#Compulsive heterosexuality

[rosalind-took-kylos-hand]

Ken going in for a kiss while Barbie is smiling and screaming internally

When I say I have never felt more seen IN MY LIFE.

#barbie #barbie movie #barbie the movie #asexual pride #aromantic pride #aroace pride #aroace barbie #asexual barbie #ace barbie #compulsive heterosexuality #comphet

[fuck-comphet]

I am healing my baby lesbian inner child self by allowing myself to be visibly queer as much as I can

Happy Sunday lesbians, I see you and I love you with my whole heart ❤️💕

#I am priviledged to live in a place where it’s safe to do so #fuck comphet #lesbianism is healing my soul #lesbian #lesbians #i love you lesbians #lgbtq positivity #comphet #compulsory heterosexuality #compulsive heterosexuality

[runin-reads]

Experiencing comphet as a trans masc is tough. For a long time I was convinced that I only liked women and if I didn’t, I must have internalised misogyny. Due to the online circles I was in, I listened to the narrative that being a guy and liking men was gross and meant I was the oppressor.

But now I know being a guy isn’t shameful. It doesn’t put me lower on any moral scale. And that applies to loving men too.

#trans mlm #ftm mlm #gay #bisexual #transgender #queer #lgbtqia #lgbtq #ftm #trans man #trans masculine #trans masc #mlm #gay man #compulsive heterosexuality #comphet #sexuality

[bones-ivy-breath]

There is supposed to be failure in a woman being alone. For years it bothered me that I was not 'possessed' by another or 'attached' in some way. What are you supposed to do with yourself when the ways in which society is structured make you safe or content only if you are tied, legally or socially, to another, more esteemed gender? It is not that you cannot have it: there are many men who would marry you or would at least treat you kindly. It is that happiness and a steady attention supply are not the same thing. Happiness and a steady attention supply are not the same thing. They are not even related. And the only reason that I thought they were was because every many of my role models were operating under the same delusion.

Unfuckable by Cara Ellison, from Becoming Dangerous

#unfuckable #cara ellison #becoming dangerous #quote #literature #aesthetic #dark academia #light academia #dead academia #original post #feminism #feminist literature #amatonormativity #compulsive heterosexuality #the self

[davaikissotsuda]

Staying in the comphet is just. My mom would like you. You’ll touch my shoulder in three, two… one. Yes I am attracted to you. No I do not want you. I told my friend about you and her excitement made me feel more things than you ever will. Talking to you is like making all the cars stop so I can cross the road on a red light. I am only this confident because you’re that easy. You‘re a rock I stumbled over on the beach, plain, like the others, but mine. Maybe love is only real when you love something as ordinary as you. I could build a house of all these rocks to hide from the storm. I’ll stare at you the entire hour and not feel shame. Don’t care if you find out, it‘s not true anyway. You’re the best possible option (I calculated). Why does everything look the same? Never mind, stare back. Did I blush? It was an adrenaline rush, you can google it. Maybe you’re right. I’m feeling sick. This is disgusting, get out of my head. This house is on fire - get out, get out, get out.

False alarm. How’s one to know?

#comphet #compulsive heterosexuality #febfem #female exclusive female bisexual #ivy taylor swift #you know what i mean? neither do i

[touchoffleece]

people: Rika from Pokemon Scarlet/Violet (Gen 9) is the new Cynthia (Gen 5's: Diamond/Pearl/Platinum) in terms for people's Gay Awakenings Me🤔: That's odd, sure I don't deny Cynthia is hot and lots of sapphics probably had their gay awakening to her, but I'm gay and I don't remember having a crush on he- Flashback to my comphet self speaking about Cynthia: "She's so cool." Me: Ooh...

#pokemon #pokemon gen 9 #pokemon gen 4 #pokemon cynthia #pokemon rika #pokemon shirona #pokemon chili #comphet #compulsive heterosexuality #internalized homophobia #media representation matters #sapphic #if you know you know #lgbtqi+

[triflesandparsnips]

You know...  I just want to write something about how hard Mary and Stede really tried, yknow?

Because like, yeah, girls probably really aren't Stede's preference, but I can't imagine he didn't try.  I think he and she figured out... a process? Maybe? But it wasn't necessarily... organic. 

Like, what if they figured out that him brushing out her hair at night was a good way to get both of them loosened up a bit, a signal and a secret code that almost felt like a love language in its way. 

What if they had INTRICATE HETEROSEXUAL RITUALS.

Basically I want to write a little series called “Scenes from a Marriage,” okay, with every fic being just two chapters, tracing Stede/Mary and Stede/Ed through their relationships-- and in the last story, the first chapter is Stede and Mary at their best, like when they'd gotten pretty much as good as they were going to get with each other (but maybe an inkling of realizing this is as good as they're going to get, and they're starting to realize that that is maybe the saddest imaginable thing), and then the second chapter is Stede and Ed and it's mirrored and parallel stuff from the first chapter but is also much more organic and fun.

I’m just. I'm super interested in the idea that Stede may be emotionally unclear on what love is, but he did manage to have two dang children and become body-comfortable with Mary -- he can sleep in the same bed as her, he can touch her bare skin, they undress in the same room together (without servants!), and he accepts her hugs and leans back into them too. Like, they figured something out. It just wasn't all either of them was capable of.

But I also feel it's... an important thing to talk about from an older-generation-queer perspective? Like, there's a "blushing virgin" trope appearing in a lot of fic that isn't necessarily there because it's interesting to explore, but rather because there's an assumption that maybe Stede always knew he didn't like Sex With Women? Which idk, that feels like a very modern idea of what it's like to be queer, and it's GOOD that the Kids These Days believe that if you Don't Want That Kind Of Sex Then You Don't Have To Have It... but it's also not the case for a whole bunch of people historically and, well, right now.

(Also it plays into some of the harmful queer narratives, like "I am finally dating the kind of person I want to date, so therefore if I feel gross about something in the relationship it must be a holdover from hetero stuff and not What's Happening Wrong In This Relationship")

Maybe Stede and Mary could actually work up to having a pretty decent time! But the working up to it was... a lot of work. And more often than not it just seemed too tiring to put in the effort, and so instead it sort of devolves to something they plan for anniversaries or holidays or something, and they both feel kind of miserable about it but they can't figure out how to fix it either.

Compulsive heterosexuality is complicated, is what I mean. Compulsive sexuality is complicated. And I just want to explore that a little.

#our flag means death #ofmd #meta #stede bonnet #mary bonnet #queer narratives #compulsive heterosexuality #compulsive sexuality #things I will probably write ngl #but I also want to READ it so #free plot bunnies #if you write it link it #do the thing

[aromanticmina]

is "compulsive amatonormativity" a thing yet? because I feel like it DEFINITELY should be (maybe with a different name tho)

like,even when I know I'm aromantic,and that I don't want to marry or have kids with anyone ever I still find myself fantasizing and dreaming about my "future wedding" "future kids" etc.

and I don't want a romantic relationship (a qpr or another type of not-necessarily-romantic relationship? hell yeah) but I still look at someone who I feel aesthetic,sensual and/or sexual attraction and my first thought is "date me" (even if this person were ever to ask me out irl,I'd say no)

idk it just feels similar to what I've heard of the lesbian experience with comphet

#aromantic #amatonormativity #allonormativity #aesthetic attraction #compulsive heterosexuality #aroallo #aromantic struggles

[peepeepoopoo-xyz]

guys how do i know if im a lesbian with comphet or bi help

#bisexual #lesbian #comphet #queer #confused #lgbtq #compulsive heterosexuality #bi #lgbtqia #lgbtpeople

[saph-yells-into-the-void]

Coming to terms with the fact that I have internalized homophobia is a lot harder than I thought it would be.

Because when I first starting questioning, I was still under the assumption that I liked guys (haha comphet am I right?), so I wasn’t that bothered by labelling myself as bi. But then I actually got a crush on a girl for the first time and it was like a really big crush, and that was when I thought to myself, huh, I’ve literally never felt this way for any other guy, ever. 

But for some reason, I was still so scared to used the word, lesbian, because my brain couldn’t accept the fact that I didn’t like guys. Even though I know I will never want to be with a man and anytime I even try to imagine being in relationship with one, I’m immediately repulsed by it. 

Yet my brain sees any boy my age and immediately starts trying to come up for a reason on why I should be attracted to him, which makes me uncomfortable, which for some reason my brain interprets as attraction. I see a m/f kiss and my brain is like, ah yes, that is what you should like, that’s normal, but when a f/f kiss happens, my brain tries to come up for excuses like, oh you just want to think that you’re special and f/f is new, so therefore exciting, you’re not actually attracted to them🙄when that doesn’t even MAKE ANY FUCKING SENSE. 

So yea, trying to rewire your brain to see lesbian relationships and attraction as normal in relation to you is actually really fucking hard when you’ve grown up in an extremely heteronormative/homophobic household. :/

#lesbian #comphet #heteronormativity #queer #heternormativity is bullshit #compulsive heterosexuality

[heterorealism]

These interactions with women, or rather, these actions upon women, make men feel good, walk tall, feel refreshed, invigorated. Men are drained and depleted by their living by themselves and with and among other men, and are revived and refreshed, re-created, by going home and being served dinner, changing to clean clothes, having sex with the wife; or by dropping by the apartment of a woman friend to be served coffee or a drink and stroked in one way or another; or by picking up a prostitute for a quicky or for a dip in favorite sexual escape fantasies; or by raping refugees from their wars (foreign and domestic). The ministrations of women, be they willing or unwilling, free or paid for, are what restore in men the strength, will and confidence to go on with what they call living.

If it is true that a fundamental aspect of the relations between the sexes is male parasitism, it might help to explain why certain issues are particularly exciting to patriarchal loyalists. For instance, in view of the obvious advantages of easy abortion to population control, to control of welfare rolls, and to ensuring sexual availability of women to men, it is a little surprising that the loyalists are so adamant and riled up in their objection to it. But look.

The fetus lives parasitically. It is a distinct animal surviving off the life (the blood) of another animal creature. It is incapable of surviving on its own resources, of independent nutrition; incapable even of symbiosis. If it is true that males live parasitically upon females, it seems reasonable to suppose that many of them and those loyal to them are in some way sensitive to the parallelism between their situation and that of the fetus. They could easily identify with the fetus. The woman who is free to see the fetus as a parasite(F4) might be free to see the man as a parasite. The woman’s willingness to cut off the life line to one parasite suggests a willingness to cut off the life line to another parasite. The woman who is capable (legally, psychologically, physically) of decisively, self-interestedly, independently rejecting the one parasite, is capable of rejecting, with the same decisiveness and independence, the like burden of the other parasite. In the eyes of the other parasite, the image of the wholly self-determined abortion, involving not even a ritual submission to male veto power, is the mirror image of death.

- Marilyn Frye, Politics of Reality

#heterorealism #heteropessimism #feminism #dating advice #gender #misandry #men aint shit #dating #dump him #male parasitism #weaponized incompetence #compulsive heterosexuality #pro choice

[fuck-comphet]

Sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference between liking the attention from a guy and liking a guy

I’m here to tell you that you that you are valid and worthy regardless of how much attention you get from guys no matter how hard the patriarchy wants to convince you otherwise

#comphet #compulsive heterosexuality #comphet things

[sonatine]

Sarahland // Sam Cohen

#heteronormativity #compulsive heterosexuality #sarahland #sam cohen #read along

[coupons-leur-la-tete]

But why people feel offended at seeing characters/historical figures portrayed as queer?What I don’t understand is why historical figures are presumed straight until proven otherwise or in abscence of proofs. I mean why should we consider them heterosexual a priori? Just bc this is the norm?

Why is considered disrespectful to speak about someone’s sexual orientation in terms of non-heteronormativity ? There’s nothing disrespectful/outrageous in being queer (or straight or anything)

It’s not about pining a label on people, it’s just about being more open about the possibility of being something else than just “straight or gay”. Not everything needs to be classified and fit in predetermined boxes. And if it's never ok to tell a person what their sexuality is before they've defined themselves, we should speak without fear or shame about such themes, to avoid creating a culture of erasure and straighwashing.

#lgbtq #lgbt pride #lgbtqiia+ #lgbt representation #lgbtq characters #lgbt history #for all the people straightwashed by history #like happened to Tchaikovsky Da Vinci V Woolfe T Mann Touring Constantine Achilles and Patroclus in Troy and many many many others #don’t know why I wrote this #love is love #love is a human right #heteronormative society #compulsive heterosexuality #heteronormativity #bullshit #sexuality #orientation

[lesbian-archives]

Calling compulsory heterosexuality “heterosexual choice” or “preference” creates the impression that we are free and open, but it does not change reality. Heterosexual preference, it is important to realize, is not preference or choice by any ordinary understanding of the terms. We cannot speak of choice or preference when only one option is allowed. Although in a different society, it could be a real and meaningful choice, heterosexuality as we know it is a form of coercion dictated by male ideology/propaganda, by force, by stigma, by the erasure of lesbian existence, and by the erasure of the coercion itself, so that what is imposed is made to look like the natural unfolding of our inclinations. The truth is that despite our seeming or avowed clarity, most women do not authentically think through their sexuality but accept the heterosexual preference that we have been programmed to assume. The quick questioning that the more progressive allow themselves and the quick reassurances and/or easy compromises that they give themselves do not alter this fact. Women everywhere are railroaded into strict heterosexuality, while thinking that they are making free choices or are acting in accordance with their own personal proclivity. Women thereby are kept from sensing and following their own inclinations. We are being given a “straight-forward” path that is not ours and that blinds us to the complex matrix of affinities that is “woman’s”.

pg 15-16, from Radical Feminist Therapy: Working in the Context of Violence by Bonnie Burstow, 1992

#text #lesbian #lesbianism #90s #compulsive heterosexuality #male violence #patriarchy #feminism #compulsory heterosexuality

[touchoffleece]

G Witch ep 5 spoilers

soooo...

I guessed Elan was going to be an antagonist, didn't think he'd be a dick enough to make Suletta cry. So much for the ship angle of "Princely" Elan and Suletta over Miorine x Suletta, because "miorine is problematic".🍵 It's ironic that the people who insisted Miorine was: cold, detach, using Suletta for her own goals, basically described Elan in the end, rather then Miorine. Glad Guel seems to be showing he's got the main characters backs when push comes to shove.

#spoilers #gundam #g witch #gundam the witch from mercury #suletta mercury #anti Elan Ceres #comphet #compulsive heterosexuality #internalized misogyny #internalized homophobia #self awareness