Buck Season 8 Storyline
Season 7 started off strong for Buck with the way his bisexual realization was written. The confusion, the 'overenthusiastic-ally-to-queer,' over-compensating with the heterosexual behavior because you're not ready to be out.
But after that Buck was, once again, shoved into a relationship with someone who wouldn't treat him well and was given no further storyline beyond that. Even Maddie and Chimney, who didn't get overarching storylines like Henren, Bathena ,and Eddie, at least had one episode storylines and made an impact in the story during the finale (fostering Mara till Henren could finally officially adopt her).
It got me thinking on what kind of storyline Buck could have in season 8. It has to be something that touches on his family (118) and romantic relationships (they can't be side-lined at this point) but it has to be something wholly about him.
Then I remembered season 4. In season 4, we see that Buck started seeing a Dr. Copeland because he had issues about feeling 'sad and lonely' and feeling like he can't trust it (4x03). Even after he got closure from Abby which was the only lingering relationship issue at the time, he still felt sad and lonely.
This means that it's an internal thing that is making him feel sad and lonely, not an external relationship. And afterwards we see that this loneliness stems from his childhood in a family with neglectful parents and a sister, who loved him so much, but was caught up in a terrible situation to be around.
But there was another aspect that we learned from his childhood. His 'reckless' , 'dive in head first' attitude was a learned behaviour. He taught himself that being in pain=getting attention from his parents and this escalated to a point where he got in a motorcycle accident. As these incidents escalated, he would have to do weigh the fact that he could get really hurt (or worse) and then go 'that's not as important as the possibility of surviving and his parents showing him a smidge of attention'
That is textbook self-destructive behaviour wrapped up in this need for attention and love. He needs this attention because otherwise he doesn't feel enough for his parent's affection. And how long can a kid grow up like that before he internalizes that?
This lack of self worth is seen in 4x05 when he calls himself 'defective parts' and when Eddie combats that by saying 'its not on you' he combats it not by saying he doesn't think that but that his parents do think of it like that. He isn't saying 'I know I'm not defective' but that 'this situation isn't about me' when it clearly is. It personally speaks to me about low self-worth, that even when he is talking about himself, its through the way other people describe him.
He also has a huge tendency to intellectualize his traumas rather than confront them. Refer to Buck 1.0, 2.0 and 3.0. Instead of processing the fact that his parents lied to him for years, he just says he's a new person because his parent's agreed to family therapy with him. He hasn't even dealt with his emotions yet and he's already packing the trauma in a box to keep away. Even his bisexual arc follows this, he may logically understand that he is bisexual but then he immediately jumped into something without trying to process what that means to him because he just won't think about himself without a buffer of another person.
So we see that Buck tends to feel lonely even when he is surrounded by meaningful relationships (Taylor in 4x08), he has self destructive habits and a lack of self worth. We also see that whenever it comes to him processing or letting himself feel his emotions, he'd rather focus on something else (he finally realizes it is over with Abby; he worries about not being a manwhore like Buck 1.0, his family lied to him; he'd rather focus on the fact that he is getting family therapy and try to find someone romantic, when Eddie is shot and he's asked about it; he'd rather worry about the team and climb up a crane where chances are he could be shot)
I want to take all of this and put it in a storyline for Buck where he learns that he only looks for a romantic partner, no matter who they are, because he wants to avoid being alone with his negative thoughts about himself or what he has been through like the ladder, his parents, dying, being lied to by Maddie, seeing Eddie get shot. The sad and lonely part of him that he keeps trying to put away with any romantic partner that comes his way is not because he lacks romance or love of any kind, but because he is unable to be happy with just himself. Buck doesn't like himself, he's constantly looking for an external change for something internal to him that he doesn't even try to think about and that is self-destructive.
Because the only external change he can think of is tossing himself into any relationship he has the opportunity of being in without thinking about whether that person is good for him. Abby didn't want a serious relationship, he barely got a chance to be meaningful with Ali, Taylor has behaved poorly in regards to his family (118) and Tommy is overall very dismissive of Buck as a person.
And when these relationships end, he feels even more poorly about himself, because he has always thought of any issue in a relationship being his fault because why wouldn't it be?
Buck has serious self worth issues that he needs to learn how to process and learn to like who he is and I hope season 8 will do that.
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I think it’s mostly just the way you phrased that post was like you were assuming whoever was reading it must be shallow and have no life or personality outside of “consuming media” (the most robotic internet term for enjoying art and stories). Which just feels ironic given that it’s on the self-proclaimed “fandom website” where people are bound to go onto their blogs to talk about, like, movies or whatever the hell. Not that I think that’s definitely how you feel because I don’t know you, but at least in my opinion that how most people read your post. It just feels kind of annoying in an especially Tumblr-y way to ask “can you even stand yourself when you aren’t reading a book? do you even have any personality outside of watching that show?”, get surprised when some people who see it think it’s dumb, then immediately go “well I must be right then if you’re all so offended by it… Maybe that’s something you should unpack”. Sorry people are being rude to you though lol, I’m sure you meant well and it was probably just meant to be like a 5-note-post for your mutuals or something.
it was a series of questions i wrote mainly for myself and maybe 5 people who i knew wouldn't interpret my words in bad faith and knew what i was trying to say because we are friends and they understand where i am coming from and the context i was talking in. it wasn't intended to blow up nor was it my goal and im actually quite frustrated that it did because it's only been a headache. even in this ask you are misinterpreting my words and reading into them in the worst possible way and making assumptions about me that are incorrect and you even acknowledge you're doing this in the ask lol so i don't even know what your goal was with sending this. i deleted the post(s) a while ago and want nothing more to do with this conversation sorry
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There’s a couple of things I credit to my improved mental health this year compared to last--therapy of course is a major one, but another has definitely been having friends who are in the same place in life as me.
When my mental health was poor, most of friends were/are married and settled. Now that I have friends who are in similar places as me I don’t feel like I’m behind or inadequate, which are a lot of things that drove me to therapy in the first place.
Sometimes I do still feel left behind, but those feelings have definitely lessened.
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Loved the Distant Echoes update; your writing is as good and engaging as always! And I can't wait to see where it keeps going from here (ie what terrible choices will Din make next?: the continued saga)
Thank you so much! Din has, I think, one more "terrible, no good, the fuck is wrong with you?" choice left to go. I don't see anyone guessing it now, but in a chapter or two everyone will, ha.
I've been cracking jokes about how he's a walnut (he is and I love him for it), but it's also just kind of sad? Yes, this could have been resolved with a conversation with Luke, but Din is operating from an extremely flawed worldview. Our boy was raised by Darth Maul, not exactly a paragon of sanity or good choices.
Din spent a good portion of his childhood having severely incorrect ideas drummed into his head (often literally). He knows Luke as he is (or was at the beginning of ESB) but also knows that if/when he succeeds in becoming a Jedi he will have no choice but to follow their ways. Which Din thinks includes literally wiping out Sith.
He knew his Master was out of control, but that didn't make him re-evaluate the things he was taught. Realizing your parents are only human is much more complicated than that, even for a logical person. Going against one's Master is not an option in his mind, therefore Din believes Luke will have to follow Jedi rules, therefore Luke will kill him if they meet again. Din also knows that he cannot bring himself to kill Luke, so the only option he sees is his death. No, he has not wondered what he would do if Maul was alive and ordered him to kill Luke instead.
At the same time, he knows Luke loves/loved him and having to follow through on wiping out Sith would gut him. The last thing Din wants to do is to cause Luke pain or help his enemies find him, so he came up with his ridiculous plan and keeps doubling down on it. It is absolutely illogical, and it leaves Din hurting worse than he would if he took the risk, but that's the point. He literally knows nothing else.
And naturally, the more he hurts himself the more pain he has to feed the Dark Side, the more he feeds the Dark Side the more he buys into his jacked up worldview (galaxyview?). All he knows how to do is survive, really, and sees no other way than keeping on this track until he keels over.
Peace, after all, is a lie.
Of course, if there's one thing Luke Skywalker is known for, it's taking a third option.
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