#what sexism looks like

[personal-blog243]

I’m not sure what “feminism” has come to but friendly reminder that PUBLICLY interrogating your friend about all of the most private, intimate, details of her personal sex life while she is trying to have a relaxing afternoon by a pool is not exactly revolutionary feminist activism. Especially not when every woman has different experiences and trauma and many women struggle with self esteem.

Seriously one of my friends did this yesterday to my other friend and publicly mocked and bullied her for being “sexually frustrated” because she hasn’t had a penis inside of her yet by a public pool where the sound echoes off of the concrete and anyone can hear everything!

She then said “I love feminism! I love that we can talk about this!” No you are not being a sex positive feminist you are publicly embarrassing your friend!!!

Watching “Sex and the city” really convinced a generation of women that being a rich straight white woman in a big city who has friends she over shares about her private life with is inherently what “feminism” looks like 🙄

All this does is make women compete against each other for experiences with men and it is fucking WEIRD and INVASIVE and DISRESPECTFUL and SOCIALLY INEPT and fucking RUDE! It was none of her fucking business to be publicly invasive like that. Can we bring back social propriety???? Do men talk to each other like this????

Women today think this is “feminism” while we still don’t have maternity leave, childcare, etc!!! And sex education and contraception is under attack!

#feminism #feminist #sexism #sexist #misogyny #misogynist #sex positive #sex positivity #me too #times up #sex and the city #respect boundaries #what feminism looks like #what sexism looks like #what misogyny looks like

[sskk-manifesto]

Me for the whole episode:

Me for the 15 seconds of sskk interaction at the end:

#This is a joke obviously. I wouldn't dare disregard the rest of Atsushi screentime #Everything else though... #Jk ajhbcflkasbv the Ranpo chapter is alright. Seeing Yosano is always a bliss especially in the new outfit!!! #I take issues with the sexism but eh when do I not #First time I watched I was like of course I knew the killer! I read Agatha Christie lol #(This is what happens when you have a mystery enthusiast mother btw. #I've always been intimately familiar with Christie and Doyle and Poe and whatsnot) #Nothing much else to say! Great animation quality. #Episode 2x11 is my favourite anime episode so. Yeah :') Looking forward to it #The whole rewatch has been leading to this moment #random rambles #Me when the scene changes and I hear Atsushi's voice: 🥰🥰🥰🥰💞💞💞💞😍😍😍😍❤️❤️❤️❤️ #Edit: (It is 15 seconds. I counted.)

[ssaalexblake]

dw is a mid kid's sci-fi tv show and it's quality level has been mostly entirely consistent (mid, basically, with the occasional very good episode to balance out with crimes against humanity it sometimes produces) the whole reboot, and anybody acting like the Only thing going into peoples opinions of the characters are writing preferences are either Deeply naive or are trying to hide something they know people will not take kindly to.

#dw shit #but look. If you seriously think the one Single doctor without depth is 13 then that is a You having a woman issue. it just is. #there's lots of it #there's thousands upon thousands of words of meta about her and her characters online #as there is for Every Other Doctor #because they All have depth #if you fail to see it the one time you're Not presented with a dude that's not my problem #nor am i gonna hold any hands #i'm not trying to convince you of anything i'm not your mother #but sometimes a duck is just a duck and I will call it a duck #this isn't about Liking the story it's about having a brain not cooked in misogyny to even See it #to start with (you failed the challenge) #kinda hoping the large number of people living up rtd's ass will save gatwa from some of this treatment but i'm not holding my breath #'but I personally would never!' okay but... what about all your buddies??? what about everybody else?? if you're distancing yourself from #Those Bad People you are admitting they exist and there was no point getting pissed at me for pointing out they exist #the lady (gender neutral) doth protest too much #look i don't like Rose much (the og) but you can Bet i've seen some Questionable takes on why she's bad and i'll call them that #the classism and the sexism and the noxious fumes #you can just. Admit that. Even about characters you dislike lol pls

[opens-up-4-nobody]

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#so my mom's wake thing was today and that was a lot. not in an emotional sense but in a im standing here talking for 3hrs #to ppl i dont kno or barely kno. ya kno? but it was good bc so many ppl showed up to talk abt her #so many people. my mom made a huge impact on the school system. so many ppl relied on her. she encouraged at least 2 ppl to get their #master. for one person to specilize in helping the dyslexic after her experience advocating for 3 dyslexic daughters. she wrote and was #awarded a 10000 dollar grant for special needs and intervention curriculum. which will affect so many lives. #everyone loved her. she's gonna get a track meet named after her and a scholarship created in her honor. #she was an amazing person and she affected a lot of lives and im glad she was my mom. and she raised at least one jem in my littlest #sister who is so sweet and is a great teacher. god but there was some weird stuff too. were pretty sure her old boss was in love with her. #and there were some weird comments abt her being a strong woman or this woman doing so much and its like hm y do i detect a note of sexism #y not say she was an amazing person? y the surprise? weird comments about how pretty i looked. which yes i looked great lol. my funeral fit #was cute. we did bright colors bc it was a celebration not a dower event. and im sure it was ment well but it was a lil weird. and then #everyone was telling my grandma what a great job she did raising my mom and like god fuck off she didn't do jack. my mom was great despite #her terrible mother. ugh. but altogether it was good that everyone was able to express their love for her. it was def a day that was for #them mostly. i mean partly for us but mostly for them. none of us even cried. ay but we have 2 more parties in her honor #bc everyone loved her so much we have to do one in her hometown too. plus a personal friends get together. ugh. im so tired #i wish i wasnt the most awkward. eye contact avoidant person in the room but like ya kno. what can ya do? #unrelated

[marzipanandminutiae]

What on earth is a 'corset apologist'? Like, because you acknowledge corsets were perfectly functional supportive undergarments, you're an agent of the patriarchy??

Yep, that's it exactly.

As with all the other red flags in the post, it's not a guaranteed t*rf signal. I've known plenty of non-t*rfs who expressed similar views (including the person who claimed Abby Cox was "looking down her perfectly powdered nose" at Mary Wollstonecraft for daring to [checks notes] point out that Wollstonecraft was rather judgmental about her fellow women's interest in dress). But...it's definitely a "check blog for t*rf leanings" tip-off for me.

And yes, to clarify: some people (t*rfs or otherwise) think female dress history researchers/historical costumers/vintage fashion enthusiasts who don't believe that corsets were The Root of All Evil when commonly worn are just brainwashed patriarchal shills and we can't possibly know what we're talking about.

Because that's way easier than thinking critically about the history you've been taught, and not vaguely misogynistic at all! </s>

#ask #akorah #red flags #dress history #historical costuming #seriously how does anyone take the 'well she just likes her pretty princess dresses and wants to justify that!' #'surely she's never done REAL research into the subject!' tack and not realize #that they've circled around to undisguised sexism? #of the 'women researchers are just bits of pretty fluff who can't be trusted or taken seriously' variety? #these same people would probably swear up and down that what a woman wears isn't important #that only the content of her research matters #but somehow that all flies out the window if she's in an 1890s walking suit or a New Look-inspired dress #and saying (supported) things you don't want to hear #sure there are bad female dress history researchers. just like bad researchers in any field #but the language some people use to talk about decent researchers who simply aren't playing into their view of the past is...

[tomboyyyaoi]

did people forget that the bechdel test was a tongue in cheek joke from a 4 panel comic and not a genuine measurement of whether a piece of media is sexist or not

#sorry im just thinkin abt it now #like obviously like. its a plus like yeah but. its such a simplified version of what sexism is and isnt and how it looks #its not an actual. thing u should judge media by

[ariesbilly]

oh worm...

#heather holloway #i never even considered this but like yeah you right... #also the way tom and the male workers at the paper were sexist towards nancy.... #granted she was out of her damn mind thinking she should get to write articles or whatever her FIRST YEAR AT THE JOB #and i dont remember what else was going on in that plot but i remember sexism was there so im sure somebody said something lmfao #anyway! #i have much to think about now #also i maintain heathers mom look medicated as hell in that family portrait we saw lmao something is not right with her

[pk-sideblog]

Also, before someone decides to argue, I am a NaruSaku and SasuLee shipper. I literally think Sasuke is queer, but that doesn't erase that some of y'all just hate women. Because there is sincerely nothing Sakura Haruno has done that she A) Hasn't shown growth and moved away from behavior wise B) That isn't nearly as close to the same level of bad that Sasuke, Itachi, Neji, Gaara, Obito, or even Naruto "Probably would have been the coolest guy" Uzumaki have done. But, people rush to defend them but cannot extend the same grace to Sakura who was just an annoying teen girl?

You don't have to like her, but some of y'all need to really reflect and realize your dislike of her is rooted in some base of misogyny and because a femme presenting woman dared to be close to your favorites; or for some that a not femme enough presenting woman dared to not kiss your power fantasy's feet. Ultimately, sexism is a disease and it's disturbing the hold it still has on the Naruto fandom.

#discourse #pro sakura haruno #fandom sexism #fandom salt #Seriously #I am bored and tired of Sakura insulting #Sasuke is not a prize #Sasuke has been though a lot but THAT DOES NOT MAKE HIM A POOR DEFENSLESS FLOWER THAT NEEDS TO BE PROTECTED FROM THE EVIL WOMAN WHO WANTS TO #KISS HIM #FIRST OF ALL #He almost killed her so like straight up he can protect himself #Also #Sakura literally after a certain point loved him but focused on what was best Naruto's Sake #Sakura is not nearly as Sasuke obsessed as fans scream #Yall shoulf be looking at Naruto for that #Also Sasuke is just not that great of a person in Shippuden but y'all think mentall illness is an excuse fot everything #No one in Team 7 eas a perfect angel but you rush yo give Naruto Sasuke and Kakashi grace #Even Sai #But never Sakura the one woman #Hmm why is that

[dodecademons]

Funny how like 90 percent of people wanting the wilds back hate to acknowledge the fact that it's partly their fault. I want the wilds to be renewed as well, however if I DARE say yall aren't ready for it and a small part of me thinks some viewers are undeserving I'm the bad guy. Right because the vast majority of you didn't openly admit to skipping over the boys parts in the show, smh. If you arent watching the whole episode why would they want to renew it? They want views, they want money. Do I want the wilds back? Of course. Do I think the gretchen clones deserve it? No. Be better.

#just say you hate men and quit pretending it's 'only because streaming sites hate women/wlw' #you guys LITERALLY THREATENED the actors who played the boys just because they took a job in a show they thought was cool #right and you think you deserve the show to be renewed #you arent ready for that conversation yet though proven time and time again #was it only because of that? absolutely not but dont be so willing to place the blame when we blatantly see where some problems come from #am i annoyed that my replies have been deleted on some the wilds post JUST because i said i didnt mind the boys storyline? #yup #live with the consequences of your actions #the wilds #i want the show back but some of you were really nasty just because a man existed and thats not cool #in the words of waverly earp 'reverse sexism is still sexism wynonna' #shoni was cute leatin had potential but you dont get to be a horrible human #there were so many reactors skipping the boys parts or just saying things just because the boys existed and i cant watch them anymore now #THATS LITERALLY WHAT THE SHOW IS ABOUT #the show is literally about the effects misogyny/the patriarchy has on women and men #if you actually watched the show for it's content you would see that #gretchen is the bad guy for going to extremes and subjecting children to trauma just because she doesn't like men so quit acting like her #I'm not sorry for saying facts #if you're offended you might be the issue so lets take a look at that #the whole the thing is boys vs girls so why in tf would you think they wouldnt at least be brought up a little like in s2 #ugh #i still hate amazon for canceling it

[suffarustuffaru]

Just wanted to say thank you for the ottosuba posting you've done lately. The English speaking fandom is absolutely barren with Otto content, let alone ottosuba content. So to have someone as awesome about it as you post via Tumblr posts, fanfic, fanart, etc. on a good(-ish) website like Tumblr is like finding a diamond in the rough. Anyhow, looking forward to any future ottosuba content from you!

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anon you made my day fr these are very high compliments T^T <3 i appreciate it a lot pfft a part of me is always like "I CANT REVEAL HOW MUCH MY BRAIN IS ROTTING OVER THESE CHARACTERS..." bc i get a little embarassed a little shy bc what if i am posting the same things too much...??? but then i simultaneously go "lol my blog my rules anyway im gonna make a gazillion billion content *clicks post*" which is how all the otto and ottosuba content gets churned out alsdflj. especially bc - like you said - the english speaking fandom is a BARREN DESERT when it comes to otto and ottosuba content T^TT ive been thinking about it lately bc they seem to be a lot more popular in the japanese speaking fandom i think, but theres next to Nothing with the english speaking fandom :o interesting difference there.

but regardless :o yeah i keep making otto and ottosuba content bc i am in Desperate need of it... its a desert and i gotta feed myself too HAH theyve always been interesting to me but in the years ive been into rezero that Interest has skyrocketed bc of all the interesting developments pfft (and also the lack of english fancontent for them HAH). i just think theyre so underrated in the english fandom.... thank you for liking my stuff anon <3 :DD

#ask #also you made me remember that ive been otto(suba) posting in like so many mediums lajdfljsl #i ended up sneaking a bit of meta into these tags oops aljsdfljsf but. #also i just think otto and ottosubas feralness is super interesting and my taste in characters totally isnt predictable (i say this as a p #five shuake fan also. cries.) but also like. people in the english speaking side of the fandom dismiss otto a lot which is interesting to m #like its u know that typical fandom tendency to sometimes only see characters for how they look on the surface. and its also interesting b #ive also been seeing a few people like. almost kind of miss how toxic ottos being in arc 8??? and also ottos general. subaru obsession #things yeah. like why do people miss this stuff??? he literally says his reason for being / existence is to oppose subaru??? what sane #person does that lajdslfjsldfj what sane person is so ride or die theyd rather leave a whole country + their bffs daughter figure to die?? #what sane person manipulates all their friends in order to save them??? understandable motive but literally insane lajsdlfjsld #yeah so anyway im super curious on why english vs japanese fandom have different attitudes towards otto and ottosuba HAH #being an emilia otto AND astrea fan is so weird bc people are so kind with the astreas usually and then being an emilia fan means suffering #through all the sexism and then being an otto fan is just going “YOU GUYS WERE FOOLED BY HIS SOFT BOY AESTHETICS???” and begging people to #remember that he cares about subaru. but that goes for many emilia camp members treatment in fanon. #and also yeah being a fan of almost any character in this fandom is suffering i think alsjdfljsd #granted i was also fooled by the soft boy aesthetics but that was way back when okay. i know now. hes my silly fucked up little guy now HAH

[personal-blog243]

Mandy Moore in 2002:

Stars in “A Walk to remember” which is a surprisingly sensitive and realistic portrayal of being a religious teen girl who is ruthlessly bullied and has badly photoshopped ironic porn of her spread throughout her school to mock and shame her for not having a penis inside of her yet. She also loves studying science especially astronomy because science doesn’t inherently conflict with her faith and she LITERALLY DIES OF CANCER at the end.

Mandy Moore in 2004:

Stars in “Saved!” Which is a mean spirited, condescending, patronizing, bad faith satire of religious girlhood where OF FUCKING COURSE a religious girl gets pregnant as a teen after a failed attempt at converting a gay boy. Her pregnancy is later publicly revealed to the whole world without her consent to mock and humiliate her because come on isn’t that funny guys????? Mandy Moore is NOT the one who gets pregnant but is one of the religious bullies.

Teen girls just can’t win can they? Make it make sense Mandy Moore 🙄. You’re either bullied for being a sexually repressed prude or you’re fetishized as a porn category or called a hypocrite for having sex.

#sexism #sexist #feminist #feminism #Mandy Moore #yes all women #me too #times up #christianity #religion #what sexism looks like #what feminism looks like #what misogyny looks like #misogyny #purity culture #saved! #a walk to remember #saved! 2004 #just girly things #just girly posts #just girly thoughts #just girly stuff #this is what sexism looks like #this is what misogyny looks like #stop bullying #only hope Mandy Moore #Mandy Moore only hope #religious #early 2000s #2000’s teen movies

[words-after-midnight]

This might lose me followers but I truly think some of the takes I constantly see on here policing how especially women (not exclusively, but it's almost always directed at women from what I've seen) talk about men are borderline gaslighting and completely devoid of systemic analysis, and I'm genuinely so tired of seeing them, and I would like to find some way to permanently remove them from my dash.

#i'm not talking about shit like 'kill all men' bc that obviously goes too far #but i keep seeing posts complaining about people venting about hating men or putting 'men dni' on their blogs and shit #and half the arguments are shit like 'someone of any gender can be a bad person uwu' #like. no offense but literally have you heard of the patriarchy. have you looked at any statistics around gender-based violence. #'misandry is still sexism' no it is literally not can you pls shut the fuck up #people are not automatically terfs for venting about men or patriarchy or setting their own boundaries on their own blogs ffs #'what about oppressed men' ok well what about oppressed cis people? what about oppressed abled people?

[kthulhu42]

Sonething that really fucks me off is the immediate turn to womens looks in any dispute. People always used to say "You're against porn because you're ugly." Or "You have small breasts and you're jealous"

And true, when I was younger I didn't like my body. I dated a boy who watched pornography, I was exposed to it at a young age, and I was confused and distressed at how I felt I didn't match up.

But even now, people who claim to be feminists use it. I have plenty of photographs of myself on here, and people love to use them against me. "Well, you look like a man!" And "You have massive eyebrows!" (??) As though this is going to send me to my knees in crushing despair?

like sure, I'm not a supermodel. But I have a house. I have a garden with strawberry plants. I got on the cover of a magazine. I have been married twice. I have a child that I adore. I have diplomas hung on my wall. I have a cat, who... well, we tolerate each other. I have a job. I paint portraits. I have close friends, I have my mother to visit..

There is so much to do. So many noodles to cook. So much to write, to paint, to sculpt. There's sex to be had, there's books to be read, there's cuddles and cupcakes and sunshine on the porch.

I'm not gonna spend all this time worrying about my freaking eyebrows.

#sexism #radical feminism #That picture in my profile? That's me. Big 'ol bushy eyebrows #Someone also said I look like a gorilla #Like okay you tried to insult me - what now? #My Grandpa had way bushier eyebrows though and he was BOSS

[heraldofcrow]

The Soulsborne fandom after that Polygon article about Malenia was released…

#this is how i felt too honestly #that article was just…not it #sorry #i just feel like the author shouldn’t blame Fromsoftware for the sexism in the fanbase when it comes to Malenia #From did an amazing job with her writing and the nudity was artistic #Also what are these little comments in the article about From women being passive or whatever? #That’s literally not even true #Even the firekeeper girls have agency in unique ways #And for every subjugated firekeeper there is a subjugated male knight that literally dies for you #Or his own lady #I feel like that author hasn’t really looked at FromSoft’s female characters in depth #Idk #elden ring #malenia blade of miquella

[liu-yu-xin]

Really fascinating that the group of ppl who have the most problem with lisa doing the burlesque show are chinese ppl (u would not believe how many video essays have been made about this from the moment it was announced to now the topic is literally inescapable everywhere u look and theyre acting like this single event is setting feminism back 50 years) BUT guess who were the ppl searching lisa 疯马秀 on twt for video footage and flooded the tag with porn bots. ALSO chinese ppl. The fucking irony of it all. Now i am aware these are probably not the same ppl and the pearl clutching group probably takes the most issue with the second group but this is YOUR fucking problem in YOUR society and youve decided to have this fight over the body of a woman who is a) not chinese b) not active in china c) not doing this performance in china like why do u even care??? And its gotten to the point where theres outrage about the two chinese actresses who went to fashion week and also went to lisa’s show saying they should be blacklisted and theyve ruined their career by associating with this like its just ridiculous

#and the wildest comment i saw was ‘this proves we have better feminism in china bc we would never let a woman degrade herself like this’ #its like. from what im hearing u are doing most of the degrading here. AND its an issue thats so unanimously one sided that #men have felt comfortable making commentary disapproving of it and some of the stuff they say is just straight up misogyny again #like… congratulations u have gone from we have better feminism than the west to u have circled back to regular sexism #I really thought it would just die down but basically everyone in china who even knew who she was has turned on her #like do u think it’s feminist to attack the way she looks and call her names for dating the rich louis vuitton guy. #and i dont even want to defend lisa bc i also think its a weird career choice but thats IT. just say its #weird and move on!! stop inventing new forms of misogyny wrapped in feminism wrapped in misogyny wrapped in feminism #i am soo sick of ppl talking about this and bashing lisa for easy feminism points #lisa #blackpink #sidney talks shit

[hyperfixationtimego]

“Kaito is sexist!” Danganronpa is literally Sexism: The Game what the fuck are you on about

#fr the sexism argument bugs the hell outta me #like y’all just want an excuse to hate him sooooo bad it’s so obvious #like hey. we gonna acknowledge how abysmally sexist the protags are written to be or…..? #we gonna bring up the man’s fantasy scenes?? #STOP acting like my man isn’t literally the most supportive motherfucker in this entire series #he deserves all the love #🤡 <- how y’all look when you blame the characters for what is very clearly author’s bias #danganronpa #kaito momota #swearing #cursing #ndrv3 #negative #vent #new danganronpa v3 #killing harmony #danganronpa v3