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#internalized misogyny
fadedelegance · 2 months
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It’s not women’s responsibility to coddle men. This isn’t 1950 for fuck’s sake.
I am ALWAYS tired when I come home from work, as well, but you know what? I don’t expect anyone else to have dinner ready for me. I scrounge around in the kitchen, or I pick up a frozen dinner and heat it up when I get home. The point is, I take care of my damned self BECAUSE I AM AN ADULT.
Both men AND women work long hours.
I know you’re tired, but fix your own goddamned dinner. You think your partner isn’t also tired? Why is it one party’s—usually the woman’s—responsibility to make dinner for the other when they come home from work after a long day? Why can’t they just relax after they make own individual dinner? What if your partner is still at work when you get home? Do you just sit around and pout until they come home and whine about them making dinner?
Be an adult and take care of your damned self. Or if you come home at similar times, share the responsibility. Cooking together could even be a source of bonding.
I can NOT with how society is regressing.
BTW, this is also an indictment of capitalism. People shouldn’t have to work that much so that they are coming home with barely even any energy to do things like make their own meals, only to barely stay afloat financially. I believe in the 6-hour work day, living wages and salaries, and a 4-day work week.
Archaic gender roles and capitalism are both putting strain on relationships—both romantic and familial. Hardly anyone has work-life balance anymore because all most people fucking do is work.
But this is about the 12th time this week I’ve thought “I hate men. I don’t have time for them and their sexist bullshit, nor do I have time for women who have internalized that sexist bullshit.”
God damn it, I’m tired.
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nansheonearth · 9 months
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burningtheroots · 8 months
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We need to re-build our class consciousness and solidarity as women, globally. Creating division among the oppressed has always been the oppressors‘ primary strategy to assert their dominance and preserve their authority — we need to change that.
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hussyknee · 6 months
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The Career-driven Emancipated Woman Can Barely Boil Water trope is extremely sexist and white feminist. I've been waiting thirty years for feminism to move past this classist girlboss bullshit and I'm clean out of patience. Even aside from the gross devaluing of traditional female labour, grown-ass adults should be able to feed themselves and their families regardless of gender. If you're abled and have had the resources to learn basic life skills but you've elected not to because you think you can always pay people to take care of your ass, you're a privileged nitwit who's trying to weaponize incompetence.
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august-beee · 4 months
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I hate when women take their own internalized misogyny out on other women. Like what is this.
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It was a video about a woman talking about her fish tanks. Nothing to do with the way she looks or anything. I have no clue why she felt the need to say that and then added “not to be rude but…” like that makes any difference. As a general rule of thumb if you have to say “not to be rude” just don’t say it.
Also I’m not covering up the username because the post was public and her account is public.
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lesbienyu · 5 months
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I love being a woman but I'm so tired of men. I feel tempted often to say I am sick of womanhood, but this isn't true. I am sick of manhood. I take no issue with my breasts themselves but the stares and groping of men. I care little about my small stature- I am strong, I can lift more than my own bodyweight, I have out swam a marine, I walk an average of eight miles a day at work. My smallness doesn't impact my function. Men impact my function. Despite my athleticism, I still resent my body when I should resent the men who take my stature as invitation to be disgusting and disrespectful. I actually love my voice, all twangy and lilting, but they chuckle at it when I'm upset, or how my accent sounds in professional settings. I don't want out of my body or my voice. I am them, and I love them. I want out of the bullshit. I want to exist as I am without it being sexualized, mocked, beaten, or derided. I don't hate being a woman. I love it. We have such a rich, beautiful history, have created great art, made amazing scientific discoveries, brought forth the whole of humanity. Being a woman is amazing. It's being a woman amongst men that's the issue.
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heterorealism · 6 months
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Financial abuse can happen to any of us -getting married to men who either want us to be stay at home mom's/partner's to them and don't want us 'to work/maintain work skills/gain new skills' because they are is a huge red flag... it's sincerely such a slippery slope, and I partly blame the Trad Wives romanticizing being a SAHM/someone who stays at home to 'take care of their man,' online because your entire identity shouldn't revolve around this and being a parent is A LOT of work. And I'm not saying marriage or being a parent is bad -but getting married without a prenup and having children without having security outside of your husband's work can be dangerous and lead to abusive situations (and I mean this in no way to shame anyone who ends up in a situation like hers -but please, listen to women's stories and stories like hers before even considering marriage and having kids because there are so horrifying and heartbreaking one's out there and it's something I do believe we need to be aware of). Because it's all men until it's no men in so many instances.
The amount of unequal gendered divisions of labour going on here as well, on top of her unpaid work in the home -and in CREATING their home... I just, I hope the best for this woman and her kids and every woman like her. And sincerely, fuck heteropatriarchal norms.
The original video is about 6 minutes long, but if you have time to tune in to listen to her story, it doesn't feel long. Some of the things she mentioned that caught my attention was that her ex-husband would give her envelopes of CASH to go grocery shopping, she had no banking account, and he has since only paid alimony ONCE since their divorce, and when she did actually go to a job interview -the man LAUGHED at her not not having any 'real experience' and belittled her for being a SAHM. In the video she says she didn't how ill will towards him but how utterly humiliating to be treated like this. I hope her ex-husband befalls so much misery.
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The Dangerous Lie Of 'TradWives'
Seated at her cozy kitchen table, Britt give a speech that became progressively more unhinged as she went on in her performative “fundie baby voice.” It was an act not unlike BallerinaFarm’s, designed to appeal to predominantly white women who see themselves as upholding a lifestyle and personal values that were set aside decades ago when American women decided we would be better off if we could have our own bank accounts and credit cards.
As many journalists were quick to point Britt is anything but a traditional housewife herself. And she probably hasn’t seen the inside of her own kitchen in weeks since she’s required to spend so much time in DC as a Senator. This is a well-off family; her husband previously played for the New England Patriots and is now a state lobbyist (as well as her campaign chairman.) And Senator Britt probably has plenty of help keeping the house clean and her children fed. I can neither confirm nor deny if her kids get homemade Pop-Tarts, but my money’s on no.
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breathetoseethetruth · 2 months
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I will never get over the fact, that one argument of D*pp supporters unironically is: "She doesn't look battered enough."
When exactly is a woman "battered enough" for you all?
This goes hand in hand with misogynistic men saying, that women should just endure it and stay, until their life is in active danger.
This goes hand in hand with people's subconscious idea, that only a dead victim is a perfect victim, because if she can still breathe, then she can still lie.
People saw Amber's injuries and deemed them not good enough, not severe enough, not "realistic looking enough" and somehow came to the conclusion that therefore, they must have been painted on.
We live in a day and age, where millions of people decided that it's believable that an abused woman painted on injuries, and do not care what a precedent this will set for possibly millions more women (at worst, they blame her for it). They chose to believe this insanity, rather than that a man simply did lay his hand on her. They excuse and ignore one piece of damning evidence after another against this man, but will scrutinize the tiniest flinch on the woman's face.
And yet, men have the audacity to claim that people are after them. That there's an "epidemic of men being falsely accused". They will use this against EVERY woman who will dare to name her abuser.
And so many of you enabled them.
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wild-wombytch · 1 month
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TW : Mutilation, NSFW
"Trans men are men" yet they have the same headless women art syndrome as every next libfem woman. If wonder why 🤔
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nansheonearth · 2 years
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I promise that believing that you're way smarter than women who are in the whole trans thing is going to come back at you. Seriously. Read Right Wing Women. Idk take acid. Look into some empathy development courses. I'm not being sarcastic, I'm very serious that these women who have bad/harmful politics sometimes aren't complete morons. And there are bad/harmful politics within radfem circles. The net gain for yourself and the community is astronomical. Self reflection is the shit.
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burningtheroots · 10 months
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"Not like other girls" vs. "not all men" — patriarchal division
We all know the popular "not like other girls" (or "not like other women", respectively) trope.
I‘ve been thinking about it a lot recently and what really annoys me is that society teaches young girls and women that girlhood and womanhood are inherently "bad" and hence not being like other girls and women is "good" and "desirable".
While many people believe that it stems from the girls and women themselves, I‘d like to emphasize the impact of growing up in a deeply patriarchal, misogynistic society and system which ultimately influences the steps we take.
The world we live in is built on female oppression, exploitation, rivalry and division. By ensuring that girls and women believe in what the patriarchy teaches us, men ensure their power and authority as we‘re busy trying to "fit in" and prove that we‘re the "good girls/women". Girls and women are conditioned to look down on other girls and women and aspire to be different — to be validated by men that they‘re not this flawed image of girlhood and womanhood.
Once we have internalized these misogynistic beliefs, we start to make our lives revolve around them and also spread them further. That‘s a common technique used by oppressors — divide and conquer.
Now we have lots of girls and women who desperately want to be different from other girls and women, who want to be as close as possible to whatever gets them men‘s approval and highlights that they‘re actually good instead of "flawed" like the rest.
Girls and women are always either "too human" or "not human enough". Whether it‘s looks, interests, personality etc.. We‘re trained to make entire lifestyle choices based on other people’s men’s perception. We‘re forced to balance between idealized womanhood and demonized womanhood.
The solution we’re presented? Putting other girls and women down to "prove" ourselves.
And it‘s not like there aren’t any tools for this, in fact, the patriarchy provides them abundantly.
The beauty & diet industry strive to divide us.
Fun activities which are still "gendered" to this day strive to divide us.
The media, social platforms and advertisements strive to divide us.
Sexualization and objectification strive to divide us.
Relationships with men strive to divide us.
Even when men commit atrocities, they divide girls and women, not men.
On the contrary, men and boys are taught to be united. Not in a coddly way, perhaps, but in a way that gurantees solidarity and immunity when needed.
"Not like other boys/men!" isn‘t a thing, instead, we got "not all men!", a.k.a. "I‘m like other men and because I‘m not bad, they aren’t, either!".
Whilst men are more prone to violence and deliberately inflict emotional and physical pain on others on a much larger scale than women, boys and men aren’t taught that it‘s desirable to be different from other boys and men. Rather, they‘re taught that it‘s good, desirable and admirable.
Instead of aspiring to be different — to be better — their focus is on defending men as a whole and excusing or justifying their misbehavior, whereas we‘re told that we must hold each other accountable for the tiniest missteps, especially when they involve men.
Girls and women are taught that their existence (& humanity) in itself is flawed, undesirable and needs to be strictly regulated, judged and altered.
Boys and men are taught that their existence (& humanity) in itself is self-evident, desirable and worthwhile.
That‘s why I put female solidarity and sisterhood above all else.
That‘s why I proudly say that YES, I am like other girls and women. We aren’t a monolith, we‘re individually unique, and yet we share the experience of being female, and we‘re united in our mere existence as women, and we don’t need to put other women and girls above or beneath us, or allow us to be alienated from one another.
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sareenademon · 4 months
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DO NOT USE SAREENA OR SONYA AS THE “EVIL OTHER WOMAN TROPE” IN YOUR DUMBASS BI HAN X READER/ JOHNNY X READER FANFICS.
IT’S PICK ME BEHAVIOR AND I’M TIRED OF SEEING IT.
every time I want to find fanfic about my favorite female characters they’re just being used and villianized in fanfic, it’s so fucking disappointing.
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rey-jake-therapist · 3 months
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The way some fandoms clearly hate women is really appealing. It shows in the way they either villainize female characters or significantly reduce their importance in the male characters's life. Some go even as far as claiming they're not real characters but only living metaphors of said male characters's sexuality. In certain m/f ships, female characters are reduced to walking uterus and aren't allowed to have any other desire than becoming wives and mothers; damn them if they want friends and have other plans for their future, cause only the male character's happiness counts.
I'm all for tolerance towards headcanon's but the stuff I've read lately.... Big yikes.
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momotababy · 2 months
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I am so disgusted lmfao
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