#self-sabotage

[otto-wood]

Happy 31st Birthday, Awsten! January 17, 1992

#awsten knight #waterparks #awsten #parx #intellectual property #funeral grey #self sabotage #self-sabotage #fuck about it #birthday birthday #m #h

[michaelbogild]

Failures are indications of what not to do, not commandments to stop trying.

Do not allow your interfering ego to turn mistakes into sabotaging affirmations about your character. The road to success is always a rough one...even for people you think are far smarter than you. 

The fact that you failed at a thing does not mean you’re a failure as a person — that’s an astronomical stretch and a crushing overstatement — no It means you need some more time, some more attempts, some more knowledge, some more discipline, some more help...and that’s all. 

Consider it from a far more technical and less psychological point of view, or in other words, make it less about you and more about the process.

#failure #mistakes #mistake #failures #learning #education #self-sabotage #self sabotage #self talk #affirmations #ego #the ego #spiritual #spirituality #succes #motivating #inspiring thoughts #motivating myself

[the-healing-mindset]

This... All too relatable. After years of being in a traumatizing environment and having a lot of old triggers that I didn't even know about be reactivated, I find myself doing nothing but self-sabotaging in both arenas of my life. I am always frustrated by it because I know that I am capable of so much more and that I have worked for so much more. But, I just continue to find that it's difficult to overcome.

Source: Dr. Glenn Doyle

#trauma #self-sabotage #self-sacrifice #abuse #mental health #life #living #achievement #high achievement #high achiever #alone

[stumblngrumbl]

ok so i want to bottle the cider i made in November

and i know i have these nice ceramic bottles from abbey ale

looked and found a bunch

only thing is

they're apparently not empty

and i can't remember when N made this beer, we hopped it with fir tips as an experiment

at the time it was pretty harsh

but

i tasted it

it actually tastes good

i only tasted, "taster style" spit it out & rinse mouth

then i looked on the web and everything i read says "old beer won't make you sick because the hops and alcohol keep things from growing in it"

so i tasted more and swallowed a couple sips

i mean this stuff is good, i've had much worse at a number of breweries

but the question is

#home brewing #fir tip hopped #polls #beer #self-sabotage

[avoidantrecovery]

one less obvious way one can self-sabotage:

give yourself impossible to meet deadlines, making the task feel very daunting. and then shame because you (obv.) can’t make it, then procrastinate/give up completing the self-sabotage.

better:

give yourself realistic timeframes to do tasks/work. take your time, you don’t have to work quickly, stressed or ahead of schedule. divide tasks into smaller parts that can be worked on in set time frames and completed, giving yourself a sense of completion. you don’t have to finish all at once.

#late night ramblings #avpd ramblings #self-sabotage #notes to myself

[momentsbeforemass]

Self-Sabotage

(for someone who’s their own worst enemy)

Do you want to be miserable?

Of course not. No one does.

Still, there are people whose actions say something different. People whose lives tell a different story.

People who – regardless of what they may say – apparently do want to be miserable.

Given their consistent efforts to sabotage their own happiness.

The key to receiving God’s best for our lives – even in the midst of the hardest things in life – is to quit comparing what’s going on in our lives to someone else’s life. Or some imagined version of our own.

And instead to live with a mind and heart open to God. With an attitude of “Speak Lord, your servant is listening.”

The most effective way to avoid God’s best for your life?

Self-sabotage. By becoming the accusers in today’s Gospel.

Criticize. Everything.

Pick it apart. Find something that it lacks.

Pick them apart. Find something they didn’t do right. Or didn’t do enough.

Don’t worry if the faults aren’t immediately obvious.

Keep at it. If you look hard enough, you’ll find something.

If you stay focused on finding the worst, you won’t be disappointed.

Armed with their imperfections, it’s time to accuse.

Don’t just provide information. Revel in it.

This is your moment to shine. Take them down. As publicly as possible.

Then do it all again.

Of course, you will become stunted, both emotionally and spiritually. You’ll appreciate even the best things in life less and less. You’ll find it harder and harder to have healthy relationships. You’ll close yourself off from everyone, including God.

But that’s what you wanted, right?

Because that’s the payout for self-sabotage, making yourself truly miserable.

If that’s not what you want, then why are you doing it?

Todays’ Readings

#Self-Sabotage #Miserable #Happiness #Comparison #Criticize #Fault Finding #God #Jesus #Catholic #Christian #Church #Moments Before Mass

[rageisinourveins]

#waterparks #awsten knight #self-sabotage #my.gifs

[realiv0]

#Ukraine #unbelievable #this is slapstick right? #they can’t be this incompetent #right? #well #self-sabotage #I’ll take it

[3motionallyunavailable]

Let him go. Detach from him now. So it won't hurt. You. Especially him. He doesn't deserve what you put him through.

He doesn't.

Keep away, shut down, make him hate you, make him not want you anymore.

Tell him he deserves better. Tell him.

Tell him he can do better. Stop wasting his time.

you wasted his time. he didn't deserve that. you don't deserve him.

i don't deserve him.

#i ruined it #i ruin everything #self-sabotage #i dont deserve him #he deserves better #i love him

[awaytobeunshaken]

Angstpril 2023 - Day 11: Self-Sabotage

“Why?” Ashton hasn’t said much in the days since they awoke. It had been hard to form words, though he’d understood what Milo told him. The daze, however, between misplaced memories and the concoctions Milo had drugged them up with and whatever the fuck was going on with their brain, was making a mess of Ashton’s coherence. He could manage ‘why?’ though.

“It was my fault,” Milo told him. “Job was my idea. Figured if she was dealing in some weird-ass magic shit maybe I could negotiate a share of it. Too big a target. Wasn’t worth it. You shouldn’t have had to die for it.”

Ashton accepts the explanation and tucks it away, too tired to do much more with it. It’s much the same explanation they might have given, in Milo’s shoes. It’s a few days before he asks it again. He’s a little more coherent now, able to complain about the food and ask for more water and let Milo know whatever’s in those drugs might make his body feel great but they leave his mind barely there. And somewhere in between a bland lunch that Milo insisted would be best for now and the project Ashton had been working on, modding an old leather jacket Milo had found while poking around through the trash dumped in the Hollow. “Why?”

“I told you.”

“I’m not talkin’ about you Milo. I mean all of it. Why you out of any of them. Why are you here when everyone else is gone?”

ao3

“Didn’t want to leave any evidence, didn’t want to leave a trail. I told them they should get out, lay low; wasn’t sure if I was going to be able to do anything for you, but no reason they should all have to take the fall for it.”

This time Ashton can see the lie, the bite of anger in Milo’s eyes, but again he doesn’t have the energy to press them about it.

“They didn’t leave any word,” Ashton says, deadpan, a few days later.

“There wasn’t time,” Milo answered, but they don’t raise their head from their work.

“Fuck this. I need a drink.” They open the door.

“Ashton, wait!” But Ashton’s already gone. His bones are screaming as he winds his way through Fownsee Hollow; the drink’ll feel good. And not fuck with their head the way Milo’s shit does. He jams his hands into his pockets. Of course, no coin. Left to quickly to grab any, not that they have any to grab. The Hexum job was supposed to set him up for a bit, and glancing at the spider-web of gold across his shoulder, Ashton realizes that’s not entirely untrue. But they can’t exactly dig it out of their skin to pay. He’s gonna be stuck finding a pocket to pick like a fucking child.

The climb out of the Hollow has never been easy, but now it’s excruciating. Ashton stops a few times on the way up, and once they reach the top they sink to the ground unmoving for a good fifteen minutes. Gone. They must have helped bring him back to the Krook house, though; there was no way Milo dragged him back there all by themself, right? And no message, no forwarding address? No, that was good, safer that way, nothing for anyone to track. It was fine.

Ashton half wondered if Hexum might be holding them, or already turned them over to the law… but no, she’d be using them as a pawn to track down him and Milo. And honestly, if they’d gotten away after what Milo had described, the Nobodies must have managed to do the same. They were away and safe by now.

All there was left to do now was to keep it that way. And that’s what brings him back to the outside of Jiana Hexum’s estate, at the front door this time, pulling on the bell.

#angstpril2023 #critical role #fanfic #day 11 #self-sabotage #cr3 #ashton greymoore #milo krook #cr fic #my fic

[mysticalalleycat]

had a song stuck in my head and made memes about it, everyone stream intellectual property

#waterparks #intellectual property #self-sabotage #fr tho this album is basically all I've listened to since it came out #awsten knight

[otto-wood]

SELF-SABOTAGE

#we all had the same favorite part right? #awsten knight #waterparks #self-sabotage #self sabotage #parx #awsten #m #h

[ryancrossfield]

overcome self-sabotage

Self-sabotage is a complex phenomenon that manifests when we consciously or unconsciously deny ourselves the opportunity to meet our innermost needs. Often, this occurs because we doubt our capacity to manage these needs effectively. This behavior is not just detrimental to our growth, but it is also an indication that our internal narrative is outdated, limiting, or simply incorrect.

The process of self-sabotage often stems from a negative association between achieving the goals we aspire to and the perceived person we must become to attain these goals. This is made more complex by the discomfort of unfamiliarity. Anything new, regardless of its potential benefits, will initially be uncomfortable until it becomes familiar. Unfortunately, this discomfort is often misconstrued as being "wrong," "bad," or "ominous," when it is merely a psychological adjustment phase.

Psychologist Gay Hendricks refers to this discomfort as hitting your "upper limit," the point at which you've reached your tolerance for happiness. Everyone has this threshold, a capacity for which they allow themselves to feel good. This concept aligns with what other psychologists refer to as a person's "baseline" - a set predisposition that they eventually revert to, even if certain events or circumstances temporarily shift it.

Interestingly, we tend to find comfort in the familiar, even if it does not serve our happiness or growth. Small shifts, compounded over time, can result in permanent baseline adjustments, but they often don't stick because we hit our upper limits. As soon as our circumstances extend beyond the amount of happiness we're accustomed to, we subconsciously find ways to bring ourselves back to a state we're comfortable with.

In some cases, these self-limiting beliefs arise from a need for self-preservation. Perhaps this is why we might prefer the known to the vulnerability of the unknown, why we might prefer apathy to excitement, or believe that suffering makes us more worthy. It might even explain why we think that for every good thing in life, there must also be an accompanying "bad."

To truly heal and move beyond self-sabotage, it's essential to alter these thought patterns. This change requires becoming acutely aware of negative and false beliefs and shifting to a mindset that serves us better. However, this change also demands honesty about our current state. We must love ourselves enough to refuse to settle for less than we deserve.

The greatest act of self-love is no longer accepting a life we are unhappy with. It requires confronting our problems directly, honestly, and straightforwardly. The first step to real change involves writing down everything you aren't happy with, clarifying every problem you face. Whether it's financial struggles, self-image issues, or anxiety, achieving clarity about what's wrong is the foundation for change. At this juncture, you have a choice: make peace or commit to changing. Lingering in indecision only prolongs the state of being stuck.

It's important to recognize that we don't reach a breaking point because of a single or a few negative events. We reach a breaking point when we finally accept that the problem isn't the world; it is how we interact with it. This realization is a beautiful reckoning to have, as Ayodeji Awosika explains, it involves finding the purest form of being fed up and making a commitment to change.

People are naturally guided by comfort. They gravitate towards what feels familiar and resist what doesn't, even if the unfamiliar could be objectively better for them. The majority of people do not actually change their lives until the discomfort of not changing becomes unbearable. This usually means they don't truly face the difficulty of altering their habits until they have no other choice.

One of the significant barriers to doing important internal work is the fear of the consequential life changes. If they confront their unhappiness, it might mean experiencing temporary discomfort, shame, or fear as they start over. Yet, this discomfort is an essential stepping stone towards profound healing and personal growth.

Remember, what you stand to lose in this process is merely what was constructed for a person you no longer are. Clinging to your old life is the ultimate act of self-sabotage, and releasing it is the first crucial step towards real change.

In summary, self-sabotage is a reflection of our internal struggles, outdated narratives, and fear of the unknown. However, with conscious effort, self-awareness, and the courage to change, it's possible to break free from this damaging cycle. The journey may be challenging, filled with moments of discomfort and fear, but the reward is a life that truly aligns with your desires, values, and a true sense of self-love.

#healing #self-worth #self-improvement #self-sabotage #comfort #clarity #progress #happiness #growth #personal growth #change

[the-healing-mindset]

Some of the things that you have been through in the past may have you in the mindset that things will be easily taken away from you. That, and you may not feel as confident in yourself as you would like. You are growing out of this, however. Believe in yourself and take advantage of what life has to offer.

Source: SourceMessages

#potential #life #living #encouragement #words of encouragement #progress #positive #positivity #positive mindset #inspiration #self-sabotage #success #wellness #mental health

[dyingroses]

Actual footage of me self-sabotaging my life, lol

#mental health #mental ill meme #mental illness #depression #self-sabotage #self sabotage #lols #me #my life #relatable #disordered eating recovery #horrible histories

[momentsbeforemass]

Dumb

One of the dumbest things I do is wait for things to calm down.

Telling myself that it will all be better after whatever I’m currently dealing with is over.

Putting off being at peace until something is finished. Making my peace dependent on having down time. Where everything else is at peace.

Here’s why it truly is one of the dumbest things that I do.

First, even if it works, it means that my peace will intermittent.

Second, it actually doesn’t work. Because that’s not how life works.

There’s the old line (attributed to a bunch of different people) that “history is just one thing after another.” That’s life in general. There really isn’t any down time, any off season where stuff stops happening – even for just a moment.

But the big reason it’s one of the dumbest things I do? If this is how I’m looking at things, then I’ve made what’s going on inside me dependent on what’s going on around me.

I’ve let myself be dependent on things that I cannot depend on. If that’s not self-sabotage, then I don’t know what is.

This is what I was thinking about when I read today’s Gospel. Peter is in a boat that’s being tossed about by the waves, because the wind is against it, when he sees Jesus walking on the water.

Peter says to Jesus, “Lord, if it is you, command me to come to you on the water.”

Jesus replies, “Come.”

Peter gets out of the boat and starts walking to Jesus on the water.

Then he looks around, sees how strong the wind is, sees how rough the waves are, and gets scared. When he does, he starts to sink and cries out to Jesus, “Lord, save me!”

Immediately, Jesus saves him.

The thing that sticks with me is that the wind and the waves didn’t die down when Peter got out of the boat.

Peter walks on the water – the same rough water that is still tossing the boat around, in the same wind that’s still whipping up the waves. In the middle of the wind and the waves, Peter walks along peacefully. Because Peter is focused on Jesus.

The moment he starts paying more attention to the wind and the waves? The moment he starts to focus on all the things that tell him that it’s impossible to walk along peacefully in the middle of a storm? He starts to sink.

The takeaway is obvious. So obvious that it embarrasses me to say that I struggle with this.

But I do. I keep focusing on the wrong thing, on the wind and the waves. On the stuff outside of me, the stuff that I can’t depend on. With my unspoken assumption that all that stuff has to be at peace, before I can be at peace.

If that’s not self-sabotage, then I don’t know what is.

So I’ll ask Him for help as I founder. And He’ll stretch out His hand and catch me.

Again. Because we’ve done this before.

I don’t know why, but He never grows weary of helping me.

That’s not true. Actually, I do know why.

And it’s why I know He’s the one that I can depend on.

Today’s Readings

#Self-Sabotage #Depend #God #Jesus #Catholic #Christian #Church #Depend on God #Peter #Inside #Dumb #Moments Before Mass