#queer as in different than expected

[brightlotusmoon]

July is Disability Pride Month.

It's Our Turn.

#disability pride month #being disabled means having a very dark sense of humor #my being disabled makes them uncomfortable #queer as in different than expected #being neurodivergent #disabled life #the spear theory #the boadicea method of chronic pain management #hope as a boar spear #cyberpunk wishes it were cripplepunk #ableism as the foundation of bigotry

[talesfromthebandgeekmafia]

Can’t believe the world is potentially two hours away from a canon blackbonnet sex scene in Our Flag Means Death. what a time we live in

#unless we’ve all been had. though this show is uniquely averse to messing with its fans #they don’t do queer fandom shows like they used to I tell you what #I mean holy shit #I still haven’t fully processed that them getting a 2nd season where they’re in love & get to kiss more than once is real #that we get to have a show that not only doesn’t queerbait but centers its queer relationships & puts great meaning & care behind them #I was on the frontlines of destiel back in the day it’s such a stark difference #I don’t even expect it to be more than like. a pan to the fireplace but still! #the queerbait is so over that they not only have the time to breakup get back together kiss multiple times but they’re fuckin too??????????? #insane to me just insane #ofmd #ofmd s2 #our flag means death #ofmd speculation #ofmd spoilers #spilling the Tea

[meyerlansky]

I have successfully boiled my problem with most of the izzy reads that i hate down to a sentence:

he's not sexually repressed, he's emotionally repressed.

#they are different and ihave paragraphs and paragraphs of thoughts on it #but dressing like a leather daddy and holding your hand over an open flame and literally everything else he does #is not the behavior of a man who doesn't know or realize what gets him going #he's not closeted. he's not homophobic. he thinks having Any Positive Emotion not related to violence makes you vulnerable #[and he's right for his experience and circumstance but i won't touch that now] #his conflict is emotional; ed's ability to captain isn't compromised by his being attracted to a man. it's compromised by Having Feelings. #their ability to survive a world that wants them dead isn't compromised by either of them being queer; it's compromised by being SOFT #by having WEAK SPOTS #pets are a weak spot. lovers are a weak spot. get rid of them to stay safe. not out of spite. #not out of a disdain for those relationships themselves. out of disdain for what Feelings Do To You #idk man maybe i am simply emphatic about this nuance because i get—more than I would like—the impulse to be SAFE #even at the cost of your self and some chances at being happier #he doesn't even care that lucius is gay in the deck scene and i'd go so far as to say he doesn't really care that lucius is slutty #insofar as. like. he doesn't know him and pete are open. from a monogamy-normative perspective it's a betrayal. #your partner being unfaithful when you expect them To Be is ALSO A THING THAT CAN GET YOU KILLED #like idk i just. i think people don't get how much of him is about safety? #and i know the show's created this atmosphere of 'homophobia isn't a real threat' #but they haven't removed the violence and danger crews other than stede face for Other Reasons #so. he's very security-driven. and that's why he speaks to me. #and it's annoying that people just make 'lol izzy's closeted' 'peak homophobic gay' jokes instead of. engaging. with the shit izzy AND ED #went through to make them emotionally closed off the way they are #THE SENTENCE IS A SENTENCE BUT THE EXPLANATION SURE ISNT

[scintillatingshortgirl19]

blehhh not them making a queer character say the no homo line :/

#loki #loki spoilers #loki series negativity #this is the smallest deal tbh. it's just. hmm. #it's just making me think about the overarching issue #that a loki show should by rights be incredibly queer #and that isn't what we're getting #largely just bc of the company who owns it #and idk it's not like i expected anything different but it's just getting to me more and more #esp with the way the creators referenced his genderfluidity in s1 and then it literally didn't exist (i'm still baffled by that whole thing #and esp with shows like s2 of good omens being released #which in ways completely unrelated to the main couple #was just drenched in queerness #and the loki show SHOULD be like that! #there should be more than just one line about lokis being bisexual #as great as that was...i want more than just a brief reference to queerness #that never comes up again in any way #and btw - in case this needs to be clarified - this is not about shipping #even though sylki isn't my thing they are bi4bi and that is a queer relationship #i'm just like. talking about the vibe of the show as a whole i guess #and all the missed opportunities for side queer rep i'm seeing #and there's also. like. something about how #combined with the straight up lie about loki's genderfluidity #tv series!loki arguably has the most traditionally masculine presentation we've ever seen of him #when previous iterations of him included somewhat androgynous costumes #but idk i haven't fully gotten my thoughts together on that #loki tv series #loki series criticism #loki series critical #op

[filthy-lil-bugger]

every now and again i think about how bart curlish was a man in the original pitch for dghda and i become filled with an intense and seething rage the likes of which this world has not yet witnessed

#like i know rationally that her character would’ve remained pretry much the exact same in principle and purpose #but within the context of modern tv and female representation in the media it’s so important she’s a woman #they let her be gross and weird and stupid and have no romantic arc and thats so rare and beautiful #whereas for men being gross and weird and stupid is the expectation rather than a deviation #gender differences are so ingrained in modern media #there’s like a clear understanding that boy do this and girl do that in everything and bart just doesn’t follow that #that’s why she’s important i’m not saying she’s the only one to be a woman in a man’s archetype with no commentary on how subversive it is #or whatever #but i’m saying she’s one of few and that’s definitely part of why her character is so well loved #especially by women and queer folk in the community #anyhoo #dghda #dirk gently’s holistic detective agency

[aroaessidhe]

2024 reads / storygraph

Perception Check

NA portal fantasy about a young woman whose friend was abducted by demons in front of her when they were kids - and now as an adult she’s convinced her friend is in the Mages tabletop RPG lorebook, as if she was transported into that world

when demons and the Mages world appear in front of her, she and her friends track down the creator of the game and start a quest in the fantasy world to get her friend back

mental health & trauma, queer cast, start of a series

#perception check #the mages of velmyra #aroaessidhe 2024 reads #this is pretty good! not amazing #a little slow going; took me ages to get through lol #I do like the idea of a group of 20-somethings kinda shoved into a Typical Portal Fantasy Adventure #but also they kinda have to deal with mental health problems more than. fantasy stuff #I did find the fantasy quest they’re on a bit boring #I didn’t expect the end twist though!!!!!!! oh damn (it def does not wrap the story up at all tho. this is the start of a series) #an interesting take on a fantasy RPG world that's a little different from dnd at least #(queerness - I think the MC is bi; bi/gay SCs; trans man; demi man)

[dinitride-art]

Mike and Will both would’ve died in season one if someone didn’t save them. They both have dramatic near death experiences that are set apart from everyone else. Will needed cpr when they found him in the library, and Mike actually jumped off a cliff. Those two situations both went far enough that it would have been too late for them to save themselves. And that’s why either of them dying at the end of the story doesn’t make sense. They’ve already almost died. They were already too far over the precipice to turn back by themselves.

Maybe a conclusion to this could be the two of them learning how to live by themselves. In the monologue Mike says that, “[he] doesn’t know how to live without [El].” And while Mike’s just saying whatever he can in that moment, what if there’s truth in that statement? What if he doesn’t know how to protect himself. How to not jump off a cliff and be caught? And Will’s hated accepting help for a while now. But always has to rely on people to save him in the end. Maybe Will’s going to figure out how to protect the people around him- without putting himself in harms way.

Maybe the conclusion to this story is learning how to save yourself. To love yourself as much as everyone else does so you can protect them too. Strength doesn’t come from self sacrifice. Not in this story. Barb, Bob, Eddie- they didn’t run away. They didn’t make sure they themselves were safe. And all their deaths have caused has been pain. Being the hero gets you killed. But trying to live? Will reaching out for his mom when he’s stuck in the Upside Down? She came to find him. Whether they believed her or not. Will was alive, and she went to save him. And when El was on her own in the woods, Hopper put eggos in a box. He took her in, and kept her safe. From everyone- maybe a little too much at times- but he went to her. And he protected her.

But Nancy’s right. “They aren’t little kids anymore.” They’re not going to have someone to protect them all the time. They’re going to have to be strong enough to protect themselves. Strong enough to live. Not sacrifice themselves to save everyone else.

#byler #mike wheeler #will byers #eleven hopper #Mike and Will dying being realistic is a weird argument #because this story isn’t about being factual or a historical account of a collective experience #we already expect queer people to die in media. to be left behind. written off #and in real life we know what can happen #a story is about a discussion #fiction isn’t a factual account of our reality it’s a reflection #and in that reflection is a lot of thought about how this society works #and how people think #and what we want to say #and what we want people to see #the meaning is more important than when the second edition of D&D came out #of what song is allowed to be used because of the timeline #what it’s saying with those elements is what we’re paying attention to #because stranger things is sci-fi and historical fiction #but it’s also being made in the 21st century. so it’s commenting on the 21st century as well #killing queer characters in the 80s? that’s different because for one they’d have to have a queer character on screen #and if they’re dying like mike and Will would be dying it would’ve been revolutionary #but doing that now after the shift in queer rights and marriage rights #would be saying something entirely different #because we aren’t in the same place. it’s more important to show to a larger audience #that queer people go through terrible things AND that we can live and be happy after #and during #we’ve acknowledged the pain #and having queer characters on screen has come a long way in even the last decade #what can be said now is that queer people are in fact people and deserve happiness #not just that they shouldn’t be killing us

[some-silver-reply]

Not to make everything about disability, but having just seen Nimona I’m a little struck by how Nimona’s reaction to her physical differences feels familiar—see the “I’m not a people” scene. There’s something pretty frustrating in having to be like, yes, my body works differently than yours, yes it’s been that way my whole life, no I’d rather not answer invasive questions about it. Even though not feeling that much pain is theoretically a good thing! Her feelings about it are still pretty complicated.

#obviously there is also the trans allegory! her body is different than people expect and she doesn’t fit into boxes #but the moments where the movie does acknowledge how hard it is to be different sometimes resonated with me on a slightly different level #because i don’t have a ton of internal turmoil over being queer but i do over being disabled #nimona

[aknolan]

I think part of the discourse here really stems more from what kind of interpretation of RWBY's story you take away from the whole thing.

Your viewpoint is predicated on the idea that RWBY must completely prove the gods wrong, or it would be a disservice to the story's themes.

To me, however, a large part of the story is kind of a complicated mix, in that the villains and antagonists are PARTIALLY correct, but the issue is how they twist a kernel of truth into a means of abuse and control over domains that they don't really have any right to claim control over.

The Gods ARE correct that Life and Death shouldn't be treated carelessly, but they are consistently shown to be hypocrites who use it as a means to enforce their power over others.

Adam and Sienna WERE correct about the state of Faunus, but the former twisted the cause into satiating his own bloodlust and petty egotism.

Ironwood WAS correct that Salem needed to be known as a villain publicly in order to better combat her, but he refused to acknowledge that he wasn't that important and was twisted by Atlas' pro-conformity and fascistic culture into believing that he knew what was best for the world, despite all the evidence to the contrary.

Jacques WAS correct that Ironwood was becoming as much of a danger to his country, but that was fueled out of self-serving greed and his own gain.

The recurring point that RWBY tends to follow is that the Villains are not people without a point, but that they use the point as a means to enforce unjust control and power over others.

But it doesn't make them completely wrong.

And the honest reality is; I think Penny not coming back is not inherently an incorrect or thematically wrong way of doing things, because ultimately she already PROVED that the Gods are full of shit.

She came back to life TWICE despite being killed.

The Gods have already been proven WRONG.

Her final death is just proof of something else; that even when you do everything right, even when you do manage to defy the expectations and possibilities laid out before you, bad shit can still happen anyways. It's literally what happened with Ozma dying from illness after he and Salem got together.

What happened to her last life was not the result of the story going against it's themes; it was just simply the result of poor choices on Penny's part and plain bad luck. That's it.

And Choices are just as much of a theme in the story, and poor choices or lack of choices are too.

The key is not in proving the Gods completely wrong, but in wresting control away from them so that THEY can't be the ones to dictate terms. They are NOT the arbiters of everything despite what the God of Light believes.

But that doesn't mean life and death will cease to matter. It'll still exist as the tragedy in someone's life.

I don't really disagree with you on like, 95% of this honestly.

I think it's helpful to recognize though, the wider context of the argument. In the simplest form, the fact that I am in that post responding to someone making the claim that Salem was at fault for what happened with the gods. So yeah, my argument there is about how she wasn't wrong for trying to get Ozma back, and Ruby wouldn't be wrong either for trying to get Penny back.

And yeah, life and death shouldn't be treated carelessly, but that's why it's important that this happens in Fairytale Bullshit Land, where Penny's Magic Aura Bullshit Body may have landed. These are very unique circumstances! This isn't gonna end up being a repeatable situation. They are incapable of treating life and death carelessly, and I'm sure that if they manage to bring Penny back with them, there will be a cost.

And the point of the gods has not been refuted yet. Not on screen.

Penny's revival happened off screen, and on the technicality that she wasn't actually dead. She was still on Remnant. Her core was intact, and that's why she could come back. Had she been completely destroyed, she would have been truly very dead.

And the situation with Ambrosius? She wasn't dead.

I consider this cheating death, rather than really being a proper "brought back from dying". Even disregarding that though... it's our protagonists who need to refute the villains.

Pietro revived Penny, team rwby cheated with the staff of creation. But Ruby making the active choice to bring Penny back would be a very clear message that she understands Salem. No moral high ground to keep there, on Salem's original problem with the gods. And when you have an unkillable enemy, that is desperately needed.

I also don't think Penny needs to die to drive home the message you put in bold. Plenty of things went wrong already, like losing both of the relics, and the "one way trip to Vacuo".

Lastly though, as long as the comparison between ruby/penny and salem/ozma exists, the elephant in the room remains as well.

If the comparison holds up... it's reasonable to interpret Ruby and Penny as romantically in love with each other, and then we get back to the writers wanting to avoid playing into the bury your gays trope.

Really though, a lot of what you say about complicated mixes of right and wrong are things I agree with. I also can absolutely see the sort of themes someone could go for with permadead Penny. But I take issue with it on several grounds, including that it feels a lot like fridging (except that the protagonist is also a woman this time, adding some bury your gays flavour). And, you know, I just like Penny and would like to think better of the writers than the fuck-up for her story that is the last three episodes of v8.

And that's just talking about the thematic stuff, not even the allusions or the things that don't add up.

#penny polendina #rwby #rwby spoilers #anon #ask #I gotta emphasize here though. you really do have good points! #and you're absolutely right that the difference in opinion is a matter of what kind of story you expect rwby to be #if penny's death is a satisfying story to you then more power to you #I can assure you though I am not easily swayed from my belief that she is returning #because there are many more reasons I believe this than what I have mentioned #and it'll take a lot of discussion to get through all those #the hardest one to convince me on though would have to be the nnd/ozlem parallels #and what that implies about the queerness of the situation and in turn the bury your gays #close second is that the maiden transfer had jaune's colours #which is really damn weird for a show where colour matters so much

[oraclebell17]

what's also a little funny is that irl my friends know i'm any pronouns, yet some have used she/her, apologized, then used they/them

like. buddy, she/her is included in "any pronouns"

now sure i don't really like it if you ONLY use she/her on me but it's not like you're doing that??

#my expectations for irl friends on my pronouns is different than online which is why i'll tolerate she/her more irl #i'm not as openly queer irl #oracle's gender thoughts #text

[unproduciblesmackdown]

ppl will be explaining how a difference is a difference & not a Deviation from a Superior state, & people who are the ones considered Default Normal (superior) will be like "okay....to be polite....i Might say i consider Some aspects of Some people's existence mere 'difference' & not being less than me...." as like hey i'm a Benevolent god. i still actually get to consider you worse & don't have to "humor" anything that challenges my superiority. if you only want everything to fit into the norm then it will all come back to upholding the norm. thinking of people's analysis of their own realities as equally legimate as being like Obscure, Irrelevant, Superficial & then using that reasoning to justify dismissing them. same as worrying that the [Different Lessers (Others(tm))] as Everywhere = a manifestation of the awareness that, yeah, respecting them as equals Does threaten your norm which is smothering everything everywhere. ppl who need to lock in the idea of Borders around personhood like um Yes they're all delineated separate Identities outside any hierarchy & so i think it's relevant to for some reason push back against "ohh so now Everyone's queer" like why not. why couldn't they be. what if they were. what if queerness was everywhere b/c it's ideological not a cordoned off Alternative Identity that is accommodated by focusing on Love(tm) as the new border around whose existence we might begrudgingly accept at arm's length (i.e. being otherwise "normal"! just imagine swapping out the binary gender (or, deep breath, presumed Private Parts) of one partner in an exclusive romantic lifelong nuclear family marriage, & that is Gay / Trans Rights. still gross but maybe we can do it, as long as they don't talk about it or shove it in our faces or even exist for more than one encounter w/us in our lives b/c what are the odds). evergreen laughing at someone suggesting ableist logic might be embedded in language of past & present b/c it's just So little to ask for that it's irrelevant but it's also So much to ask for that of course i'm not gonna do anything more than pass it along like "this is why i don't take ableism seriously" like yeah it's the disabled randos like it's the individual cringe teens(tm) ruining [the cishets would take Gender seriously otherwise!!!] & that's why you won't think about it or do anything about it & continue being comfortable with the norm & resent that actually their Difference is Less & disability is something worse that ppl "excuse" & all these ways that people are & all these things that they do are funny & weird & inexplicable & etc & one can't possibly be cruising along perpetuating a hierarchy with a sense that you're reasonable, well meaning, kind, etc etc & thus Justified, systemic oppression definitely wants to maximize how uncomfortable & arduous it feels to everyone rather than push to make it more streamlined & rewarding to embrace, or at least accept, whatever superiority over others you're afforded

#circled around to lovelessness as a lens there. so long as one was loving. so long as one wasn't consciously malicious #really just mask off about keeping the same perspective of Superiority when conflating disability & ppl ''making excuses'' #same as like e.g. that ppl consider everything an autistic person does as being Bad / Wrong / Worse. (this includes ''unskilled''!!!) #(crushing the Social Skills(tm) framework in talking abt allistic difference in my fist) #such that they think sm1 saying Autistic!! is then something they might be unfairly Beholden to to Put Up With their Wrongness #at special times in special scenarios....rather than like in some contexts you are no more ''right'' than the other party #different groups & cultures whose Norms Standards & Expectations could render You presumed rude thoughtless pushy etc #obvious overlaps to consider re: the Norms of like english speaking as ''universal'' someone noticeably speaking it as nth language? #time to Presume their ideas & contributions are Less. if they had the good brain like you their fluency would render their linguistic #Wrongness in having a diff 1st language invisible thus irrelevant. like the ''ideal'' for disability! as the ''ideal'' for anyone Passing #in any way! queer ppl surely all want to be as proximate to cishet ideals (just as cishet ppl should!) nonwhite ppl to Ideal White #women's rights = Proving they're As Good As men. ladies you're using too many exclamation points!! be Confident be Pushier!! #but ofc nobody actually wants the Others(tm) to be Equal. they're just saying ''it's your innate Wrongness that means you Aren't'' #the ableism logic in everything. men just Are better at xyz. oh we Can abuse autists...into being as proximate to allistic as possible!! #just actually means ''oh we Can abuse autists.'' the ''correctness'' is your Difference ''intruding'' less into allistic existence #force you to be harmed & diminished all day then save your meltdowns for when you're alone & out of the way #ppl's tweets like ''when ppl say 'omg too sensitive ofc i wasn't talking abt disabled ppl!' like yeah no shit b/c you never think of #disabled ppl'' like yeah most people idk aren't making their life's agenda to stop everyone from saying Stupid #but like believe me people organically sense the Vintage R words when you get called Idiot in exactly the same spirit & purpose #i mean that's so rworded as in that's so gay!! cmon!! & it's fine if you don't say either to gay ppl or. or. [insert the office quote] #oh i don't call um 20th c disabled ppl morons it's bad taste!! but b/c i use it Figuratively in the present it's fine it's so Different #fr i can't remember like. an article w/1 matter of fact sentence from a doctor using a [now Just a childish insult!!] as Diagnostic Label #for someone's disability & it still registered like ice water in the face. presumably no ''especial'' Malice just matter of fact! #it wasn't ''idiot'' it may have been ''moron'' fr. the vintage ''factual'' r word is There plain as day #like yeah ofc the ableism gets channeled into alternate language. & then complaints abt that is like UGH CMON!!! #like idk shouldn't you be fine using the R word then too? not really sweating this issue thee most all thee time either but like #it's not sooo funny even if someone seems pressed extensively abt it. not that hard to in fact just not use all these words all the time #ppl will be throwing out their ableism w/o Any labels talking about how Weird Offputting Etc someone acts so you can Tell they're bad.... #and yeah you should think abt that. anytime. the [difference used to categorize ''other'' is Just difference] Is Everywhere All The Time #the idea it can & should be ''contained'' for especial limited specific occasions (when you're feeling Nice!) = upholding the status quo

[morayofsunshine]

ALSO phil having his lil guy in the board game marry another lil guy is SO REEEAAAALLL when i got that game i said to my friend that came over that "i'm gonna do this. just for fun. because i can." and put another lil pink person in the car with my first pink person and my friend was like "haha hey well i'm gonna do that too" and we were both like "hee hee hee hee hee"

#the queer 90's & 2000's experience of putting different lil plastic people in your cars than the board game would normally expect. #what a beautiful thing #dapg

[daffodilwill]

am I the only one who doesn’t consider that queerbait??

#byler #genuinely very confused #maybe my expectations were just lower than most #but the car scene was so much more than I was expecting to get #maybe our definitions of queerbaiting are different #because will (and maybe mike too- theres still another season) is still queer #he doesn’t have to be dating a guy to actually be gay #I guess a concrete coming out scene would have been nice but I also think it would be hard to pull off #given the context of the rest of the volume it would likely feel out of place or rushed or like it was blown off quickly #idk #rant over ig #stranger things #stranger things spoilers

[transmascrage]

The good thing is I definitely wasn't the most anxious person there lol

The better thing is that the person who spoke was the mother of a trans man (who's 40 now) and she talked about how tortuous the transition process was, especially on the medical and legislative aspects.

She says they went private for his top surgery, and they butched it so bad he had to get it fixed five times, and his nipples went in necrosis.

Another time, at a public hospital, they broke one of the veins in his chest but didn't bother to check even though he told them he could feel something leaking. Then the next day no one told his family why he wasn't in his room, obviously scaring them to hell and back.

He's now happily married to another trans man, and the person who married them was no one other than Porpora, a super important Italian trans female activist.

The betterer news is since next time we're eating pizza at the meetings

#the bad news is that im pretty sure im the only trans person there #but i can't be sure because i didnt really talk to them #because worse news: they all know each other already #and they're from eveywhere! there's even a (cute) spanish guy #this is a university city but i didn't expect so many people from different regions #so they're all about my age or older i don't think i saw any teens #but i feel so much younger than them 😪 oh well #also one of the moms called herself a queer mom and there was no discourse whenever someone said 'the wrong thing' 😍😍😍

[mantisgodsdomain]

We are going through the Hbomberguy video's Queer Video Essayist List to see if anything clicks and having the fun experience of taking all of five minutes to realize "wait a minute... we already know all this stuff! this guy's just saying it in a longer format!

#we speak #for context this is the queer horror essay #we put it on while we play picross games for fun and were going through the standard “long intro about vaguely tangential things” intro #where they say things like “horror is pretty queer” and establish that Horror Is In Fact Pretty Queer (we know this but its Standard) #and then they start getting in on the body horror parts and the horror of being transgender and we're like “yeah we know this also” #and then we're halfway in like "...okay we think we might know this already but we're hoping that it goes into insight we dont already have #we continue with the puzzles while still listening to the game. the voiceover keeps going with things we are Aware Of. #surely. we think. surely we will start getting the unique insights soon #the video ends. we are forced to confront the fact that we have spent more time researching and digging into this subject than the essayist #something something “ah yes the inherent horror of having a body the thing we stick in like 99% of our works in some way or another” #very tragically our perspective is skewed too much to fully appreciate this because we've already steeped ourself in the genre #we know this stuff. we are in fact writing stories that deal with the same damn themes in extremely similar dysphoria horror ways. #we are busy doing irritated antenna flicks at phrases like “elevated horror” #its just another genre of horror bro we really dont like acting like its in any way “better” because it integrates aspects of other genres #every story will integrate its own genre expectations and little fragments of other genres and a whole load of other stuff in different way #as someone who lives in this subgenre we are begging you not to put Our Sort Of Horror on a pedestal because its slightly more. artsy? #we dont even know the word but they call it elevated horror because it deals its horror in a way thats more Artsy and thus more palatable #it's a different flavor and that flavor happens to be farther away from the guts and gore and monsters usually associated with horror #but that does not mean it is in any way better than a slasher or a monster thing or any other kind of horror it just makes it different #it might be more or less palatable to you in being what it Is but it's still not like. “better”. “elevated”. it's just a different subgenre

[fungi-maestro]

i legitimately think most of you have better things to do than debate people's sexuality and just do it out of pure selfish control-freak-ism. grow upppp make friends with real people. please you suck so bad. please go outside. booo.

#seal.txt #discovered someone i followed (probably a long time ago bc i didnt recognize them) was getting pissy about pronoun use and sexuality #quite literally..... it is time to go outside and talk to other queer people i'm so serious....... #best way i can add to this garbage is to just say that its a waste of time and that you are under no obligation to date anyone #who cares if someone uses different pronouns or terminology than you would expect #if it really bothers you then dont date them #end of discussion #dont date people you dont want to date #thats my advice. if you dont want to date someoen you should not be dating them. #you dont need to make rules to keep them out of your dating pool. #you just dont pick them. #thats it. #i dont get why this is still even a discussion.