#it’s for the people with double standards

[hometownrockstar]

We very much need to become more aware of the cultural perception and criteria of fatness bc the latest online discussions of it are deeply embarrassing to read. Everyone has a different definition of fatness, and this is due to the way society dictates fatness in relation to others. A person could be called skinny or fat depending on the context, who or what theyre being compared to relative wise, clothing sizes, its all due to the stigma of fatness that makes any slight connection to it (being the slightest bit curvier compared to the stick thin standard, having a small stomach pouch, ect.) be seen as confirmation of fatness

But whats crucial to understand here is that bigger bodied fat people will never have the "privilege" of being considered skinny, and their existence is often treated as a way to make skinnier or mid-size people look thinner by comparison. Fatphobia is ALL about being afraid or uncomfortable with the biggest fat people, of being like them in any way. So while you are arguing about whether the latest "chubby rep" character is actually "average/normal sized" (i hate categorizing any body type as normal btw), maybe pause for a moment to consider if you or anyone else in this discussion has thought about fat people who could NOT be afforded the argument about whether theyre skinny, fat, or midsize. The ones who are unequivocally fat, with double or triple chins, fat rolls, large stomachs or double stomachs, ect. They are the ones being most left out of discussions and arguments about what constitutes as "really" fat/chubby, when they face the brunt of fatphobia and erasure the most

#When i discuss the social phenomenon of ''fluctuating fatness criteria'' #I never want it to sound like i am erasing or ignoring the experience of bigger fat people #I am discussing how society is fundamentally not in agreement of how to define fatness #Due to beauty standards and fatphobia #But in the end this hurts bigger fat people the MOST #Fat politics

[livrere-green]

ATLA x Omegaverse AU

Part 1 | Part 2

I've been thinking about an omegaverse atla au a lot recently, so I'm gonna vent about it cuz it's getting tiring just to have it spiralling in my head ngl

So, the only thing that I need to mention now it's that the standard age at which someone presents is around 13 to 14 years old. Knowing that, lets talk about the main characters.

Aang (12) would be unpresented by the time of the show. Also, I don't believe that being the avatar makes him an alpha perse. I mean, there's a possibility he presents as one (but he could also be a beta), and it wouldn't have anything to do with his avatar status (historically there could be a higher rate of avatars being alphas/betas, but there are some important exceptions... iykwim). Well, I think he'd present at age 13 almost 14.

Katara (14) is one of the characters that confuses me the most in this aspect, but just to add fuel to her fury and her personality, I'll make her an omega, not the kind that rejects her nature but the kind that embraces it and doesn't see it as something that makes her inferior or helpless. Katara would fight against the life society wants to impose on her in the same way she does in canon, maybe even more. She would resent the people who doesn't respect her because of her gender (just make it double), and at some point, she'd get frustrated about it, but she would think that hating herself would mean letting them win. About her presentation, there's two option: 1. She presented some months before they found Aang, 2. She presented during the first months they were traveling to the NWT (in this case, I think the ideal place would've been Kyoshi Island, because there's people able to take care of her there).

Sokka (15) would be an alpha, he probably presented after Hakoda left (14), he fits the type and the stereotypical personality at the beginning of the show. But I think he would get over it sooner rather than later and he would learnt to respect and don't underestimate betas and omegas just based on their nature. Also, I think that Sokka would scent the Gaang to protect them and particularly to cover Katara's scent as they travel or run away from trouble.

Toph (12) would be unpresented by the time of the show. She'd present as an alpha some time after the end of the war (13). There's not a lot to explain here (talking about her at that age, except for the fact that even during her time with the Gaang, she probably hated Sokka's essence, just as an early hint about her gender). I consider that there's a lot to discuss about her as an adult and how she managed her relationships, but that's a discussion for another time.

Zuko (16) would be an omega, and also a late bloomer, probably presented a couple of years after his banishment (15).. Zuko would be determined to hide his true nature under any circumstances, letting only his Uncle know about it. Ozai would've been informed that his son is a beta, which was already a disappointment for the Royal Family (historically alphas), but it wasn't nearly as negative as being reduced to be treated as an omega. Zuko would end up causing himself a lot of damage in order to disguise as a beta, either by using too many suppressants or other medications, or even hurting himself physically and mentally. He would stop hiding he's an omega after joining the Gaang but It'll be complicated, since he'd be distressed all the time and even Aang and Toph would be able to notice (their senses are not totally develop, so it'll be kinda alarming).

Suki (15) would be a beta, presented at 14. In her case, the characteristics of its gender would be especially helpful to mediate conflict or get out of it. The scent of a beta has calming effects in both alphas and omegas, so she would use it with her friends, or even in battle, to make her opponents lose focus, particularly if their driven by rage. The fans are particularly helpful for that.

Azula (14) would present early as an alpha (12/13). At that age, one of the traits she would manifest the most is assuming the position of head of the pact with her friends, she'd probably scent them with the intention of establishing superiority and control over them. In this context, Mai would be a beta and Ty Lee an omega or a beta as well.

That's all for now, I still have some things in mind for this, but I'll share that later, and if you have questions, I'll be happy to answer!

#atla #omegaverse au #omegaverse atla #a/b/o dynamics #aang #katara #toph #sokka #zuko #suki #azula #mai #ty lee #omegaverse #avatar the last airbender #atla aang #atla azula #atla zuko #atla mai #atla katara #atla ty lee #atla toph #atla sokka #atla suki #sukka #maiko #kataang #zukka #tyzula #liv rambles

[lexirosewrites]

Would you write more Omega/Omega steddie? Because the idea of Eddie being labeled as a freak because he's a male Omega and then the double standard with Steve being a male Omega but being pretty and fitting into the stereotype so he's popular. Eddie is so jealous and kind of takes that out on Steve in his mind because why does Steve get to be treated as normal and he can't.

And then Steve's fall from grace and learning that he doesn't have to fit this stereotype of what an Omega should be, like he doesn't keep his legs and chest clean shaven, does more sporty things (there are basically no omega teams at school because not enough people want to do it so he never got the chance to play sports) so he ends up making a basketball club that anyone can join (mostly betas and omegas), also that maybe he's not as straight as he thought.

Eddie watches all this happen and might end up a little bit in love.

I have a soft spot in my hard heart for omega/omega steddie😭 I’ve only written one full fic for it (other than the studding fic), but I think I’ll definitely write it again in the future because I love the potential softness and scandal of two omegas being together!

#slick Sunday #steddie #steddie omegaverse #omega steve harrington #omega eddie munson #my asks #anon asks #a/b/o #omegaverse

[notedchampagne]

i agree with what youre saying wrt harrow. fans (most often white fans) tend to forget that associating brown and black characters with words like "goblin"/"feral"/"rabies" and most any other variant tends to contribute to upholding the idea that people of color are "dirty" or "savage" or "unclean".

Those words get passed off as a harmless meme and are stripped of their meaning in white circles; thats not anyones "fault" usually, those words are poplar memes, but the problem lies in applying those words and similar sentiments to nonwhite characters without recognizing that those words and similar sentiments were used to consistently degrade nonwhite people historically.

I also agree that they also contribute to how broader fandom perceives nonwhite characters and can even contribute to perpetuating racist stereotypes. I also agree that there's kind of a double standard when applying those phrases to Ianthe vs. Harrow; I'm kind of lacking the braincells to word it well, but Ianthe's actions (and characterization overall) tend to be romanticized whereas Harrow tends to be... infantilized? Stripped of agency? And while the racism isnt always intentional, there's certainly a lack of acknowledgment that when the white character expresses """unhinged behaviour""" she's depicted as "hot and sexy" vs when the brown woman expresses a similar sentiment through her actions she's "rabid and feral and savage"

hope this makes sense. sorry its a bit of a tangent, and im sorry if this wasnt what you were necessarily getting at with your commentary, its just a trend ive noticed in a Lot of fandom spaces. While the characters are TLT-specific, the sentiment is not and happens in many many spaces.

yess this^^ i have nothing to add here really these are my observations as well

#talking back

[strqyr]

I just wanted to reach out and say, i really appreciate the Taiyang Positivity you post :3

He’s one of my favourite characters and i find that people have a lot of negative things to say about a depressed man grieving his **second** lost love, so i really like seeing you say just how much he loves and cares for his daughters despite his flaws

Thank you so much for spreading some much needed Good Tai Thoughts :D

skgjhgds thanks, my strq brainrot will continue to provide this in the future as well, no doubt about that 🫡

and honestly, it's the lack of sympathy / empathy that really gets me. ghira and kali don't get half the shit tai does for not being there for their daughter for five years, even when the show makes it abundantly clear that they missed blake growing up and she's now a different person that they knew her as, and like. they just watched her go join a violent organization, i guess? willow doesn't get half the shit tai does when she wasn't there for her kids for nine years (whitley was 5-6 years old), leaving them to deal with their abusive and controlling dad on their own while she was drinking and dealing with her own issues. summer doesn't get half the shit tai gets when it was her choice to leave, which led to her family having to deal with the aftermath while grieving.

none of them are getting called horrible parents at the rate tai does; it's flat out just double standards, and at this point i'm just like. there's no way i can even take it seriously anymore it's just so blatant lmao

#rwby #taiyang xiao long #ethans-express #ask.strqyr

[towerartt]

Has this guy from Borderlands ever cleaned a toilet? 

Handsome Jack: It was one of many household duties his grandma saw him fulfill. Her authoritarian streak taught him a lot, about discipline, hard work, most importantly about the value of sucking it up. See, he went from a low level programmer to the CEO because he wasn’t scared of tasks that are gross, dirty, or even demeaning. He'd say that his experience with cleaning toilets is the cornerstone of his success, actually. And that's exactly why being made to lick the toilet clean was an Awesome thing to happen to him as a child.

Rhys Strongfork: Blew up a space station over getting demoted to janitor. He would not even touch a mop. Cleaning is simply something that happens to other people. As the CEO of Atlas he does however make sure that those unfortunate other people are getting paid well. Mostly due to his own near toilet cleaning experience.

Timothy Lawrence: Dodger of chores: electric boogaloo. But he is a significantly lesser offender than Rhys. Before the double program, Tim had to make a living somehow, right. He cleaned a rather fair share of toilets. And he won’t clean even one more, he refuses. There is a limit to the amount of piss a guy can wipe up in a lifetime. He gets out of cleaning anything by being Weaponized Incompetence incarnated.

Katagawa Jr.: In practice, no, but he views the siblicide he committed as a metaphorical cleaning of shit. 

Roland: Was put on latrine duty during his service in Crimson Lances. As the commander of the Crimson Raiders, he never cleans toilets, but he does meticulously inspect them. If the conditions are not up to his standard he has a stern word with whoever is tasked with keeping things clean. 

Wainwright Jakobs: No Jakobs has cleaned a toilet in three generations. But Wainwright doesn't act like he hasn't. At least.

#borderlands #good/bad dichotomy is OUT #“has/hasn't cleaned up shit in his life” is IN

[dmbakura]

as someone who became interested in Stellar Blade when its 2022 trailer dropped (where its name was changed from Project Eve) watching the lead up to the game become hijacked by the incel squad claiming it was gonna be the downfall of modern gaming because it brought back sexy female protagonists, to the subsequent "censorship" (it is not censorship) debacle that saw most of the same squad turning on the game, and the entire conversation surrounding the game in general, has been maybe the funniest, most bewildering thing to witness.

on one hand you have the incel gooners trying to use the game as a political mouthpiece to push a certain agenda, usually being misogynistic or bigoted in other ways in the process. also mixed in are misguided critiques of certain double standards (example, regarding bg3 and how it handles sexual content vs stellar blade and its fanservice) and just overall a lack of actual care for the game outside of using it as a bludgeoning tool in their dumb culture war.

on the other hand you have people who only know this game through the conversation the incel gooners have started and think the game is some hentai coomer simulator with no other substance. I believe this group is mostly well intentioned, but at the same time are allowing the incel gooners to be the authority on the game and aren't doing any actual research of their own. I have seen so many people gobsmacked that stellar blade has actual polished gameplay and that the sexy costumes/boob jiggle aren't at all representative of the game as a whole. there's definitely some good faith critiques of the character design mixed in here, but also please stop allowing the gooners to shape your perception of the game and letting them dominate the conversation.

and finally you have people like me who have ACTUALLY PLAYED the game (in my case I'm 22 hours in so I haven't finished it yet) and know what the game is actually about. it's a highly polished single player action game, with no microtransactions, on console (which is a HUGE deal in the Korean market, which is dominated by mobile games) and it's overall just a really fun experience. the sexy stuff you can take or leave, there's a bunch of costumes that cover her up if you don't like the skimpiness, but aside from the blatant fanservice with Eve, it's just about the most sexless game I've played in a while. seriously, there's not even romantic hints, aside from a female shopkeeper hitting on Eve.

anyways, it's just interesting (and borderline incomprehensible) what the conversation surrounding this game has become lol

#stellar blade #i have a lot of thoughts on this #so much misinfo and ragebaiting going around #and its kind of sad that the actual game is being lost under it

[slyandthefamilybook]

even if the protestors aren't being antisemitic (they are) what the fuck kind of self-respecting "activist" says with their whole chest "people accusing you of racism and bigotry aren't being serious so you don't have to listen to them". again the double-standards applied to antisemitism cause people to abandon every one of their supposedly deeply-held beliefs

#atlas entry #this tweet isn't about whether the protests or protestors are being antisemitic or not #it's using criticisms of the protests to manufacture plausible deniability in ignoring oppressed people talking about their own oppression #once again. “accusations of racism are frivolous and meant to silence you” is LITERALLY a right-wing talking point #you are laundering racism which makes you an accessory to racism at best and a racist yourself at worst

[empyrangel]

Not the straight fans always complaining that people reach too far to justify gay ships just to turn around and ship Navia and Neuvillette or Wriothsley and Clorinde for existing on screen together

#traveler from another world ✨ #I feel like I shouldn’t have to say this but this isn’t for the people who ship and let ship and mind their own business #it’s for the people with double standards #I don’t hate Navia and Neuvillette or Wriothesley and Clorinde nor do I love ships like Wriothesley and Neuvillette #or Navia and Clorinde #I’m equally indifferent about all of them I’m just here to point out the hypocrisy #genshin #genshin impact #genshin fontaine #navia #genshin navia #wriothesley #genshin wriothesley #clorinde #genshin clorinde #neuvillette #genshin neuvillette

[analogconstruct]

its all "aros can still date!" and "aces can still have sex!" when youre talking about canon aro/ace characters until someone headcanons a character as aro/ace and then its "but they've dated before?" "but they've had sex before?" "but they can't be aro/ace???"

#unsigned #queer #aphobia #aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #im kinda tired of the whole aro/ace shipping discourse bc people are just saying the same things over and over #but i wanted to say something about this double standard

[the-adventures-of-dave]

Around tumblr lately I’ve seen people with the opinion that not only are free roaming cats bad (correct) but also supervised cats in catios or on leashes (????). I assume it must stem from that “ecology of fear” post from a few months ago, but to me the sudden appearance of these kinds of posts just strikes me as odd. I’ve seen multiple posts like the below one in just this week.

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If your cat is contained to your yard/catio/the sidewalk, then it still allows for predator-free safe places in your neighbourhood for wildlife, and creates predictability for them too. That’s one of the reasons why hiking trails ask people to stay on the trail— so you (and your dog, horse, cat, etc) can safely enjoy nature while still giving it space. It is possible to exist outdoors in natural spaces like that while maintaining wildlife comfort. If it wasn’t possible to do that, dog-friendly or (even just hiking trails in general, since humans are predators too) simply wouldn’t exist.

The problem with free roaming cats is that they break boundaries between human area (ie. trail, back porch) and wildlife area (foliage, etc) and there is nowhere the wildlife can go to exist that is safe from predators.

Idk, this is just my opinion but I just think there can be more nuance to the outdoor/free roaming cat issue than “never let your cat step outside under any circumstance”.

#also it’s just dog double standards again #no one’s calling for people to stop walking their dogs 🙄 #arguably a dog barking at and chasing a rabbit is way more stressful than Kepler sitting in his backpack on the porch with me #it’s possible to coexist with wildlife you just have to be smart and respectful about it #anyways ignore my 8am rambling #I got woken up by the fire alarm at 5am and then immediately saw some bad takes on tumblr once that was sorted #so now I’m like :/ #outdoor cats

[littlepinksapphire]

Many people see Gale’s relationship with Mystra as that of a man and a woman. Gale is a man trying to “cross the boundaries” of the woman he fancies. But that interpretation is misguided and ignores what the relationship truly is, that of a mortal and a god.

I don’t feel like you need to know about dnd lore or Mystra herself to recognize the insane power imbalance that creates. An eons old entity in charge of all magic and a young wizard man are not on equal footing. Gale himself is even kind of aware of this, as he wanted and tried desperately to be enough for Mystra so she might deign to make him an equal.

Criticize his hubris all you want. It’s his fatal flaw and huge part of his character arc. But, Shadowheart is right there being abused by her goddess and everyone can see that. I mean, fuck, all of the origins are being abused by powerful people, but Gale’s not?

It just baffles me that at a time when our culture is harshly examining age gaps and power imbalances in romantic relationships more people aren’t seeing Mystra for the walking red flag that she is.

#gale dekarios #his bug gave people the ick and now they wanna justify it somehow #if the genders were reversed Gale would be a beloved girlboss who can’t stop girlbossing too close to the sun #Mystra would be just some guy #steal his magic and his credit card #you know? I’m just getting big double standard vibes #gale of waterdeep #baldur's gate 3 #bg3 #bg3 spoilers

[the-library-alcove]

If you want to see a prime example, perhaps almost the platonic ideal, of what the problem is with having "not bigoted" be an identity, rather than a descriptor or ideal, look no further than this fun set of posts from @behemocoatyl from yesterday (23/2/24):

(I was blocked within ten minutes of making this response, btw)

And then there was this:

And this:

Well, as I'm blocked, and they've declared that they can't be antisemitic because "they're a good person", I just... want to play with that mindset a bit. Tweak it just a little, to show how that doesn't work. But gently. I don't think I have to go too far to show how self-absolving yourself of bigotry doesn't work...

There we go! Isn't that a helpful illustration of the problem?

I hope they have a wonderful day too!

#leftist antisemitism #the anti imperialism of idiots #antisemitism #jew-hate #yes I am quite irritated at this point at the fucking double-standards #and the way these people have made the term Zionist into a pejorative #so if they're so concerned for their /reputation/ #then they can deal with the fallout of their words

[vampiresuns]

people who don't like Wyll, how does it feel to be the weakest link when this man just:

Realised as soon as possible he had been tricked about Karlach and changed her mind about her, to the point of risking his own life and becoming what he thinks is the worst version of himself just to save her, because she is an underdog

Is kind, is funny and says dramatic things like "the Blade stands at the ready". if you like Gale, you don't get to use the excuse that speaking about oneself in third person is annoying btw

A character that clings to hope and fairytales in hopes he is good enough to the eyes of the people, because he thinks he was not good enough for his father given he gave up the life he had planned for him should score him so high up. SO HIGH UP

literally became a demon because he undertook a pact with a demon, thinking nothing too terrible could come out of it. King, the hubris. King, the dumbass???

Says things like "Gale slurped that thing like a horse with a carrot"

#jules.txt #bg3 #wyll ravengard #you do you ig quiet part outloud aside #bc honestly? the double standard #how are people not going insane for a guy who risked EVERYTHING to save a person he had just met and whom for the better part of him being #aware of her hated before a random person he met made him realise he was wrong about her

[brw]

"but hamas is getting funded by extremist islamic hate groups!" do you think the U.S. government and military giving funding for israeli's war efforts against palestinians is a morally neutral and inherently righteous body that had no influence in the politics of southwest asia as a global colonial superpower. do you really think anything you can say about the people resisting oppression can't be said about the oppressors.

#brieuc.txt #palestine #this isnt me justifying it but it is me pointing out the double standard how hamas' funding is antithetical to the freedom movement #but the u.s.' influence and financial support is completely fine and doesnt need to be brought up at all #''hamas doesnt have the best interests of palestinian people'' may be true but the alternative is not allowing an apartheid state to exist #also its a ridiculous thing to say because thats a common thing in most countries #neo-nazi groups r a major problem in the Ukraine military but nobody questions ukraine's right for freedom. #the double standards keep on piling up #im not saying you cant criticise these groups but is it criticism or is it propaganda #are you talking abt how war radicalises and changes n traumatises people or are you implying every palestinian is a dirty terrorist #etc #and do you understand that in an active war zone n worlds largest open air prison violence is guaranteed and is brutal. #or do you think that if the people with no electricity and water just Werent So Stubborn And Talked everything would be okay? #and do you consider white people fighting for freedom martyrs but brown people doing the same terrorists

[maerhiya]

in regards to the constant dismissal of his aroace identity, i hate it when alastor 'fans' say and use the excuse: "he's fictional, he won't get offended."

like, you're right, but it can and will offend us.

when you see yourself being represented on screen, of course you'd feel enthusiastic about it — representation allows individuals to see themselves reflected in the media they consume, validating their identities and experiences. but when so many people take that representation and decide to disregard and discard it, it is so fucking frustrating. we finally have another character to be part of the tiny amount of representation we have, but then people don't even care about how much it means to us? like yeah, alastor won't get offended because he's not real, but it frustrates and annoys us. do you realize that it's also technically invalidating the aroace community? that you're invalidating our feelings? imagine feeling like you're finally being seen because your orientation is finally being represented in media, and people just decide to blatantly ignore, discard, and invalidate it.

media has such a powerful influence on real life, representation being a prevalent factor of it. there are numerous posts that dictate how people went to watch a movie/show or read a book just because a character depicts their identity in it — obviously, being represented is an incredibly uplifting and validating experience.

which is why seeing an aroace character in a popular show is so meaningful to us because we live in a world where romance and sex are literally everywhere and prioritized above all else. (and it's pretty obvious that alastor's on the repulsed end of the spectrum, but even if he wasn't, at least make an effort to acknowledge his sexuality instead of continuing to portray him as allo; aroace folks can be in relationships but it's not going to be the same thing with allos' experiences.)

any and every representation matters, but why does that seem to stop at people under the aroace spectrum? like y'all can't even let us appreciate the scraps of representation we have. we barely have any, so are we really that dramatic for being upset at how people easily disregard and dismiss our identities that are being depicted on screen just like that? is it truly wrong of us to want to defend and maintain the little representation we have?

#like imagine if i asked you ab your fav character and then i said i hated them and proceeded to insult them #wouldn't that irritate you even just a bit and maybe even come to their defense? #like why would you be offended when they're not even real lmaoo #they're fictional and won't get offended but if you love that character then YOU might feel offended and maybe even defend them #ok now take that situation and put it into this context #except it's much more meaningful bc it's about representation #just a random thought #i'm not against shipping him or finding him attractive (bc same LMAO) or the fanart btw #i just hate it when people use bs excuses to justify their obvious dismissal & indifference towards aro/ace rep #like at least acknowledge his identity :(( #sorry for the long ass rant and if some parts don't make sense i'm not in the best mood rn lol #and i've been wanting to get this off my chest for a while #didn't know double standards were a thing when it came to representation.... #but here we are #alastor #aroace alastor #aroace #asexual #aromantic #asexuality #aromanticism #arospec #aspec #alastor hazbin hotel #aromantic alastor #asexual alastor #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel alastor #aroacespec #queer