#self-talk

[rincewindsapprentice]

#polls #self-talk #just curious! #for me it is mostly because some thoughts are big and I need to speak them out loud

[hussyknee]

I am not broken. I have been wounded.

I am not damaged. I have been hurt.

I am not useless. I am making the best of my limited capacity.

I am not lazy. I need rest to heal.

I am not unreliable. I live an unpredictable life.

I am not irresponsible. I have limitations.

I am not incompetent. I am learning at my own pace.

#disability #ableism #internalized ableism #spoonie #affirmations #disabled life #chronic illness #chronic fatigue #chronic pain #mental health #self-talk #healing #knee of huss

[terracemuse]

#mindful #self-talk #Universe #David james lees #Tao

[mcromwell]

Genuine question, sorry if it's dumb -

How do you work when there's something on the line? I find I freeze, and it's just so much more difficult to properly organize myself to produce something I'm proud of. But you've been to conventions, and you sell your work, so I'm assuming you feel pressure at least *sometimes.* do you work with it? Around it?

Hey Tymbul, it's not a dumb question, it's actually a really good one. I can only answer it to the best of my own abilities, in regards to my own art and practice, so mileage may vary.

This feeling of something being is "on the line" was what burned me out hard in 2019/20. I'd been making and sharing art for decades and all the while my thoughts took the shape of, "it has to be GOOD, it has to SAY something, it needs to hit X and Y requirement to be worthy" etc. Wherever that habit of pressuring myself came from, it wasn't helpful. I would glare at the blank page and curse every sketch I made because it (and by extension, myself) wasn't ever good enough.

I knew something had to change, so I changed. I began trying to make art with no pressure. Instead of pushing myself I let my foot off the brake. I changed the way I talked to myself about art. "I'm going to make this as good as I can. And if I can't, there's always next painting." I began starting a piece with fast, easy, not-precious stuff--random paint smears, doodles, gesture sketches. The pressure was off when all I had to do was start with trash and play around. If it just wasn't working and I had to scrap it or start over, oh well, it was just trash. I still run into this pressure today, though. Growth ain't linear and all that. Old habits die hard. I have to snap myself out of it with a feral screeching JUST THROW PAINT ON IT RRRRRRRRGH and I can usually let up on the brakes enough to get it going. It's a journey.

I like to think of this in terms of dog training. If you punch your dog and yell at it, that dog is going to have fear and doubt and won't be a healthy dog capable of performing the tasks you ask of it. But if you use positive reinforcement, they develop confidence and become dependable and sturdy. If you sit down to make art and every time its a barrage of IT HAS TO BE GOOD! YOU HAVE TO BE PROUD OF IT! EVERY NEW PIECE HAS TO BE BETTER! IF IT ISN'T YOU'LL BE A FAILURE! WHY AREN'T YOU DRAWING YET then man, that dog is cowering in the corner, it is not going to sit or fetch or anything. What if instead you said, "Okay! Time to make something. Let's do warm-ups and thumbnails to prepare so I'm ready to jump in. I am open to surprising myself by making something I'm excited about, but I won't beat myself up if today isn't that day. I know by doing this I'm practicing and getting better, it is never a waste." You are much more likely to Do a Thing if that thing feels good to do. That's just being an animal, man. Positive feedback.

To be honest, though, I still haven't found a successful way to make commissions less like pulling teeth. My method of art-making is to fuck around and find out and that's not a conducive method for a comm, which usually has a ton more expectation and strict parameters and my nemesis: Should-Look-Like. I am good at some things, I am not good at comms. Progress is not linear. I am still learning. My efforts to let up on the brakes made it so the car was a lot harder to control... for better or worse.

Hope this helps. Mostly, my advice is to find out how making art can feel good to you and then make a ton of it. Make more art than you think you should. It gets easier. And don't punch your dog.

#art advice #art block #self-talk #that being said I often fear I have 0 discipline but then again I am sick so I might just be kinda grumpy about stuff

[3eanuts]

April 16, 1956 — see The Complete Peanuts 1955-1958

#peanuts #comics #humor #existentialism #charlie brown #depression #kids #children #kites #self-esteem #self-talk #loneliness #failure

[spiritualseeker777]

#self-talk #wisdom #good advice #take care of yourself #self love #self loathing #be kind to yourself

[davnittbraes]

Okay listen.

I’m done. I’m not doing this anymore. This is ridiculous. It’s insane.

DO YOU HEAR ME, ANXIETY?

IT’S OVER FOR YOU.

No more self-doubt. No more rewriting this fic for the 473729384 time. YOU CAN’T MAKE ME.

I’m posting this Marcus P fic today even if it fucking kills me.

#self-talk #this probably isn’t what my therapist was advising #but imma see if it works #NO #IT WILL WORK DAMMIT #😡🖕 #<- me at my anxiety

[loveandscience]

Wrangling the brain like "yes, you are overwhelmed that there is work to do. You see, we have to start the work in order to decrease the workload that is left. Spending time in the overwhelm does not decrease the workload and in fact! Makes you more stressed about now having less time to do the work. Let's just take this page by page, we can do it, honey."

#self-talk #personal

[craigtowens]

Give Yourself Grace

If you are going to keep growing in a heathy way, you’re going to have to give yourself some more grace.

Listen to the podcast of this post by clicking on the player below, and you can also subscribe on Apple, Spotify, or Audible.  https://craigtowens.files.wordpress.com/2023/09/give-yourself-grace.mp3 If you are going to keep growing in a heathy way, you’re going to have to give yourself some more grace. Check out this episode of The Podcast. Resources mentioned in this video: “The Golden Rule”…

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#Golden Rule #Gospel of Matthew #grace #personal development #personal growth #self-talk #video

[babysoulwhisperer]

How to get out of your own way in 2023

I’m sure the stationery is out and you’re busy snipping and putting images, resembling your goals and mission on your vision board for the new year. Well, as you snip, paste and collect, I would like you to consider how you will get out of the way so you can live the life you’ve always dreamed of. A life you are thinking of right now. Right this minute. Why aren’t you living this life, if it’s…

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#2023 #blog #blogger #blogging #fear of failure #fear of success #Goal setting #goals #healing #planning #self-sabotage #self-talk #self-worth #set goal #vision board

[hussyknee]

"Everybody thinks I'm weird" is actually a statistical error. You, who think you're weird all day every day except for when you see an unhinged take on the internet, are an outlier and should not be counted.

#memes #mental health #anxiety #self-talk #knee of huss #spiders georg

[neednothavehappenedtobetrue]

okay. let's see how we can frame this without indulging in name-calling ourselves.

we did not do a great job Christmas shopping on time this year, BUT the gifts will all arrive soonish and probably people will like them!

we were dealing with some burnout in late December, which is allowed.

burnout doesn't care whether you have Worked Hard Enough To Deserve Burnout. burnout decides for itself.

now that you have taken a brain vacation, you are feeling much better! yay!

your friends are kind and chill. everything is actually fine.

make a note that you do not like how this feels and try to do better next time.

#self-talk #you are not an autoclave #secret public internet diary

[cloip]

Don’t believe anything shitty your brain tells you after dark. You are not your thoughts. You’re tired and your brain has less energy to tell the dumb thoughts to shut the fuck up.

#journal #self-talk #mental health

[trans-kafka]

How to stop using your friends' voices to say mean things to yourself in your own head?

How to stop ascribing your self-loathing thoughts to the version of your friend who lives in your mind?

#self-talk #being nicer to myself #mental health

[purplejabberwock]

You know, we talk a lot about being kind to ourselves, and this is valid and correct.

But kindness can be had while thinking someone is an absolute fucking asshole. Kindness isn’t always gentle. If we want to change, how can that be lastingly done on a foundation that still holds a grudge?

‘Forgiveness’ seems to be a dirty word in a lot of places on this site, but as far as I’ve seen that’s usually applied outward. How about in the other direction? How many people here simultaneously understand the value of self-kindness while continuing to hold flaws and past actions against themselves?

Perhaps it’s not so much that we ought to start with kindness.

Perhaps we ought to start with mercy.

#puramblings #self-talk

[dprs99]

Therapy Thoughts for Friday: Self-Talk

Do you talk to yourself? How do you feel about talking to yourself? Is self-talk a good thing? Is it bad? Don’t know? Do you ever say positive things to yourself? If you say something nice to yourself, do you believe you? Whoever told you that you shouldn’t say good things about yourself didn’t want you to feel better about yourself than they do about themselves. The old saying is, “Misery…

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#Mental Health #Self-talk #Therapy