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mxwhore · 3 years
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hello dear followers i am having thoughts
#babaradeep babaradoop#these are very personal so i am making space#3........2..........1............ go#so i have some self esteem issues that much is obvious#and ive been thinking about my relationships before reaching my 20s and they follow a very... constant line#in which im not seen as person?#i have a very particular way of loving people like#i learn what they like and i try to make them feel like they matter by bringing them my little raven gifts#like OH this looks like something youd like! i watched that show you told me about! lets do this together!#and so on#and i feel like#no one has ever shown me that level of care?#i mean my close friends do all the time but a partner?#i remember my ex used to compliment my small waist (which i dont have anymore)#and she used to say i was smart like it was a bad thing? cuz it made her feel stupid somehow?#i dont think she ever learned something as stupid as my favorite color#or my other ex that wrote me a poem that praised me for always being there for them?#both people that later went and treated me as an object#and i dont know! i dont know what is like to be seen by a partner and actually liked by the person i am#its always just... how i look or what i can do or what im not doing for them#which is like a big part of why sex makes me so miserable#i dunno. i feel like im not worth knowing most of the time#and that makes me so sad. and so angry!!!#i bleed love all over but i dont think there was a time where i wasnt performing for a partner in some level#like#the me i am isnt likeable#id love to get a letter from someone saying all the things they like about me#or something like that#id like to feel loved#OK EMBARRASING
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hiro-gari · 3 years
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Hi I'm back again bringing more headcanon! 🙋💕 This time is actually an older hc but I decided to rewrite it so it would be more longer. Hope you would like it! 😆
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Garou has a crush on Badd before they met, like he's a secret fan who likes to send love letters to his workplace at Hero Association. That's why he acted like excited fanboy towards Badd during their fight. Garou wrote anonymously in the letter that he admires Badd so much he consider the only Hero that matters to him, complete with beautiful poems or sweet praising words.
Everytime Badd gets the love letters, the other hero members always teasing or cheering for him while Badd himself hiding his flustered face from reading the letter's flowery poetic content. This becomes HA's unsolved mystery case about who is Badd's secret admirer.
Even after Garou stopped being a villain and ended up becomes fugitive in Badd's house, he still pining for Badd and continued to make fan letters for him. He really wanted to confess his love for the beautiful hero as himself but Garou was afraid of getting rejected by Badd, not to mention he didn't want to ruin their newfound friendship bonds.
So, Garou just writing down all of the longing feeling into the letter, hopefully it could make Badd happy.
Unbeknown by Garou, Badd actually loves every single fan letters that Garou has sent since the beginning, without knowing it was from him. Secretly, Badd was very impressed by it and saved all the letters in his special box at home. He was wondering, who is this sweet secret admirer, he couldn’t wait to meet the person.
Ironically, Badd HAS indeed had met his secret admirer personally and was currently living together with him.
Badd only discovered the truth after one day he accidentally seeing Garou who was in the middle of writing a new fan letter. Garou immediately tried to hide and crush the letter but the young hero snatched it from his hand before reading the letter content. Badd noticed Garou's writing style matched with the fan letters that had been sent to him after all these time. That was when Badd truly realized that Garou is his secret admirer.
Without words, he shoved the crumpled letter back to Garou and walked out from the room, leaving him alone.
Garou thought he fucked up their friendship just because he didn't expect Badd would caught him off-guard when he was making those letters. By looking at Badd's bewildered expression and the way he returned the paper to him, Garou guessed he would faced an impending heartbreaking rejection from Badd. There's no way Badd would accepted his feeling, not after discovered that the ex-criminal "Hero Hunter" has a big crush on him. Badd must be ashamed of Garou now.
Just before Garou felt his heart broken, Badd suddenly barging into the room going back at him again. This time he brought a wooden box with him. Carefully, Badd opened the box only to reveal a neat pile of fan letters inside it. And Garou recognized those letters from the handwriting alone: those are fan letters from HIM!
Badd telling Garou that he actually likes them so much he got to save and collecting all of them. Nobody else ever so persistently sending Badd some lovely and encouraging letters, it always makes him feels appreciated.
Sometimes when Badd was in bad days after tiring long mission, he re-read the letters again to make himself feels better again. Nothing better than knowing there is someone who truly cares for him and everything he does.
With blushing yet determinated face, Badd asking Garou if these letters were indeed from him or not.
Garou was speechless during listening to Badd's explanation, especially that it was confirmed Badd actually likes his fan letters. He knows he was kind of awkward when it comes for love confession, as Garou hadn't have experience on romantic relationship. But for Badd, his first love, he really wanted to convey it for him. Garou be like, “Umm.. Yes, it was from me. Uh y'know. I like you so much but dunno how to say it directly so I just wrote you fan letters. And I thought you would still hate me back then after we fought that day. I was afraid to get your rejection once you recognized me as 'Hero Hunter' thus I keep sending them anonymously".
He took a deep breath before continuing, "I'm still loving you especially that you've been so kind to me despite all of what happened between us. I was going to keep it in secret yet here you caught me red handed today. But thanks for taking care all of my letters, I'm glad they makes you happy”.
The moment Garou finished his confession, Badd put the box on the table then walking closer towards Garou. His hands slowly reached for Garou's face before he tiptoed and kissed the ex-Hero Hunter softly on the lips.
After sharing a moment of passion, Badd smiled tenderly for Garou and said, "Your feeling is fully reciprocated. While I love it when you confessed directly to me, please don't stop writing your fan letter. I'd still like to read your beautiful poems, it's very lovely".
Garou just grinning widely then hugged Badd tight, before pulling him closer for a deep kiss again.
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How was that? 😳✨ I'm so sorry if it looked rushed especially at the ending. I was meant to write it to be more fluffier but my brain went blank, I've been struggling with my depression lately and it seems I got the worst part today. So this kinda self-indulgent writing to make my mind focused on the happier things 😅💦 I hope you wouldn't mind this Batarou headcanon from me, wish you a lot of good days! 😚💕💞💖💝🌸🌻🌻🌻
-Little1993lamb-
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~Lilia:
HI!! OMG THIS IS A BLESSING 😍
FIRST of all I love fanboy Garou thank you🥺🥺 He would absolutely pour his heart out in every letter because he doesn’t think anyone will find out ahh~
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He does seem like the type to get all poetic too considering his angsty philosophical speeches
And so of course Badd would keep them omg! He’s an S Class hero but still in the lower ranks, so getting adoring fan mail would have him like 💗💞🥰 for dayzz. Might even go back and look at the especially encouraging ones on his bad days?? And finding out it was wolf boi the whole time 😭😭 if he didn’t love him already he has his whole heart now.
I gotta believe Garou would keep writing them but he doesn’t want to be Predictable so like one day Badd just finds one in his lunchbox, and another day there’s one mysteriously in his pocket already 😳 I love them sm, thank you once again, your headcanons are an amazing gift!! 💝💕
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ephemeral-forevers · 3 years
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//dear ex-best friend,
hi there, the better half of me. i miss you. do you miss me too? please don't say anything except yes. i know we aren't friends anymore. its so heart-wrenchingly painful for me. we may not talk anymore, but every night before i go to sleep i think about you. i absolutely refuse to believe that you just forgot me like that. that you don't care anymore. call me delusional, but i won't give up on us. honestly, i'm disappointed that you did. after all our history, was it really so easy to never look back? you left one day, without saying what was wrong. i blamed myself so much. i didn't know what i did. Was i such a bad friend? Maybe i'll never know. but i'm so grateful you exist. all i can do is look back on our memories with a sad little smile on my face. that's just what i will do.
sleepovers together, smothered giggles inside our pillows, our annual tradition of eating pizza, studying together(we ended up doing nothing productive), watching and making fun of cringy tv shows, complaining how your mom liked me more than you, getting completely drenched in the rain and falling sick together the next day, liking the same boy(ew we're over it by now), deciding that we'll move to new york together, being sure that we'd like our ashes to be mixed together, teasing you about how short you were, making fun of your dressing sense, taking ugly snapchat pictures together, wearing the same ugly costumes on halloween, riding our bikes together, fangirling over our cute celebrity crushes, making bucket lists together, pinky promises, making playlists for each other, calls at 4 am, being fools for the moon and romanticizing our lives.
you know how you hate that your nostrils blow up when you laugh really hard? i love that. it makes me feel so incredibly whole. i love that most of the times your laugh is funnier than the joke. when no when laughs at my joke you are having a fit over how funny it is, and your approval is all i need. we get each other like no one else. you ARE the sister i've never had. remember the day i told you were my soulmate and you asked me if i was in love with you? you stupid girl, you are my platonic soulmate. my one and true love. i'm happier with you than i could be with anyone else.
the day my mom and i had a fight, i came to your house in tears, and you just held me. you just sat there and held me. you didn't ask me what happened. you knew i didn't want to talk about it and i know i did not tell you in that moment how thankful i was for you. remember when you cried over that guy who didn't deserve you one bit. how you yearned for him. i hated him for doing this to you. i know you think that you aren't good enough or pretty enough or smart enough. it infuriates me so much. i wish you could see yourself through my eyes, i want to scream in your face how wonderful you are. but believe me, you are the most beautiful person i've ever met. i know, you'll ask me why i think you are beautiful. let me tell you, i don't need to give you proof. some people are just beautiful in their being. i don't need to look for the beauty in you, it just exudes out of you. and you are so incredibly smart. i know how engrossed you get when you love something. your praise makes me feel complete. i never told you this but when i showed you the first poem i ever wrote and you loved it, that was the reason i continued. i don't think i could've survived this long without you.
i still cry when i think about the night when we both talked about our fears. our insecurities and just stripped ourselves bare. how we both cried with each other. we transferred our overwhelmingly heavy weights and knowing that you carried part of it, made it bearable. i lied when i said i was okay before. i'm not. i need you desperately. when we cross paths in school and you don't turn to see me, i die just a little. when you post on Instagram, i wonder whether i should comment. Before, your comment section used to be filled with my comments. if it's okay, can you please come back to me? i could never do anything without your advice. without it, i feel like i am messing my life up. you are undoubtedly, the better half of me.
i cant put into words how much you mean to me, and i know i could never to justice to our relationship with my words. but i still try. if anything, think of this as a love letter from me. a little memento of a broken friendship. the end of an era. what a glorious ride it has been. with all my heart truly, thank you.
with so much love,
your dearest best friend.
(P.S: even if its 3am and you need someone to be with you, come banging at my door, it will always be open for you. i promise i won't ask what's wrong. i'll just hold you and cry with you.
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binkysteebnpewter · 4 years
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All 85 of em
I despise you a little
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1. Are looks important in a relationship?
Not to me, really. I value someone’s outlook on life and attitude more than something that will continually change as we age.
2. Are relationships ever worth it?
Yes. I believe so, personally. I won’t date if I can’t see myself planning to marry her in the future. I’ve stated it before, but Home is what I want to find in life. Home is a person, to me. Home is someone I feel safe and loved by, respected on equal ground— someone who can be completely comfortable and themselves with me, and vice versa.
3. Are you a virgin?
No, but it wasn’t consentually lost.
4. Are you in a relationship?
Yes 🥺💗 I’m dating my princess, @andyl394
5. Are you in love?
Love is a very strong word, I used it lightly for so many years and still sometimes do— but I’d say I’m falling in love.
I believe you never fall in love like it’s a place you sit, I believe you are always falling in love with whomever you date because everyday you wake up a different person then you were the day before.
6. Are you single this year?
No 🥺💗 I have my lovely baby Andy
7. Can you commit to one person?
Yep ✨
8. Describe your crush
She’s really sweet, she has really pretty hair. She’s respectful and adorable. Her laughing and giggles sound like cute little bells, and her smile is so, so bright.
9. Describe your perfect mate
Respectful, Thoughtful, Communicative, and Understanding.
10. Do you believe in love at first sight?
Somewhat, I suppose. I believe you can begin to fall in love, but never really immediately be in love at only a first look— but I guess I base this on the fact I value a persons outlook and attitude more than their appearance.
11. Do you ever want to get married?
Yes. I’d love to get married one day.
12. Do you forgive betrayal?
I guess it would really depend on what they had done to me.
13. Do you get jealous easily?
Not really. I’m not a very jealous person.
14. Do you have a crush on anyone?
MY PRINCESS 🥺💗 she’s my girl 😚
15. Do you have any piercings?
I have your regular ear piercings 🤷🏻‍♀️
16. Do you have any tattoos?
Not yet 😔
17. Do you like kissing in public?
I’m okay with it, I have nothing against it even though I’m very easy to embarrass
20. Do you shower every day?
Yes, I work on a farm.
21. Do you think someone has feelings for you?
My princess 🥺💗
22. Do you think someone is thinking about you right now?
Mmm... I don’t know?
23. Do you think you can last in a relationship for 6 months and not cheat?
Of course I can! I despise when people cheat on their significant others 🥺
24. Do you think you’ll be married in 5 years?
I’m not sure, that’s not a single person question for me because marriage isn’t something you use to lock someone in. Marriage is a partnership, you work together to lift each other up— as you should be doing before marriage even imo.
25. Do you want to be in a relationship this year?
I am in a relationship 😚💗
26. Has anyone told you they don’t want to ever lose you?
Yes.
27. Has someone ever written a song or poem for you?
Yes.
28. Have you ever been cheated on?
Yes.
29. Have you ever cheated on someone?
No.
30. Have you ever considered plastic surgery? If so, what would you change about your body?
No.
31. Have you ever cried over a guy/girl?
Yes.
32. Have you ever experienced unrequited love?
No, I’m very emotional but I used to always be hesitant with love.
33. Have you ever had sex with a man?
I choose not to answer
34. Have you ever had sex with a woman?
No.
35. Have you ever kissed someone older than you?
Yes.
36. Have you ever liked one of your best friends?
Yes.
37. Have you ever liked someone who your friends hated?
Yes.
38. Have you ever liked someone you didn’t expect to?
Not really.
39. Have you ever wanted someone you couldn’t have?
No, I used to be very reserved with falling in love.
40. Have you ever written a song or poem for someone?
Yes, I love music so I wrote a song but never gave it to her.
41. Have you had sex so far this year?
No.
42. How long can you just kiss until your hands start to wander?
I wouldn’t let them wander unless I had her consent, I value consent very strongly— even outside of anything sexual, I’ll ask if I can can someone before I do.
43. How long was your longest relationship?
Three years.
44. How many boyfriends/girlfriends have you had?
3
45. How many people did you kiss in 2012/2013?
No one.
46. How many times did you have sex last year?
0
47. How old are you?
19
48. If the person you like says they like someone else, what would you say?
I would encourage them to confess to them.
49. If you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, what is your favorite thing about him/her?
Her smile and laugh.
50. If your first true love knocked on your door with apology and presents, would you accept?
Depends on what they did.
51. Is there a boy/girl who you would do absolutely everything for?
Yes.
52. Is there anyone you’ve given up on? Why?
Yes, she tried to kill me.
53. Is there someone mad because you’re dating/talking to the person you are?
No?
54. Is there someone you will never forget?
Yes, my late best friend Lily.
55. Share a relationship story.
I dated a girl who told me I couldn’t hang out with my own older brother 🙃
56. State 8 facts about your body
I have freckles.
I’m pretty chubby.
Everyone thinks I’m sunburnt but I just have really red skin on my arms and face.
I sunburn way too easily though.
I have a lot of scars, both from doing things I love and mental illness.
I have brown eyes.
I have auburn hair
My hair reaches past my rear and it’s in between curly and wavy because I’m getting rid of the damage my mother did to it.
57. Things you want to say to an ex
I hope everyone realizes how horrible you treat people behind their backs.
58. What are five ways to win your heart?
Be understanding, don’t be afraid to commicate, be honest, be respectful, have an awareness of emotions.
59. What do you look like? (Post a picture!)
No thanks 👀 I want to keep my face off my blog 🥺
60. What is the biggest age difference between you and any of your partners?
I think I’m a year older, or a few months older.
61. What is the first thing you notice in someone?
Their attitude.
62. What is the sexiest thing someone could ever do for/to you?
Hug me from behind, play with my hair, or just have fun and deep conversations with me.
63. What is your definition of “having sex”?
I know that some others may not define sex the same way that I do, and that’s okay. I grew up learning and being told sex was something where you engaged in sexual activities with someone, so that’s always have I’ve defined it— a sexual activity.
64. What is your definition of cheating?
Well, I suppose I think of it like this. You and your partner probably agreed to be monogamous. You have that agreement and trust for the other to stay faithful. If your partner goes out and has a sexual or emotional affair with someone else then its cheating. The essence of cheating is breaking your partners trust.
65. What is your favourite foreplay routine?
I don’t know
66. What is your favourite roleplay?
I don’t know
67. What is your idea of the perfect date?
Something calm and relaxing for both people, maybe not somewhere very crowded.
68. What is your sexual orientation?
I’m a lesbian, I like girls 💗
69. What turns you off?
Inconsiderate taking, disrespectfulness, humiliation, degrading things, and anger.
70. What turns you on?
I choose not to air this to everyone— 👀
71. What was your kinkiest wet dream?
Im opting to not put this into the world—👀
72. What words do you like to hear during sex?
Okay, I’ll answer this. I have a thing for praise, I like to praise others and I like to be praised.
73. What’s something sweet you’d like someone to do for you?
Flowers, make something personal, or bake something with me 🥺💗
74. What’s the most superficial characteristic you look for?
I don’t really look for superficial things, I think. I really look at depth of knowledge, emotions, or their character
75. What’s the sweetest thing anyone’s ever done for you?
It wasn’t romantic at all, but my late best friend Lily picked me up off my knees once in elementary after I was forced to kneel on rice for not being religious (at a private Christian school 😅)
76. What’s the sweetest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
I bought my late best friend Lily an outfit she loved but her mother wouldn’t let her get, and I embroidered the outfit like Lily had talked about wanting to do.
77. What’s your opinion on age differences in relationships?
I don’t mind it, other peoples ages in their relationships don’t effect me personally. As long as it’s not pedophilia, I’ll rock a pedophile into the asphalt any day.
78. What’s your dirtiest secret?
I was never able to tell anyone what happened to me, so he got away with what he did because I was too afraid to speak out.
79. When was the last time you felt jealous? Why?
I can’t remember the last time I felt jealousy tbh.
80. When was the last time you told someone you loved them?
I told Andy I loved her earlier 😚💗
81. Who are five people you find attractive?
Andy, the fam, and pretty much all my friends. Everyone is attractive, I don’t consider anyone ugly 🥺
82. Who is the last person you hugged?
I last hugged my brother
83. Who was your first kiss with?
A person who should not be named. They’re the Voldemort in my life 😒
84. Why did your last relationship fail?
They cheated on me and abused me in multiple ways.
85. Would you ever date someone off of the Internet?
That’s how Andy and I met, we met online 🥺💗
And I love her very much, she’s my gorgeous princess 👑
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definitefraggle · 6 years
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1. What if... we could critically examine our own sexual and non-sexual desires within the context of the society and power dynamics we grew up in... and STILL NOT shame or harrass anyone else over their own desires? It’s almost like it’s possible to do both!
2. Persuadable targets are the most effective targets. If you phonebank or canvass for a Democrat, your canvass director won’t send you to knock on the doors or call the homes of hardcore Repubicans. They’ll send you after people who are gettable. So it makes sense that antis go after people who are “gettable” in pursuit of ridding their online spaces of content they dislike.
3. What makes the majority-female population of Tumblr Fanfic Fandom “gettable” or less scary to go after vs. straight cis boys at the chonz or Pornhub or e-hentai, etc., is worth examining and critiquing. In other words: the very things that make women “persuadable” ties directly into how women are socialized by a misogynistic world to be accomodating and to put the desires of others over our own. It’s logical to prey on that weakness (probably subconsciously, to be fair) but also gross.
4. Antis would probably be opening themselves up for harrassment/doxxing/etc. if they DID go after the straight cis boys and their objectively much more politically distasteful porn
5. But that doesn’t make it any less frustrating and rage-inducing when they don’t go after those guys. Like, if you care about Problematic Porn and ridding the world of it, porn for straight cis dudes is always going to be worse. Always! And you don’t even have to go to Pornhub, plenty of it is right here on Tumblr!
6. In the Ye Olde 90s and Early 2000s, the sexy trendy hot-in-the-streets crusade was that Fanfic Should Be Well-Written and You Should Be Fine With Strangers Critiquing Your Work and People Who Say They Write Fanfic Just For Fun Aka just want to write what they want and get praised for it no matter the quality level are Aliens We Cannot Understand! And Their Bad Fanfic Is Annoying To Sift Through And it Shouldn't Be This Way!
In retrospect, that was really dumb, like the anti stuff is. The difference is, calling someone a bad writer is much, much less harsh and damaging than calling someone a PEDOPHILE. 
It is also much easier to doxx people these days than it was then. It's also much easier to whip up a mob against people these days than it was then because there are simply more people using the internet now.
There were ship wars back then, also -- I remember hearing, perhaps falsely, that someone was even doxxed or had their employer called during the Ray Wars -- but, again, it's so much easier to doxx and mob people now.
It's also frustrating, as a political junkie who is heavily invested in the world becoming a more just place for the people with the least amount of power, to see what are often basically ship wars using the language of social justice. Like, issues of race, sex, class, etc., obviously affect all aspects of life, including hobbies like fanfic writing, and I am totally on board with, as I said at the start, critically examining everything through that lens. Even masturbation! I'm fine with naval-gazing and discussing and thinking shit over! More than fine with it.
But using those issues disingenuously to basically push for your preferred ship over those icky ships you dislike... it's just making a mockery of these battles that people literally bled and died for. It's beyond stupid.
7. I hope at some point, some ex-anti can do some kind of red-yarn-murder-board and show me if all of this degraded version of meta and discourse literally just came from ontd and sf_d folks jumping ship from LJ to tumblr. Aka, people just moving toxic communities from one platform to another. I mean, I am happy to be proven wrong, show me how it actually started, I'd love to see it. I just, idk, there's probably a really interesting post to be made by someone who was actually part of the first waves of this.
8. I was there for Strikethrough and Boldthrough and I was definitely... amused/irritated at the time at all the, "HOIST THE PIRATE FLAG! TO THE BARRICADES!" rhetoric and I had a looooot of Jew!rage at the CONSTANT invocations of the PASTOR MARTIN NIEMOLLER POEM over FANFIC PORNOGRAPHY even though in past years I had been more chill on parodies of it and in recent years I am much more chill about it again, but I tended to keep my mouth shut because I wasn't one of those affected by the deletions. 
All that said, AO3 ended up being a great thing to come out of it. Boldthrough/Strikethrough was something that legitimately was scary to fanfic writers and really should have been scary to anyone that even wants to discuss books, let alone write fiction of any kind -- I think a Lolita discussion community was deleted?! A community discussing a frickin' book? That should bother you, and if it doesn't, idek what to do with you.
I am not a free speech absolutist, I believe in censoring and no-platforming hate speech and I think there are discussions to be had about what kind of speech and art you want in your community vs. what you don't.
But AO3 had that discussion, and they made the decisions they made, and they made them for reasons I understand and support. If you don't like it: Weebly is right there, bud, make your own archive for your own fic.
My point is: I was not a "HOIST THE MIZZENMAST, LADS! WE FIGHT FOR FREEDOM!" person during Strikethrough and even I know that it wasn't a CABAL OF PEDOS trying to KEEP PEDO-ING AROUND ffs. Stop lying about shit you weren't even around for.
I’m personally veeeery uncomfortable with chan/actual underage fic but if everyone who read or wrote it was a pedophile, then ... look, there cannot statistcally be that many pedophiles. If you think that many people are legitmately sexually attracted to irl children, your personal project shouldn't be ridding the internet of fanfic, it should be working on NUKING THE HUMAN RACE because too many of us aren't attracted to adults and our species no longer works. Like, it's Twelve Monkeys Virus time if you think these are the stats.
8. I hope antis shipping symbrock is the equivalent of when me and other Fanfic! Should! Be Good! people eventually evolved, like pokemon, into Fanfic! Should! Be Porn! people, but it's also fucking frustrating lololol
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joannechocolat · 7 years
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Mother’s Day
My mother despises Mother’s Day. As a child, I remember her telling me that it was just a cheap absolution; payment for a year’s neglect in Hallmark platitudes and supermarket chocolates. As a result, I never dared send her a card, or make her a Mother’s Day gift at school (although once I wrote her a poem, which she still keeps hidden in her jewellery-box, along with some other keepsakes I’m not supposed to know about).
But my mother is contradictory. Deeply romantic in her way, she hates the trappings of romance. Red roses; Valentine’s Day; anything smacking of cliché. But she does like romantic comedies; Fifties musicals; scented candles; crooners; ball-gowns; poppy fields. Perhaps it’s something to do with being French; living in a part of the world where, after over fifty years, she is still an outsider. Not that she cares; my mother has never been one to conform to the expectations of others.
My parents met in France, where my father, who was training to be a teacher, was on a placement from University. My mother, too, was a teacher, and at first there was some resistance from the family to the idea of her marrying an Englishman. No-one in the family spoke English; even my mother had only the few phrases she remembered from school. The family was very close; and the prospect of my mother moving away to a foreign country was daunting. The matriarch of the family – my great-grandmother, known as La Mémée, the greatest influence in my mother’s life – was particularly suspicious, and my father was duly invited to an ordeal by fire – or rather, by skillet – designed to gauge his suitability and to introduce him to the clan.
La Mémée believed, as my mother does, that he who eats well, lives well, and therefore placed a great deal of importance on the way in which people ate. My father was very handsome, and spoke French almost fluently, but La Mémée was sure that his character flaws would be revealed through her cooking, and therefore chose to meet him for the first time over a lavish, home-cooked meal, with all the family present.
It must have been something of an ordeal. La Mémée was a formidable presence. My father was a miner’s son from Yorkshire, unused to foreign food, and particularly to dinners that started at midnight and went on for hours, course after course, each dish accompanied by a different wine. He was determined to make a good impression, however; ate and drank lavishly, complimented the chef, made conversation with everyone. Finally, when the pace seemed to slacken, he dared to relax a little. At which point la Mémée, who had a keen sense of humour, ran into the kitchen and emerged with a huge plate of pancakes, and slapping a dozen of them onto his plate, announced with a look of defiance: “I hope you can manage a little dessert!”
My father ate the pancakes, and was duly accepted into the family. My parents were married in Vitré, my mother’s home, a beautiful mediaeval town of half-timbered houses and cobbled streets, with a castle overlooking the river. She moved to England soon afterwards, arriving there aged twenty-two, speaking virtually no English, and leaving behind not just her loved ones, but also all her wedding presents, which were confiscated by British Customs. It was good that she was tough (and very much in love, of course); because the England she knew from geography-books was not the England to which she came.
Barnsley in the Sixties was not a place that especially welcomed foreigners. Most people were friendly enough, but reserved; some were curious; some openly hostile. She remembers how the mothers waiting outside the nursery school heard her speaking French to me, and moved away with their children, as if we might present a threat. We were the only foreigners living in our village. French was my first language, and my mother made no concessions to her host culture; we were French – openly, even defiantly so. We must have seemed very different. My mother was wholly undaunted.
For four years we lived with my grandparents, who ran a sweetshop in Barnsley; a terraced house with an outside toilet and no central heating. I was born in that sweetshop (which bears no resemblance whatever to the French chocolaterie which I was to write thirty-five years later), and my parents both taught at the Girls’ High School, a conservative institution that viewed my mother’s arrival with all the clucking anxiety of a group of hens facing their first flamingo.
Jenni Murray (one of her pupils) remembers the moment well. My mother, who was beautiful and glamorous in a slightly surreal movie-star way, like Jeanne Moreau or Sophia Loren, had been raised in the boys’ school in which my grandfather had taught. Her approach was to-the-point and robust. She addressed the girls in her strongly-accented English, saying: “I worked hard to learn your language. Now you will learn mine.”
And they did; my mother was a natural teacher. My father was Head of Department, but she took care of the paperwork; organized his timetable; kept him on an even keel. The same was true in home life; though I was close to both of my parents, my mother always seemed to be the one who ran the household; looked after my education; made the important decisions.  She became the dominant influence in my life, as La Mémée had been in hers. I admired her (I still do). I wanted to be just like her.
I remember my great-grandmother very well, although she died when I was small, because my mother spoke about her so much; cooked her recipes (including those famous pancakes); taught me her maxims. He who eats well, lives well. Men are like melons; you have to feel a couple before you get the right one. Never be a victim. You can do anything you want if you’re willing to do what it takes. Never forget a kindness. It’s better to give someone flowers in their lifetime than a dozen wreaths when they’re dead. My mother lived by La Mémée’s rules. In her way, she was equally formidable. I never saw her cry, or lose control in any way. And yet she was warm, fierce, passionate. With me, she was strict, a perfectionist. Praise from her was extremely rare. Homework had to be flawless, regardless of how many hours it took. Summer holidays by the sea included a daily maths lesson from my grandfather, and handwriting practice on graph paper (I never really got the hang of that lovely, typically French, copper-plate script). The books I read were strictly vetted; comic-books, science-fiction and horror novels were banned from the house. TV was reserved for weekends, or on those few occasions when I had finished my homework before bedtime. As for dates, I didn’t go out until after I was sixteen, and even then, just one night a week, and I had to be home by eleven o’ clock.
Yet she was free and unconventional in so many other ways; as unlike the other mothers as I was unlike their children. She liked bawdy songs and scatological humour; swore freely in French (though never in English); and could be pitiless with anyone she considered hypocritical or snobbish. (She still is: at a recent black-tie event, she shocked a group of snooty guests by talking sex over cocktails.) She had no qualms about speaking her mind; and despised false displays of emotion as much as she did Hallmark holidays. She was effortlessly beautiful; never wore make-up (never needed to); but dressed with a very French elegance I have never managed (or even tried) to duplicate. As a teacher she was far tougher than any of the men on the staff, and when she became Deputy Head of a local ex-grammar school, she made her mark on the place and its staff so that now, years later, she has become a creature of legend.
It’s ever so slightly daunting to be the child of a legend. I wasn’t a rebellious child, and I craved my parents’ approval. Being the child of two teachers, everyone expected me to enter the same profession. I did, and unsurprisingly, I found that I was a natural. But I didn’t stay in teaching. Instead I wrote books – the first one being a vampire story that might have been deliberately designed to annoy my mother, who hated the genre. She still refers to my writing (with her typical humour) as “your late adolescent phase”, and, though I have reason to believe that she doesn’t dislike my later books as much as she hated The Evil Seed, she has never admitted it. I don’t think the phrase “I’m proud of you” is really in her vocabulary, but maybe it doesn’t have to be. Like that little poem, written when I was seventeen and hidden away in her jewel-case, inside a little sewing-kit I made when I was eight years old, it can be our little secret. We understand each other too well to need to say some things aloud. I no longer want to be exactly like her – although we still have much in common. And I, too, dislike Mother’s Day –although my daughter once made me a card when she was still at nursery school, which I keep in a secret drawer and just look at occasionally. I’ve never told my daughter this. And yet, if she’s like me (and she is) I suspect she already knows.
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After 6 seasons, actress and TV personality Aisha Tyler announced that she would not be returning as a co-host on CBS’ The Talk. Aisha has been part of the show since 2011, when she joined on the second season of the daytime talk show. However, on Thursday’s (June 15th) episode, the Criminal Minds actress told fans and viewers that she would be moving on to the next stage of her career. While making the announcement, the beauty explained, “At the end of this season I’m going to be leaving the show…I have had an amazing six years with you guys. We’ve had babies and weddings, and you know good things have happened, and you know I went through the biggest breakup of my life with you. I could not have done with this without you. I’ll never be able to thank you guys enough.” Inevitably, Aisha got emotional when she made her unexpected announcement, as did her fellow co-hosts, Sheryl Underwood, Sharon Osbourne, Julie Chen and Sara Gilbert. CBS Angelina McDaniel later released a statement addressing Aisha’s decision to leave the talk show, which read, “Saying goodbye to Aisha is a bittersweet moment for all of us at CBS Daytime and The Talk…throughout her six seasons, she has made incredible contributions and shared personal moments, making our viewers, cast and crew all laugh cry and think, as a result of her signature wit, intelligence, and openness. It’s no secret Aisha is one of the busiest women in entertainment, and we support her as she decides to focus more time on her passion for directing, her expanded role on CBS’ Criminal Minds, hosting The CW’s Whose Line is it Anyway? and her other endeavors…and maybe finally find some time to sleep! We love Aisha, and she will always be a part of our family, with a seat waiting for her at The Talk anytime she wants to visit.” About a year and a half ago, E! Network debuted the show Hollywood Medium with Tyler Henry. On it, “clairvoyant medium” Tyler Henry talks with various celebrities and tries to help them connect to their past and inner selves. On the most recent installment of the show, Tyler sat down with reality starlets Khloe Kardashian and Kylie Jenner, where he brought up some pretty touchy subjects with the two beauties. During the sit-down, Tyler warned Khloe about her “susceptibility” to skin cancer. The “psychic” explained, “Okay this just came through really strongly – skin. I’m seeing skin, I’m referencing to what looks like melanoma. I’m getting a reference to three separate situations that I view as being problem areas. You have susceptibility on your back and there’s susceptibility on your leg and I need you to keep both in mind. This is huge.” In response, Khloe revealed, “I’ve had melanoma on my back, but never on my leg…” Shortly after, Tyler went on to implicitly talk to Khloe about her ex-husband Lamar Odom, who continues to work on recovering from his serious substance abuse issues. Tyler told the Good American entrepreneur, “It’s important that [Lamar] doesn’t isolate himself, as I think he may have a tendency to do. And that’s something that we can only control so much of, you can’t control someone else’s actions, it is not your responsibility. I just hope he stays in the state…. He needs to stay in California.” When talking with Kylie, Tyler said he sensed an unhealthy relationship in the young star’s life. 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Carrie Fisher died from sleep apnea and a combination of other factors, but investigators were not able to pinpoint an exact cause, coroner's officials said Friday. Among the factors that contributed to Fisher's death was a buildup of fatty tissue in the walls of her arteries, the Los Angeles County coroner's office said in a news release late Friday. The release states that the "Star Wars" actress showed signs of having taken multiple drugs, but investigators could not determine whether they contributed to her death in December. Her manner of death would be listed as undetermined, the agency said. The agency did not immediately respond to a request for additional details about whether a full autopsy report and toxicology results were available. Sleep apnea is a condition in which a person's breathing pauses during sleep. The pauses may be brief or last several minutes, according to information from the National Institutes of Health. Fisher, 60, suffered a medical emergency on an international flight on Dec. 23 and died four days later. Her mother, longtime movie star Debbie Reynolds, died the following day. The actresses were laid to rest together at Forest Lawn-Hollywood Hills, a cemetery where numerous celebrities are buried. Fisher's brother, Todd Fisher, said he was not surprised by the results. He added that his family did not want a coroner's investigation of his sister's death. "We're not enlightened. There's nothing about this that is enlightening," he said. "I would tell you, from my perspective that there's certainly no news that Carrie did drugs," Todd Fisher said. He noted that his sister wrote extensively about her drug use, and that many of the drugs she took were prescribed by doctors to try to treat her mental health conditions. Fisher long battled drug addiction and mental illness. She said she smoked pot at 13, used LSD by 21 and was diagnosed as bipolar at 24. She was treated with electroshock therapy and medication. "I am not shocked that part of her health was affected by drugs," Todd Fisher said. He said his sister's heart condition was probably worsened by her smoking habit, as well as the medications she took. "If you want to know what killed her, it's all of it," he said. Todd Fisher said it was difficult to blame doctors who treated his sister because they were trying to help her. "They were doing their best to cure a mental disorder. Can you really blame them?" Todd Fisher said. "Without her drugs, maybe she would have left long ago." Carrie Fisher made her feature film debut opposite Warren Beatty in the 1975 hit "Shampoo." She also appeared in "Austin Powers," ''The Blues Brothers," ''Charlie's Angels," ''Hannah and Her Sisters," ''Scream 3" and "When Harry Met Sally ..." She will reprise her role as Leia Organa in the eighth installment of the core "Star Wars" franchise, "The Last Jedi," which will be released in December. 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The jury, from the Pittsburgh area, has been sequestered for two weeks about 300 miles from home. The 79-year-old Cosby is accused of drugging and molesting a Temple University employee in 2004 at his home near Philadelphia. As deliberations wore on, Cosby thanked his fans and supporters - first in a tweet, then in brief comments as he left the courthouse Friday night. "I just want to wish all of the fathers a happy Father's Day," Cosby said. "And I want to thank the jury for their long days. Their honest work, individually. I also want to thank the supporters who have been here. And, please, to the supporters, stay calm. Do not argue with people. Just keep up the great support. Thank you." A conviction could send Cosby to prison for the rest of his life, but the case has already helped demolish Cosby's nice-guy image, cultivated during his eight-year run as Dr. Cliff Huxtable on "The Cosby Show," the top-rated 1980s and '90s sitcom. Dozens of women have come forward to say he drugged and assaulted them, but this was the only case to result in criminal charges. On Friday, the jury asked to review multiple pieces of evidence, including Cosby's decade-old deposition testimony about quaaludes. Cosby, who gave the deposition as part of Constand's lawsuit against him, said he got seven prescriptions for the powerful sedative in the 1970s for the purpose of giving them to women with whom he wanted to have sex. The testimony is relevant because Cosby is charged with giving pills to Constand, former director of operations for the Temple women's basketball team, to incapacitate her before their sexual encounter. He has said it was Benadryl, a cold and allergy medicine. Prosecutors have suggested he gave her something stronger, possibly quaaludes. Jurors also asked for, and received, a definition of reasonable doubt, the threshold that prosecutors must cross to win a conviction, and reviewed testimony from Constand and her mother about phone conversations they had with Cosby after the encounter. According to the testimony, Cosby called himself a "sick man" but refused to identify the pills he gave to Constand. Cosby's lawyers have said he and Constand were lovers and that the encounter was consensual. McMonagle objected in court to the panel's repeated requests to review testimony, saying it suggested some jurors were trying to coerce other jurors in an attempt to bring an end to the deadlock. The judge said he saw no evidence of coercion or trouble in the deliberating room after the jurors reported their impasse on Thursday and he instructed them to keep trying for a verdict. "There's a misperception that there's a time limit," he said. Jurors got the case on Monday. They must come to a unanimous decision to convict or acquit. If they can't break the deadlock, O'Neill could declare a hung jury and a mistrial. Then, prosecutors would get four months to decide whether they want to retry Cosby or drop the charges.  
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