#therapist red flags

[caught-between-black-and-white]

Just because they are therapists, they are not automatically right with everything they say.

Talk to your therapist if they’re wrong. Never let yourself be intimidated or influenced by anything your therapist says if it’s not true.

One of the therapists I was with always wanted to convince me with a lot of pressure that everything is the fault of my fears etc. Of course, many of my behaviors are influenced by my illnesses, but simply not always. But she didn’t want to accept it. It didn’t fit into the cliché, the stigma. Things that I have even explained to her sometimes much too rational, she has always twisted it and wanted to convulsively convince me that subconsciously my diseases are to blame.

Spoiler: just because I have the diagnosis that I have doesn’t mean I can’t think for myself anymore. For some things this may be true, which is also due to illness, but I go to the therapist to get help. I should tell what’s going on and I should be believed. But even therapists are not free from stigma and clichés. You think it and actually it should not be so, but unfortunately no one is completely free of it. But that does not give them the reason to create problems where none are.

Because it happens too often, and I kept trying to explain to her how I see it. I explained everything rationally and in detail, my thoughts, my feelings, but no, she didn’t want to believe it. At some point I just agreed because I gave up. Because I didn’t want to discuss anymore and was always rejected, so I just agreed.

I was intimidated, nervous and not self-conscious enough. And so it made my way more difficult for me because it simply came to misunderstandings that I could not resolve.

So just because it’s your therapist doesn’t always mean they’re right. It doesn’t mean they’re allowed to tell you things that aren’t true. Don't be afraid to say it, no matter how hard it is. At least try, do what is most important for your healing. And if your therapist doesn’t want to listen to you, it’s not a therapist who will drive your healing. They are there to listen to you, not the other way around.

(Of course, the job is hard, and I know that lying is kind of normal in therapy, it shouldn’t be like that, but it is. I am often not 100% honest, but it is not okay to deny your conditions, thoughts and emotions.)

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#my talks -> real tags follow xD #my thoughts #mental health awareness #therapy awareness #therapist red flags #bpd #cptsd #panic and anxiety disorder #depressionen #therapist #psychiatrist

[wisterianwoman]

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[istilllistento3oh3]

Since so many users on Tumblr are either in therapy or pursuing potential future therapy, I thought this article might be helpful in understanding client rights, red flags with clinicians, and ways to move forward! Check it out!

#mental health #therapist #red flags #therapy #counseling #mental illness #reading now

[sassysnowperson]

My thoughts on Ted Lasso S3,E1:

In a shocking turn of events, Jamie Tartt is currently the person least in need of therapy.

#ted lasso spoilers #okay yes there are other himbos doing well too #but Ted DESPERATELY needs therapy #Keely is trying with the self care but she'd thrive with a good therapist #Roy needs therapy #Rebecca is showing strong hashtag growth but my girl could use some too #Beard... I'm not sure what Beard needs but it couldn't hurt #Nate....oh bud #buddy bud #so much #you need SO MUCH therapy #and to get better at seeing red flags #but Jamie...look at his leadership and team building skills growing #proud of you bud #youll need therapy later Im sure #but strong E1 showing!

[eurosleaz]

statistical character personality test. take the linked quiz from the perspective of your character, then select 5-10 results from the complete matches list that you feel resonate with your character the most.

melisandre (game of thrones): 79%

wanda maximoff (wandavision): 79%

love quinn (you): 76%

jean grey (x-men): 73%

yennefer (the witcher): 72%

rebecca bunch (crazy ex-girlfriend): 72%

audrey horne (twin peaks): 71%

mia wallace (pulp fiction): 71%

jane margolis (breaking bad): 70%

clementine kruczynski (eternal sunshine of the spotless mind): 70%

#i. you know what? #can y'all confirm/deny...call a therapist even #these seems like red flags #study.

[vectorworm]

Sometimes I forget that I surround myself with like-minded gay nerds. But then I have to interact with other people and realize that: yes I AM strange and different, compared to them

#about me #ehem. also not being alble to connect with an of my therapists bc they arent the right kind of nerds #(was joking before that my therapists not knwoing the difference between star trek and star wars is a red flag. ok but like: half joking)

[howhow326]

Unfriendly reminder that white liberals are not your friend

#no I'm not defending the black conservatives sit down and shut up #Im saying that white people finding enjoyment from 'triggering' black people is a red flag to the type of person they really are #actually: anyone that finds enjoyment in triggering people is suspect because of that words use by therapists and misuse by neo nazis #but back to my point #Vaush and the random racist white lib in this video are two peas in a pod #the random racist white lib unironically called himself a white savior when confronted with the fact that black people don't WANT #white saviorism #and Vaush yelled #white genocide #at a black woman for like three hours for talking about land back movement #racism #antiblackness #white liberals #racist white liberals #vaush #anti vaush #do not watch this video

[yestrday]

I just read the saying "the fiction you consume isn't inherent to your own morality" and I think that's amazing

#unless. the author is showing signs that they like that shit irl #stay away #theres this girl irl whos obsessed with writing .... r*** #red flag all the way #and i jist wanna sit her down with a therapist since shes bothering my friend sm #my friend is very uncomfy but she just nods along whenever the girl raves cuz shes tryna be polite #but like girl :|| you need to set a boundary youre only encouraging her #thats what i told her #i did good right????? #.txt

[athetos]

Okay this is something that has taken me years to come to terms with and I just need to get off my chest especially since im not in therapy anymore and honestly only a few close friends know this but talking about it is still hard and I want to be able to better forgive myself and get rid of some of the internalized shame that plagues me because of this, and like, just be more comfortable admitting this fact to myself so I can better heal from it. And I know it’s also triggering to a lot of people so I never feel like it’s ever appropriate to discuss I should have a therapist again maybe sometime. But I’m gonna just say it and maybe delete this later. But I’m a rape + abuse survivor and it’s took me years to even “unlock” this trauma and properly process it. I’ve come a long way but idk I just wanted to get this off my chest because it’s been aching to come out but I also don’t wanna burden people.

#I want to ‘move on’ from this but I’m always gonna have ptsd and complicated triggers and. trying to make peace with that. #idk why it’s been at the forefront of my mind the past couple weeks #maybe because I’m yearning for a long term relationship rn and this is barriers I need to break through #like oh man if I wanna love someone and marry them I have to learn to trust them and take that leap #and the fact that I’m afraid of falling into an abusive relationship again #because as much as I tell myself I’d recognize the warning signs and would leave immediately #I truly will never know what I would do until it actually happens #and I think just the fear of falling for someone and having them turn out to be a scumbag is alone too much #I need to vet potential partners through multiple friend groups or something #my therapist always told me that the reason toxic and/or abusive people try to enter my life is because they can tell I’m vulnerable #like that I’m some sort of easy target because I was a people pleaser and empathize easily #and people realize they can get away with some shitty stuff and take advantage of me since I’m loyal and forgiving #I don’t think I’m like that anymore. I feel like I’m a lot more assertive and like. cognizant of red flags now. #but again… it’s a fear I have #idk what I’m even saying anymore.

[headaching]

broke up with my therapist 👍

#everyone say congrats beck you’re so mature and capable of advocating for yourself and your (ex) therapist won’t be mean to you when she #replies to your email #it sucks bc i was making good progress but there were a lot of red flags tbh and she doesn’t have good boundaries w her clients #& she would interrupt me and talk over me and give ‘tough love’ in the way she spoke #so it’s for the best. i deserve someone who listens and doesn’t make me nervous and doesn’t have a bias toward someone i dated #anyway hiii thanks for being my diary yet again 👍

[eileennatural]

maybe this is toxic but i would genuinely rather be unwell forever and spend the rest of my life relying on antidepressants than be the kind of person who thinks every single person should be in therapy

#im not anti therapy i am therapy critical. at the end of the day 1. being able to attend therapy is a privilege (do they take your health #insurance is there a therapist where you live can you afford the copays) but also. are you the RIGHT kind of sick that therapists want to #help. do you know how many therapists straight up will not engage with or are not trained to properly deal with like. cluster b disorders ? #like. im glad therapy helped you with your mild anxiety but wvery time ive spoken to a counselor or therapist who was clearly not #prepared to deal with me it makes me feel about 100x more suicide and more hopeless #and basically saying. oh theyre not in therapy thats a red flag is an incrwdibly privileged and grating thing to say. that was the point of #this post sorry i got depressing there for a minute

[backinthefkingbuildingagain]

I find it hilarious that my therapist thinks my nonstop listening to Hozier is an immediate red flag to my mental health. I mean she not wrong, but still didn’t need to call me out

#my therapist is sick of my shit honestly #therapy #Hozier is my red flag #random musings

[aashiqvi]

Would it be a red flag if i started drawing art of myself in movies.

#like ima do me in the new spiderman movie . #and make it a series #my therapist #i blame her #one day she said have u ever tried drawing urself #did it once now i do it often . #IS IT RLY A RED FLAG SOMEONE TELL ME

[authoruio]

Aha, Felicitas' opinion on Soldiel and Evira?

“Is this another scheme of Azul!? I'm having none of it!”

Felicitas does not like Soldiel. At all.

In fact, just because he seems close to Azul is already setting alarms inside her head and she does not want to be friends with anyone close to Azul. (Cough, cough Livius, exception- cough)

All in all, she's avoiding Soldiel because of his endorsement of therapy. Boy, she doesn't think she needs it. (Oh she will just trust me, she needs it.)

They could've been friends... maybe.

You have to give it to Evira for approaching Felicitas without fear.

A new friend acquired! He seems nice! (Weird but nice.) But there's something off about Evira that gives Felicitas chills. Is it his uncanny smile or the fact he observes people like how Rook does?

Evira approaching her with his strange personality should be setting alarms in Felicitas head right now. (It does, but seeing is believing, he hasn't done anything wrong yet.)

Either way, Felicitas doesn't want to judge Evira because she wants to give him the benefit of the doubt.

He won't break her trust, right?

#twisted wonderland #twsted wonderland #twisted wonderland oc #ship: felivira #twst oc #felicitas leya #others oc #cryptic therapist soldiel #evira von soltaire #mutuals <3 #oc interaction #◦❧ ui arts #evira is one hot flaming red flag #and im all here for it

[i-am-the-unicorn-triumphant]

one last deeply personal post before i go to bed, i have started a new job and there are some red flags but also i have been told i shouldn’t be worried.

i’m working at a local flower shop (which jesus h tap dancing christ is such a relief after two years of working for a corporate chain i’m so glad to be back at a small business). i am still doing sales but honestly its not the worst. its not like im upselling medical equipment to low income people anymore. these fucking rich people are coming in with their amex to spend hundred of dollars on flowers. (i literally have never seen this many american express cards IN MY LIFE. and flowers are EXPENSIVE). this just feels so much more ethical.

but small businesses can get away with more sketchy stuff and ik that. and i keep getting sketchy stuff vibes even though im not the one sketchy stuff is happening.

i know i am part of a restructuring attempt after layoffs but im still holding my breath incase shit hits the fan.

i will say i am very happy to be at our second location even though it is farther from my house (a 25 min commute instead of a 10 minute commute. i really dont mind it tho.) because its a lot more chill and not as crazy busy as the main location. and im less at risk to be a part of the fuckery.

from what ive heard its mainly delivery drivers being lazy and trying to get sales people (my job) or others to do their routes so they can leave early. and at the second location we dont have that. it feels more cohesive here. (i trained at the main location and i just like the vibes at where i am so much better. its also i smaller team. its a family dynamic but in a good way if that makes sense and not a ‘were a family here’ sketchy way).

uhh tl;dr i think im happy at my new job even tho it is sales but i am wary of things ive heard about sketchy management

#my post #amelia’s adventures at work #i hope it works out #i have stopped applying places #but i left a shitty job i hope i didnt get hired at another #i havent told anyone about the red flags #not even jodi my therapist

[laurent-ofvere]

Nooooo we ned this fic! What do you need from us? Love or whip? Anything if you write this for us 🙏

mmmm what I need is to get medicated, get someone to do a goddamn adhd evaluation for me, reconnect to fandom and to generally just get my shit together =D

#asks #AHHHHH #I ALSO NEED MY THERAPIST TO TEXT ME BACK #STOP GHOSTING ME TAMAR I HAVENT REACHED OUT IN OVER 6 MONTHS #THE RED FLAGS ARE FLAGGING #anyways lol #youre very sweet and very kind and I miss interacting with you all every day <3 #the overshare you did not ask for