transvarmint

[transvarmint]

There's not a single marginalized group on this planet that doesn't face a specific intersection of targeted oppression and/or discrimination. Hope this helps.

#transandrophobia #antitransmasculinity #transmisandry #but seriously #a specific intersection of oppression came free with your fucking opppression #no group is oppressed on accident or as a byproduct or without specific intentional targeting of that group #to say transmascs dont face a specific intersection of marginalization is synonymous with saying we arent oppressed #because that's a key feature of systemic oppression!!! #there is no incidental or non-targeted or non-intersectional oppression

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Since transandrophobes are spreading a poll on the topic in their circles, I’ll ask various demographics in mine, just for the fun of it <3

Here meaning the intersection at which transmascs lie and from which they experience transphobia and misogyny, or a similar definition,

[transvarmint]

Considering the fact that erasure is one of the biggest contributing factors to transmasc oppression. I think that a poll in which the majority voted that transandrophobia doesn't exist, ironically, is evidence that it does. It is a demonstration of our erasure, and the erasure of our oppression.

But also. Imagine being so childish that you think a tumblr poll supercedes the actual lived experiences of real human beings. Sheesh.

#transandrophobia #antitransmasculinity #transmisandry

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I think it's so relatable to see trans women and transfem and generally people who no longer have a testosterone-dominant system describing what it was like to have a testosterone-dominant system. I find that often, when they talk about being angry, depressed, irate, or just irritable, I relate because that was me before I went on testosterone. I was so fucking angry and irate and genuinely unpleasant to exist around because I didn't have testosterone.

See, I think instead of estrogen or testosterone being the "bad, angry" hormone, it's more like... of course trans people who need hormones are going to be unpleasant before getting hormones - both your body and your brain require that you have a certain level of hormone balance. Of course somebody like me was fucking furious all the time, the brain does weird shit when its needs aren't fulfilled!

This isn't about criticizing any one group of trans people, rather, I encourage people to remember that ascribing inherent qualities to certain traits (e.g., saying "estrogen is such a horrible hormone!") isn't necessarily good. It's absolutely fine to talk about personal experiences with pre-transition, I do that all the time! The only issue is bioessentializing hormones, in essence, ascribing inherentness to traits we often share.

#testosterone almoat single handedly cured my eating disorder #it made me so much more capable of introspecting and regulating my emotions #not because its T but because its what i needed

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I was hanging out at the karaoke bar, chatting with a beautiful woman, and we were really hitting it off. I threw a couple of flirtatious comments her way. She giggled nervously, but abruptly stopped and looked at the floor.

She told me that she was too nervous to hit on people because she's trans and worries that people will view her as a predator and that she might get hurt.

My heart sank. I let her know that she could hit on me in whatever way she wanted and I would LOVE it. We spent the rest of the night hanging out and flirting. We ended up making out. It was great.

But I can't stop thinking about how that wasn't the first time a trans woman has said that to me. About how unsafe it is for some women that they feel the need to give out fucking disclaimers to have normal interactions with people.

We have GOT to make the world a safer place for trans women. It pisses me off that there are men at the bar who are openly predatory towards me without fear of consequence, yet a trans woman is too scared to even fucking call me pretty. And that's because she IS more likely to face worse consequences for lesser things! Like what the fuck!

You need to always check on your internalized biases. Being queer yourself doesn't absolve you of transmisogynistic thoughts and behaviors. Being bi/pansexual doesn't mean you don't hold those biases either! If you feel differently about a trans woman hitting on you than you feel about a cis woman or a man hitting on you, you need to evaluate that.

Trans women, I love you so fucking much. You should be able to express attraction and love as freely as everyone else. I hope you can always feel safe around me. And I'll never stop fighting until you can feel safe period.

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the "irreversible damage" book cover is still perhaps the most succinct demonstration of how the laserfocus the detranxiety movement has on muh poor little girls is fundamentally an outgrowth of the general terror about declining (white) birth rates and white woman fertility as a dwindling resource. like, what's actually wrong with the kitschy smiling little girl in that picture? she looks pretty content for someone "mutilated." is she missing her head, brain, heart, limbs or what? anything that would obstruct her in living out her 8 decades on this earth? hell no, it's much worse than that. it's something that actually matters. she's missing her ability to produce White Babies. you're telling me we've spent decades working to overturn roe or at least make it as difficult as possible and now that we succeeded they've found a way to weasel out of being a reproductive resource anyway? that just won't do.

[transvarmint]

Transmascs who talk about their own experiences are often told to "shut up'', a form of treatement that is often wrongly portrayed as misandry, but it actually perpetuates the misogyny that transmascs already endure.

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Not to mention that job applications also typically ask you for previous legal names, and will discover your legal name / gender change when they do a background check

Saw a post claiming that trans men who don't pass still benefit from the patriarchy because male names are more likely to have favorable responses on job applications. Do they not realize a large amount of trans men have non-traditional names, many of which are neutral or even traditionally feminine leaning (Exhibit A: myself. My name is Fable) Or the fact that a large amount of trans people literally don't have their name legally changed?

But yeah, my fem-neutral preferred name (not even my legal name) is definitely gonna give me a leg up on things, guys /s

I'm so tired if this validity contest pitting the trauma of transmasc and transfemme people against each other when in reality, your experiences will far more hinge on the area you live in and how well you pass rather than if you're ftM or mtF. They hate all of us. They want to kill all of us. Stop making it easy for them by annoying tf out of fellow trans folk by basically telling them they have it easy.

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Don't really have much to say on this one. I think it speaks for itself.

(I believe this user is either privated or deactivated. Do not attempt to contact, do not harass. Just block.)

#thank you for sharing your experience #we just found the post so shocking we didnt have any proper commentary #and we're appreciative you are standing up for yourself and speaking on this

[transvarmint]

Don't really have much to say on this one. I think it speaks for itself.

(I believe this user is either privated or deactivated. Do not attempt to contact, do not harass. Just block.)

#transandrophobia #tw rape #tw racism #tw pedophilia

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Being trans and neurodivergent with some very gendered diagnosises puts me in a weird spot.

BPD is seen as the "White manic pixie dream girl" diagnosis. "Daddy issues" type of stuff. It's surrounded by aesthetics of yandere girls, pink, the goddess Eris, and things typically read as feminine. It's mostly AFABs who are diagnosed.

ASPD is seen as the Patrick Bateman. The masculine rage and disconnected feelings. It's tied to things that feel more masculine. It's more commonly diagnosed in AMABs.

I can't help but wonder if what condition I tell people about having first defines how they view my gender. Am I the victim feminine, or the perpetrator masculine?

I read a post recently on malgendering, a concept of correctly gendering someone in a malicious way to further stigmatize them. I can see this happening with my fellow transmascs and trans men with NPD, ASPD, CD (Conduct Disorder), and others. "Of course you're a man, you have xyz disorder I view as inherently abusive/dangerous/harmful" is something I can see being weaponized against us.

I see you. I support you. Ideally, people wouldn't use a disorder to tie it inherently to gender, but if they are going to, let's kick in the teeth of ableists together.

#incredibly real post

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very very funny how intersex transfems are by far the most vocal haters of tme/tma as binary terms because of the way that perisex people use them to discredit intersex trans people's complex experiences. but sure it's just those horrible afab trans people again!!

[Plaintext: very very funny how intersex transfems are by far the most vocal haters of tme/tma as binary terms because of the way that perisex people use them to discredit intersex trans people's complex experiences. but sure it's just those horrible afab trans people again!! End Plaintext.]

(also do not fucking try to witch hunt these people. i will block you on sight, i cropped out the urls for a reason)

#the phrase 'your reaction to being asked that gives it away already' #pretty clearly proves that a.) it is absolutely about AGAB #b.) that they believe AGAB can be assumed based on behavior (bioessentialism + misogyny) #c.) they believe that your AGAB indicates important things about you as a person (again bioessentialism + misogyny)

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similar to that post i made about tboys: shoutout to genderfluid androgynes/or anyone who is male and female at various times who can't "shapeshift." there's people out there who only give us respect (or talk about us at all) when there's someone who can pass as Masc Cis Guy or Fem Cis Girl. but not everyone is doing all that. i don't shave my face or my body; when i'm fem, i'm a hairy fem who sounds like a guy. when i'm masc, i'm a short masc with obvious tits and ass. some people present the same all the time regardless of how their gender shifts!

we deserve respect when our gender isn't being treated like a party trick to entertain cis people. we deserve respect when we look visibly trans & genderqueer. i am not spending my spoons on that bullshit

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I feel so... down whenever I want to watch queer or trans videos because I know in the back of my mind that none of the current large queer content creators' content or community is safe for people like me, intersex people.

I love their work otherwise, but it hurts badly to hear them toss around casual intersexism in their videos constantly when discussing queer and trans issues and nobody ever mentions it.

And because these are large, popular creators, nobody has ever listened when I've tried to ask they adjust their language. My dms go ignored or unseen and my public comments get drowned out by fans defending their intersexist comments. It's emotionally draining and exhausting, I just want to be included in my own community.

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Murphys law of being a trans man is that you're only considered a man when it can be used to hurt you

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Cishet guy incels: * Want to remove human rights from people of marginalized gender expressions and normalize all kinds of misogynistic, transphobic and homophobic violence *

Transmasc people: * For the sake of sharing knowledge and perspectives between different expanses of the transgender and gender-nonconforming experience, want people to understand the way cis people hold power over us and the stakes we have in feminism. So that our oppression would be known and seen for what it is, - a unique intersection of misogyny, bioessentialism and transphobia that we call transandromisia/antitransmasculinity. We want to feel safe in trans, queer and feminist spaces and not subjected to bigotry and shaming for being trans in our way.*

Conflating these two things is quite simply a bigoted act. It's not any different from cis woman TERFs demonizing transfemmes which ostracizes an already vulnerable group from feminism and resources for people oppressed under patriarchy. Doing the same exact thing to transmascs and trans men should be considered an offense as intolerable as cis woman TERFs doing a similiar thing to transfems/women.

Painting one group of trans folk in a particularly negative light alienates and at worst endangers the lives of trans folk. No trans person should ever have to hate themselves for being trans or feel like being trans makes them a threat. No trans person should feel like detransitioning or closeting because people made them feel disgusting for being trans. No trans person should feel like having to fight to be seen as "one of the good trans people".

Trans people deserve to be treated with dignity and not subjected to disgusting, degrading speech about their identities. It's good to remember that scaremongering about trans folk under the guise of "those scary men this and that" is a trick of (usually white) cis women weaponizing gender-conformity against trans and GNC folk they hold power over.

Trans people of any gender may sometimes do this to each other. Many trans people's worst experiences of transphobia come from their fellow trans folk, be it in the form of transmedicalism, gatekeeping, identity-policing, predatorjacketing a group of trans people, transmisogyny, transandromisia, intersexism or enbyphobia etc.

The rise of cis straight incels is life-endangering to especially to transmasculine people who don't "cis-pass" but may date cis men. Abusive cis men often intentionally go after women or people they perceive as such, whom they perceive to be vulnerable, not "conventionally attractive" and lonely. Many transmasculine people and trans men suffer great amounts of manipulation and abuse at the hands of misogynistic and transphobic cishet men. These cis men view us as women stepping out of line, making choices with our lives they don't agree with because they view us as sex objects for their consumption.

Conflating cis straight misogynistic men with transmascs and trans men who only want to be understood in our own experience without erasing anyone else's, is particularly disgusting considering how the patriarchy abuses us and seeks to strip our rights away.

Yes, everyone has seen the occasional trans man who was misogynistic. Then what, have you seen the amount of conservative cis women who abuse their daughters to conform to strict gender roles, bully autistic and gender-nonconforming women and who try to ban abortions? To most trans men and mascs it's completely obvious that we're basically dead under a heavily patriarchal society and it doesn't take some rocket surgery to see that.

(Also yes, I'm aware of how the intersection with race adds to this picture and how white women's abuse of racialized people, by degendering of women and scaremongering about men, replicates itself among trans people. I'm white myself so this isn't in my lane to speak about so I suggest just listening to BlPOC trans people on it instead.)

(Anyone who wants to add anything is free to do so.)

[transvarmint]

Considering that there’s another post going around that lands on this conclusion, I think it deserves its own succinct post:

When transmascs share instances of positivity to remind each other that the way we are treated isn’t all bad, it’s then used as proof of the whole of transmasc experiences being this way, and that transmascs are not oppressed as a whole.

When transmascs share instances of harm done to transmascs to raise awareness that transmascs are harmed directly within our societies, it’s used as proof that we are taking up too much room in conversations because the harm we face “isn’t bad enough”.

When transmascs share instances of outright murder of members of our community to show that no, transmasc issues are not somehow “lesser” because “we aren’t dying” because we are dying, it’s used as proof that we are trauma dumping and trying to make other people feel sorry for us—look at these AFABs being whiny and hysterical and trying to portray themselves as victims. Or that it isn’t specific enough to us so we should shut up and let other people speak for us.

Transmascs cannot speak about our experiences without being touted as an example of why transmascs as a whole should shut up.

This is erasure.