#ace representation matters

[casualbuttercupblog]

*ahem* SHIPPING AN AROACE CHARACTER WITHOUT REGARD TO THEIR ROMANTIC ORIENTATION IS JUST AS BAD AS SHIPPING A GAY MAN WITH A WOMAN 📣📣📣

#aromantic #aro pride #aro discourse #aromantic characters #aro characters #aromantic representation matters #and we get so little of it #asexual #asexual discourse #ace pride #asexual pride #ace representation matters #asexual caracters #yes i am yet again talking about hazbin hotel #yes this is about alastor #give me hat if you really want #alastor #hazbin hotel #alastor hazbin hotel

[cephalopod-celabrator]

"Okay, but every character is queer, that feels like an unrealistic amount of representation" Good. They owe us several centuries of erasure, plus tax. The only problem with over-abundant queer representation is if it's A) only in the villainous/non-human characters and/or B) focuses entirely on the more "easy to understand" identities.

#queer #queer pride #gay #gay pride #bi #bi pride #lesbian #lesbian pride #trans #trans pride #representation matters #enby #enby pride #aromantic pride #aro #asexual pride #ace #genderfluid pride #genderqueer pride #writing #books #queer representation

[redysetdare]

It's all "you guys need to understand how SUBTEXT and CODING are usually the only confirmation of representation queer people get in media especially in older media" but once that subtext and coding is used to say a character might be aro or ace coded/have aro/ace subtext then suddenly it's not a valid way to claim representation. Then it's only "headcanon" or "not confirmed" like do you all hear yourselves? It'd be so much easier to say you hate aro/ace ppl at this rate!

#text #aro #ace #aroace #aromantic #asexual #'thats not what the creator intended' when has that ever stopped queer ppl from finding queer rep? #its just obvious a lot of queer ppl dont include aro and ace ppl as queer #it was so blatantly obvious with out everyone threw the idea of subtext and coding out the window #when it came to ppl complaining abt riverdale erasing jugheads aroace identity #suddenly subtext and coding didnt matter when it was an aroace character #suddenly 'different iterations always change the characters sexuality! there is no canon!' #and it only happened to shut up aro and ace ppl who were rightfully upset #that our identities were thrown to the curb on one of our only representation in medua

[olive-garden-hoe]

No no because you don’t understand how absolutely gut-wrenchingly happy it makes me that there are CANON asexual characters and little ace kids can grow up knowing they’re not broken and it’s actually being talked about and it’s not being synonymous with aromanticism im SCREAMING

#asexuality #asexual #asexuel #asexaul #actually ace #aspec pride #ace representation #representation matters #aromanticism #aromantic #aroace #ace pride #ace problems #I’m so happy for them #aspec stuff #aro representation

[whereserpentswalk]

Characters can be nonhuman and not have their identity be a big part of their arc and still be good representation and have their identity be meaningful, for example, Alastor the radio demon (ace rep). But these things can also make it feel like the character in question has their identity exist as nothing more then fandom trivia or headcannons, for example, Alastor the radio demon (poc rep).

#196 #my thougts #representation #representation matters #queer representation #queer #ace #asexual #aroace #poc #alastor #alastor hazbin hotel #alastor the radio demon #hazbin hotel #hazbin alastor

[boiiiko]

If Netflix won’t do the promotion, I will. 

Heartbreak High. Go. Watch. Now. 

Go go go go go go. 

#queer folk GO GET YOUR DOPAMINE #💯on rotten 🍅 #5 tumblrinas working overtime to get this show on the map #this is a public service announcement #messing up my sweet color palette for this #heartbreak high #listen to stefon bruh #ace #asexual #enby #nonbinary #lgbtq #lgbtqia #aboriginal #indigenous #autistic #neurodivergent #representation matters

[nag-mamahal]

As a romantic asexual I headcanon just about every single character (and ship) I like as asexual/on the ace spectrum. I just feel there's not enough representation of non-sexual beings engaged in romantic love in popular media. I'd really love it if more stories explored good and fulfilling partnerships that thrive even without sexual intimacy. I'm not against characters being sexy or having sex I think it's just really neat when figures can exist and fall in love without a big part of the relationship revolving around fucking. I love when people, ace or not, can explore their sexuality on their own terms and set boundaries that are accepted and respected by their partners. I love when they realize they're more than their body and what their body is able to provide in terms of sexual fulfillment. I love emotional intimacy independent of the pressure of sex.

#asexual #media #post inspired by my current blorbo #astarion #ik he's canonically pan but in my heart he's on the asexual spectrum #idk maybe im just projecting a bit too much as someone who is ace and also experienced sa #whatever his orientation he is certainly an icon to the wider ace community #man i just really wish there's more out and out ace representation in mainstream media TT #specifically romantic aces #bc I feel like when there is rep it's usually aro/aces #who are then made fun of #idk i just want more ace rep #better ace rep #pls big media corps pls indie creators #doesnt matter what subtype gay straight or bi #sex averse or sex neutral whatever #pls more ace rep #own thoughts

[littledudesclub]

It took me a while to figure out I was aroace, I’d heard the definitions countless times, for both aro and ace, I’d even described my own experience in my own words and it fit the common definition, but it never clicked.

Until I began reading comics and stories and watching videos about what other people’s experiences of being ace and aro were like, and then it made sense.

I can’t say for sure that the common definitions haven’t helped somebody figure it out, but for me there were so many nuances and experiences that just weren’t conveyed.

And that’s why I think accurate representation in storytelling is so important, when you see a character who acts like you and has the same feelings as you, it much easier to go “hey I’m like them”, than to do that with a faceless definition.

Also it helps people to feel less alone in their identities, because when there’s a character or a person like you, you know you can’t be the only one out there.

#thoughts #asexual #aromantic #aroace #representation matters #acespec #arospec #ace week

[captainofamillionlittletimes]

Yelena Belova is canonically aroace pass it on

#Yelena #yelena belova #white widow #natasha and yelena #yelena marvel #yelena x reader #yelena x kate #kate x yelena #bishova #black widows #aroace #aro #Ace #stop the ships #representation matters #so stop taking what isn’t yours #and that’s coming from someone who’s not aroace #I also love Kate #and I have nothing against her #I would argue that Kate is more so my favorite compared to Yelena #but stop shipping Yelena with people #you are invalidating her sexuality #that’s like shipping a gay man and a lesbian

[tyfinn]

Aces Are (Not) Wild

Happy Ace Awareness Week!

I was encouraged by @a-noble-dragon to write a fic for Asexual Awareness Week, and this idea about Ruth coming out to Stevie seemed like a great opportunity to show some aces do want a relationship. Stevie, of course, needs to sort through this new information, and David and Patrick are there to help.

Aces Are (Not) Wild is the result.

#schitt’s creek fanfic #ace awareness week #ace fic #acespec #ace vibes #representation matters #ace representation

[starrytalking]

Recently I was at a meet-up-thing for a-spec people and one of the older ones who organise these meet-ups said in the course of a conversation “well I’m ace and whatever sort of attraction I might feel every time a full moon aligns with the bloom of a special flower won’t shake my understanding of myself, I’m secure enough in who I am to not let that shatter my picture of myself” (that was a very loose quote but I think u get what she meant). And I just found it so funny cause she said it like it was a ridiculous thought to herself, that something small like that could impact herself so much because she’s obviously very at piece and secure with and in her asexuality and while I’m also quite sure of myself in that regard nowadays, there was a long period of time where a random maybe-attraction could definitely make myself question my whole sexuality all over again so that ridiculous thought was and in parts still is a reality to me. And I think this really beautifully shows how self-discovery is a process that we’re all taking at our own pace but that can “end” at some point where we can still be open to new feelings and realisations but where we can have found a way to self-identify that makes us be secure in who we are and where the path of self-discovery is less a daily shattering of our perception of ourselves and more a stable ground we can be free to make new experiences on.

#starrytalking #just to be clear she obviously spoke about her own experiences and I’m pretty sure she didn’t mean to invalidate anyone who would be really #unsettled after experiencing something that makes them going into questioning all over again #also that wasn’t the main topic of that conversation it just briefly came up #and I found it funny in what different stages of questioning and self-identification we are #so it was funny but also cool to see how open she is about her asexuality and how safe she feels in it #like the older people at this meet up honestly make me so emotional because I’m not even out to most people I know and these people are out #there living their lives and being openly ace and organising meet-ups and holding speeches and being in YouTube videos #it’s honestly so so cool to see that!!! and that’s exactly why representation matters! because it makes me believe that asexuality is real #and that my feelings are normal and valid which is super helpful at times where my head tries to tell me that it’s all just on the internet #which isn’t true but it kinda feels like it but with these meet-ups and friends of mine also being aspec and storylines like Isaacs in #Heartstopper I can feel more secure of that :))) #asexual #ace #aroace #aspec #lgbtq+ #queer #thoughts #representation matters #self discovery

[demisexualnathanvuornos]

Aro/Ace short films

Zucchini (2018) by Mercedes Diehl

(A)Romantic Production (2022) by Kass Parish

A Matter of Trust (2022) by L.T. Howell

S.O.S. (2015) by Seung Yeob Lee

Aces (2022) by Jordan-Paige Sudduth

THƠ (2020) by Heather Muriel Nguyễn & Jake Villadolid

#zucchini 2018 #(a)romantic production 2022 #a matter of trust 2022 #s.o.s short film 2015 #aces 2022 #female directors #asian directors #ace representation #mercedes diehl #kass parish #l.t. howell #seung yeob lee #jordan paige sudduth #Heather Muriel Nguyễn #nocticola art #these are the ones i've watched #aces and s.o.s have graphics #THƠ #has a graphic but i'll do more later #i'm working on the others #youtube also has #aro/ace short film #which i haven't watched #and i still haven't paid vimeo to watch between complete and incomplete #all of these are on youtube #except s.o.s which is on vimeo without subtitles #but the acesthetics of it are on point

[that-local-punk-kid]

yesterday, I read a fanfiction that is now living rent free in my head

a fic so beautiful, so well thought and so well loved, that if felt like an old friend, like thoughts I had forgotten and words I was missing to describe some very real feelings I'd never managed to quite voice

and yet, there it was, written in front of me by someone who never met me, and only wanted to write a heartbreaking, gut wrenching, beautiful love story that brought me Emotions I never thought I'd feel

Seeing someone just like me, asexual, in the media, has always been a weird experience, because they rarely really are like me. They are not made by and for ace people. Most of them will be "fixed" in the end, as if there was something to fix on someone who was never broken

but yesterday I read a fic of an ace-aligned character, a character who experienced the same struggles I do trying to understand himself and his relation with love, romance and attraction, the same struggles of wanting but not wanting, if feeling safe but not comfortable, and when finally comfortable, still unsure and afraid

I never thought I'd read in a fanfiction the words I've heard from my own girlfriend when I cried after stopping her from touching me

"we can stop" I read, I heard "you don't need to- you can just focus on feeling good"

and it was so soft, both times, but even more so reading it and knowing other people would read it and see themselves there too, read that there's no expectations on them, they don't need to meet standarts or expectarions

we can just feel good

#fanfiction #fanfic #ao3 fic #ace #asexual #asexuality #ace representation #good representation #representation matters #I felt so seen for the first time #i cried #there was just #so many Emotions #lgbt #queer

[shy-forceghost]

One of my best friends just tagged me on a post about "Loveless" and told me "I think you would love this book".

I was like: "how do I explain to you that this book has become my bible? How do I put into words that this book showed me the path to answers I've been looking for my whole life? How can I put into words how much this story has impacted me?"

But "yes", I said, "I love that book".

#the aroace validation I felt was amazing #this one is also the friend who constantly taggs me on ace-related posts #so this is proof that explicit-canon-aroace representation matters and actually helps aroace people so much #loveless #loveless alice oseman #osemanverse #aromantic #asexual

[punki-miltonia]

I want urban fantasy with sirens operating scam websites and email spam scams. In the modern day and age, sirens aren’t sitting in a public fountain singing to you. They’re sending you emails pretending to be a long lost grand mother requesting help after she’s fallen into financial ruin. Honestly a siren could lure me in with a song about garlic bread.

#quality representation matters #pirates interrupted the sapphic ace choir practice #mildly ace meme? #ace memes #sirens #sapphic #urban fantasy #in this world fae would be faeristas