#it will be safer that way

[emberecstasyy]

I’m nervous to like you. I’m nervous to crush on you, I’m nervous to message you because every time I let myself let someone in I get hurt. I should be used to it but the pain still hurts when it inevitably happens. Girls inflict a pain on me that’s worse than what usually happens when I try to like men; and those relationships are painful too. I just I really like you, and it terrifies the shit out of me.

Please don't..

#thank you so much for your honesty #but pls dont i can't stand the thought of damaging someone else bc im a horrible person #it will be safer that way #asks

[aevris]

pokemon AU doodles featuring xan's parents' vaporeon

#that's his sister not his mom in the first one. by the way. #oc: xantho #safer harbours #pokemon AU

[kedreeva]

as a reminder to literally anyone and everyone who even so much as considers this: AO3 has NO autosave ability when you're making drafts, so PLEASE do not use it instead of a writing program.

If their server goes down, if you hit a wrong button and refresh the page or go back to the previous page, if you accidentally close the browser, if your browser or device crashes, etc etc etc you are shit out of luck. Your work is gone forever, it didn't backup to anywhere and there is NO recovery option. Even TUMBLR's drafting ability is supposed to autosave and often does.

If you want to avoid gdocs that's fine- there's other text editors with simple autosave options, like Online Notepad or Digital Scholar's notepad, or there's still local-drive writing programs that are free and open source, like LibreOffice. PLEASE do not use AO3 to write your stories into directly. It has NOTHING.

#writing #ao3 #I love AO3 but it's NOT made for this #it's made to archive stuff #I have lost precious stories before back before autosave was a thing #and I cannot imagine anyone willfully choosing to just not protect their writing like that #there are so many safer ways to write

[inkskinned]

kids remind me, often, of the things i've taught myself out of.

i have a big dog. he looks like a deer. he is taller than most young children. while we were on a trail the other day, a boy coming our direction saw us and froze. he took a step back and said: "i'm feeling nervous. your - your dog is kind of big."

goblin and i both stopped walking immediately. "he is kind of a big dog," i admitted. "he's called a greyhound. they are gentle but they are pretty tall, which is kind of scary, you're right. their legs are so long because they are made for running fast. i am sorry we scared you. would you like us to stand still while you move past us, or would you feel more safe in your body if we move and you stay still?'

"oh. i didn't know that about - greyhounds. i think i ... i want to stay still," he said. at this point, his adult had caught up to us. "i'm nervous about the dog," he told her, "so i'm - i'm gonna stay still." she didn't argue. she didn't make fun of him. she just smiled at him and at me and held his hand while goblin and i, with as wide of a berth as we could make, crept our way through.

behind us, i heard him exhale a deep breath and kind of laugh - "he was really big, huh? she said it's because greyhounds have to go fast."

"he was big," she said. "i understand why that could have made you a little scared."

"yeah. next time i - next time do you think i could maybe ask to touch him? when - i mean, next time, maybe, if i'm not nervous."

later, going to a work event, in the big city, i stood outside, trembling. my social anxiety as a caught bird in my chest. i took a deep breath and turned to my coworker. she's not even really my friend yet. i told her: "i feel nervous about this. i am not used to meeting new people, ever since covid."

she laughed, but not in a mean way. she said she was nervous too. she reached her hand out and held mine, and we both took another deep breath and walked in like that, interlinked. a few people asked us - together? - and i told the truth: i feel nervous, and she's helping. over and over i watched people relax too, admitting i feel really kind of shy lately actually, thank you for saying that.

the next time i go to an event, and i feel a little scared, i ask right away: wanna hold hands? this feels a little dangerous. i hesitate less. i don't hide it as much. i watch for other people who are also nervous and say - it's kinda hard, huh?

i know, logically, i'm not good at asking for help. but i am also not good at noticing when i need help. i've trained myself out of asking completely, but i've also trained myself to never accept my own fears or excuses. i have trained myself to tamp down every anxiety and just-push-through. i don't know what i'm protecting myself from - just that i never think to admit it to anyone.

but every person on earth occasionally needs comfort. every person on earth occasionally needs connection. many of us were taught independence is the same thing as never needing anything.

each of us should have had an adult who heard - i feel nervous and held our hand and asked us how we could be helped to feel safe. no judgement, and no chiding. many of us did not. many of us were punished for the ways that we seemed "weak".

but here is something: i am an adult now. and i get nervous a lot, actually. and if you are an adult and you are feeling a little nervous - come talk to me. we can hold hands and figure out what will help us feel safe in our bodies. and maybe, next time, if we're brave, we can pet the dog that's passing.

#spilled ink #warm up #so i have worked in childcare as a teacher for like 15 years #hence the language behind ''what helps you be safe in your body?'' #like you can tell by what i say here i have EXPERIENCE with kids. #but tbh the REAL teacher moment is watching a 6/7 year old say #''this makes me nervous #can you please not come closer?'' #as a teacher i was IMMEDIATELY like ... ahh whomever is raising you is doing an EXCELLENT job holy shit #verbalizing your fears? trusting an adult to listen? #ability to recognize a way you might feel safer? #like .... this kid's caregivers.... that one moment... i was like .... who are u i wanna french kiss you big on the mouth

[krazieka2]

Baby Emblem. Three Babies

#carrying over my posts from twitter choo chooooo #2024 art #Dedue is the dad that stepped up #Hilda is the mom that stepped down #Hubert is the dad that stepped into panic mode and won't let anyone within a 12 foot radius of Edelgard #meanwhile the Ashen Wolves are hiding behind a pillar watching baby Yuri gurgle on the floor #wondering when Aelfric will show up to save them #Fe3h #Fire Emblem #The entire Golden Deer classroom stepped down tbh #Raphael save them Raphael #BL collective: together we can raise Dimitri in a safer and kinder way #GD: together we can make Claude even worse #BE: together we can figure out whose baby Hubert just kidnapped

[ascel-vibes]

How to safely get rid of the 'promotional' dashboard clown with uBlock Origin (without needing to open tumblr and look at it)

alternate method to getting rid of the clown on dash for those with intense coulrophobia or unreality triggers, via the uBlock Origin browser extension:

1. Download uBlock Origin here (firefox) or here (chrome)

2. Click on the extension icon, then choose the cog icon

[ID: Screenshot of the uBlock Origin menu, with cyan circles over the extension's icon and the cog icon in the bottom right. /End ID]

A screen like this will appear:

[ID: Screenshot of the "my filters" tab from uBlock Origin's filter screen, showcasing an empty list to insert text in. /End ID]

3. Copy the following line:

||assets.tumblr.com/pop/src/components/one-piece/assets/toggle-dff697e4.png$image

edit: as of september 1st, new line to remove the skull (thank you to @nnwest and @sealie-seolh !)

||assets.tumblr.com/pop/src/components/one-piece/assets/toggle-6d176646.png$image

And paste it into the box:

[ID: Same screenshot of the above uBlock Origin screen, but now the list contains the copy pasted filter on the first line. /End ID]

4. Click "Apply Changes"

Afterwards, be sure to close any previous Tumblr tabs to ensure the save carries over- and the clown should now be permanently gone after opening a new Tumblr tab session

#psa #tumblr clown #tumblr dashboard #o7 hate this clown so much- hope this alt method works out for those who need a safer way to rid of the clown without looking at it !!

[cornertheculprit]

literally phoenix and maya look enough alike that it makes me wonder if part of the reason that mia took him under her wing despite all the chaos that phoenix caused in the hawthorne trial (on top of being a huge crybaby) is because she looked at him and saw maya for some inexplicable reason. maybe she just missed her sister and projected that onto phoenix! or maybe it was something else. but i think that missing maya could've been a part of it even if not all of it. i mean look at them! even when phoenix and maya's designs were changed in soj they were literally both given blue eyes (a choice which i'm NOT fond of but i digress) and it still makes them look alike even after the change.

it just kind of makes me wonder if mia saw phoenix being all miserable after dahlia's trial, thought "oh he kind of looks like maya. oh god what would i want to happen to maya in this situation" and decided yeah okay fuck it i'll take this kid under my wing. like something something mia saw maya in phoenix and phoenix sees mia in maya and maya sees mia in phoenix etc etc yada yada you get what i'm saying

#honestly. at first glance it'd be a safer guess to assume that phoenix is maya's biological sibling instead of mia just by how much they #look alike. but it's the other way around! which is interesting to me #phoenix wright #maya fey #mia fey #ace attorney

[ryllen]

wingman malleus-sama

#i just want at some point malleus assures sebek that it's fine that he found another reason to pursue in his *suspected* shorter life #twisted wonderland #twst #sebek zigvolt #malleus draconia #twst mc #twst yuu #fanart #i have longer life and the longest time to ponder about the meaning of my life #but i couldn't find it; it's a blessing for you to have shorter life but actually able to find it in much shorter time #so please treasure it #i just thought of buttoned up suit malleus looks more serious and will be taken more seriously in sebek room so i keep it that way #or maybe he just feels safer to have it buttoned up bcs he was in like his super FAN lair fhsdhsdhd ANYTHINgCOULDHAPPENf FSHDS JK JK #he just looks more formal that way i love it #this is why he deserves the best man position

[trans-androgyne]

Well if your pronouns include “he” now, don’t you know you don’t need safe spaces? After all they give you full gender rights under misogyny, and you’re suddenly more likely to be violent sexual and queerphobic. I’m just affirming your gender after all, so I can’t be transphobic /s

#my favorite part of being transmasculine is the way the world is definitely safer for me than before :) #even though I now just have to deal with transphobia otherness and my safe spaces evaporating on top of the regular misogyny I experience #transandrophobia #transphobia #queer masculinity #androphobia #mine #antimasculinism

[flowerofbuffoonery]

I really love how Soukokus only solution to waking up an unconscious Sigma is slamming him 10 hundred times on the ground. When he clearly has a stab wound.

Whatever happened to logical thinking.

#They could do ANYTHING ELSE #and they think that's the solution #Not just once or twice. no. 15 TIMES. #they really said “just for extra measure.” #You'd think they would notice that sigma was not going to wake up if they continued #If anything that's just going to give him a concussion #Like idk guys. maybe tend to the stab wound first and find safer ways to bring him back? #soukoku #chuuya nakahara #dazai osamu #bsd sigma #bungou stray dogs #bsd spoilers #bsd chapter 113 #bsd.txt

[doeyedangel]

#:(( #bpd #safer to keep people at a distance bc i realize they probly dont feel the same way u.u #actually bpd #attachment issues #bpd fp

[purpleshadow-star]

Imagine if Nico could learn to control when he turns into shadows.

Like, in The Blood of Olympus Nico would start fading after shadow traveling too much, and sometimes Reyna and Coach Hedge wouldn't be able to touch him, and one time he even accidentally walked through a tree. Imagine if he learned to control that intangibility.

Imagine if he could just turn parts of his body into shadows. Imagine if, in a fight, someone swings at him, and he knows he can't dodge in time, so he turns into shadows for a second so the weapon goes right through him, and while his enemy is confused he uses the distraction to land the final blow.

Imagine if he could just walk/reach through walls and doors and stuff.

I just think that, for someone with the title of ghost king (and as a child of the Underworld), he deserves more ghost-like powers.

#i might write a fic about this 🤔 #we'll see #i just think itd be so cool #he would be the best at a haunted house #and it would be so useful in fights #maybe now that he's taking better care of himself post tsats he'll have enough energy to not get so tired after using his powers #so itll be safer to start experimenting with smth like this #tbh i think nico has the best potential power-wise bc the underworld is so vast so he could potentially have a lot of different abilities #hazel too tbh #like we've seen that nico can control the earth/rocks so i bet hazel has some contol over the dead and she just hasnt really tried yet #but im getting off topic lol #point is i think nico should have the ability to basically become a ghost at will (but not in the dying way) #nico di angelo #riordanverse #rick riordan #heros of olympus #pjo hoo toa

[significant-ace-nnoyance]

"leah is playing annabeth like an centuries old being in a 12 year old body haha" NO. ANNABETH CHASE THE CHARACTER IS PROJECTING AN EXTERIOR PERSONA OF 1000 YEARS WORTH OF CONFIDENCE AND BOTTLING UP HER INSECURE TRAUMATIZED 12 YEAR OLD SELF INSIDE AND YOU ARE ALL FALLING FOR HER INTENTIONALLY CRAFTED TRAUMA RESPONSE FACADE

#shes literally trying to make everyone aroun d her think she doesnt need the help or affection that a child her age deserves #because she believes its easier and safer for her emotionally to do everything herself #AND YOUARE ALL FALLING FOR IT #NO. STOP. SHE IS A CHILD #SHE IS A TALENTED CHILD #BUT WHY ARE YOU NOT GIIVNG HER THE SAME EMPATHY AND UNDERSTANDING AS PERCY SHE IS JUST AS CLUELESS AND SMOL #JUST IN A DIFFERENT WAY #AND SHE HAS PRACTICE NOT SHOWING IT #BECASUE SHE DIDNT HAVE A SALLY TELLING HER IT WOULD ALL BE OKAY #sorry i just HAD to say something i cannot take it when people slightly misunderstand my favs #and leah ofc is playing the multi layered character of leah playing annabeth playing Strong and Confident annabeth with ABSOLUTE PERFECTION #annabeth chase #leah sava jeffries #percy jackson #pjo <3

[elizabethemerald]

DP X DC Prompt: The New King's Fright Knight

Clockwork tells the newly crowned High King Phantom that he needs to name a Fright Knight to serve and protect him. The title comes with responsibilities and benefits. The Fright Knight must defend the King and fight challenges by the King's side. If a challenger can't defeat the King's Fright Knight than they have no right to challenge the King.

Among the benefits of the Title are a custom weapon that can take any form the Knight desires and is capable of sending any injured by the weapon to a dimension under the Knight's control and design. It could be a realm of nightmares or a realm of cotton candy, or anything in between as the Knight desires.

Danny, of course, being some what infamous for saying the first thing on his mind immediately blurts out a name when Clockwork asks him to think of the person who makes him feel the safest.

The newly named Fright Knight gets immediately summoned into the Ghost Zones to be offered the job, no matter where they were or what they were doing.

#dp x dc #danny fenton #clockwork #fright knight #there are so many ways this could go #my first thought was Jazz as fright knight #she's done so much to keep him safe over the years #but it would also work so well for the DC heroes #maybe one of the batboys #either boyfriend #secret twin #or maybe long lost brother #it could the Bat himself #Danny doesn't even have to have a relationship with the hero in question #just someone who makes him feel safe #so he could summon superman or wonder woman simply because he feels safer with them taking care of world ending threats #just whoever it is gets summoned into the ghost zone with no warning #then appears whenever Danny is in extreme danger #could you imagine Fright Knight Redhood threatening Batman and the JL? #badass

[cosmicdenro]

well are you?

#making unsafe spaces safer #trans visibility day #thsc #the henry stickmin collection #right hand man reborn #ellie rose #scriboozles #friends and i like to think them both as trans more often than other characters evn tho i dont care about ellie thaaat much #but i enjoy her mentor n student dynamic with rhm so she's more relevant to me that way help

[ickypuppi3]

be mine.

billy sighs. rests his forehead against the cool metal of his locker. tries to ignore the hum of people talking around him. holding hands. cuddling. it’s a shitty day. it’s a shitty day and billy knew it was going to be a shitty day before it even started.

he knew because he had been the one to say it. yesterday. to tell steve that they’re not- that billy doesn’t need to be treated like a fucking girl. that they’re just screwing around. that he doesn’t give a shit if steve wants to fuck someone else today.

that steve might as well go crawling back to wheeler because billy sure as shit can’t hold his hand or call him sweetheart in the hallways. that he gets enough heat at home without the whole of hawkins high knowing how much of a queer billy hargrove is.

and then billy had walked off. slammed the door behind him and gone home. had picked a fight with neil just to top it off.

all because he was scared.

is scared. scared of steve harrington with his preppy fuckin’ polos and dumb hair. his pretty eyes and pretty smile and ability to tilt billy’s world on its axis just by looking at him. scared that steve will get bored of him. that he’ll realise billy isn’t worth the effort.

scared.

billy sighs again. shuffles back slightly and glares down as he twists the lock. the door swings open and billy is halfway to grabbing the book he needs when something falls out. a scrap of paper. no bigger than the palm of his hand. a note.

it lands on billy’s boot.

he looks around. wonders who had felt brave enough- dumb enough to shove a note through billy’s locker on a day like today. he bends down. picks it up. reads the words in front of him.

quarry, 9.

there’s a little heart scribbled on the top right hand corner. billy traces the familiar writing with a thumb. feels that all too familiar feeling in his chest. he clenches his fist. hears the crinkle of paper as he does.

then he looks up again. into his locker. really looks, this time.

a pack of marlboro reds lay on top of his books. unopened. new.

next to those, something smaller. candy, billy realises. a sweetheart, specifically. the words kiss me etched in pink.

billy smiles. can’t help it, really. it’s restrained. barely there. just a small twitch of his lips but a smile nonetheless. his first smile of the day. credit to steve fuckin’ harrington and his inability to leave well alone.

billy smooths the note out. places it next to the reds. next to the heart. tries to tamp down on the butterflies swarming in his chest. he takes a deep breath before stuffing the cigarettes and note into his pocket.

his hand hovers over the sweetheart.

“hey.”

billy pulls his hand back. fast. as if he’d been burned. he looks to his left. locks eyes with the boy now standing next to him. feels his heart stutter. “hey.”

steve gives him a knowing smile. “good day?”

“no.” billy frowns. you already knew that. “pretty shitty actually.”

steve leans. folds his arms. “that bad, huh?”

better now that you’re here. billy swallows. turns away from steve. back to his locker. “did you want something, harrington?”

“nah, just..” steve smirks. reaches out. billy feels his breath hitch. steve’s smile gets wider. he flicks billy’s earring. once. before turning on his heel with a see you around thrown billy’s way.

a promise. something deeper to them but. casual. friendly to anyone watching.

billy watches him leave. wonders if steve might be okay with them having to do things differently. wonders if this might be enough for steve. for them. wonders if he could be enough for steve. hopes-

billy jumps when the bell rings.

-

they meet up later. at the quarry like steve had said. neil under the assumption that billy’s seeing some girl. steve’s parents likely thinking the same.

billy feels as though a weight has been lifted as soon him and steve tumble into the back of the beemer. all cold hands and fumbling with belts. awkward limbs and steamed up windows. and billy lets it happen. lets himself be held. lets steve be sweet to him.

billy lets it happen. finds himself thinking that today might not be all bad. and that he might be more than a little bit in love with steve harrington. he pushes the second thought down. focuses on winding a hand into steve’s hair and sucking a mark into the soft skin just below his jaw, instead.

not all bad.

-

later finds them huddled under a blanket in the back of steve's beemer. sharing a cigarette. marlboro. red. steve nudges billy after a few minutes. doesn't say anything just. nudges him. billy tilts his head to the side. gives steve a look. steve just looks down as his hand finds billy's under the blanket.

then he presses something small into the palm of billy’s hand.

billy raises an eyebrow in question but steve’s already looking away. staring out into the night. cigarette glowing in the dark. billy rolls his eyes. wiggles his arm free and holds the object up to the window to get a better look.

be mine.

he laughs. loudly. tries to hide the racing of his heart. calls steve a fuckin' cheese. and a sweetheart. waits until steve turns to face him again before pressing the candy to steve's lips and pulling him in to exchange kisses that are almost too soft. too sweet for whatever this is. whatever they agreed for this to be.

steve pulls back first. whispers against billy’s lips “hey, baby?”

“yeah?”

“happy valentine’s day.”

“…yeah.”

almost.

steve grins and reaches out to play with one of billy’s curls. billy laces their fingers together under the blanket.

or maybe it’s just right.

#billy ‘i’m too hard to love’ hargrove and steve ‘i’m literally so in love with you’ harrington #the queers are queering #billy hargrove #steve harrington #harringrove #my words #i was thinking of those love heart sweets we have here and found out sweethearts are a thing so here we are #i haven’t done my research so idk if they were a thing then but i assume they were #so #suspend your disbelief if you must #anyway #i think it’s fun to imagine steve’s biggest gripe being his sexuality crisis at the begging of them hooking up #but once that’s out of the way he’s just got billy on the brain #but billy’s problems come later when he has to be like #vunerable with his emotions #and he immediately tries to build the walls he knocked down back up #because it’s safer that way #but steve just won’t have any of it #yeah that #also he feels bad because steve can’t be all steve with him in public and it’s like #a thing #but steve finds ways to work around it