#sex tag

[thecurefordepression]

#Ferris Wheels #Suck #Sex Tag

[blessedarethebinarybreakers]

can you share links to some of your posts about sexual morality? the link in your faq wasn't working for me

Hi yes! I recommend wandering through my #sex tag and #premarital sex tag for general stuff.

Maybe also #purity culture and #embodied theology.

(I do want to note that if you go deep far down into some of those tags, you'll find some stuff from, like, 2015 that I don't endorse anymore. I don't think there's anything I'd completely reject, but I used to be more neutral/hand-wavy about sex stuff than I am now. My views have changed over time! So check the timestamps lol)

A few specific posts:

Unlearning fear and shame around sex

What's the Bible "say" about premarital / extramarital sex?

Another post unpacking some purity culture & extramarital sex stuff

Finally, my blog probably isn't the best place to find some solid theology affirming how sex can be holy! Places like Queer Theology delve into that a lot deeper than I do — like this article of theirs about masturbation or this one about unlearning sexual shame.

There's also Nadia Bolz-Weber's work around bodies and shame.

I also remember the episode "Does God Hate My Sex Life?" of the "Lord Have Mercy" podcast being influential for me a few years ago. In it, Crystal Cheatham assigns "homework" — praying while masturbating!

I am only partway through it, but I also recommend the book I Heart Sex Workers for some theology around sex work.

If anyone else has resources exploring sex as sacred / sex-positive theologies, please share!

#sex tag

[tatianamattoso]

@tatianamattoso

#mac mcdonald #tumblr blog #tumblr #hambuger #cheddar #lanche #tumblelog #mary macdonald #sextafeira #amor próprio #sex tag #comidinhas

[butchfalin]

the funniest meltdown ive ever had was in college when i got so overstimulated that i could Not speak, including over text. one of my friends was trying to talk me through it but i was solely using emojis because they were easier than trying to come up with words so he started using primarily emojis as well just to make things feel balanced. this was not the Most effective strategy... until. he tried to ask me "you okay?" but the way he chose to do that was by sending "👉🏼👌🏼❓" and i was so shocked by suddenly being asked if i was dtf that i was like WHAT???? WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME?????????? and thus was verbal again

#yeehaw #1k #5k #10k #posts that got cursed. blasted. im making these tag updates after... 19 hours? #also i have been told it should say speech loss bc nonverbal specifically refers to the permanent state. did not know that! #unfortunately i fear it is so far past containment that even if i edited it now it would do very little. but noted for future reference #edit 2: nvm enough ppl have come to rb it from me directly that i changed the wording a bit. hopefully this makes sense #also. in case anyone is curious. though i doubt anyone who is commenting these things will check the original tags #1) my friend did not do this on purpose in any way. it was not intended to distract me or to hit on me. im a lesbian hes a gay man. cmon now #he felt very bad about it afterwards. i thought it was hilarious but it was very embarrassed and apologetic #2) “why didn't he use 🫵🏼?” didn't exist yet. “why didn't he use 🆗?” dunno! we'd been using a lot of hand emojis. 👌🏼 is an ok sign #like it makes sense. it was just a silly mixup. also No i did not invent 👉🏼👌🏼 as a gesture meaning sex. do you live under a rock #3) nonspeaking episodes are a recurring thing in my life and have been since i was born. this is not a quirky one-time thing #it is a pervasive issue that is very frustrating to both myself and the people i am trying to communicate with. in which trying to speak is #extremely distressing and causes very genuine anguish. this post is not me making light of it it's just a funny thing that happened once #it's no different than if i post about a funny thing that happened in conjunction w a physical disability. it's just me talking abt my life #i don't mind character tags tho. those can be entertaining. i don't know what any of you are talking about #Except the ppl who have said this is pego/ryu or wang/xian. those people i understand and respect #if you use it as a writing prompt that's fine but send it to me. i want to see it #aaaand i think that's it. everyday im tempted to turn off rbs on it. it hasn't even been a week

[lgbtlunaverse]

The world exists in such a baffling state of simultaneous sex-aversion and sex-hegemony. Every social platform on the internet is trying to banish sex workers to the shadow realm but I can't post a tweet without at least two bots replying P U S S Y I N B I O. People are self-censoring sex to seggs and $3× but every other ad you see is still filled with half-naked women. Rightwingers want queer people arrested for so much as existing in the same postal code as a child and are also drumming up a moral panic about how teenage boys aren't getting laid enough. I feel like I'm losing my mind.

#it's bad if you want i have sex it's also bad if you DON'T want to have sex #god forbid if you're a woman in a heterosexual marriage and aren't in the mood #that's 'withholding sex' and you're clearly abusive scum who should be divorced and left without any of your shared assets. #but if you DO have sex now you're a degenerate freak plotting for the downfall of western society #i don't know what to say i'm just so tired #politics #culture #queerphobia #lgbtqia #misogyny #<it's not the exclusive source but let's be honest sooo much of this is integral to the patriarchy #patriarchy needs access to an underclass they can treat like sex objects but they also don't want them to have any human rights #so sexuality is both obligatory and stigmatized #purity culture #i'm really struggling with tagging this because most of the appropiate tags would- in a beautiful twist of irony- get me booted off tumblr

[butchdykekondraki]

14k moonwalker

#look at my wife ok. #og tags -> #[ren] #um. i mean what who said that you guys..... #preemptive ''this post is about wanting to have gay sex with a computer''

[suqqubus]

fucked my hunky dommy daddy in the morning and hooked up w the twinky line cook who calls me mommy in the afternoon. guys i think this is it. i think im finally living my ideal life

#p #sex tag #im not going to lie i actually feel fucking unstoppable right now

[chamerionwrites]

Also, there is so much hand-wringing over the ethics of BDSM and while obviously it is worth taking care about ...sensation seeking is a thing. Many, many people enjoy eating habanero peppers and/or watching movies that make them cry. The conceptual leap from there to the idea that it's possible for sex to hurt good is a very short one, and sometimes it REALLY is as simple as that.

#like yes there are power dynamics as with many things including non-kinky sex and many activities completely unrelated to sex #yes sometimes there IS complicated psychological stuff being played with #but also. it is worth asking if you're working yourself into a froth because some people enjoy spicier salsa than you do #and also whether you wanna die on the hill that straight women aren't allowed to enjoy spicy salsa #normal ≠ moral #my posts #habanero salsa tag

[thecurefordepression]

#Britney Spears #Lucky #Grindr #Sex Tag #Adult Humour #Masterbation

[blessedarethebinarybreakers]

[Nsfw?] How the heck does one deal with intense shame and guilt w/r/t sexuality esp if you grew up lgbt in a hardcore repressive household. esp if you want to remain Christian. I'm deeply afraid of disappointing God and going to hell. Like it's such a deep and involuntary fear which produces so much anxiety within me.

Idk what to do and honestly it's killing me

cw: shame & guilt, fear of hell

Dear anon, I am so sorry that you are going through this pain. Your body and sexuality are gifts from the God who created us as embodied beings and called us good. I am so sorry human beings have taken those gifts and twisted them, made you feel shame and guilt around them. You are absolutely not alone in this struggle.

The fear of hell is also one that so many of us struggle with at some point in our lives. It makes my blood boil that so many Christians turn Jesus's Good News of liberation for all into bad news of torture and punishment for many. The way many churches teach Christianity, the only way they can keep people in the pews is to scare them into staying. But Jesus didn't fearmonger like that; he brought healing and hope and wholeness to those he ministered to.

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Ultimately, my response to you is to encourage you to seek professionals who can support you far better than I can. If at all possible, I highly recommend finding a counselor or therapist who specializes in helping people with sexual trauma or who are recovering from anti-sex sentiments, anti-LGBT rhetoric, etc.

Make sure that anyone you decide to try out is in favor of undoing purity-culture-type shame and guilt around sexuality, rather than reinforcing it. If you need help finding someone who seems like a good fit for you, please feel free to private message me with your general location and I can try to search for you; or send me the websites of anyone you find and I can see if they're on the anti-shame side of things.

So yeah, I want that disclaimer out there that the best things for you are more long-term support than I can offer, as well as the simple passage of time. Still, I do have a few things that may help guide you as you go; I'll share them below.

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I have a post here responding to someone else who struggles to let go of the fear that God will send them to hell for being gay & trans. They're Catholic, which may or may not be your own background, but even if the Catholic stuff doesn't fit your situation, most of the stuff in my reply can fit a more general Christian background.

One thing I emphasize in that post is that heaven is a gift given freely by the God who loves us. That means that even if it turned out that people like me who believe wholeheartedly that God affirms LGBTQA+ identities were wrong, God's response to our mistake would not be to fling us to hell — God would enfold us in Their love. As I write in that post,

Heaven isn’t a reward for getting the best grade on a theology test: heaven is a gift from God to us, pure and simple. That can be hard to digest, but it’s the core of Jesus’s message: we don’t earn salvation; it’s given freely and joyfully to us by the God who longs to be with us forever. There is nothing you can be or do to cancel out that gift.

I end that post with links to further discussions on hell, including the suggestion that hell may not be real at all — or if it is, it's not a place packed with souls being punished for all time. God's justice is not human justice; it's not punitive and vengeful like that.

I say all that while also emphasizing that I do firmly believe that God intends and affirms a diversity of sexuality, gender, and so on. God is not disappointed in you for being your beautiful self! Jesus came to liberate us to live fully into those unique selves.

My #affirmation tag is full of stuff on that topic;

and my #rebuttals tag responds to common arguments made against LGBTQA+ persons.

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For more on sexuality:

This post responds to someone who grew up steeped in purity culture and felt "defiled" after having sex. I respond with assurance that human beings cannot be "damaged goods"; information about how sexuality is depicted in the Bible; and an example of a faithful sexual ethic that makes room for far more sex than just "between one cis man and one cis woman who are married."

Other resources that might help you as you work through your fears and shame:

I really love this "blessing for our bodies" by Nadia Bolz-Weber. .

For a longer work by the same author, check out Shameless: A Sexual Reformation. If you can't buy the book, it's available in many libraries; it's also available as an audiobook. If you're looking for a book-length exploration of how much of Christianity has used shame around sex to oppress and control various marginalized groups, and how God has a better way, this is my top recommendation. .

Bad Theology Kills by Kevin Garcia is another great book that unpacks the bad fruits of shame and good fruits of affirmation. .

Queer Theology puts out online resources on the topic of sex. Click here for their full webpage of resources.

Or click here for their article "What to Do with Shame, Sex, and Jesus." .

Finally, my FAQ has a section of links to posts about "guilt and fear around sex," including questions about pre-marital sex & masturbation.

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Sending you love, anon. May the God who made you as you are and delights in you ease your fears and guide you towards the people and places that can help you find peace and joy. <3

If anyone else has resources or encouragement for anon, please share.

#sex tag #shame #guilt #recovery #long post #fear of hell

[mackmp3]

version of this picture for the target audience of me and me only

#everytime i see it i'm like scrap metal for her industrial music?? scrap metal for her industrial music tonight queen???? #so yeah. behold #my slightly bonkers craft projects #butch #lesbian #sorry butch tag. youre getting shitposts to go with with your sex posting now #industrial music

[bittsandpieces]

#bitts posts #my pics #nsft #ns/fw #soooo sleepy #send asks for me to wake up to pleaseeeee #or say nice things in the tags!!! #im hoping i have another insane sex dream tonight tbh

[probablymoons]

"If It's Sex You're Looking For..." Designed by Judith Johnson for Hallmark, 1971. Archived from The Peculiar Manicule.

#If It's Sex You're Looking For... #ask to tag #probablyrambles #id in alt text #hallmark thoughfulness library #70s design #Day Glo #newspaper clippings #judith johnson #the peculiar manicule #archive #1971 #love #valentines

[hauntedmoors]

this show rules sorry

#I’m thinking about the other caps I posted where a lesbian entraps a partner into a relationship by donating her liver. great stuff. #I don’t have the chops for it but someone could say some really interesting things about how the show plays with genre awareness / the tug #and flow relationship between love and pain / religion and playing god as a healer / sexuality and love framed by corporate settings #and some good old surgery as sex metaphors #text #house md #liverisms tag

[daz4i]

mori bro now's your chance. his other ex-husband died man he has no one else to go to you should shoot your shot again come on bro

#SORRY #i miss fukumori. don't get me wrong i loved the old man yaoi divorce and old man yaoi widowing we had here #but maybe fukuzawa needs his other evil man back in his life. they're about to enter another custody battle too right? #let's go mori you can goad him into hate sex before it gets bad. i believe in you bro #bungou stray dogs #< half tagging to inflict this on more ppl but mostly tagging to keep us in the trending for longer uwu

[throesofincreasingwonder]

You know what? I want a whole post for this:

Sex Repulsion is not the same thing as, or an excuse for, Sex Negativity

non-negotiable!

I am a sex-repulsed asexual. This means that I am uncomfortable and repulsed by the idea of engaging in sexual acts. This does not mean that I have an excuse to be repulsed by other people's sexual attraction or the right to police how other people engage in or express sexual acts or attraction.

Young queer people need to learn the difference between sex repulsion and sex negativity, and actively work to unlearn sex-negative attitudes. Asexuality, even sex-repulsed asexuality, is and should be fully compatible with sex positivity.

If you are uncomfortable with the idea of other people feeling sexual attraction or engaging in sexual acts that do not involve you in any way, that is not sex repulsion it is the cultural Christianity and you need to seriously work on that.

#we as asexual people have got to have a talk about this because the shit i have been seeing is NOT okay #asexuality #sex positivity #this is largely intracommunity allo people can engage w/ it but don't be clowns #original post #500 #1k #PLEASE STOP TAGGING THIS AS 'CULTS' YOU CAN CRITIQUE A RELIGION W/O CALLING IT A CULT I AM BITING YOU #this barely even mentions Christianity like someone does not need to be in a cult to be sex negative. and also not all religions are cults #please be normal #other than that y'all have actually been very normal abt this one so far thank you #2k #5k