#exorsexism

[faggy--butch]

I wish non binary hrt was easier to understand. The perfect situation for me would be on t 3 months and off t 3 months

with Finasteride to prevent me from getting anymore facial/ body hair, but I get to keep all the other good stuff, like the energy and sex drive and protection against muscle fatigue and pain. But even with informed consent you still have to pick I think. On or off

#non binary #also I really like estrogen soft skin but I have no energy ever #exorsexism #tbh

[genderkoolaid]

(Source)

On February 8th, this nonbinary child was violently beaten by three cis girls. The school did not call them an ambulance after the beating was stopped, and they later died in the hospital from head trauma. They have also been deadnamed and misgendered in their obituary and in the news. As the author of the article puts it:

How is that not national news? A 16 year old beaten to death in a public school bathroom? By other students. All these unanswered seemingly obvious questions about what transpired, and how the adults involved acted. That should be every headline. In fact, almost every local outlet covering the story misgender and deadnames Nex, using their same assigned at birth. The indignities pile on. We don’t yet know if Nex’s nonbinary identity is directly tied to this incident. But, my God, it sure matters to me that this would happen to any child. A nonbinary kid assaulted in a girl’s bathroom. That outcome from the narrative of anti-trans rhetoric these past years. Still why wasn’t this story breaking news? It involves a nonbinary student in a public school. And school violence and school police resource officers. It involves the deep fear so many trans youth have shared with me about their schools.

#m. #exorsexism #hate crime tw #murder tw #child death tw #tdor

[gay-otlc]

If a nonbinary person shows the slightest hint of masculnity they get shoved in the boy box, where they will be hated either for being a "trans man" or a "cis man invading queer/trans spaces" based on their (assumed) agab. And then if a nonbinary person shows the slightest hint of femininity they get shoved in the girl box, where they will be hated either for being a "trans woman" or a "cis woman invading queer/trans spaces" based on their (assumed) agab. And if a nonbinary person never ever shows any hints of femininity or masculinity, they are hated anyway and people demand they pick a box to be sorted into.

#nonbinary #i'm not nonbinary but this is what i have observed #enbyphobia #exorsexism

[arlens-entries]

I need other non-binary ppl, especially folks who aren't interested in medical transition, to understand we don't all have the same experience as 'they thems' who only get misgendered according to our agab in public.

I'm a short genderqueer ftm with long hair and a deep voice, I get gendered every way possible. Any pronouns work for me, so misgendering isn't typically on my radar. However, I often experience transmisogyny when I'm read as mtf or transfemme by strangers, and explicit homophobia when I am read as an effeminate cis man. I think some fellow trans people find this 'misplaced' transphobia funny, I have had friends literally laugh in public situations where I’ve become unsafe. And I think allyship of other trans ppl isn’t just acknowledging each other as trans, but considering the safety of certain settings and knowing when not to acknowledge weird comments.

It's not some hilarious moment when someone calls me a woman and 'corrects' themselves when they hear me speak, or a giggly bit when I'm asked to leave for answering a question out loud in a women's bathroom. It's not funny when I get backhanded compliments about being a man and braiding my hair or suprised comments about my choice of formalwear.

These moments aren't affirmations of my masculinizing transition, and strangers being 'wrong' about my presentation and gendering me as a trans woman is not the funniest fucking thing, especially in the presence of my transfemme friends who experience the same backhanded shit I do.

My experience can't be chalked up to binary transphobia because I very much present as a multi-gendered person. I suffer transphobia not because I am androgynous, but because I'm not sometimes.

#genderqueer #transgender #trans #trans pride #transmasculine #ftm #transmisogny tw #transandrophobia #nonbinary #multigender #genderfluid #exorsexism

[transvarmint]

Also, on the topic of AGAB.

AGAB is intended to be a verb in the past tense. "Assigned" is a verb (action), "at birth" is a time period (past-tense). It is something that was done to you, not something you currently are.*

I am not, currently, "assigned female at birth". I was assigned female at birth. I am currently a man. I am no longer AFAB. That was something that was done to me in the past, against my will. It is not part of who I am, and it says absolutely nothing about me.

And I sure as hell am not "an AFAB". If you use someone's assigned gender as a noun**, that is no different than just calling someone "a male" or "a female" directly. Yes this includes calling someone a "theyfab". It makes you a transphobe and bioessentialist, full stop.

*If you want to consider yourself, personally, as still currently being "assigned [gender] at birth", that's your prerogative. That's a personal choice. We personally distinguish identifying as your assigned gender as different from using AGAB terms as an identity label, but that's a semantic thing and I don't really care how you choose to label yourself. The "you" here is a general you.

**Obviously we know not everyone's first language is english and that acronyms can be very confusing in their usage. The point of this post is not to be the grammar police. The point is to make the case that we should not be using AGAB terms to label and categorize people. AGAB terms were intended to be a shorthand way to explain whatever gender was assigned to you when you were born. To use them to categorize people in the present is ironically repeating the process of arbitrarily assigning someone a label against their will.

#transandrophobia #agab #assigned gender at birth #transmisogyny #exorsexism #transphobia

[ratmans-notebooks]

so cool how people can just say whatever vile shit they want about transmascs or even just trans people they assume to be afab and were just supposed to take it as Harmless Jokes

#squeaking #'he/hims and theyfabs' okay. #yeah sure. #tbh not a fan of how wuickly 'theyfab' became popoular. what if we all just Though about the words we used for a second #transandrophobia #exorsexism

[sociallyanxiousdragon]

I hate posts like "support and love trans people especially trans women/fems" or "don't out trans people especially not trans women/fems"

Trans mascs and unaligned nonbinary people are not secondary in deserving of love and support and safety

I understand if you focus your activism on one group over another because there's only so much energy

And I understand if someone is talking about a very specific situation that *does* vastly affect one group more than another

But one group of trans people should not inherently be a lower priority, and if you're bringing both up, you need to not act like one is more deserving of help than another

(I'm not saying trans women are responsible for these posts -- I primarily see them from cis allies though trans people do also make them)

#jax yacks #queer discourse #intracommunity issues #transandrophobia #exorsexism

[transmascissues]

i absolutely cannot believe people are trying to start discourse about whether nex benedict was actually nonbinary / whether it was okay for him to describe himself as nonbinary to some people if he didn’t actually identify that way as if he isn’t literally DEAD because he was KILLED. this is a MURDERED CHILD and these monsters are so busy getting mad at the possibility that he might have been a trans boy who described himself as nonbinary to his family because that was easier for them to take that they’re turning a CHILD who was MURDERED into fucking discourse. even when we die at the hands of cis people’s violence, our own community finds a way to make us the villains of the story.

and all of this bullshit on top of the ways that cis people are already trying to say our grief over his death is unjustified. all of this on top of people claiming he wasn’t murdered and speculating on other causes of death (i literally saw someone say he “clearly went home and took the coward’s way out” and i have never been more disgusted) or claiming that he started the fight as if any action on his part could’ve been enough to justify his death. i am haunted by the sound of his father screaming that his child was not filth because that is what people have been saying about this poor kid, that’s how cruelly his memory is being treated, and even the trans community can’t get it’s shit together enough to look past the stupid discourse and see the tragedy in front of us. did you all forget that it was supposed to be up to us to grieve him in the way he deserves when the rest of the world fails to care if people like him live or die? did you all forget that this child was our sibling, the future of our community, a life that we should have had the chance to know and treasure while he was still here but that we now have a responsibility to hold close to our hearts in his absence? nex’s life was precious and it was ended far too soon and if you truly believe that anything is more important than mourning his life and fighting for a world where no more trans people have to meet such an awful fate, you’re a traitor to this community and you do not deserve the place you occupy within it.

i’m so tired. i can’t even imagine how tired his family must be, to see the public treat the child they’re grieving so horribly, to see the world fail their baby again. leave him alone. he was already robbed of peace in life; the least you can do is let him finally have it in death.

#as a trans man whose family still uses they/them and neutral terms for me and would describe me as nonbinary #because that was how i initially came out to them and me being a man is a much bigger hurdle than i have the energy to help them get over #it’s SO deeply disturbing to know that if my life ended in violence #my own community would be more concerned with how my family referred to me in death than with the fact that i was killed #how fucking dare you turn this poor child’s existence into discourse fodder when they aren’t even here to defend themselves #when you only even know who he is in the first place because he was killed #tw transphobic violence #nex benedict #tbh it feels wrong to even add my usual tags to this but i need people to see it so. here we go #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #anti transmasculinity #transmascphobia #exorsexism #trans men #transmascs

[vaspider]

Oh, I finally found out what caused the phone call where a person from a radiology office told me that my insurance "wanted me to change my gender" because it was the wrong gender for me to be getting a uterine ultrasound.

Medicaid knows what the proper gender for me is (it's X. That's what's on my license) and doesn't want me to change it.

The actual problem is that the radiologist's office uses older medical software, and that electronic submission software doesn't have a setting for non-binary people. (In Oregon??? but apparently not.) So the error that it gave in the system is 'you have the wrong gender for this kind of procedure,' even though the actual error is 'our software literally cannot handle your legal information because it doesn't match the gender options in your state.'

I am really good at fighting with insurance companies. It's a fucking shitty thing to have to be good at, but after the past ten years of my life? I'm really good at fighting medical systems. I'm really good at advocating for myself. I'm really good at knowing my rights and knowing when someone is blowing smoke up my ass.

On top of that, I have a case manager who helped me untangle this.

But if I didn't have that? I'd have ended up either paying a bill that I shouldn't have had to pay, or just letting it go to collections and fuck up my credit.

And I shouldn't have to do this. I really shouldn't. I shouldn't have to spend hours patiently saying, "Asking me to change my information to something that is legally false in order to have a bill paid by insurance is the literal definition of insurance fraud, and I will not do it. How else can we get this fixed, in a way that doesn't require me to commit a crime or you to advise me to commit a crime?"

#trans issues #transandrophobia #transmasc issues #exorsexism #queer #transgender

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

was originally just gonna do this for intersex bc i'm intersex, but i decided to also make some for other groups also negatively effected by this

100% free to use 👍

#userbox #userboxes #intersexism #exorsexism #enbyphobia #intersectionality #intersectional feminism #anti radfem #anti tirf

[faggy--butch]

I've been out as both a trans man and a butch lesbian at different times and I feel like, if I make a post about feminism or talk about how women are treated or anything revolving sexuality or sexualization or honestly really anything, in "leftist" spaces;

people treat me with MORE misogyny if I tell them that I'm a trans man vs telling them that I'm a butch lesbian, being a trans man really does give people permission to treat you with absolute vitriol.

It's the same kind of opinion they hold regardless, but they really just let loose if I say I'm the first one vs saying I'm butch, which causes them to pause more, and be less open about it. I have the same knowledge regardless of my identity, the information and experiences I'm giving you are the same. i'm bigender, so I'm both, but as a trans man it's like I've have to detranstion myself, I have to hide one side of my identity that's just as important as the other, to even be listen to at all. I know this has been said before. I've seen it, but to have it happen to frequently to me is really really weird

#transandrophobia #butchphobia #exorsexism #misogyny #also being bigender really opens a whole other can of worms #but this is about those two distinct identities

[novascotiaducktoller]

grabs your face with both my hands. you guys understand that deconstruction of the binary means that the experience of one group does not automatically indicate the reverse experience of another group, right? like. if something happens to trans men it does not mean trans women experience the same but opposite. they are two separate groups who do not intrinsically replicate the experience of cis people. and nonbinary folks can have experiences that both and neither trans men and women have happen to them. the binary is false and so are all implications of it. tell me you understand this.

#word vomit #transandrophobia #transmisogyny #enbyphobia #exorsexism #PLEASE DOES ANY OF THIS MAKE SENSE. #charlie.txt

[genderkoolaid]

for some reason its mostly transphobic outlets talking about this, but a model was forced to resign after coming out as a trans man, after already having faced a ton of exorsexist transphobia while out as nb, because he was told he was "insufficiently masculine" to model as a man and stopped getting work opportunities after coming out.

if you wanna check out his work, here's his insta.

#m. #examples of transandrophobia #exorsexism

[sweaty-confetti]

if you say “men shouldn’t be in obstetrics and gynecology” you’re also including trans men in that. “well you know what i mean-“ no, you’re transphobic. “i’m talking about cis men-“ then say cis men. “yeah but that’s an exception-“ trans men are no more an exception to manhood than cis men are. STOP LEAVING TRANS MEN OUT OF GYNECOLOGY AND OBSTETRICS. THAT IS TRANSPHOBIC.

#emo moss talks #this is directed btw #i am trying not to be a petty bitch about this but i think this is justified to be mad at #and it’s coming from another trans person too!!!!!!! #the fuck!!??????!!!?! #transphobia #transandrophobia #anti transmasculinity #exorsexism #reproductive rights

[baeddel-txt]

A non-binary person transitioning in a non-binary way is not saying saying anything about binary transition.

Non-binary people are not saying that trans men are "fake men" or "lesser men" by transitioning.

Non-binary people are not saying that trans women are "fake women" or "lesser women" by transitioning.

Non-binary people are not saying that transitioning is "non-binary exclusive" by transitioning.

Non-binary people are not appropriating from binary trans people by transitioning.

Non-binary people are not fetishising binary trans people by transitioning.

Non-binary people are not making a mockery of binary trans people by transitioning.

Non-binary people are not being transphobic by transitioning.

Non-binary transition making you dysphoric or uncomfortable is a you problem. It is not a problem with non-binary transition.

And because it bears repeating: non-binary transition is not exclusive to midbinary people. Abinary people can also transition, and doing so does not inherently make them transmasc or transfem.

#exploding everyone scanners style #exorsexism #nonbinary #transgender

[tentacled-being]

Wish people wouldn't see genderfluid people as less of a man or less of a woman than binary men and woman. The whole "you aren't a man/woman, you're genderfluid" thing is so obnoxious. Like tell me you don't know what genderfluid is without telling ne you don't know what genderfluid is.

The same applies to others who experience being multiple genders. It's just misgendering.

Edit: To clarify, I know there are plenty genderfluid and multigender peeps who aren't men or women, my issue is with people supposedly earnestly saying you aren't something that you in fact, are.

#genderfluid #multigender #bigender #trans #nonbinary #transmultiphobia #fluidphobia #exorsexism