#the aphobe one lol

[vroomian]

idk what the anon was on and why they feel the need to attack you for your stance?? like dude relax, it's not your life and nobody was attacked or hurt

i have the same feeling on sex as you (fellow aroace lol), bc like ew body fluids and why should i let anything enter my Body that way ever??

also yeah crushes and the obsession with romantic love etc seems Exhausting™

so thanks for sharing your thoughts that articulate mine perfectly <3

Right???? I wish my problems were all that self inflicted lol. Plus they were a total hypocrite like ‘aphobes don’t like ace people because they talk about sex like it’s gross’. By their own logic homophobia is totally okay because gay people talk about straight sex like it’s gross! Like no homie it’s because the ‘phobes are whiny little babies who can’t handle other people having different wants and needs!! Stay in your lane!

I hope that anon in particular knows their takes are rancid and they should talk to actual queer people before they try to educate people lol.

Aroace unite!! We can take over while the allos are busy sucking face (🤢). All the fluids and weirdness of sex makes it impossible to take seriously. It’s an inherently stupid and undignified process!! Sorry not sorry!!

I was 3/4th though a book and then a romance plot kicked in and immediately lost interest 😭 why is everything romance. Where my cool world building girlies at!! Where are my prachetts!!

I like romance when it’s funny or when it s fucked up. Characters who are just so weird about each other are the best <3

#I hope anon feels stupid disrespected and like they wasted their time #because I do think they’re stupid I don’t respect them and their time was indeed wasted #the aphobe one lol #vrrm vrrm #you've got questions we've got answers #people who try to drag me into stupid fights are hilarious #I’ve been laughing all afternoon tbh #whiny aphobe saga

[magnus-rhymes-with-swagness]

OKAY who wants to hear about why i think nimona challenges amatonormativity? you do! 🫵

one of the main ways this is accomplished is through ballister and ambrosius’s relationship. it’s arguable that it doesn’t necessarily fit the traditional model of romance - not only are they a queer interracial couple, and not only is their relationship ambiguous in the book, but there are certain instances, especially in the movie, that subvert traditional ideas of romance and friendship.

one instance that really stands out to me is when the director asks ambrosius what’s on his mind and he goes on his imagined rant about how arm-chopping isn’t a love language - you know the one. when he mentions ballister, he refers to him as “the man i love, my best friend.” and not just one or the other, but both! the man i love, and my best friend. he places equal emphasis on both the romantic and platonic aspects of the relationship, valuing ballister in both a romantic context and a platonic context without treating either one as more important than the other.

and even moments such as the first “i love you” and the kiss manage to subvert tradition. both of these things are generally seen as a pretty big deal, especially in fiction - if the characters are kissing or saying “i love you,” it’s usually a moment in which everything changes. a line is drawn, dividing the story into after and now. sometimes it’s dramatic and climactic, with fireworks and a swell of music, but even when it isn’t it’s still seen as a turning point of sorts. now it’s official, now it’s real. but this isn’t the case in nimona. both moments are certainly significant - they do a good job of showcasing the character development and where ballister and ambrosius are on their respective journeys, and are certainly important in terms of representation - but neither one follows the path that most fictional romance does.

another way in which nimona challenges amatonormativity would be the emphasis on friendship! in the tavern scene (in the movie) when ambrosius suggests killing nimona, ballister disagrees and says “she’s my friend.” ambrosius replies with “aren’t i more than that?”, implying he’s more important than a friend - thus upholding amatonormative ideas. ballister becomes angry at that and leaves - challenging this idea and prioritizing his platonic relationship with nimona over his romantic one with ambrosius, as nimona is the one he wants to defend.

additionally, a big part of this scene is the way ballister deliberately rejects institute values while ambrosius unintentionally upholds them. and because the story challenges homophobia and transphobia (and other forms of bigotry) through the lens of the institute, it would make sense for it to challenge amatonormativity too! it’s something that’s become incredibly normalized, to the point that lots of people don’t even know it exists, and this is reminiscent of the institute brainwashing, especially when it comes to ambrosius - he’s been manipulated his whole life and probably genuinely doesn’t understand the level to which he’s internalized institute beliefs.

ballister prioritizes nimona many times, actually. when he tells ambrosius she’s “smart, kind, and quite sophisticated,” when he’s overjoyed to see her again at the end, when he refuses to kill her and saves her instead. over and over, he proves how much he cares about her, even when this involves directly going against what ambrosius wants - which, of course, is really what the institute wants. a core tenant of amatonormativity is the false notion that romantic relationships are more important or valuable than other types of relationships, but ballister actively goes against this!

to conclude, as a story that at its core is about identity and challenging societal beliefs, nimona defies expectations and traditional ideas of what it should or shouldn’t be. it’s possible that amatonormativity wasn’t what the creators had in mind, but the story still manages to challenge it with grace and elegance. just like its main character, nimona refuses to conform to what others want it to be.

#nimona #nimona movie #ballister blackheart #ballister boldheart #ambrosius goldenloin #ballister x ambrosius #ambrosius x ballister #nimona netflix #nd stevenson #nimona spoilers #i could go on tbh but i think this is a digestible amount #often when i’m writing a meta i’ll walk around in circles talking into my phone recording my thoughts out loud #and then i’ll play it back and put the most coherent stuff into a list which eventually becomes paragraphs #and the combined recordings for this one are about half an hour in total lol #i’m just. absolutely in love with the whole story. both the book and the movie mean so incredibly much to me #changed my life shaped me as a person etc etc :’) #OH i almost forgot. this analysis is dedicated to the person who sent me aphobic anon hate about it before it even existed lol #i know i said i wouldn’t post anything if people couldn’t be normal but idc actually. seethe with rage! <3 #my words #meta

[princsstwilightsparkl]

saying "if aroace people can date, then can lesbians date men?" is absolutely aphobic narrative btw!

#sorry just have to say this lol #so tired of people generalizing all aroace people as romance averse #its absolutely erasure of the rest of the spectrum #the top tweet isnt so bad depending on who theyre talking about #if a character ACTUALLY is canonically romance/sex aversed then yea its weird to erase that #but if they're canonically AROACE and you go 'erm that character cannot date or have sex🤓☝️' ur being aphobic as fuck #the 'shown no attraction to anyone' part kind of throws me off there #i hate when people say 'well this character didnt have feelings for anyone in the one year time span of the show so theyre romance aversed- #and nobody can ship them or else i'll harass u and subtweet u!1!!' #like. a characters life may not involve sex or romance at all fucking times. that does not make them aroace. #ur headcanon- even if you think its based on a logical conclusion- is not reality #sometimes yall just be making shit tf up #complaining about 'fanon' as if ur not the one pretending ur hc is real and treating everyone else like theyre the bad ones #but if that tweet is just saying that IN ADDITION to theyre canon identity then yea. thats valid. #their* </3 #obviously the reply is fucking disgusting #i couldnt reply directly cuz my twitter is priv #people will say this kind of shit to ME- AN AROACE PERSON #u preach about aro/ace erasure but when an actual aroace walks in you tell them their way of being aroace is wrong #not everyone is the fucking same. #non-partnering aroaces deserve more rep but telling partnering aroaces that their way of being aroace is wrong is genuinely horrific #like actually fuck u #aromantic #asexual #aroace #arospec #meowing (yapping)

[aro-culture-is]

Fandom aro culture is being too afraid to talk about your aspec headcanons because the vast majority don't like that and you'll be either ignored or receive hate

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#Anonymous #aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod phoenix #i'm still baffled what fandoms are so aphobic #like ngl being ignored is one thing cause like. fandom is like that #but receiving hate???? like bro. those people are assholes #actually completely speaking my mind for a second: if someone is mad that you hc a character as aro #1) they are arophobic full stop. 2) they sent hate over a hc - that's immature and an asshole move 3) in general sending hate is immature #block! their! ass! they are not a voice worth listening to!!!! #if you wouldn't listen to musky rat boy's financial opinions don't listen to theirs!! #create! you can make your hc and create around it and if ppl are weird assholes then fuck them! #also ngl running this blog - we occasionally get surges of hate messages #and mysteriously if you block like. 2 of 30 anons... all of them disappear lol #the type of person who is immature enough to send anonymous arophobic hate is the type of person to send multiple #the *absolute* worst we've had on this blog was when a MAJOR terf blog decided to directly reblog us supporting trans ppl #and that is the only time that blocking a small amount of ppl wasn't enough #(also cannot stop being fascinated that the connection point of this blog to that terf was an arophobic catboy blog. like straight up #that was the major categories of content on their blog. catboy arophobe and antiracist. like bro. what.) #anyyyyyways #fandom aro culture

[bl33ditout]

this is your reminder that this blog will always be anti ai 👍🏻 fuck ai and anybody who supports that garbage

#btw this blog will also never support aphobia (i'm literally a-spec...) or any other lgbtphobia ever #or any other bigotry or discrimination for that matter #probably goes without saying but hey doesn't hurt to remind #and ik basically all my mutuals and followers are cool but cant forget the one aphobe ex-mutual that had a little hissy fit lol #anyways back to ai - it sucks ass and it'll never replace real artists and creators #ai isn't inherently bad but like stop trying to say it'll replace human creators ok. that's lame #well back to regular posting now

[aroaessidhe]

2023 reads // twitter thread

In My Dreams

romcom novella

when the nature reserve she works at goes into lockdown due to dangerous fugitives in the area, an ace woman is stuck for two weeks with the childhood friend she was in love with as a teenager

#aroaessidhe 2023 reads #this is.... #the writing is not great. pacing is weird. it’s kind of random #also as with the other book I’ve read by this author sudden dramatic danger??? #i feel like there could have been another reason to lockdown a park for 2 weeks other than. terrorists are in the area #it's quite ace 101 / revolving around asexuality / a bit..alloromantic #or like. the people around her are aphobic in ways that feel like they were just there as an excuse for the mc to refute it…..there’s ways y #you can do that in a narrative without being that direct? #the way there’s this other woman who she thinks he’s gonna be into and her only personality seems to be ‘wears makeup and is obvious about t #trying to seduce him” #also the male mc is kinda misogynistic #'he's never known a woman to take less than 15 minutes to shower" ???? #also his mum has a heart attack and he leaves in the middle of the night! she assumes hes broken up w her ! why is this drama! #i cannot name a single good thing about the love interest lmao #am interested in reading the f/f one in this series but. if it's ever on scribd i guess lol

[aroace-genderfluid-snake]

God, I’m so fucking tired of romance.

Like seriously! It’s everywhere! And where it’s not? People try to say it is! Like is that all you alloromantics think about? Is it that great that most people, consciously or not, believe they need it to be happy? Is it addictive or something? Why does it belong everywhere? Why is it that the moment there’s any sort of aromantic rep, people are trying to prove that they’re not aromantic? Why is it that, if I explain my ideal relationship to an alloromantic person, they’ll probably just tell me it’s actually romance? Why is my sexuality considered nothing when half of the romantic bullshit out in the world literally has no substance?

Why am I considered less? Because aromantic people are. We’re considered less queer, less lgbt, even by people who aren’t exclusionists. Not only that, but aromantic, along with asexual, is considered to just be a modifier: this is a straight person who doesn’t want sex (never mind that isn’t what asexual means), this is a bi person who isn’t interested in a romantic relationship (again, not what aromantic means), this is a non-binary person, their sexuality is nothing!

Did you know that there’s literally no scientific studies on aromanticism? Did you know that conversion therapy for us is very much still legal in almost every single country? Do you know what it’s like to learn your identity in a community who’s modo is “love is love!” to find out you can’t fall in love? Do you know how fucking dismissive it is when people say “oh, but there’s platonic love! There’s other types! Just because you’re aromantic doesn’t mean you can’t feel love!” when someone so much as comments on aphobia in a post very much directed towards romantic attraction? Not to mention how fucking cruel it is to look at aromanticism like that. Like it’s unfortunate. And how saying we can still feel other types of love isn’t even true to all aromantics.

The first time I heard of asexuality and aromanticism was in an exclusionist’s post. I was on Instagram, which is a fucking cesspool, but I was also 13, so I didn’t know. And you know what happened? I believed it. For the next three years, I believed it! And all I can think, as I look at some of you, is that if exclusionist didn’t include trans people and weren’t terfs, you’d be silently agreeing with them. That you are agreeing with them when it comes to the aspec community. Because I’ve gone down the exclusionist pipeline before, and you guys? Some of you are already in.

#lol it’s 4 am and I’m tired but. idk. i just read something that set me off #it was my own fault. I knew it’d be about romance. but. #but I don’t know. i guess I’m just tired of expecting aphobic comments every time I read anything romance related #what does it matter? most the people who read this will also be aspec. the ones that aren’t are mostly already good allies. #and the rest can go fuck themselves I don’t have the energy for them #I’m tired. so tired. in a way that’ll never go away. or more accurately wont go away until I don’t have to see romance everywhere #and this isn’t abt seeing couples in public or seeing gay ppl talk abt their romantic relationships. it’s really not. #it’s about how if a show had a canonical qpr so many people would see them as a romantic couple. act like they can’t be anything but #it’s about how the few times I’ve posted abt aro hcs ppl have gotten mad at me #it’s about how romance is referred to as something more. fuck y’all for that one. seriously. y’all suck #and yeah it’s been worse and it’s getting better but that doesn’t change the fact that I’m tired #a better future doesnt erase a worse past #but whatever. most people don’t care either way #aro #aromantic #arospec #asexual #aroace #oh yeah the aroace nonbinary person is me and that actually happened ❤️ #queer #lgbtqai #aphobia tw #ace #aspec #acespec #happy pride. I’m going to sleep

[verzaenian]

made a picrew of vyself . got a glowup (longer-ish hair) and hi guys this is vm coming out as aroallo ig lol

#v've given up on labelling vy orientation . just aroallo now . too tiring and difficult to explaon #aroallo looks like apollo lmao #v'm so sleeep deprived . odn't mind vm #posted by ; korin #technically v'm not allosexual ?? but bc of vy hypersexuality v feel most comfortable labelling vyself that way #cancel vm or call vm aphobic for being uncomfortabble labelling vyself as ace when v dont really feel ace ig idc lol #v do the little <5 thing instead of <3 now !! becaise that is what v feel comfortable with #using <2 makes vm feel really awkwars because like . 2 is less than 3 and it feels like v'm saying v dont love people as much #which v do !! v love people a LOT . v dont feel romantic attraction or queerplatonic attraction at all tho #which ig isnt ''normal'' since nobody even knows what alterous atttraction is and most people react like v'm crazy everytime v bring it up #but oh well . v may just call vy attraction queerplatonic even tho it makes vm insanely uncomfortable . bc it feels like people see vm as- #-lesser and weird and like v'm a fucking psychopath for feeling this weird not normal attraction that literally no one acknowledges #but oh well lol

[demiromanticmickey]

Why do aphobes follow me for years holy shit

#i knew that one blog who followed me was aphobic #i never bothered to check but i always got that vibe #anyway they are blocked now #i just dunno why aphobes would bother following me - an aro lol #seems silly on their part #*

[boneless-mika]

If you ever have the instinct to make a useless addition to a post that you know will be received badly? Possibly because you're aware that you're about to say something nobody should or perhaps it would cause an argument with one of your closest friends?

Somebody said something incredibly foolish and inconsiderate in your favorite fandom tag and you just get an itching to tell them to stop it but you know it would not change their mind?

May I recommend this epic new technique called "pretend you never saw the post". I have been utilizing this technique for years and I truly believe that with enough practice you, too, can stop saying things you shouldn't

#whenever I feel the urge to make some sort of contrarian comment in the tags of a post #I simply take that as a sign I should not be reblogging that post #sometimes I do vaguepost about it because this is where I come to vent #when my parents baselessly hate someone they talk to each other (or me for some reason) #I talk to the wide internet #you could argue I shouldn't but I don't think my one friend wants to hear about my ten grievances per day lol #I'm also not claiming to never argue I've probably gotten into a stupid fight since I made this epic discovery #well if the aphobes count then it was literally just a few months ago #but to be fair they came to me #if you harass me I feel it's fair I tell you to fuck off #(not using a legal or technical term for harassment simply describing the event as I interpreted it)

[fxggotclown]

i cant wait until its like five years in the future and the people saying horrific things are pretending they didnt say them just like w ace discourse ^_^

#teamcasper #i am pretty sure one of the accounts was like a prolific aphobe lol !!

[darkaviarymc]

I'm not trying to call anyone out, I'm not mad at anyone, I'm literally just venting in the tags...

#I have a couple of popular blogs following me #why they are following me I do not know lol #but every time one of them reblogs one of my fics or headcanons #I get an influx of followers #and every time I get an influx of followers #I have to block at least one TERF or Aphobe #or pear-clutching twitter brat who shits on Queer as an identity #I realize blogs with hundreds or thousands of followers do not have the time and/or energy to vet every follower like I do at only 200ish #And I'm not blaming the individual behind the popular blogs #it's not really their fault #but like... #ugh 😔

[kargaroc]

tumblr is so scary showing you posts someone made years ago, like I saw a post from an artist I like saying some bs that I won't specify; and I was like ???? then check the date and it said 2016

#its like the picture of that chihuahua... growling and then smile #I am also trying to let go of grudge against a user I remember being aphobic lol idk how it stuck with me #they had a recognizable artstyle I guess and it probably stuck in my mind because if I saw art that looked like it came from them I would #check to see if it was them #but theyve wiped their blog. started a new one. so. #glad that theyve seemingly let go of that #I said terrible things too in around. 2014? that I definitely do not align with. ik the guilt that can come from that

[22degreehalo]

I know twitter discourse is terrible but I am actually arguing with someone online for one of the first times in my life and I legitimately and sincerely just got told that the MC of Loveless is a terrible panphobic sex-shamer because when she finally realised that sexual attraction exists she said aloud “This has to be a fucking joke!” out of bewilderment and frustration.

#see i dont think this is unhealthy of me bc Im not all that angry #just???? really confused???????? #ofc the pansexual character is outwardly aphobic at one point but the other person doesn't care abt that lol

[xxtc-96xx]

i dunno if you saw or heard about it, but there was a dumb aphobic poll on here recently and i just wanna say that all the of the OG 'Two family (mewt, newt, and huet) being aroace is such a power move. aphobes are nothing in the face of the most powerful psychic types in the world (and huey).

People still try to throw possible ships at them lol if I said they were gay no one would try to throw straight ships at them but when you say someone is aroace for some reason they don’t believe you XD

[trans-androgyne]

It feels like such a small thing go focus on but remembering the “transmisandrist transfem flag”… it’s all literally just a cycle.

There was a genuine flag made back in 2021 on Twitter which was “anti-mlm/wlw solidarity / gay-hating lesbian” because this same type of person was mad that the ocean gay and achillean flags exist.

(and were strangely updet that both of those flags they hated were made by and included transmascs. A lot of bashing on “only whiny insecure transmascs like or use these so they’re garbage for us Real Gays” which I still see around)

And before that it was “panphobic lgbt pride flags” And before that there were plenty of “aphobic lgbt pride flags” and entire joke pride flag blogs mocking the concepts of things like Xenogenders or Neopronouns.

It’s all just one big bullshit cycle and they bury it once they move on and ignore everyone going “none of what you said what true and you hurt me?” with “lol old discourse”. It’s getting harder and harder to forget and forgive. I don’t know if I will either.

(I’m literally not on Testosterone so anyone weird towards you for your post will have to blame my Estrogen)

It’s exhausting. Something desperately needs to change in the online queer community but I don’t know how.

#transandrophobia #transmisandry #transphobia #exorsexism #panphobia #aphobia #ask