#as a QPR or as a romance

[gemstarstarlight]

What are your thoughts on Bakugo from BNHA?

I’m glad you asked! 😊😂

I will say that I got about halfway through season five of Boku no Hero Academia before dropping it, not because it was particularly bad, but simply because my hyper fixation was mostly done.

But man, Bakugo is such an interesting character to me. At first, like many people, I didn’t like him, because he was a really mean awful person who was only obsessed with becoming the top hero. But the more the show goes on, the more you get to see the worldview that he lives in that lets him think his actions are justified, how that worldview had been supported because of how he was raised and how the people at his middle school school treated him, and then the slow breaking of that worldview once he started attending UA.

That is the most interesting part - it’s not just Midoriya that becomes better than him. He has a (one-sided) rivalry with Todoroki and often has setbacks because he can’t work with a team or learn how to people well. He’s put in situations where he cannot save himself and is forced to depend on other people, whether he wants to or not. And he’s forced to deal with the repercussions of his actions, even if some of those actions (such as All Might’s retirement) were not really his fault.

We see Bakugo as a character, and then we see that character break down. On a fundamental level, everything Bakugo believes about the world is turned upside down and viciously denied to him until he is unable to refute the truth: he’s not the best in the world, his actions have consequences, and he cannot do this whole hero thing by himself.

And then…he changes.

Not fundamentally, he doesn’t turn into an entirely different person. I have no doubt that Bakugo will always be abrasive, brash, rude, and generally not an easy person to get along with. But, now he knows. He is continuing to make choices that revolve around repairing relationships and learning to work with people better. He still has the same goals and hopes, but he is adjusting to a world that doesn’t revolve around him. He is growing. Not turning into someone else entirely, but growing into a mature version of the explosive hero he was always meant to be.

In addition to Bakugo’s character being interesting, I love how it is so clearly influenced by people who hold him accountable, but still care about him. Bakugo had neither of those things when he was in middle school. He was just allowed to wreak havoc, and was surrounded by followers, but not people who cared about him. He had no friends, no mentors. No wonder he thought he was the center of the universe, nobody attempted to enter his.

And then he came to UA. In addition to having teachers that would not tolerate his serious antics and dealing with a harsh dose of consequences, Bakugo made a friend in Kirishima. A real friend, one who clearly cared about him and tried to see the best in him. I’m sure it was written on purpose that Bakugo’s first friend had a hardening quirk that could face explosions easily, and a personality that was relentlessly positive in the face of Bakugo’s intense need to shove other people away. Kirishima dragged him to social events, called him out on his bad behavior, and yet was still a supporter and teammate who genuinely liked him and wanted to be his friend. And this isn’t a rescuer relationship: Kirishima draws on Bakugo as inspiration when he struggles with his own insecurities. And, of course, Kamino needs no mentioning. The commitment and love Kirishima shows to Bakugo is commendable and amazing to watch. And it is essential to Bakugo’s healing.

I truly believe that Bakugo would not be able to change and become a better person if he hadn’t had someone who unconditionally loved him, and yet still drew boundaries and called him out on bad behavior when necessary. That, along with a community of teachers and mentors, who finally use their authority to tame his wild behavior while trying to understand him and support his good points, is what triggers the changes in Bakugo.

And I think that is a necessary thing for everyone regardless of if you have a “difficult“ personality or not. People that will unconditionally love you and accept you, but will call you out if your behavior crosses a line. That is how people grow, and that is why I love Bakugo as a character. 

#bakugo katuski #asks #I also love that he’s almost certainly aroace/demi #it will never be confirmed in the show but the fact that he has no reaction of any kind to anyone #while many of the other characters have very strong reactions to people they consider attractive #Just makes me think that he’s certainly on the ace spectrum somewhere #Also can you tell that I ship KiriBaku? Because yes I am also obsessed with our spiky shirtless hard boi #Friends to lovers where they both learn to be better humans because of each other and they are each other’s foils and growth points #is one of my favorite dynamics #also it’s definitely sunshine himbo x grumpy smartass and I love that for them #as a QPR or as a romance #im obsessed with kiribaku and I’ll support it till the end #their Quirks are Compatible it’s Adorable and Badass #bnha bakugo katsuki

[queerneurodivergentnerd]

Friendship can be just as intense as romance. Romance can be just as intense as friendship. There is no one over the other. There is human connection, there is the strength of the bond that varies based on the specific circumstances surrounding each relationship. There is love - it may be platonic or romantic or anything in between. There is love, and it simply presents different forms.

Love doesn’t come with a hierarchy.

#love #aromantic #asexual #aroace #aspec #arospec #aroacespec #queer #friendship #romance #qpr #relationships #love has no hierarchy

[the-great-kraken]

if you see a male character kiss a male character, you assume they are gay.

if you see a female character kiss a female character, you assume they are a lesbian.

if you hear a character say they don't feel like their gender, you assume they are trans.

so why do a-spec characters have to jump through so many loops?

a character saying they've never had a crush or don't want a relationship or that they don't understand romantic love is so often ignored or used as fodder for other queer or autistic headcanons (reinforcing stereotypes that aroace people are secretly gay or always autistic)

why is it that our stories are always "up to interpretation"? why do we have to wait for the words aromantic or asexual to be said to be taken seriously? why is it that even when characters say they don't want relationships, fans will scream and cry about sex/romance favourable aspecs and qprs?

when it comes to gay and trans characters, even the likes of bisexual lighting is often treated as though it canonises their sexuality. for aroace characters, even the most explicit coding possible is swept under the rug in favour of other "interpretations"

i'm so tired of fighting for representation just to have it ignored and minimised by fans. let characters be aroace. please.

#obviously there are a ton of circumstances where the qpr and sex/romance favourable is completely fine #but when characters explicity say they dont have sex or dont want relationships it feels so hollow #fandom is fandom and there is nothing i can do to stop you shipping or writing smut or headcanoning or whatever #but please just think it through. the characters aren't real but there are so many geniunely harmful ideas doing stuff like this reinforces #rhi rambles #aroace #aromantic #asexual #a-spec #a spec #aspec #aro #ace #aspec representation #asexual representation #aromantic representation #lgbtq+ #queer

[viviennevermillion]

Seeing people only use "but some asexuals have sex!!!" and "some aromantics are in romantic relationships!!!" so they can sexualize & ship the little representation we get makes me hope someone explicitly establishes a popular character as sex-repulsed so we can see the shippers get cooked online for it

#i'm not even complaining if someone specifically writes an asexual character as a sex-favorable ace #or puts the aros in qprs or writes a romantic relationship exploring how a character who doesn't experience romantic attraction navigates i #but if all you do is discard their asexuality & use the existence of sex-favorable and romance-favorable aces as a gotcha #to hide the fact that you're just portraying this character as allo anyway #we all know what you're doing #asexual #asexuality #aromantic #aro #ace #aroace #sex repulsed

[redysetdare]

I think i just need to express that the culture surrounding QPRs right now made me think that i couldn't have strong bonds with my friends. Society told me i cant have strong bonds with friends because that was only for romantic relationships. Then i went into aro spaces and this idea was reinforced using QPRs instead of romantic relationships. it was "You can still have strong bonds with people without romance! It can just be a QPR instead!" "QPRs are MORE than friendship so you can have STRONGER BONDS than you would with friends."

it made me think that the relationships i wanted with my friends HAD to be something other than friendship for it to be as strong as i wanted. If i wanted to be the first person in someones life i had to enter some sort of committed relationship. if I wanted someone to care about me as strongly as i did them then it would have to be a relationship that was "more" than friendship.

I thought I wanted a QPR because i was told the only way to get that care and security that I wanted was to enter into a relationship that was "more" than friendship. because friends didn't care that much. because friends didn't live together their entire lives. because friends were never the priority relationship wise. and it took me years to realize that i didn't want any partnership and i shouldn't have to be in one to want these things from a friend. these things CAN be something friends can do. but i found that out on my own. because the aro community kept saying "you want a QPR" when i just wanted a friend who finally saw me as a priority in their life.

#text #personal #aro #aromantic #aroace #aspec #qpr #queerplatonic relationships #queer platonic relationships #tbh i was around when qprs were still getting footing. ppl werent sure how to properly label them #so to avoid allos saying it's just friends the common response was 'its more than friends but less than romance' #as if they were trying to justify it's existence as if we had to have a equivalent to romance to be justified in our identities and as ppl #because being aro made you not be a person. because how can you be a person if you dont love or have a partner #because being aro was sad because being aro meant ou were alone and you shouldn't want to be alone!! #and these ideas made it so that amatonormativity was just reinforced in aro spaces #and it isn't until recent years when amatonormativity started getting used top put a name to the problem #that i really saw ppl start standing up for aros who didnt partner because why are we expected to partner anyways? #shouldnt ppl be whole as they are? #and this is only my experience im not saying this happens everywhere #but this is why i think we need to have a conversation about QPRs and how they are used in aro spaces #because im not the only one who struggled through this #my experience may not be universal but my experience has happened to others #and thats worth talking about #srry im having a lot of thoughts recently

[qprstories]

People often define QPRs as some kind of "halfway point" between friendship and romance, but I prefer to think of it as more of a "secret third thing" that can have characteristics of platonic and romantic relationships, but can also be totally unique. It gives more room for freedom and flexibility, which is what QPRs are meant for. They're not meant to be the middle point between two binary options. They are an entirely different category all of their own.

Think of it like how we see nonbinary genders. Most of us recognize that nonbinary doesn't mean a halfway point between male and female, but an entirely distinct set of genders that may share characteristics of male and female genders, but also may not. This is what QPRs are (supposed) to be like, not something defined as a middle point in an arbitrary binary.

#qprthoughts #qpr #queerplatonic #queerplatonic relationship #this line of thinking #also leads to people putting QPRs on the amatonormativity relationship hierarchy #between romance and friendship #and ew i dont like that #(some) aros stop trying to recreate amatonormativity challenge #(impossible)

[jjsanguine]

Rei: how did you find me

Kazuki: I have a tracker on you at all times babe, keep up

#i said babe not for kazurei reasons but because kazuki gives the vibes of someone who would call everyone babe if he was an anglophone #but also for kazurei reasons #romance or qpr either way i'm toujours go #buddy daddies #kazuki #rei #kurusu kazuki #suwa rei

[themostfangtastic]

my chemical queerplatonic relationship. my chemical alterous. are you seeing my vision.

#my chemical romance #my chem #mcr #my chem romance #alterous #alterous relationship #queerplatonic relationship #qpr #queerplatonic #alterous attraction #aromantic #aro #arospec #aromantism

[mintypsii]

they got cold . and eepy (click for quality 😭)

SHE DESERVES ALL THE LOVE AND HUGS AND CUDDLES IN THE WORLD

#the eepers #this took me forever im not that happy with how it turned out bfhhdjfjfn im still experimenting with my style and stuffs #ok no gotta be positive THEYRE THE CUTIE PIES EVER #girl has not slept in days she deserves this #this is before syrup village and if sanji and usopp were here it would only make the cuddle pile bigger #GAH I HATE THEM 🤬🤬🤬🤬 affectionate #i love qpr straw hats #one piece #op #cat burglar nami #nami #monkey d luffy #roronoa zoro #romance dawn trio #zolu #zonami #zoluna #lunami #umm doesnt have to be romantic but just tagging to find them better lols #mintart #my art #art

[lmkthings-ela]

First fanart for this couple of silly monkeys

And I know you asked for it

I'm new on this fandom, just ended with the series (I'm excited for season 5) HELLO LMK FANDOOM

#you can take it as a platonic/sweet romance kiss #idk man #shadowpeach #lmk shadowpeach #sun wuking x macaque #sun wukong x macaque #lmk sun wukong #lmk macaque #lego monkie kid fanart #lmk monkey king #lmk wukong #six eared macaque #qpr #lmk sun wukong fanart #lmk macaque fanart #shadowpeach shipping #ela art

[sherlock-is-ace]

Once again I find myself enjoying the perfect queerplatonic relationship in a fandom while forced to interact with the most qpr erasing people on the fucking planet 🙃

#it happened with good omens it's happening again with dead boy detectives #and it is infuriating #anyways QPRs for the fucking win #i love qprs #i love what they mean to me #i love what they mean to other people if they have different definitions of qpr #and i love how much of a real and valid relationship qprs are #i love edwin and charles and their beautiful qpr <3 #fuck romance and fuck romantic attraction we've had enough of those for gods sake! #i'm fed up today #anyways... #dead boy detectives #good omens #angel talks #personal

[coast-line]

I can’t, they’re in a qpr to me

#i can’t do romance #sob #qpr #aromantic #moomintroll #muumipeikko #the moomins #moominvalley #snufkin #snusmumrikken #nuuskamuikkunen

[aroalloasuka]

[ID: White text on a pink background that reads, “Does anyone want to be my boyfriend but in the actual "boy that's a friend way." But we're also friends that kiss sometimes and do other things deemed inherently romantic by society but in the friend way thoough. Because there's not any actual romance, we're just friends that call each other each others partner. But we're also not strictly together with just each other.” The rest is cut off. End ID]

#i made this btw #aroallo #aro #aromantic #alloaro #aromantic allosexual #qpr #queer platonic #polyam #polyamourous #aro polyam #romo favorable #romance favorable

[qufy]

ENOUGH! *aromanticize every love song*

#SICK OF IT #NONE OF THOSE ARE ABOUT ROMANCE ANYMORE #BECAUSE I SAID SO #EVERY FUCKING TIME I'M TIRED #Internalised arophobia QPR aroflux anything #aromantic #aro #arospec #aroace #aroflux

[quirkyenby]

Imagine if QPRs had an entire fiction genre like romantic relationships do.

Think about it: the drama, the identity introspection, the "is this romantic or not" angst, other people interpreting your internal frustration as the denial of romantic feelings when it's so much more complicated than that, etc.

Especially if they come right out and say queerplatonic.

So much creative potential.

#aromantic #qpr positivity #qpr yearning #qpr stuff #QPRs can be just as swoon-worthy as romances tbh #any book or media recs? #i have a novel WIP in the works but still #ahhhh my heart

[sonicattos]

back on my bull shit as per usual

#sonadow #sonic hcs #saltcat doodles #qpr sonadow #<- can be interpreted either way idc #i’m not implying shadow ‘cured’ sonics romance repulsion btw!! #i’m just projecting my personal experience on sonic jdjfjd #no id