#sick of shipping wars

[yurtletheturtlehenderson]

i just wanna talk to someone abt this because i trust u and ppl on tumblr actually freak me out and scare me so…hear me out. im not at all opposed to byler and im not homophobic bc i dont particularly ship it as much as others. yes i do ship it some amount, but the only thing that worries me is homophobes. being a queer person in a homophobic family is reallt hard and u have to learn to grow with a fear of them hating u. im just afraid of how ppl will take it if byler is canon. again i am not against the ship. that being said i am a girl who simps over will byers and i adore the y/n x will dynamic they have. just wanted to tell someone bc a lot of ppl on this sight would call me homophobic and stuff over this

Aw honey... of course it's okay. And I'm sorry things have been like this. I totally get it. What's not okay is a fandom getting so protective over their ships they make people of afraid of not shipping something enough. (Long but necessary rant ahead. Sorry, but its worth it)

I'm gonna lose a lot of people here, and likely cause they don't want to read to the end to hear all I have to say, but here goes: I don't particularly ship Byler either. When most people hear this statement they immediately equate it with the statement "I don't think Will is gay and neither is Mike" (I feel like this is true for most queer ships, or just shipping culture in general?).... this could not be more wrong. For one, nobody ever immediately knows why someone ships something (and a lot of times, the person themselves don't understand/realize why they subconsciously pick to a specific pairing and cling to it so tightly) and while it's completely understandable to have become defensive, say, because you feel as though your own identity is under attack, it's so easy—natural even—for people to snap into survival mode and try to defend themselves. But as we've seen, this can, in the right circumstances, also feed the pre-existing cycle of offense and defense that is far too long and philosophical a discussion to dive into here and now.

No, for now I wanna just reiterate that just because someone admits to not being particularly hyper-enthused by a specific ship—yes, like Byler—doesn't mean they automatically hate it. I don't particularly campaign for Mileven either! I've been persuaded by both in the past, but I've never found myself at point where I'm making fan accounts surrounding the ship, pumping out content 24/7, and I certainly haven't felt compelled to bash anyone who ships the other. But ya know what? I will say, and I bet im not alone here, the more I encounter Mileven content/space OR Byler content/space, the more I'm driven away. Why? The fucking shipping wars.

Byler and Mileven shippers, hard-core super-shippers specifically speaking, are some of the most toxic fans I've ever encountered. Is it every one? No!! But most. Most. The most extreme ive heard/seen is horrific. I'm talking death threats, suicide baiting, doxing, constant harassment and just overall borderline cyberterrorism. It's fucking unacceptable. And the underlying theme here and why there's so much fear spreading throughout fandom spaces. Why someone felt the need to limit contact and come to someone they claimed to trust to anonymously admit they aren't frothing at the mouth for one of these aforementioned ships. (Thank u btw for feeling u could trust me) This is not okay!!! People have to see how wrong this is!!! Right?? Right?!

I have no idea how much people will respect all this considering the source: a 21 year old reader insert writer who dedicates most of her time to writing teenagers into the plot of stranger things with Will Byers as their love interest (yes, specifically fem presenting/ she/her pronoun users). So no, I wouldn't blame anyone for hearing me say the words "I'm not a big byler shipper" and assume it has anything to do with that. But I'd hope that anyone who knows me, or is at least willing to hear me out, will understand that I have stated many times (and likely will again cause im a ✨️repetitive bitch✨️) that when I was a teenager, I was going through the absolute worst years of my life. Like, it warmed me up the for 2020s, that's how bad it was for me. And the only thing that got me through (likely without falling into what I believe would have become some incredibly dangerous habits) was falling into a world I could completely disappear into and forget my own shitty world existed.

I found this series called The Maze Runner, fell absolutely in love with the books and the world and bought every copy I could get my hands on. And when that wasn't enough, I looked for every blogspace I could get my hands on. Enter tumblr. Not even five minutes into my new account and searching the maze runner tag do I find a short little story called an "x reader". I literally cried. I was so fucking alone cause, and I'll tell yall, in the span of 15 months, I put down my dog of 11 years, lost my great-grandmother, then my grandpa, then my great grandfather, and then my grandmother. I had reason to believe I would suddenly lose my best friend to depression, and then to top it off my parents got divorced. Granted things have definitely gotten brighter, but little 14 year old me was no where near a healthy state of mind, or body and stumbling across something that not only let me disappear from my collapsing world, but surrounded me in love and encouragement, no matter how corny or silly, by the characters I had fallen in love with was an indescribable experience. This. This is precisely why i write. If theres even a chance i can provide that for you, and God, in the 2020s of all time to be a teenager, than i want to. I want to pay it forward.

That being said, I'd also hope one would understand while things were on the mend, I wasn't fully recovered by the time stranger things came out and i decided to write for it. The grief and trauma was one thing but, another thing you guys might know about me if you've been following me for a while is in the past, I've struggled severely—and still do a great deal—with compulsory heterosexuality. And honestly, a little internalized homophobia I think. It's stuff I work on daily, and it's stuff, I'd be willing to bet, a lot more people deal with than you'd expect. It's for this reason, that I suspect hilariously enough, me a deeply closeted lesbian while planning an x (at the time fem!)reader rewrite for younger kids to escape into, was faced with the choice of a love interest and subconsciously chose one of the only semi-canonically gay male characters available. Yes, essentially, in my own comphet riddled brain, I subconsciously gave both the (fem)reader and Will Byers my own comphet.

But guess what? Characters evolve as the story evolves and that rings true for COSMIC. I wish I had stories back then that casually explored sexuality outside the confines of cisgender heterosexuality in a safe, fun, encouraging way. I also wish I had stories that led you down one story with one character only and suck you in only to change and evolve if needed to say, an opposite sex or nonbinary character as the new love interest and being able to do so cause the love interest was never THE PLOT in the first place. It certainly would have helped speed things along I think, and even if I wasn't its healthy to try things out/consider before saying, ya know I think this still feels right, I'm good! And that's okay!

I deeply deeply appreciate anyone who read this far. I completely understand how much i tend to blather and granted i didnt plan on going into the specifics of my childhood trauma but i felt it necessary info as to why on earth im preaching gay Will while i currently have a Will x fem!reader on my page (Again, dont worry. Im not about to disrespect/erase anything likely to come in s4, nor have is this is a sudden thing in COSMIC) and seemingly shitting on ships. Again, it's the over intense shippers, not the ships themselves and overall lack of byler content that failed to get my attention.

In conclusion, yes, I don't particularly ship Byler much like you dear nonnie, but anyone who automatically thinks that statement makes us homophobic really needs to take a step back and perhaps consider taking a break from public fandom space. If you as a byler OR mileven shipper feel confronted at every corner to a point you're jumping down others throats, you need to take a break from the internet. Draw your ship, write some fanfic if you still want to engage in fandom activities offline but take a break from the internet and prowling for any throat to jump down.

Blech. Rant over. I kinda accidentally combined it with the pre season 4 premiere disclaimer for Cosmic and how and why I have a will x reader with a fem reader copy and how that's going to be affected by s4 so that's prob why it's so long but I don't regret it. The point is, this is and always will be a safe space for fandom enjoyment and just hanging out and the last thing I want here is someone to be feel afraid or threatened in any way. I love you all so much and wish nothing but amazing things for you all. And thank you again, dear nonnie, for trusting me. It means a lot.

💕💕💕 - Yurtle

#yurtle answers #yurtle rambles #i need to start calling it yurtle monologues #yurtle monologues #lovely anon #byler #mileven #sick of shipping wars

[cloudbunny]

happy may 4th have jedi kalluzeb

#nyehehehe #kalluzeb #star wars #ship stuff #my art #me: what if everyone in star wars had a lightsaber actually. I think that would be sick

[famousflowermagazine]

being an ashrym shipper and a callowmoore shipper can co exist honesty screw love triangles polygamy is the way to go. Both ships are valid and special in their own ways. ❤️

#ashrym #callowmoore #Ashton greymoore X fearne calloway X orym of the air ashari #Critical role campaign 3 #Honestly I am sick of ship wars in fandom you are entitled to ship whatever you like #bell's hells #ashton greymoore #orym of the air ashari #fearne calloway #Anyway I ship all of them together honestly

[dreams-are-paper-thin]

The worst part about being in a fandom is the ship wars me thinks 🫠😵‍💫😖 chill out, the world is not gonna end if someone likes a different ship than you

#yes this is about sabezra/wolfwren #but it happens in every fandom and I'm sick of it #ship wars #toxic fandom #toxic fans #Sabezra #Wolfwren

[madetolooklikeus]

12: Two Beasts

#friendsatthetable #15daysoffatt #friends at the table #partizan #my art #first thought was to do it more like a movie poster #with dahlia and the ships cas'alear saw massing in the harbor on one side #and cynosure and crysanth on the other with the sphinx and serpent in the middle #but then felt kinda sick at the thought of depictong big leader profiles and symbols of power #and the literal language of war propaganda #so this is more like an exercise in not being scared to use the good paper for something very quick and rough

[merryfortune]

If you write x reader fic, thank you for sharing your love, admiration, and creativity with the fandom at large. you are appreciated and your hard work deserves to be recognised.

#merry muses #self shipping #selfshipping #self ship positivity #sick of seeing u guys get treated bad so i'm joining the war on x reader fic on the side of x reader fic

[notnyxxy]

me after sharing random art or other nonsense to anyone who will listen

#the amazing digital circus #NEW NEWS DROP??? #tadc episode 2 #in may perhaps #tadc #im so normal i promise #the shipping war callout was needed im so sick of seeing it on my feed #i dont care for shipping why is it thereee

[nightskyfoxyy]

Fantasy AU Blyla my beloved. Save me Fantasy AU

#lo rambles #star wars #fanart #why do i always come back to this when im sick as hell n out of it #its fun but its OUT THERE #commander bly #aayla secura #blyla #bly x aayla #fantasy #AU #i love this ship so much #clone wars

[dreadfuldevotee]

Rewatched Practice Makes Perfect today and like...once again floored by even when Anakin's being hard on her he is trying sooo hard to be good to Ahsoka. The way his voice rises and he's basically pleading with her to understand that he is trying to help her in the only way he knows how...

#like this really is the man who sings his apprentices praises to everyone he meets #it makes me sick oh my god he's trying so hard you guuuys #anyways to me its very much the parenting technique of ''im going to do for you what i felt wasn't done for me'' like #the second he decides to keep her around *read: approx. 10 minutes after meeting her* he becomes so fiercy protective #and yeah he stumbles a bit especially in the first season or 2 but he is so quick to reassure her or just uuuuh #literally put his life in her hands #and then of course of several times he makes wildly un-jedi like decisions to protect her #gAH the VOICES #star wars #anakin skywalker #ahsoka tano #no shipping thats his daughter/sister yes at the same time #char.txt #tales of the jedi

[scattered-winter]

sometimes i see a post and its like. hm. you actually care very little about the story or characters or plot at all bc all you want is for the token male twinks to kiss.

#i KNOW i know. tumblr. twink kissing website. #but still. genuinely. #my criteria for if i trust someone's takes on voltron are their opinions on allura and hunk. and ships other than klance. #and the non-romantic relationships also. that's a big main one actually. #has not led me astray yet. #like to clarify i LIKE klance ok. i am an enjoyer of them. but idk.....the way that theyre the Only thing anyone writes/cares about. #like yeah klance was done dirty but what about the characters of color. what about the disabled characters. #what about the platonic relationships. what about the familial relationships. what about the themes of war and genocide and imperialism. #what about the very real queerbait that happened right in front of us but everyone ignored #and whined about the fake made up queerbait that happened in their heads. #idk. people can engage with media however they want and its not a horrible world ending thing if they only view it thru the twinks kissing #but i dunno. viewing media with the shipping lens can blind you to all the other things. #AND I KNOW THE IRONY OF POINTING THIS OUT FOR *VOLTRON* OF ALL THINGS. I KNOWWW I KNOW I KNOW. #its not a problem that is exclusively this fandom either i see it everywhere. side eyes buddie fandom. #but idk man. im sick of not being able to find fic/art/meta that is focused on things other than the twinks kissing. #i think thats why im putting such a big focus on the other relationships in quintenary stars tbh. like there IS klance #or will be eventually but its just one of the relationships that will be happening. theyre found family theres siblings theres friends #theres the Themes and the Motifs and the storytelling devices. et cetera et cetera. #anyway this isnt really directed at anyone im just thinking out loud #winter speaks #voltron #anti klance #<- not really???? but i dont want ppl yelling at me so.

[rexscanonwife]

I’ve been a bit depressed lately and I wanted to draw something super soft and self indulgent and...went a little ham with the lighting ngl! but sometimes instead of getting up and going to some mission debriefing you just wanna stay in bed with your lover ♡

#artfarts #self insert art #self insert #self ship #self shipping community #self insert community #self insert x canon #star wars the clone wars #captain rex #💙 oh captain my captain 💙 #i have been...quite sad #i dunno being sick and being isolated has really taken a toll on me #i keep in touch w close friends online ofc but you know #its still hard #especially since ive been alone on christmas and ill still be alone on new years *peace sign* #but drawing this was really comforting!! #ive been dealing w a bit o art block lately too #so im very pleased that it came out pretty nice :'3 #and rex is just my EVERYTHING #he makes everything better seeing him is just the biggest serotonin boost #i just wanna feel his arms wrapped around me and his warmth and run my fingers over his scars and kiss him!!!

[leons-lady]

To the person who drew Obi-Wan "nursing" little Luke and Leia

Step on a Lego, and I hope both sides of your pillows are HOTTER THAN THE PITS OF HELL tonight and you get artblock for months and months and MONTHS

#anakin skywalker #star wars #darth vader #obiwan kenobi #anti obikin #obikin #i can ignore the ship alone but the minute you bring in the kids into your sick fantasies #MY FUCKING EYES ARE BURNING

[dunwall-sewer-rat]

I dream of the day when ship wars cease to exist

Genuinely, you can dislike a ship without dissing it or its shippers, and you can like a ship without dunking on ""opposing"" ships and their shippers. Grow the fuck up.

#shipping #ship wars #fandom problems #do better #fanfic #im directing this at the overwatch fandom currently because im so sick of #spuriken vs yeehan #cassidy can date them both come on #also it applies to ff7 also #and every fandom ever #botw and totk too actually

[merymoonbeam]

I don’t know how many times we have to say this but sarah said that the new characters only expanded the world and her plan for these books did not change since she’d pitched to her editor. By that time she knew who the first two books were about and she was keeping the door open after that. This literally rules out Gwyn as a main character in a book. She is a new character we just met in acosf... the new books are about the side characters in original trilogy(or one of them might be a prequel as she also said this in an interview) And when she pitched it to her editor she knew Elain would get a book. So do the math please. It is very simple.

#elriel #literally so sick of this stupid ship war

[maynardoisfromouterspace]

You know what fuck the ship wars

Chrissy is dating Eddy who is dating Steve who is dating Nancy who is dating Robin and Jonathan

If you wanna make it extra Chrissy is dating Robin who is also dating Vicki

Also

Will is dating Mike who is dating El who is dating Max who is dating Lucas

No one is dating Jason

We don’t like Jason

Fuck Jason

#stranger things #stranger things but it’s gay #eddie munson #Steddie #edissy #chrissy cunningham #Nancy #robin x nancy #Robin Buckley #mike wheeler #idk all the ship names #fuck it everyone is dating #polyamorous stranger things #I’m so sick of these ship wars and love triangles so everyone is dating each other now #everyone is gay now #I know this won’t happen but I want it to

[irishhorse-blog]

I read online (at kpop, so take it with a pillar of salt) that some Japanese Jikookers are behind a smear campaign against Tae. If it's true, I'm not overly surprised, but very disappointed. As a Joker, I take pride in how much we're NOT like the cult. This behavior is so much like TKKs that I'm ashamed. I don't know if it's true or not, but if it is... so much disappoint.

It's ridiculous to turn hate against any of the members because you prefer someone else. These seven men love each other to distraction, and they're a UNIT. They want to be together. They don't appreciate attacks against any of them, and they are protective of each other. If you think that by smearing Tae because you support Jikook, or if you hate on Jimin because you follow Taekook, or if you hate Jungkook because you're a Jimin solos tan, you're missing the point of BTS and everything they stand for.

That's not love. It's not even sane. And I guarantee you that your favorite Tannie would be horrified by what's being done "in his name".

So KNOCK IT OFF.

#ship wars are stupid #BTS is 7 #playa haters you should love yourselves #get back in your fucking lane #I am so sick of solos and antis and mantis and rabid shippers and all these people who are treating members like their property #Get over it #Grow up