#istj relationships

[typing-mbti]

About MBTI romantic compatibility

In this post I want to talk about my personal thoughts based on what I observe about MBTI romantic compatibility or romantic compatibility in general.

Because remember, MBTI isn't enough when looking for a partner; there can be:

Very different people of the same type

Similar people of very different types

It also depends on what similitarities and differences mean for you.

MBTI: COMPATIBLE, SIMILIAR, DIFFERENT

Think at colors: there are colours which matches armonically to you but maybe you still preferer a "very similar" colour that accompany you or "very different" one that make you natural color stands up

1) COMPATIBLE if you look for an armonical balance between your differences (dichotomies) and similarities (same primary function but inverted and same process thoughts of the other two functions)

E/I + P/J difference or also F/T or N/S depending on what is the primary function (change the other). F/T or N/S lead to apparently more differences but deeply same way to process some thoughts (exactly same middle cognitive functions)

Example: INTJ x ENFP or ENTP

Example: ISFP x ESFJ or ENFJ

2) SIMILIAR: same type or similiar in many things (but not having the same primary function and thinking process can still lead to a not so small difference): you prefer having more similitarities with your partner (e.g. both introverted)

Change just a letter (be conscious that usually the S/N difference alone could still lead to a strong difference)

Example: INTJ x INTJ or ENTJ or INFJ or INTP (or also ISTJ)

ABOUT changing only the last 2 dichotomies: it will lead to a more complex mix between similarities and differences, usually it can be great at times but can also lead to many misunderstandings, for this reason I see more friendships than romantic partners on these.

Example: INTJ x INFP

Example: ESTP x ESFJ

3) DIFFERENT: very different type or opposite type: you feel safe with a companion that can do the things you can't do.

Example: INTJ x ESFP, ESTP, ESTJ, ISFJ,...

Is it immature?

If all you look for is just a personality type yes, but if you consider many things among which a specifically personality type... no. People choose their partner based on physical appearance, interests, sympathy, familiarity, style of life... and choosing based on the way a person perceive and process reality that affect every part of their daily life is nothing but deep.

"BUT if you both are willing to make it work..."

I will be honest here on my opinion. We are not talking about getting along with colleagues or in family or something forced, but with romantic relationships. It's so natural to look for a "compatible" friendship, why not with romance? Friends can be many while a romantic partner is hopefully just one and for every day of our life; and every relationship is already difficult by itself without us making it more complicated. We will live and share everything with our partner, make decisions with them, see and talk to them everyday: for this reason I personally don't see why we can't be selective.

So... is MBTI compatibility important? Depends

My personal opinion is that compatibility in general is very important, but not each couple needs MBTI compatibility to work well.

Your perfect match depends on who you are and what you look for in a partner.

-> Some thoughts to consider for wishing to have MBTI compatibility or not:

If your MBTI type is a huge part of who you are and your mental process - choose YES

Passions, interests, character and other things have a huge impact of who or your partner are more than MBTI - choose NO

You are selective and look for deep understanding of who you are to feel completely gotten - choose YES

You get along easily with others and feeling get is not your primary need (or not by a partner), you enjoy and look for other things - choose NO

Your process thoughts deeply, analyse others and observe a lot - choose YES

You are in tune with the ambience more than focusing too deeply on the others, you are more practical and a doer - choose NO

IMPORTANT CONSIDERATIONS

Your answer can be different of the one of your partner. For example an INFJ chooses her ENFP for MBTI compatibility because she wants to have long conversations and feel mentally connected with him while ENFP chooses her for the way she treats him and prefers spending time doing some hobbies together. So their relationship's will won't match.

If you wish for MBTI compatibility:

I will repeat it another time: MBTI isn't enough! There are always other things that defines us as values, humour, interests, style of life, mentality. So your life partner will be one of the personalities you get along with: not all will work perfectly with you!

MBTI isn't a guarantee! There is no perfect balance and every couple needs work.

If you wish for other kind of compatibilities:

Still be conscious about your personalities! Sometimes feelings cover our differences and you are ok with how are some things now but maybe in the future you or your partner will look for other things.

Be aware! Not thinking about it doesn't remove their type and your similarities/differences, the best is knowing your MBTI types and still be sure it's the best for you! MBTI knowledge in any case could always help in your journey.

Some example of couples I know:

MBTI compatible couples:

ISFP x ENFJ: natural match and they also share the same way to see life - worked

ESFP x ISFJ: compatible but the mental disorders of one destroyed their relationships and also their interests didn't match - didn't work

Not MBTI compatible couples:

INFP x ISTJ: they have the same values of family and both looked for a companion that can do what they couldn't, and feel safe in the differences of the other - worked

INFP x ESTJ: they loved the differences because they made them feel safe, during life they realized they needed to feel understood by the other and suffered for the lack of similitarities - didn't work

FINAL THOUGHTS

Be careful and choose what is best for YOU depending on what you and your partner look for in a relationship. Because at the end knowing what you want in your love life and waiting until you find it is the most important thing! If you want read this last part by thinking at different characteristics other than MBTI.

Different partner: more work to to but they can help you with doing the things you can't do. Always looking for an opposite partner can be sometimes linked to low self esteem, or positively to a strong adaptation ability.

Similiar partner: less work to do but you will have the same limits and face the same problems. Always looking for a very similar partner can be sometimes a sign of immaturity, or positively of a sensitive trait.

I'll say it again:

I talked about MBTI compatibility but remember that MBTI doesn't describe us totally so choose wisely considering that person completely!

And work with your defects and mental disorders, with them every relationship is destined to fail or be unhealthy or toxic.

Maybe you are thinking "love is blind"... to our mind maybe yes, but unconsciously is linked to how we see ourselves deeply.

Feelings may last some time but having a partner hopefully will last a life.

I wish you all the best love life :)

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[mr-entj]

Hi, Mr. ENTJ, I don't know if you're still active but I suppose it's worth the shot. I'm an ENTJ woman. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to act according to my type for a really long time, mainly because I got meddled in toxic relationships, people pleasing, wanting to be perfect and doing the one single thing an ENTJ type or let's face it, a self-respecting person in general would do - ignoring my own needs. My question is - if I do hope to get an answer or I'm just writing to an ex Tumblr user - how do I bring her out again? How do I nurture my inner ENTJ out in a professional plan, specifically? I don't expect from you to tell me how to live my life, no, but is there a way I can get out of my timely induced introvercy faster? The truth is I don't know where to start.

Focus less on acting according to your type, focus more on restoring your confidence and regaining your swagger. I'd go back to the basics:

Focus on your core strengths. What are you great at? What do people come to you for help with?

Apply them to real-life situations. Where can you make the biggest positive impact? What problems can you solve? Do it.

Achieve and observe results. How bad was the problem before you came? How great is the situation after you fixed it? Measure that change and acknowledge your role in making it happen.

One of the most effective ways for me to regain confidence is to see the impact I can make on a person, situation, or a problem because it's a concrete manifestation of my strength, intelligence, and abilities that I can observe with my own two eyes. It doesn't need to be a huge impact and small changes like eating well or exercising day by day will build momentum. After you can successfully do the small things, you can take on the bigger things, and after you can take on the bigger things, you can go back to thinking ambitiously about your future and accomplishing those goals.

It's important to get the train back on the tracks and moving forward when life knocks you down, no matter the speed it's moving, as long as it's moving forward. We get that spark from envisioning future goals and actively working towards them because this is where we thrive.

#mbti #myers briggs #entj #estj #intj #istj #relationships #confidence #faq

[whumpees]

The whole show in a nutshell

#sums up their relationship #the x-files #infp vs istj #mulder #scully #the x files memes

[mbticatalog]

ISFJ and ISTJ in Love: Pros and Cons of their Relationship.

#isfj #istj #mbti #relationship #love #16 personalities #personality types

[ghoolie]

F ESTJ x F ISTJ (MBTI art)

ISTJ isn’t very good at empathy, but that’s fine with ESTJ. ESTJ can’t stand people giving her talks and trying to be motivational to calm her down, she thinks it’s a waste of time and ultimately pretty annoying. The last thing she wants when she’s stressed out is to hear people talking. ISTJ, being likeminded, sees ESTJ’s stress as a problem to be solved, and she wants to solve it using as little words as possible. A simple massage goes a long way for the stressed ESTJ, and is just what she needs.

#my art #art #mbti art #mbti fanart #pls help me find the mbti side of tumblr #mbti relationships #mbti types #estj #mbti estj #istj #mbti istj #mbti sentinels #mbti ships

[mbti-enemies]

"You know what I can do is say you’re not a strong Se user, so you’re not ESTP, ISTP, ESFP, ISFP..... but honestly to me apart from that this sounds like anyone with limitless time on their hands. If I had to guess, I’d guess istj."

actually, It's INTJ. You were very close though! So why didn't you think that it might be an intj?

heya intj here wondering j as you are why the heck infj went for istj - tbh i was gonna guess infj/intj cause the whole unfolding all mysteries and creating new systems def sounded like a dom Ni w Te thing to me (id have though a dom Si would be more for practical implementation of an existing system rather than actively making a new on for their own purpose- a more intj thing to do) , also the whole thing on unfolding mysteries gives Fi vibes as it seems to suggest a want for personal and inner satisfaction stemming from the discovery of such "mysteries" so ..*shoves question to infj* explain urself

eXPLAINING. *huffs* rude, but anyways. well yes okay there was a definite intuitive streak to the question, especially due to some lovely lyrical phrases ("unfold all the mysteries) - as i do think Ni takes more automatic creative licence than Si. intj was my first guess partly because of this (really!) though i switched to either infj/istj by the end. why S? mainly, to be honest it's because i think creating a better society is more of a classic Si value... i don't know an intj who's too concerned about such. also, the words "needed to be done" gave me HIGHKEY istj/Si dom vibes. in the phrase there's an inherent sense of responsibility and duty that i don't really see in intjs that often. as for the whole creating systems bit, i really do think Si doms can create just as well as Ni doms can so that's a non issue. of course @intj normally its more practical to implement but if it's possible and there's limitless time, why wouldn't an istj?

#sensors rule #but @asker cool to hear ur an intj :))) #*ni dom three way high fives* #intj #istj #P.S @ entpxintj relationship asker we've stopped doing such asks (labelling them as 'requests') but you're in luck #intj has written a couple of posts in january for this pair so go through our archive

[gaypainsequalgainsamiright]

hear me out Teach would absolutely fuck with w.h. auden

#edward teach #listen stede should just read him poetry okay #and you know what lemme talk about something #when you look up the collective opinion of Ed’s myers Briggs personality it says he’s an ENTP #I am an ENTP #and I love projecting as much as the next guy #but I actually don’t agree with that? #he’s an ESTP #because he’s far more observant and connected to his reality than an ENTP #(barring when he’s on copious amounts of drugs obviously) #and STEDE is probably an ENFP #doesn’t necessarily have the same grounding in reality and the way things work in it but has his beautiful mind and heart #and ed gets a lot out of being friends with him because of that difference #because of the ES vs. EN #and it’s special to Ed that stede is the intuitive instead of the observant #because the way most people are gonna deal with Blackbeard is either in fear or with practicality/ #I.e. everyone feels like they have to act like the observant around him regardless of personality type #so stede not feeling that fear and therefore being able to let the intuitive imagination shine through is just very unique to Ed #also Izzy and ISTJ and that fuckin explains a lot about his relationship w ed ngl #ofmd #gentlebeard #our flag means death #ofmd myers Briggs

[lelengerine]

flustered by you

pairing | streamer!haechan x streamer!reader

synopsis | your boyfriend surely knows how to make you flustered, even when he’s the one who should be.

genre | established relationship, fluff, nicknames are used for reader (baby, love, lovie)

wc | 0.5k

notes | the istj teaser photos will be my final straw fr,, like have you SEEN them??? anw, here’s another one for all you streamer/gamer hyuck enthusiasts out there :> lmk your thoughts on this hehe likes are rbs are always appreciated!

m.list

"baby, did you take the switch by chance? i was going to play a game with jeno downstairs-" haechan’s fluffy locks peek out from your room’s door frame, his voice in a slight hurry to return to his friend.

"hm?" you hum from your desk, your mind currently preoccupied with placing blocks down in your minecraft world. "one second."

you were trying to finish a minecraft building before the stream you had planned for later in the afternoon so you could show chat some progress of the village layout you have in mind from behind the scenes. 

the foundations of an elegant, overgrown church had already been placed — a little more work put into it and the vision you had for the building would finally take shape.

"um, i think i used it the other day. let me look for it." you pull off the earphones that rest snugly on your head, setting them down gently on your desk before getting up to find the game console.

"take your time, love. i’ll just take a lookie at what you’re making." he happily makes himself at home on your gaming chair, pretending to thoroughly inspect your work. "hey! this is pretty cute."

"mhm! it’s where we’re getting married!" you beam excitedly whilst searching your drawers, not realizing what you said until the words had already been uttered out. "uh i mean, if you wanted to get married- in game of course! not in real life that’d be silly-"

your cheeks were burning hot from the embarrassment of slipping your words out before thinking, quickening your movement even further to find the switch your boyfriend had originally came for, a small moment of eureka hitting you when you do. 

"anyways! i found the switch." you laugh with an awkward tension engulfing it, "you should get back to jeno now, i think he’s been waiting for a while-"

"let’s get married." haechan abruptly states, his eyes still glued to the pearly-looking church you made. "in game of course." he adds in a snicker, teasing you with your own words from earlier.

"quit it, lee." you whine, handing him the switch with a sulky frown growing on your lips. "not funny. didn't giggle."

he gratefully takes the device from your hands, wordlessly standing up to press a kiss onto your lips in hopes of wiping that frown away.

"you can’t sway me with kisses!" you argue, failing to hide the smile that makes you feel like a fool completely in love. well, technically you are one after randomly blurting out the idea of marriage to your boyfriend because of a video game.

"uhuh, sure i can’t." he laughs, ruffling your hair as he utters a ‘thank you’ for your help, now on his way to exit your room. 

"oh, by the way, i’d really marry you any day, lovie!" he speedily announces before closing your door behind him, leaving you in a speechless, dumbfounded trance that has you giggling; the smile on your lips only getting amplified by how rosy your cheeks have become. 

"gosh, i can’t believe him." you mumble, sending a light slap to your cheek in hopes it’d suppress the smile on your face since you still had that build project in line for the day. still, there’s a new-found determination that runs through your veins. you’re definitely getting married – at least in minecraft – no matter what.

#nct fluff #nct dream fluff #nct angst #nct dream angst #haechan fluff #haechan angst #donghyuck fluff #donghyuck angst #nct imagines #nct drabbles #nct dream imagines #nct dream drabbles

[evignonita]

Random headcanons: Curious-Hogleg siblings ver. 💥💥

Names:

-Jenny's full name is Jenny Mary (Smith) Curious Hogleg, common ass name for a queen, she didn't want to burn her neurons by choosing her name.

-Pascal's full name is Pascal Galileo Curious Hogleg, he chose his name himself because 🏳️‍⚧️ and I feel that Pascal loves the names of famous astronomers and scientists in general, that's why Tycho is called Tycho, for Tycho Brahe.

-Vidcund's full name is Vidcund Charles Curious Hogleg because of Charles Darwin... Glarn named him.

-Lazlo's full name is Lazlo Johannes Curious Hogleg because I don't remember why, I think I read it somewhere and I liked it. Kitty named him.

Height (cm):

Jenny is 176 cm tall; Pascal is 163 cm tall; Vidcund is 178 cm tall; Lazlo is 175 cm tall. The shorty siblings

Age (2004) and birthdays:

-Jenny is 43 years old, she was born on May 16, 1961, Twinbrook, Simnation. (*)

-Pascal is 30 years old, he was born on October 30, 1974, Strangetown, Simnation.

-Vidcund is 29 years old, he was born on November 3, 1975, Strangetown, Simnation.

-Lazlo is 23 years old, he was born on December 11, 1981, Strangetown, Simnation.

(*) I'm not entirely sure about Jenny's age.

Sexual orientation and identity:

-Jenny is a pansexual panromantic trans woman.

-Pascal is an asexual biromantic trans man.

-Vidcund is a demisexual biromantic cis man.

-Lazlo is a bisexual biromantic cis man.

Personality (MBTI and enneagram):

-Jenny: ESFJ 2w3

-Pascal: INTP 5w4

-Vidcund: ISTJ 8w7

-Lazlo: ENFP 4w3

Random data:

-Jenny loves listening to the Backstreet Boys, when she lived with her brothers she always listened to them; Pascal, Vidcund and Lazlo pretended to hate the musical group, but occasionally hummed their songs.

-Jenny distanced herself from her siblings and family in general because Glarn did not accept her relationship with Pol Smith, she never understood why (and that's why the Curious brothers and her don't have such a high relationship).

-Jenny taught Vidcund about botany.

-Pascal knows how to play piano (basic), write and draw, when he doesn't do anything, he feels stressed. He is a bit pretentious, but because he was only flattered as a child for his achievements, as he grew up he learned to be calmer and control his ego.

-Pascal was Glarn's golden child.

-Pascal wanted to study psychology, but he knew that he was going to excel more in physics.

-Pascal wears retainers for his teeth at night.

-Vidcund wore braces throughout his childhood and teen ages, he used orthodontics until adulthood, and he had to use them again because he never used his retainers and his teeth returned to how they were before.

-Vidcund bleaches his hair, eyebrows and beard, his natural hair color is black.

-Vidcund went unnoticed by his parents (the curse of the middle child).

-Lazlo loves monkeys because he and Kitty watched Animal Planet together, also because Kitty was a biologist and brought pictures with images of chimpanzees and monkeys just for Lazlo.

-Lazlo has a good relationship with Sinjin because Sinjin took care of him as a child when Glarn and Kitty asked him to (Sinjin and Jenny are the same age).

-Jenny, Pascal and Vidcund can speak Tagalog, Lazlo never learned the language and sometimes his siblings use it to their advantage.

Songs that give me vibes to them:

-Jenny: Cementerio Club - Pescado Rabioso (because of the green color of the album cover); Estación - Sui Generis; Lovesong - The Cure.

-Pascal: Lago en el Cielo - Gustavo Cerati; Mil Horas - Los abuelos de la Nada; Starman - David Bowie.

-Vidcund: Devuélveme a mi chica - Hombres G; A estos hombres tristes - Almendra; Smells like teen spirit - Nirvana; Heart of Glass - Blondie.

-Lazlo: Salir de la Melancolía - Serú Girán; Lobo hombre en París - La Unión; Blue - Eiffel 65.

I would like to add more things but😏🛌💤

#what #my hcs #ts2 #the sims 2 #ts2 premades #the sims 2 premades #strangetown #the curious family #the curious-hogleg family #simblr #jenny smith #jenny curious #pascal curious #vidcund curious #lazlo curious #insane me

[lowkeychenle]

Juliet's Writing Masterlist

general rules | text!au masterlist | smau masterlist

K E Y

☆ - Ongoing Series ♬ - Completed series ♔ - Author’s Faves ღ - Fluff ※ - Angst ๑ - Smut

Zhong Chenle (钟辰乐)

๑ Chilled Nights, Fogged Windows (M)

After being gone for weeks, the first thing Chenle wants to do is get ice cream with you. One thing leads to another, and suddenly, you're in the backseat (oooops).

♔๑ღ Sunshine (M)

You're not usually able to wake up with Chenle due to his schedules, but on the days that you can, it's certainly worth it.

※ You're Not Sorry

You and Chenle broke up two weeks ago. The first time he calls you at 3am, you ignore it. Then he calls again. You answer, and you go to him knowing there's nothing he could do to fix what he's broken.

๑ღ The Last Straw (M)

Chenle has been your best friend for as long as you can remember. Being in love with him isn't easy, until you find out he reciprocates those feelings (thanks to Cockblocker!Jaemin).

♔๑ SOS (M)

Road trips with Chenle are your favorite thing. Late at night, the two of you stop at a hotel, but it's not everything it seems to be. You barely have time to settle before you get a call to evacuate immediately. Beneath red neon flashing lights, you and Chenle have to try and escape the group of people hunting you down.

(This is the second installation of the 7Dream ISTJ series)

♔ღ๑ Like We Just Met (M)

Everything else about the day is completely normal when Chenle realizes he wants to marry you. It hits him like a tidal wave, and he's itching to tell you just how much he wants to love you forever.

(This is the third installation of the 7Dream ISTJ Series)

ღ※๑ Within the Piano Keys (M)

For as long as you could remember, Chenle has been your neighbor and childhood best friend. That is, until one day he disappears without a word…or so you thought, since your mother hid all the letters he sent you.

๑ Paris (M)

Pure smut on a hotel room balcony in Paris! Woo.

๑ In Your Dreams (M)

What started as innocent phone sex hotline stuff (if that can ever really be innocent?), you get an offer you just can't refuse...you just have to be a little sleep deprived ;) (Chenle as Freddy Kruger Halloween thing lol)

ღ※๑ this is me trying (M)

Meeting Chenle was a fluke--a good one, at that, but you never expected things to escalate the way they did. But despite the whirlwind romance, you'd go back to December if you had the chance...

ღ※๑ Cruel Summer (M)

He wants you. Everything to do with you--your heart, your body, all while keeping your friendship. What's a man to do during a 30-day hook up to get you to stay?

ღ※๑ See My Sea (M)

You never expected your lab partner to be the captain of the basketball team...or a decent human being, but you get proved wrong twice. Despite a rocky past of your own, you find yourself falling for him faster than you thought. Maybe, with his help, you can finally find your way home and see your sea.

๑ Quiet Down (M)

You and Chenle visit your parents, but he just can't help himself...

※๑ Is It Over Now? (M) (Feat. Jisung)

Your relationship with Chenle is nothing but fight after fight. Amidst the toxicity, infidelity comes into play--except you're determined to one up him...but is it ever truly over?

ღ※๑ And Then It Was (M)

After your marriage with Chenle was arranged by your parents for a company merger, things with him aren't quite like you expect. In your life full of obligations, he's determined to finally give you the ability to make your own choices.

Na Jaemin (나재민)

♔※๑ღ the 1 (M)

Six years ago, you decided to move away to a different country to go to school. The catch? You had to leave Jaemin behind, and you refused to drag him along. Now you're back and, for some reason, he doesn't quite seem to hate you in the way you thought he would.

Mark Lee (이민형)

๑ღ Late Nights (M)

Mark's busy schedule only gives him time to come over late at night, but it's safe to say neither of you are complaining by the time you fall asleep.

※๑ Empire State of Mind (M) (Feat. Jisung)

Life with Jisung is almost perfect. He loves you, and you love him. But when you run into your ex, Mark Lee, you realize the one thing you've been missing all along is him.

7Dream

๑ღ ISTJ Series Masterlist

One-shots based on the ISTJ album tracklist.

Zhong Chenle (钟辰乐)

※๑ Irrevocably (M) Series Masterlist

You were friends with benefits with Chenle until he got a girlfriend...fast forward months later, and now they've broken up--leaving Chenle to come back to you, very much in need of a distraction.

๑ Opposites Attract [Poly!Jaemle AU] Series Masterlist

Your relationship with Jaemin started out simple--friends with benefits with zero complications...until there was one. That complication's name is Zhong Chenle, and after Jaemin agrees to expand your exclusivity deal to involve him, there's only one logical thing left to do...

Na Jaemin (나재민)

☆※๑ღ Enchanted Mini-Masterlist

As the crown princess, you shouldn't be entertaining any matches that couldn't benefit your kingdom. Love is not an option, not a choice, and unfortunately for you, your betrothed's royal guard seems to be catching your attention more than he ever could.

♔☆※๑ღ Lost & Wayward Mini-Masterlist

After the worst couple weeks of your life, you finally break down in the middle of an alleyway. Jaemin hears you and comes to comfort you, and little do you know, he's about to change your life--in more ways than one.

๑ Opposites Attract [Poly!Jaemle AU] Series Masterlist

Your relationship with Jaemin started out simple--friends with benefits with zero complications...until there was one. That complication's name is Zhong Chenle, and after Jaemin agrees to expand your exclusivity deal to involve him, there's only one logical thing left to do...

Mark Lee (이민형)

♔☆๑※ 모래성 (ONE) (TWO) (THREE)

You and Mark have had a friends with benefits relationship for almost a year now. He's in love with you, addicted to you, but you don't feel the same. You're his poison.

#nct #nct dream imagine #nct dream scenarios #nct dream smut #nct dream fluff #nct dream jaemin #nct dream mark #nct dream haechan #nct dream renjun #nct dream chenle #nct dream jisung #nct dream jeno #jeno #jaemin #haechan #mark lee #renjun #jisung #chenle #zhong chenle #park jisung #na jaemin #lee jeno #lee haechan #huang renjun

[mbti-notes]

Hi, I'm an ISTJ (female) currently in a relationship with an ESFP (male) for 2 months. Recently, I found out that he's experiencing an Se-Te loop out of stress in his new schooling environment and on top of his part-time job. As an effect of that, he started withdrawing from me one month into the relationship and is recently exhibiting lashing out and micro-managing tendencies towards my life. I'm just wondering what I can do in order to help him or to make him feel safe enough to open up to me?

Conflict that arises from negative tertiary loop and inferior grip behavior is common in close relationships. It's easy to get sucked into the other person's problems and subsequently form unhealthy relationship patterns over time. Dealing with the worst of it requires you to be the adult when the other person can't.

1) Do not view loop/grip behavior as pathological. I have yet to meet a person who hasn't experienced loop/grip, so it's counterproductive to treat it as "abnormal". When one experiences intense inner conflict, loop/grip arises to protect the most vulnerable parts of oneself. In other words, when viewed from within the context of one's inner world, loop/grip is a reasonable response. When viewed from the outside, it seems disturbing, but remind yourself that it is usually a sign of limited knowledge, skills, and resources. When one hasn't had the opportunity to learn healthy coping methods and/or doesn't have the mental resources required to cope with life's stressors, all one can do is rely on unhealthy defense mechanisms to get by.

For instance, when ESFPs descend into loop or grip, what they are usually trying to do is manage a deluge of negativity, particularly dangerous threats to their self-esteem and self-worth. Perhaps they've lost sight of their better self, so they use Te loop as a misguided way to prove their worth. Or perhaps they have not recognized the true extent of their unhappiness and they use Ni grip to withdraw and reflect on it, as opposed to continually engaging with the world in ways that exacerbate unhappiness.

Loop/grip does not produce growth-positive results, but that doesn't mean it's not serving an important psychological purpose. Thus, if you want to help someone in loop/grip, you have to understand why it's happening and offer a different, more productive way to fulfill that psychological purpose. However, you're not a therapist and it shouldn't be your job to therapize, so there's only so much you can do to help someone with deeper psychological issues. In some cases, perhaps the most you can do is help them manage their stress better in the short term.

Looping ESFPs have difficulty getting in touch with their feelings because setting Fi free might stop them from experiencing/getting something they've talked themselves into wanting. Fi development is necessary to get back in touch with what they really need for being a person of integrity and living a fulfilling life. They resist Fi as long as they believe it will compel them to make a daunting change that they aren't prepared to make. However, ESFPs are very practical people. If you're able to offer a compromise or solution that seems feasible and manageable to them, there's a good chance they'll hear it.

2) Do not take loop/grip behavior personally. When someone lashes out at you, there is a natural tendency to take it as an attack that warrants a defense. Unfortunately, raising your defenses will come off as aggressive, which easily leads to warfare mentality. At that point, the chance for resolution grows ever smaller. Even when words/actions are intended to be hurtful, it is important to remember that the person isn't seeing and directing them at the real you. In their compromised state of mind, you are but an object onto which they project whatever conflict is happening within. Tip: During conflicts, try to keep in mind what he's like at his best and you won't be so easily derailed by his worst.

3) Do not escalate problems by getting baited into unleashing your darker self into the mix. A person suffering from loop/grip oftentimes wants you to bite them back, to amplify their inner critic, to justify their victimhood, to punish perceived sins, etc, because they're unconsciously playing out old patterns of pain, but that's not what they need.

What they need is someone to be calm, moderate, and objective, as exhibited through good communication skills. Communication is an art, meaning there's no perfect way to do it, and there's no way to speak such that you never offend anyone. You can't control how others react to you, but respectful, empathetic, and tactful communication really helps to de-escalate tense conflicts.

Some general principles of healthy communication:

- Communicate respectfully: Grant everyone the freedom to express themselves authentically. If you find yourself getting too heavily involved or agitated in the process, express your feelings matter-of-factly as needed, without any hint of blame or judgmentalness. Express yourself responsibly by using "I…" statements that speak only for you and your experience, and encourage others to follow.

- Communicate empathetically: Put yourself in their shoes by gathering information about their perspective, including: how they view things, why they feel as they do, and/or how their past experiences might've led them to react badly (info about their emotional triggers will also help you navigate future conflicts). Don't assume anything; make sure you actually understand the intended meaning. Ask questions gently to clarify things you don't understand and figure out what you can contribute to help their situation.

Keep in mind that some people's experience might be very different from what you've known (especially when you have opposing functions), so make a point to validate people by acknowledging that they have a right to their own personal boundaries, preferences, experiences, feelings, opinions, beliefs, and values. When you give validation, you offer a chance for emotional release, in hopes of dialing down the intensity. People are far less likely to act out once they feel seen and heard, which is why active listening is such a key communication skill.

- Communicate tactfully: The word "tact" is rooted in touch. It means handling something with the amount of care that is necessary to keep it in good condition. Being tactful in relationships means interacting with the amount of care that is necessary to preserve goodwill between people. Conflicts can get very heated. You're not a saint, so you can't always avoid getting influenced by strong negative emotions. You are entitled to feel what you feel, but it's how you decide to respond to your feelings that matters most. You need strategies for keeping a cool head during conflict, such as mindfulness training. It may help to keep your eye on the end goal or bigger picture. Before you say/do something, ask yourself: Is this going to produce the effect I hope for?

When things get heated, calmly set and enforce appropriate boundaries with a reminder of what is acceptable vs unacceptable behavior in a loving relationship. Generally speaking, you shouldn't fight people's battles for them because that prevents them from learning how to do it themselves. Thus, avoid giving them unsolicited advice, trying to force change, or arguing against and invalidating their feelings - these all constitute a violation of personal boundaries. If you want to give advice, obtain consent, and remember that the problem is theirs to resolve, not yours (this goes both ways). Maintaining good personal boundaries for everyone during conflict is essential because a relationship cannot survive long without respect and kindness. All couples fight. Healthy couples fight responsibly, negotiate and resolve issues, and come out wiser and closer. Unhealthy couples take their gloves off, repeat and rehash issues, and come out deeply hurt or damaged.

A romantic relationship should be between equals. This means your feelings are just as important as his feelings. One mistake helpful people often make is being submissive or placating during conflict, usually because they fear triggering very negative emotions. This pattern easily turns you into a doormat or punching bag. Yes, show people you're willing to help and give some leeway for loss of control, but, in return, they must eventually show you a willingness to cooperate and collaborate on a resolution. Otherwise, it's a no-go, and you should step away until they are adult enough to be reasoned with. Someone who isn't capable of handling conflict reasonably even when calm isn't ready for a serious romantic relationship, and you should reflect on whether it's good for you to continue on with them.

Useful examples:

"You seem very stressed lately, is that the case?" (fact-find)

"I'm willing to listen, do you want to talk about it?" (offer)

"It sounds like a very frustrating situation. I understand why you would feel angry about it." (validate)

"If you want to handle it yourself, I will respect your space. I care about you and your well-being. I hope you know that I am your partner and partners help carry burdens when they get too heavy. I'm available whenever you're ready to talk." (reassure)

"It's not fair to take your frustration out on me. I want to be a source of help or comfort to you, so why not try to work the problem out together?" (tactful reminder)

"I should be the one to manage my own life. If you want to help me, I request that you do so respectfully by {explain what you want them to do}." (set boundaries)

"This issue is bigger and more complicated than I thought. Why don't we take a brief time-out, grab some water, and return to the issue with clearer heads?" (monitor emotional intensity)

See also the articles in the site index about Caring for Emotional Needs and Communicating Through Conflict

#istj #istj relationships #esfp #loop #grip #helping #comforting #communication #conflict #de escalation #empathy #tact #boundaries #respect #relationships #ask

[wutheringskies]

Wangxian is that dynamic: Rant Post

I personally think Wangxian is one of the most complete, compelling and near-perfect dynamics to ever be written. Like, think about it. All of our favourite pairings generally include one T (Thinking-type) and one F (Feeling-type), or both Feeling types as they are easier to relate to.

But then you have Wangxian - an ISTJ and an ENTP. Such... annoying personality types.

You have Lan Wangji, who's going to fight your procrastination for you. The guy who's stability personified and Mr. He Is Indeed Better, and then you have Wei Wuxian, who's going to argue his mouth off than take a hint; a little too aware of just how great he is and constantly onto the search for new angles of discovery.

Generally, these sort of personalities are put into the background while an INFP (or whatever) find love. These are the cliche best friends. But never the main leads.

But look at Wangxian!

Look at them being so smart together, sharing the same values. Look at Lan Wangji showing his anger by frosty, cutting words (just a few) or worse... utter disregard for you. The guy's going to glare at you with such frosty chill or go out of his way to ignore you. You're not going to get to him, and it's going to PISS you off.

Then there's Wei Wuxian and it's like...are you getting to him? Or, is he getting to you?? If you argue with him too much about his alleged failure and arrogance and quirks, he's gonna tap into them, and make you feel unstable. He's going to wield his flaws like a blade at you. You're going to just want to avoid him and the snark that filters in through his sunny disposition.

And... look at Wangxian taking the "scientific way" to sex.

"What am I supposed to do?" / I cannot believe I'm asking Lan Zhan for sex advice.

"Relax." / To the point answers only.

Also in the Extra, when discussing their CNC kink they go all the way into the story of how they're going to scene:

"So I'll do this and you resist and then I'll do this."

"Sounds difficult."

"Okay, let's switch positions."

Like... perfection??? Like go, find yourself a partner who's equally as weird as you and have your happy ever after with them: accomplished.

Not just that but the aftermath of the bichen incense burner:

"I have never been treated like this before."

"Mn." (fond smile)

"I'll chop you if you do that again."

"Mn."

Like... how easy is it to communicate ? Without any fears, without any remnant feelings, without guilt - how easily they understand each other.

And not Wei Wuxian showing his love by gifting Lan Wangji a numerous weird things, and constantly talking about exactly what he loves about Lan Wangji. Not Lan Wangji doing every sort of act of service for Wei Wuxian (and Wei Wuxian allowing it), and being calm but not quiet with his words.

"It is as it is" - loving Wei Wuxian is a fact for Lan Wangji, backed up by his actions.

They never go out of their way to think of certain events differently. Perhaps, that's what takes them so much time and 2 life times to get together. Because, hell, it's obvious to us. But you're telling me Lan Wangji wouldn't stand up for anyone who's in the right and framed incorrectly? He totally would. Lan Zhan is just that nice. Similarly, Wei Wuxian is also just that nice.

He took a brand for Mianmian. He couldn't remember her for a minute afterwards. He saved Su She. Twice. He has no idea who Su She is. So, yes. He did a lot of things for Lan Wangji but what is he supposed to be?

I love how their relationship is built upon a pact of no apologies and no thanks. Loving each other isn't a duty, a responsibility or a debt. It is just natural. There's nothing to be repaid. There's only things to discover together.

You don't need to thank me because thanking means you recognize my effort as helping you, but you are not required to - as it is the nature of things. I will help you. You will help me. We will never measure who helps each other more. You don't need to apologize for your actions, because I trust that you will not do wrong unto me. Never by intention.

And, let's talk about how they gravitate towards each other ?? Lan Wangji sitting in Gusu thinking about Wei Wuxian and his lotus seeds and stems theory. Wei Wuxian sitting in Lotus Pier thinking of Lan Wangji. Analyzing every word the other has said, thinking back to all that they have done for each other, lingering not on the pain they have caused each other but the happiness, and you know, that they'll be able to talk about the pain, through the pain, because they are people rooted in the present.

I imagine just how insane it would be for Wei Wuxian, the no golden core until the age of 9 to head disciple to one of the strongest cores to the reason why Yunmeng Jiang win every night hunt event at Discussion Conferences, to lock swords with Lan Wangji and feel, "Ah, this is an equal. This is a new puzzle to be solved. This is a cabbage to be pricked (canon)."

And for Lan Wangji, who's equated insolence and disobedience with poor performance to suddenly come upon someone who appears larger than life, raking up answers and top spots in tests, and duelling as an equal yet never adhering to the rules, finding loopholes and shaking up Lan Wangji's whole dimension.

Another thing I really love is how Lan Wangji isn't, like, his uncle. Or his brother. He isn't his uncle in the ways that he allows himself to break rules when they don't align with the rules he considers superior - his moral calling. His hanguang-jun-ness. He absolutely loves rules; he does; and he loves his stability but he's not afraid to embrace change if it is required.

And, Lan Zhan just isn't his brother. He doesn't like you? Trust, you're gonna know. He thinks you're stupid? It's going to be translated across. He's not going to appease you, or make his presence or his wishes lesser to comfort you. He is his own person (which is so similar to how Wei Wuxian is; like poor boy was punished all the time for being himself, at Lotus Pier by Madam Yu, and yet he never downplayed his talents. He never bowed down.)

And I think it's obvious just how well Lan Wangji knows how worthless words can be if they're not followed with actions. Similarly for Wei Wuxian, he speaks a lot. But he does do what he speak. Protect Jiang Cheng? He will. Fight for Lotus Pier? He will. Protect the Wens? He will absolutely.

Thus, you see, as a couple they will never have to face those sorts of arguments where someone seriously states how they feel about A event but behaves differently when they can do something about it. As a couple they will never have to worry about the other not being themselves. Compromising is one thing - pretense is another. Wei Wuxian compromises and doesn't try to break rules. Understands that he's going to insult Lan Wangji's position by acting out. Lan Wangji compromises and breaks some rules for him. They both compromise and take care of each other's needs and habits to cohabitate together successfully, and at the same time, there's no pretense. No lying. No manipulation. No "I'm fine when I'm not."

Think of them going to night hunts together, with Wei Wuxian's easy brilliance and Lan Wangji's easy dependency. Like that guy, is strong and capable enough to protect Wei Ying. He knows that. Wei Ying knows that. The cultivation world knows that.

Think of how both of them are such healthy adults and loving to children. Lan Wangji isn't a cold dad and Wei Wuxian isn't an irresponsible one. They're both so very capable.

So, my point is - Wangxian is perfect. I will die on this ship.

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[boralespa]

NANAMI KENTO HEADCANONS

[based on his birth chart]

First of all: he is a first-grade sorcerer. He initially left the world of Jujutsu to become a clerk, but then returned to his career. He was born in Tokyo, Japan to a non-magical family, but has Danish blood thanks to his grandfather. Nanami graduated from Jujutsu Tokyo Metropolitan with excellent grades and second ranked. After graduating, he worked as an employee for a company, to the point of being recognized and respected. His technique allows him to split the target from him and create fatal points in a 7:3 radius. He can kill his enemies with a single attack. He always emphasized the importance of morality and ethics in the world of Jujutsu. He really dreamed of going on vacation to the beach in Malaysia. ISTJ.

dominant element: water (sensitive, deep, dreamy)

dominant polarity: negative (introspection and receiver)

dominant modality: cardinal (independent and worker)

stellium in cancer (sun in cancer, mercury in cancer, jupiter in cancer)

He is the spitting image of his father and it is from him that he learned many things, his father has probably taken care of him since he was little and has had to adopt a more “maternal” role over him.

Since he was a child he was very quiet and introverted. probably due to being an only child. he is a slow thinking person; He is not stupid, but he thinks twice before speaking or acting.

he wants to have children → may are infertility problems.

He is very in touch with his emotions. He may seem stoic and indifferent, but he is true to what he feels and would never be in a place where he does not feel comfortable. He would tell you how he feels about you the moment he realizes it.

He is very protective but also tends to close in on himself. He won't tell you what he feels if he knows he will get hurt. He keeps his problems to himself.

His friends are his family. For that reason Kento returns to them.

Morals and ethics are very important to him because it comes from his father.

good cooker.

It is likely that he has a lot of money thanks to some inheritance.

His love language is acts of service and gifts (it must be mutual)

He likes women with big tits → his weakness.

he likes taylor swift's music

(+vesta in Taurus) has a natural gift for art

kinda manipulative

chiron in cancer 4th house

His fears come from feeling out of place and that he is not loved. He feels that he will never find a home and a family, figuratively speaking. He feels that he doesn't belong anywhere, that he is an outsider.

This is given by his family; Thanks to him being raised in an environment focused on the social system of work and money (Capricorn) and the lack of his mother (cancer), it may have led to Kento not feeling secure as a child.

While Kento feels a duty to his family, the lack of his mother could have caused him to despise his father. perhaps his father was not an “ideal” father. He is somewhat afraid of defying his father and not meeting his expectations, and to do so he must sacrifice something – this is what he really wants.

stellium in mercury (sun in 3rd house, mercury in 3rd house, venus in gemini)

he likes to travel. It is his frustrated dream. learn languages too.

Maybe it has to do with his grandfather and his Danish blood: there is a relationship with family and foreignness. he probably likes foreign people or people with “exotic” features.

He doesn't like routine, although he knows the world works that way.

He likes to read and learn. maybe he likes poetry.

He likes to stay up to date with what's happening in the world.

His friends have to be intelligent and of mutable temperament, he considers them his family. He meets them in a work environment (house 2)

Although he wants a partner in the sense of a companion, he knows that there is a whole world to explore and it would be difficult for him to find the ideal person in the first few years.

he tends to fall in love with a best friend.

He doesn't like possessive people → freedom is the most important thing for him.

he must also be with someone of good financial standing.

he talks during sex or is someone who is not silent.

He likes gossip and drama, as long as it doesn't involve him.

moon and pluto in scorpio in 7th house + juno in scorpio

Many of Kento's emotions come from his mother. She passed away when he was little probably around 10 years old (I guess). Due to the death of his mother, Kento needs to feel accompanied. Her absence and the fact that he had no siblings left him “helpless” forever. That's why he likes to work in front of the public → social relationships remind him that he is not alone.

Kento is very overprotective and has a very good memory. He tends towards nostalgia and melancholy.

He has a great desire to find a partner. He loves and hates with the same intensity. his partner and him should be completely intimate. It must be a connection of souls for him to surrender.

He is very distrustful and does not usually forgive easily.

His emotional focus revolves around the taboo: secrets, the paranormal and sex. This makes Kento someone who can stay emotionally stable with a good dose of sex. This position also brings back the world of jujutsu.

breeding kink.

Kento has a big conflict: what is his purpose in this world? He is a person who seeks the meaning of life. he wants to improve life and society. There is a great connection with ethics, injustice and philosophy. This problem arose in adolescence (15 years old)

HE LIKES FORBIDDEN THINGS AND KEEPING THINGS SECRET.

big dick energy. very proud.

the person with whom he will marry or have a formal relationship: mysterious, sexy and of total dedication.

DOES NOT TOLERATE INFIDELITY.

His partner should be obsessed with him in a healthy way (it's mutual)

mars in aries in the 12th house and aries rising + eros in taurus

He is very impulsive when it comes to sex. dominant. he can't think.

He is very stubborn and competitive when it comes to achieving his goals. (this man has the potential of enemies to lovers, being honest)

For him, sex is a game where two people fight for dominance (him winning).

When he gets angry, he is short-tempered but tends to suppress his anger. His anger is to be feared because he can explode at any moment.

«devour me again»

silk sheets

scented candles

sexy underwear

sex + food

hungry passion for you

stellium in capricorn (saturn, uranus and neptune retrograde)

its contrasted with his stellium in cancer: kento is a person with two faces. on one hand, a person focused on work, and on the other, someone focused on domestic life. He is a man of two polarities. (basically a salaryman and a malewife)

The central problem is that the focus on work is given by a generational inculcation – it is what the system taught him that he should do. The cancer side is more oriented towards his personal life and what he wants and where he feels comfortable. For this reason, Kento fights with himself about his ideals and his emotions. He fights not to be what society expects of him.

Because of this, he is afraid of losing control and ends up being a businessman, since these are things that he can control. Professional success gives him security. There is a great conflict between his duty and his desires. This man wants success, but does it come from witchcraft (his family) or business (society)?

work: society → duty → what is safe and easy → instilled.

home: family → desire → the difficult and strange → own.

This could almost have happened because of a man → perhaps his Danish grandfather. This is given by the history of Japan at the time when Kento was born; Financial stability was very important to support the family. The world told him what to do and what was best for him, but he is almost a rebel of the system: he acts according to his own ideals.

He is someone ambitious who can easily get what he wants, that is why he becomes a very good sorcerer or businessman. he feels comfortable in higher positions.

in accordance with his moon, he is someone with a poisonous tongue. he can easily break you with his words. He has no tact.

He is usually someone who is very critical about reputation, practicality and prices. He would fight to find vegetables at a low price and good quality!!!! he would go to luxury restaurants!!!

he likes harry potter

#nanami kento #jjk #jujutsu kaisen #nanami smut #nanami headcanons

[madschiavelique]

Hello can you make a headcanon what type of woman/partner miguel would be his type ? Tysm

okayy so i will mostly be speaking here mentality/personality wise and not physically wise (i think miguel would probably focus more on the way his partner thinks than their appearance)

little note : i based some of my thinking and reasoning on the fact that miguel's mbti is ISTJ and thought about how he would get along with other mbti types

headcanon : miguel's type content warnings : none word count : 485 tag list : @fandom-ash

he is probably a man who likes a match that can connect with their values, work styles and schedules. which doesn’t mean that he is completely immune to the possibility of being adventurous

i’d say he is a traditional man, so he’ll probably search for someone like that too, but he’ll still seek for someone that can get him out of his comfort zone, such as fun and loving individuals who live in the moment – who are still able to respect tradition, of course, and that can decrease his overall stress simply by their presence

he’d also need an intelligent partner, or at least someone with whom he can have deep discussions

he wants someone who is independent – he spends enough time already baby sitting an entire society, and dealing with a childish partner isn’t really what he’s searching for in a relationship

since he is a man who, when making decisions, places rationality ahead of emotions, he’d really have to take time to methodically evaluate his partner

which brings me to an important point : he needs someone who is patient. he doesn’t fall in love easily, he’s actually the exact opposite of a quick lover. it takes time to know him, he likes to take time to know his partner, and likes to take it even more for him to truly commit to a relationship

he’s not the kind to enjoy risk-taking, especially when the subject is love. he takes his time to date to properly evaluate his partner before making any moves

he can find it difficult to express his feelings directly through words. during debates, he can struggle to find the proper word to express his expression and thoughts, which emphasizes the need for someone be patient and that will not judge him to hastily

I think we can say that on some globality with miguel, what you see is what you get, honesty and straightforwardness is a pillar in his relations, so his partner has to be honest as well.

he might sound too cold from time to time in his words, which can sometime be involuntary, so his partner should preferably be able to see through the tone of his words and focus mostly on what message he’s trying to express

he has a strong sense of duty and responsibility so he will work hard at fulfilling his promises – sometimes sacrificing himself in the process because he always put others first, which is why he needs someone responsible that can bring him back on firm ground in reality and can properly take care of him by showing him how to put himself first sometimes

he wants someone that is dependable and reliable, someone confident and self-assured, that will keep their objectivity in any situation

since he is practical, logical and very grounded, I can imagine him searching the same qualities in his partner

honestly, I think what miguel is searching for is someone that has a similar way of thinking to him, but that is less afraid of taking risks and ready to work for their relationship

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[windudemon]

attachment styles and 16 types

entp, entj, estp and estj are dismissing avoidants. they will basically won't need a deep connection more than a single person. they can have many, many "friends" though and they can absolutely enjoy their presence and have MORE fun/productivity with them but their relationship with these "friends" will be "emotionally superficial". they simply do not see the point of being "vulnerable" with people except that one person. in fact, they don't really want others to be vulnerable with them either. they will play with you and have fun with you in the moment but don't ask them their deepest darkest secrets or something. they won't tell you. they will change the subject. they will "dismiss" your deepening attempts of emotional connection. they don't need your emotional support. they deal with negative emotions not by sharing them but focusing on new positive experiences whether that's drinking or bungee-jumping or speeding or trolling others or working hard for their goals.

esfp, enfp, enfj and esfj are secure types. they won't avoid expressing their emotions. they LIKE expressing their emotions. if somebody make fun of that, it's them being assholes and evil and stuff so that will change nothing for exfxs. basically they got the biggest emotional balls and do not feel like they should protect themselves. naturally therefore their attachment style is secure. they are not guarded.

istp, intp, intj and istj are fearful avoidants. these types deep down need and like and want emotional support. all these types are duals of secure ones in socionics for that reason. but yeah, they are very afraid they will get the opposite of the support so their general attitude when it comes to emotional attachments is an avoidant one. secure types and their open and direct and emotionally/ethically-non-cryptic ways will encourage them to come out of their shells.

infp, infj, isfj and isfp gets preoccupied / anxious attachment style. like secure ones, they also want to create emotionally deep connections but their feelings are more fragile so any kind of rejection will make them take two steps back. but if you are nice, they will come closer and closer and closer. how to explain these types and dismissive avoidant ones are duals in socionics though? i think these types perceive dismissive avoidants even more anxious about feelings than themselves and in a way they are right too. so they empathize with them so they take their time so they use the best method to emotionally approach dismissive avoidants.

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[evillemons]

JUNGKOOK’S IDEAL TYPE (JK pt. 1)

~ a manifestation of his ideal girlfriend. Continuation into part 2 and part 3. Masterlist here.

• Jungkook’s ideal type has been the hardest for me to imagine out of all the members. He is such a curious and adventurous person and seems to lack a level of certainty in his life.

• Because I can envision Jungkook with completely dichotomous types, I’m going to approach his section a little differently than the other members. Here are the two possibilities:

The bad bitch

• ABG vibes. Sexy, mischievous, and a little naughty.

• Appears intimidating on the outside (like JK) and probably also has an intimidating personality (not like JK) (looks like they could kill you, would kill you).

• A little impulsive and a high sensation-seeker.

• May come across as cold to most people, but would show vulnerability around the people she trusts.

• The creative type. They might’ve met during a dance class or photoshoot.

• MBTI: ISFP. Adventurous, artistic, bold, and expressive.

• Her and JK would have a lot in common in terms of their styles and interests, but she would be more brazen and opinionated.

• He’s probably a little intimidated by her but finds her incredibly sexy and alluring at the same time.

• Her style consists of casual streetwear that’s a little edgy, and a love for tattoos and piercings (very Gen Z).

• Leather jackets, cargo pants, chunky boots, cropped t-shirts.

• Potentially a little androgynous looking with her slim figure and dark, baggy clothes.

The good girl

• A good-natured, smart, kind, patient woman.

• Sweet inside and out (looks like a cinnamon roll, is a cinnamon roll).

• While not necessarily a “career woman” like Namjoon's girlfriend, she might have a more traditional 9-5 life.

• She would be very mature and maybe a little older than him.

• He would admire her wisdom and life experiences (like the way he does with RM).

• Generally confident, self-sufficient, and knows how to take care of herself.

• Someone who is friendly and easy to talk to, but not overly loud or extroverted.

• MBTI: ISTJ or ISFJ. Ambiverted, respectful, caring, trustworthy, and dependable.

• They would likely meet by chance during a normal outing or through a mutual friend.

• Feminine and petite. Maybe also elegant and well put together.

• Big, sparkly doe eyes to match his own.

• In the office she would dress modestly and professionally, but would like to wear sundresses on the weekends.

Other notes:

• Like Yoongi, Jungkook is attracted to many different types of people and wouldn’t discriminate based on Race/Ethnicity. Being the youngest, he is quite well traveled and unbiased.

• Sexual orientation wouldn’t matter too much either, but I can see him being a little jealous or insecure if she has dated women or a lot of other men in the past.

• He definitely seems to be attracted to women with some sort of sex appeal. Not too audacious in their sexuality, but not too cute or innocent either.

• He is shockingly independent, and while he would want to feel like he can take care of her, he wouldn’t want someone who is overly needy or lacks self-sufficiency.

• Equally as competitive, perfectionistic, and hardworking as him.

• I do think she would be somewhat athletic or fit, as working out seems to be a priority in his life.

• Even though I can see JK being rather experienced in casual sex, I don’t think he would take choosing a partner lightly. When it comes to a relationship, he would be very picky and want something that is real, loyal would allow him to learn and grow.

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