#weaponized incompetence

[heterorealism]

#gender #feminism #heterorealism #dump him #weaponized incompetence #emotional labor #gender inequality

[haggishlyhagging]

Stop helping men. Stop going out of your way to share knowledge with them. Ignore them if you can do so safely. If that’s not possible, shrug your shoulders when you can get away with it. Act dumb. I don’t know how long that’s supposed to cook for. I don’t know what cleaner to use in the tub. I don’t know where Melvin filed the papers for that big project. I don’t know where Kevin went. I don’t know how to get stains out of a shirt. I don’t know. I don’t know. I don’t know.

Stop enabling them. Just stop it. Just stop. If they can weaponize incompetence, so can you.

#male entitlement #males are incompatible with health #center women #female oppression #weaponized incompetence #radical feminists do touch #radfemsafe

[uter-us]

there are way too many comments like this:

why must the burden of domestic labor always be w the woman

#weaponized incompetence #radfem #radical feminist safe #sex based oppression #male socialization #male entitlement #female separatism #decentering men #centering women #radical feminism

[louisecaldin]

We talk a lot about weaponized incompetence but let's talk about weaponized flattery too.

No dad my mom isn't "amazing at organising events" she just has to do it, because you choose to be useless.

#weaponized incompetence #weaponized flattery #men are trash #men are stupid and i don’t respect them #feminism #you choose to be an ass #stop being an ass thanks #men

[kittycomrad]

After thorough investigation, I have come to the conclusion that being petty towards men and fighting back is the best thing I or any woman can do. I'm talking about men's weaponized incompetence. Sons, fathers, brothers, boyfriends, husbands or even strangers feel entitled to women's labour. A solution to this problem isn't "communication", communication with men doesn't work. You'll be the one who'll feel gaslit and guilty after addressing a problem to men that THEY started. Men don't understand words they understand consequences. Personally, I'll use back weaponized incompetency.

Oh, you can't cook because it tastes bad when you do it🥲?? It's ok, you can order online because I only cooked for one person.

Oh you didn't wash your own clothes because you don't how to use the big bad complex washing machine😞?? It's ok, you can scrub all your clothes with soap and scrub.🫡

So now you forgot to clean your shaving razor and you don't have time🫤?? Cool, I'll pack it with your lunch box so you can do it later. Good luck.🙏

#feminism #radblr #radical feminism #radical feminists please interact #women #misogny #weaponized incompetence #rad fem #radical feminist safe #radical feminists do touch

[babyjakes]

weaponized incompetence. [blurb.]

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event | jan '23 blurb night

summary | when faced with orgasm troubles, who could be better to trust than an expert in the field? surely he has nothing but sound intentions...

pairing | doctor!andy barber x reader

warnings | andy presents as soft and kind enough but what he is doing is so evil and cruel, all the gaslighting in the world, alllll the yummy medfet elements (or at least most of them): exam table, gloves, restraints, etc., clit cream hehe <3, reader isn't unwilling but she is extremely distressed, crying, humiliation, clinical babble, encouragement, REAL PUFF PUFF BEHAVIOR, edging, no happy ending >:^(

word count | 628

requested by anon | Reader visits Dr. Mean (Ari/Steve/Bucky) because she can’t orgasm. Dr.(whoever you chose) decides to help her as only his fingers, mouth, cock, med equipment can, but realizes if he makes her cum- she won’t need to come back. So he stops right at the edge. Every time. Several times in one session. He tells her how worried he is she can’t cum, and if she tries on her own or with a non medical professional, she may get worse/sick/hurt.

an | ohh bestie this is so sexy of you, i love all of this hehe <3 i hope it's alright that i went with andy, i just thought he could fit this idea really well (and we have plenty of stevie and ari coming later lol!) thanks so much for sharing, you slutty mastermind :^)

"C'mon, sweetheart. You're doing so good for me."

With the tops of your calves straining against the strong nylon restraints holding you in place, you did your best to keep your sobs at bay as your chest rose and fell heavily with each agonizing breath. You weren't sure how long you had been there, strapped to that dreaded exam table with your legs spread wide and high, the calm, steady presence of Dr. Barber placed directly at the entrance to your most private places as he tried to assist you in your seemingly hopeless conquest of achieving an orgasm. You had gotten close, painfully close, so many times at the doctor's skillful hands. But for some reason, you just couldn't manage to cross the finish line.

As the dark-haired man pulled away momentarily to change his gloves, the old pair dripping from your heightened state of arousal, you blinked back further tears. What if it's hopeless, you wondered. The sound of Dr. Barber snapping on a new pair of gloves made you wince; gazing up at you sympathetically, he spoke with a softened tone. "Here, I have one more thing I wanna try. It's a sensitizing cream," he explained as he grabbed the packet from the tray beside him, "nothing scary or painful. But it should help increase your sensitivity to my touch."

He squeezed out a fair amount of the clear gel onto his gloved pointer finger, warming the product between its pad and his thumb before trailing his gaze back up to your abused sex. Focusing in on your little bundle of nerves, he gathered it between his finger and thumb like a little bead of clay, rolling it tenderly to cover the entire nub in the punishing paste. Its effects could be felt almost instantly; with more tears welling in your eyes, a loud whimper sounded in your throat. "Shhh, you're alright," the doctor crooned, his other hand coming up to tease a few fingers at the entrance to your soaked heat. "Here we go, honey. One more time for me," he mumbled as he began fucking two of his large digits back into you, continuing to roll your puffy clit between fingers as it only swelled further in size.

"Your clitoris is responding well to the cream, I can feel it throbbing against me," he noted as your heart began to race at the building sensations. "Your Grafenberg spot seems to be in perfect working order too," he added as he thrust his fingers up against the soft, squishy ceiling of your inner walls. "Can you feel it building up inside of you, y/n? Are you starting to get the urge to let go, to release?"

"Yes, yes-" you panted, squeezing your eyes shut as you strained once more against the heavy restraints the doctor had put in place. "Please doctor, I-I can feel it coming, I-..."

"That's it, sweetheart. Almost there. Just gotta..." But just as you felt yourself reaching the precipice of your pent-up frustrations, Dr. Barber's voice cut in like a hot knife as things began to sputter out, the feelings dying down to your absolute horror. "Oh dear, again...?" he sighed as he spread back the hood of your clit with his thumb and forefinger, watching the poor little nub twitch and spasm in hopeless need. At your realization of yet another failure, you couldn't help it; heaving, you began to sob loudly in despair. "Shhh, shhh," the doctor tried to console you, snapping off his gloves before wheeling his stool up to sit at your side, reaching out a consoling hand to stroke your arm. "It's alright, sweetheart. We'll keep trying. I won't give up on you, y/n. You just have to keep working with me, okay?"

#eun's writing #weaponized incompetence #eun's blurb nights #jan ‘23 blurb night #andy barber #andy barber smut #andy barber fanfiction #andy barber one shot #andy barber imagine #andy barber headcanon #andy barber blurb #andy barber drabble #dark!andy barber #andy barber x reader #andy barber x y/n #chris evans #chris evans smut #defending jacob

[radicaltorch]

The dangers of weaponized incompetence in men.

"a pattern of behavior where a person pretends to be bad at a mundane task to avoid doing it."

3,500 babies die every year in the USA alone from sleep related deaths. imagine being so lazy and uninterested that you put your infants life at risk. only a man.

#radical feminism #radfem do touch #radfem #radical feminist safe #radical feminists do interact #male entitlement #weaponized incompetence #men are garbage

[mightyflamethrower]

#weaponized incompetence #government corruption #fbi corruption

[high-quality-tiktoks]

👨🏻👍🏻

#video #tiktok #tiktoks #funny #lmao #wtf #weaponized incompetence #weaponised incompetence #men #women #tip #tips #brentstruggles

[rapeculturerealities]

Even when women make more than their husbands, they are doing more child care and housework - The 19th

In the past 50 years, the share of women who earn as much or more than their husbands has tripled. But here’s what hasn’t changed: Even as wives in heterosexual relationships have started outearning their spouses, they are still doing more of the care and the housework while their husbands have more leisure time, according to a new study by Pew Research Center released Thursday.

The findings piece together data from the past five years on how people use their time, looking at different income structures of heterosexual married couples — couples in which the wife is the sole breadwinner, the wife earns more than the husband, both partners earn about the same, or in which the husband is the primary or sole breadwinner.

In all five types except for one — in which the wife is the sole earner — wives are doing hours more caregiving work every week than their husbands. And in every scenario they do more or equal housework compared with their husbands.

#sexism #marriage #heteronormativity #Misogyny #weaponized incompetence

[sometimes-men-need-help-too]

We need to talk about weaponized incompetence

If you are unfamiliar with this, it’s basically where someone pretends to be bad at a simple task just so they can get out of it. Or they may do the task but ask a lot of questions and insist they need help doing it.  Men are usually accused of being this way in regards to household chores or when raising their children. 

Now I believe the concept is real. There are people like that in the world. But before you go around believing your man is exhibiting this, I want to offer a different perspective by asking these questions: 

Did he make a mistake? 

Does he just not know how to do X thing? 

You may insist that you know the difference between these things, but I have to ask that because oftentimes terms get thrown around even when they're not applicable. How many people get called a boomer for having reasonable criticism of society? How many people get called a karen? How many guys get called a simp for no reason? It’s not farfetched to say this also is likely getting thrown around incorrectly. 

Do you have a preferred way of doing things and is that preferred way the only way you want it to be done? 

Not too long ago, I brought up the towel example that was in a Dadvocate video.  You have your way of folding towels, your significant other (in this case, your man) has his own way of doing it. Neither are wrong, but you may feel irritated because he’s not doing it your way. You may feel like he’s doing it on purpose or if you mention it to someone else, they may point it out. It does happen and it needs to be considered

Are you micromanaging him? 

I found this article that lists 6 signs of a micromanager and I want to show you 3 of them. This is more so geared towards a micromanaging boss but I feel like it works well for this discussion as well. 

You are scared to make decisions on your own 

 They re-do your work 

 They use a “my way or the highway” approach.

Maybe he’s not necessarily scared of making decisions on his own (or he could be), but he doesn’t want to be treated or lectured like he’s an idiot. So he may ask you a ton of questions to keep you involved, he may seem like he’s acting clueless but in reality, he doesn’t want to be needlessly criticized. No one wants that.  They want to be treated like an equal partner. 

Maybe it’s dad’s turn to get the kids ready for school. Maybe you like to ensure that the kids are dressed before they eat breakfast and you like to have their lunches prepped the night before. But he doesn’t do it like that; he let’s them get dressed after they eat in case they spill something on them and he fixes their lunches that morning. You feel like the whole morning is off and you might make him feel like crap you feel like nothing is getting done. You may even take charge and make the kids go get dressed before they eat. And then if you get angry and start in on him, it’s going to show him that you don’t see him as an equal partner. 

But the internet isn’t necessarily going to point these things out. Tiktok is going to tell you that he’s doing this to spite you, that he’s doing his because he’s a manchild or he wants you to mother him. That article online is going to tell you he’s just trying to take advantage of you. 

Sometimes we have to look within. It’s easy to point fingers than it is to reflect on our own behavior

https://www.scienceofpeople.com/micromanager/

#mens rights #double standards #weaponized incompetence #relationships #relationship advice

[heterorealism]

#weaponized therapy #weaponized incompetence #gender #feminism #dump him #dating #heterorealism #emotional labor

[haggishlyhagging]

“It is a truism in the literature on working wives that although the husbands of working wives do help with household tasks, all too often wives continue to have responsibility for running the household. They rush home from work, shopping on the way, in order to have dinner on the table by six. They clean and tend to the laundry and do whatever has to be done in the evenings or on weekends. This is not role sharing.

The husband may promise to do his share, and increasingly he does or, at least, agrees to. But he can make his contribution so grudgingly as to force the wife to conclude that she would rather do it herself. Pat Mainardi has shown how such reluctant sharers of the burden manage to renege. She has translated all of their dodges. Eleven are standard:

“I don't mind sharing the housework, but I don't do it very well. We should each do the things we're best at." MEANING: Unfortunately I’m no good at things like washing dishes or cooking. What I do best is a little light carpentry, changing light bulbs, moving furniture (how often do you move furniture?). ALSO MEANING: Historically the lower classes (black men and us) have had hundreds of years experience doing menial jobs. It would be a waste of manpower to train someone else to do them now. ALSO MEANING: I don't like the dull stupid boring jobs, so you should do them.

"I don't mind sharing the work, but you'll have to show me how to do it." MEANING: I ask a lot of questions and you'll have to show me everything every time I do it because I don't remember so good. Also don't try to sit down and read while I'm doing my jobs because I'm going to annoy hell out of you until it's easier to do them yourself.

"We used to be so happy!" (Said whenever it was his turn to do something.) MEANING: I used to be so happy. MEANING: Life without housework is bliss. No quarrel here. Perfect agreement.

“We have different standards, and why should I have to work to your standards? That's unfair." MEANING: If I begin to get bugged by the dirt and crap I will say, "This place sure is a sty" or "How can anyone live like this?" and wait for your reaction. I know that all women have a sore called "Guilt over a messy house" or "Household work is ultimately my responsibility." I know that men have caused that sore—if anyone visits and the place is a sty, they're not going to leave and say, "He sure is a lousy housekeeper." You'll take the rap in any case. I can outwait you. ALSO MEANING: I can provoke innumerable scenes over the housework issue. Eventually doing all the housework yourself will be less painful to you than trying to get me to do half. Or I'll suggest we get a maid. She will do my share of the work. You will do yours. It's woman's work.

"I've got nothing against sharing the housework, but you can't make me do it on your schedule." MEANING: Passive resistance. I'll do it when I damned well please, if at all. If my job is doing dishes, it's easier to do them once a week. If taking out laundry, once a month. If washing the floors, once a year. If you don't like it, do it yourself oftener, and then I won't do it at all.

"I hate it more than you. You don't mind it so much." MEANING: Housework is garbage work. It's the worst crap I've ever done. It's degrading and humiliating for someone of my intelligence to do it. But for someone of your intelligence. . . .

"Housework is too trivial to even talk about." MEANING: It's even more trivial to do. Housework is beneath my status. My purpose in life is to deal with matters of significance. Yours is to deal with matters of insignificance. You should do the housework.

"This problem of housework is not a man-woman problem. In any relationship between two people one is going to have a stronger personality and dominate. MEANING: That stronger personality had better be me.

"In animal societies, wolves, for example, the top animal is usually a male even where he is not chosen for brute strength but on the basis of cunning and intelligence. Isn't that interesting?" MEANING: I have historical, psychological, anthropological, and biological justification for keeping you down. How can you ask the top wolf to be equal?

"Women's Liberation isn't really a political movement." MEANING: The Revolution is coming too close to home. ALSO MEANING: I am only interested in how I am oppressed, not how I oppress others. Therefore the war, the draft, and the university are political. Women's Liberation is not.

"Man's accomplishments have always depended on getting help from other people, mostly women. What great man would have accomplished what he did if he had to do his own housework?" MEANING: Oppression is built into the system and I, as the white American male, receive the benefits of this system. I don't want to give them up.”

Jessie Bernard, The Future of Marriage

#jessie bernard #heterosexuality #housework #weaponized incompetence #male privilege #female oppression #male entitlement #mental load

[radjoy]

men can scour the Internet and look up hundreds of forums and youtube videos when it comes to building a PC, car repair, plumbing, DIY home renovation, beating a video game, woodworking, smoking meat, homebrewing, learning about ww2, studying their favorite band, DnD games, using excel, playing guitar, editing their stupid podcasts, and every other thing under the sun that they find amusing.

and yet somehow these abilities are beyond them when it comes to cooking and cleaning.

I do not care if he’s time traveled from the 1950s and his mother never taught him to cook. I don’t care that the school system has gotten rid of home ec. I don’t even care if he’s depressed. I just saw a tweet where a woman drew an infographic for her boyfriend to learn how to flip a pancake. If I didn’t know how to flip a pancake, I would be so embarrassed. Torture couldn’t have made me admit that. I would have denied it with my last breath. We need to start embarrassing men

#weaponized incompetence #radical feminism

[vibedestroyer]

Its not men not being taught how to do things, its that men are taught to imagine a future where someone will do those things for them so they don't feel they have to figure it out on their own

#or at least a future where you will have someone who already knows those things so youll have someone to fill in the gaps of the things #of the things you didnt /have to/ learn youself #domestic labor #weaponized incompetence

[19thcenturyfuck]

weaponized incompetence: purposefully doing a task as badly as possible so you won't be asked to do that task again, i.e. washing new jeans with white clothes knowing fully well it will ruin the white clothes because you're sick of being asked to do the laundry

NOT weaponized incompetence: asking for help and/or clarification with doing a task, i.e. asking which clothes need to be washed separately and what settings different clothes need to be washed on

#hashtag destigmatize asking questions 2k23 #PLEASE i am BEGGING you guys (i.e. the internet). needing help/guidance/clarification is OKAY #and NORMAL #but also gonna tag this with #Actually Autistic #because i cannot DESCRIBE how many times i as an autistic kid got labeled as ''defiant'' #for asking questions. innocent basic questions. #and i know this isn't an uncommon experience for autistic people #weaponized incompetence