#aphobia tw

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

hey yall sorry to come back with another one of these so soon but yknow ableists are gonna fucking suck😐 @/did-is-not-real is going around and not only fakeclaiming and generally saying horrifically ableist shit to people with DID and cluster b disorders, but also say aspec people aren't valid or part of the queer community. block n shit stay safe<3

#not culture #ableism tw #aphobia tw #npd #did #bpd #asexual #aromantic

[uncanny-tranny]

Alloromantic and allosexual people can, indeed, consent to any type of relationship with an aromantic person and/or asexual person. Yes, this even includes entirely non-romantic sexual relations or non-sexual romantic relationship. Allo people have the ability to consent, and it's wild to me that aphobes and acephobes are so vehemently disgusted that ace and aro people exist that they end up infantilizing allo people.

It's just wild to me that your ability to consent is revoked outright so long as people are "just concerned" that you might end up in a "non-normative" situation. And by wild, I mean concerning.

#ace #asexual #aro #aromantic #lgbt #lgbtq #aphobia #aphobia tw #acephobia #acephobia tw #and hell the examples i included are examples this applies to EVERY type of interaction between allos and nonallos #allos can consent to interacting with us - we aren't a fucking disease you need to quarantine us from allos

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

I don’t think I’ll ever forgive old tumblr for the shit it did to the asexual movement.

The fact some people just moved on from that by deleting posts, accounts, side blogs but never apologising or doing anything to mend the harm they caused speaks volumes.

Some people are still active to this day, some who actively posted against asexual people, who made hate blogs for them, who liked and reblogged every single post under the tags, who only ever liked 3 posts but still supported them.

There’s no apologies on the internet; no fully true ones especially not on public socials like tumblr, TikTok, twitter and instagram (I’ll give leeway to platforms like discord as it’s a more inclosed community). So while I wouldn’t have accepted the apology it would have been nice to fucking receive one

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #aro #ace #aro pride #lgbtqia #pride #ace pride #asexual discourse #ace discourse #discrimination #tw acephobia #acephobes fuck off #aphobia tw #poll #polls

[aropride]

so imagine your partner really likes roller coasters. you’re not super into them, it’s not an experience you would actively seek out, but you don’t mind them. you don’t experience any distress if you go on one, and you think sometimes they can even be fun, even though you don’t have any particular desire to go on any specific roller coasters. so when your partner says they want to go on a roller coaster, you say yeah sure, because you love them, because it’s fun sometimes, because it brings you closer together. everyone is consenting, everyone is enjoying the experience, no one is getting hurt. you can do things and even enjoy them without actively seeking them out in your daily life

#text #aphobia #aphobia tw #discourse #self harm mention

[the-rainbow-suit-dude]

I don’t usually make posts like this, but a post about it caught my eye the other day and I haven’t been able to get my mind off of it:

Aromantic allosexual (particularly heterosexual) hate makes me so mad.

I am going to make this as clear as possible: Part of being part of the LGBTQ+ community is a sense of being othered for who you are. For your sexuality, gender, and/or romantic orientation.

Aromantic people experience this.

Romantic feelings are considered to be what makes us human for many people, so how do you think aros feel when they don’t? How do they feel when they’re constantly told “you’ll find the right person” and don’t? How do they feel when they’re called heartless?

By being against aromantic people, you are participating in the othering.

People hurting other people in the same community makes me sick.

If you are anywhere on the aromantic or asexual spectrum, I’d like to say you are valid.

#aromantic #aro #aroallo #aspec #aromantic spectrum #aphobia #aphobia tw #you are worthy of respect #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #lgbtqiia+ #lgbtqia #lgbtq right #lgbtq+ rights

[the-irken-pony]

As an aroace trans man who joined tumblr right around the peak of its aphobia phase (2016) it’s surreal seeing people with “aphobes dni” in their bio post the exact same shit about trans men that people were posting about asexuals ~5 years ago and by surreal I mean I hate it here

#it's all the same exclusionist bullshit recycled and yet people still fucking fall for it every time #aphobia tw #transandrophobia tw #transphobia tw #ask to tag #mine #random #not prompted by anything recently but it has been sitting in my head a while

[anti-terf-posts]

One time I saw a TERF on Tumblr make fun of an asexual r*pe victim (the whole "you want to be oppressed so bad" BS) and I think that was the moment I finally realized TERFs are not actually anti-r*pe. They're not worried about trans people being predators nor do they care about r*pe victims. They just use that as a cover to make their transphobia look like feminism. It's absolutely disgusting and I can't wait until more people see TERFs as what they really are.

terfs stop being horrible people in every way challenge IMPOSSIBLE

#asks #anon #rape tw #terf mention #aphobia tw

[aftonsparv-bugzz]

:33 < if someone whos aroace tells you they like someone and asks you to call them a (insert any form of teritary attraction) do it. youdont get to pick the name you call them. youdont get to call them a "crush". that isnt your choice. just tell me youre aphobic/see forms of teritary attraction as "lesser" or "not real" without telling me

#surprisingly not homestuck #nepeta sp33ks !! :3 #aphobia tw #tw aphobia #cw aphobia #aphobia cw #aphobia #aromanitc #arospec #aroace #aro pride #aromantism #aroace pride #asexuality #asexual #acespec #ace pride #lgbtqia+ #queer #lgbtq #lgbtqiia+ #lgbtqplus #lgbtq community #lgbt pride #lgbtqia

[newsfromstolenland]

Had to block someone so I want to be clear about something: if you don't think asexual and aromantic people are lgbt+, or if you think that they can't identify as queer, you're not welcome on this fucking blog

I'd like to also state that when I was a teenager, I was aphobic, but then I realized that I was trying to gatekeep a community based around genders, sexual orientations, and romantic orientations that deviate from the dominant culture

And the people I was trying to keep out? their identities deviate from the dominant culture as well.

In conclusion, fuck off with your aphobia

#mine #asexual #aphobia #aromantic #aphobia tw #lgbt+ #lgbtq+ #queer #q word #q word tw

[kittycathat]

today, a music teacher told my band class, "You can't play love songs well unless you've fallen in love before."

well ig im unable to play literally 99% of music out there, guess i'll just quit 🤷 /j

#aromantic #lgbtqia #lgbtq #aroace #aphobia tw #tw arophobia #tw queerphobia #school #high school #band #music #band kids #true story #aro #non sam aro #queer #/lh

[ziptie-bouquet]

I feel like aphobia is the start of the exclusionist pipeline and it makes me feel really weird about my identity.

We're the more "acceptable" people to hate on, outside and within the allo queer community. I find this especially true as an aro since we aren't really getting the specks of acceptance the ace community has yet. The straight passing/"erasure is privilege" stuff is literally reused everywhere else, like for bi or trans exclusion.

We're just the step of hatred before they start spouted the less accepted exclusionist sentiments.

#im tired of this honestly #aro #aromantic #lgbtqia+ #aphobia #aphobia tw

[mommyclaws]

3 & 25

3. Worst takes you've seen

Oh boy! I've been here for awhile I've seen things. Worst one by far:

"Headcanoning characters as ace is ableist"

Also saw a post once where someone was... oddly passionate about explaining why Snowkit dying was realistic and fine, which I was like Suure kittens in the wild. Its dangerous. Whatever. but for some reason the post took the most crazy turn and they started ranting about how they hate when people want lgbt ships to be canon because gay cats is "unrealistic"💀💀

Cuz warrior cats is just famously known for its "realism" right guys? Like ghosts. And super powers. And possession. And organized cat religion.

But noooo... gay cats? That's too far...!!!!

#homophobia tw #aphobia tw #yeeeeeppp #asks #ask game

[compassionatereminders]

I know you are not asexual but just want to say something in case you have asexual followers and what are their opinions.

In asexual community I just see things like. If you're ace you are not sex repulsed, you can still have sex, you can enjoy sex... while these things are TRUE for some it's like they completely want to ERASE asexuals who are sex repulsed, those who never want sex...

In 90% of the posts I only see ace people talking how aces can be horny, can love sex, cam be kinky... yet the other aces who don't have sex or any sexual desire are ignored so badly. I don't even want to look up asexual posts anymore. It's like everywhere else just sex, sex, sex, we love sex... and focusing only on asexuals who enjoy/want sex.

I feel us who don't want sex are so ignored. I really want to connect with those asexuals who don't want sex/are sex repulsed (I HAVE NOTHING AGAINST OTHER ACES WHO WANT SEX BTW) but sometimes I just want to talk about us... about aces who are not into sex. Yet 90% of the time you have to listen about sex when it comes to allos, then you also don't find many people in your own community who are the same as you because some people on those site start to put their words in your mouth and say you don' support other aces... well I do... but from time to time I just wish I could meet more people like me.

I feel so ignored even of I never ignore aces that are different from me. It's like not even aces care about aces who don't care about sex.

I'm so sorry for this long message but I just feel so alone. You have followers from all kind of communities and I'm wondering... what do they think.

And what do you think? Am I really a bad person because while I do support and respect others sometimes I just want to people who are like me and actually don't want to listen about sex all the time....

I see this everywhere and I really hate that approach to destigmatizing marginalized identities. "Many autistic people are really smart! Many disabled people work! You can be X and STILL act normal!" Like yeah sure but your support of marginalized people really shouldn't be dependent on how well they conform to the expectations of mainstream society...

#chat with kat #aphobia tw #sex tw #kink tw

[aholotte]

someone had the bright idea of posting a poll asking whether cishet aro men belong in the queer community, on the site infamous for hating on aspecs. first of all, why would you do that, second of all..

oh so we're calling men "things" now? i didn't even need to check this person's blog because they're clearly a radfem

*need aphobes to perish posthaste. fixed that for you

blocking aphobes isn't enough, i need them to get eaten by Mimic from Frieren

#aphobia tw #aromantic #important #blocklist #aspec #aro #arophobia tw #radfem tw

[anti-spop]

as an aspec, spop will always frustrate me.

nearly all the characters are paired up in romantic relationships, in turn devaluing the friendships and other kinds of relationships the show always promoted. especially the best friends squad. they try to include catra but for most of the season, the plot pushes away glimmer and bow to give catra and adora more time alone. and to me that is literally the only reason why they shipped glimmer and bow all of a sudden, when there was never any indication of a romance blooming between them.

and i get so angry seeing that the only popular ace headcanon in this fandom is entrapta, who's the only (confirmed) autistic character in the show. like, autistic aces certainly exist, but both of these groups tend to be infantilized and/or treated like they're "less human". and again, this is the ONLY spop character widely accepted to be asexual (and also aromantic sometimes). you don't often see other aspec headcanons, other than maybe hordak. which is also kinda iffy to me since he's not a "human", he's a horde clone. like this wouldn't be a problem to me if there were MORE aspec characters of ALL kinds.

like i looked it up on google but as far as i went, the crew-ra simply doesn't bat an eye at aspec identities. i hate how articles will be like "spop has great lgbtqia+ rep!", pretty much FORGETTING about the A letter there.

and the fans don't give a shit, i've gotten hate for being upset about the lack of aspec representation in this show. "but we already got queer rep!" except they mostly mean the romance. like there are trans and non-binary characters, but it's not even that relevant to the show, most of them were confirmed outside of it. that, and double trouble is a lizard disguising as a little girl. yeah.

anyway, i've ranted about this a lot but this show and this fandom don't feel welcoming to me. obviously, spop is not the only media that ignores/disrespects aspec folks, but i'm so tired of everyone making the show and the community look like a safe place, when it's probably one of the most hostile fandoms i've ever seen.

#i post #spop critical #anti stans #aphobia tw

[spiltcandycoatedpunkblood]

my value is not based in my sexuality or ability to provide romantic relationships

#aromanticism #aromantic #aro #ace #asexuality #asexual #aphobia tw #acephobia tw #arophobia tw #queer #LGBTQIA+ #i'm so sick of seeing romance everywhere like it's some great fantastical thing #and that i should put up with people telling me that i'll be alone if i don't embrace those things #it's none of your fucking business #vent #rant #ok to reblog