#general life advice

[obamaonaunicorn]

I know it may not seem like much right now, but I promise that one day you're going to meet someone who won't be afraid to love you in the way that you love them. Someone who will be there for you unconditionally and make sure that you're always safe and happy with them. The hope of finding that person should allow you to keep trying over and over until you finally find them

#i want to be loved #general life advice #hopecore #hope #hopeful romantic

[flightfoot]

So if a friend of yours is threatened, will you care more about seeing the side of the person who threatened your friend? Like, it doesn't matter if your friend is suffering, what matters are the feelings of the people who are making them suffer? Wow. Just, wow. With friends with that kind of thinking, who needs enemies.

Ok, first of all, no one knows that Lila threatened Marinette. Marinette never told anyone about that. So yeah, if my friend is threatened but I never find out about it, then it's not gonna affect my judgement. I'm not psychic.

Secondly, yes, I'm still likely to at least try to see the other person's side. Might not agree with them, mind you, and some people are beyond reasoning with. But if I still think it's possible to reason with the other person, to de-escalate the situation and try to resolve things in a peacable manner, I'm gonna try that route. And that means at least attempting to understand why they did what they did.

Also, I'd want more details on what they said. Maybe my friend took what they said as a threat, but the person making the statement didn't mean it that way. Misunderstandings happen, and can spiral out of control very quickly if no one stops to ask "wait, what's the other person's view on this? How can they do this and believe they're the good guy in this situation?" Sometimes it's more complex than it appears at first glance.

Like, what's the outcome you're aiming to achieve in this situation? To simply destroy the person you see as an enemy, try to get them bullied and ostracized out of whatever social groups they're in? Or to get them to stop hurting your friend, and perhaps to resolve the situation so neither of them gets hurt more?

Some people can't be reasoned with, and those people you need to avoid. But if there's a possibility of resolving things in a manner that helps everyone, of coming to some sort of truce, then you should try that route instead.

#ask #general life advice

[musiesmusic]

UH OH, LEO AND SCORPIO COUPLE WHO ARENT TOXIC?

General tips from a working Scorpio x Leo relationship

Tips for Leos:

Check your moon sign for when you’re not fucking around to predict and balance yourself. Pride is the greatest sin of all making you “akin to god” do not fall into it. 

But in fact do be proud, it's rather fun. Considering this is for a general dynamic please let it be your partner (though this may be for Scorpio others can play in as well). If they're not worthy of pride in any sense of the word, drop their ass immediately. 

Also curtailing it to scorpio (sorry air signs) please appreciate their intelligence. As a Leo said, “they're so god damn intangible” and sexplay is a given, regardless of if actual penetration is involved. 

And also, let go of your pride. You will still have it.

How to deal with a Scorpio:

Grab their asses or take them by the balls, literal or otherwise. They are sneaky and fun, follow them around to disrupt order. Like actually follow them around when they're doing something, party or at home to make their life more fun. 

Try to be as intuitive as they are and bring them presents or gestures that really show them you know them. If they're into gardening, give them seeds and a place to put in compost, please do not be obvious about it, make it surprising (and of course, meaningful). 

With intuition comes intelligence, be intelligent of course, be very fucking smart so you can actually hold on to and maintain their interest and keep on learning. A heavy emphasis on learning for the sake of your inner being.

They are interested in the chase but don’t beat around the bush, expect a swift courtship with a very heavy entrance, depending on the other big three. But it would usually be swift especially if you're a Leo. 

Also be reliable, Scorpios are emotional since they are a water sign, but their fixed qualities can make them more “stubborn,” stubborn in the sense of a big deep dark pool. It's hard to get them to move and when you do it would be a floodgate of whatever emotion it carries, but I doubt its anger. 

Scorpio tips:

Be smart, be very fucking smart in anything honestly. The people game comes easily. 

Check your rising to see how you come off as and have fun with it.

Being guarded and watchful is the most fun thing to do and look into social dynamics and culture and how they play into each other. Observing a room when people (you or other) enter is a key point in social dynamics and atmosphere, and how people end up resting pre and post. Play games with it.

Also know when to pull back, water signs are emotional and as a fixed don’t move your spot into someone else’s “space” on a whim, it’ll be an utter disaster since we’re loyal. Do not play with your heart.\

Also don't be so heavy.

How to play with a Leo:

Tease them and make them cute, they are felines after all, and we are much sleeker. Nurse into their pride and actually be in it, and either show your belly or get them to show theirs, depending. Depending on the dynamic you’d be their sweet kitty or their second in command, either way you're their pride and joy.

Social situations are the most fun, even if we as Scorpios command attention, try to put it on their spotlight.

Reflect on who they are, Leos can be more secretive than you think. Pride carries weight, and that carries a lot of power which brings in secrets. Where is their “fire” settled in? Is it themselves, family or career? Consider all the options before choosing, they are fixed after all and will not budge, and that could be the secret. And expect some temperament with it, after all they are a fire sign.

Do not date a stupid Leo, they are very stupid and will meander about like a peacock, not a lion.

And general tidbits for the specific dynamic:

Bickering, not as bad as you think:

As long as bickering doesn’t become a real argument it's honestly very fun. Akin to an old married couple who know how to not go too far, do not touch pride or the “darkness” of a Scorpio. Do not change who they are and avoid hitting at it, unless its dire. 

Try to have deeper conversations to “expand the pool” and strengthen the inner core, don’t let either sign be shallow. 

When two fixed signs, especially fire and water (fucking insane the foreplay) it should be rooted in a rock-hard steady relationship. A genuine argument rooted in their actual beings' spells disaster and is a relationship ending. So be more cautious and accommodations are always welcome, if it doesn’t cross into danger territory for the sake of your own safety. That is a genuine rooting of core traits and beliefs, we all want to feel at home or at peace in our own skin. Be kind to each other, and sometimes games can be draining, make sure when you’re both at rest (ignoring other signs yes, we still mold into our settings), see if you enjoy each other's company and their own little “idle work,” it's cute. 

Love Life, so intense and fun:

There's a lot of genuine conversation meant to be had with a Scorpio and Leo duo. Leos can be a bit “blind” considering the fire sign, they tend to barrel into things. Scorpios please do hold their hands, and yeah, sometimes you have to literally tell them or give signs. It's fun to see them run around but please try to be nice about it. Sometimes Scorpios you should be in the Leos element, it's like being naked or something, it's a good practice. I tend to prefer to pull Leos out because it flexes their muscles, again more “fat” to bind protein together, and make sure they feel comfortable, but yes 100% do what Leos want, again they are proud. 

That general dynamic of both of them wanting to do the other thing can make it a hard couple and brings in the classic “toxic power couple” stereotype, it’d be fun to break it. You will need clear and open-minded communication, just be air signs for a bit. Yeah, it'd be hard but you're together for a reason.

Sex, the surprise factor:

The surprising factor is genuine intimacy, both signs are rather intimate in private spaces. Check your Venus to see if there's any surprises in the bedroom. (There can be genuine surprises, maybe a Gemini.)

Friendship, the near impossible:

Hard, there's too much romance brewing. You’ll date without realizing when friends or closer, so just go in for the kill when you feel ready. You’ll merge into each other’s spaces. It's so fucking heavy on foreplay romantic or other.

But when together romantically, it's different than just friendship even if friendship is the “fat” that binds protein. 

So, flirt a whole fucking lot Scorpio and fucking read the shit out of them, they may just be a peacock. And yeah Leos, just wait and bide your time. (And yeah, be the first to do it, is there a reason why you haven’t already?)

Overall

Both signs will have to work through a whole lot, but doing so together will make you an unstoppable duo regardless of if the other is around or not. But yeah, we always prefer being together.

It's much easier with a lot of communication about feelings, make it a usual point of conversation.

#horoscopes #general life advice #leo #scorpio #leo x scorpio #life advice #when i say communicate #do it #asap

[conifer-trickfilm]

watch the video ALL the way to the end. what u see will surprise you!

#general life advice

[autumn2may]

GUYS DO NOT GIVE YOUR MANUSCRIPT TO AN AI THIS IS A BAD IDEA ON EVERY LEVEL DON'T DO IT

original tweet from @jamesjyu reads: "We launch Shrink Ray today on Sudowrite! Upload your manuscript and get loglines, blurbs, synopsis, and full outlines automatically. Takes a ton of legwork out of book marketing. Below the tweet are two images of the program."

original quote tweet from @sudowrite reads: "New in Sudowrite: Upload your whole novel/script, get instant longlines (sic), blurbs, synopsis, and outline!"

tweet from @FantasyFaction reads: "Oh jeez! Bad bad, very bad! Writers DO NOT willingly give your manuscript to an AI so it can "learn" by stealing your work! I know blurbs and synopses are hard, but PLEASE do not do this! - JI 🐉

(stolen from ML Brennan & Sravani Hotha so I can include alt text)"

#ai writing #ai theft #ai generated #writing advice #writers block #fantasy-faction #fantasy #fantasy books #reading #booklr #books and libraries #bookblr #book blog #self publishing #self published #author life #fanfic writing #fanfiction #writing #writers #writers on tumblr #writer community #writer challenge #female writers #writer problems #writblr

[shepscapades]

Doc: I have impossibly high standards.

Xisuma: [exists]

Doc, frantically texting Tango: Help, he's meeting all of my standards!

He never quite addresses what his standards are and wether or not xisuma is meeting them

#dbhc #dbhc ask #ask #daredevils-advocate #dbhc doc #dbhc tango #DFNBSFGKBDFJGB doc taking the mick out here #poor tango #it’s hilarious I haven’t talked about it yet but tango actually comes to doc for relationship advice #WELL #advice in general #because he is NOT well after double life #mentally. or something #anyway this is very funny #doc listens to him go on about how everything kinda sucks and how there’s this guy he’s probably never gonna see again and docs like. #huh. crazy. good thing I don’t feel that way about anyone #dbhc sillies

[barksbog]

some of my plush maker tips:

get those scissor looking forceps they use in surgery/to pull dogs ear hair out

magnetic needle pillow is overrated and honestly just increases risk of stabbing yourself

if you are a heathen like me who won´t stop sewing over pins buy the extra fine glasshead ones

GET ERGONOMIC SCISSORS

using your iron on low heat to smooth/flatten minky and fleece. use a blowdrier to fluff up fur that got kinda crinkly and flat.

if you have an embroidery machine get the fancy titanium needles. i know they cost an arm and a leg but they do break less often and your machine is the mostly likely to really get damaged when a needle breaks and it gets stuck (it´s also most stressful noise known to mankind)

if you have an embroidery machine. consider getting a good pair of noise cancelling headphones

tear away embroidery backing is actually REALLY good and will save you so much work. if it tears during the process just tape over the back where it tore.

sublimation printing? set your printer to high quality. i know it takes 500 years but just start cutting/taping in the mean time it´s worth it!

set it to photopaper. semigloss works best for mine but play around.

put a carpet around where you cut and work with fabric so the fuzz gets stuck in there instead of spreading into every corner of your house

here is my supplier list (i´m EU based)

oh right and stop working if you are in pain (:

#and never pay for adobe software #that´s not sewing advice just general life advice #if you´re not taking care of your wrists and hands i will wave my permanently half numb fist at you

[spikeface]

Based on (x).

#teen wolf #scott mccall #twedit #ok so yeah this edit was sparked by how poorly melissa was explored in s5 #and in general how they dropped her as anything but an occasional prop to tell scott to get back out there after 2x10 #but i hope it's not taken as bashing because that's truly not how i mean it #i feel like both scott and melissa don't know how to talk to each other #not because they don't love each other or want the best for each other #but s1 melissa already starts out not knowing scott's life very well #she's interested and trying to support him and make time for him #but is swamped with work and overwhelmed with being a single parent #and would also desperately like her own life if it's possible #scott is already working to support them and agonizes over costing them anything - money time attention #they start the series already without an equilibrium and it only gets worse as scott becomes a werewolf #i think melissa also has a survivor's mentality of soldiering on #and so that's also the advice scott is getting #even when what they both really need is time to rest and connect #and it just made me so sad that scott's flashback was about being hospitalized #but his mother was there and he was being care for #whereas now #he's back at the hospital #alone #desperately in need of care

[thatsbelievable]

#What to do if Someone Challenges You to a Fencing Duel and You are Not Really Good at Fencing #But you Excel at Getting Stabbed in a Fencing Duel #tips #tricks #life hacks #helpful hints #advice #unreality #also never get stabbed #it is generally speaking a bad idea

[andreablog2]

Honestly I’m very selective w people based on what they want to do when we are around eachother. I don’t get how people can consider frivolous shallow fun activities to be things where you actually get to know someone or learn anything abt them. Like if you just want to have superficial conversations all day and talk about yourself then forget anything I told you then why do you expect me to feel guilty if I can’t make it to EVERYTHING…or respond quickly enough to your texts. Idk I think people are getting way too pushy with relationships without any desire to care for another person. I honestly am so disappointed in the selfishness of people in general. I don’t want to live some kind of life where my day to day life is some secret. I feel so isolated but also so overwhelmed w maintaining these “friendships” LOL. Tired of everyones advice literally the best things that have happened to me have happened following ignoring advice.

#advice is good for like …curveballs at work and that should come from someone who wants the same thing as you #but as far as like general life advice sorry there’s nothing anyone can say

[flightfoot]

The other Anon's question makes me think a lot. I think if a friend of mine was threatened, I would do my best to support my friend and make sure they wouldn't be alone with the person who threatened them. I would also advise my friend to keep distance from this person and if they was threatened again or end up being hurt, to seek help from an authority.

Those are also good approaches. It depends on the exact nature of the threat, how confident you are that your friend's perception of it BEING a threat was accurate, as well as what this person could, feasibly, actually do to your friend. A threat of physical harm from someone your friend knows in real life should be handled differently than some rando on the internet saying something that sounds vaguely like it might be threatening violence, but might also have been meant as a joke, and that the person has no feasible way of following through with.

Whatever you do, though, should be focused on resolving the threat, either by correcting what might be a misunderstanding, persuading the person that what they're saying is wrong and to drop it, or in more serious cases, going to some sort of authority to try to enforce a restraining order of some sort, or to otherwise keep your friend out of that person's reach.

#ask #general life advice

[vibingforjudaism]

I need a therapist who I can argue with and who will give me jewish advice ....a rabbi. I need a rabbi

#afakelj #seriously though #i thought my last therapist was good! #and then i tried to change some stuff and do some arguing #and the reaction was... mrrrgh #also idk. i feel like.... i don't want to have to update the therapist about what is happening in my life #which is stupid! of course i should they've got many patients #but i feel like what i just sit there talking about my week? i do that to my friends already #i'd like a situation where they knew me enough to already have a general idea of what was going on #so i could meet with them less frequently. say once a month #and then we could work on a specific problem i'm having and i could get advice on that and see how that's working out #i really think of therapy as brain and emotions doctor and where i'm at now i want...more jewish methods of dealing with life? #does this make any sense #.....a bubbe would also work in a different but similar way. i need one of them too T.T #but you see i pay the rabbi by dues to the synagogue. so i just have to find a synagogue i like (lmao just) #i have to marry someone and start raising grandchildren to pay the bubbe

[bisexualseraphim]

People around my age thinking being 30+ is “old” or “cringe” is whacky to me because like… I for one actually can’t wait to be in my 30s.

My experience of being in my 20s hasn’t been the most pleasant. Due to circumstances out of my control, primarily brought on by the pandemic, I haven’t made it as far in life at my age as many of my peers. I finished college, had the odd temporary job or apprenticeship and then… that’s kind of been it. I haven’t been in work or education for the last almost 4 years and I feel like total shit for it. I also don’t really enjoy clubbing or getting drunk, and I find that many people I try to make friends or get into relationships with have no sense of commitment or permanence. Everyone my own age wants everything to go FAST FAST FAST and you’re looked down upon if you just want to relax and slow down for a minute. Your 20s are supposed to be for getting ahead and being a dumb youth after all!

People in their 30s and older, however (and I hope I don’t sound like I’m indirectly calling them old here lol) tend to be a bit more relaxed about these kinds of things. Chances are they’ve had some actual life experience that has made them more mature, and they’ve realised that there’s no need to rush anything. You’re going to (hopefully) live for 70 years or so; what’s the rush to get everything done right now? At 30 and older, maybe you’ve gone through a couple of jobs, experienced living alone, made and lost a few friends, had a relationship or two, maybe you’ve even gone back to school just because you can — and even if you haven’t, who fucking cares? Life isn’t a competition. Trying to rush anything is only going to guarantee that you have regrets.

As such, I don’t feel as much social pressure, if any at all, around people aged 30+. They don’t look down on me for not having made as much progress as I wanted to. All they tell me is “you’ll get there when you get there, there’s no rush or pressure to do anything” and that is honestly so much more freeing than hanging around people younger than me who have already had 3 jobs, 2 houses and a date for their wedding. I love having friends in their 30s and 40s. They make me feel safe and content with myself.

This isn’t me trying to be like “I’m not like other kids in their 20s… I hate anyone born after 1995 😎” I just mean that shitting on people older than you simply for being “old” is the REAL cringe lol seeing as they’ve been your age and likely know a thing or two about life better than you do. They could help guide you through your obstacles and instead you’re teasing them for idk, using the 😂 emoji or something. Not to mention the fact 30 is considered “old” now is highly concerning…

All I mean is, yes, you do owe other people the absolute most bare minimum kindness and respect and that does, in fact, include your elders. Stop calling people who are still pretty young “old” please

#long post #personal #rant #ramblings #ageism #generation gap #gen z #zoomers #millennials #life advice #cringe culture #text post

[lyraeon]

"if it ain't broke, don't fix it"

okay but sometimes you just deserve to not be living with a run-down, metaphorically or literally threadbare, faded version of something which would work much better if replaced by a new version.

just because something's still working at all doesn't mean it's optimal and that there isn't a better option. you deserve to have good things in your life.

#this is actually me @ me about my shoes specifically #cuz they fit and the soles are intact but they are ugly and missing some of the decorations #but as usual I accidentally made it about life in general #unsolicited advice

[spitblaze]

as someone who has spent my entire life taking everything personally. you guys have gotta stop taking everything personally

#spitblaze says things #genuinely realizing that people are talking in broad strokes and not every non-positive statement made in the general sense is an insult #makes your life a lot better lol #not everything is about you and the sooner you realize that the easier your life will be!! #i still have issues with taking shit personally and it has directly harmed relationships! #you know what they say about assuming. dont assume. use some reading comprehension and assume good intentions. give the benefit of the doub #someone offering advice is not trying to hurt or insult you

[that-one-dark-smiley]

Not wearing my binder s u c k s but i took a break from binding today (mainly because i desperately needed to wash my binders) and I just gotta say

Take days off from binding for your own good guys. Remember it'll be worth it in the long run even if it sucks now

#kinda also general life advice #it'll be worth it #or something #trans #transgender #transgender ftm #trans ftm #transmasc #ftm #dysphoria #lgbtq #lgbtq community #lgbtqia