#but at what personal cost

[rumble-bee-art]

so let me get this straight: Loki wanted to give Mobius (and the crew but mostly Mobius) the choice whether to stay at the TVA or go back to their lives and in the end of it Mobius is the only one to choose the secret third option of just. waiting. letting the time pass. because he doesn’t seem to want to be with the TVA anymore and he also probably doesn’t belong with his family either?

because his third option this whole time was (I assume) actually being with the person he belongs with who is currently (indefinitely) occupied with being a all-time binding tree?? Did I get it right?

#I’m going feral over this show #disclaimer: loki being a time binding tree is good ig he is doing a great job #but at what personal cost #ugh #loki season finale #loki spoilers #loki #loki season 2 #loki series #lokius #mobius m mobius #mobius

[inkskinned]

no, but really, we need to talk about the casual objectification that has become the fallback discourse of the internet: if you're pretty and dressed nicely, you're a slut. and if you're even vaguely outside of their body standard, you're fucking disgusting.

too-frequently, people position sex workers as being "the problem". they sneer you're addicted to pornography, you don't know what a real woman looks like. but real women are in pornography. the real bodies on display are not the issue here: the issue is that other people feel extremely confident when commenting on someone's physique.

2000's super-thin is slowly worming its way back into the public ideal. recently i saw someone get told to "go for a run", despite the fact she was on the thinner side of average. not that it would ever be appropriate to say that: but it's kind of like sticker shock when you see it. people think that is fat? holy shit. do they just have no idea about things?

but what are you going to do about it? that's the problem, right. because chances are - you're a normal person. we can say normalize carrying fat on your body, but we are not the billion-dollar diet industry. we are not the billion-dollar fashion industry. we are just, like. people. who are trying to make content on the internet, without being treated shittily.

as someone who has been on both sides of things: you are treated better when you are thin and pretty. this is statistically correct. i am not saying that you cannot be bullied for being thin; i'm saying there are objective institutional biases against certain bodytypes. there are videos of men and women who lost weight all saying: i now know for a fact exactly how much worse you're treated. in the comments, some asshole inevitably says something akin to you deserved to be dehumanized when you were fat.

which means that ... the easiest thing to do is be pretty and thin. it is the path of least resistance, because of course it is, because any time you post a picture of yourself without a thigh gap, someone immediately comments something like you need to try a diet.

the other half is also dehumanizing though, huh, just in a different way. when i put on makeup and nice clothes, i am told i slept my way to the top as a professional. do you know how many women in STEM have told me they purposefully dress to "unimpress" because they already struggle to be taken seriously and if they're ever considered pretty - it for some reason takes away from their authority.

so they make it seem like it's your fault. you, existing in a body - it's your fault! if you didn't want shitty comments, don't have a body. they position us against each other like chess pieces; vying for male attention we don't even need.

and i can be an authority on this unless you think i'm fat and unattractive. when i am pretty and thin, i'm an activist. when i am just a normal person who makes a good point: i am immediately dismissed. nobody fucking believes you if you're not seen as attractive. you literally lose value. you cease to exist.

but the whole time, it feels like - is anyone actually grounded the fuck in reality? the line of "pretty and thin" keeps shifting. nobody seems to understand what "a normal weight" even looks like, because it's not something that exists - you cannot tell a person's health by looking at their body. even if you think you could tell that, even if you're sure a person is dangerously overweight - people are not your dolls. they do not need to be dressed up or displayed properly to soothe your aesthetics. you aren't concerned for them, you're stealing their agency. you don't get to say if they're "allowed" to take pictures and post them on the internet - you don't get to tell them how to exist.

people hide behind "the obesity epidemic" without any actual qualifications. they crow things about "normalizing unhealthiness".

but it's bullshit. i have visible abs. there is a pair of parallel lines on my body, even when i'm relaxed; where my obliques meet my abdominal wall. i am proud of this because it means i'm strong, because i overcame an eating disorder only to be ripped as fuck. it is genetic and physical luck that i even get any definition, i'm pleased as punch.

but it does mean that my abdominal wall sticks out a little bit. the other day i posted a video of myself dancing, and, for a moment, my shirt slipped. you could see a little bit of my stomach. i was cartwheeling to the floor. moments before this, i'd had my foot over my head.

a guy slid into my DMs. a row of vomiting emojis prefaced: you should really lose some weight before you think about dancing.

i stared at it for a long time. there was a time when i would have been triggered by this, where it would have encouraged me to starve myself. i would have ignored the fact i'm flexible, agile, good at jumping: i would have lost the weight for a stranger's passing comment. i would have found myself and my body fucking disgusting.

and for what? to please what? because why? so that he can exist in this world without an unchallenged eyeball? what would my self-hatred even accomplish? usually i write paragraphs. obviously. on this particular occasion, in this body i've been at war with for ages: i just felt exhausted.

it shouldn't be even worth saying. it shouldn't be hard to explain. all of this emotional turmoil when he cannot even comprehend the most basic truth: i am not an object on display for him.

#spilled ink #writeblr #warm up #like if im getting fatshamed. babe......... wake up #is there fat on my body? yes :) #btw this behavior wouldn't be okay even if I WAS overweight!!! that is my point!!! #it is both that people have no idea what weight is supposed to look like #and even if they DID... they do not seem to understand that PEOPLE ARE NOT DOLLS #YOU DO NOT GET TO TELL THEM HOW TO EXIST #if you respond anything akin to ''but raquel there IS an obesity epidemic'' #you're blocked and reported. #go fucking DONATE TO A FOOD BANK THEN. volunteer in a food desert. start a free fitness program #GO GET A DEGREE AS A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL AND PRACTICE IN NUTRITION IN UNDERPRIVILEDGED LOCATIONS #FIGURE OUT HOW TO LOWER FOOD COSTS. FIGURE OUT HOW TO NORMALIZE AND STANDARDIZE #ACCESS TO FARM-FRESH FOOD. PROVIDE ACTUAL FREE ACCESS TO OUTSIDE ACTIVITIES #FIGURE OUT HOW TO TEACH PEOPLE HEALTHY CHOICE MAKING WHILE ALSO LOWERING THE COST OF MEALS. #THE AVERAGE GROCERY BILL OF THE AMERICAN CITIZEN HAS QUADRUPILED IN THE LAST YEAR. #SHUT. THE FUCK. UP!!!!!!!!! #you don't want to help these people!!!!! #you want to bully them but still feel like a good person! #you want to be justified in your hatred of an entire CLASS of people!!! #you don't give a fuck about how it makes them feel!!!! #you care ONLY about whether or not YOU get to VIRTUE SIGNAL that YOURE so thin and pretty!!!! #it is BECAUSE of people like you #and the fact you tolerate fatphobia - BECAUSE of that normalization. that men like the one who called me fat #feel like they can get away with it. #bc there's a line for you where you WOULD be okay with it. where if i WASNT thin you'd be okay with it. #which means the line can always be pushed in a certain direction. and it's always going to appeal to male aesthetics. #''well you didn't deserve it'' maybe fucking NOBODY does babe. maybe we should just all agree not to comment on ppls bodies!!

[z-tomaz]

it also caught me so off guard in episode 1 in particular that the crew clearly knew how much izzy was doing to protect them from ed?? no one's saying it out loud because it won't help but the hug, and the whole scene surrounding it, says they've all quietly been paying attention and worrying about him behind his back and it was a culmination of weeks and months of living like they were while knowing that izzy was bending over backwards to absorb as much of ed's rage and heartbreak and anger as possible in order to shield the rest of them??? help??

#frenchie holding izzy's hand in particular #is an image i can't get out of my head #izzy's not like this! he's not a touchy feely person #he doesn't reach out for comfort #he doesn't confide in them #but they all see the shit that goes on and they all see izzy straighten his shoulders and brace himself for the punches #and he shouldn't have to but he does and it keeps ed away from them but at what fucking cost #and all they can do #after it's finally been voiced aloud #is be there #and give him that moment #and quietly say no. it's not right. #screaming crying throwing up etc etc #our flag means death #our flag means death season 2 #ofmd #ofmd season 2 #izzy hands

[fumifooms]

Chilchuck analysis speedrun: As a hardworking half-foot who grew up poor and discriminated against and had his gullibility taken advantage of multiple times in his early adventuring days, Chilchuck thinks optimism is a dangerous flaw. He’s stressed and strict all the time because his job is noticing details like traps that could get everyone killed before anyone knows it, he takes the lives of everyone to be on his shoulders, and with the way he speaks about it that probably partly reflects how he felt about taking it upon himself to provide for his family too. His life’s always been pretty centered around work and has become even moreso now that his wife left and everyone is independent, and due to past events he’s very iffy with bonding with coworkers. He thinks feelings and job are a disaster mix. Like with his wife or with parties hiring him as sacrifice, being open or having good faith is vulnerability which can get you hurt, so he processes and shows all his stress as anger instead of worry. Doing strict dieting probably isn’t helping the irritability what with hunger, and on top of being a hunger suppressant alcohol might be the main stress reliever he has.

His grey hairs are so earned

#Chilchuck tims #dungeon meshi #analysis #HAPPY CHILCHUCK DAY #You know what yeah understandable have a good day #Alcohol be a ticket straight to chilling out town I suppose #Spoilers #dungeon meshi manga spoilers #Thinking on if I should split my family masterpost into diff posts for max reach hmm #Anyways I’m def editing in the second page into that post that “I’ve got three people to think of here” sounds sooo much like that’s #How he’d think about it in a family setting as well. He works so hard for them 🥺 #I could have put 100 pics on this post to justify everything I mentioned but this is a speedrun for a reason. I’m planning so many #Compilations rn i need a break from rereading lol #He’s just here to do his work!! He just wanna do his work!!! #I’m always rotating him in my brain like rotisserie chicken :( Hopefully this doesn’t sound disjointed or insane to average readers #He’s always on his guard so he has a short fuse and his type of humor & liking for snarky remarks doesn’t help #Also bc he knows nothing lasts he has a very work hard play hard mentality where ‘dying doing something you love. Like drinking’ #Is nice in his opinion #This post makes it all sound so dry. Chilchuck is so messy thinking about him is thrilling I swear. This is concise but at what cost… #OH ALSO he has weird self-hate issues where he really values his skills but devalues himself on a personal level. #‘I am a coward. I only care about myself. I cheated on my wife (lying for no reason)’ etc etc #Can’t disappoint people and make them leave you if they already have no expectations and esteem of you 😏💡

[yrsonpurpose]

lust. for power.

#mary & george #mary and george #maryandgeorgeedit #george villiers #perioddramaedit #nicholas galitzine #userninz #chrissiewatts #userclara #usergayppl #mine* #YEAH. #ohhhhh to see how his power grew over the last 2/3 episodes #the air of arrogance around him oh. boy. #he really thought he would have it all (he did but at what cost) #he ate up some of these lines so bad #'youre not even on the battlefield anymore' is such an insane thing to say #like. that is the person who made him who he was and this is him saying he doesn't need her anymore. she's redundant #episode 7 possibly one of my favourite episodes. cant stop watching (now that i understand the plot :D) #anyway go stream mary and george from wherever you are!!!!!! hype it up!!!

[salty-an-disco]

I disagree with Narrator in a very fundamental and philosophical level, but you know, even if I agreed 100% with his worldview and the reality he wants to bring about, I’d still think he’s wrong for taking matters into his own hands and changing THE VERY FABRIC OF REALITY affecting people in the entire universe, simply because HE thinks he knows what best for the world.

Like– that’s why I find him so fascinating, it’s not only the fear of death or disgust towards the very concept of change (tho that is very funny and interesting in its own right), but the utter arrogance to champion himself Savior of the World without EVER considering that maybe– just maybe, people might not agree with what he plans to do.

Like. Hubris indeed, and he even has the gall to say, “you can still do what you must and kill her” when we call him out on it. Like. Wow. I want to study this guy under a microscope.

#love how he’s like. a perfect example of a greek story protagonist #with a fatal flaw that cost his life in exchange for an outcome he won’t even *be there* to witness even if it works out #while I find what-ifs where Echo grows beyond his original conception and the person he originated from interesting enough to want to #explore it #I also very much LOVE his role as this tragic character whose fate was already decided before the game begins #slay the princess #stp narrator #the narrator #stp meta #sal rambles

[bitchthefuck1]

The thing about Francesca is that it isn't just saying "loving you is worth any punishment," it's saying "a punishment that keeps me with you is no punishment at all." It's not that you can brave a hurricane if it's the cost of loving someone, it's that standing in a hurricane for eternity with the person you love is still an eternity with the person you love, and how could you be happy with anything else?

#it makes me so!!! bc like as much as the first idea is lovely its also very familiar. like 'love is worth any cost' is something you see a #lot in art and that doesn't make it bad obviously but this is just such an interesting way of looking about it esp in context of this being #the most explicitly about the inferno. lovers spend an eternity tossed around in a storm clinging to each other for how they let their #passions control them and hes not just saying that he'd endure that for love hes saying that holding the person you love forever isn't in #any way a punishment and is actually exactly what lovers would want #i feel like im just repeating myself but its so good!!!! #hozier #francesca #unreal unearth

[cptn-jtk]

good omens fans: "the gays are winning!"

the gays:

#yes but at what cost #we've transitioned from bury your gays to separate them in the most heart wrenching way possible #and i DON'T think that's just neat #yes this is about good omens #but also ofmd #they ofmd'd us #nah but i really enjoyed season 2 fr #also ngl but I missed hastur #he was one of the funniest mf from season 1 #good omens #good omens spoilers #good omens 2 spoilers #ineffable husbands #aziraphale x crowley #ALSO MORE SPOILERS HERE BUT #i feel like the only person that did NOT pick up on the whole gabriel x beelzebub thing from the first season #like did everybody just see something that i didnt or what #anyways stream season 2 so we can get season 3 and the happy ending we DESERVE

[shadowxamyweek]

It really should be acknowledged, in one way or another, that Amy saved Shadow's life.

Not Sonic. Not Rouge. Their contributions later cannot be understated, but in a pivotal moment where it can be argued it counted most, Amy was the one to save Shadow's life by asking them to give everyone a chance.

By extension, she was asking Shadow to give themselves a chance.

And Shadow took it.

#and Sonic and Rouge GREIVE the fact they failed Shadow #that super short moment on the Ark- they're just standing there- unsure of what to do #Rouge has never been so WRONG about a person before- about so much in general- and it cost something immense #and Sonic- Sonic's never had someone die on him (in game). He's never failed to save everyone (in game). #they both failed #that's why they try so much harder when it turns out Shadow is alive. #i don't think either one of them forgives themselves #op rambles #shadow the hedgehog #amy rose #rouge the bat #sonic the hedgehog #this isn't ment to be shippy im just tired of Amy being errased from this pivotal moment #i have resided myself to that most likely being the case in the movies but tjrofbskf *damn it* you know? #like... just... augh #thoughts

[silvermoon424]

(from Gabi Belle's video "How Dropshipping Ruined Online Shopping")

YES OMG. I went to an anime convention a few months ago and saw SO many cheap bootlegs being sold as if they were authentic items. Being an experienced collector, I have a good eye for bootlegs so it didn't affect me, but I couldn't help but think of all the people who were duped into buying a crappy $30 bootleg that they could have gotten on Aliexpress for like $2.

#the most egregious case was this one person selling these beautiful light-up displays of fake bonsai trees with figures perched on them #they were going for well over $100 each #but when I actually looked at the figures it was obvious they were cheap bootlegs that probably cost the seller less than $10 #the light up displays were probably from AliExpress or Temu as well #it just pissed me off because finding authentic figures for relatively cheap is very possible on sites like Yahoo Auctions Japan #but it's not as easy and cheap to use a proxy as it is to just order directly through a site like Temu #so guess what people choose to do instead #dropshipping #anti dropshipping #anime #figure collecting

[featherwurm]

Y'all are nice about line cook Karlach you can have a bit more since I've got the brainworms.

Good Continuity: She works at a local brew pub after her military stint. She'll eventually take the place over (going on Sam Béart's headcanon she'd like to be running a pub if she wasn't adventuring.)

Bad Continuity: She works at a fancy bistro owned by Zariel where she's obligated to stay in her job to keep up her health insurance to care for her heart condition.

Take your pick! Or something else, I'm absolutely not fussed.

#Art #personal #Sketch #BG3 #baulders gate 3 #Karlach #Yes the 'bad' one is close to home although I don't mind my job much #but the American healthcare system is a joke #we don't need to discuss what my chemo would have cost out of pocket

[kylejsugarman]

jesse’s natural instinct to be a caretaker is like. it’s something fundamentally Small, but to me it’s the best part of jesse’s character in how soft and subtle it is while still coloring every relationship he has. the way they integrate this aspect of his personality, this instinctive urge to Take Care of people even when they wrong him and even when he’s enacting violence against himself or others, into his character is one of the quietest things in the whole show while still being hugely influential. we get so much from those moments: from “i was the one who drove aunt ginny to her appointments and made her lunch”, from the mentioned interest in sports medicine, from the way he takes walt’s shoes off as he lays him down on the couch in “fly”, from the automatic grab for medical equipment when he realized the cartel doctors were going to prioritize gus over mike. he wants to take care of people, even if he doesn’t always go about it in a “good” way or loses himself along the way.

#syd squeaks #in a lot of ways it’s what makes his fondness and care for children so compelling and genuine and not like. manipulative #jesse cares so much about justice and the innocent and even if it comes at a personal cost he puts his money where his mouth is #breaking bad #jesse pinkman #he is sooooo special to me

[saint-ambrosef]

i honestly, truly don't think most Europeans understand how big the U.S. is.

we are basically fifty different countries stacked in a trenchcoat. we are almost the same size as Europe in its entirety. it takes 15 straight hours just to drive across my home state. the cultural and economic difference between Oklahoma and California is like comparing Croatia and the Netherlands.

stop forming your ideas of what living here is like based on that one trip to NYC you took in college or that one influencer you follow that lives in San Fransisco

#sincerely a very tired american #just watched a grocery haul video from this person who lives in portland #cue all the europeans in the comments being like ''wow food in America is SO expensive!! i get my food for half that!" #like my guys. portland is a super expensive city. #what if i judged the food prices in all of europe based on grocery costs in paris

[nyancrimew]

I feel like if you started a crowd fund or a patreon you would be out of debt pretty quick my friend, lots of people love you

i have previously posted about how i have a ko-fi (with monthly subscription options like patreon (no rewards for now as there isn't really anything i could think of for that with what i do rn (probably in the future tho))), i sometimes post about the debt as well, but it's just hard to get out of when monthly income can't quite cover things long enough to not drop back into debt at which point it just grows again

#personal financea #like anything helps if u can afford it #and more monthly supporters absolutely helps immensely with budgeting and preventing this in the future #it's really hard to live off of what i have in one of the countries with highest cost of living

[chronic-solitarian]

i am genuinely so impressed with the quality of the apology and how watcher handled this situation. i’m really glad that they listened to their fans on this, and i genuinely think it couldn’t have been handled better. <3

some of y’all on the other hand need to really chill tf out with the threats and attacks

#did anyone else see the person coming after sara rubin and dropping how much her wedding cost?? like what the fuck was that? #some of y’all wait for ANYONE to be involved in discourse and immediately get WAY too into it #truly disgusting how some “fans” reacted to this #ALSO THE WAY SO MANY PEOPLE CAME AFTER STEVEN LIM AND WERE LIKE “shane would never 🥺🥺🥺 it’s all steven and ryan” check urself #watcher #ryan bergara #shane madej #steven lim #watcher entertainment #mystery files #puppet history #ghost files #will never forgive those who caused FYA to be delayed a week /hj 🤞 #raine.txt #raine.watcher

[altarwaiting]

unfortunately I think comparing taylor's new album to folklore/evermore is just going to be a Thing from now on but if I have to deal with midnights release night where everyone was like "yes the new taylor album is BAD I knew the last two were a fluke :)" again with TTPD I'm becoming the joker god bless <3

#'what did you get' 'two beautiful albums' 'what did it cost you' 'everything' #personal