#victim silencing

[furiousgoldfish]

When you grow up in abuse, first part of your life you have to pretend everything is fine and you're not in pain at all and this is normal and you're good, so your abusers can keep their secrets and not be outed as abusers (because your life is on the line and if you talk and they find out, consequences could be fatal). But then when you manage to get out of it and go out there and live in the world, you believe you'll finally get the chance to get the truth out there, to act true to your feelings and to say what you went through and for it to matter! You want a humanizing experience, you're no longer shackled by threats of abuse if you speak out and you want the truth to be out there, you want your experiences acknowledged!

And it turns out, nope, everyone still wants you to keep it down and act normal or you're not a part of society and you will still be ostracized if you say what happened because people prefer pretending it doesn't happen and they don't wanna hear about it.

First you have to act normal to protect yourself, then you have to act normal to protect everyone else. There is no way to live true to your feelings and experiences.

#speaking about abuse #trauma #psychological abuse #threats #emotional abuse #toxic society #victim silencing #victim shaming #pretense of normalcy #forced pretense of normalcy

[sneezypeasy]

If Katara became Fire Lady, the person who this'd suck the most for isn't actually Aang, it'd be Bato's kid (or whoever's mum or dad happens to be good friends with Hakoda). Can you imagine? Your mum's voice?!?! Hakoda's kids are your age and they're out there being chief of the SWT and co-ruling over the Fire Nation. Who are you chieftain of?? You can't even govern a penguin. Disgusten.

#zutara #atla #a moment of silence for bato junior #the real victim of this tragedy #press f to pay respects

[proudfreakmetarusonniku]

but also like. guys you don’t need to leave the minecraft youtube community bc one person is bad to clarify. like. shelby is a minecraft youtuber. a lot of her friends are minecraft youtubers. those friends are supportive and as far as we know all believe her. the vast majority of minecraft youtubers are like. fine. this shit is something that Happens because Abusers are Manipulative, going to another hobby will Not shield you from anything and you’re not immoral for liking something bad people also liked. which is. one of the biggest video games ever. like in this situation no one was knowingly harbouring an abuser and it seems everyone was supportive. this is just a case of some people being shit, not anything to do with mcyt. hell, the guy hasn’t been on minecraft in like a year lmao.

i fully understand why the content might be uncomfortable to you guys now but like, please don’t self flagellate and cut yourself off from an entire genre of media because of one guy again. i saw that happen after the dream stuff and a lot of people ended up losing important things because they made rash decisions and felt like they Had to leave. but please. take one deep fucking breath. this has happened before. this has happened so much before, and in ways far worse than this. because abusers, unfortunately, exist. you should not feel guilty for being manipulated by a manipulative abuser, don’t blame yourself. do what you have to, but please, please keep in mind that the majority of minecraft youtube is fine. it is fine to continue engaging with it. it’s fine to be manipulated by an abuser and it’s not your fault. please don’t make rash decisions and end up losing things you care deeply about and being unable to get them back. distance yourself all you want, but please be careful to not do so out of emotional self harm from the guilt. that’s something this fandom encourages far too much- even outside of this- and it’s unhealthy and anyone expecting it of you is cruel.

#mcyt #abuse tw #i guess this is discourse idk but like #this happened two years ago and the amount of people who realised cutting themselves off from All mcyt was self harm and came back #only to have lost a lot of content they created and valued because they wanted to punish themselves for trusting a predator #and like. you’re victim blaming yourself. obviously you are not anywhere near as much a victim as The victim #but being manipulated into supporting abusers is still something that is an action they take to harm others #Being used as a tool to silence others unknowingly is a cruel thing and can be traumatic to go through #its honestly really concerning as someone working on their own emotional self harm to see it. like this isn’t about anyone in specific but #guys. emotionally self harming isn’t helping. you don’t need punishment. breathe and think through things.

[citrus-blade]

'Quackity probably didn't even know!'

It's his server. If he actually doesn't know, then that's a problem. It's neglect of the people who play on and work for this server. This dude can't constantly say how proud he is of his project and then not be involved enough to know what is happening behind the scenes.

People weren't allowed to talk about Wilbur or Forever because it was seen as CONTROVERSIES. That is actively protecting abusers from being deplatformed! That's also not controversies; those are actual abusers who hurt people and shouldn't be swept under the rug!

When you want to start a project that is about connecting people from different communities and in different languages, you can't make your admins sign an NDA! You can't force them to not talk to each other when it comes to said projects and therefore stop them from knowing about events soon enough.

This isn't some school project where someone puts zero work into it and then takes all the praise for it. This is about people who try to make a living out of this, and paying them minimum wage is vile. They do so much work! And the admins on Twitter who look for clips and make edits, etc., don't even get paid AT ALL. One admin drew a commission and never got paid for it!

Also targeting certain Eggs where the streamer will have the most emotional reaction just for content is disgusting. It gives off emotional manipulation vibes. Some streamers were actually in distress because of this and all for content!

One admin was afraid to talk about the 🍉 genocide (don't wanna get this into the tag cause it's more important to use it to spread awareness) because they feared getting fired! Don't you see how fucked up this is?

I just can't believe that Quackity wasn't aware of ANY of this stuff. And again, if he was, that's just as problematic!

I really hope that all admins will start a strike to finally get the payment they deserve. I hope the CCs playing on this server aren't aware of any of this (but considering how some said how tiring they felt from the egg stuff only for one day later to praise it, I doubt they don't know at least a bit). I hope Quackity finally has the fucking balls to talk about this. Just ONCE he should open his mouth and address this.

And if y'all don't see it the same way, then I have lost all hope in humanity.

#quackity neg #qsmp neg #q neg #controversy #citrus talks #I am so mad about the silencing about wilbur and forever #as a victim this makes me just so angry and urgh

[awoogaslashers]

#pinterest memes #slasher memes #meme #slashers #house of wax 2005 #bo sinclair #vincent sinclair #heartbroken friends of rainbow bridge victims kurt and monica villani break silence after deaths in horror crash #idk why I put that tag yall

[fxingdead]

Definition of domestic abuse:

Domestic abuse is typically manifested as a pattern of abusive behavior toward an intimate partner in a dating or family relationship, where the abuser exerts power and control over the victim. Domestic abuse can be mental, physical, economic or sexual in nature.

Wilbur repeatably bit Shelby hard enough to cause bruises and pain, implanted a safe word to which he always ignored and weaponized. still bit her hard and would even purposely bite down harder if she screamed the safe word. Poke at the bruises for “fun” just to hurt her. Lock her inside his filthy home and make her clean up his filth.

William Patrick spencer gold domestically abused Shelby.

Definition of sexual assault:

The term sexual assault refers to sexual contact or behavior that occurs without explicit consent of the victim. Some forms of sexual assault include: Attempted rape. Fondling or unwanted sexual touching. Forcing a victim to perform sexual acts, such as oral sex or penetrating the perpetrator's body.

George put his hand under caiti’s shirt and touched/fondled her boobs in a room full of people while she was drunk and she didn’t explicitly consent.

George Davidson sexually assaulted caiti.

#mcyt #dsmp #george davidson #wilbur situation #fuck wilbur soot #wilbur mcyt #wilbur soot #gnf mcyt #fuck georgenotfound #georgenotfound #support caitibugz #support caiti #caitibugz #caitibugzz #silence is not consent #shubble #support victims #support shubble #shelby shubble #shelby grace #fuck gnf #gnf #gnf situation #william patrick spencer gold #william gold

[astrobei]

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#i was stunned into silence i fear #DID SHE HAVE TO ANSWER SO FAST #DID NOT HESITATE #haven i hate you so bad but in one month we will be cuddle piling on each other so hopefully that solves one of these problems #temporarily #/bite victim

[gretahayes]

batman fans are really annoying and almost definitely the most annoying dc fans (and i say this as a batman fan.) but green lantern fans are a close second because holy shit man

#my rambles #the biggest victim complexes ever...and definitely some of it is deserved the gls have had a rough go of it but like. #especially since there's like ten or more earth gls (not to mention non-earth gls. or other corps) for people to like and still be gl fans #there's like. zero coherence between the groups. its all my-way-or-the-highway. its all my-guy-and-his-story-is-the-best #ITS SO TIRING. im tired. at least some batman fans are self aware but most annoying gl fans are not #BREAKING MY SILENCE. i love my gl fan friends/mutuals but the vast majority...

[sciderman]

How do you feel about the increase in really weird NSFW ads on here (advertising panels that look like sexual encounters, and AI art apps that pride themselves on porn) but will take down NSFW posts from their users, even if it isn't technically sexual.

i hate all social media and it's consistent prioritising the advertisers over the users and the internet simply was a better place before capitalism sunk its hooks into it

#i could write essays about how capitalism ruined the internet. #i was actually talking to someone earlier today about how youtube was kind of effectively ruined by monetisation. #and they were raised in the soviet union and we had a bit of a talk about how art was better because it wasn't for profit. #the people who made art made it because they wanted to do it and because they loved it. #she said that communism was terrible for every aspect of life for her. people's lives under communism wasn't pretty. #but the art was better. and i feel like it's true for the internet – it was better when it was a free-for-all. #the companies didn't know how to exploit it yet and turn it into a neverending profit-driven hellscape. #people created content because they wanted to. because they wanted to make something silly to make people laugh. #not for profit. not for gain. not for numbers. not to further their career. #i miss the days of newgrounds and youtube before monetisation. #capitalism has soiled everything that's joyful and good in this world. #people should be able to share whatever they want. #people should be able to tell any story they want without the fear of being silenced by advertisers. #that's what made the internet so beautiful before. anyone could do anything and we all had equal footing. #but now we're victims of the algorithm. and it makes me sick. #i'm quitting my job in social media. i'm quitting it. it makes me too depressed. i have an existential crisis every freaking day. #every day i wake up and say "ah. this is the fucking hell we live in #i'm so sorry i feel so passionate about this. #social media is a black hole and it is actively destroying humanity. forget ai. social media is what's doing it. #i miss how beautiful the internet used to be. it should've been a tool for good. but it's corrupt and evil now. #sci speaks

[furiousgoldfish]

When you're a kid and people do bad stuff to you or you witness bad things being done, you're encouraged to 'tell someone' and 'not keep it secret' and it's almost like we're responsible for making it known and making it stop, you know, if we don't do it nobody will.

But then when we do talk to the person we think is going to believe it + who has the means to stop it, and we get shut down and silenced, this person,, is not responsible for anything at all? They've just been given this valuable information that took us so much courage to open up about and the responsibility, at this point, should be 100% off of our shoulders because we did it, we Told Someone, it should get resolved now, but no? We get victim blamed and told we're making it up or even worse, that we need to shut up about it to keep the 'peace', and the person who does this to us is somehow clear of all responsibility, despite aiding the abusers blatantly??

I don't care anymore, if we told someone we did our part, and the rest is now on that person's shoulders, or maybe, MAYBE on the abuser's shoulders, because they're the ones committing crimes in the first place and it's literally 0% our fault this monster is out there. We are not responsible for protecting the world from the abusers, especially when we tell on them and you all shut us up and punish us for exposing their crimes.

#child abuse #victim blaming #victim silencing #telling someone about the abuse #enablers #making children responsible for the sins of adults #blaming children for both the abuse and not telling about it #even when we do tell #and nobody else is responsible at all #even when they know about it #i'm sick of this

[sharptoothed-gaze]

Hello fandom. I understand that very few of you will care about my personal opinion, and that's fine, but I find it important enough to how I run my blog to share anyway.

In the future, all of my posts will simply be avoiding any mention of Wilbur wherever possible. His character is a major part of Tallulah's story, but I will be keeping him away from my blog as much as I can.

Typically, I would go with a "death of the author" approach and keep mentions of the character and cc more separate. However, the cc's alleged quest for money and fame changes that entirely. I will not be contributing to that. That's just my personal choice, so there should be no shame to anyone who chooses to separate the two, obviously.

I watched Shubble's video and I saw his response. In my opinion, it was terrible. The way he centralized his own "growth," minimized the pain he caused, and left the actual apology on the second page is revealing. His statement reminds me of some of the past emotional abuse I've experienced, so his content will no longer be welcome on my blog. I believe in the merit of archiving, so I will not be deleting any past posts, but he will no longer have any place in my death family related tags.

#I am not usually an unprovoked statement kind of person #especially because I don't think that's why people look at my content and I 100% understand a desire for escapism #However his name would absolutely pop up naturally on this blog since I main Philza. #I have little interest in letting that happen though. #I have mentioned in the past how victims should never feel forced into silence and this is a part of that. #I listen to the victim. I wait for more information. I form an opinion when I can assess both parties b/c victims deserve to be heard . #I have listened and will continue listening but Wilbur and his own words are enough to paint my own picture. #Unless something major changes this is how me and my blog will be handling it. Thank you. #qsmp #qsmp wilbur #wilbur situation #tw abuse

[poetrybyonur]

It’s not lack of communication that ruins relationships and friendship, it’s the lack of comprehension. You can communicate in the most articulate, coherent and eloquent way to a person, but if they can’t comprehend what you’re telling them due to lack of emotional intelligence, then communication is useless. Might as well be speaking a foreign language. Rumi said, “Listen to silence. It has much to say.” Let them understand your silence.

#poets on tumblr #love quotes #love poetry #romantic poetry #love poem #onurtaskiran poetry #romantic writer #gentleman poet #poets and writers #love #relationships #communication #comprehension #listen to understand #emotional intelligence #silence speaks #foreign language #self absorbed people #victim mentality

[proudfreakmetarusonniku]

Like honestly I think that people are genuinely unaware of how MCYT and the internet as a whole used to be because like… the space is improving. Things coming to light when they happen and not years later is a good thing. Not only is it impossible to have a space with no bad people ever, any space that appears as such is actively dangerous and suppressing the victims within the community as a way to stay “pure.” I really worry about people leaving for those sorts of spaces because in my experience they’re far more rotten than MCYT could ever be, because victims are shamed into silence and treated like dirt to keep that spotless reputation. It’s a show of purity, not any support for victims, because Victims Coming Out Is A Good Thing. It means they feel safe in the space to do that. Places that seem safer because they don’t have all that are just ones that silence any victim far worse.

#myct #psa #abuse victims coming forward is a good thing and people portraying it as a sign mcyt is uniquely rotten is fucking terrifying #because by idolising spaces that don’t have abuse victims coming out you’re encouraging them to keep silent #I’ve met many people like wilbur soot in quote unquote wholesome communities #where speaking out against them made you a pariah becuase they valued appearing free of abuse than actually stamping out abusers #I've seen way more exploitative systems than even the qsmp admin thing and if you spoke out you were the difficult one who deserved hate #communities cannot purge abusers they simply need to be open to removing them #Valuing moral purity only silences that because acting like abusers are good people is easier and looks better

[thewingedwolf]

this being the second time i’ve been screaming a character is clearly bisexual in a show on fox and then the show is canceled, picked up by abc, and that exact character is revealed to be bisexual literally the next season and the actors imply they’ve been thinking about this for awhile makes me so conspiracy brained. i bet any amount of money that andy samberg wanted jake and rosa to both be canon bi by like season 3 and fox put a hit out on him, stephanie, and andre just to be safe. i bet they were gonna make schmidt and nick bi in canon and have cece enter a long relationship with a woman but fox threatened to shave zoey’s head in her sleep if elizabeth merryweather even let cece mention another woman outside of reagan. i bet the executives watched the finale of house where house and wilson ran off together and started crying screaming and sent fake anthrax in the mail to hugh laurie to scare him off from doing an american tv show again. i bet wentworth miller AND carlos valdes had to be physically stopped from kissing another man on set. fox who else are you silencing i need to know.

#911 #buddie #911 abc #bbc was clearly silencing bradley james #obviously something happened between jensen misha and the producers. #WHO ELSE IS A VICTIM

[awoogaslashers]

#pinterest memes #slasher memes #slashers #meme #scream 1996 #scream #billy loomis #idk what to tag this as #michael myers #stu macher #freddy krueger #jason vorhees imagine #hehehehe #social skills #depressing shit #shitpost #halloween 1978 #mwah mwah #i feel empty #heartbroken friends of rainbow bridge victims kurt and monica villani break silence after deaths in horror crash #no shame #i found a ‘modern day treasure’ when i took out money from the bank #i found the viral ‘glitz & glam’ 30 piece beauty tool set for just $30 and my shopping trick paid off #i found canadian nickel in a $2 junk bin #i found this in my drafts

[thetimelordbatgirl]

Some people really saw George and Dream essentially do victim blaming and actually suggest silence is consent and actually proceeded to still support the two, huh?

#georgenotfound #dream #lets be real these people were always gonna support george #the way it was like 'i believe george!' instantly and crap #and ignoring the red flags like implying that small stuff like laughing and acting playful is consent in the process #like ah yes laughter and acting playful and silent yes's...definitely consent....dear fucking god.... #and the fact that dream also supported him instantly and actually added to the victim blaming and silence is consent shit #beyond vile