#this post is kind of a vent?

[rose-icosahedron]

I miss Harry Potter.

Let me explain, since this sounds both weird and potentially like a red flag off the bat. But here we go.

We know now that JKR is a transphobe who uses the platform granted to her by the popularity of her book series to spread and justify her views. Talking positively these days is a dog-whistle for TERFs and Transphobia. And I know that retrospectively re-reading some of her works knowing her views it seems obvious in someways.

However, none of that mattered when I was a little kid who thought magic was cool and didn't have much media literacy. And tones of people who did liked the books too.

I have fond childhood memories of having the books read to me by my dad in the evening, and of going to the Harry Potter park(I think its in universal studios although I don't know) and absolutely loving the butterscotch slushie they had that they called butterbeer. I remember having incredibly detailed conversations with my family about the fact we were probably all Ravenclaws.

The first fanfic I ever read was "harry potter and the methods of rationality" a fic that was a complete re-write of the entire series that showed off various logical fallacies and addressed them, adding logic to the original series and being really the sort of thing my geeky family loved, which note, my dad read this fic to me when I was little, and it is honestly still one of my favorite fics of all time.

These were all good memories, and there was nothing wrong with them. My family enjoyed this series and the media around it and its fandom, tons of people did. We all did, honestly.

But now adays I don't think I could say all this without this context. Because of everything, it is almost impossible to say that you did enjoy this thing as a child and not call your younger self bad for that. For something that you could not have predicted or known about. And its sad, and I miss Harry Potter.

I'm not saying go and ignore what JKR is doing with her platform now and try and be giant Harry Potter fans all over the place, I'm just saying I'm sad. That that book series was, in many ways, good, or at least good enough to capture our imagination. People read and liked it for a reason and the joy many of us found in it was good, the work may not be but the memories were. I'm saying that those good memories weren't bad for happening, and that it sucks that it has all become what it as.

Don't feel bad for enjoying what you enjoyed.

You had fun as a kid, don't let an asshole take away the joy from those memories.

Or well, you don't have to. If you don't want to.

And I'm going to re-read the methods of rationality sometime because it was great and someone made an awesome audio book recording of it and I like the nostalgia that comes with it.

#harry potter #jk rowling #this post is kind of a vent? #it feels like its shameful now to admit that you liked harry potter without casting some sort of negative judgment on the enjoyment of it? #like it feels like you are supposed to feel guilty for it #and it kinda just sucks #that feeling has bothering me for awhile #so here's my thoughts on it. #:/

[catsauceeartofficial]

Accepting isolation, craving belonging

#art #digital art #comic #long post #this is kind of vent? #I don't want to be all I had a rough childhood wahh #I just find it bizarre to have so many little aspects of my childhood shape me #I crave isolation #I thrive in isolation #But I want to belong #I want to intimately know someone #and I want someone to intimately know me #This is to all the people who have loved me #even if we dont talk anymore #i love you and have loved you and i want nothing but for you to be happy #original post

[bloggingboutburgers]

When I talk about how I don't like sex, it's so people like me can feel "more normal" and not so "broken". Not so everyone else can feel "less normal".

Can't believe we still have to say stuff like that all the time in any context of advocacy but this isn't about making things worse for you. It's about making stuff a little bit better for everyone so everyone can be seen. Not even necessarily understood. Just seen.

(PS: I don't wanna put a disclaimer on literally all of my posts to say I mean no ill to allo people. That should be implied. With that said, to all the allo people who DON'T react like that: thank you. Y'all give me hope.)

#no one can know i don't like sex #asexual #asexual problems #sex repulsed #tw aphobia #aphobia #fragility #sorry i don't really like doing posts that aren't on the kind spirited side #but vent art is still a pretty healing things to get things out of one's system #and it's been a rough week #my art #nonburger

[scoliwings]

"What if you were cured?"

This is a question I get a lot, usually after sharing that I am deaf and I do not speak English. Deaf people get this in general. We've likely been asked this thousands of times in our lifetimes.

Most people treat it as a casual, sometimes playful question. Like it's something that would have a "why, yes, I'd love to be hearing!" answer. As if it's obvious that everyone who's ever deaf or disabled should simply choose to be abled. As if it's even remotely easy to get that kind of treatment, to simply learn a language you've never even heard, to simply have your ears altered to take on a small, artificial fraction of the full range of hearing people have.

I've been asked that question so much that it all sounds like "Why don't you just die?" to me.

I'm used to shrugging it off and I constantly educate people about deaf culture and accessibility and why these kinds of questions are wrong. Now, I'm surrounded by people who defend me if this is asked. It's a nice balm to the decades of isolation and pain I've been through, particularly when I rarely find any deaf people online or in person.

#comic #our art #wingmate talks #vent #deaf #deafness #deaf culture #i know i wasn't going to post much art here because of all the AI fucking bullshit #but this should be here #also i'm NOT going to explain this time how this is wrong. #please look up this kind of stuff. i'm so tired. #i wanted to draw more optimistic comics before this but #well. here we are #ableism #audism

[forbiddennhoney]

"fat ppl are so hot and bangable. fat people are sexy. i want to fuck fatties" okok heard but do you actually like us as people? do you know anything abt the fat creators u follow who share things abt their lives? how do you treat fat ppl who are undesirable to you? do you listen to us when we are screaming about the ways that fatphobia is everywhere? no not mindlessly reblog, but listen and internalize. do you take the time to unpack your biases against fat ppl? or even the fatphobia you absolutely were taught growing up? do you hold your thin/not fat friends accountable when they compare themselves to us because they dont like the way they look? do you advocate for us when people make us the butt of jokes? do you actually date fat people? do you befriend fat people? are you kind to fat strangers you don't find attractive? do you feel the need to qualify your love for fat people? do you love any fat people who arent related to you? do you respect fat ppl of all sizes? what do you consider "fat"? is it just someone with bigger than average boobs/butt? do you like fat people with small boobs/butts? does "we love bellies here" include large bellies covered in stretch marks? does it include bellies with multiple rolls and skin discoloration because of those rolls? does it include those things together? when you say fat do you mean actual fat people? do you include fat people who arent white? who are disabled? who reject the expectations of hyper femininity/hyper masculinity? when the trend of wanting to fuck certain fat ppl wears off yet again will you continue to desire us? to love us? to cherish us? do you see us as people even when we do not give you sexual access to our bodies?

#personal #this is kind of a vent #i see so many ppl rb those “i love bellies” posts or talk abt features of fatness #but decontexualized #i see so many ppl pretend to like us and like its just exhausting #and yes i know im talking about fatness a lot right now #im having big feelings and im gonna blog abt them cause i can #if u dont like it unfollow me #fatphobia #fetishization

[sunlit-mess]

something something

#im trying to draw hhhh #sorry if im just here and there- but ive been reading inboxes ^^ and tysm..! I bring back the same kindness to you! #sorry if all i draw is nothing but venting now- but ill swing back someday hopefully #messyr #doodle #vent post #vent art #chronic emptiness #bpd

[inkly-heart]

please don’t be sad little sprout, you are loved 🌱 🖤

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#🌱Thank you<33🌱 #I guess my latest vent art post made some of you guys worried. I'm sorry ;;n;; ) #but I'm alright. well.. kind of? Like I haven't done anything to myself kind of alright? #maybe I should explain bit about my situation but at the same time I don't feel comfortable to open up too much #but simply said it's about doing art as a job and mental health #Things haven't been going well but I am getting help for my mental health #This is all what I will say for now about my situation #I apologize again that I made you guys worried #but I do warn that I might post more vent art if I get enough energy to draw #this is just one way how I deal with my emotions #but if you don't like vent art I suggest to block the words vent and vent art #I remember tumblr has this option somewhere?? #and uhh.. I don't really know how to end this post but thank you everyone who has been sending support<33 #I might not know how to reply to them but I have read them all and I'm very thankful for all the support what you guys have given me🌱 #Thank you🌱 #ask #anon #me talking

[queenlucythevaliant]

Just to clarify my thoughts (since I've had a number of people ask me about it) re: Job and cursing God. There's a big difference between cursing God as used in Scripture and how we generally would think of cursing at God today.

Cursing someone, in the Bible, has a lot of depth to it. It's not just saying "screw you " in anger, it's got a sense of forsakenness to it. It's the opposite of a blessing, a removal of blessing. If the blessing is presence, your face shining on the person you're blessing, then a curse is absence. In some translations, Job's wife tells him to "renounce God and die," which I honestly think makes a lot more sense to modern ears.

Job says a lot of unpleasant things to and about God in his anger and grief. So do the Psalmists. A number of the Prophets. So can we. God can take it if we come to him with honest expressions of our emotion, including those not-so-nice ones directed at him. I don't think there's anything wrong with getting mad at God and saying, "How dare you, you bastard" when you suffer unjustly. You can say much worse, I think, without sinning, though I don't feel particularly inclined to give examples. But as long as it's an honest expression of your heart, I think you're doing exactly what prayer is for. You're presenting him your heart with an open hand. He can use that. Opposite of love is not hate but indifference, etc.

Job doesn't renounce God. Neither should we. But I think when you're truly suffering, you're gonna have those feelings toward God either way. He'd rather you address them with him directly than try to avoid them. Cursing at God in the modern sense is actually a great way to keep the relationship strong and not end up cursing/renouncing him in the Biblical sense.

#i did try to draw that distinction in the original post but I didn't really go into detail #mostly bc i was trying to be concise and just focus on how the church talks to sufferers #so here's the long version #pontifications and creations #only thou art holy #also side note: there was someone yesterday who responded to that post with the suggestion that suffering is generally the sufferer's fault #and it got worse from there #just an absolutely rank response that had me immediately blocking that person and googling if there was a way to remove someone's addition #idk to what degree that person is an active member of this broader christian community we've got going on here #but if you see that post (and you'll know it when you see it) please as a favor to me don't interact with it #there were some lovely responses and additions to that post yesterday too #but that one made me mad #idk. to a certain degree i wanted to vent #they're blocked now though so whatever #anyway. I've sort of been percolating on these various thoughts for a few weeks #since i went to a really fluffy women's talk on suffering #and now i kind of want to give my version #I'm far from the greatest sufferer in the world. i am well aware of that #but as I've been sick I've just done So Much Thinking and reading about theodicy and struggle with God that i feel qualified to opine #unlike the giver of that talk #anyway #tag rant over #...for now #theodicy

[fun-k-boards]

I've never understood the excitement around marriage. I've never understood the 'rush' around the idea of a relationship. I've never understood the heartbreak or annoyance people feel when they're alone for valentine's day, or when their partner doesn't give them a gift for it. I've never understood why someone would like kissing with their tongues or on the lips. I've never understood why naked bodies are sexual. I've never understood why I should feel my world shatter when someone rejects me. I've never understood why I should be expected to 'just give the relationship a try' when someone confesses to me. I've never understood why friends will demean someone by implying they just 'aren't good enough' because their friend got rejected by that person, no matter how gentle or respectful the rejection was.

I've never understood why sex and romance need to be brought up and hyper focused on in every conversation imaginable.

I'll probably never understand.

#aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #aroace #acearo #there's nothing wrong with people who enjoy romance or sex by the way #this is kind of just a vent post #i guess? #im sort of just confused about romance snd sex so thats what this is about #to be clear i dont want to experience either #im not at all ashamed to be aroace

[mike-krol]

‘autism is a superpower!’ mothers when their autistic children have meltdowns and harm themselves instead of just being awkward and liking stuff intensely:

#this post is about. my mother #from the shelves of costco #kind of a vent #tw vent

[charrfie]

#im so sad it was such a good ask blog too but my mood has been so severely impacted by it i literally could not handle it anymore #big surprise your favorite character being put through constant and severe turmoil is emotionally damaging. who wouldve guessed #it makes me sad people are so fucking mean too :^( #<- in relation to some of the asks folks send in to guide stories along #like sure cute aggression yeah whatever but some of yall are straight up cruel for no reason. ill never understand it #i really wish i had the heart to keep following this blog bc its such a huge and beautiful passion project... but im sensitive:^( #even if its fictional #sorry to the mutual i had to break </3 wahhhh #late night personal posting. goodnight #laika originals #oh should i tag this as uhhh #vent #? kind of not really im just talking here

[fishing-lesbian-catgirl]

I can imagine anything guy image: “I can spiral into tears and convince myself I’m the worst person alive over anything”

#it’s soooooo easy #‘hey that thing you said was kind of insensitive’ -> feel awful and apologize immediately -> #try to explain that I’m a flawed human being in hopes that they don’t hate me as much -> realize I’m using it as an excuse -> feel worse -> #want to explain that I feel bad in hopes that it makes my apology sound genuine -> realize if I do I’m starting a pity party -> #Devil on my shoulder says that I SHOULD start a pity party bc then people have to console me even though I’m the one who fucked up -> #realize that if the devil on my shoulder thinks that that some part of me must think that. thinking that is kind of terrible -> #feel like I’m terrible -> start crying -> realize that crying will turn it into a pity party anyway -> #realize that I don’t want to feel like I’m terrible. that I do actually want people to console me -> realize I don’t deserve it -> #admit that I am truly horrible for trying to turn my fuck up into a way to make people comfort me -> #post about it on tumblr to vent (?) -> realize now I’m starting a pity party in front of almost 8k people -> #realize that makes me even worse. -> break down in tears feeling sorry for myself when. again. IM the one who fucked up #repeat at and slight inconvenience or mistake. feel like a piece of shit forever :) #it’s a flawless system. if someone sees me struggling and tries to console me I can redirect that to confirm that I’m a horrible person #try and tell myself that I’m spiraling bc of mental illness -> that’s an excuse -> #excuse = horrible person bc I’m not willing to own up to my mistakes -> return to spiral

[blitzwhore]

It's always fun experiencing severe mental illness symptoms because of fiction, eh?

#helluva boss #Stolitz #helluva boss spoilers #helluva spoilers #I feel like I've finally managed to stabilise myself #Which is impressive. It's taken less than 24h. Thank you therapy #Last time a fandom left me emotionally in shambles (the last of us 2) it took me days to overcome the anxiety #Anyway the reason I'm talking about this is to hopefully give some visibility to the fact that this kind of thing can happen #When you struggle with mental illness #I'm not posting to vent or because I need help or anything! I'm fine! #But I do want others to know that it's okay if you're not fine because of something fictional you really care about and you're not alone #This is your reminder to think back to techniques that have helped you handle anxiety before if you're feeling shaken or on edge now #You got this!!!

[f4gwithf4ngs]

just need to be held by a boy and told that everything’s okay

#kind of a vent post #mlm #mlm yearning #gay #gay yearning #mlm thoughts #t4t mlm #nblm #mlnb #ftm mlm #gay mlm

[naffeclipse]

I know it's just because I'm a tired cranky raccoon rn but I feel like everyone hates me

#ya know that post #the self care one with the racoon? #and it gives like three scenarios of feeling like everyone hates you/feeling like you hate everyone/feeling like you hate yourself #that's what i have to remind myself of when the feelings of hate get really bad #sorry for the vent like i know in my brain it's not true but i need to expel the feeling from my body with some kind of acknowledgment and #get free of it somehow and this is it #vent #naff nuh huh

[redactedcrowart]

regardless, i wasn't built to be alone

part of this series 1 ; 2 ; 3 ; 4

#[posts visceral definitely-not-vent art] anyway so how's everybody been i know it's been a little while #i just finished reading It the Book which no one should ever do probably. next up is salem's lot 👍 #also been writing ocs and shit. i'm working on their character sheets but one of them is so fucking hard to draw for no reason. i hate him #anyhow happy trans day of visibility that was Not intentional on my part. this one's not even that much about transgenderism too #well. it kind of is. but it's kind of not. but it is. but it's not as well. you understand #lycanthrope #my art #art #illustration #voidpunk #comic #poetry #(sorta) #oh hey there's not even blood this time. a win