Sitting outside together, when I notice that she has an expression best described as "smitten"
Me: Is it math or is it girls?
Her: Hey it could be programming! There's 3 things I like that you don't!
@shit-my-asexual-friend-says
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ultimately when it comes to shipping and fandom space treatment of aspec characters i just don't accept "aro/ace people can still date/have sex" as an answer from nonaspecs. like yeah. mhm. okay. now i think we both know that you're not saying that out of real interest in the diversity of aspec experiences. so you can turn in your seventeen-page essay on why and how you plan to examine this character's aspec identity within the context of a romantic or sexual relationship complete with evidence from canon and peer reviews from multiple aspec people within the next week or i'm putting you in the pit from the edgar allen poe story
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sometimes i forget how alloallo people think and then i'm hit with a wave of amatonormativity and it reminds me that most of the world is actually just Like That
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Hey . Kissing repulsion is always ok. If you're kissing repulsed you're awesome and I care you. It doesn't make you silly, it doesn't make you childish and you deserve respect. It doesn't matter why you're kissing repulsed, if you have a reason at all, how old you are or how much or little you can tolerate, you're not hurting anyone and it's ok. I'm sorry if you've been made to feel bad for it, I'm sorry if you've ever made yourself feel bad for it, I'm sorry it's so hard to avoid. You're cool and you're allowed to feel however you want about it and that should be respected. You're ok
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aro thought of the day: why is jealously such a normalized part of romantic relationships??? like, isn't it unhealthy??? and yet ship dynamic memes have a "jealousy meter" on them??? and ppl make jokes about it??? sounds like you guys need to go to therapy lmao
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something something ace people often being told they're not human for not experiencing sexual attraction and/or not wanting sex, something something vash seeing his sex-averse asexuality as yet another thing that makes him even more different from humans than he already is because of it
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Looks at “amatonormativity doesn’t just hurt arospec people, it hurts allo people too!” addition to one of my posts about arophobia and sighs deeply
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just because someone doesn't label an attraction on the split attraction doesn't make them allo in that attraction.
I don't label my other attractions because to me the only important ones to label are my romantic and sexual attractions as those effect me first and foremost.
That doesn't mean I'm just allo in every other form of attraction. I'm not alloplatonic or alloaesthetic or allofamilial or whatever other ones (not in a dismissive way but in a 'there's so many i cannot name them all way'). I don't feel ANY attraction at all. I don't see a reason to label my other a-attractions because my lack of any attraction at all makes it feel a bit unnecessary for me personally.
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Ever since I realized I was in the aro-/ace spectrum, I started getting more confused when allos went like "but when you find the right person!!!" because, aphobia aside, that's...that's basically demisexuality/romanticism
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"you NEED a romantic partner in life bc who else will help you when you're having a crisis and you can't rely on your friends, what will you do then" I get better friends???
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I swear to God I haven't been so peeved by anything as much as I'm peeved by people saying "El and Liesel came out of nowhere"
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Is it really the case that allo people just.....want to do things like make out? Like all the time? And/or just and seemingly random and inexplicable times?
Because @shit-my-asexual-friend-says and I were chilling on the couch with pleasant ambient music and she just suddenly proclaims that she wishes her boyfriend were here so she could make out with him. Like, did something prompt this thought???? Why are you like this?
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reminder to everyone that trauma IS a valid reason to use aspec labels. "i don't know if i'm aspec or just traumatized—" protip!!! you can be both!!!! the thing about labels is that they're not immutable states of being that you're born as. they're literally just words that we use to describe our lived experiences, and if asexual or aromantic or any related label feel relevant to the way that you experience attraction, whether it's a result of trauma or not, they're there for you to use. having trauma as a cause does not invalidate the fact that someone is experiencing lesser or no attraction. that's still the aspec experience babey. use the label if you want it's there for you <3
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out there doing the lord’s work (headcanoning characters as aromantic and Not interested in romantic relationships at all actually, alienating one fandom at a time but having a fantastic blast with it all the while, which is really all that matters)
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there’s nothing more validating as an aro ace than listening to my very allo bestie talking abt her “love” life.
we’re in university, so it’s…. way too in depth for my liking and i spend my time switching between feeling validated and horrified
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i am so obsessed with the concept of relationship anarchy. i think more people should give up entirely on the concept of traditional relationships and blur the lines between friendship and romance with all of the people they love
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