#come on adhd or autism!!!!

[matcha-goblin]

Neurodivergent people are never undiagnosed. We are misdiagnosed. Our symptoms don't go unnoticed, and people will always attribute them to some sort of cause. They'll just attribute them to personality and blame the individual for their symptoms.

For example. My autism is not undiagnosed, it's been misdiagnosed as "too sensitive," "awkward," "rude," "obsessive," and "too intense." My brother's adhd wasn't undiagnosed, it was misdiagnosed as "lazy," "impulsive," "annoying," and "can't seem to get any work done."

Growing up without a diagnosis is growing up believing that you are to blame for your differentness. Your symptoms are a personality flaw. You are diagnosed by everyone around you as "weird."

Edit: Some people have pointed out that I'm using the word misdiagnosis here rather loosely. I'm aware that it isn't quite correct definitionally, and I don't mean to say that medical misdiagnosis and the type of social misattribution I'm talking about are identical--just that they are related phenomena, and neurodivergent people are often victims of one or both. There isn't an exact term for what I'm talking about here, so I used the closest one I knew of. Terminology is important and some words need to be used with precision to retain their influence. At the same time, sometimes meanings change, and bending words to fit new circumstances is a natural way that language evolves. I'm not sure which situation this falls under, so while I don't want to change my post (not even sure what to change it to), I thought I'd edit and add clarification. Additional feedback on this is welcome.

#also i think that the self blame that usually comes with this experience is inherently traumatizing #but that's another story #anyway there's my lukewarm take of the day #autism #late diagnosed autistic #neurodivergent #adhd #actually autistic

[arcane-star]

Um

I made something

#ōkami #okami #okami game #okami hd #okami waka #okami memes #okami amaterasu #adhd #autism #adhd and autism #i have adhd and autism don't come after me guys #loup shitposts

[thedisablednaturalist]

Sometimes terms mean certain things and belong to certain groups of people and are not meant to apply to people outside that group. And that is on purpose and valid. You can make your own terms to describe your own experiences, you don't get to take terms from other people, especially people more vulnerable/less privileged than you. If multiple people tell you that the term is not for you, respect that.

When terms get used for many different situations they get diluted and trivialized. Remember "trigger"? It was a specific medical term and is now used to mean "something that pissed or upset someone". Brain fog is now turning into abled people just being a little sleepy or out of it, not literally a clinical term for brains not functioning correctly due to various illnesses. I tell someone I have brain fog and they say lol me too XD no you fucking don't. "Spirit animal" was taken from indigenous peoples so white people could make funny haha relatable t-shirts. Two spirit almost got taken by queer white people as well (although I think most people have backed off on that hopefully).

Not everything needs to apply to as many people as possible. You don't need to and can't relate to everyone. We can still support each other while respecting differences.

(Edited ver)

#wrenfea.exe #this is about people using nonverbal for selective mutism btw #and about mentally ill abled people using cripple #like if ambulatory wheelchair users can come up with our own term then you can too #idk if its not as concise or it takes effort to get it to catch on #you dont get to steal the work other people have done to spread awareness of their term and its meaning #disability #nonverbal #selective mutism #spoonie #chronic disability #chronic pain #chronic illness #cripple #cripple punk #autism #adhd #readying my inbox for a wave of the stupidest people who've never seen any of my posts to flood the gates #i saw someone throwing ambulatory wheelchair users under the bus to justify why they should be able #to use the term nonverbal #pls correct me if you are from the relevant communities #i updated this to make it more accurate bc funnily enough brain fog made me forget about chronic illness triggers

[beanscool-excellent]

i love young neurodivergent kids

my little cousin (5yo) has adhd and i went over to babysit the other day and i walk in and hes got a shark shirt on and is watching shark week and he goes "hey!!! do you wanna know about sharks?????" yes sweetie i would love to know about sharks

#neurodivergent #autism #actually autistic #actually adhd #adhd #does this have enough tags #500 notes???? where did you people come from?????

[candyskiez]

Okay since mp100 is on Netflix how much do you wanna bet that people are gonna go into it expecting a comedy, knowing Reigen from the memes, not aware it'll snap your spine in half and then gently piece it back together and give you instructions on the healing process. Like I watched it expecting a fun comedy show I could bond with my friend over. I feel like we've given everyone a very incorrect idea of what mp100 is about and I'm very curious as to how many people will watch it for the jokes and then accidentally get hooked on it. Which tbh I'm very excited for. And also same. Come closer this is an innocent funny action show it won't leave you reevaluating how you view your relationships to other people and how you view your relationship with yourself. It will definitely not hit every neurodivergent weird kid square in the jaw. Come closer.

#by neurodivergent i dont just mean adhd and autism. btw. #mp100 #this is just me rambling #because like. oh boy. #season three isnt out on netflix yet. hopefully its coming soon #come closer guys this wont kill you. you will be so normal after this show. trust me. take my hand.

[4chtungb4by]

Tomothy Selleck for my drawing classssss sketchbook woohoo

#my autism superpowers made this #I don't understand #but i kind of love how I make like. really good portraits maybe once every two years #Like Emma come on you are sleeping on your abilities here #unfortunately I have just enough adhd to hate doing the same thing for a milisecond too long #so my autism superpowers don’t get used v often #I do need to do more portraiture though like my own style always improves whenever I do #maybe one day ill do the 100 head challenge or smth #anyway im rambling hahahaha

[malin-la]

You can pry this adhd x autism couple from my cold dead hands

#I mean this is specifically about #higugin #but to be fair it could be many others depending on your hcs #skk #sskk #montcott #to name a few #chaggie #you can ALSO pry them from my cold dead hands #itafushi #for sure #there are so many and I’m forgetting them all #oh god why did #Klance #come to mind #end me #anyways #malin rants #adhd #autism #neurodivergent #OH MY GOD #anhane #how could I forget about Anhane #and #akitoya #ruikasa #kanamafu #emunene #god it’s really all of them isnt it

[theotherwesley]

Here is what I am learning: Sometimes, one finds oneself in the unenviable position of being, say, in one's 30's, looking back at work you did when you were 19, or at work from current talented 19 year olds, and thinking "wow, why is this better than the stuff I've been struggling to do during a long dry spell?" There is nothing particularly unique about being a young adult (except maybe energy/time) that makes a person good at doing stuff they're working hard at. At 19 many people, probably including yourself, were in college, amongst peers, being exposed to new things, making cross-disciplinary connections, thinking critically, practicing with the intent of improving, actively using your brain and building synapses, and ideally being encouraged to do so while in a stable environment. The missing ingredient is not Youth or Talent-- it's regular brain exercise and not trying to be creative in a vacuum. Your brain can start working out at any time, it's not stuck where it is. Read long stuff, research something that interests you, engage with a topic outside of your current level expertise that you have to work to understand, watch something older than you are, talk to someone on a regular basis, practice something without the intent to share it. Don't try to do it all overnight. Sleep on it. The flexibility comes back, I promise. It's a recovery process and works the same as any other recovery process.

#lifeblogging #'But ADHD/ANXIETY/AUTISM/FATIGUE!!' yes me too very much. don't worry you can also do this! if the desire is there you can do this. #if the desire is NOT there-- rest and take care bud you can come back to brain improvement when you're ready #it's not a sin to lie dormant and just survive when you need to #my point is don't give up on having a good brain and making good art just because you're older now and have been goin through it #this post is about the thing that the post is about

[i-bit-the-dust-it-was-yummy]

i need to ask/say smth to the hannibal fandom rn:

so we know that almost everything in hannibal isn’t just randomly placed, but means something and needs to be analyzed, right? well that also includes the whole bedelia v. will wife thing in s3, which not only means a ton of stuff, but is a reference to something. here is where i state my question:

THE HANNIBAL FANDOM KNOWS WHAT BLUEBEARDS WIFE MEANS RIGHT??? THE HANNIBAL FANDOM KNOWS WHO BLUEBEARD IS RIGHT???

now im not upset if anyone doesn’t know about the old story of bluebeard, but i feel like not enough people analyze this scene about bluebeard.

rq if your wondering, bluebeard is an old childrens story about a man with a bluebeard who everyone thinks is weird, but he’s super rich, so he has had like 7 wives (i think). and basically he kills his each of his wives soon after he marries them until the 8th(??) who figures out how to outsmart him and so on (it’s a hard story to explain i already hat to write an essay on it before leave me alone)

what i need to say:

but anyways the scene isn’t just implying that they’re both hannibals wives, but that will really knows hannibal while bedelia doesnt, and that bedelia will one day be killed by hannibal and will won’t be. it’s a really cool scene to me because i enjoy the story of bluebeard and analyzing hannibal, but the fandom seems to analyze every scene except this one for no reason????

#thanks for coming to my ted talk #not really im just rambling #autism #adhd #hannibal #gay #rizz? #hannibal lecter #hannigram #nbc hannibal #hannibal nbc #will graham

[l-inator]

Fanart of the little thing that keeps me going.

If this gets 10 likes I'll show a photo of her

#art #oc #fidget toy #autism #adhd #special object #stress toy #Charles #maybe I should get that photo ready #granted I remember to come back and check if it gets the likes #god my memory is bad #personal #doodle #alligator

[jotarobutcat]

I'll just be honest and say that I hate it when people use neurodivergency as an excuse to be immature. And by that I don't mean things like liking shows with a younger target audience or getting overwhelmed by tasks. These have nothing to do with being emotionally mature.

I mean refusing to cooperate or make compromises, throwing tantrums in public and overall disregarding other people's needs in order to make yourself comfortable.

The world doesn't revolve around you. We live in communities, and in order for the community to prosper, you need to take into account other people's needs and comfort as well, not just yours. If you have special needs, you're obviously allowed to ask that these needs are met as well as possible, but neurodivergency isn't a "do whatever you want without consequences" card.

You're allowed to have emotions, you're allowed to feel overwhelmed and you're allowed to have your own wants and needs, but you need to learn to communicate these in a mature way and to take other people into consideration as well. It's a part of growing up and maturing.

And before you come at me with the "we shouldn't have to abide by neurotypicals' rules", many of these rules also benefit many neurodivergent people. For example, I am extremely oversensitive to noise and have trauma from overbearing parents, if an adult man suddenly started screaming while I was bying new clothes I would likely have a panic attack. When somebody chews with their mouth open I feel like someone is trying to put a living spider in my ear. When someone throws a tantrum I have a hard time keeping myself calm because the noise is so overwhelming that it fills me with violent anger. It's not just neurotypical people who the "don't be an obnoxious little shit" rule benefits.

/nbh

EDIT: Since this is getting way more attention than I thought it would, and some misunderstandings have arisen, I'll just add here what I explained in the comments as well. Before anything, this edit is merely to prevent further misunderstandings, not to put anyone on a pedestal of shame for misunderstanding what I meant. The original post leaves many things vague, and it is understandable that it might come off the wrong way.

This post is about using neurodivergency as an excuse for bad behaviour, not as an explanation for problems that actually come with neurodivergency. It is specifically aimed at people with autism and/or ADHD who use their neurodivergency as an excuse for behaviour that is usually *not even caused by their neurodivergency*, but rather bad parenting or other external factors.

The word "tantrum" is NOT used to describe meltdowns here. Tantrums and meltdowns are very different in nature, the former being usually caused by an inability to accept not getting exactly what one wants, and the latter being caused by emotional or physical overwhelm. During tantrums a person is in control of their emotions, but chooses to release them as an angry outburst towards other people. During meltdowns a person is NOT in control of their emotions, and cannot choose how they present their overwhelm. If you need an example of what I mean by tantrums, you can look at your nearest neighbourhood "Karen" for that, and you will probably see that the kind of behaviour I mean is very different from an autistic meltdown.

#if you're mad at this you're part of the problem #stop excusing bad behaviour #do what you want in private #but have some courtesy in public #here come the generic tags #text post #autism #actually autistic #adhd #actually adhd #audhd #neurodivergent #neurodiversity

[cyanomys]

There are two kinds of autistics

Animals are the only kind of creature they feel comfortable around. Collects pets. Probably has a special way with them, like fucking snow white. Would rather spend time with animals than humans. Animals give them reason to live

Animals are strange, alien, and possibly terrifying. Hate animals. Want to run away when approached by an animal. Disgusted by the texture of fur and/or drool. Can't stand pushy pet people shoving their animals at them all the time

#this is a joke don't come for me #anyway I'm 1 and my husband is 2 #put what you are in the tags #autism #neurodiversity #neurodivergency #also other NDs are free to respond #adhd #also both are super valid #you don't have to love animals #and it's not wrong to love them either #also ironically still both more likely to be vegan than NT people

[baghassavocados]

Either it's because I'm a triple A battery (AroAce AuDHD) or those two really didn't have chemistry.

#Theres been a few times when im reading a book or watching a show where two characters interact and all of a sudden they're making out #then im like “huh? where did that come from???” #this doesn't include crackships where people ship random characters who've never met #cause they manage to develop them more and sometimes make me ship them #but when it's all of a sudden in canon it kinda irks me #the only example of this i can give is Lucas and Margot from the new Goosebumps series #idk #aroace #aromantic #asexual #random thoughts #ADHD #audhd #autistic #autism #forgot to mention on the crackship part sometimes i enjoy rhem cause its funny

[hackfixation]

audhd means viewing life as a choice based video game and getting confused when the dialogue option you selected for the conversation isn't working as expected.

#you know how in fallout 4 the dialogue options don't completely show what you wanna say & could ruin the interaction? #That's my brain and mouth trying to communicate #audhd #actually audhd #neurodivergent #ahhhhhhhh #autism #adhd #or like in original LA Noir where you wanna give a calm response but you come out sounding pissed #tone is weird #gaymer

[notemaker]

Next on: more high school experiences involving Social Cues and What They Definitely Are Not x2

Ah, yes. My highschool beginnings. You may already tell how the rest played out.

#looking back on it. this was either a self imposed joke or a power move #im just going to tag this with #neurodivergent #because come on #autism things #no its not official but it may be relatable #autistic feels #Autistic Problems #highschool #comic #comic strip #comic strips #art #art post #artwork #doodles #sketches #note draws things #note says things #adhd #adhd things

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

We really can’t be normal about autistic people huh

“can exacerbate autism features” “more severe repetitive behaviors” “tougher time making friends” you mean unmasking?? Yeah masking is fucking exhausting and all-consuming, of course its harder without sleep?? Sleepy allistics also loose ability to give 110%? Sleepy allistics also would do worse on tests of intelligence? What the fuck

Also in case it went unnoticed, the source is called spectrum news dot org so please remember not to mistake name or branding for credibility <3

#thank you for coming to my ted talk #allistics #autistic rant #autistic stuff #audhd #adhd autistic #actually autistic #mental health education #neurodivergence #neurodiversity #autistic things #autistic experiences #unmasking #autistic masking #masking #unmasking autism #autistic adult #autistic children #autistic child #late diagnosed autistic #self diagnosed autism #self diagnosed autistic #autistic stimming #autistic communication #autistic community #autistic representation #autism representation #neurodivergent representation #autism spectrum #autism spectrum disorder