#neurodivergency

[incognitopolls]

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#polls #incognito polls #anonymous #tumblr polls #tumblr users #questions #polls about brains #submitted dec 15 #polls about clothes #socks #neurodivergent #neurodivergency

[ohara-n-brown]

As a late diagnosed autist I will say one of the most damaging but transformative experiences I've ever had was being misdiagnosed with BPD.

Everyday my heart goes out to people with BPD.

The amount of stigma and silencing they face is astonishing and sickening.

I took DBT for years. Therapists use to turn me away because of my diagnosis.

I would be having full blown autistic meltdowns, crying for help literally - but because I was labeled as BPD ANY time I cried I was treated as manipulative and unstable.

As if the only reason I could be crying was if I was out to trick someone.

95% of the books out there with Borderline in the title are named shit like 'How to get away from a person with Borderline', 'How to stop walking on eggshells (with a person who has BPD)'

I was never allowed to feel true pain or panic or need.

That was 'attention seeking behavior', not me asking for help when a disability was literally inhibiting my ability to process emotions.

There were dozens of times where I had a full meltdown and was either threatened with institutionalization or told I was doing it for attention.

My failing relationships weren't due to a communication issue, or the inability to read social cues. No, because I was labeled borderline, my unstable relationships were my fault. Me beggong nuerotypicals to just be honest and blunt with what they meant was me pestering them for validation.

Borderline patients can't win.

And the funny thing is - I asked my therapist about autism. I told her I thought I was on the spectrum.

BPD is WILDLY misdiagnosed with those with autism and I had many clear signs.

Instead - she told me 'If you were autistic we wouldn't be able to have this conversation'. She made me go through a list of autistic traits made clearly for children, citing how I didn't fit each one.

And then she told me that me identifying with the autism community was the BPD making me search for identity to be accepted - and that I wasn't autistic, just desperate to fit in somewhere.

I didn't get diagnosed for another ten years. For ten years I avoided the autism community - feeling as if I were just a broken person who wanted to steal from people who 'really needed it'.

Because of my providers - I began to doubt my identity MORE, not less.

Ten years of thinking I was borderline and being emotionally neglected and demonized by a system meant to help me.

To this day, I still don't trust neurotypicals. Not fully.

I know I'm not borderline now - but my heart aches for them. Not for the usual stuff. But for the stigma. And the asshole doctors. And the dismissiveness and threatening and the idea of institutionalization hanging over their head.

I love Borderline people. I always will. I'm not Borderline but if you are I love you and I'm sorry.

You're not a bad person. You're not a therapists worst nightmare, you are a human with valid feelings and fears.

Borderline people I'm sorry.

#autism #bpd #borderline personality disorder #actually autistic #neurodivergent #neurodivergency #neurodiversity #cluster b

[cha-mij]

#why not both #both? both #neurodivergent culture #neurodivergent #neurodivergency #adhd #actually adhd #dyslexia

[cookthepenguin]

The adhd urge to use parenthesis in every sentence (because every thought comes with additional bonus content)

#neurodiverse stuff #neurodivergencies #neurodivergency #neurospicy #adhd #thoughts #actually adhd #adhd stuff #living with adhd #adhd things #adhd brain #adhd memes

[softpastelqueer]

Having autism is like

Having ADHD is like

Having both Autism and ADHD is like

#actually autistic #actually adhd #autism #adhd #actually neurodivergent #also I’m not saying this is universal to everyone this is just my own personal feelings #anyway Happy National Autism Awareness Month #this is my first one fully aware and officially with both conditions #neurodiversity #neurodivergency #actually audhd #audhd

[neuroticboyfriend]

once again thinking about how fucked up it is that special ed used me and other disabled children as unpaid, coerced labor. i worked enough to be making $100 a week. i was "paid" in fake money redeemable only at the school cafeteria, which i worked at, and was forced to do things that distressed me. they gave us $1 a week, if they remembered to give it to us at all.

this was while i would sometimes go the entire day without eating because i didn't have the money to buy food and the free food was not sensory safe. we also worked outside the community - grocery stores, warehouses, shoe stores security tagging items. all under the guise of job skill development, we did $100 of labor a week without ever getting paid. and we were demeaned while we did it. and we were just teens.

so no, i don't want to hear about how special education is good. not with the way me and my peers were treated and taken advantage of. death to institutionalization, in all forms.

#softspoonie #disabled #special education #special ed #disability #disability rights #disabled community #neurodivergent #special needs #autistic #autistic spectrum #autism spectrum disorder #autism spectrum #autism #neurodivergency #ableism #sanism #systemic ableism #unpaid labor #labor rights #workers rights #anticapitalism #anticapitalist #working class #leftist #leftism

[taibhsearachd]

...ngl, the fact that ADD and ADHD got condensed into ADHD when the hyperactivity specifically is part of the reason so many girls were simply not diagnosed drives me up the wall.

It's not that the whole name isn't bullshit, because it is. It describes the way people outside of our experience perceive us, as opposed to the difficulties that are part of our lived experience. Even from an outside standpoint, it's recognizable that "deficit" is not always the issue with our attention... but that's beside the point.

When psychiatrists noticed that ADD and ADHD were basically the same thing... they chose to favor the typical male presentation in the literal naming of the condition, and in doing so condemned a generation of girls (and other afab people) to suffer through being told they're so smart, they just don't apply themselves enough, that it's a personal failing they can't regularly turn in homework, that they're lazy for waiting until the last minute to work on an assignment... because those girls weren't hyperactive. Those girls just kind of drifted off and daydreamed in classes. Those girls doodled or wrote stories all through their school years, and functioned measurably worse when a teacher noticed they were doing that and tried to stop them. Those girls are now so many of my adult friends who are now being diagnosed with ADHD as adults, because the hyperactive part of the diagnosis almost solely applies to children (CHILDREN, when, I might note, this is a lifelong condition) who are socialized male.

We need a whole other name for the condition, because attention deficit is not our problem at all. But my god, the hyperactivity part actually ruined my life for so many years, because I had no way to explain to my dad why it physically hurt me to be bored, why I had to read or write or doodle in class in order to keep my focus, why I excelled in tests but failed at homework so my grades sucked because of that. No one even considered I might have ADHD, all through my childhood, but earlier this year I had the opportunity to go through all my grade school reports, and they could not be MORE CLEARLY talking about a child with ADHD. "Pleasure to have in class", "assignments not complete", "does not pay attention in class", "Birdie is a highly intelligent child with specific and unique needs" (I would LOVE more follow-up on that one, from third grade, do not have it). But I was a quiet and reserved child, so obviously I couldn't have ADHD.

I'm legitimately angry about it in retrospect. I went off my Adderall for a couple months recently, as an adult who only started taking Adderall as an adult, and it completely fucked up my ability to function. For years I was just out there as a teenager struggling through high school and college entirely unmedicated because as a child I was too withdrawn to be diagnosed. Fucking wild and also infuriating.

#adhd #neurodivergency

[fandomcat2930]

being autistic is like using google translate for emotions. like, yeah, its right sometimes, but a lot of the time its a little bit off and sometimes its completely fucking wrong

#actually autistic #audhd #autism #autism spectrum disorder #autistic problems #autistic experiences #being autistic #late diagnosed autistic #autistic things #autistic spectrum #autistic life #autistic #autistic feels #neurodiverse stuff #its the neurodivergency #neurodivergency #neurodivergent #neurodiverse #neurodiversity

[adhd-worlds]

Waiting mode is the most uncomfortable thing ever. I can't do anything, I can't relax, I can't play video games or anything until the thing I'm waiting for actually happens

#adhd #adhd problems #adhd hyperactive #adhd inattentive #neurodivergency #neurodivergent #adhd vibes #i have adhd #autism #autism symptoms #autistic #audhd #actually audhd

[anarchistfrogposting]

This is literally it

#adhd #autism #nd #neurodivergent #neurodivergency

[willtheweirdrat]

One thing I need allistics to understand is that autistic people often have wildly different perspectives of what conversations are "acceptable" and what aren't. Many autistic people talk about "private" topics really openly, and allistics see that as oversharing. Other autistic people consider everything private and avoid asking/answering questions, so many allistics see them as weird or like we have something to hide. I for example am in the second category and since I was a child, I had strange boundaries on what's acceptable to ask and what isn't. That's alright, it's simply just another autism thing.

#wills mumbles #autism #asd #actually autistic #actuallyautistic #actually neurodivergent #neurodivergent #neurodivergency

[high-quality-tiktoks]

Say it with me: ADHD ≠ being lazy

#video #tiktok #tiktoks #relatable #mood #wtf #neurodivergent #neurodivergency #adhd #executive dysfunction #olivialutfallah

[beautyinthediss0nance]

#adhd #actually audhd #actually adhd #adhd things #adhd struggles #executive dysfunction #adult adhd #adhd community #neurodivergent #neurodivergency #adhd problems #adhd post #adhd culture #adhd feels #living with adhd #adhd stuff

[starfishinthedistance]

Shoutout to neurodivergents who were punished or marked down in assignments for using too complex language, and also shoutout to neurodivergents who were punished or marked down in assignments for using too simple language, and also shout out to neurodivergents who were punished for both of these depending on the most recent way they fucked up

#seriously we can never win #actually neurodivergent #neurodivergent #neurodivergency #autism #asd #adhd #adhd mood #dyslexia #dysgraphia #disabled #ableism #ableism in school #hyperlexia #language disorder

[cha-mij]

#i present to you a pebble #adhd #adhd things #neurodivergent culture #neurodivergency #neurodivergent #neurodiverse stuff #neurospicy

[pumpkinspicedmochi]

People are always like "I'm autistic too and I CAN work/do thing! so you can too, those are excuses" or "I also have back pain and I can stand for HOURS to work you just lazy"/ "well my feet hurt all the time but I Still work so.."

but did it possibly occur to you that..MY autism isn't YOUR autism?, my scoliosis isn't yours ..mine for all you know could be worse than yours and even if yours is a higher curve number ours still won't be same neither will our pain be the same. Say this to say: don't compare yourself to others in that way, I've seen people do this with like adhd too like I don have adhd that I know but do struggle with executive dysfunction and just because you can do whatever and you don't struggle with it at all or as much as others doesn't then give you the right to say "well I have that too and so I know for a fact you CAN do the thing , you just lazy! I can say because I have same disorder and therefor-" please shut the fuck up, we not the same.

#actually autistic #actuallyautistic #actually disabled #disability #actually autism #disabled #autism #physical disability #neurodivergent #chronic pain #autistic #medium support needs #autism spectrum disorder #autistic spectrum #autism spectrum #autistic community #autistic adult #autistic things #neurodivergency #neurodiversity #neurodivergence #neurodiverse stuff #disability advocacy #disabilities #disability rights #physically disabled #actuallydisabled