#no matter what your label was

[mieczyhale]

@gay-jewish-bucky IT REALLY FUCKING IS. No matter what if it’s a canon gay couple it’s just not going to be good enough for the exact same people who complain about wanting more gay rep. Part of getting gay rep is accepting that we’re going to get rep for all kinds of gays, all kinds of relationships, all levels of relevance - not just the kind that some people want or deem acceptable.

We finally have what is, in my opinion, a pretty well balanced canon queer ship that isn’t just ~hints and eye contact~, that isn’t squeaky clean, that have meaningful conversations and show love and affection like it’s not a big deal. It’s treated on equal levels to any straight ship on the show and I think that’s a breath of fresh goddamn air tbh.

I know people are always going to complain, but this topic has gotta be one of the most annoying and most exhausting ones. People should be happy we get any kind of lgbtqa+ rep, and that that rep is getting not just more diverse over the years but better too. There’s never going to be Perfect Queer Representation and to bitch and hold out for it?? To nitpick the fuck out of every ship?? Why would you, y’know??

#sorry for ranting jksdhfkds #i feel ancient saying this - like a grandma regaling her grandkids with tales of walking to and from school in the snow barefoot - but #i remember when there were no canon queer ships on tv or in movies #there wasnt shit for any of us #no matter what your label was #and now we have enough canon ships and canon lgbtqa+ characters that people feel they're entitled to be picky?? #like my dude we just started getting this kind of content in my teen + adult life #maybe appreciate how far we've gotten studios and companies to come in a relatively short amount of time #maybe appreciate the positive for 2 seconds before you start demanding stuff and whining when you dont get it. especially when it #wasnt promised to you - btw. in regards to the ship i was talking about the showrunners said it was going to go down differently from #the books. they aged up the characters afterall + they were smashing 2 series together to create a whole new thing. they warned people #we got the canon ship. they put a lot of thought into writing it and the actors - who are big fans of the books - put a lot of thought #into acting it. that's the other thing!! actors who give a shit a bout providing quality queer rep!!! why are y'all not talking about that? #that's also not a given when it comes to people playing queer roles. there's a lot special going on here and to be so negative.. #idk man it's doing a huge disservice to a lot of people + it ignores the progress made + it's whiny and annoying #i'm annoyed. does it show?? i think it might show #sdhjfsdkfs #sorry again for turning my reply into a rant. cole ur an angel and i love u #replies #maison speaks

[winterf4iryy]

fuck all of you who decide to stay neutral. fuck all of you who decide to stay silent. fuck all of you who are not educating yourself about what is happening right now. fuck every celebrity that posted a notes app screenshot of empty words. fuck bbc and nbc and joe biden and the u.s and britain and nearly every western country and media outlet. fuck israel and zionists and privileged white liberals turning a blind eye. fuck all of you. israel bombed a hospital and hundreds if not thousands are dead and a father had to carry the PIECES of his sons in plastic bags because they were blown to bits. a resting place for journalists has now turned into a morgue. every day people are being killed and it’s being DOCUMENTED and you still wanna be silent and neutral and say this doesn’t involve you. your lack of humanity is vile and horrid and i hope you never know one moment of happiness the rest of your life.

#genuinely have lost all of my respect for a LOT of people in the past week #speak the fuck up #use your voice #it doesnt matter if 1 or 100 people see it #IT MATTERS #Repost videos of people in Gaza and what they’re documenting #journalists are on Instagram updating constantly #RESHARE IT #my ig is grnbrviv and ive reposted from accounts of those in gaza #sbeih.jpg has a pinned post labelled Gaza Awareness of people updating in real time #shame on you if you aren’t disturbed by the literally genocide going on at this very moment #palestine #free palestine #gaza

[inkskinned]

you wanted to be a good friend, because you loved your friends, but the truth was that everyone else somehow had a pamphlet on being normal that you never received. most of the time you learn by trial-and-error. you are terrified of the next big mistake you make, because it seems like the rules are completely arbitrary.

you've learned to keep the prickly parts of your personality in a stormcloud under your bed - as if they're a second version of you; one that will make your friends hate you. it feels feral, burning, ugly.

instead, you have assembled habits based on the statistical likelihood of pleasing others. you're a good listener, which is to say - if you do speak up, you might end up saying the wrong thing and scaring off someone, but people tend to like someone-who-listens. or you've got no true desires or goals, because people like it when you're passive, mutable. you're "not easy to fluster" which is to say - your emotions are fundamentally uninteresting to others around you; so you've learned to control them to a degree that you can no longer really feel them happening.

you have long suspected something is wrong with you, but most of the time, googling doesn't help. you are so-used to helping-yourself, alone and with no handbook. the reek of your real self feels more like a horrible joke - you wake up, and, despite all your preparations, suddenly the whole house is full of smoke. the real you is someone waiting to ruin your other-life, the one where you're normal and happy. the real-self is unpredictable, angry.

your real self snarls when people infantilize the whole situation. because if you were really suffering, everyone seems to think you'd be completely unable to cope. but you already learned the rules, so you do know how to cope, and you have fucking been coping. it's not black-and-white. it's not that you are healed during the other times - it's just that you're able to fucking try. and honestly, whenever you show symptoms, it's a really fucking bad sign.

because the symptoms you have are ugly and unmanageable for others. your symptoms aren't waifish white girl things. they're annoying and complicated. they will be the subject of so many pretentious instagram reels. if they cared about you, they'd just show up on time. you care, a lot, so deeply it burns you. you like to picture a world where the comments read if they loved you, they'd never need glasses to see. but since that's a rule you've seen repeated - "one must never be late or you are a bad friend" - you constantly worry about being late and leave agonizingly early. there are no words for how you feel when you're still late; no matter how hard you were trying.

so you have to make up for it. you have to make up for that little horrible real you that you keep locked in a cabinet. you are bad at answering emails so every project you make has to be perfect. you are weird and sensitive so you have to learn to be funny and interesting. you are an inconvenience to others, so you become as smooth as possible, buffing out all the rough parts.

all this. all this. so people can pass their hands over you and just tell you just the once -how good you are. you're a good friend. you're loveable.

#spilled ink #woke up at 530 to write this lmafo #me in a cold sweat: #how do i be normal #edit in the tags: #hey so i've seen y'all talk about like ... wondering if ur ''allowed'' to relate #like if this is about X specific diagnosis #and when i first posted it i really almost labelled it ''please don't assume this is about a specific condition'' #because as an artist i am often walking this line of discussing a symptom or discussing my conditions etc #and sometimes yes ! i do want to talk about an experience that is specific to who i am and my condition #but sometimes the effort of the post is about the EXPERIENCE rather than the diagnosis #because yes i am not neurotypical and as a result that influences my work but it is ALSO true that there are many reasons #why someone might experience this particular vague horrible feeling that you are... almost being CHASED by what you ''really'' are. #that you're outrunning your symptoms... that you're not really normal you're just sort of a mockery of a person #.... that's a really isolating and horrible way to feel no matter why you are feeling it. and the nature of this PARTICULAR post is that #it is inherently talking ABOUT that sense of isolation & of feeling not-deserving & of minimizing your own experiences to make urself #palatable for society in a way that others find easy-to-deal-with.... #this post is about a certain experience such that my impression is there's a higher likelihood that those who relate #would have more difficulty thinking they ''deserve'' to relate - that it doesn't REALLY belong to them #bc often we are the kind of people who are SO used to being alienated and set aside and ''different'' that we AUTOMATICALLY assume #that things are not ''for'' us... they never have been why would it start now #we are the kinds of people to be ... ''too normal for X diagnosis but too symptomatic to be normal'' #[or as this post points out... so good at ''coping''/masking/hiding it that we essentially conform to whatever shape we're poured into] #but i have witnessed others already say in the tags ''thought this was about me but it's about X so it can't be'' #and im like ... of course it was about you. #art is not a resource that is diminished by greater appreciation . #you reflect in whatever mirror fits your frame. not just the ones in your bedroom. not just the ones i specifically give you. #there will be - and often are - times that i will talk about my specific conditions... but if you're reading this #regardless of why you're here... we are here together. holding hands through space and time. and i love you for carrying it #and i know you're exhausted. i am too. but i understand. and i see you.

[uncanny-tranny]

I was told by someone that I couldn’t call myself a transsexual because I had to go off T for health reasons and I haven’t had any gender affirming surgeries yet since I’m poor and disabled. Is this true? What are like, the requirements to be a transsexual? /gen

The requirements to be transsexual: to identify as transsexual

This might seem too... straightforward, but genuinely, medical transition is so complex and individual that it's worthless to make it so ridged. There are so many reasons you have to stop some aspect(s) of transition, even if you didn't want to! That doesn't mean you never transitioned or that it's "lesser" now that you stopped.

Genuinely, from the bottom of my heart, I, for one, couldn't care less if you call yourself a transsexual. To my mind, it is as political as it is an identity. Being a transsexual isn't just about your identity but also your place in this world. "Transsexual menace" isn't just a cutesy little slogan but a political battle cry. It can be an attitude about changing sex, about the lucid and plastic nature of people, and so much more.

The word transsexual was made and popularized, honestly, with the idea that we are separate from others. I think we can take this back and make it ours. We can start by actually making it our own, not the cis world's own.

#ask #anon #trans #transsexual #transsexual FAQs #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #it seems extra shitty to me when somebody goes 'oh you can't transition in the ways you might want to for outside reasons? fuck you anyway! #like how awful do you have to be to see that a trans person is in multiple positions of marginalization... #...and make it about how YOU feel about THEIR labels? #maybe that's an uncharitable read on my end but. i just hate when you have justify your OWN damn identity. #like this isn't debate club and if you are bothered by it then that genuinely is not their problem? #(sorry for ranting anon. this is just something that alwaysssss grinds my gears and isn't directed at you but them) #inuded the bit about 'transsexual menace' because people forget that transness can be just as political as it is an identity #it is the scathing reminded that we are here and we're *going* to fucking stay no matter what. we live in the bones of society #we live in the corners you think are empty. we are the reminder that humanity is sacred and divine... #...and to forget this means we will remind you. we are *going* to fucking stay on this earth with or without approval or understanding #THAT is why i think it isn't solely an identity. my political stance is transsexual. my blade is my manhood. #basically transsexualism is: i'm not afraid to keep on living; i'm not afraid to walk this world alone.

[our-lesboy-experience]

Ok one thing I want to say is as a trans man I’m personally uncomfortable if a lesbian wants to date me. However I don’t mind trans men who do date lesbians because that’s totally cool, I just wish people wouldn’t make a big fuss about it when I say that “I” don’t want to (im super attracted to men being one reason) and my childhood best friend who’s a lesbian is cool with it too

yeah!! it always confuses me when people say lesbians or trans men "can't do xyz," because you know. people CAN do whatever they want regardless of sexuality. and when people ask you if you if you think they can it's like....yes?? because they have free will?? I can't control someone's personal decisions??

#and then take that to mean you think ALL should and are forcing them into it #like. no. im aware most wouldn't. I just don't care about what a small portion is doing because it's none of my business #what their doing has nothing to do with me or anyone else for that matter. go worry about something else #trans men who date lesbians aren't invalidating other trans men who wouldn't because. they're separate people #and what one is doing says nothing about another #I hate this idea that if my experience with a label is different from others under the same label I'm somehow. invalidating them?? #no. im not. because we're two different people. that have nothing to do with each other. how insecure can you get #that you think other people's identities invalidate your own #mind your own business #asks #idk what to tag this as

[catkin-morgs-kookaburralover]

questioning sexuality is so exhausting

#(edit: sorry for the rant in the tags and i just. i want someone to talk to me) #i keep on doing it for no apparent reason #someone was talking about lust yesterday and i realised today that. #even tho id thought i don't experience it. i possibly do. but exclusively towards women. #i hate it here! #for a multitude of reasons i will never have a relationship with a woman but! i may be incapable of having a relationship with a man! #at some point in the last few months i have abruptly pivoted from definitely wanting marriage and kids to being ambivalent on marriage #and not wanting kids. that's such an outlier in my life that it might just be a mental health thing tho idk #but at the same time i. want to be loved. #i don't know what i want anymore and im tired of questioning myself #i definitely overthink it but idk how to stop it #and i hate hate hate how the moral obsessions have bee lately #this isn't entirely related but it kind of is #like Am i a terrible morally bankrupt person for having certain thoughts or is it just religious ocd go brrrr?? am i overthinking it? #i don't know. i don't know! #for a while labelling myself as arospec ace kinda calmed that down but. i don't know #i do't want to be attracted to women. i don't want to have to look away so often. i don't want any of that. #but i don't know how to stop it. #i don't even know if i'm attracted to men at all. #this is a cry for help and encouragement and prayers no matter what your views on these matters are #queer stuff tag #i nearly fessed up to my friend yesterday about same sex attraction and i might've except that it would have probably outed me as #the person who anonymously sent in a question several months ago about the side b movement to a church thing #ive only told one person at church about any of that sort of stuff and it was very vaguely worded #also see: this friend is the mother of the boy i?? i don't even know how i feel about him #i increasingly think it wasn't romantic at all. but i don't know #i would love any encouragement you got. anything at all. #i don't know how much this stuff is affected by the fact that i consider myself unloveable and think it highly unlikely any boy will ever #care for me #now im rambling. sorry

[quorras]

every time i see someone call tron 'cyberpunk', i lose ten years off my lifespan

#note to self literally never read letterboxd reviews of movies i like i cant do it anymore kdjfgkdssd #say you saw the movie and the plot and visuals went right over your head without saying it #like. in what world is tron dystopic?? cyberpunk in itself is an offshoot of dystopian fiction. tron is not about an imagined future #tron is about an imagined PRESENT. thinking about our PRESENT relationship with technology in relation to the times each film was released #tron is in equal measures hopeful and critical about technology. that is NOT cyberpunk #the only CyberPunk that matters in tron is the Tron2.0 character of the same name #i will admit that tron's plot is cyberpunk derived but its. idk man its not the same thing #thematically its different. visually i think tron shares developmental artists with blade runner where the cyberpunk visual stereotype was #- established #but blade runner is more pure cyberpunk thematically than tron is. does that make any sense #and. and. listen to me. i am number one retrofuture fan. i love syd mead. i love moebius. but listen. just because they worked on tron - #- does NOT mean tron is thematically OR visually retrofuturistic either!! the visuals match the time it was made!! thats not retrofuturism! #thats normal scifi based on the every day!!! #tron is a sandbox and at the end of the day anyone can do whatever they want its all just for fun #at the same time. the entire story of tron is being severely misrepresented when labelled as cyberpunk. and it makes me sad #these are very shallow thoughts i just miss literary thematic analysis sometimes. my film studies classes cannot come soon enough #rex speaks

[charmac]

x

#gonna go on a parasocial rant for a man i barely care about bc thats where i am #but honestly its actually a little heartbreaking #when you think about the fact that rob #who we know struggled in school and with behavioural issues #was a neurodivergent kid who had no idea what that even was #no resources or labels to help him #is now an adult figuring this all out #and seeing #holy shit this sports team i grew up with and love knows about this too #and theyre doing all of this #like do you realise he was a kid in the 80s with no knowledge of any of this #used sports as an outlet and to bond with his dad #probably imagining if this foundation had existed when he was a kid what that could have done for him #and i now have the money and ability to support this all #so hes donating and posting to raise awareness and encourage support #and he's spending time and money with his soccer team in wales to do this same thing #so neurodivergent kids who love sports are growing up with what he didnt have #and their parents are able to recognise and understand what his couldn't (no fault of their own) #im sorry but youre a very blindly heartless person to think that doesnt matter because rob is NOW rich #why are we acting like hes elon fucking musk #he came from nothing you ALL KNOW HOW SUNNY STARTED!? #yes hes stupid spending his money on nfts and the metaverse #can you not see hes fucking growing... and learning. like. probably through his own kids.... #i dont even care if you dont care #i dont think it matters at all but adamantly shitting on him to his (social media) face is so beyond loser behaviour #holy fucking christ most of twitter now has clearly been educated in the tiktok school of anti capitalism #that they think the moment someone breaks 1mm they lose their history and soul #rob is a centrist he posts copganda he owns a gun and is proud of it but youre biggest issue with him is he won at capitalism? #via doing something not only he loves but YOU love? and have a whole account dedicated to?????? #everyone in his quotes is britta perry from community

[altschmerzes]

getting real tired of people who are shitting on “found family” more generally as a narrative concept and specifically named familial dynamics in fan interpretation of characters in particular because it all seems to be getting painted with a really wide and really homogenous brush. “we need to take found family away from people because they think it all has to be In Nuclear Family Terms and do you know friendship exists and you don’t have to call these characters siblings to legitimize their relationship while making it clear you Don’t Ship Them Ew Gross and THEN you sneer at people who Do ship them” cool cool that is a lot of really intense characterization and assigning of motive to other people en bloc!

like sure there’s some meaningful critique to be found in a broad trend to label every single relationship directly and specifically with terms that have very specific contexts and roles but im waiting to be told when anyone IS by the standards of people making and reblogging these very sweepingly generalized posts allowed to call a relationship parental or whatever. is that Ever allowed. who is handing out the permits. sometimes a specific term for a relationship isn’t actually about wanting an excuse to sneer about your ship (and frankly there’s a lot of projection going on there imo from people who are actively sneering about other people’s interpretation of a relationship!) and it’s because there are very specific contexts and details about a dynamic that makes exploring it from the lens of siblings or whatever very rich and compelling and interesting because words mean things and assuming everyone is just being reductive and demanding conformity to a nuclear family is, ironically, really reductive.

so like. cool it. stop being really fucking mean about people having an interpretation of a dynamic you personally don’t like or makes you feel a little weird or uncomfy because you ship them.

#gav gab #im so tired of seeing people do this lmao #is someone actually being reductive and trying to get your ship labeled ‘basically incest’ #or did they just express on their own blog that they don’t ship something bc they see those characters as siblings #so it feels weird to them #you know #the exact personal preference and interpretation you’re expressing in the opposite #it’s all ‘UGH not every relationship NEEDS A SPECIFIC LABEL’ as soon as the label isn’t romantic lmao #like amazing of you to start caring about how friendship matters as is legitimate without anything else #as soon as it’s not about your fucking ship anymore :) #be real you do not care about friendship lmao you can just dismiss it more easily and comfortably #when people aren’t using terms that are more loaded to your ship #are the big meanie found family enjoyers actually harassing you for shipping fake incest #or are you just uncomfortable when it is not about you #and chronically unwilling to curate your experience the way you demand other people to #because fandom has always catered to shipping and why should it ever Not be expected to do that #bc I sure see a lot of shit talking of familial dynamic labels based on people who use those labels being weird to other people #and not a lot if any of those people actually being weird to shippers #and one or two isolated incidents is not indicative of a widespread problem #do what everyone who doesn’t like a popular ship does and unfollow and block lmfao grow up

[rainbowtvz]

*grits teeth*

i do not want to discourse here or anywhere anymore but it does kind of affect me as a transmasc bi person when i see shit that indirectly misgenders me and implies that bisexuality is an icky no good word and identity and you have to be bi and gay and bi and lesbian and bi and straight at the same time or support them or you're an evil stinky stinky terf like... hello where am, i

#it makes me feel othered by an otherwise inclusive community bc how dare i think that men aren't involved in lesbianism #or how dare i think that bisexuality is a whole and valid sexuality #or how dare i think that any and all nonbinary genders are included in every single sexuality by default #or that trans women are women so no fuckin g duh theyre included in lesbianism and if your knee jerk reaction to seeing: #men cannot be lesbians is to think of trans women then you are the transphobe here #or how i dare think that trans man and transmasc aren't the exact same thing #that genderqueerdyke person is also a transadrophobia geek and theyre buddies with genderkoolaid #which like. do i HAVE to say it? #IF U IGNORE THE TRANSMISOGYNY (WHICH U SHOUDLNT) THEYRE ALSO A ZIONIST HELLOW?? WHATS NOT CLICKING WHATS NOT CLICKING #OK IM KINDA MAD ABT THAT LIKE... SORRY BUT HOW ABOUT WE DONT PLATFORM IDIOTS NO MATTER HOW GOOD THEIR RHETORIC MIGHT SOUND #BC U WANT TO BE TOTALLY INCLUSIVE AND NOT GATEKEEPY #ive BEEN around the fucking block ive BEEN on tumblr when the resident terfs here coined bi lesbian #if you scrolled back far enough in certain keywords you wouldve seen that shit in the early 2010s being discussed in their circles #to mean lesbians who are attracted to trans women #you cannot reclaim that or recoin it #yes ive done the research too #i looked at every single piece of evidence of that label existing in the past 50~ years #its just bisexual women back when lesbian spaces also included them #plus like may i also fucking ssay that bisexual also used to mean being of two sexes (transsexual/gender and/or intersex?) #this close to fully believing that the pushback against bisexual being it's own whole and valid sexuality is some kind of psy op #i sound schizophrenic well Maybe I Am #i feel like im going to end up deleting this post bc i dont want to argue with people who disagree with me because there is no getting #through to any of you #tbd.

[bunnihearted]

ig i just personally dont rlly vibe w ppl who think that merely saying 'i wish they died' just to lighten the heavy weight of their overwhelming emotions (that they cant control may i add) is the same thing as actively actually murdering someone 💀

#did u know that venting can actually make someone feel a bit better and less inclined to act on thoughts..... #when u create environment in society where u force everyone to supress and hide all their ugly thoughts and emotions #those feelings will grow stronger and stronger and poison you #and that's why ppl eventually explode when it cant be contained anymore #ppl expressing things - that they prob dont even mean or want to be true or a reality #is nowhere near the same thing as ppl acting on it or causing others harm #but then also i am of the opinion that *everyone* deserves help and treatment. ppl shouldnt be discarded and labeled as broken or crazy #sm ppl have overwhelming emotions they cant control bc all of our brains are different. there should be *quality* help available for everyo #instead we live in a society that shames ppl. that push ppl into boxes and say #if u dont fit into this tiny neat little square u are ugly broken disgusting and reprihensible!!! #then they just banish u to the shadows where they dont have to see u or look at u #anyway this is a whole society thing that is connected to this issue in my braib #brain* #what i was gonna say was that i personally think venting and expressing your thoughts - no matter how ugly they are #is necessary for humans. esp when it's in a space where the potential target of the thoughts wont see #esp when there are no plans of taking yhe thoughts into action #asl long as u can separate complaining and venting ur frustrations and causing someone (undeserved) harm irl #thats just who i am and this is my blog and i dont appreciate ppl telling me #that i have to shove it all back inside and im not allowed to express anything #if you're a wasp who thinks everything should be bottled up. that everything should be expressed delicately #then u do you. but you do not tell me that i have to conform to your ways. i find your ways harmful and regressive #so maybe we should just go our separate ways huh? everyone arent meant to get along #theres no use in arguing or fighting or reprimanding ppl everytime u see smth u dont agree with #esp when all u see is a *thought* that causes no material harm to another person. then u should just be on ur merry way

[uncanny-tranny]

Hi 💛 I wanted to ask you something, it's been bothering me lately: I've always known that I'm attracted to people regardless of gender. At 15 I called it bisexual. At 17 I started using the label pansexual. Came out as a trans man at 23. I'm now 26 and I'm not sure if bi or pan work for me anymore. I know that I'm still attracted to people regardless of gender, but my experiences as a man in society have made the label gay resonate a lot more with me. Is that okay? What does this mean? Confused

It means whatever you want it to mean. People all across the queer community have used "gay" as shorthand for decades now (maybe including queer people you love). If you just don't vibe with bi/pan on their own, then you don't have to have them on their own. There's nothing wrong with being bi or pan, but there's also nothing wrong with feeling like that doesn't quite encapsulate your relationship with your queerness.

Basically:

#ask #anon #queer #lgbt #lgbtq #described images #image description in alt #reminds me of freddie mercury saying he's gay as a daffodil when an interviewer asked if he was gay #and how i saw people offended he said that when he was ~really bisexual and not gay~ and it's like... #...does it truly harm people saying they're gay as a daffodil because that's just iconic #queer people have been borrowing and using terms from each other for as long as we've been a community #and while there are certain words that are very specific to a specific type of queer person/group that doesn't mean every word is like that #or that every queer word has a neat and tidy little wall around it that includes everybody but you specifically #if you take your feelings and run with 'i just label my experiences as gay/queer' then that's fine #like the label serves you and if it stops serving you then you don't need to keep it #i call myself gay and bisexual because i have a very complex experience due to being trans + a bit of my past #and that's as much as i think people '~need~' to know (though i don't owe even that to others) #and i get the whole 'do what you want forever 🤗' can feel unhelpful... #...the point isn't to wave off how you feel or discount it. the point is to remind you that... #...ultimately your desires and comfort MATTER and essentially 'if it's shit hit the bricks' #you aren't obligated to live for everybody ELSE'S contentment. is that even living when you are only alive at the behest of everybody else? #to deny the self and to deny yourself the chance to have actual complex experiences can be the bane of life itself if that makes sense

[dmclemblems]

people before three hopes: rodrigue doesn’t care about his son

my son

my son

thank you for taking such good care of my son

how fortunate he’s my son all the same I’m glad he has you to look after him

#Three Houses #Rodrigue #rodrigue calls him ''my son'' at every possible opportunity and i think that is very nice for him #if he truly wanted to distance himself from his own child then he would use his name and not refer to him #as specifically his child bc it would remind him/others that they're father and son #don't know why yuri knows what he knows but u know what it's yuri so i won't question it he just knows shit #but look rodrigue has always wished the best for felix even if felix didn't want anything to do with him #he never stopped trying to be a father to him or have a relationship with him #even with felix being so snappy and rude rodrigue still acknowledged him every chance he got and cared abt him #he's happy that byleth is his teacher bc he feels that he can't get through to felix and he's happy someone is around felix who can #in he can't do it he just wants to know someone else is out there who can care for him in the ways he can't #imo it's always been very clear and obvious that he loves felix and i don't think he was ever a BAD father #ppl just love smacking on that bad dad label without even paying attention to what's going on #it's not even fckn subtext lmfao it's literally right in your face #it's not his fault if felix doesn't want to talk to him and pushes him away. there's only so much he can do about that #he can at least still care about him and appreciate others being there for him #if you have a child who doesn't want to deal with you then as a parent you can still cherish them and see them as your kid #you can still want the best for them and talk about them to others and see how they're doing #no matter how much grief felix would give him anything at all rodrigue was still a parent to him #he didn't just call off being a parent to him bc of felix's feelings. he just dealt with it and continued doing what he could #you don't just stop being a parent bc your kid acts like that. rodrigue certainly didn't stop even in houses

[icannotgetoverbirds]

saw an exclusionist post so here's a reminder

specifically in reference to transmasc lesbians and trying to draw lines in the sand on who can and can't claim the lesbian label, about how being a lesbian is exclusive of loving men, with someone referring to the people they're attempting to exclude as "fandom gremlin transmascs and neo-mogai crazies."

I don't have the spoons for a proper response but i do feel like i need to make something clear.

on this blog we support fucky genders, fandom gremlin transmascs, and neo-mogai crazies. reblog if u love ur fellow fandom gremlin and neo-mogai crazy queers.

#tw ableist language #tw exclusionism #byrd chirps #oh and if you have a problem with this then feel free to sound off in the notes so i can block you #there's a fucking trans genocide happening right now i will NOT tolerate exclusionary politics around good-faith identities #also why the fuck do the labels matter? we're all a bunch of filthy queer degenerates to the people that want us dead anyways! #if you police good faith identities you're a fucking fed and functionally conservative #and yeah if we wanna work together on something basic and/or general i can play nice with you #but there's no way in hell that i'm just gonna allow y'all into our spaces just so you can try and push me out! #if you're a lesbian and you don't want to date enby/genderqueer/multigender folk that's fine! #nobody is saying in good faith that you have to date us! do you realize who you sound like right now? #gee i wonder who else argues for pushing nonconforming people out of their spaces because they think we're predatory - #- and expect them to date us? i fucking wonder! #if you can't handle gender fuckery then don't make it my fucking problem! i'm not out here making it yours! #and no me existing and sharing labels with you is not 'making it your problem' #look you have the general lesbian space. we have the subset of genderqueer/transmasc lesbian space. #you cannot claim to be supportive of enben (including nb lesbians) if that support doesn't extend to genderqueer/multigender folks! #anyways rant over im not here to fucking argue about my right to self determination #that is specifically what i came to tumblr to AVOID. #not gonna link op because i don't wanna put them on blast just. #op if ur reading this. skedaddle. to the person i was following that put it on my dash. skedaddle. #to the person who they reblogged it from. skedaddle. #out. now. i am sweeping you off my front porch with a broom. you are not welcome on this blog #oh and the person who i'm quoting from the notes? that goes double for you. out. #inclusivity #intersectionality

[pro-prin-prinny]

I think Hamas is another one of those issues where people look at a system that creates bad people and think "how do we get rid of these bad people?" instead of "how do we change the system that creates bad people?"

#tbf the us has focused solely on that first question since 911 #terrorist is the single worst label you can have put on you because it will be used to justify your torture and your death #it doesnt matter what lead you to that point #free palestine

[inkstaindusk]

hi! I hope you're having a happy aro week! feel free to ignore of course but I was wondering if you had any advice for questioning if you're aro? strange question I know, I'm just feeling very lost is all. maybe if you dont have any advice, how did you realize?

Hi! No worries, I'm happy to answer. I'm not sure I have any advice necessarily but I can certainly talk about my own experience! General disclaimer that my personal experience is my own and does not speak for everyone, etc, but I hope something here resonates with you

If you've been on my blog for really any amount of time you know that I like romance. I was dreaming of romance as a kid and I thought I really wanted one. I got invested in romances to a point that I think some of my classmates hated me for it which was valid honestly lol. For a while I thought I was bi (shoutout to the bi -> aro pipeline) because I thought thinking anyone of any gender could be attractive was the same as actually being attracted to them.

There was one year where I was asked out twice by two different people. I was happy both times until I realized that there were expectations to dating, and then I promptly avoided my way into getting out of those situations. The year after that, I suspected a friend had a crush on me and it made me anxious. Nothing ever came of that suspicion but it did lead me to think a lot about my feelings and what romance is apparently supposed to feel like.

It's hard to explain/describe the absence of a feeling you've never had, but I started to realize the only times I "had feelings" for other people was only when they liked me first, and those feelings faded quickly. I liked the idea of romance more than I actually wanted it for myself, and I liked being liked more than I wanted (or was able) to reciprocate. After that, I went through a period of just calling myself queer before deciding I'm aro. I had to come to terms with the fact that romance wasn't on the cards for me, but once I did, I was mostly just relieved. I didn't have to try to match anyone. (Since then I've asked alloromantic friends to describe their feelings to me but I never understand it. What does "it's more intense" mean? Seriously.)

Now, personally, I do want a partner in the future. A lot of what I like about romance has to do with the acts that come with a partnership. I want to be close enough to someone to share our space and make plans together and idk simply be a unit - not in a romance way and differently from how I interact with my friends. Queerplatonic relationships sound perfect to me for this reason.

This may not be the case for you. I'm just one person who enjoys companionship, but plenty of aros don't want partnership at all. If there are any non-partnering aros reading this, please feel free to weigh in!

I think that's all I have. I hope something I said here helps!

#as always what matters most is that youre comfortable with whatever label you choose #if you even want a label! maybe you dont! thats ok too! #asks #anon asks #aromantic #aroace tag