold so dearly like a disease they can catch that they need to defend themselves against, lest they be mistaken for being one of us.

Why do you feel like you need to separate yourself from us so badly?

#loveless #loveless aromantic #loveless aro #loveless aplatonic #loveless apl #aromantic #aro #arospec #aspec #scowl corner

[aaa-battery-not-rechargeable]

"everyone feels love-"

everyone feels my fist through your eye! :)

#loveless #aromantic loveless #aro #apl #aplatonic #aromantic #loveless apl #loveless aro #loveless aplatonic #loveless aromantic #queer #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtq+

[papercranesandpride]

Can we talk about The Giver by Lois Lowry from the perspective of a loveless person?

I'm going to start with a passage that runs through my head all the time when I think about my lovelessness, because it resonates with me in pretty much the exact opposite way that it's supposed to.

"Do you love me?" There was an awkward silence for a moment. Then Father gave a little chuckle. "Jonas. You, of all people. Precision of language, please!" "What do you mean?" Jonas asked. Amusement was not at all what he had anticipated. "Your father means that you used a very generalized word, so meaningless that it's become almost obsolete," his mother explained carefully. Jonas stared at them. Meaningless? He had never before felt anything as meaningful as the memory. "And of course our community can't function smoothly if people don't use precise language. You could ask, 'Do you enjoy me?' The answer is 'Yes,'" his mother said. "Or," his father suggested, "'Do you take pride in my accomplishments?' And the answer is wholeheartedly 'Yes.'" "Do you understand why it's inappropriate to use a word like 'love'?" Mother asked. Jonas nodded. "Yes, thank you, I do," he replied slowly. It was his first lie to his parents

I agree with Jonas' parents here. You aren't supposed to agree with them, because they're expression the views of the average person in this dystopian society where love has been eliminated. You're supposed to think "wow, this is a really fucked up society if parents don't love their children." More importantly, you're supposed to think "wow, this is a really fucked up society if no one feels love at all." But I agree with them. "I enjoy you" is a vastly more correct and useful thing for me to say. I do wish people used more precise language instead of the term that's been diluted to meaninglessness. I would love a world where we say things like "I'm happier when I talk to you" or "it's cool to be able to say I know someone so talented" instead of "I love you." That's exactly what I'd like.

I just... As someone who grew up to be loveless, it scares me how much I loved this book as a kid. I grew up to be the kind of person this book views as missing an essential part of the human experience. Lois Lowry thinks that being like me is dystopic. It's not fun to realize that about a book I read over and over, and then read again in school as the first book I really, properly analyzed for English class. Some fundamental part of me was formed when I wrote my first very angsty fanfiction about it for a school project. And this book looks at me with revulsion.

Lois Lowry is just wrong. I used to feel love and then stopped feeling it (and I need to post about that sometime, because all the loveless people I see talk about never having felt love and so I want to voice my own experience). I don't think I'm missing out. I have no desire to get it back. To be clear, I don't think I'm better off without it, either. It's a neutral thing. Some people feel it, some people don't feel it, and neither group is worse off. I wasn't any happier with it than I am without it.

I don't really have a point, except just that it sucks that the whole origin point of the teen dystopia craze that formed all of YA during my peak YA-reading years sees lovelessness as bad. But you know. Of course it does. So does the rest of the culture.

#loveless aplatonic #loveless apl #loveless aromantic #loveless aro #loveless #the giver

[shiutsu]

unfortunately I wasn't able to change the text size so I could include like..better words?..

Anyway

(For some reason the hashtags didn't save 🤨)

#arospec #actually aromantic #actually aro #loveless aroace #loveless positivity #loveless aplatonic #loveless aro #aplatonic aroace #aplaroace #aplspec #aplatonic #aspec positivity #aspec friendly #aspec stuff #userboxes #userbox #aromantic community #aromaticism #aromantic spectrum #aromantic

[that-rabbits-dynamite]

Never Been in Love

Disclaimer: identifing as one of the above identities doesn't mean you don't experience some sort of love. This message may resonate with some, and not with others😁

Inspired by Will Jay's song "Never Been in Love"

#ace #asexual #aroace #aro #aromantic #apl #aplatonic #loveless #loveless aplatonic #loveless aro #heartless aro #aspec #M's art

[quiggel]

Yes, love is love, but also love isn’t everything. Hope this helps.

#aro #aromantic #loveless aro #loveless #aplat #aplatonic #loveless aplatonic #im not loveless but those who are are neat

[monstrousparalysis]

Idk sounds like you just described love man. Not to be rude, i just genuinely don't understand how what you're saying isn't a type of love. Idk why you'd be engaged and care about someone if that isn't love. Are you saying you're a psychopath/sociopath? Even they can love, especially pets. Even if you love him in the same way you would a pet or a plant or a child, that's still love. It sounds like you just don't like the word love. Which is fine. Weird but fine. But all I've seen you describe is love for someone, even if you don't wanna call it that. That's whatever. But from the outside looking in, that's love and a pair of people engaged most would say would only happen in a loving relationship. Is your relationship not loving? Caring about someone? Giving someone the world is literally love. Help me understand please,

Okay so. Anon, please understand that I may get snappy at you, and that is because people, including you, having repeatedly told me that either I do not know my own feelings, or I am worse than a serial killer today.

(and that has been mixed with ableism to people with personality disorders, which also hurts because my fiance is one of them. Most people with antisocial personality disorder/"sociopaths" aren't evil, they can choose to hurt or not to hurt people the same way everybody else can.)

I am sorry if I sound snappy, because I do not want to attack you for being confused.

But you see. We can all agree that the word love is complicated, right? Sure, most people would call a happily engaged couple "in love". People can say they love their partners, their friends, their pets, nature, humanity, all of that. But that doesn't mean that love is all good.

Like my own fiance said when people told him not to settle for me if I can't love him: his conservative parents love him. His mom, who forcibly converted him to Catholicism, loves him. She did it out of concern for him, because she thought it was what's best for him. She loves him, and she hurt him. Those are both true.

And you can say all you want that that's not love, but she called it love. She hurt him out of concern for him. She wanted to protect him. Plenty of other people would call what she did love too.

So if love is so confusing, so complex, if nobody can agree on what it means, if all words are fake and feelings are complicated anyways. Then I can do the inverse. I can care about him deeply and want to give him the world and refuse to call it love.

If everyone in the world can talk about how love hurts, then I can talk about my lack of love that heals.

Maybe somebody else feeling these same feelings would call it love. Maybe they wouldn't. But that doesn't matter, because they're my feelings, and I am the one who can describe them best. And I will never call them love.

#rem's ramblings #questions for this bastard #lovelessness #loveless aromantic #loveless aro #loveless aplatonic #loveless #tw ableist language #tw parental abuse #tw religious abuse #arophobia #aromisia #aplphobia

[mlp-friendship-isnt-magic]

Coining post!

So before I say the new terms I coined, I want to bring attention to a previously coined term, loveless apl.

[Image description: A flag with nine horizontal stripes. Towards the center, the stripes are dark blue-gray, medium blue-gray, light blue-gray, grass green, and cream.]

Look at it. It’s amazing. It’s beautiful. It’s so awesome. But just like not all aros are represented by the term loveless aro, this term doesn’t represent all apls. Which brings me to the new terms I coined.

Loving Apl/Apllovic

[Image description: A flag with nine horizontal stripes. Towards the center, the stripes are pinkish-purple, purple, lavender, grass green, and cream.] This term represents aplatonics who identify as experiencing love and find love to be important to their identity. I based this flag off the loving aro/arolovic flag, but I hue-shifted the pinks towards blue because the grays in the loveless apl flag are hue-shifted blue from the grays in the loveless aro flag. The shift in color also represents how aplatonics view love differently than alloplatonics, and our love may or may not include other’s love.

Paradox Apl/Apllovedox

[Image description: A flag with nine horizontal stripes. The stripes are pinkish-purple, purple, lavender, grass green, cream, light blue-gray, medium blue-gray, and dark blue-gray.]

This term represents those who identify as both a loveless apl and a loving apl. This can include experiencing love but feeling disconnected from it, having fluctuating feelings about love, only experiencing certain kinds of love, or not fully understanding love. To create the flag I just merged the loveless apl and loving apl flags.

#aspec #aplatonic #aplspec #coining post #mogai coining #loveless #loveless aplatonic #loveless apl #loving aplatonic #loving apl #apllovic #paradox aplatonic #paradox apl #apllovedox

[sleepii-freddie]

For me, my loveless aro identity means enjoying things and people to a degree that others would call love, but not using the word love cause I don't like it and it frankly doesn't sit right with me :/

#loveless aro #sleepyfred rambles #loveless aromantic #loveless aplatonic #sleepy loveless thoughts

[infiniteorangethethird]

loveless people. You agree. Reblog

#loveless #love loses #loveless aro #loveless aromantic #loveless aplatonic #aspec #arospec #aplspec #aromantic #aplatonic #lgbtq #reblog bait #queer stuff

[saffigon]

I don't care about love. I don't want to love. Love is not important to me. And not just romantic love, I just don't care about all forms of love. I don't love my friends, they are just people to me. I don't love my partners in any traditional sense of the word. I'm not saying it's useless, go for it if you do love. I just think it's not for me. It doesn't define me or my experiences. I don't view the world through love, I just view the love through me.

#aromantic #aplatonic #aro #arospec #apl #aplspec #loveless #loveless aromantic #loveless aro #loveless aplatonic

[lovelessrage]

Loveless: A Loveless Review

[Plain Text: Loveless: A Loveless Review]

Trigger Warnings For: Discussion of sex, sex negativity, platonormativity, arophobic tropes, and anti-loveless rhetoric

Disclaimer/Disclosure: I couldn’t finish this book. This will factor heavily into the review, as it has to do with how some scenes, details, and the writing quality were just very hard to sit with and continue. I got about 50% through, so I didn’t just skim pages and get back to you on it.

You might guess I don’t think of this book highly if I had to put it down and stop reading. This would be correct. However, I have more in depth thoughts than that. If you like this book and don’t want to read negative things about it, that's fine, but I implore you to read it anyway. A lot of the problems in this book are present in a lot of creations I see and can be a valuable teaching lesson; loveless people aren’t out to ruin your fun because biases got questioned.

Alright. Enough disclaimers. Review under the cut.

The Bingo Card: Surprisingly, Not A Strikeout

People who have been following me for a while may remember I mentioned I went into reading this book with a bingo card in hand: Loveless and Tired Bingo, a sheet made by yours truly. I did not get Bingo with this book! I did, however, fill 17 spaces out of 25; it just didn’t happen to line up, not because the book passed with flying colors. We’ll return to the Bingo Card at the end of this post to see what it looked like. But, letting you know, that’s a rate of 68% of all squares ticked on Loveless and Tired Bingo. Not looking so hot. 

Platonormativity, Envy, and The Loneliness Whirlpool

Let’s start with the meat of the post so nobody has to read it all if they just wanted my representation opinions. Other things like writing will be shuffled down for your convenience.

Edit: Past Scowl is a liar and a fraud and did not have maims glasses on, and misread the bingo card! I did get Bingo. Oops. Point still stands because the data is the same, I just gave this book a sliver more credit than it deserved for not getting one.

If this book had a full course meal, normativity would ironically be a key ingredient in every plate on the menu. Loveless has a platonormativity problem that confronts you from page 1, more realistically before that; the blurb!

[Text ID: From the marvelous author of Heartstopper comes an exceptional YA novel about discovering that it's okay if you don't have sexual or romantic feelings for anyone... since there are plenty of other ways to find love and connection. /End ID]

I promise not all my complaints will be raving about one sentence, but this kinda encapsulates the entirety of my problem with Loveless: Georgia Warr is not supported in her own novel. Loveless is a deeply insecure book that many can relate to, but, really… does it alleviate that insecurity, or just cover it up? There’s an unspoken “but” to every part of Loveless’ philosophy about aspec people [especially aroaces], where they must have platonic love to make them whole, to “fix” and “redeem” their lacking attractions. This has always bothered me, and it’s not an uncommon opinion in the community, unfortunately.

Aroaces aren’t allowed to simply “be” – they must be more. They must be so platonically invested you forget they’re aroace, because they have all this other type of love to give the world. It’s reflective of a view on a community sourced from hurt and exclusion, of someone trying to rebuild their worth on a new forefront. It doesn’t make it less of what it is, though: it’s a “yes they’re valid, but” statement that serves as the backbone for far too many aspec-focused media. 

Georgia is a deeply unsure character, and there’s nothing wrong with her being this way; she’s a fictional character made to represent a journey of acceptance, not a real person with the ability to inflict harm on other real people. She does reflect the author’s biases in many ways and many points on the same token, though, acting as a mouthpiece. This often comes in Georgia’s insistence her friendships are simply stronger than other relationship types, as well as her reflexive tendencies to judge the friendless.

One of my many, many hurdles in this book had to do with Rooney [someone save her and half the cast from this novel, please], when the group realizes she’s only a socialite, not really a long-term relationship holder, and the entire room devolves into silent judgment. Georgia does not defend her newfound friend, simply noting she thought differently of her. What about Rooney not having many friends changes her outgoing personality? It doesn’t. It’s simply the fact that Rooney being friendless makes her weird, as with many things Rooney is unfairly demonized for in this novel.

The emphasis on friends doesn’t end here, and persists through the entire novel, practically. It is the main focus, when it isn’t talking about Georgia’s disinterests, and her friend circle is very important to her. All of this is fine. What isn’t fine is the expectation and casual enforcement of friendship being all you have, so you must seize it; this book, even though I wouldn’t recommend it, is often given as The Book on being aroace, but I wouldn’t agree [you’re free to tell me I can’t have an opinion on that if I’m not aroace, but at least read on before deciding anything, alright, official hear me out warning]. One, not all aroaces are alloplatonic, and two, this:

Why Is This Book Written Like A Workplace Safety Seminar

It’s a very… cookie-cutter way to be aroace, and cookie cutter aroaces exist in real life! The rep should exist, no doubt, and shouldn’t be taken away from anyone. It’s not my problem per se that the book is semi-stereotypical. What my problem is has to do with something I see a lot.

The book falls into many of the pitfalls of what I’m dubbing “the pamphlet effect”: when a novel, show, etc. continuously needs to halt the plot to remind the audience this character is different, and explains this to you in a way that resembles an educational pamphlet at a pride event. Georgia Barr feels like an example given to explain a concept more than a person, and I feel bad for her because of how little this book engages with her actual character when it shines through. I understand the book is primarily centered on her journey through the spectrum, but very little is given to make Georgia’s experience unique outside of one scene off the top of my head. Her interests, hobbies, and unique feelings only seem to play a role when it comes time to be an author mouthpiece on slutshaming for fun and sport; only one scene, the forced kiss with Jason when rehearsing the play, really blends her life experiences with her aroace experiences.

Georgia feels designed to be an everywoman, and it was very disappointing to say the least. Very little of the book actually feels like I’m with her, or learning about her unique take on being aroace as a theatre fan or young adult figuring things out; it just feels like Georgia [and the reader] are being dragged through the Cliff’s Notes version of what it is to discover being aroace, rather than a look at how a character like this might feel differently than others on a fuller, whole scale. She’s a hole that can fit most shapes into it, which makes her broadly relatable, but not as fun or engaging to read about if you don’t fit precisely in the demographic Georgia is for; even if you do, is there much to engage with beyond “I’m like that too!”? 

This isn’t just a Georgia problem, either, as many, many characters in this book are walking stereotypes or very flat. But, we’ll get into that later [if you want to get into it now, skip to Writing Problems, Oh My!].

The Fingering In The Room: Loveless’ Weird Ideas About Sex

Alright, if you’re sex repulsed and braved the storm to get some insight, this next paragraph is just complete confusion about this book’s sex scenes and talking about some of the details within. If you want to skip that, skip the next paragraph.

Why is everybody fingering each other? Fingering is fine and it feels good, but it is basically the only sexual act this book knows outside of making out with tongue. Someone having sex in Loveless? They better have clipped their nails because at least two are going in. It feels like a point of research that was skipped because it was unimportant, which. Pretty much, yes. But when you’re someone who pays very close attention to sex scenes because you’re of the opinion they can have artistic value, as well as conveying the author’s views on sexuality, I come away with “is fingering what Oseman thinks young adults do?”. Anyways. Something I noticed.

[Okay sex repulsed people, you’re good. No in depth descriptions beyond this point, just the word “sex”.]

I should’ve titled this section “In Defense of Rooney Bach” because oh this poor girl. Oh you are just there to be gawked at.

First off, let’s begin in a good place: this book always has to clarify it isn’t slutshaming its characters, followed by slutshaming its characters. Rooney is, for the uninitiated, very sexually active. Georgia’s envy often leads to a judgemental, close minded view of Rooney that often pins her sex life as “too much” – something many sexually active women get villainized for. It strikes me immediately how Rooney is constantly picked on for her sexuality as a woman in ways no male characters who aren’t asexual either are treated. None of the men she flirts with or spends time with are reprimanded or “held to account” by the book; Rooney alone is breaking the rules. Rooney’s descriptions are often bookended with a disclaimer that she isn’t being called a slut, she’s just like one, which… This is slutshaming. You can’t just say you aren’t doing it to not be doing it.

Rooney is also a victim of a very arophobic trope, and one that is also misogynistic: the Broken Woman. Why is Rooney sexually active? A rough breakup that broke her heart and makes her fear intimacy on account of potentially being wrong again. Sure, sex feels good, but explicit focus is made on the fact she is only not engaging with romance because she tried and it didn’t work. For a few chapters, admittedly I was hoping for a book where an aroace and aroallo can get past some differences and expand each other's worldviews; what I got was Georgia thinking pretty poorly of Rooney through unaddressed envy and sex negativity, and Rooney being made to only like hookups because she’s messed up. Because of course a woman could only enjoy that if she had a negative experience that forced her on the path!

Also, another scene I didn’t like was Georgia and Pip watching Rooney have sex while she is completely unaware of their presence? Jason leaves as soon as he notices, but the two of them watch before Pip makes a comment on how disgusting it is and Georgia agrees. I’m shocked at how little this is brought up as being violating or creepy. 

If it was a better book, I would have expected it to result in some kind of furthered conversation about boundaries; it could've been a place for Georgia to start establishing what she likes and dislikes, starting with Rooney preferably keeping her out of her sex life when she’s able. Instead, this event gets brought up solely for jokes, and for a motivation for Pip to start hating Rooney, despite her insistence it wasn't because of the hookup and she isn’t slutshaming. Always a great sign when that needs to be clarified. This is a PSA for everyone: you should not need to clarify you aren’t trying to slutshame. If you feel the need to do so, you are probably being sex negative. 

This book isn’t very fond of sexually active people, nor is it kind to characters that are. I can understand why being asexual and sex repulsed is representation people would want, but I also think there’s many, many ways to write it without making it an exercise in shame.

Ironically Kinda Arophobic In Some Parts

This is a short section of a thing I noticed, hated, and had as a contributing factor for my ending early: this book loves aphobic tropes. There’s already the trope against aroallos of not needing romance because of being broken into only liking sex, but also the problem with Pip and Rooney.

I’m a lesbian, for clarification, and I’m saying from experience that I hate the archetype of the angry, jealous lesbian. It’s everywhere. It’s in this book. Pip, upon even the idea of being rejected, starts berating and demeaning the girl who turned her down, even if she was only turned down in her head. The book passes it off as a lighthearted, funny story that Pip got so mad at an ex-crush she was suspended for throwing an apple at their head. Why do I bring this up?

Is it not ringing any bells that this is arophobic? That a character so hostile to romantic rejection is treated as a joke? Many, many aros, and queer people in general, have experienced violence for turning down someone. It’s a serious issue for aros and a real fear in rejecting someone. I found it incredibly hard to read and sit through as everybody passes off Pip’s tendencies to do this to the women that reject her as a silly, funny Pip moment and not a major issue for the aspec community. I don’t care if it’s enemies to lovers, because it doesn’t really feel good to read at all. The only tension is built off the back of something I’ve experienced in real life and many others have as well. 

Lovelessness: The Insecurity Unaddressed

This book, despite its title, is obviously about a loving character. Many people might not see this as a problem: first off, loveless doesn’t always mean the same thing, and second, many aroaces express feeling loveless when coming to terms with their identity. Here’s my rebuttal.

One: Georgia fits no definitions of the label. She subscribes to none of the beliefs. She loves her friends actively and sees their relationship as more than romance or sex, as something greater to her.

Second, this is because anti-loveless rhetoric is everywhere and all over this book. Not once is it suggested Georgia could live as loveless, or truly be without love. In the end, she is surrounded by it, simply learning to accept friendship instead. The way her insecurity isn’t met with “you’re complete as you are”, and instead with “you can still be complete if you simply fill the void with friends”, is anti-loveless. Nobody is allowed to be whole on their own without a subplot where their doubts are reinforced or they’re explicitly made to be broken inside.

This is shockingly common, and always sad every time I see it. Many aspects fear being loveless, as if it is a curse or blight they must cleanse. This book is one example out of many, but it doesn’t make it less hurtful when a book that runs against everything your community stands for [self-acceptance and the optionality of love] bears your name regardless. It is a book for people who are afraid of loneliness, and it answers their insecurities with “you’re right. You do need other people. You just need to find a way to still find and have a life partner!”. This is damaging to loveless people, especially those questioning an aplatonic identity.

Again, it’s not unique to Loveless. But, it’s reflective of a broader issue of aplatonics who may be seeking community constantly being presented with “you ARE broken, but friendship can fix you!”, a “solution” many can’t use, and often leads to even more self-hatred.

That’s about it from the aspec side of things. If you got this far, congrats! The rest is opinions on the writing, and the bingo card finale. You can drop off here if that’s all you came for.

Writing Problems, Oh My!

This is veering into heavy personal opinion, so, I will remind you: I don’t usually like YA, but YA can be a very good genre! I do not think this book is a good representation of what good YA looks like.

The writing quality is one of the hardest things to get past, because of a major problem I observed: Oseman is better at comics. This isn’t so much a vilification as a recommendation that it would’ve been much better suited for a different type of media. This kind of “media dysphoria” is present in many of the ways the book operates: many scenes would flow perfectly well in a visual piece. Georgia’s inner monologue has a tendency to jump suddenly into scenes and interrupt the action in a way that would be perfectly natural as a narration bubble put over a drawing of the scene around her. There are entire pages of just… text messages that would be much better suited to a visual medium where you could make these dialogue bits look much more interesting through different shots, or drawing what the background would look like on a screen [The Girl from the Sea does this well, for example]. 

There’s also the fact I cannot place in my mind if I'm too old for this novel. A lot of the jokes boil down to “hah! Sex!” in a way that instantly alienates me from the writing. The jokes can be pretty juvenile and repetitive, and serve to be the equivalent of a comedian saying “eh? Get it? That was a joke.” six times. 

This isn’t to mention the fact many of these characters are complete cardboard. Sorry. Jason does not need to exist. When he appears in a scene, he is ignored or completely leaves it on his own. He really only serves to drive Georgia’s character forward, rather than have one of his own. I found myself forgetting he was present in a scene at all until he spoke again and reminded me of his existence. The book would practically be unchanged if Georgia temporarily dated Pip and Jason was never a factor, plus or minus the Shakespeare Soc plot. 

Many interesting characters suffer from severe Pamphlet Effect syndrome. Most of the girls do. In a better novel, they would be more in depth, but Loveless doesn’t really afford them this luxury. I need to take the girls very far away from this novel, okay. I need someone to write a version of Loveless where they have personalities. There’s crumbs there. Please, someone make a loaf of bread out of it. They deserve it.

Another thing, but minor: the breakneck pacing at some points followed by slow slogs of not a lot happening contributes to the reading issues. You may thing something would be dwelled on, just for it to go flying away into the sunset as 3 more things happen and then one problem lasts for 2 chapters. I found it very hard to catch up with Loveless, while other parts I felt like I was constantly waiting for it to catch up with me instead.

The Final Frontier: The Bingo Card Returns

And without further ado, the Loveless and Tired Bingo Card for Loveless by Alice Oseman! Completed with help from other readers braver than I.

[Image ID: A bingo card made from a basic template. It has no title, and all the text is black on a white background. Some squares are marked with a blue X, while others are marked with a red scribble. The marked squares are: “Not prioritizing friendship treated as freak behaviour”, “Jab at loveless sex thrown in”, “Something about not being like THOSE people”, “Universal type of love is laid on thick”, “The answer to all your problems is finding some pals”, “Found family ending”, “Platonic-romantic binary”, “Love still treated as universal [free]”, “Friendship is more wholesome or pure”, “Amatonormativity BAD [platonormativity is my bestie]”, “Platonic love being more powerful or sumn”, “You still love your friends though, right?”, “Friendship saves the day”, “Still thinks you need dedicated people to survive”, “Being alone treated as worst thing in the world”, and “Friendships are more stable than partnerships anyways”. The unmarked, blank squares are: “Something about "players" and pickup artists where no commitment is villainized”, “Character fears being loveless and is kinda aplphobic about it”, “Aspec double standards [one is normal, one is weird]”, “You still love your FAMILY, right???”, “QPRs mentioned by no nuance given to their diversity”, “Friendship forced upon a character against their will”, “Comment about some people being inhuman gets brushed past”, and “Simply prioritise your family instead!!” /End ID]

Would I recommend this book? Uh. No! Well. Yes, but not as a good book for aspecs. I’d recommend it solely to read it yourself and form your own opinions. But, no, I would not recommend it to any aspecs I know, especially not loveless ones, aplatonic ones, aroallos, or if they're an aroace looking for support.

Ah, Loveless, how you vexx me. Never again. See you in the next, much shorter post.

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[ijustwannamakeemojis]

[ID: Six pixel hearts of various flags in order being Neutral Aro, Alt A-Aesthetic, Affectionaro, two loveless Aplatonic flags and Heartless Aplatonic. End ID]

#neu aro #neutral aromantic #aaesthetic #affectionaro #loveless aplatonic #heartless Aplatonic #heart #rentry #pixel #discord emoji #liom #mogai #queer

[papercranesandpride]

It is very annoying that if you just browse #loveless on here it's 50% actual loveless stuff and 50% quotes from the book Loveless about how as an aroace friendship is just so important! Like. Okay. I get that they both have the same name. And the same right to the tag. And I should just browse #loveless apl or #loveless aro. But it's still annoying to search loveless stuff as a loveless apl and find all this stuff about how important friends are.

Sorry fellow aspecs, I know how important Alice Osman is to you, but as an aplatonic and an aro who isn't ace, I think reading their books would make me feel like a fake aspec. So I'm gonna pass.

#loveless #loveless aplatonic #loveless apl #loveless aromantic #loveless aro