#another day another very important ask to answer in excess

[hollywoodsargeant]

Hello to my favourite Logan worship president, I have a question about Ben and how long has he been with Logan and you favourite pics for them together.

and my second question is who are Logan friends like I know Oscar and Callum but who else? And you favourite picture with his friends too please?

BENNY LORE. he's known logan since 2016 i believe... like he's the only trainer logan has really ever had. ik not all of the drivers have trainers that they're like legit bonded with and end up with whoever their team hires for them but logan was with benny up through all the ranks. he met benny bc he would go to ben's wife's pilates studio as a teenager which does amuse me... and ben has been on record to say his (very young) son calls logan his older brother :( like. my heart. i'm wounded

+ logan's friends' there is the oliver guy who is also around usually when he's with callum. i will be real i do not really know much about either of them outside of their appearances in logan's orbit... then on the grid he continues to mention how close he is to alex on track because teammates and i think? he's said before that he's friendly with zhou. but maybe that's just oscar. either way i think they've raced together before

and of course my beloved indycar driver kyle kirkwood <3 i know there are some pictures of the two of them as legit children kicking around somewhere but i was too lazy to dig them up rn. MAYBE ANOTHER TIME... but i will include all photos under the break bc i did compile some. as per

can't put together pics of logan and benny without this one. now famously called romantic by alexander albon... like okay. sir. sirs. Both Of You.

here are some older ones. logan looks very teenaged (probably because he was teenaged). + proof of pilates

obligatory wimbledon picture. i know i've posted this one before and i know i've said it before that it continues to amuse me logan went to wimbledon with his trainer of all people. to follow everybody and their mother going with their girlfriends. Of Course. nice matching suits

some miami stuff. this compilation would not be complete without miami stuff... shoutout to ben wearing logan's merch hat. + bonus dalton

and this is my fav of Miami Stuff. not sure why but here it is... obv from logan's helmet shoot but without the helmet. just on the beach

THIS IS MY FAVORITE ONE. OF EVER. not really a picture but instead a poorly rendered screenshot from a video I KNOW I'VE POSTED THE CLIP ON HERE BEFORE but this is from. the abu dhabi off grid right after the f2 feature race when it's Confirmed logan got the f1 seat for 23 and ben promptly drops everything and picks him up off the ground. very special tome like i cried

and of course. thee moment of all time. when ben and logan played (and defeated) oscar and his trainer in padel. still yet to recover from this one. this post is nawt about loscar but can you get your damn elbow out of his bicep dude

and here r some random pictures of logan with friends. idk who everyone in the middle picture is but logan looks like he's having fun (and it was callum's 21st birthday. hence him holding up the 1 and 2. if reversed)

#ask #another day another very important ask to answer in excess #logan being close to his trainer is very important to me #and so are pilates. apparently #logan sargeant #ben jacobs #<- i don't have a tag for him yet do i. flop moment

[akookminsupporter]

Namjoon gave a good interview to Vogue Spain and in it he said a few things that I thought I'd share with those of you who may not understand Spanish.

This was at the end of the article but I want to write it first:

One thing that needs to be made clear about this album is that, no matter how much the rumour mill is trying to spin it, it is by no means the end of the successful band. "Oh, I'm not leaving BTS. Absolutely not. This is the first time I'm launching a solo project like this, so I'm trying to stand up and take my first steps. But I'm ambitious and I have willpower. So I don't want to miss the opportunity to do both. So I will try my best not to lose control and steer these two ships at the same time. A lot of bands split up and fall apart, but I hope that doesn't happen to BTS. I just love the music, I love my job, I love the band members and I love myself. If I can keep both projects going, I think it can be something legendary in the long run".

Other important parts of the article:

"The k-pop industry hasn't stopped growing since we debuted with BTS [in 2013]. It's become a lot more complex and has brought a lot more people into its structures. I think there are a lot of lights, but also some slippery shadows. Many of us started our careers very early as a group: we slept and lived together as teenagers. We became a real family, which is great, but this culture has also affected me a lot, because sometimes I find it difficult to be treated as an adult who has autonomy in his decisions. I'm perceived as just another cog in the crew, in the context of a mass phenomenon",

Did you ever feel like you were getting completely lost in this delirium of success? "I used to think so, but the funny thing is that I am fully aware that it was my own choice to devote myself to the k-pop industry. Nobody pushed me into it. But yes, I have lost myself at times. Although perhaps saying this is an excess of 'self-empathy'. There is no answer. Except that, if k-pop is about recharging the batteries of a mass audience and I'm responsible for doing that recharging, then I have to keep my feet firmly on the ground. As an adult, as a musician and as a human being. And these ten years of my career have helped me define who I am and learn to love myself. But I'm still in that process, you know? All these internal struggles will be recorded on records and videos," he explains.

"Music is really necessary for the world, but, when it comes to my music, sometimes I feel like I'm producing something unnecessary. If I were to die tonight, I don't think anything would change. It might matter to some people for a while, but a farmer or a street sweeper is more relevant to the functioning of society. When I ask myself about the role of our generation in historical terms, when I look at all the digital platforms and communities out there, I am overcome with confusion. There are a lot of people who don't want to think. They have frenetic lives and turn to music or television to escape, so the last thing they want is someone trying to lecture them from a pedestal. In that context, I wonder how I can make my music matter. I haven't found an answer yet, but I keep trying to bring my own perspective to it.

As to whether he is afraid that the army he has on Instagram (42.4 million followers) might one day turn against him for a silly mistake or a blunder, RM answers bluntly. "Yes, it scares me. It scares me 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. When I was younger I tried to come across as a cool guy who doesn't give a shit what other people think, but I don't think that's right anymore. I care about the publicity dimension of my career and the influence I can have on others. It stresses me out, yes, but I think I can handle it. That's why I don't retire or do things like go out and drink the night away and then drive drunk. I'm human, I can make mistakes, but I will do everything in my power to be the best version of myself. One of the keys is to treat this job for what it is: a job. I don't think artists have any special rights or status.

Note: if you would like me to translate another part of the interview, let me know.

#Namjoon #RM #vogue spain #bts #bts solo careers #bts break

[queers-gambit]

Hello my lovely, it’s me your babygirl. Remember me? 🥰🥰

I know you’re busy working on fics rn so take as much time as you want to answer!

I’ve got a very important question regarding Felix that I’d love your opinion on it & share my thoughts with you! 

*quickly runs to give you the biggest hug & spin you in my arms* 😘

So…. What do we think a Felix x reader wedding would look like at Saltburn? A grand extravaganza with a million guests or an intimate ceremony with just the Cattons?

Obviously they take every opportunity to throw a party at Saltburn so a wedding is the ultimate bash in the eyes of the Cattons. 

Or would Felix just decide to change it entirely and just want it to be a tiny intimate thing since he wants this to feel quiet and special. And then maybe some big party another day to the delight of Elspeth and sir James.  

For Felix he’s so laid back and in love all he cares about is his girl and what will make her happy. They are so young and in love i wouldn’t be surprised if he proposed on a lazy Sunday morning or a day reading naked in the field, just because he was so blissfully happy he knew there was nobody he’d rather spend these kind of days with for the rest of his life. 

Side notes: Venetia would be maid of honor right? I see Elspeth as the mother in law that makes herself heavenly involved with planning and gives her brutally honest opinion picking out the dress 😅 I can even picture stoic Duncan trying to hold back tears while he’s holding a tissue box to Elspeth or sir James while they read their vows. 

…

Sorry for the endless ranging but I’m aching to know your thoughts and see if you’ve thought about this too!!

of course i remember you, baby girl! welcome back!

i needed a break from writing, so thank you for sending this, my darling! it's always good to refresh the pallet, and this ask really got me thinking!

let's get into it!

kinda-sorta wedding AU HC's

pairing: Felix Catton x female!reader

fandom masterlist: Saltburn

word count: 1.4k+

warnings: suspiciously none

so your question all depends on the Reader, but i'll try to answer best i can.

the Saltburn wedding is definitely a huge, extravagant ordeal. the Cattons are well connected, so, it wouldn't just be Felix and Reader's peers attending, but ALL family from both sides, as well as family friends, too. Reader's family is invited to Saltburn a week before matrimony; where they try to help, but the Cattons have hired 3 different wedding planners to make this the most talked-about event in any social circles.

every room in Saltburn is cleaned and decorated. an abundance of flowers are shipped in to be hung from the ceilings and bannisters. there's BOTH a live band and a DJ, an erected outdoor dance floor.

now, i can see two different things: 1. Felix and Reader marry in the local church and then the reception is hosted at Saltburn. 2. they marry on Saltburn's property and still have the big ass reception on the grounds.

either way, it's most def a summer wedding to utilize optimal weather. it's a reason to wear the best clothes, drink expensive liquor excessively, and indulge in gluttony. it's a night designed to make attendants jealous.

there's well over 300 people, Sir James and Elspeth combing through their address books to send invites even to family friends they haven't spoken to in years. they're the kind of parents that take advantage of their child getting married; it's the best excuse to show off and have a grand celebration, to prove the family doesn't do anything half-assed. if they can throw extravagant parties just for the hell of it, they definitely feel pressure to out-do themselves.

it's like this wedding isn't *for* Felix and Reader, but more so for the Cattons to show up and show out. it's not about a union of two people, but an excuse to gloat and smash their privilege in everyone's face.

Felix eats it up 'cause it's all he knows, the spoilt rich boy, but Reader's a little uncomfortable with the sheer size and details of her wedding. but in the same breath, she's relaxed because she KNOWS this is just how the Cattons operate and she doesn't really have to lift a single finger.

so, Reader lets Elspeth plan her ideal wedding - 'cause there's no way she's not involved. they make some decisions together, it's a bonding experience for Reader and her soon-to-be MIL, but for the most part, it's the matriarch doing most of the heavy lifting.

Felix and Reader only get to decide on wedding colors, catering options, and the cake. and even then, they have to endure his family's opinions.

Reader doesn't even get to 100% choose her dress, hair, and make up. Elspeth basically decides everything. i agree with you and think Mrs. Catton would impose herself even on the wedding dress selection, becoming persnickety, opinionated, and a little snarky when Reader shows off her dresses. this causes tension with Reader's family, who think the older woman far too self-important, and maybe it's Reader's mother or sister that stands up to her and insists Elspeth keep quiet since this *isn't* her wedding and they don't want any influences on Reader. they want Reader to choose her perfect wedding dress without scrutiny since she has no say in anything else.

in fact, maybe - juuuuuust maybe - Reader's family takes her to shop for a wedding dress without Elspeth in an effort to dial down the stress. it's not meant maliciously, but Elspeth simply cannot help herself and takes over everything; so, Reader's family figures if she's not there, Reader can make a decision *for herself*.

when Elspeth finds out, she's hurt, but it's Sir James that calms his wife down by reminding her that she had something not-so-nice to say about damn near every single dress Reader tries on. so, she accepts this one detail being out of her control.

the entire wedding screams "old money" because half of the decorations and details are wildly redundant, but there's no such thing as cost to the family. Elspeth is def living vicariously because she thinks she knows best, so she spares no expense - perhaps even going as far as to rent exotic peacocks to roam the grounds simply because the Cattons can!

they're definitely going "Crazy Rich Asians" in the sense that Felix's marriage is going to be the event of the decade, like Collin and Araminta's wedding. again, it's not even about the union but just a chance for the Cattons to remind everyone that they were lesser-than. Felix thinks it's normal, he thinks this is how it's supposed to be 'cause he's def removed from reality, and truth be told, he loves the attention. the bragging rights.

Felix might be a bit more reserved than his family, but he's still a Catton and glamour is *all* he knows, especially for an event like this. he doesn't stand up to his parents because they're paying for everything, which makes him feels as if he's not entitled to an opinion. so, he lets Sir James and Elspeth plan the wedding they want since all Felix has to do is show up. he'll do his best to alleviate stress, acting as a buffer between his betrothed and parents, but he doesn't dare open his mouth.

this is marketed as a once in a lifetime celebration, so nobody is willing to butt heads with Sir and Mrs. Catton.

on that note, yeah, i can see Felix having an intimate proposal. maybe in the field at sunset, maybe at a cafe in town, but not in bed. he's got a flare for the dramatic, so odds are, he's actually down on one knee. he's young, so he doesn't need to make a huge ordeal for the proposal since it's an incredibly intimate moment. he might even proposal on a whim / impulsively. he's had a ring for months, planning the best moment to ask Reader, but he gets anxious and one day, it just happens. it feels right. Felix has that burning feeling that he needs to ask now else he'll fuck up his plan in the future by being so nervous. so, yeah, he just asks one day - barely even thinks about it! he just knows Reader is who he wants, so why plan the "perfect moment" when an opportunity organically presents itself?

now, Venetia can be a bridesmaid, but she's not MOH. again, depends on the reader, but i imagine Reader's sister or her own best friend should be MOH. Reader wants Ven involved in everything, but no, she's not gonna be the one standing next to Reader when she gets married. Ven helps decide bridesmaid dresses, works with Reader's sister and / or best friend to plan the bachelorette party, and is present for any conflict between Reader and Elspeth. she's sorta like a tie breaker because Felix is on Reader's side and Sir James is on Elspeth's. Ven is the one who helps keep Elspeth under control, the only one bold enough to stand up to her mother without fear of repercussions. she sees how Reader is struggling to both have the wedding of her dreams and respect for her MIL, so, Ven imposes herself to give Reader a break. to be the voice Reader lost.

and just because it's fun, YES, Duncan is def in attendance, handing the Cattons and Reader's family tissues during the emotional moments of the wedding. he eats two slices of cake. and for the fuck of it, you bet your ass Duncan lets loose a little and Cabbage Patches on the dance floor.

i think it's nice to imagine Felix being all cute and intimate, but personally, i think he's so far deep in his family's way of living to truly be humble. sure, Reader anchors him to reality, but he still lives this extravagant life so he doesn't know the definition of "humble". but that's why i said, it depends on your reader - but in my opinion, Felix is a little too spoilt to have the forethought to marry privately. or maybe he knows it's a fight not worth having with his parents, that no matter what, they're going to do what they want.

so maybe Felix is the one encouraging Reader to just "go with the flow" because resisting is futile. perhaps Reader comes around to the idea of a grand wedding because she knows she'd never have this sort of experience with anyone else; so, why not bask in it?

ah, i love these. they're so much fun! thank you for sending in, baby girl! all my love 🖤

#felix catton #felix catton headcanon #felix catton headcanons #felix catton x reader #felix catton x fem! reader #felix catton x y/n #felix catton x you #felix catton imagine #felix catton fluff #fix it felix

[sickly-qt]

Okay I just found your acc and I’m obsessed with drew! Do you think you could write something where she gets pretty drunk to the point of throwing up and she is so out of it she lets Finn see her? No pressure :)

wowowow, look at me, answering an ask for the first time in forever. I am trying my best lol. This is kind of important in terms of different characters becoming acquaintances but otherwise it's just shameless emeto. This also takes place a little while back when Drew and Finn had been dating for less than a year, presently they've been together for almost 2 :)

Enjoy! I'm sorry if i'm a bit rusty

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Work events with an open bar always mystified Drew. She never really understood why an employer would encourage drinking to excess… or at the very least tempting their employees to drink to excess. These were the thoughts running through her mind as she picked up her glass and walked away from the bar, sipping on what must’ve been her third double vodka sprite of the night. She knew that she should probably slow down, the anxiety of being at one of Finn’s work banquets washing away with every glass of wine over dinner. Her head felt airy and conversation was coming easy and she was actually having a better time than she thought she would’ve, probably too good of a time if she were being honest. 

Drew was surprised when Finn had asked her to go with to be his plus one to his work event. Sure, they had been dating for around 7 months and they were basically living together, but things like this really cemented that they were serious in a weird way. He wanted to be seen with her in front of his coworkers as well as the new company that had just partnered with the company Finn helped run.

“Hey, Drew! Come and meet my new partner.” Finn called, grabbing her hand and leading her through the crowd. Everything went by her in a blur and made her dizzy, this is when it really settled in that she was undeniably drunk. They came to a stop in front of another surprisingly young couple. A tall blonde man who looked a little intense and a woman with reddish hair and brown eyes smiled at her kindly. Drew was just focused on seeming sober, and feeling like she was failing miserably. 

“This is my partner, Drew. Drew, this is one of the heads of the company we just partnered with, Remington Paxton and his partner Mila.” Finn introduced them all.

“Hi it’s very nice to meet you, and you can both just call me Remy.” the man responded, holding out his hand. He was almost alarmingly clean cut in the most crisp, and probably most expensive suit Drew had probably ever seen. Mila, on the other hand, seemed a lot more laid back in a simple blue tea length dress and beautiful silver heels, she looked like an auburn cinderella. 

“It’s nice to meet you both as well.” Drew said, shaking both of their hands and then promptly zoning out as Finn and Remy launched into a conversation about PR and advertising. She had a very loose idea of what Finn did at work in the first place and at this point Drew could barely wrap her mind around what she had to do the next day let alone how different PR tactics can be used to benefit marketing and advertising. 

“I never really know what he’s talking about once he gets going.” Mila said, taking a sip of her champagne. “I just smile and nod.”

“I’m glad I’m not the only one.” Drew smiled, not really in the mood to conversate. She was starting to feel woozy and a little nauseous. All of the anxiety from before her second glass of wine, rushing back. Suddenly, the elegant ballroom felt stuffy and her dress felt too constricting, and she was really warm. She heard Mila start to say something else but Drew couldn’t be bothered to pay attention, everything was spinning and she felt lightheaded. 

“Excuse me. I’m so sorry I need to get some air.” Drew mumbled, sitting her drink down on the nearest table and rushing away. She had intended to actually do exactly that but on her way to the door nausea hit her like a brick wall and she gagged harshly into her hand. Drew quickly detoured to the bathroom, grateful that the unisex bathroom was open and she wasn’t about to be sick in a stall. She had barely gotten the door locked behind her before vomit rocketed up her throat, spraying through her fingers and dripping down her arm. She barely had any time to throw the toilet seat up before she gagged again, her dinner coming up in violent waves.

She steadied herself on the back of the toilet, her other hand gripping her stomach and she took a couple breaths. A knock at the door caused her to jump.

“Drew, it’s me. Are you alright?” It was Finn. 

Drew swallowed and flushed the toilet, walking over to the sink to wash her hands. She was a complete mess, vomit in her hair and down the front of her dress. The sight made her gag again. What was worse was the trail of sick across the floor and on the back of the toilet. “Fuck.” She whispered before unlocking the door and letting Finn in.

“Oh fuck.” Finn mumbled, seeing the state of his girlfriend and the bathroom.

“I’m so sorry.” Drew sniffled, drunk and emotional. 

“It’s okay babe. Uhm… let’s get you cleaned up a little and then we can let an attendant know that someone got sick in the bathroom and then we can go home, okay?” Finn had grabbed some toilet paper and started cleaning the puke out of her hair.

“I’m gonna throw up again.” Drew whined, feeling sick and now embarrassed. She covered her mouth with her hand before bending over the toilet again and gagging.

“Okay, okay. Just get it out.” Finn stood behind her, holding her hair out of her face and rubbing her back as all of the wine and vodka sprites came back up in a disgusting slurry. 

“Oh god, I’m so sorry.” Drew said, out of breath. She stood up straight and closed her eyes, taking deep breaths before a burp rumbled up her chest, sending her back over the toilet although nothing came up.

“Shh, no more apologizing okay?” Finn reached around her and flushed the toilet, still rubbing her back. “Are you done for now?”

“I think so.” Drew mumbled, blowing her nose with some toilet paper. “I’m sorry you had to see that, I feel so disgusting.”

“A little vomit isn’t going to scare me away, Drew. I love you, and I still love you after seeing you be a puke geyser.” He wet some toilet paper and tried his best to clean up the front of her dress.

“Thanks… I love you too…”

“Let's get you home my love.”

#my ocs #emeto #my writing #finn #drew #illness #sickfic

[unwelcome-ozian]

Hi oz, thanks for your answer to my question about dissociating a lot and feeling stuck. Your reminder that younger parts coming forward is also progress and the advice on how to deal with the exhaustion of these experiences helped me orientate in the mess of it all. You offered to share some more information and advice on how to build a window of tolerance for dissociation. I’d be very grateful if you could do that!

I do think that without knowing I already started working on this, trying to confront my feelings when my day suddenly is disrupted by dissociation and feelings of emptiness. I try to think about what might’ve started the feeling and if possible ask other parts if they’re hiding behind it and if there’s something they need to say. Sometimes it’s possible for me to talk out loud and get into a dialogue with myself and other parts about how we feel and what the dissociation is trying to suppress.

What I’ve learned from that so far is that I as a host spend a lot of time by myself at home, while other parts usually take care of social interaction. This makes me feel intensely lonely at times, which in return triggers the memories of being a child/teenager having to hide in my room and pretend I don’t exist in order to avoid being abused by my parent. I realised that even though there’s no danger of being abused anymore, my brain subconsciously thinks we’re in the same situation again and that there’s danger lurking around the corner so we have to hide in our room and dissociate from the stress and fear that came with living with an abusive parent.

I’m sharing these revelations in case that might help with knowing what type of info I need on working on the window of tolerance. If it’s more universal advice it’s obviously not so important.

Thank you either way for the support and help! I’ve been wanting to look into the ways you provided in which we can support you in return. Your advice and work is definitely worth more than only written appreciation! I hope you’re doing as well as possible.

Brains are amazing. Their one task is to keep us alive. The brain will do what it thinks is best to do that. Even if we are currently safe and can logically say we are in a safe place right now. The brain will consistently scan and send the message at the slightest hint of danger that, “No, indeed good person we are not safe. As when we were 5 this thing occurred and it must never occur again even though we are 25.”

With DID multiply that response by each parts experience of abuse. 

In short your brain is doing exactly what it’s supposed to do. You’re not flawed.

The Window of Tolerance is the zone of arousal in which we are able to function most effectively. In contrast, when we are hyperaroused, we feel excessive activation or energy, often in the form of anxiety, panic, fear, hypervigilence, and emotional flooding. When we are hypoaroused we are shut down or dissociated from our feelings.

There are specific things you can do to apply the methods used and not continue to overwhelm yourself, system, and to let your brain know things are safe.

For example, asking a friend to go for coffee. You choose the time (an hour let’s say), you choose the place, and where you will sit. (facing the door). Start as simple as you would like but with discomfort you can manage and something you will be successful at.

Another thing to continue to increase communication with the others inside and working together. So if there is a social situation you could work on fronting for a bit of time. 

Slow progress is still progress.

Here are a couple of links about the Window of Tolerance to help. LINK  Work Sheet Information

You’re most welcome. Thank you for considering ways you can support us.

Take care,

Oz

#answers to questions #window of tolerance

[spacevulpix]

this got so much longer than i originally intended so i'm putting a cut here

the way that being emotionally abused will make you doubt that people are being genuine towards you when they're nice is insane. i helped out my family at my grandma's house today getting it cleaned up to go up for sale and two of my aunts went out of their way to thank me for coming and one even pointed out that i was the only grandkid (and considering grandma had 7 kids there are a lot of us) who came to help. i have this unconscious voice in the back of my mind that still sometimes forces me to view the world and my place in it through my abuser's lens - that i am a burden to others and if they're being nice to me it's only because they pity me for being such a horrible embarrassment of a person who creates problems for them all just by existing.

but the thing is they were right - i was the only grandkid who came to help. one of my aunts lives 15 minutes from grandma's house and her son who's my age chose to stay home while his parents came to help. several of my other cousins live a short train ride away in the city. i've been the only grandkid involved in the whole process, i was there when we picked the options for the service, i was there when we hashed out the next moves for settling the estate, i took the initiative to come to the house on my own one day to look through and pick out what mementos i wanted to keep, i helped the day we moved all the excess furniture onto the curb. i was the only one.

when my eldest aunt rested her hand on my shoulders to let me know she was coming through the doorway behind me and let it rest there until she'd asked and gotten an answer to her question, it was like i could feel the love flowing from her hand into me. i'm very selective about who's allowed to touch me and her touch made me feel all melty the same way it feels when someone runs their fingers through my hair. another aunt asked about my new job, and the status of my student loan payments. the last opened up a bit about how my cousin could be struggling with his mental health, or perhaps he's just okay with not showering all that often.

i've spent so much time recently on drama subreddits an r/amitheasshole and keep exposing myself to a harmful confirmation bias that intimate relationships, familial or otherwise, are significantly fraught with one-sided harmful or entitled behavior and reaffirming the fear in my mind that i won't be able to accomplish the happy family i want for myself in the future because there will always be some major flaw so great in magnitude that the only way to overcome it is to cut that part of your life out completely. that i will inevitably end up with a selfish partner who doesn't truly understand me and puts more importance on my bending for their comfort than their's for mine. that if i do have kids, the mental health genes running on my mother's side will result in a child who treats me (or their sibling if i ever get over the fear of having more than one as though my being born was what caused my sibling to abuse me) the same way my sibling did.

i got past this all once before, when i first left home and went to college. it's poetic in a certain sense that this time i'm doing the work to get past it again at home. i sort of operated on the assumption that if i was ever open about the fact that i'm no contact with my sibling, my extended family would pick them over me and i'd have to be cut out of the entire family. that everything my abuser said about me is true, i'm overemotional, too dramatic, think everything revolves around me, and to cope with that i minimized myself over and over to try and fly below the radar, but it was never enough. even when i didn't interact with them at all they accused me of thinking i was better than them.

and then here were my aunts, with nothing to gain from showering me with compliments, no pressure on them to maintain someone else's worldview, praising me anyway. just for packing up the kitchen and keeping my uncle busy (he's been kind of a pain, understandable since he lived with grandma for 10 years before she passed and now he suddenly has to move out) so they could all focus on cleaning whatever areas of the house had already been emptied.

basically what i'm trying to take away from this, seeing as i've had a lot of negativity dumped on me in the past year due to the cesspool of a job i left plus my own brain fighting against being happy, is that it should be as easy to take the positive comments, even easier than taking the negative. that people aren't only genuine when they're being mean to me.

[stormbabylore]

Time for another one from this series of love-related asks.

ˋ°•*⁀➷⁠ Round 1 | Round 2

Round 3: eclair and inipit!

6. eclair - do they want to one day be married? ─☆─ No, although it's honestly something she just doesn't consider. If she ever did, she'd come to the conclusion that any sort of public or "official" commitment isn't important to her. As she grows more comfortable with the people she feels a sense of commitment toward, the unspoken bond between them would be evident in their actions and routines together; and that's more than enough for her. (Plus, she actively avoids any situation that puts her on display.) That said, I got to attend an in-game bonding ceremony for the first time some months back, and I really liked the bit about the rings they exchanged being forged of their aether. I wanted to put my own spin on that... so I do have a quasi-bonding headcanon for Aeryn and Urianger. I can't imagine it would happen until post-Endwalker, but at some point Urianger would forge a bead or trinket out of aether and request to twine it into her hair (which in my silly little made-up ancient elezen lore would have been the final stage of courtship, when the couple would promise themselves to each other). Since Aeryn can't manipulate aether that way, she gives him the wildflower she'd preserved alchemically and had been wearing around her neck, because the color of it reminded her of his eyes. And because I'm a complete sap. It would be a quiet moment, just a simple gesture between the two of them in the midst of their ordinary routine, and it would come with no pomp or additional expectations, such that I don't know if I would consider them married in any way. It's more like a quiet request of each other: wherever you are, I hope you might carry a little part of my soul there to keep with you. 7. inipit - what qualities do they seek in a partner? describe physical qualities and personality traits? ─☆─ She doesn't. I don't mean to be obtuse, but Aeryn very especially doesn't seek anything or anyone in terms of partnership. Her every action in those early days is laser-focused on surviving in unfamiliar circumstances and finding answers about who she is. She is initially drawn to anyone who doesn't offer her excess attention and allows her the safe space to just quietly exist alongside them. Later, she begins to understand what qualities speak most deeply to her heart as she discovers them in the person who had already, unwittingly, endeared himself to her by offering her that safety. From there it just evolved without her ever having sought it. The qualities that end up meaning most to her are: respect; patience; support; freedom; and a sense of stability - a constancy despite her flightier, less-constant nature in the early days. She needed someone balanced enough to help bring her moments of comfortable stillness and clarity in the otherwise wild chaos of her journey.

#aeryn stormwater #my silly elezen headcanons #elezen courtship customs #aerianger #aerianger hair braiding ♥ #love languages #ask lists #ffxiv oc #ffxiv wol #ffxiv #wol lore #wol oc #wol questions #wol qotd #ff14 #final fantasy 14 #oc lore #wol x urianger #wolrianger

[phthalology]

Destiny 2: Symbiosis

(For @xivu-arath and featuring their Omen-5. These two are a fascinating match and I wouldn't mind writing a longer story with them one day.)

They had met another time, Kass and Omen, but that was before the Throne World, before the excess of life that colonized Kass’ eye and cheek. Kass hadn’t expected to see Omen’s familiar face again in the courtyard of the Siblings of the Holy Orb, during the time of Rasputin’s slow revival. 

Curtains thin enough to see through hung from the columns around the temple. A shallow pool glittered blue in the sunny, open courtyard.

Kass was returning a book. The Siblings had been a partner group to the temple where she had taken her sabbatical. The librarians knew each other. They had known, therefore, when the Siblings unearthed from an older, lost sect a book about Light corruption.

Light corruption had been a theory when this book was written. Light-as-cancer, Traveler-as-tumor. It wasn’t how Kass wanted to think about the golden eye sunken into her socket, the pinpricks of seed-stuff she felt around it sometimes like the spokes of a wheel or the legs of a spider. Eris had magicked those back under her skin, but Kass could feel them. 

Omen looked like xe needed help.

Xe had paused at the bottom of the wide, low steps to scratch at xyr own arm. Claws shaved off the top layer of Tree bark sculpted like a shoulder. It met Exo metal somewhere under xyr short-sleeved tunic. 

As she moved to greet Omen, Kass put on the posture of the Young Wolf like a cape. She’d done enough parades that she could turn it on, now; the set of shoulders just so, the set of graceful hands. Only the fact that she was wearing flowing robes instead of armor and the eye itself couldn’t be changed. Ready this way, she swept down the stairs. 

“Omen?” She said softly. 

Xe stopped trimming bark immediately. “Ikora told me I might find you here. She told me …” Xyr hesitation seemed intentional, not for dramatic effect but as if xe were listening to a signal from far away. “You’d have a book.”

“It might not help.” Kass’ eye ached. Sympathetic phantom. How inconvenient. “I didn’t find anything. The theory, though …”

“What about the theory?”

Kass fumbled. Xe was very direct. But many Warlocks were. “I found it interesting.” She handed the book out, but xe didn’t take it. 

Omen met her eyes. “Thank you. Ikora knows it is hard for me to stay in the City for long, but she thought this meeting was important. I think it is.” 

Kass looked up. Diaphanous curtains swept across the horizon of the Traveler. “Can you not stay because of the Light?”

Omen nodded, so xyr answer surprised Kass. “No. The City itself … isn’t right for me. Does the Traveler change how your Tree feels?”

This question, too, struck Kass as direct. It was pleasant, though. Some people did not want to speak to her as if anything had changed. She had started to want a happy medium between their silence and Eris’ intimate tending. Your tree, xe had said. She didn’t always think of it as hers, yet the words felt right. 

“I am glad you asked.” Kass gave a parade smile. It felt uncomfortable. 

Her Ghost drifted along to a polite distance to talk to Omen’s, and Kass used the moment xyr eyes flicked to the Ghosts to relax her expression.

“The Light makes my eye … brittle,” Kass said. “Or erupting. I don’t know what to call it. It broke open not long ago. Bled sap.”

Omen nodded as if this was both normal and interesting. “One of the hyacinthoides — it’s a whole family of plants, very loose classification of plants — on Nessus softened the bark a little. Made it more comfortable. But I haven’t studied it long.”

“It’s worth a try.”

“If I can find more, I’ll let you know,” xe said.

“Trade?” Kass asked. 

Xe reached out for the book, and Kass gave it. Leather binding whispered against metal fingers. We should be better friends, she found herself thinking, except for the physical distance between them. Kass’ position made her unusually sedentary for a Hidden when not throwing herself against the solar system’s worst enemies. Omen, as far as she knew, wandered more. There were as many similarities as differences, though; she suspected but did not know for certain that they viewed romance and attraction with similar baffled indifference. 

The conversation had been so easy. A simple trade. No complicated pity. That was worth a lot. 

They talked some more and the feeling of ease stayed. The smile she left Omen with wasn’t the one people saw at the parades. It was softer, crinkled the skin around her good eye more. She felt the spokes under her skin move with it. 

#destiny 2 #gentle body horror #kass #omen-5 #writings

[questionsonislam]

What answer should we give to those who say, "Do not think deep; excessiveness in religion will make a person go crazy"?

Unfortunately, the world is like that today. Allah makes this factory of the universe work for us all the time and mobilizes everything for us; therefore, we need to allocate all of our time to Him but we live in an age that regards performing five daily prayers, which hardly lasts an hour every day, extremism. They act as if we will do very important things if we do not perform prayers.

The midway, way of ease, moderate way, the way that can be followed is ordered in our religion. The Prophet (pbuh) said,

“I advise you the midway because the religion will overcome any person who makes tiny distinctions.” 2

As a matter of fact, the following is stated in the Quran:

“We have not sent down the Qur'an to thee to be (an occasion) for thy distress.”3

The following is stated in another verse of the Quran:

“Allah intends every facility for you He does not want to put you to difficulties.”4

“On no soul doth Allah place a burden greater than it can bear.”5 Acting upon the verses above, Badiuzzaman Said Nursi attracts attention to the fact that a person cannot be loaded a burden heavier than he can carry in the religion.

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) interprets the verses above with the following hadith:

“Indeed, this religion is easy, and no one will ever overburden himself in religion, except that it will overcome him. So seek what is appropriate, and come as close as you can, and receive the glad tidings (that you will be rewarded), and take it easy; and gain strength by worshipping in the mornings, afternoons, and during the last hours of the nights.”6

To go to extremes in the religion does not mean to persevere, to live based on taqwa and to live in accordance with the obligations of the religion. To go to extremes in the religionmeans to pay much attention to the orders of the religion that are of less significance and to neglect the orders of the religion that are of great significance by not establishing a balance between the decrees of the religion. It is imbalance. For instance, a person makes a lot of efforts, efforts that are beyond his power, and wearies himself for nafilah (supererogatory) prayers – he becomes too tired due to this extreme meticulousness – and he neglects sunnahs, wajibs and even fards.

In fact, the Prophet (pbuh) worshipped at night until his blessed feet swelled and performed prayers. For instance, once Hz. Aisha asked him, “O Messenger of Allah! Why do you tire yourself so much? Were your previous and future sins not forgiven?” The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said, “Should I not be a slave that thanks Allah more?”

However, the Prophet (pbuh) performed this worshipping within the boundaries endurance; and this night worshipping never caused him to neglect - God forbid - the morning prayer, his family and the people. Taqwa starts at this point.

If a person who performs a lot of nafilah worshipping at night in order to revive a sunnah becomes very tired and neglects the morning prayer, his wife and children, his guests and his health, he will have gone to extremes and acted contrarily to the Sunnah.

* Hz. Anas narrates:

When the Prophet (pbuh) entered the mosque, he saw a rope stretched between two columns.

“What is this rope?” He asked. The Companions said,

“This rope belongs to Zaynab bint Jahsh. She holds it when she gets tired.”

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said,

“Remove it. Perform prayers with pleasure. When you get tired, go to bed and sleep.” 7

* Hz. Aisha narrates:

There was a woman I was talking to in my room. When the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) entered my room, he asked,

“Who is this?” I said,

“She is such and such a woman.” Then, I started to mention her prayers. Finally, the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said,

“That is enough. Do what you can do. By Allah, Allah Almighty will not be tired of giving you thawabs but you will be tired of worshipping.“ 8

* Hz. Anas narrates:

A group ofthree men asked about the worship of the Prophet (pbuh). When they were informed about it, they considered it little and said: "Where are we in comparison with the Prophet (pbuh) while Allah forgave his past sins and future sins". One of them said,

"I will perform prayers all night long and will not sleep." Another said,

"I will perform fasting continuously and will not break except on days of eid."Another said,

"I will abstain from women and will never marry".

When the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) came, he summoned them and said to them,

“Are you the people who said such and such things? By Allah, I fear Allah more than you do, and I am most obedient and dutiful among you to Him, but I sometimes perform fasting and sometimes break it. I both perform prayers and sleep at night. This is my Sunnah. Whoever turns away from my Sunnah is not from me.” 10

* Abu Muhammad Abdullah b. Amr b. al-As narrates:

The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) was informed that I said, “I will perform fasting every day and perform prayers the whole night as long as I live.” He said to me,

"Is it you who said this?" I said to him,

"O Messenger of Allah! That is true." Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said,

"Do not do that. Observe fasting for few days and then leave off for few days; perform prayers and sleep at night, as your body has a right upon you, and your eyes have a right upon you. Your wife has a right upon you; your visitors have a right upon you. It is sufficient for you to perform fasting three days in a month, as the reward of good deeds is multiplied ten times, so it will be like fasting the whole year." I said,

"O Messenger of Allah! I can do more than that." He said,

"Then, perform fasting of Dawud. Do not add more.” I said,

“What is fasting of Dawud?” The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said,

“Fasting half of the year. You will fast one day and eat the next day.” I said,

“I can do more than that.” The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said,

“There is no fasting more virtuous than that. The most virtuous fasting is that of Dawud.”

Afterwards when Abdullah grew old, he said, "I wish I had accepted the three-day fasting the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) advised. It would have been lovelier to me than my family and wealth. However, it is too late now." 11

There is no compulsion in the religion. There is moderation, balance and harmony. It is essential to live in the religious balance, not to abandon fards for sunnahs, not to leave wajibs for nafilahs, and to live the religion as a whole based on our strength.

Footnotes:

1. Jamius-Saghir, 2/1582;

2. Jamius-Saghir, 3/2706;

3. Taha, 20/2;

4. Al-Baqara, 2/185;

5. See al-Baqara, 2/286; at-Talaq, 65/7; al-An’am, 6/152; al-A’raf, 7/42; al-Mu’minun, 23/62;

6. Nasai, Iman, 28;

7. Nawawi, R. Salihin, 146;

8. Nawawi, R. Salihin, 142.

9. Jamius-Saghir, 2/1582;

10. Nawawi, R. Salihin, 143,

11. Nawawi, R. Salihin, 150.

#Allah #god #islam #quran #muslim #revert #convert #revert islam #convert islam #revert help #reverthelp #revert help team #help #islam help #converthelp #prayer #salah #muslimah #reminder #pray #dua #hijab #religion #mohammad #new muslim #new convert #new revert #how to convert to islam #convert to islam #welcome to islam

[dearamleo]

do you have a date for the next update of the sinner's feast,,, absolutely no pressure just missing them

Ahh, I feel terrible for how slow I’ve been updating! My work schedule gave me a kick in the ass this month and it’s been killing my writing vibes.

BUT! I do have the majority of the next chapter done. I’ve got maybe another couple of scenes of it to write. And I’m hoping to have the next three done at the same time because they’re also mostly written.

So hopefully before the end of next week at the very latest I will have something for you!

In the meantime, have a deleted scene with an adorably sick Teddy to tide you over! ✨✨

Teddy was inconsolable for nearly three days. His fever had come down enough that he was permitted to leave the hospital after one night, but the experience had left the boy scared and clingier than usual.

“Padfoot, I don’t wanna.”

Sirius sighed, adjusting where Teddy was lying in his lap so he could try to tilt the spoon of sticky purple cough syrup into his mouth. “I know, Mini Moons, but remember how much better it makes you feel?”

“But it doesn’t even taste like grapes. The doctor is a liar,” he said, his bottom lip popping out even further in petulance. He was still very displeased that he’d been assigned to one of the pediatric doctors rather than Remus. “Daddy wouldn’t’ve lied to me.”

The sight of it made Sirius chuckle. “I’ll agree with you there, darling, but she didn’t lie about it making you better and you want to feel better don’t you?”

Teddy crossed his arms and seemed to think about this very hard for a few moments before he finally gave Sirius a small nod of acquiesce and took the spoon into his mouth. The boy squeezed his eyes shut and wrinkled his nose in a grimace. Sirius had to laugh at the dramatics of him as he kissed his still warm forehead, looking so much like Remus did when he was put out.

“That’s my big boy. All done,” he said, handing the boy his cup of apple juice to wash down the lying-grape taste.

“Padfoot, can we watch Narnia again tonight,’ he asked, pleadingly. He pulled out all the stops on Sirius, knowing he’d already made them watch the movie every night so far that week. His brown eyes grew big and his eyebrows tilted up in the way he knew made Sirius absolute putty for him.

“Of course we can,” Sirius laughed, not caring that he was completely wrapped around the boy’s finger.

It hadn’t taken more than twenty minutes for Teddy to crash from sickly exhaustion. He was sprawled out on Sirius’s chest, his leaking nose pressed to his collarbone and his breath only slightly rattling from the excess drainage. He flicked off the TV, content to just enjoy the quiet sounds of the little boy sleeping as he carded his fingers through the honey brown curls on his head.

Tilting his head down to bury his nose in Teddy’s hair, Sirius closed his eyes. He wrapped his arms around him, tucking Teddy’s blanket closer as the boy nuzzled further into Sirius.

“Love you, papa,” Teddy mumbled.

The words made tears burn in the back of Sirius’s eyes. “I love you too, Teddy.”

It was true, in just a few short months this child and his father had become the most important people in his life. He thought he had known love with Regulus and with James and even Remus, but as he brushed fever damp curls from Teddy’s forehead he realized the depth of his love. The things he was willing to do to keep Teddy safe… well, they terrified even Sirius.

The moment was interrupted by the buzzing of his phone, jammed down the side of the couch. Sirius quickly fished it out, not wanting anything to rob Teddy of much needed sleep. Not bothering to look at the name on the screen, he swiped to answer and held it up to his ear.

“Yeah?”

“Padfoot,” Wormtail shouted, clearly energized about something. “Hey man, we’ve got something brewing over here. Should be some serious action, we could use-“

“I’ve got Teddy tonight,” Sirius snapped. The last thing he wanted to do right now was get shot at or beat up. “Make do without me.”

“Are you fucking joking? We’ve got an opportunity for some well deserved retaliation and you’d rather what- stay home and play house with your gay ass little-“

“You better think real fucking hard about what’s going to fall out of your mouth next, Pettigrew,” Sirius growled, forcing himself not to jostle Teddy. “Take fucking Crouch with you if you’re so eager for bloodshed.”

“Whatever you say, VP,” Peter spat before hanging up.

Sirius tossed his phone a little harder than he meant and the clatter of it hitting the coffee table startled Teddy awake.

“Hey, sorry, Mini Moons. Go back to sleep.”

Teddy blinked up at him, his lip trembling slightly. “Papa, I don’t feel good.”

“I know,” Sirius shushed. “Try and sleep, though. In the morning you’ll be feeling better. Do you want a story or a song to go back to sleep?”

Teddy nodded with a small sniffle. “Song, please.”

“Alright,” Sirius said, kissing his head and shifting him a little more comfortably on his chest. Thinking for only a moment he started to hum quietly, the words lulling Teddy back to sleep quickly. “And the songbirds are singing, like they know the score. And I love you, I love you, I love you, like never before.”

#the sinners feast #marauders #wolfstar #wip #Dadfoot #teddy lupin

[copias-girl]

Any tips on how to write Ghost fanfiction? I just can't find the write.. voice? I'm struggling but have so many ideas.

Hiii! 🖤 Thank you so much for asking! Here’s what I do to get all my ideas down into one story (or several chapters of a story) and also how to write really vividly! This got kinda long so I added a cut <3

♥︎ First step is ✨DAYDREAMING✨ like for real, this is the most important step for writing any story. I put on a song that gives me the same vibe of the story, and I daydream about the idea that I have. I think of every little detail, so that way when I’m ready to write, I can just spew it all out. I find that if you just go in writing, you’ll have to stop and think about word choices or about details and that upsets the work flow. So daydream a whole bunch!

♥︎ Find a good starting point of your story. I feel like if you just have an idea but you don’t know where to start, it might not come out as well. But, if you have a scene really vividly in your mind, you could also try just writing that scene and then work on thinking about the beginning and how you get to that scene.

♥︎ Also I listen to music while I write. I know that’s not everyone’s cup of tea but I feel like listening to the song on loop helps to keep the same vibe and aesthetic throughout the story, especially if you’re not just writing this all in one go. So if you continue writing again the next day, it’ll help retain that feeling if that makes sense. (Vibes and aesthetics are very important lol)

♥︎ Also, if it’s a longer fic or multi chapter, I highly suggest keeping a separate note that has all your rough ideas. Throughout the day, I’ll think of something that I really want to add and I’ll put it in my note so that I remember it for later!

♥︎ And when you’re writing, don’t be afraid to write really indulgently. Repeat certain things for emphasis, add lots of italics, write like crazy and make it juicy! It might sound excessive when you’re writing it but when it’s finished it’ll sound great!

I hope this answers some questions! But honestly if you have any more questions about this or about writing the Papas, please don’t hesitate to send in another ask or my DMs are always always open to talk about this sort of thing! I love talking about writing! 🖤

~ Sugar <3

#ask box #lovely anon #if anyone else has questions like this ASK ME 🖤 #writing tips

[vonartsy]

Poisonous Flowers [ 1001] - Ch 5

Chapter five.

First chapter. Previous chapter.

    Bravo Team was then able to successfully bring the anomaly to M Lab and have it put in a more secure containment cell for research. And, with any luck, they wouldn’t have to deal with it again.

     “Salem. Guess you didn’t die.” I-12’s voice had a hint of disappointment. Why that was wasn’t to be discussed right now.

     “Must be such a sorrow for you, eh?” The passive aggressive tone in Brit’s voice wasn’t being hidden in the slightest. “Just tell me what excess I need to file and I’ll be on my way, okay?”

     “... Fine. We can chat later.” I-12 handed Brit several papers.

     He took the papers and glanced over them. There were two more than usual, which was two too many. “And sir?”

     I-12 tilted his head.

     “Please stop doing this.” He glared down at his boss.

    The robot was quiet for a little while. “No promises.”

     Brit sighed, stepping out of I-12’s office without another word. He couldn’t stand to be around that freak any longer.

     “Hi, angelo,” Dipaulo greeted with a smile. 

     “You were waiting for me?” 

     The man nodded. “Of course!”

     “Oh. Er, thanks.”

     Some silence passed, but it wasn’t awkward at all.

     “Hey, Dip?” Brit asked as him and Dipaulo walked back to their shared dorm.

     Dipaulo looked up at him. “Yeah?”

     “How come you knew where to find me?”

     “Oh. Well, just uh… just luck.” He shrugged. It wasn’t very convincing, but the answer wasn’t super important. Probably.

     “... Right.”

     When they got to their room, Dipaulo took off his equipment and shoved it in his drawers, gave Brit a goodnight kiss on the cheek, and plopped down on his bed to fall asleep. The mission that day was much more tiring than most others, so he felt that he deserved to sleep in a little extra. Besides, it was almost eleven. 

     Brit finished up the reports, finished being that he fell asleep at the desk.

     As for the other three, Erikson got an ice pack for Vance’s head, and also a Zyrtec® for his allergies… Phillips got them all a pack of cookies from the cafeteria to share.

This one's shorter than the others, and concludes the story. Any feedback is appreciated about it, or just thoughts in general. It was fun to write.

#M Lab Bravo Team #M Lab #[1000] #[1001] #Bravo Team #original writing #original story #original characters #my story #oc writing #character writing #writers on tumblr #writerscommunity #writing

[biffhofosho]

Hello! I'm so sorry I haven't responded in awhile, I came down with the flu lol. However, I am in awe that your favorite discography is No Limit(that's mine too🥰). I hope that you enjoyed your weekend with your family, I'll try to save my longer asks for week days as to not infringe on your deserved family time.

Im excited to start working on your gift, I already have a few ideas. Bare with me as I throw random questions at you haha

What is your favorite Hyungwon photoshoot? I'd love to know, or what about a favorite Hyungwon era lol? I personally am all about Gambler and No Limit.

You mentioned listening to Mercy so I HAVE to ask, do you have other favorite tracks written by him or the rest of the boys? Speaking of the rest of the guys, what's your favorite monsta x photoshoot if you have one? They can all be the same but for me personally they're different for some of these questions which is why I ask.

Anyway, I tried to keep this message rather short as to not consume too much of your time, Biff. However, during the days between responses, I wish you good heath and lovely days💚

xox mbb Secret Santa

The flu??? NO! I hope you are recovering well and that it wasn't too bad! But I did miss you, so I'm glad you're feeling well enough to send me another ask. <3

Hahaha, you were concerned about taking up too much of my time, but the joke's on you, babe: I can't do anything in a timely fashion when it comes to the Monstas. This reply has taken me an hour and a half legit because after collecting six years' worth of content, it's easy to get so lost in it. MBB are so spoiled. *sobs*

(Also, that's not a complaint. I had fun, but I promise that this is a lot more than you bargained for loooooooooooooool.)

Oh boy, gifties! Let's do this! ;)

Favorite Hyungwon photoshoot? In order to answer this, I had to endure the pain of going back through my comically large Hyungwon folder, and it was nothing but pain, but I endured for you, dear Santa. Since I am forced to choose, I will go with either the newest Dazed magazine shoot, which I imported a copy of, you better believe (heh heh), or his spread in Xiesta, which I just MIRACULOUSLY acquired a copy of after a full year of searching (mbb be going to their graves with that photobook in hand).

Evidence A:

Evidence B:

Don't let this confuse you though--my all time FAVORITE boy looks (and this goes for all the MX boys, though I'm in a mood now thanks to having to comb my folder, so I'm gonna double-down on the HW ham here) are:

1) [most fave] white tee/jeans (bonus points, ballcap)

2) GLASSES.

3) Hoodies

4) Candid boyfriend looks

5) One-of-a-kind features

(Hyungwon's lip freckle and his special ear make me scream incoherently into the abyss on the regular just like Wonho's bellybutton freckle or Minhyuk's slow blink or Kihyun's lip corner beauty mark do.)

Favorite era for Wonnie though??????? Okay, the ones you named are top-tier to be sure, but as far as I'm concerned his era for me is now. I've never seen him living so bravely or truly, and it is doing all kinds of funny things to my brain. He's grown into such a confident man that it has me, a very confident woman, quaking.

My other favorite Hyungwon tracks are "Nobody Else" and "Wildfire." Head empty. Only Hyungwon. Oof. As far as other songs: "Night View" destroys me; "Kiss or Death" remains my favorite MV and I absolutely HATE that that gem of a song was relegated to the Universe app and I never even got my gd choreo; "Love" in headphones is a masterpiece; "Champagne" is my fave Japanese track; and "Monsta Truck" is my fave OT7 song.

Favorite group shoots are: OT7 - Are You There? album shoots, specifically Versions II & III

(Is my bias showing??? haha)

OR

Fatal Love shoots, specifically this one where they are all millionaire CEOs:

And the Chillax Mode photobook (though the MX University is a close runner-up as well).

Sorry this was excessive. I spiral easily. ;) Forgive me?

Real talk: I love that we have so many things in common! You are the perfect Santa for me, beloved! <3 And as you can see, you remained anon! I have been TERRIFIED of doing that myself. I check and re-check and re-re-check before I send mine lol!

Have a wondrous day/night/twilight/whatever, my precious Santa!

#asks #new friend #secret santa #my santa has immaculate taste #i went overboard #i'm sorry they just make me do that

[themindofastrid]

Tree lessons🍃

A few days ago I was walking around college, simply observing nature. As I walked through the campus, I came across these beautiful, leafy, and tall trees pictured above. Standing in awe in front of the trees, I wondered ‘what lessons can trees teach us about life?’

After thoroughly considering what my answer to this question would be, I realized that a tree’s life cycle has all the lessons we might need if we examine it slowly.

A tree can teach us about the importance of patience by considering that, on average, it takes 20-30 years for most trees to reach full maturity. They start as little seeds, and with the proper care and the right timing, they become fully grown trees, just like humans. However, unlike humans, while in their developmental stage, they’re not rushing into maturity; they grow at their own pace, grasping all the nutrients they need and leaving the ones they don’t as they go.

Lesson #1: If you’re feeling like you’re behind and need to go faster to catch up, be like the trees and remember to follow your own pace. You’re doing great and you’re right on time.

Another component of a tree’s growth is seasons. As we know, for most trees, spring brings new leaves and flowers, summer brings fruits and shiny leaves, autumn brings orange to the leaves and prepares them to fall, and winter brings dehydration and defensive mechanisms. Yet, this isn’t true for all trees, which teach us the importance of honoring our seasons by respecting our individuality.

Lesson #2: Honor your seasons by remembering you’re one of a kind, and it’s totally fine if you don’t go through the same changes others go through in winter or spring. Be true to who you are.

While seasons and pace play a crucial role in a tree’s life, they couldn’t endure all these stages successfully if their roots weren’t strong enough. In order to remain healthy and growing, trees require plenty of water, nutrients, sunlight, carbon dioxide, and (of course) humans. Nevertheless, when humans and resources start lacking or stop showing up, trees use their roots to search within the soil and obtain the resources they need to stay strong and healthy.

Lesson #3: Just like trees, we will always need someone to look after us, but remember you always need to make sure you look after yourself. Keep your roots strong and your soil fertile by showering yourself with love every day.

Lastly, is important to note that while an absence of resources can be very harmful for trees, so can be an excess of them. If a tree doesn’t get enough water, sunlight, carbon dioxide and nutrients, the roots will dehydrate, the leaves will wilt and droop, and the growth will stop. The same thing will happen if the trees get an excessive amount of water, sunlight, carbon dioxide and nutrients.

Lesson #4: It’s all about balance. You don’t have to depend on everything and everyone around you to get through life, but you don't have to figure it all out on your own. You can ask for help while also strengthening your skills, have an active social life while also making time for yourself, and have boundaries and take care of yourself without sacrificing your relationships.

So the next time you feel like giving up, remember you're a tree, and you have all it takes to keep your roots strong enough to sustain you as you face the difficulties of life.

— @themindofastrid

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[krystalalinawinters]

Hello. I have a few questions, for you. Of course, you don't have to answer them, if you don't want to.

What is your opinion on Star wars? How did you come to it?

Do you prefer canon or legends? If you have a preference, why is that?

Do you have experiences With dc comics? Do you have a favorite hero, of this certain comic company? If yes, why?

Do you think that palpatine's return, in both legends and canon, changes anything about Vader's death? Do you think that vader killing the emperor, and the emperor coming back, makes Vader's death seem not as important?

What is your opinion on Luke saying that, he wouldn't go after caedus, because he knew that he couldn't hold himself back from killing him?

Do you think that yoda is a good teacher? If yes, why? If no, why?

What is your opinion on dumbledore, from the Harry Potter series?

I thank you for your time, and hope you have a great morning, day or night.

Hello, mo1475! I’m happy to answer questions :) Though I've probably ranted excessively…

I am familiar with Star Wars, and I have a generally good opinion of the content I’ve interacted with; however, it’s been some time since I last interacted with the franchise in earnest, so I’m not familiar with the more recent series.

I’d assume I prefer canon? I haven’t seen Legends, so I can’t give a definitive answer to this one.

I do have knowledge of DC, though it’s more in the form of “I’ve read enough fanfiction to understand the plot points” than “I’ve read the comics”. I have watched some episodes of The Flash and Arrow, among other things, but I’ve never even touched a DC comic book. And yes, I do have a favourite DC hero, with no competition for the title: Red Robin | Tim Drake. It’s hard to explain why I like him, especially since I’ve only been familiar with the fanon version of him. I just think he’s neat. (If I had to pick a second favourite, it would probably be another member of the Batfam—most likely Cass)

Unlike many Star Wars fans, I don’t have a very strong opinion about Palpatine’s return, though in response to your question, I must say that it does take away from Vader’s death. I barely remember anything about the original six movies (I haven’t watched them in years), but Vader’s death is one scene I do remember. Anything that takes away from the significance of that scene, which stuck in even a child’s mind, is a bad choice in writing, in my opinion.

I’m unfamiliar with this plot point. I… have no idea who caedus is.

I don’t really have an opinion on Yoda. I’ve always thought the lore around him was a little weird; I didn’t pay much attention to it. I suppose he must, to some extent, have been a good teacher, since Luke won, but there’s also Dooku, so… ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Dumbledore… feels unimportant. I never focused on him much as a character because of that. I liked learning his backstory, but that was probably the only time I cared about him. I found him boring and preferred to obsess over Hermione, Remus, Hedwig, Draco, and Professor McGonagall. It felt like Dumbledore did nothing to advance the plot… and then died. Beyond that—and I’m probably being too harsh because of this—it’s frustrating that J. K. Rowling declared he was gay to get representation points without putting anything into the books about it. I understand clarifying sexualities outside of source material when they’re ambiguous, but there should have been enough evidence in the text for people to infer that he wasn’t straight.

Thank you for the ask! I enjoyed answering—gave me a good break from the crippling weight of deadlines. I hope you have a good morning, day or night as well!

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[basicsofislam]

ISLAM 101: Muslim Culture and Character: Morals And Manners: Part 16

RETURNING EVIL WITH GOOD

Wickedness is weak, even when it seems to be victorious. In fact, wickedness cannot escape the destiny of its ultimate destruction. Goodness, honesty, and righteousness are the conquerors of the heart, and they are powerful in and of themselves. When good and evil truly come head to head with one another, there are very few people who will not respect good and despise evil. This clearly demonstrates that goodness and evil cannot be one.

It is good to forgive the wrong. But to return evil with good on top of forgiveness is to win over the heart of the one who was against you.

And none are ever enabled to attain it (such great virtue) save those who are patient (in adversities and against the temptations of their souls and Satan), and none are ever enabled to attain it save those who have a great part in human perfections and virtues. And if a prompting from Satan should stir in you (when carrying out your mission or during worship or in your daily life), seek refuge in God immediately. He is the One Who is the All-Hearing, the All-Knowing. (Fussilat 41:35–36)

In terms of the struggle between good and evil, Satan is grievously disappointed when believers respond to evil with good. For he wants the believers to do something wrong, even some small reaction so that he can use it to create doubts in the believers. In fact, if the believers show even the tiniest bit of excess in their response to those who attack them, some might say that “they were influenced by Satan’s whispers.” This will cause believers to lose a large part of their power. By reacting they cast a small shadow over their righteousness, even if they were completely in the right, and those who see this shadow will have, to some extent, an excuse. The following hadith provides a very useful commentary on the verse above:

One day a man came up to Abu Bakr and began to heap insults on him. The Prophet, peace, and blessings are upon him, was also there. As the man insulted him, Abu Bakr listened but gave no reply. The Prophet was smiling. Finally, Abu Bakr could no longer stand it and gave a harsh retort. The Prophet’s countenance changed and he left. Abu Bakr followed him out to ask him why he left. He answered, “When you were quiet, there was an angel answering on your behalf. But when you opened your mouth, Satan showed up. I cannot stay in the same place as Satan.”

In relation to this issue of repelling falsehood with truth and responding with what is the best in conduct, the Qur’an says,

(But whatever they may say or do,) repel the evil (done to you and committed against your mission) with the best  (of what you can do). We know best all that they falsely attribute to Us. And say, “My Lord! I seek refuge in You from the promptings and provocations of the satans (of the jinn and humankind especially in my relations with people, while I am performing my mission). I seek refuge in You, my Lord, lest they be present with me.” (Mu’minun 23:96–98)

Just as one must refuse to heed slights and wrongs, it is also important to respond to wrongs with the best possible positive action.

Adopt the way of forbearance and tolerance, and enjoin what is good and right, and withdraw from the ignorant ones (do not care what they say and do). And if a prompting from Satan should cause you to hurt (as you carry out your mission or during worship or in your everyday life), seek refuge in God. He is All-Hearing, All-Knowing. (A’raf 7:199–200)

A believer is commanded to take refuge in God when they hear any whispers from within themselves that urge them to take any action that is against God’s commands and which will not please God. In every situation when a person is subject to such whispers regarding the essentials of faith, worship, prohibitions, or how to treat people— in short, any aspect of life—they must turn to God and seek His protection. On the surface, the verse above seems to be addressed to the Prophet, but it is in fact intended for all people.

Those who keep from disobedience to God in reverence for Him and piety: when a suggestion from Satan touches them— they are alert and remember God, and then they have clear discernment. Whereas their brothers (the brothers of the satans in the form of human beings)—satans draw them deeper into error and do not relax in their efforts. (A’raf 7:201–202)

Those who refrain from setting themselves against God never feel completely secure that they will do no wrong. Satan also tries to influence them. He can cloud their vision and they are potentially susceptible to the images and ideas he puts in their heads. But before long they will perceive the truth, remembering that they must seek refuge in God; their understanding will become clear and thus they will be saved from doing wrong.

Consider the promise of reward announced by our Prophet for the person who avoids an argument, even if they are in the right: “For the person who avoids an argument, even when they are in the right, I guarantee a mansion in the corner of Heaven. And for the one who never lies, even in jest, there is a mansion in the center of Heaven. And for the person of good morals, I guarantee a mansion at the highest level of Heaven.”

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