Yalnızlık, yaşamda bir an,
Hep yeniden başlayan..
Dışından anlaşılmaz...
_ Özdemir Asaf
'Yalnızlığın hiçbir şeye ihtiyacı yok. O her şeyi öğretir.
_ Enid Bagnold
Ruhumuzu bütün çıplaklığıyla kimseye gösteremediğimiz için daima yalnız kalmaya mahkumuz...
_Leyla Erbil
Zaten hiçbir şeyi kararında bırakamamak ve ortasını bulamamak gibi bir sorunum var benim. Epeyce göçebe yaşadım, sadece iki valizim oldu. Bir yığın insan tanıdım ama hep yalnızdım.
_Didem Madak.
based on: The White Crane Institute's 'Gay Wisdom', Gay Birthdays, Gay For Today, Famous GLBT, glbt-Gay Encylopedia, Today in Gay History, Wikipedia, and more … December 30
1865 – Rudyard Kipling (d.1936) in "The Appeal" begged "Seek not to question other than / The books I leave behind." The two-line poem written shortly before his death is decribed by his editor M. M. Kaye as "a plea to posterity to respect his private life." Such an appeal proves especially ironic having been made by a man who deliberately lived by far the greatest part of his life in the public eye, as a result of his novels, stories, poetry, and politics.
Born in India and schooled in England, in his late teens Kipling entered the public stage as a newspaperman in India; the poems and prose vignettes of British colonial and native life in South Asia that he wrote for local publications proved wildly successful when collected and republished in book form in England. They established him as one of the most original voices of his generation. For the entire of his adult life Kipling fashioned himself as the conscience of the English-speaking world, refusing government honors in order to remain free to pontificate publicly on a host of social, political, and economic issues.
In the vein of the opening quote, the systematic destruction of his private papers (letters, diaries, and drafts of works), begun by Kipling while alive, was continued by his wife after his death, and completed by his daughter following Mrs. Kipling's own demise. Consequently, most of the evidence concerning Kipling's private life has been lost, while suspicion has been aroused of a secret that Kipling and his family hoped to suppress.
That secret, biographer Martin Seymour-Smith concluded in 1989, is that Kipling was in love with a charming, young, American literary agent, Wolcott Balestier, who died suddenly in 1891, and that a grief-stricken Kipling married the man's sister Caroline only six weeks later out of a sense of loyalty to his departed friend and/or guilt over his homosexual desire.
Kipling's nature was so deeply homosocial, echoed in the "brotherly love" that permeates his writings, that even after he married, he proved incapable of representing heterosexual love in anything other than a stilted, wooden way. In adulthood, he bonded closely with men like Henry James (who gave away the bride at the Kiplings' wedding), Edmund Gosse, and Cecil Rhodes who are now recognized to have been discreet or closeted homosexuals. Contemporaries questioned Kipling's orientation. For example, writer Enid Bagnold wondered—after she had become friendly with Kipling and his wife—if the older man was not a repressed homosexual.
As Martin Seymour-Smith interprets the facts of Kipling's life, Kipling feared expressing homosexual desire because he associated homosexual acts with "beastliness" and anarchy. His small size made him particularly vulnerable to other boys' advances in school, further coloring with anxiety any desire that he may have felt. Although in later life he publicly insisted that United Services College had been free of "uncleanness" while he was in residence there, he complained privately of the sexual activities that he had indeed regularly witnessed among his contemporaries, and in which he himself was accused of participating by one of his schoolmasters.
However, Leon Edel concluded Kiping's homosexuality was so buried that although "Between Balestier and Kipling it was a case of camaraderie and of love, almost at first sight. Platonic, quite clearly." that "Both would have been terrified at any other suggestion."
1901 – Beauford Delaney (d.1979) was an American modernist painter. He is remembered for his work with the Harlem Renaissance in the 1930s and 1940s, as well as his later works in abstract expressionism following his move to Paris in the 1950s.
Born in 1901, Delaney began working with Lloyd Branson, a Knoxville impressionist painter who saw talent in the young artist and took him under his wing when he was about 20 years old.
The Time of Your Life
In 1923, Delaney left home for Boston, where he studied at several schools, including the Massachusetts Normal School and the South Boston School of Art. He made his way in 1929 to New York, where he floated between Greenwich Village and Harlem. With the city in the throes of the Great Depression, he supported himself with various small jobs while painting simple but earnest portraits, modernist interiors and urban street scenes often depicting the disenfranchised and downtrodden.
In 1953, at the age of 52, Delaney moved to Paris, where his friend, James Baldwin, had already fallen into a steady rhythm of expat life. Settling in the Left Bank neighborhood of Montparnasse, an artists’ enclave, Delaney, like Baldwin, relished a sense of freedom as a gay black man that he did not have in the United States.Delaney found little commercial success in Paris and survived mostly on the generosity of friends and dedicated patrons. Existing mental health problems only intensified and, by the 1960s, his decline was fueled by heavy drinking and the onset of schizophrenia. A year after his Harlem retrospective, he was dead. Baldwin and other friends paid for his burial in the Thiais cemetery near Paris.
1956 – Larry Duplechan, born in Los Angeles, California, is an American novelist. He is best known for his novels Blackbird, which is being adapted into a forthcoming film starring Mo'Nique and Isiah Washington, and Got 'til It's Gone, which won a Lambda Literary Award in the Gay Romance category at the 21st Lambda Literary Awards.
After graduation, he initially pursued a career in music, both as a solo singer and as a member of a jazz vocal group, but gave it up after the time demands of pursuing music while also holding down a full time day job began to threaten his relationship with his partner Greg Harvey.
Duplechan published his first novel, Eight Days a Week, in 1985. The novel introduced Johnnie Ray Rousseau, the lead character in nearly all of his subsequent novels. Blackbird, a prequel novel focusing on Rousseau's childhood, was published the following year and more strongly established Duplechan's reputation as an important writer of gay African-American fiction. He has also been identified as one of the first important gay writers to have come of age after the Stonewall riots, and whose writing thus lacked the internalized homophobia that often characterized the work of the previous generation of gay writers.
In 1990, he published Tangled Up in Blue, an AIDS-themed novel which was his only work not to feature Rousseau as its central character, although its main characters reappear in Duplechan's subsequent Rousseau novels as supporting characters.
Duplechan's next novel Captain Swing (1993) returned to Rousseau, and found him grieving the death of his boyfriend Keith in a car accident.
After Captain Swing, Duplechan took a hiatus from writing for several years and returned to singing, founding an a cappella vocal group and participating in community choirs after the home he shared with Harvey was damaged in the 1994 Northridge earthquake. A new 20th anniversary edition of Blackbird was published by Arsenal Pulp Press in 2006, and Duplechan's most recent novel to date, Got 'til It's Gone, was published by the same company in 2008.
Duplechan and Harvey legally married in 2008, during the period between the initial legalization of same-sex marriage in California and the passage of Proposition 8.
.Peter Mark Brant and brother Harry
1993 – Peter Mark Brant Jr. is an American socialite and model.
Peter Mark Brant Jr. was born and raised in Greenwich, Connecticut. Brant is the son of businessman and art collector Peter M. Brant and model Stephanie Seymour.
In 2011, Brant publicly came out as gay.
In 2014, Brant was quoted in a Harper's Bazaar profile of him, his brother Harry and mother, Stephanie, about enjoying his clan's notoriety, "We had to do a report about our parents: where they were born, what they did, and all that. Everyone else had to do theirs as homework, but I finished mine before class ended using Wikipedia."
In 2015, Peter along with his younger brother Harry, in collaboration with Mac Cosmetics, launched a unisex cosmetics line aimed at the Gender fluid youth movement.
In 2021, Harry died after an accidental drug overdose. The 24-year-old socialite and fashion circuit fixture had struggled with addiction and was due to enter a rehab facility imminently. Peter posted a tribute to him on Twitter.
1994 – Isaac Cole Powell is an American actor and singer. He played the role of Daniel in the Broadway revival of the musical Once on This Island and was cast as Tony in the 2020 Broadway revival of West Side Story.
Powell was raised in Greensboro, North Carolina, the youngest of three children born to Terry and Will Powell, a three-time world CrossFit champion. His father is Mixed Native American and African-American; his mother is Caucasian. His sister, Jessica Powell, stars on TLC's My Big Fat Fabulous Life and is a Certified Personal Trainer at their father's fitness studio. Powell began to act in middle school with the Community Theatre of Greensboro. He attended Philip J. Weaver Academy, a performing arts high school, before transferring to a boarding program at the University of North Carolina School of the Arts (UNCSA) during his senior year of high school. He graduated from UNCSA with an acting degree in May 2017.
In November 2020, Powell was cast in Universal Pictures and director Stephen Chbosky's film adaptation of Dear Evan Hansen as new character Rhys, a high school jock.
Powell is gay and came out at the age of sixteen. In 2016, Powell met Broadway actor, Wesley Taylor, when Taylor was visiting University of North Carolina School of the Arts where Powell was a junior in the school's theatre program. The two then began a relationship in 2017 and were engaged in May 2019. They ended their relationship in 2021.
1998 – New Ways Ministries, a Catholic group, took out a full page ad in the New York Times calling for an end to anti-gay violence.
“Who wants to become a writer? And why? Because it’s the answer to everything. … It’s the streaming reason for living. To note, to pin down, to build up, to create, to be astonished at nothing, to cherish the oddities, to let nothing go down the drain, to make something, to make a great flower out of life, even if it’s a cactus.”
—Enid Bagnold
Best quotes on father
Best quotes on father, aphorisms, ideas, maxims and proverbs by various and famous writers, artists and authors on fathers. A hearty tribute to our dear dads.
Father! - to God himself we cannot give a holier name.
William Wordsworth
That he delights in the misery of others no man will confess, and yet what other motive can make a father cruel?
Joseph Addison
When my father worked I spent little time with him. Then he got sick and so we spent several hours a day together. Then in the end he died and now we are inseparable.
Carl William Brown
Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.
Exodus 20:12
Do not bandy words with your father, nor treat him as a dotard, nor reproach the old man, who has cherished you, with his age.
Aristophanes
Dad, your guiding hand on my shoulder will remain with me forever.
Author Unknown
A father is always making his baby into a little woman. And when she is a woman he turns her back again.
Enid Bagnold
When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much he had learned in seven years.
Mark Twain
If the relationship of father to son could really be reduced to biology, the whole earth would blaze with the glory of fathers and sons.
James Baldwin
Those who have never had a father can at any rate never know the sweets of losing one. To most men the death of his father is a new lease of life.
Samuel Butler
Death freed my father from his evils and unfortunately imprisoned me even more in mine.
Carl William Brown
Those who have never had a father can at any rate never know the sweets of losing one. To most men the death of his father is a new lease of life.
Samuel Butler
As fathers commonly go, it is seldom a misfortune to be fatherless; and considering the general run of sons, as seldom a misfortune to be childless.
Philip Dormer Stanhope Chesterfield
The father who does not teach his son his duties is equally guilty with the son who neglects them.
Confucius
If the new American father feels bewildered and even defeated, let him take comfort from the fact that whatever he does in any fathering situation has a fifty percent chance of being right.
Bill Cosby
At home my father always read the newspaper, which is why perhaps I developed this habit of writing against stupidity.
Carl William Brown
I believe that what we become depends on what our fathers teach us at odd moments, when they aren’t trying to teach us. We are formed by little scraps of wisdom.
Umberto Eco
Brown with his father Luciano in 2006
Be kind to thy father, for when thou were young, who loved thee so fondly as he? He caught the first accents that fell from thy tongue, and joined in thy innocent glee.
Margaret Courtney
What a dreadful thing it must be to have a dull father.
Mary Mapes Dodge
Noble fathers have noble children.
Euripides
My father always observed the laws, but he never cared to look at those who did not observe them. These were the two biggest flaws of him.
Carl William Brown
The place of the father in the modern suburban family is a very small one, particularly if he plays golf, which he usually does.
Bertrand Russell
You know, fathers just have a way of putting everything together.
Erika Cosby
To a father growing old nothing is dearer than a daughter.
Euripides
I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father's protection.
Sigmund Freud
To be a successful father... there's one absolute rule: when you have a kid, don't look at it for the first two years.
Ernest Hemingway
I bet that none of us has ever wanted to come into the world, and probably even Jesus didn't really want to, he was forced to, in fact it was his father who sent him.
Carl William Brown
One father is more than a hundred schoolmasters.
George Herbert
There are fathers who do not love their children, but there is no grandfather who does not adore his grandson.
Victor Hugo
Sons have always a rebellious wish to be disillusioned by that which charmed their fathers.
Aldous Huxley
My father didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.
Clarence Budington Kelland
No love is greater than that of a father for His son.
Dan Brown
A man who is not a father to his children can never be a real man.
Mario Puzo
A father’s tears and fears are unseen, his love is unexpressed, but his care and protection remains as a pillar of strength throughout our lives.
Ama H. Vanniarachchy
When I was small I felt like a Superhero as my father threw me up in the air. Now after reaching this success peak I unmask – Real Superhero made me Superhero!
Hasil Paudyal
His father watched him across the gulf of years and pathos which always must divide a father from his son.
John Marquand
There's something like a line of gold thread running through a man's words when he talks to his daughter, and gradually over the years it gets to be long enough for you to pick up in your hands and weave into a cloth that feels like love itself.
John Gregory Brown
Best quotes on Dads
A man knows when he is growing old because he begins to look like his father.
Gabriel Garcia Marquez
My daddy, he was somewhere between God and John Wayne.
Hank Williams, Jr.
My father always tells me I'm not tired of calling everyone an idiot, but I tell him it's my favorite pastime.
Carl William Brown
One never knows anything about one's father. A father ... is a passageway immersed in the deepest darkness, where we stumble blindly seeking a way out.
Roberto Bolaño
When one has not had a good father, one must create one.
Friedrich Nietzsche
In the minds of women, fatherhood used to be considered a part-time job. It was something men did at the end of the day between parking the car for the night and going to bed.
Erma Bombeck
The mania for destruction was instilled in me from an early age, my father in fact built weapons and on Santa Lucia day I always wanted guns and rifles as gifts.
Carl William Brown
Being a father ... I can't help feeling that, by comparison with being a mother, being a father is a rather abstract business.
J. M. Coetzee
I stopped loving my father a long time ago. What remained was the slavery to a pattern.
Anais Nin
The worst misfortune that can happen to an ordinary man is to have an extraordinary father.
Austin O'Malley
He who is taught to live upon little owes more to his father's wisdom than he who has a great deal left him does to his father's care.
William Penn
You will find that if you really try to be a father, your child will meet you halfway.
Robert Brault
Why are men reluctant to become fathers? They aren't through being children.
Cindy Garner
I have found the best way to give advice to your children is to find out what they want and then advise them to do it.
Harry S. Truman
My sisters and I can still recite Dad’s grilling rules: Rule No. 1: Dad is in charge. Rule No. 2: Repeat Rule No. 1.
Connie Schultz
He has always provided me a safe place to land and a hard place from which to launch.
Chelsea Clinton
Any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad.
Anne Geddes
It is not flesh and blood but the heart which makes us fathers and sons.
Friedrich Schiller
Men are generally more careful of the breed of their horses and dogs than of their children.
William Penn
We think our fathers fools, so wise we grow. Our wiser sons, no doubt will think us so.
Alexander Pope
A father is a banker provided by nature.
French Proverb
A man's desire for a son is usually nothing but the wish to duplicate himself in order that such a remarkable pattern may not be lost to the world.
Helen Rowland
Father Santa Claus
The fundamental defect with fathers is that they want their children to be a credit to them.
Bertrand Russell
I was born three times; the first when my mother bore me, the second when I became Carl William Brown, the third when my father died. The only problem is that I have always been born dead.
Carl William Brown
It doesn't matter who my father was; it matters who I remember he was.
Anne Sexton
My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me.
Jim Valvano
When a father gives to his son, both laugh; when a son gives to his father, both cry.
William Shakespeare
You don’t raise heroes, you raise sons. And if you treat them like sons, they’ll turn out to be heroes, even if it’s just in your own eyes.
Walter M. Schirra, Sr
The difference between a ‘man’ and a ‘father’ is that the former shares his genes, but latter gives his life.
Craig D. Lounsbrough
Any man can be a Father it takes someone special to be a Dad.
Author Unknown
My father is no longer here, but his spirit lives in me, and therefore he is still alive, except that I am already dead.
Carl William Brown
My dad, like any coach, has always stressed the fundamentals. He taught me responsibility, accountability, and the importance of hard work.
Steve Young
Becoming a man means doing the right thing even though it may be hard or difficult. Boys do what is easiest. A man does what is right, whether easy or not.
Carew Papritz
Never raise your hand to your kids. It leaves your groin unprotected.
Red Buttons
Being a great father is like shaving. No matter how good you shaved today, you have to do it again tomorrow.
Reed Markham
Fatherhood is the best thing that could happen to me, and I’m just glad I can share my voice.
Dwayne Wade
My father used to play with my brother and me in the yard. Mother would come out and say, “You’re tearing up the grass.” “We’re not raising grass,” Dad would reply. “We’re raising boys.”
Harmon Killebrew
A father is neither and anchor to hold us back nor a sail to take us there but a guiding light whose love shows us the way.
Unknown
Whenever one of my children says, ‘Goodnight, Daddy,’ I always think to myself, ‘You don’t mean that.
Jim Gaffigan
Having children is like living in a frat house - nobody sleeps, everything’s broken, and there’s a lot of throwing up.
Ray Romano
It is a wise father that knows his own child.
William Shakespeare
The hardest part about parenting is when I have to be The Dad--aka the Fun-Sucker--as opposed to being a friend.
James Patterson
It is obvious that for those who believe in the miraculous gifts of Padre Pio, including that of the gift of ubiquity or leavening, speaking of logic, common sense and sterile humanity is an operation of extreme and naive stupidity.
Carl William Brown
My father must have had some elementary education for he could read and write and keep accounts inaccurately
George Bernard Shaw
An unforgiving eye, and a damned disinheriting countenance!
Richard Brinsley Sheridan
That is the thankless position of the father in the family -- the provider for all, and the enemy of all.
August J. Strindberg
An angry father is most cruel toward himself.
Publilius Syrus
What harsh judges fathers are to all young men!
Terence
Happy father's day quotes
Fathers do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
The Holy Bible Ephesians 6:4
In peace the sons bury their fathers, but in war the fathers bury their sons.
Author Unknown
One night a father overheard his son pray: Dear God, Make me the kind of man my Daddy is. Later that night, the Father prayed, Dear God, Make me the kind of man my son wants me to be.
Author Unknown
Onomatopoeic aphorism. Praise be to Padre Pio; pio, pio, pio, cheep, cheep, cheep, meow, meow, meow, cri, cri cri…
Carl William Brown
The affection of a father and a son are different: The father loves the person of the son, and the son loves the memory of his father.
Author Unknown
The best gift a father can give to his son is the gift of himself - his time. For material things mean little, if there is not someone to share them with.
Author Unknown
Behind every great man is a man greater, his father.
Habeeb Akande
Fathers and daughters have a special bond. She is always daddy’s little girl.
Richard L. Ratliff
Two little girls, on their way home from Sunday school, were solemnly discussing the lesson. "Do you believe there is a devil?" asked one. "No," said the other promptly. "It's like Santa Claus: it's your father."
Nebelspalter (Zurich, Switzerland)
A good father is one of the most unsung, unpraised, unnoticed, and yet one of the most valuable assets in our society.
Billy Graham
Love and fear. Everything the father of a family says must inspire one or the other.
Joseph Joubert
The father who would taste the essence of his fatherhood must turn back from the plane of his experience, take with him the fruits of his journey and begin again beside his child, marching step by step over the same old road.
Angelo Patri
The words that a father speaks to his children in the privacy of home are not heard by the world, but, as in whispering-galleries, they are clearly heard at the end and by posterity.
Jean Paul Richter
A father is always making his baby into a little woman. And when she is a woman he turns her back again.
Enid Bagnold
The amount of time we give to something indicates its importance to us.
Jim George
There are many famous people who thank Padre Pio for saving them from painful misfortunes; However, I have never been able to understand which saints should be thanked for sending them.
Carl William Brown
Dad, I know you’ve loved me as long as I’ve lived; but I’ve loved you my whole life.
Unknown
To her, the name of father was another name for love.
Fanny Fern
My Dad is my hero.
Harry Connick, Jr.
My dad was my best friend and greatest role model. He was an amazing dad, coach, mentor, soldier, husband and friend.
Tiger Woods
By the time a man realizes that maybe his father was right, he usually has a son who thinks he’s wrong.
Unknown
When my father didn’t have my hand….he had my back.
Linda Poindexter
There’s no shame in fear, my father told me, what matters is how we face it.
George R. R. Martin
Dad, your guiding hand on my shoulder will remain with me forever.
Author Unknown
Father with his daughter
Any man can be a father. It takes someone special to be a dad.
Author Unknown
I love my father as the stars - he's a bright shining example and a happy twinkling in my heart.
Terri Guillemets
It no longer bothers me that I may be constantly searching for father figures; by this time, I have found several and dearly enjoyed knowing them all.
Alice Walker
A father carries pictures where his money used to be.
Author Unknown
Freud thought the child tends to fall in love with the mother and be jealous of the father, this is the idea of his famous Oedipus complex. But let's assume we find ourselves in the presence of a tender homosexual!
Carl William Brown
My father, when he went, made my childhood a gift of a half a century.
Antonio Porchia
Fatherhood is pretending the present you love most is soap-on-a-rope.
Bill Cosby
Fathers should be neither seen nor heard. That is the only proper basis for family life.
Oscar Wilde
The American father is never seen in London. He passes his life entirely in Wall Street and communicates with his family once a month by means of a telegram in cipher.
Oscar Wilde
I think my mom put it best. She said, ‘Little girls soften their daddy’s hearts.
Paul Walker
The father who has selflessly poured himself into the life of his children may leave no other monument than that of his children. But as for a life well lived, no other monument is necessary.
Craig D. Lounsbrough
There should be a children’s song: ‘If you’re happy and you know it, keep it to yourself and let your dad sleep.
Jim Gaffigan
Even when I finished my first book, my father preferred to continue reading the newspaper, and I continued to write against stupidity.
Carl William Brown
I don’t care how poor a man is; if he has family, he’s rich.
M*A*S*H, Colonel Potter
Daddy, a Son’s first hero and daughter’s first love.
Unknown
He didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.
Clarence Budington Kelland
Your father's not young when your small is he, he's not any age, he's more a power.
Caryl Churchill
My father taught me that the only way you can make good at anything is to practice, and then practice some more.
Pete Rose
A father is a man that has two or more souls to save or lose.
Austin O'malley
A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty.
Author Unknown
During the sole argument we had when was in high school, the subject of which I don’t even remember, I looked at her and said, ‘As long as you’re in this house, being president is my second most important job.
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Who wants to become a writer? And why? Because it’s the answer to everything… It’s the streaming reason for living. To note, to pin down, to build up, to create, to be astonished at nothing, to cherish the oddities, to let nothing go down the drain, to make something, to make a great flower out of life, even if it’s a cactus.
“Who wants to become a writer? And why? Because it’s the answer to everything. … It’s the streaming reason for living. To note, to pin down, to build up, to create, to be astonished at nothing, to cherish the oddities, to let nothing go down the drain, to make something, to make a great flower out of life, even if it’s a cactus.”
Meet "The Pie"! Pie is the featured horse in the 1935 book "National Velvet" by Enid Bagnold.
This story follows a 14 year old that wins Pie in a raffle, however Pie is notorious for jumping over fences. Together they go on to enter England's steeplechase and become champions!
I based this horse mostly off of the Breyer model, but I also took some inspiration from the cover art of the book.
“Your friend is the man who knows all about you, and still likes you.”
–Elbert Hubbard
Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion to clarity. . . . Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.
–Melody Beattie
Why do birds sing in the morning? It’s the triumphant shout: “We got through another night.”
–Enid Bagnold
It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.