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gemstarstarlight · 1 year

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What are your thoughts on Bakugo from BNHA?

I’m glad you asked! 😊😂

I will say that I got about halfway through season five of Boku no Hero Academia before dropping it, not because it was particularly bad, but simply because my hyper fixation was mostly done.

But man, Bakugo is such an interesting character to me. At first, like many people, I didn’t like him, because he was a really mean awful person who was only obsessed with becoming the top hero. But the more the show goes on, the more you get to see the worldview that he lives in that lets him think his actions are justified, how that worldview had been supported because of how he was raised and how the people at his middle school school treated him, and then the slow breaking of that worldview once he started attending UA.

That is the most interesting part - it’s not just Midoriya that becomes better than him. He has a (one-sided) rivalry with Todoroki and often has setbacks because he can’t work with a team or learn how to people well. He’s put in situations where he cannot save himself and is forced to depend on other people, whether he wants to or not. And he’s forced to deal with the repercussions of his actions, even if some of those actions (such as All Might’s retirement) were not really his fault.

We see Bakugo as a character, and then we see that character break down. On a fundamental level, everything Bakugo believes about the world is turned upside down and viciously denied to him until he is unable to refute the truth: he’s not the best in the world, his actions have consequences, and he cannot do this whole hero thing by himself.

And then…he changes.

Not fundamentally, he doesn’t turn into an entirely different person. I have no doubt that Bakugo will always be abrasive, brash, rude, and generally not an easy person to get along with. But, now he knows. He is continuing to make choices that revolve around repairing relationships and learning to work with people better. He still has the same goals and hopes, but he is adjusting to a world that doesn’t revolve around him. He is growing. Not turning into someone else entirely, but growing into a mature version of the explosive hero he was always meant to be.

In addition to Bakugo’s character being interesting, I love how it is so clearly influenced by people who hold him accountable, but still care about him. Bakugo had neither of those things when he was in middle school. He was just allowed to wreak havoc, and was surrounded by followers, but not people who cared about him. He had no friends, no mentors. No wonder he thought he was the center of the universe, nobody attempted to enter his.

And then he came to UA. In addition to having teachers that would not tolerate his serious antics and dealing with a harsh dose of consequences, Bakugo made a friend in Kirishima. A real friend, one who clearly cared about him and tried to see the best in him. I’m sure it was written on purpose that Bakugo’s first friend had a hardening quirk that could face explosions easily, and a personality that was relentlessly positive in the face of Bakugo’s intense need to shove other people away. Kirishima dragged him to social events, called him out on his bad behavior, and yet was still a supporter and teammate who genuinely liked him and wanted to be his friend. And this isn’t a rescuer relationship: Kirishima draws on Bakugo as inspiration when he struggles with his own insecurities. And, of course, Kamino needs no mentioning. The commitment and love Kirishima shows to Bakugo is commendable and amazing to watch. And it is essential to Bakugo’s healing.

I truly believe that Bakugo would not be able to change and become a better person if he hadn’t had someone who unconditionally loved him, and yet still drew boundaries and called him out on bad behavior when necessary. That, along with a community of teachers and mentors, who finally use their authority to tame his wild behavior while trying to understand him and support his good points, is what triggers the changes in Bakugo.

And I think that is a necessary thing for everyone regardless of if you have a “difficult“ personality or not. People that will unconditionally love you and accept you, but will call you out if your behavior crosses a line. That is how people grow, and that is why I love Bakugo as a character.

#bakugo katuski #asks #I also love that he’s almost certainly aroace/demi #it will never be confirmed in the show but the fact that he has no reaction of any kind to anyone #while many of the other characters have very strong reactions to people they consider attractive #Just makes me think that he’s certainly on the ace spectrum somewhere #Also can you tell that I ship KiriBaku? Because yes I am also obsessed with our spiky shirtless hard boi #Friends to lovers where they both learn to be better humans because of each other and they are each other’s foils and growth points #is one of my favorite dynamics #also it’s definitely sunshine himbo x grumpy smartass and I love that for them #as a QPR or as a romance #im obsessed with kiribaku and I’ll support it till the end #their Quirks are Compatible it’s Adorable and Badass #bnha bakugo katsuki

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itsnothingofinterest · 2 years

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Eh, it’s June; I could throw out a few romantic or sexuality headcanons for my favourite super villains.

Shigaraki Tomura:

With regards to romantic of sexual interest; he’s demi for both, and equally interested in both genders. Well, he’s a bit male leaning, but that’s partially due to his company. Tomura doesn’t really start out interested in someone as a potential romantic or sexual partner, he’d need to care about that person as a person first; and more specifically as a friend or at least an ally. Only then would he perhaps look into romantic activities as something to do with this friend.

You could read this as him being aroace too, on account of him mostly just seeing romantic & sexual activities as things to do with particularly close friends, but I don’t think that’d be entirely accurate as it would imply far less enjoyment of these activities than he’d actually have. It’s just that he’d only bother to do them with someone he already cares about. Oh well, terminology can be a bit fuzzy in those middle-grey zones.

With regards to gender, he’s certainly fine with being a man but it’s something he’s never really thought of. He’s been meaning to, ever since meeting Magne actually, but everything's been more than a bit hectic with his life. It’s on his to-do list after he conquers the country; you know how it is.

Toga Himiko:

I mean, canon Pansexual of course. Or at least, Panromantic; her idea of romance is tied so closely with consuming blood I almost wonder if she’s really given much thought to any other form of physical romantic activity.

Well being a teenager, she probably has spared some thoughts on it and might even be interested in doing so with a romantic partner; just less than she’d want to drink their blood. And in the same vein as her blood drinking, she probably wouldn’t care about her partner’s gender so long as she loved them.

One last note; I imagine she also has an interest in Polyamory as well. She is interested in multiple people after all, 2 of whom are romantically interested in each other, which just makes her like them more. It can actually be seen as a natural result of her tied-up empathy & love; where if she likes person A who likes person B, Toga will try and see what A seen in B, and fall for them too. Then if B likes A back, Toga will see what B sees an A and like A even more. This results in something of a feedback loop, which I call the OT3dback loop™.

(And we’ll just put the rest under a cut ‘cause this is getting long.)

Dabi:

Honestly a hard guy to get a read on...so I’m gonna assume that’s true for Dabi himself too. What he’d be interested in, romantically or sexually, has never once been considered; either because he was too young and hero-focused as Touya, and then because he was too determined to fulfill his death wish mission as Dabi. He’s always been so busy and also figured he’d die young anyway to bother.

Questions to ponder once he’s found the will to live past 30 I suppose.

Twice:

I’m gonna call him Demi-romantic too, on account of how he’d probably need to see someone as a friend to see them as trustworthy enough for that kind of vulnerability or emotional bond; a high priority for him.

Otherwise, you probably wouldn't get a direct answer if you asked. Not only do his alters differ on a few key points (he’s reasonably certain he’s cisgender, but otherwise he’s a bit all over the place), but a few will outright lie if he doesn’t like you to confuse you even more; y’know, for fun. Assuming he does want to give you a straight answer, just put him down as bi for now and he’ll get back to you.

Spinner:

Gay gay homosexual gay.

No, but to go into more detail Spinner did explore his identities pre-League as much as he could in his childhood environment and at the time probably did conclude he was a plain bagel cishet dude. In retrospect, this probably resulted at least a little from aforementioned environment, which was of the ‘we won’t say anything inappropriate about queer folk but we will side-eye them a great deal’ type, but was also simply him not having his gay awakening yet.

Anyway then Daika happened, he started reevaluating, and we all know the story from there.

We’ll see if any other big events dramatically shift his internal understanding, he’s certainly in the right company to find this stuff out about himself, but for now what he most understands about himself is his newfound interest in men.

Mr. Compress:

Well first off, he’d probably be really coy about it if you asked so as to be mysterious and/or a jerk. Pretty much the only thing that gets him to reveal himself is to suggest his sexuality isn’t real, which of course infuriates him.

Oh speaking of; he’s a male leaning bisexual, and as stated, a bit particular about it. Found out in High school, as you do when you don’t grow up on the street. He’s also a bit of a stereotype about it too (or at least, he thinks he still is. What’s the latest bisexual stereotype like, anyway? Ah, it’s too much for an old man like him to keep track of all the time.)

Fittingly for his character; he sees himself as a mentor to queerness for for fellow villains; despite him not actually having much experience with it (surprisingly he hasn’t dated much) and he’s only just old enough that most of his information on the community has gotten out-of-date since his high school days. He tries his best, but you’d probably want to go to Toga instead.

#bnha #shigaraki tomura #toga himiko #dabi #twice #jin bubaigawara #spinner #mr. compress #league of villains #lov #paranormal liberation front #PLF

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spookyconsultingcriminal · 3 years

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This is my first pride month as part of the aroace community and I'm just so happy!!!

I have identified as ace for about seven/six years now. It just felt so good to finally understand what was going on with me, especially going through high school when absolutely everything seems to be somehow connected to sex and sexual attraction.

After that every time I considered a romantic relationship I'd simply brush it off, because I was afraid I'd not be respected as an asexual person and stuff.

I've been living normally ever since. Until, well...This year.

There is this guy at work and I had one of my platonic crushes. He was just so handsome and seemed so nice and cool. We became colleagues and eventually we started to text. Out of the blue he said he liked me.

I was shocked!

Mostly because I never saw myself as someone who anyone could feel attracted to. I mean... I don't think I'm pretty and I'm also socially awkward. It just... Doesn't make sense for me.

Yet... He was there, saying he liked me. Saying I was beautiful and funny and awesome.

So I thought "why not?". I had a crush on him after all.

We started to... I don't want to say date, because I didn't feel like we were dating and the whole thing happened within a month. But we started to talk about our situation and stuff. He asked about my asexuality and after I explained the whole thing he said he was completely alright with it.

I WAS THRILLED. If I had any doubts before they almost went away completely after this.

Almost.

I was trying my best to make it work, because he said he was alright with me being ace and that NEVER happened before.

But then things started to get weird.

He always said he liked me just the way I was (I know, Bruno Mars vibes) and yet he tried to change me every now and then

I mean, I'm not the most affectionate person in the world. I have my own way of showing affection and I reckon THAT'S OKAY.

But he would constantly ask for physical affection like kissing (he was my first kiss EVER) and hugging, which I loathe (I only hug people I REALLY trust and love like me mum and me best friend). And when I didn't give him what he wanted he would simply rant about how life was hard for him and how he just needed care and physical affection. He even mentioned on one of his rants that he had such a busy sexual life in his previous relationship and that I "would never understand it" because I am ace.

He would also talk about the future so often. I might be crazy on this one but it made me feel trapped, ambushed in a way.

I talked about getting a master's degree in a different city? He said we should look for flats.

I bought this beautiful ring that looked like an engagement one? He said I was engaged to him.

I said I never wanted to have kids? He said it was okay, we could get lots of cats or dogs.

All in less than two weeks.

He also seemed very comprehensive, but he constantly disrespected my boundaries to the point of hugging me during an anxiety attack when I was feeling hyper sensitive ( everything was just too much. The lighting of the place seemed too bright, the sounds were too loud, every touch or movement physically pained me) and I clearly said that I didn't want to be touched.

By then I was more than uncomfortable, I was a proper mess. I would have BIG anxiety episodes only thinking about changing and being more touchy or more affectionate because I needed to be what he wanted.

He was so understanding about my asexuality, after all.

I was freaking out with everything and one day I simply started to wonder why I was feeling that way. Everyone seemed to do it and handled it just fine. It seemed so easy. Why was it excruciating for me?

And then I started to analyse my whole journey.

For a few times I questioned my romantic attraction because I had such a hard time developing feelings and even an innocent crush seemed awkward. I had no problem acknowledging some people's beauty and always thought that this was my way of having crushes on people. I never once had a romantic relationship, but I had fallen for a guy back in High School. We never dated but I am sure I felt something for him.

He was my best friend and we had such an incredible bond. But before having a crush on him he was my friend. It took me a whole year to realize I had feelings for him. I never entertained the idea of settling in with someone, but I'd certainly do it with him.

And then it hit me.

It only happened because I had a strong emotional bond with him. That's why it was being so hard for me to be in a pseudo relationship. Because I felt nothing whatsoever. He was basically a stranger so feelings weren't exactly on the table. I had only started this because he was a person who seemed nice and that showed interest, and besides thinking he was cute I felt nothing more.

I had searched about the aromantic community before and was quite the advocate. One of my best friends is a strict aroace and I always talked to her about the aro spectrum.

I remembered the definition of demi aromantic and it just clicked.

I felt so damn good. SO DAMN GOOD.

I never thought I could ever feel the way I felt when I first said I was ace, but here it was again. That same incredible feeling of relief.

I wasn't broken, I wasn't wrong, I was just different. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

As soon as I understood this, I decided to break up with the guy. I was just so thrilled to tell him.

I thought "well, he was so understanding about my asexuality. He sure won't mind me being demiaro"

LET ME POINT OUT I WAS DELUSIONAL!

I reckon I was the most polite person (is this correct?) in the whole world. I explained it all. The communities. The way I experienced both romantic and sexual attraction. The way I didn't have romantic feelings for him, but I still wanted to be friends.

He said it was cool. That he was happy for me and that he still had a friend.

I really thought it could work.

Less than 24 hours he texted me a bunch of atrocities. Said I was a bitch. I broke his heart violently. That he was going to k*** himself.

I felt so divided, it was like there were two of me fighting inside.

The first one was desperate for him. Feeling so bad for being who I am. If I were normal, this wouldn't be happening. I would be able to have a normal relationship like everyone else.

The second was skeptical. This might sound very hard, but I'm being truthful. I had no shame and no guilt. I felt nothing whatsoever. I wasn't responsible for the version of myself he created on his mind.

+ I didn't feel like I had been cruel or emotionally irresponsible.

Two days after these, he texted me again with a completely different attitude. One that made me really annoyed and that completely destroyed the first version of me that was still saying it was all my fault.

He said he was ready to continue our relationship. That he wasn't going to feel bad for loving someone WHO COULDN'T LOVE HIM BACK. That it was alright and he just wanted to kiss me and be with me.

I don't even know why I got so mad, but these made my blood boil. I just felt like he was offering himself as some sort of cure. That if we continued what we had, I would eventually develop feelings for him and he was willing to wait for it.

I cut him off completely.

I could never EVER be with someone who makes me feel guilty of being myself.

He has been making my time at work a proper hell lately. Still trying to make me feel guilty, and though it's been hard, I honestly don't care.

Ace, demiaro, an introvert, not prone to touching...

I am not changing to please others. And I sure won't change for him!

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